Welcome to the 17 Attraction Triggers
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Welcome to the 17 Attraction Triggers
! 17 Attraction Triggers 17 Instant Triggers that Guarantee to Get Any Man’s Blood Boiling Uncontrollably By Renee Wade & David Shen © Copyright 2011-2016, All Rights Reserved Version 2.1 Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*1* ! This book is dedicated to... All the women in the world who want more from life... more juice, more love and more excitement. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*2* ! The Witch Notice: This book is copyright 2011-2016 with all rights reserved. It is illegal to copy, distribute, or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part, or to contribute to the copying, distribution, or creating of derivative works of this book. Here is the statement on my website reprinted for your reference: "© 2011, All Rights Reserved. If you try to copy, steal, or distribute all or any part of my book or this web page without permission, I will have my attorney contact you and make you wish that you'd never had such a stupid idea in your life. Count on it. By purchasing this book, you agree to the following: You understand that the information contained on this page and in this book is an opinion, and it should be used for personal entertainment purposes only. You are responsible for your own behavior, and none of this book is to be considered legal or personal advice." And I expect you to abide by these rules. I regularly and actively search the Internet for people who violate my copyrights. Now that we're finished with the witch notice, let's learn about these 17 Attraction Triggers... Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*3* ! Table of Contents IMPORTANT)NOTE)(READ)THIS)FIRST)) 6! WELCOME)TO)THE)17)ATTRACTION)TRIGGERS) 8! YOUR)HIP)TO)WAIST)RATIO) 14! YOUR)LATERAL)HIP)SHUNT) 20! YOUR)CLEAR)AND)SOFT)SKIN) 24! YOUR)SEXY)BUM) 29! YOUR)LONG)HEALTHY)HAIR) 32! YOUR)OUTSTANDING)POSTURE) 36! YOUR)SOFT)FEMININE)VOICE) 40! YOUR)SPARKLING)EYES) 44! YOUR)HEAVENLY)SCENT) 48! YOUR)SEDUCTIVE)LOWER)BACK) 51! YOUR)LUSCIOUS)LIPS) 54! YOUR)FEMININE)DRESS)CODE) 57! YOUR)FLIRTATIOUS)TONGUE) 60! YOUR)PRECIOUS)HEELS) 62! YOUR)CHEEKY)WINK) 66! YOUR)FORBIDDEN)CLEAVAGE) 69! YOUR)ALLURING)SEXUAL)CONFIDENCE) 72! WHAT)TO)DO)NEXT?) 75! ABOUT)THE)AUTHORS) 80! ! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*4* ! Attraction is Always the First Step… “Whether You Want to Find a Loving Man who Worships You, or Re-Ignite that Spark and Passion in Your Relationship, it All Starts with Attraction. Attraction is Always the First Step.” David & Renee Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*5* ! Important Note (Read This First) If attraction is the first step to a wonderful relationship, then commitment is the second step. If you’re like most women, you don’t just want attraction in your life. Attraction, however important, just isn't enough. You need more. Deep down inside of you, I’m sure you’ve always wanted a deep and passionate long-term commitment. You’ve wanted a man to be there, to take care of you in times of darkness, and to shield you from the storms of life. That is perfectly natural and I think we need to honor your need for this deep commitment. Too often in this world, women are encouraged to be strong and independent, to tackle the world by the horns and take complete control of everything. As empowering as that may be, some women have turned their back on their true feminine nature. They’ve forgotten what would truly make them happy. And as successful as those women are, they find themselves always in places of confusion, and never truly fulfilled or truly alive. But here’s the truth, within every single feminine woman on the planet, there’s a need and desire for long-term commitment. It’s not just a “want” or a preference. It’s a need. Women who are feminine at their core, are biologically designed to need commitment, just as we are biologically designed to feel hunger or pain. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*6* ! So there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be in that monogamous relationship. Don’t let others make you think a long term committed relationship is the wrong ideal. However, in this modern world where the dynamics between men and women have changed so much, getting that kind of commitment can be difficult. More and more so, men want to have causal flings and one night stands, not necessarily because men are built for that, but because we live in cultures that encourage sex without attachment. So what can you do when men seemed to be so commitment phobic these days? Well, the first step is attraction. So I’m very glad that you’re here learning about the 17 Attraction Triggers. But the second step is to inspire commitment from men. To discover the secrets that trigger the “pair-bond” mechanisms in his brain so that he is certain he can’t live without you. To discover the answer to the question: how can you make a masculine man want to take care of you forever when he has constant short term relationships with lots of women? To answer these important questions, and to give you the secrets and insights that we have been obsessed about for years, we’ve created a whole series of articles and videos addressing everything related to commitment. We understand this is a huge issue and requires some huge answers. So if you want to learn how to inspire that deep sense of commitment from men, then here’s the link to do so… http://www.Commitment-Control.com Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*7* ! Welcome to the 17 Attraction Triggers This program is designed for you as a woman to regain the power that you have within you to influence men and trigger their natural instincts. We all know that there’s really nothing stronger and more powerful than our instincts, after all, our instincts have been around for millions of years. One of the most difficult things about being a woman in today's world is that all you have to do to trigger an insecurity in your head is to log on to Facebook, watch the news or look at the front cover of a magazine. This doesn't mean you will or you should feel insecure. No! This means that, by nature, all of us humans are wired to compare. To compare ourselves, and to compare our relationship partners and our friends and our lifestyles with those of others that we know. See, in today's world, it's far easier than it used to be to feel like you are not enough and like you don't have enough. So this is why I believe it is more important than ever for you as a woman to really understand how much women and men are driven by our instincts, and not just tell yourself a lie about how life and attraction SHOULD be. Most of what we do as human beings, most of our actions have sex and survival behind them. This is what drives every animal species, and it is the primary drive behind nearly all human action. This is not something you need to fear, this is something you need to understand. It is only when we understand, appreciate and fulfil that animal part of ourselves and a man, that we can grow and become happier. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*8* ! Most women try really hard to look pretty - and that's great! We all love a pretty woman. However, to gain an edge on other women around you, and to really fulfil your man - you have to understand his natural instinctual triggers - and use them on him or on the men you date. If you use them, a man's level of attraction for you - his level of desire for you and his level of attachment to you simply soars. Now, if you are single - use these triggers carefully. Don't use them on every man just to get some cheap attention for yourself. You could get yourself hurt. As a single woman, your first most important goal is to be able to attract as many men good men as you want to attract. This is why learning these triggers are so important. However, these triggers are just a tiny speck in the whole array of what works with men. They will get you so far - and then your next step is to really build your value as a woman. All of us - men and women - gravitate towards high value people. People who actually have something to add to our lives. These people are the opposite of desperate. We love to be around high value people, we love to have a piece of their time and attention, and we find them fascinating and mysterious. As much as we like to think we are caring and compassionate human beings (which we are) - when it comes down to it, nobody feels good when they feel like they got the short end of the stick. Or like they got a bad deal in the dating and relationships world. Men included. So, these triggers will instantly increase your value as a woman, but after that, there are other areas that you need to focus on to become the high value, high status woman that you already are. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*9* ! As you do build your value, your available choices in men goes up 10 fold. You don't have to settle for crumbs, or cheap attention. You weren't born to put up with that! You were born to have and attract the best. This is your birth right. By the way, I truly believe that you already are a high value, high status woman. No matter where you come from or how bad you feel right now. However, the difference between showing up to men as a high value woman and just having the potential to be, inside of you, is huge. None of us were given enough understanding in school and from our parents about how dating and relationships works. And there's a reason for that. It's because this is the area of life that we all have the most fear in. It's much easier to teach algebra or how to read. These subjects don't have deep seated emotional feelings behind them. They're just a subject. Bit it's difficult to talk about men, women, dating and relationships, and people like to tell themselves how things SHOULD be, rather than how they really are in the real world. And because, most people like to cover up their inner emotions and hurts in order to be accepted by society. They feel safer this way. So it makes relationships and dating and the differences between men and women very hard to talk about. Because we all have so many fears surrounding this area of life. And so, not talking about it, and not learning about it makes us 'safe'. Until 20 years later, when our husband leaves us or has fathered a love child. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*10* ! Or until 20 years later, when a 'good man's' wife has gotten pregnant to another man. This does not ever have to happen to you, as long as you commit to having the understanding I am about to give you in these 17 Attraction Triggers. And if you never buy another program from us again, make a commitment to yourself to at least gain as much knowledge and understanding as you can in the area of dating and relationships. And USE the understanding. Turn it in to action. I truly believe the more understanding we have, the less pain and heartache and suffering there will be for ourselves and for those we love. So hopefully by the end of this program, you would understand these 17 Attraction Triggers, know how to use them to not only get instant attention from men, but also a strong sense of attraction and desire from every red blooded male you come across. These instinctive triggers are evolutionarily built-in systems in to every single one of us, to help us reproduce more efficiently and with better genetics. After all, we need to survive and we need to keep the species going, right? Here's an example that you may relate to: women instinctively look for the better provider, because her chances of survival would be greater. How the provider shows up could be very different. Some women prefer rock stars, some women prefer a radiant man who is a model, some women prefer an intellectual genius, some prefer lawyers with a high earning capacity and high status (or in a nice suit), some women prefer a very physically strong individual. But a woman’s instinct for a provider, Copyright*©*2012/2016* ! “Deep!Down,!We! Would!Never!Be! Fulfilled!If!We! Turned!Our!Back!to! Page*11* Our!Instincts”! (someone who would take care of her) is more than just a mere preference. It’s an instinctive drive. We move towards it whether we like it or not. (It drives us!) And men have their own instinctive drivers also. This is what this program is all about. It’s about triggering their instincts so that they can’t help but be attracted to you. And when men are attracted to you, then they’re more likely to commit more of their attention, time, energy, and resources to you. I know that social conditioning may cover up some of these instincts, but deep down inside, we would never be fulfilled if we turned our back on our instincts. So anytime anything arouses a woman or a man, is because it triggers the evolutionary need to procreate and reproduce. Now through millions of years of evolution, women and men have gotten better at finding the best mate. Men (subconsciously without even knowing) look for certain triggers that give him information about whether a woman is a suitable mate or not. However, in the past, millions of years ago, if we were dealt a bad hand by our creator, then we couldn’t really change our fate, or our luck with men. But in this day and age, we have many ways to consciously bring out and accentuate these instinctive triggers so that we can become the creator of our own success in dating and relationships. So this program is about educating you so that you can choose when to use these evolutionary triggers to your own benefit. Of course, I want to insert a disclaimer because you still have to be smart about when to use these and when not to use them. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*12* ! Men all over the world prey on women like you and you have to have some intelligence to know when something is going to jeopardize your safety. So use these for good, not for evil, be careful as always and have some fun! The thing also to remember is that a lot of men would not be able to articulate all these triggers only because these triggers work on a subconscious level, and they don’t live in their conscious mind. These triggers were built to minimize the amount of time and energy required to choose a suitable mate, not so that we can analyse them and discuss them! So work your way through all 17 of these instinctive triggers and learn what really triggers all men, regardless of age, status, race or religion. “Just!Focus!On!3!of!These! Attraction!Triggers!to!Start! With!&!You’ll!have!Men! Desiring!You!in!No!Time!”!! By the way, you don’t have to use or possess all 17 of these triggers to be considered attractive. You just need to master a few of them to be considered super attractive. So with that said, don’t get down on yourself if you feel like you’re not at a good place right now, remember to just focus on THREE of these Attraction Triggers and you’ll have men desiring you in no time. Let us begin. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*13* ! Attraction Trigger 1 Your Hip to Waist Ratio You probably already know the science behind the hip to waist ratio. It gets talked about a lot in scientific studies of mating habits between males and females. If you’re not too sure, let me just quickly run you through it. Because us humans have evolved over time with very large heads, (thus making us smarter than most other animals), it has become increasingly difficult to give birth to our offspring. As a result, human babies are born less developed than most other mammals, (so the baby’s head doesn’t become too large thus rendering it unable to be passed through the pelvis of the mother). This is why human babies are more vulnerable than any other mammal’s offspring. A baby horse will be able to get up and walk in less than a day after birth, yet a human baby will take almost a whole calendar year to achieve the same progress. So evolutionarily speaking, mothers with wider hips have a better chance of giving birth successfully. The wider the hips, the more room the baby will have to travel through at birth. At the same time, the narrower the hips, the more chances of a failed birth and the higher the risk posed to the life of the mother and the baby. So human males over millions and millions of years started to look for females with wider hips instinctively, as they are the better reproductive choice. And the way men figure out and interpret how wide a woman’s hips are is through her hip to waist ratio. (Remember, in nature, there are no tape measures, so we look at ratios and comparisons instead of absolute values.) Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*14* ! When a woman is pre-puberty, her hips and waist are around the same measurement, just like they are in males. It is during puberty that her hips widen dramatically. So to a man, if a woman has narrow hips, it could mean she’s too young and lacking in fertility. (By the way, if a woman’s hips are too wide, then that makes for poor biomechanics and she won’t be able to walk properly, and this is clearly not an evolutionary advantage either). So, men have looked for this evolutionary trait in women for millions of years, as a quick way to judge whether a woman is fertile and healthy. The magical number here seems to be 0.7. The width of the waist is ideally 70% or 0.7 of the width of the hips. Throughout the history of human kind, this hip to waist ratio has always been thought of as the biggest sign of fertility in women. You can see in the oil paintings of women dating back to the Victorian times, that women were much more voluptuous compared to how they are today, yet they still maintained this 0.7 ratio. Fast forward to today, people are still instinctively looking for women with this ratio to become models (even though models are very skinny these days). Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*15* ! And, even if the famous models these days do not have the ideal hip to waist ratio, or if they do not have wide hips, they twist and push their hips outwards in photo shoots to create the illusion that they have wide hips. So, just a quick tip on measuring your own hip to waist ratio: It’s going to be very difficult to just measure the frontal width of your hips and waist, so instead, just get a circumference of your hips and waist. (So measure all the way around, in fact, mathematically speaking they are actually the same ratio!) Then just divide the measurement at the waist by the measurement at the hips. So if your waist is say 32 inches, and your hips are 39 inches, then 32 divided by 37 gives you 0.82. (Not quite our 0.7 golden ratio). For 95% of women in first world countries, they will be on the larger side of 0.7. A combination of an excess or processed and fast food and lack of exercise has hidden this golden ratio underneath some fat. Yet this one trigger is probably the most effective and potent way to trigger a man’s need to reproduce. (and he won’t realize it), so here are some steps for you to work on, to give yourself a more “ideal” hip to waist ratio. And if you already do have a 0.7 hip to waist ratio, congratulations. It’s time to move to the next instant trigger Throughout!the!history!of! human!kind,!this!hip!to!waist! ratio!has!always!been!thought! of!as!the!biggest!sign!of!fertility! in!women.! and learn how to increase the effectiveness of your hip to waist ratio. Here are 3 action steps you can take right now to improve your hip to waist ratio… Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*16* ! 1. Detox (detoxification) is probably the fastest way to lose this “toxic” fat and move your golden ratio towards 0.7. That’s right, it’s not exercise, or even dieting. (These 2 have been the hot topics of the media, but they are not the MOST effective ways to lose the belly fat and help you gravitate to your most ideal ratio.) By detoxing, you actually flush a lot of this fat and toxins out of your body. And one of the biggest reasons why so many of us are overweight is not because of the excess fat that we carry, but more so because of the excess toxins we keep in our fat. You see, our fat is there to protect us and buffer against those nasty toxins that we’ve all collected in our lives, that would otherwise destroy our bodies. When you flush away the toxicity, the fat melts away. But be careful what sources you listen to about detoxing. Get the best information from the best sources. In the future, we may create a program that will help you understand exactly how to detox, but it is beyond the scope of this program. I will tell you one thing, and that is to detox with live liquids and green juices. Start juicing vegetables like kale, cucumbers, celery etc. and start drinking them ideally on a daily basis. You want to flood your body with live nutrients and enzymes which support life and support you. Not only are you going to get a great burst of energy, you would also really be surprised by exactly how much fat you can lose and quickly - when you detox your body with greens and green juices. 2. Regular exercise that is both a combination of heavy and intense as well as light and easy. You see, when most women think of doing exercise, they think of something like a light jog around the park. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*17* ! Whilst that is great and very beneficial, it won’t sculpt your body to maximise your hip to waist ratio. What these women also need is a portion of heavy duty intense exercise that stimulates certain growth hormones inside of our bodies that light exercise does not stimulate. Exercises such as squats and dead lifts are perfect for this. Now the gym isn’t the only place for this intense exercise. You can do a group fitness class (they get very intense), learn dancing, learn martial arts. (there are many martial arts that are very women friendly and you get to learn how to defend yourself… it becomes an invaluable skill to have) And no, you won’t get big muscles if you did intense exercise! I promise you. Most women don’t have to hormones in their bodies to build that much muscle (and plus those women with big muscles you see on bodybuilding magazines… they ingest bucket loads of supplements every week.) 3. Dress in clothing that gives the illusion of a wider hip to waist ratio. Yes, it’s true, your eyes play tricks on you all the time. So why not use this to your advantage? One of the most common ways to give the illusion of wider hips is to wear something that is high-waisted, or something tight around the waist and hips. High-waisted jeans, high waisted shorts or skirts all do the trick very well. You can also purchase a reasonably priced mid-length skirt that flares out from the hem. A skirt that is tight around your waist and then flares out from there is a great way to exaggerate the size of your hips in comparison to your waist. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*18* ! Remember, you can always create the illusion of wide hips and small waist from the clothing that you wear. It’s the illusion that really matters, because that’s how men and women will perceive you and the image of you. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*19* ! Attraction Trigger 2 Your Lateral Hip Shunt What if you did have the perfect hip to waist ratio but it never gets seen by anyone? What would it matter? The truth is that sometimes it isn’t always very easy for men to gage a woman’s real hip to waist ratio, especially in this day and age where clothing and unnatural working positions (posture) and our occupations hide a woman’s real assets. So as a woman, to maximize the effectiveness of your wide hips (or the illusion of your wide hips) so that you can make an impact on men, you have to show it in subtle ways. One of the easiest ways is through your gait, or the way you walk. In fact, it is known to researchers that the first place men look when looking at a woman walking, is her hips. When we can't tell the sex of a person, the first place we look is the hips. Hips, and especially wide hips scream femininity. And advertisers know this. They know hips sell! “To!increase!the!illusion!of! having!wide!hips,!women!have! adopted!a!style!of!walking!that! pushes!their!hips!out!sideways! each!time!they!take!a!step.”! That is why over 90% of all music videos that we see on TV, include women dancing in a way that accentuates their hips. It isn’t a coincidence. It was all carefully planned out because they realized that men react to the presence and appearance of a woman’s hips. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*20* ! I’m not going to suggest that you dance in those ways that women do on music videos, but you can get the same effect if you accentuated your hips whilst walking. Most of us walk - it is something that most of us do on a daily basis. And you can really tell a lot about someone by studying their gait. You can tell whether someone is confident or not and whether they are happy or not. You can also usually see whether someone has any physical abnormalities through their gait. So, in order to increase the illusion of having wide hips, some women have adopted a style of walking that pushes their hips out sideways each time they take a step. This is called a lateral hip shunt or hip sway. This gives the illusion that the hips are much wider than what they are in reality. And by the way, when men walk, there’s literally no hip sway at all. Men don’t do that. But unfortunately for a lot of women, especially in business, have copied that straight up and down style of walking. You want to do the opposite of that. Let your hips move sideways as you walk. Picture how models walk. Imagine their exaggerated style with lots of hip motion - that’s what I’m talking about. You want to really push your hip out to the side when you bear weight through that leg (and make it look natural). In nature, the wider the hips of a female, the more obvious her lateral hip shunt would naturally be when she walks. This is because of her anatomy. The further apart your hips are, the more your weight would Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*21* ! have to move left and right every time you put weight through one of your legs. Whether you do have wide hips or narrow hips, walking this way gives you the illusion of having very wide hips. This, of course, is a natural trigger for men to know that you are very fertile, and an instant turn on for them. So here’s how you would achieve this type of gait: 1. Simply start consciously moving your hips out wider as you walk, anywhere. Enjoy it. Love it, and feel how sexy you feel when you're doing it. Believe me, men will start taking a lot more notice, and automatically classify you as more sexy. Most women have boring, straight up and down, lifeless style of walking. You don't want to be like this! If you make your lateral hip shunt more obvious, you will instantly increase your perceived value in the eyes Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*22* ! of men. They can't help it, even if you feel like you are being 'over the top'. It still works to build attraction. 2. Study models and how they walk. Go on YouTube and find videos of models who walk with an exaggerated hip shunt. Study those videos, replay them to yourself until you can feel the motion in your own body. So “model” models. Here is a perfect example of Kate Moss walking down the catwalk. Interestingly enough she walks with an exaggerated lateral hip shunt even with flats on!!! http://www.TheFeminineWoman.com/kate-moss/ 3. Practice in your own private space. For this to work and to trigger men, it has to look natural. Learn to relax your body as you walk. So many of us are so tense that we lose our feminine energy that way. Most of us are taught to be rigid and walk rigid, so you really have to practice it enough so that it becomes your predominant habit of walking. As trite as it may be, and as overlooked as it always is, practice will really make you good at it. 4. Once you think you feel natural walking this way, you can get some feedback from some close friends or record it yourself with a video camera, just to get another perspective on it. You want this gait to seem as natural as possible because most men can pick up that something isn’t right straight away! Below is a quick program to demonstrate the hip sway differences between the walking styles of men and women. http://www.TheFeminineWoman.com/fem-gait Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*23* ! Attraction Trigger 3 Your Clear and Soft Skin The appearance of clear and soft skin is one of the biggest attraction triggers for men. The idea is simple. Disease is bad - we naturally want to stay away from it. We don’t want to catch a disease because it means danger to our survival and our replication. It is very much hardwired into every one of us to stay away from diseases. Think about your reaction when you see someone on the street with a large tumor on their face. Think about your reaction when you walk past someone on the street who is so obese they can barely walk. This is not about judging those people. And I think moving into the 21st century, we need to have more and more acceptance for everyone. But unfortunately when it comes to attraction, men will discriminate. It’s not their fault, they’re just acting from their million year old hard wiring that tells them, health is good, disease is bad. So men will always look for signs of health and signs of disease in women, not just the ones they date, but every women they come across. Here’s the thing: the easiest and quickest way for disease to show up on our body is through our skin. Toxins and the bad stuff we ingest in this modern society need a way to get out of our system somehow. And your skin is the quickest way for your body to get them out. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*24* ! The skin, you may know already, is the largest organ in our body. In fact, it has many roles; many important jobs that it performs on a regular basis. One of those jobs is to eliminate toxins from our bodies and our cells. So when we accumulate toxins and toxicity in our body, your skin attempts to eliminate the toxins, thus leaving uneven tones, breakouts and even skin diseases. Skin that looks patchy, oily, or too dry, or with breakouts are signs of poor health. Men subconsciously notice the health of your skin. Over time, men have developed the ability to quickly judge the health of a woman, and clear skin is one of the ways they can discern how healthy a woman is. Skin that is healthy is skin that seems to have a glow to it – an energy to it. It has a natural tone that is not even able to be achieved with makeup. This radiant skin is definitely a trigger for all men because men know that biologically this woman is healthy and “When!we!accumulate!toxins! and!toxicity!in!our!body,!your! skin!attempts!to!eliminate!the! toxins,!thus!leaving!uneven! tones,!breakouts!and!even!skin! diseases.”! disease-free, and much more likely to be a better mate. And here’s why cosmetics is a multibillion dollar industry. They know that make up works wonders to give a woman the illusion of clear, beautiful skin. But here’s the key: if you want to use makeup… you have to do it properly or else your skin appears even worse. Sadly, even with all the free information out there on how to do your make up properly, most women simply have no idea how to do it properly or tastefully! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*25* ! You have to match up the right colors to the natural color of your skin, and you have to find what works on you and what doesn’t work on you. Remember the human eye, (and a man’s eyes) can detect up to billions of colors, and can distinguish between these colors. And our eyes work best at detecting shadows, differences and contrasts. If your makeup is slightly different to the natural tone of your skin, then it will show up. So really do a thorough job at selecting your makeup and a great idea is to visit a makeup consultant who has had a lot of experience. So here’s what you need to do to improve the appearance of your skin: 1. Your skin is something you have a lot of control over. So, go on a juice fast or detox. A juice fast is much more effective, since you’re not Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*26* ! eating any solid food, it gives your body a chance to rest and get the toxins out of your body, and the natural, green, live foods and liquids will aid in your body’s process of eliminating toxins. The juices that you have whilst fasting are ideally not commercial juices. Orange juice from the supermarket isn’t ideal, as it’s full of sugar. The best juice to have whilst cleansing, detoxing or fasting is vegetable juice, homemade. And use a lot of leafy green vegetables instead of using things like carrots which are again, full of sugar. Personally, I can attest to how effective this is. If you want to take it to another level, reduce the amount of grains in your diet. Grains, you ask? Yes, grains. Grains have been promoted for many, many years as healthy foods, but to be honest, before industrialization, as huntergatherers, we mainly lived on animal foods and plant foods. And we did perfectly fine. We do need carbohydrates, but skin (and serious acne) has been proven to clear up in most cases when grains were reduced in diet. You can read this article for proof, and further understanding of why reducing grains will help your skin: 2. Drink a lot of water. I’m sure you’ve heard of this at least 54,000 times, but it’s important to stay hydrated. The reason is so that the toxins can be diluted with all the hydration and then be eliminated through your urine. By the way, freshly made vegetable juices are much better than water by itself, (because veggie juices are full of enzymes and nutrients!) so always go for veggie juices, and then fruit, and finally, water. When you are at home and not doing much, make an extra point to drink more water. You can go to the bathroom as often as you want when you are at home, and not have to worry about needing to take toilet breaks all the time, which is a bonus. 3. Care for the appearance of your skin. Don’t just “put” makeup on. The key is to do it carefully and know exactly how to put makeup on Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*27* ! and what to put on. What is worse to a man than patchy skin with breakouts is a woman with patchy skin with breakouts and terrible makeup. Believe me, men notice how well a woman puts on her makeup. And it says a lot about the quality of the woman. So really take pride and take time in learning what type of makeup best suits you and use it to make your skin look smoother and more even. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*28* ! Attraction Trigger 4 Your Sexy Bum That’s right, your sexy bum; your tush; your butt; your booty; your behind; your buns. It’s a desire trigger, attraction trigger, lust trigger, all of the above. Believe it or not, there are a lot of evolutionary reasons as to why men love bums. And it’s because of this evolutionary reason, that this is an instinctive trigger to get a man’s blood boiling. They literally cannot help themselves. Here’s the back story. When a female primate (mainly monkeys and apes), is in season and ready for mating, her buttocks protrude and become more red in color. The males approach females from the rear and use her swollen red buttocks as a signal that she’s ready for mating. So, seeing a female with nice protruding buttocks means that she is ready for mating, and it makes the males excited. Remember; humans evolved from other primates. Can you see why this is such a big trigger for men? Now, us humans are slightly different to apes and other primates. We walk on two legs instead of four. And because of this huge evolutionary change, our gluteal muscles (our buttocks) have enlarged drastically in proportion to our cousins; the ape. So the female human being (with her protruding gluteal muscles) is seen to be always sexually available to males, and thus triggering their sexual desires. This is why this society has such a fascination with bums. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*29* ! Now, us humans naturally have protruding bums, but because we all work so much now and most of us work sitting down typing on a box, we tend to lose the shape of our natural bodies and the shape of our bums. Inactivity is our worst enemy. But here’s a quick little TRICK… that gives people the illusion that you have a protruding bum. The trick is this… arch your lower back just a fraction more than you usually do. This forces your tail bone to stick out a little bit more. In anatomy, it’s called an anterior pelvic tilt. Another way to achieve this, is to put both of your hands on your hips, imagine that your whole pelvis is a bowl, and you are tipping the bowl forwards. This instantly puts your bum in a more protruded position. And this works even if you haven’t been to the gym in the last 20 years! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*30* ! So here are a few action steps you can take right away to get your tush back into shape and start making a man drool. 1. Start exercising. Any exercise is better than no exercise. Running, stair climbing, hiking are all great things to do. If you’re in the gym, then exercises such as dead-lifts, leg presses and squats are all absolutely fantastic for making those gluteal muscles work. 2. Start looking for pants and other garments that highlight your buttocks and give them a firm round look. Typically designer jeans do this very well, because they are very tight and firm. A great trick for accentuating the roundness and sexiness of your bum is to wear foldover yoga pants. The foldover part of the pant cuts off at the perfect spot at the back near your bum, no matter what your shape is, and it gives your bum the nicest, round and juicy look. Victoria's Secret has a huge range of these types of pants for a good price. They even have them with cute, feminine colors and prints on the foldover material. 3. A nice pair of heels naturally make your bottom protrude. 4. Learn and practice the anterior pelvic tilt trick I mentioned earlier. It works instantly to give your tush a more protruded look. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*31* ! Attraction Trigger 5 Your Long Healthy Hair Universally throughout the world, having long healthy hair is a sign of femininity, fertility and health. Long healthy hair can make an average woman look stunning, and turn many man’s heads. Historically, dating way back to the cavemen times, or the tribal villager times, men needed instant ways to judge a woman’s health and fertility, and hair is one of the easiest signs to spot for health. If you were an unhealthy woman or had an illness, then you couldn’t possibly grow long, healthy hair. And as a result, men would not pick you and rule you out of the possible “mating pool”. So to men, a head of long, healthy hair is an instant sign of a healthy, fertile woman and it triggers them on a very instinctive level. This is not to say that short hair puts men off, but just understand that short hair is not a trigger, whereas long, healthy hair is always a trigger. From a distance, where a man isn’t able to gage the details of a woman’s health and fertility, he is able to see a woman’s long hair and therefore able to instantly determine and figure out a lot about her health. Healthy hair that appears neither too oily nor too dry is the product of not just health, but long term good health. You see, hair doesn’t just grow inches over night. It takes years to get hair to grow past your shoulders or bra strap. And if anytime in those years you become unhealthy…it shows in the quality of your hair. Even hair that is oily looks actually OK on a woman who is healthy than it is on a woman who is unhealthy. (In fact, I can tell you most men Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*32* ! don’t even notice oily hair on healthy women, why? Because remember men are hardwired to notice a woman’s health, not how oily her hair is.) Make a mental note next time and observe women. You will notice that unhealthy women with oily hair look different to healthy women with oily hair. The unhealthy woman’s hair would look quite bad, but if a woman is healthy, but her hair is oily, it’s not as bad. Just like skin, your hair gets easily affected by your overall health and vitality. So this is another reason to eat and live healthy, and gravitate towards the your ultimate radiant self. But remember, it takes a long time to grow hair, so you can’t just go on a diet for a couple of weeks and expect your hair to magically improve “Just!like!skin,!your!hair!gets! easily!affected!by!your!overall! health!and!vitality.”! overnight. This is also why hair extensions have become very popular as a method to have the appearance of having long hair. However hair extensions would never look nearly as good as healthy hair, because fake extensions never have the shine, the vitality and life to it. But what if you don’t have long hair? What if it just takes too long to grow it and you want to maximise your attractiveness with your existing hair style and length? The answer is to start playing with your hair. When you play with your hair, that draws the attention to your hair. Whether it is that you’re twirling your hair around your finger, or pulling your fingers through your hair, it gives your hair the extra attention and draws men’s eyes towards it. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*33* ! Because hair is naturally a sign of femininity and you can play it up by simply playing with your hair! So here are some action steps to take to make sure your hair is a trigger for men: 1. Make hair health your aim, rather than hairstyle. Especially if you want to grow it out. Health is far more important than style when you are trying to grow your hair. Hairdressers will focus on style, and try to cut far more off your hair than they need to, just to achieve some 'style'. Don't allow them to do this. Unless you are already at your goal length. 2. Get healthier and aim to be drug-free. Your health has a huge impact on the appearance of your hair, and so do most drugs (even the most seemingly harmless ones). Again, it’s time to detox and give yourself the gift of health and energy. Green veggie juices, plenty of fresh air and Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*34* ! oxygen, not stressing too much, and a good dose of exercise. (Also try and stay drug free as much as you can, but see your physician first before making any changes). 3. Learn to play with your hair and take notice of every look and glance you get from men. My bet is that almost double the number of men will pay you attention on a subconscious level compared to if you were not playing with your hair. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*35* ! Attraction Trigger 6 Your Outstanding Posture Here’s why posture is important. Your posture tells other men and women how confident you are, whether you have a lot of self-value and whether you have high selfesteem. And you probably know already that men find confident women attractive and desirable, and women with low self confidence tend to get taken advantage of by men. Your posture speaks to men whether you like it or not. If you have bad posture, you send a subconscious message to men: "I'm so bored with life. I drag people around me down with my bad energy." "I have low self esteem." "I am not worthy." Whereas, if you have great posture, you send a clear message that says: "I am the best woman there is." And men will take this message seriously, and find you very sexy. Traditionally, women with illnesses or diseases have bad posture. Women with no confidence also have bad posture. On the contrary: women with good posture tend to be healthier and more confident. If there is a structural alignment issue with your body, then your posture will be adversely affected. And if this is the case, then see a medical professional to look into it immediately. The truth is that most structural mal-alignments are actually caused initially by your habitual posture. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*36* ! We live in a society where we don’t move our bodies like we used to anymore. We don’t move our bodies in a way that our bodies were designed for. So, having great posture is a rare thing to find in both men and women. “The!majority!of!us!cannot!even! articulate!how!important!good! posture!is!when!it!comes!to!how! attractive!we!find!a!person!to! be.”! Having outstanding posture is a very attractive quality and interestingly enough, the majority of us cannot even articulate how important good posture is when it comes to how attractive we find a person to be. Bad posture really is a subconscious trigger to make others believe you don’t believe in your own value and don’t have a zest for life. You’ll probably also start to notice this yourself: you will find that men with bad posture are usually men that you find quite unattractive! Good posture isn’t something that the media focuses on, and it’s not something that most of us have studied. It is only because of the fact that David and I have had the privilege of studying people’s posture for years, that we are able to understand how much posture influences attractiveness. In fact, I believe posture is one of the biggest key factors as to why we find certain people attractive and certain people unattractive. (But most of us don’t even realize that the secret attractive factor is largely because of their posture). Remember: bad posture is so common in this world, yet it’s one of the biggest turn offs for men and it’s a sign of disease and illness! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*37* ! Here are some key steps to instantly have better posture and instantly become twice as attractive: 1. Make it a commitment right now to yourself that you will always stand tall and sit tall and hold yourself in an outstanding posture. This is very important especially if you sit down all day at a desk, which is one of the worst things you can do to your structural alignment and posture. So always take a 2 minute stretch break every hour and stretch out your body in every way imaginable. A great idea is to adopt this belief and affirm it to yourself every day during your stretch breaks: "my good posture increases my sexiness to men ten-fold". 2. Imagine a string is attached to the top of your head, and imagine it is actively pulling your head and spine towards the ceiling. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*38* ! So if you’re sitting down it would feel like your sitting up a lot straighter. If you’re standing, then you will feel like you’re standing a lot taller! The idea is to actively lengthen your spine. Do this whenever you get a break to stretch. This helps the reverse the slouch effect that makes us look tired, stressed and even depressed. 3. Pull your shoulder blades back and down. And let your rib cage expand with oxygen. Allow yourself to hold your sternum (breast bone) high and leave your shoulders back and low. Take a deep breath in, and hold it for 5 seconds. Slowly exhale. Do this at least 10 times. You see, most of us simply don’t get enough oxygen to the bottom parts of our lungs (The most important parts of our lungs as we get the most oxygen transfer at the bottom sections). Most of us are so stressed and tense that we hold our shoulders high and tight, which prevents us from breathing properly! Did you know that by simply doing some deep breathing exercise, you are effectively working your lymph system (which is the sewerage system of your body) and as a result you are naturally detoxing! So not only do some deep breathing exercises helps your posture, they also give you a healthier and more vibrant look in the long term! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*39* ! Attraction Trigger 7 Your Soft Feminine Voice We all have 5 senses… vision, hearing, touch, smell and taste. Most of the triggers that we have been talking about so far are all to do with vision, or visual triggers. Yes, visual triggers are a huge part of attraction for men, since vision is a quick sense to use, especially compared to all the other senses we have. Men can see you from a much farther distance than he can hear you. However, your voice and vocal “A!higher!pitched!voice!is!an! indication!of!a!woman!who!is! more!youthful!and!has!less! stress!and!burdens!in!her!life.”! qualities can also create equal attraction for a man. Men find feminine voices more attractive and masculine voices less attractive. It’s scientifically proven from the tribes of the African plains to the salons of Paris. So how do you tell if a voice is a feminine voice? It is usually a voice that has a higher pitch. A higher pitched voice is usually associated with highly feminine women who have a lot of female hormones running through their bodies. It is also an indication of a woman who is more youthful and has less stress and burdens in her life. A voice that is burdened by stress eventually becomes a masculine voice (a deep voice), and a masculine voice is not attractive to most men. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*40* ! You see, a lot of women, especially the ones with masculine jobs (i.e. lawyers, doctors etc.) tend to speak with a masculine voice to try to express authority, and self-assuredness. There’s nothing wrong with that, because that masculine confidence is required in that environment. However… these women sometimes forget that there are other parts of themselves and their personality that isn’t been fully expressed. The feminine voice qualities may not serve you in the workplace, but it will serve you as a woman in your love life. It’s time to allow yourself to be that woman and not always have to be in the role of your job. Remember, your job is what you do, it’s not who you are. Your voice also says a lot about your personality. Your energy or lack of energy really shows through your voice. Your confidence shows through your voice. Your ability to have fun and be playful definitely shows through your voice. In fact, the famous voice trainer Arthur Joseph said once that your voice is the most vulnerable part of you. Think about that for a moment, isn’t there some real truth in that?! So how you feel inside really shows through your voice quality and tonality. So how can we make our voice more attractive to men? Well it’s not so much as that we need to change your voice quality, as much as we need to allow you to become a feminine woman, and as a result, your voice quality will adjust itself naturally. We need to inject our speaking voice with more variety, more fun, and more excitement. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*41* ! There’s literally nothing worse than a woman who talks with a monotone voice. (There’s nothing that would bore a man faster than a monotone voice!) Here are some action steps you can take to make your voice an instant trigger for men: 1. Inject energy into your voice. Don’t be monotone. Try and become more expressive just using your voice alone. A great way to practice is through a telephone conversation where you can’t express yourself visually with gestures and expressions, so the only way is through your voice and tonality. A lot of women use their voice in a very boring way. It’s not about being fake, or being forceful with your voice, it’s about using what you already have in more interesting ways. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*42* ! 2. I’m going to share a secret with you from a world-class voice trainer for singers and speakers. The secret is this. Try speaking or reading something out in the voices of many different characters. So get a book out, pick a paragraph to read out loud, but instead of using your “normal” voice… speak like Mickey Mouse! And then when you’re done doing that, speak like Rocky Balboa! Then speak like Marilyn Monroe. Then Donald Duck. Then try to speak like that person on TV who has a funny voice… This is meant to be really fun by the way, and the benefit here is to increase your vocal variety. Vocal variety is the key to making your voice more exciting! When you have a bigger range or variety of voices to choose from, then you can easily and appropriately choose the voice to use in any situation. 3. Imagine a voice that is soft and feminine. Soft doesn’t mean quiet, it means soft and vulnerable. It’s the opposite of harsh. So many women in a masculine workplace speak harshly like men. If this sounds like your situation, then this is something that you want to let go of. Imagine your voice becoming softer and softer, not in the decibels but in the tonality that you use. In your mind, imagine a mother’s soft voice soothing a baby to sleep. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*43* ! Attraction Trigger 8 Your Sparkling Eyes They say that your eyes are windows to your soul. When we speak to someone and really engage with them, it is primarily the person’s eyes that we look at and look into. So their eyes tell us a lot about their soul as well as their health. When you’re healthy, the white of your eyes are clear. When you’re unhealthy, the white of your eyes become more muddled and less clear. Just imagine a time when you were sleep deprived, perhaps nurturing a hangover also, and you get that look of bloodshot eyes, that’s a sign of being unhealthy. So the clearer your eyes look, the healthier you seem to be. And even if you are not ill, a few late nights may mean a set of dull and tired looking eyes which would essentially mean that your health is suffering (even if it’s just temporary). By the way, as you know, a huge portion of makeup is designed to accentuate your eyes. They usually do so by darkening the surrounding of the eye to make the white of the eye more visible. We all tend to pick up on color contrasts very well, so the darker it is around your eyes, the lighter your eyes look. You see, the more contrast the effects of the make-up produce, the whiter your eyes look. And as a result, you actually look healthier. In a scientific study done in 2008, researcher Richard Russell discovered that the greater luminance contrast between the eyes and the surrounding areas, the more attractive and feminine the face appeared to men. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*44* ! In his own words… “Application of cosmetics was found to consistently increase facial contrast. Female faces wearing cosmetics had greater facial contrast than the same faces not wearing cosmetics.” This proves that the exaggeration of the color contrast from carefully done makeup, will absolutely make you more attractive to men. This is not to say you should go all black around your eyes as if you had a black-eye. It’s about keeping features sharp, clean and stylish. But there’s a lot more to your eyes than just a sign of health. Believe it or not, our eyes are as expressive as many other part of us. It tells people whether you are confident or not, playful or not, trustworthy or not. You see someone can always lie through their teeth to you but their eyes never lie. They really are a window to your soul. So to really capture a man’s attention and trigger his desires for you, the most important thing is to bring life to your eyes. Bring a sense of health and energy to them. If you were to look at some of the most beautiful sets of eyes in history, this one key runs common in all of them. It’s the sparkle that lives in their eyes that makes them so mesmerizing. This spark is life; it’s energy, it’s a sense of excitement that makes men fall head over heels. Angelina Jolie and Rachel Mcadams are both examples of women I have noticed who have an amazing, youthful glow to them. And it's not simply a matter of genetics! In fact, the sparkle in your eyes is a result of the sum of your own habitual beliefs and focuses in every day life. If you make it a point to live an exciting, happy life, it will show through the sparkle in your eyes. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*45* ! So overall, well applied make up will make your eyes look more stunning and capture men’s attention, but it’s the spark in your eyes that will mesmerize them for life. Here are some important action steps to take to make sure your eyes are mesmerizing to men: 1. Get plenty of good, quality sleep. Yes, when you’re tired, one of the first places that show it is your eyes. So get plenty of sleep. As you age, you don’t want to get chronic bags or dark circles under your eyes! In fact, in this modern age, some girls start to get dark circles under their eyes at a very, very young age, like 14 or 15! It just exposes the stress of our lifestyle! 2. Drink a lot of water. Most of us are chronically dehydrated, and your eyes are made of mostly water, so give your eyes the gift of being hydrated. 3. Learn how to apply eye makeup in a way that actually complements your own eye type and color. Learn what would look good on you and what doesn’t look good. The key here is practice and getting Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*46* ! some solid advice from professional makeup artists (it’s worth you paying some money to get decent advice over getting cheap, free advice). 4. Consciously try to bring a sense of life into your eyes. Imagine yourself having playful eyes and bring the energy from your body, into your eyes and into the person you’re connecting with. Remember, it’s all about the spark in your eyes, that sense of aliveness. 5. Use eye drops. Eye drops can be a quick way to bring back that clear, watery, youthful sparkle as well as take away the dryness in your eyes. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*47* ! Attraction Trigger 9 Your Heavenly Scent Smelling good will make people more attracted to you, want to spend more time with you and even make men fall in love with you. I know this is somewhat obvious… but there’s more truth than you can possibly imagine. You see, male mammals are very apt and in tune to using their sense of smell to judge whether a female is suitable, in season or worth pursuing. Have you ever seen a man taking a sniff to smell a woman? It happens a LOT more than you think and it’s because a fertile woman’s natural smell instantly triggers euphoria in a man. It increases his blood flow, and puts him in an altered emotional state. Now we are talking about a very powerful mechanism. This mechanism has been built into our DNA for millions of years. But unfortunately this is something that is commonly overlooked. Our olfactory nerve (the one responsible for smell) is one of the closest nerves to our primitive brain, and one of the most ancient. What this means to you is that smells affect us (and men) much more than we realize. Have you ever had a moment where you’ve smelled something that reminded you vividly of a specific moment in your past, so real that you thought you were actually there? As if it transported you through time to be in that moment. That’s the power of our sense of smell. Now you have probably heard of pheromones. I’m talking about your scented sex hormones. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*48* ! Pheromones clearly act as sexual attractants in the animal world. Older male elephants, for example, exude sexual prowess with a mix of chemicals the younger elephants can’t muster. However, here’s the problem with your pheromones. They fluctuate up and down throughout your menstrual cycle. Research studies have shown that when you’re menstruating, your smell typically tends to be more intense and men are less attracted to it compared to your smell during mid-cycle (when you’re ovulating and are able to get pregnant). So how do you overcome that? You wear some suitable perfume because research shows that perfumes elicit feelings of joy, confidence, and a sense of well-being. By the way, quality perfume isn’t just a mix of random flowers and spices. It is usually a careful concoction of the right blend of smells that are meant to bring out MORE of your own natural pheromones. There is literally a ton of research that goes into one bottle of quality perfume, but not every scent will suit you. You have to pick carefully, and try different ones to make sure it sits well with you. The purpose of the perfume is to mix with your natural pheromones to produce a consistent and more pleasant scent and leaves their wearers with an opportunity to create a virtually unforgettable, personal trademark for themselves. But - do be unique when picking a perfume, because you want it to be your personal signature that is unique to you, a flavour that will cause others to immediately think of you if they ever come across it. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*49* ! Here are some actions you can take to ensure men are attracted and be triggered by your smell: 1. Practice good personal hygiene. Must I say more? Make sure you’re washed and clean. Poor body odour Is an absolute no no! 2. Get healthy. That’s right, believe it or not, the healthier you are, the better you will smell. The foods that you eat have a huge impact on every part of your health and attractiveness. A diet rich in water-rich foods really cleanses your system and gives every part of your body a chance to radiate your natural, beautiful scent. 3. Pick a nice perfume that suits you and your personality. But don’t over-use it. Another person should only be able to smell your perfume within a yard or two of being in your proximity. Perfume that is too strong is definitely a turn-off for most men. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*50* ! Attraction Trigger 11 Your Seductive Lower Back Quick quiz: what is the most popular place on a woman’s body for a tattoo? You guessed it, her lower back. Sexy, sensual, exposed at the beach but covered up at the office. May be shared with a lover but hidden from the rest of the world. And there’s a reason why it’s the most popular place for a tattoo. The reason is that your lower back is actually a very sensual and seductive area that too many people overlook. It is naturally a sensitive and erogenous zone on your body. So having a tattoo on the lower back draws the attention to this seductive area. So why is this area a trigger for men to feel attraction and desire? Here’s the reason why: Physiologically, your lower back is a crucial area for successful pregnancy and child birth. To be pregnant and carrying a baby inside the womb, a woman has to have a strong core and lower back to support the weight of the baby. The para-spinal muscles (the muscles on either side of the spine) in the lower back are primarily the muscles responsible for holding your posture upright and act as supporting columns for your whole body. So if you have weak muscles in your lower back, then you may have reduced chances of child bearing, increased chances of spinal misalignments (scoliosis). Through hundreds of thousands of years of evolution, men have noticed the curves and the musculature in a woman’s lower back as an Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*51* ! indication of her chances of successful child bearing. A normal lower back has its natural inward curve called a lordosis. But in this society where we don’t move our bodies like we used to millions of years ago, a lot of us have spinal alignment issues and core stability issues. A woman with a flat lower back is more likely to have a weaker set of core muscles. A weaker set of core muscles mean possible lower back issues in pregnancy. And this type of lower back is not attractive to men. Men love a woman with a nice curve in her lower back, with notable tone in her para-spinal muscles. It’s a sign of healthy future pregnancies and better chance of child bearing. So here’s how you can shape up your lower back to be sexy, sensual and seductive: 1. Make sure you don’t sit down for too many hours at a time. If you can’t help it, then stand up for a stretch every hour. Sitting is one of the worst positions for the human body. Also a lumbar roll would help your Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*52* ! sitting posture become more neutral and less damaging to your back in the long run. 2. Start an exercise routine to both strengthen your lower back and give flexibility to your lower back. You have many options here. You can do some yoga, Pilates or design your own set of exercises that work your core and back muscles. Your core muscles have been very popular in the media in the last five years, and they together with your lower back muscles help you to prevent injuries and maintain a healthy midsection. At the same time, if you go to the gym, you can do certain exercise that target your lower back muscles such as a back extension exercise, squats and dead lifts. These are not only great for your lower back but great to get your overall shape toned and sculpted. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*53* ! Attraction Trigger 11 Your Luscious Lips Did you know…In a research study done by the University of Manchester, (where they hooked up devices which tracked men’s eye movement), they found that when a woman has no makeup on, men’s visual fixation on her face was evenly distributed throughout her features. However, when the woman wore pink lipstick, the men on average spent 6.7 seconds of the first ten seconds staring at her lips. The results were even more apparent when the woman put on red lipstick…( it went all the way up to 7.3 seconds out of the first 10 seconds) Point being? Men are very attracted to a woman’s lips, as long as they are fertile looking lips. So what do I mean by fertile looking lips? I mean red, plump lips. Here’s a little lesson in human physiology: When a man and a woman make eye contact, and create a connection, blood flow increases immediately for both parties. In the woman, part of the blood flow travels to her lips, making them fuller and more red. This is just another small part of the mating dance between men and women that evolution has crafted. When a woman’s lips become engorged, plump and red, it means she is fertile, healthy and ready to mate. No wonder men get so excited about this trigger! And no wonder women pout in magazines, newspapers and advertisements. (They want to grab the attention of men!) According to AskMen.com, the more voluptuous your lips are, the higher your sex quotient is to men. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*54* ! But here is the other thing; women who have artificially “reengineered” lips never have the same appeal as women who have natural, real lips. The reason lies in the natural shape of your lips. (You’d rather have natural, thinner lips and wear gloss or lip stick than use artificial lip filler and destroy the natural shape.) The last thing about your lips is that they also tell people about how you deal with life’s events from the way you hold your mouth. A person who is predominately down and depressed all the time have the corners of their mouth/lips pointing downwards. It isn’t a youthful look, stay away from it! A person who is uptight all the time has a very tight and thin upper lip. These are obviously unattractive qualities that men are on the lookout for. Men intuitively know when a woman has a “bitch face” not because her face is a certain proportion but because of the way she holds her face. A woman who is full of judgment holds her face completely different to a woman who radiates love. Just take a moment next time to study how women hold their faces, you will learn a lot just by seeing the tension around their mouths. “A!person!who!is!predominately! down!and!depressed!all!the!time! have!corners!of!their!mouth/lips! pointing!downwards.”! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*55* ! So here’s what you need to do to give yourself the appearance of fuller more luscious lips: 1. Learn to use some good lip gloss and lipsticks that are high quality as well as being a good color to suit your particular skin tone. Remember the research study? Men are fixated on your lips if you make them appear plump and alive. 2. Do some facial aerobics and practice smiling from ear to ear. Actively lift the corners of your mouth up and back towards your ears at least 30 times a day. The best looking lips are ones with corners pointing up, not down. So what you’ll have to do is train the underlying muscles in your face to give your own lips a natural lift. 3. Learn to pout and make it look easy and effortless. Practice in front of the mirror and make sure that it doesn’t look awkward or unnatural when you’re doing it in front of others. It’s all about using those muscles around your lips to keep them active! (If you don’t use them… you lose them) Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*56* ! Attraction Trigger 12 Your Feminine Dress Code The beautiful clothes you wear are something that can make you a real enchantress to men. Beautiful clothes can enhance your femininity like you wouldn’t believe. Needless to say, beautiful clothes have been used for centuries by women to add to their feminine energy and aura, and to attract men. If you’re a very feminine woman, you can be feminine and beautiful in anything you wear, but there are certain styles that will trigger a man. I like to categorize these styles in to light and dark feminine. Use your dress code to trigger different parts of the men you date, or your own man. It’s so much fun! If you want to trigger a man’s light masculine side, the part of him that wants "If!you’re!a!very!feminine! woman,!you!can!be!feminine! and!beautiful!in!anything!you! wear.”! to take care of you a protect you, wear floral dresses, nice, elegant, long or three quarter skirts and pants, floral and pastel cardigans, bows and flowers in your hair, glitter around your eyes, nice jeans and flats or even cute wedges or heels. If you want to trigger the dark masculine in a man; wear tight-fitting pants that show off your waist-line and your sexy bum. A good pair of black designer pants that are fitted are a great asset to have in your wardrobe. Also wear nice, high-heeled pointy black boots in leather, patent leather or even suede. Short dresses with classy tights or leggings are very nice, as well as funky boots. Lace-up boots are nice to go with most outfits that are based on a dark feminine theme. Remember that dark colors, or tight Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*57* ! clothing that is a bit more daring than the light feminine is what makes a dark feminine outfit. It’s OK to lounge around in tracksuits sometimes, and I do recommend this, as women shouldn’t be confined to doing things a certain one way. Different ways of dressing show different parts of you. Play around with it, and remember to stay healthy, and exercise regularly so that you can look and feel as good as you deserve to feel. Age should not ever be a deterrent. No excuses. Older women can be just as attractive (if not more) attractive to men, (and trigger them more) than a younger woman. I remember when I was in high school, there was a middle-aged teacher, (in her 40s) who the boys (aged 17-18) would go crazy over. She had already had 3 children, and her body was off the hook. She wasn’t afraid of her femininity or her sexuality (a huge break from the rules for a school teacher), and she used to wear high-heels as well as nice, tailored black skirts with nice floral blouses. I am not kidding when I saw the boys used to wish they could ‘have a piece of her’. She was not afraid to be dark feminine, and had incredible confidence. She never used to do it in a vulgar or attention-seeking way, she was really just being herself and didn’t seem to like conforming and being boring like all the other teachers - so she didn’t. What a lucky husband back home! Remember not to restrict yourself to only one way dressing. You only live once. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*58* ! Here are 3 action steps to using your dress code to trigger your man: 1) Separate your wardrobe in to light and dark feminine (or at least have in mind what clothes are light, and what clothes are more dark) so that you can pick them and wear them straight away in accordance with whether you feel more dark feminine or more light feminine that particular day. 2) Study your body shape carefully in the mirror and work out what kind of clothes make your figure appear more feminine. There’s no use buying lovely clothes (expensive or not) if they just don’t suit your body shape! Take a friend with you shopping – an honest friend – who can let you know right away, whether something flatters you or not. 3) Pick a few people you know in your friendship circles, or celebrities who dress either light or dark very well, and model what their style is. Personally, I love Kate Moss’s style, she pulls off dark feminine very well, and I love Natalie Portman’s beautiful light feminine dress. These celebrities have a body shape that is towards my own, however, so they may not be perfect for you. Pick a celebrity (or someone you already know) whose body shape is the same or similar to yours. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*59* ! Attraction Trigger 13 Your Flirtatious Tongue Sticking your tongue out -This is something you did when you were 5 years old. Except now, it’s sexy. When you did it as a 5 year old, it was cute and adorable. When you do it now, it’s cheeky, it’s sexy and still adorable. You’ve probably guessed that your tongue is an erogenous zone, and a symbol of sex, depending on how you use it. Just the sight of your tongue can make a man go wild with anticipation. And there are many different ways to use your flirtatious tongue. You can stick it straight out just like a 5 year old, to tease your target. (This builds higher value in yourself and makes men want to chase after you, because you are being playful and demonstrating higher value) You can use your tongue to lick your upper lip. (This is more sexy, so reserve this for the right man. Don’t do this if you’re not comfortable with the man in the first place.) You can use your tongue as a way to tease your man and to get him to think of sex or oral sex (naughty isn’t it!?) You can use your naughty tongue to flirt and be playful, and of course, all of this will, in turn, increase the attraction between the both of you. You will get a man’s blood boiling instantly, if you started to incorporate your tongue in teasing and flirting with men. Warning: Don’t stick your tongue out at just anyone! Pick your targets carefully because you don’t want to lead a man on if you’re not Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*60* ! interested. Sticking your tongue out can be very suggestive so be careful, pick your targets carefully and have some fun! Here are ways to get some good use out of your tongue: 1) Poke it out during playful moments to be cheeky and naughty. Pretend you don’t like him for a moment. This is an effective way to flirt and to show that you are open to him, but you’re not easy to please…which is something he will love & appreciate. 2) Lick your lips (top and bottom) seductively. Do I need to explain this? Depending on your man’s associations, he will ‘imagine’ different things. The more he associates you with this type of play, the more likely it is that passion will build over time. 3) You can lick a lollypop or something of a similar (or near enough) in order to tease him. He won’t be able to resist it. It’s fun, and it shows that you’re not all ‘good’. He’ll love it. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*61* ! Attraction Trigger 14 Your Precious Heels As Marilyn Monroe said: “I don’t know who invented high heels, but all women owe him a lot.” Have you ever noticed that when you walk down the street, or a hall with heels on, men turn around and look? Of course you have. Just the sound of heels on the ground makes men turn their heads. Why? Because it’s a symbol of woman, of femininity. Men want to turn around and find out what you look like, and to see if there's some eye candy in store. Over the years, high heels have also become a symbol of sexuality – because high heels are linked to femininity, and to all the great things it does to increase a woman’s sex appeal, her presence, and her womanliness. Firstly, men don’t wear heels. At least not any men I’ve ever known of. So that’s a start. When we dress the complete opposite of the way men dress, it’s already a trigger because masculine and feminine are drawn to each other. There are many reasons why high heels are a trigger for men… You stand differently in heels: they put your body in a natural 'courting' pose, by pushing your bum outwards. A natural courting pose in primates really draws the attention of male, because it is a signal that the female is fertile and health. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*62* ! Just don't be tacky with this. Don't do what some women do in public and deliberately push your bum outwards exaggeratedly all the time, 'just in case he missed it'. This is fine for more intimate moments and private situations. But in public, you will find that you start to really become a pest. We don't live in the animal kingdom anymore, and we don't need to desperately advertise sexuality like females in the animal kingdom might. Doing this might get you noticed, but it will be cheap attention. You don't want cheap attention from men! You want quality attention from quality men! Some women I have seen also deliberately post a tonne of pictures on their Facebook that are taken from behind, just in case people missed that part of their body. Don't do this. If you are attractive, people know. It's obvious. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*63* ! Also heels change your posture, making you stand up taller. As we have already discussed, better posture is more attractive anywhere you go in the world. Another reason is that heels change the way you walk – in other words, they exaggerate your lateral hip shunt. You literally have to walk with more hip sway in heels than if you were walking barefooted. They also make you more leggy – your legs appear longer in high heels. Countless studies have shown that men prefer long legs. This is true even for women of different heights. So, a shorter woman with proportionally longer legs than her torso would be more of a trigger for men than a woman who appears to have very short legs compared to her torso. High heels can actually make your feet appear smaller (of course, this wouldn’t be true if your heels are one or more sizes too big for you! So pick a good pair of heels). Smaller feet is a good thing for a woman because it makes you appear more feminine and dainty. All of the above combine to make the act of putting on a pair of high heels erotic, in many cases. For example, during sex, or even just playful fun, wearing heels can create an erotic atmosphere. Here are 3 action steps you can take right now to take advantage of the high-heels trigger: 1) Spend more money buying just ONE pair of heels that fit properly, rather than spending less getting a pair of heels that are just an ‘OK’ fit. Quality over quantity! 2) Practice walking in them. This may come as a surprise, but most women simply don’t walk properly in high heels. One reason for this is that they choose terrible heels that don’t fit them well, and that hurt them so much they can’t even put one foot in front of the other properly. And Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*64* ! the other is that they simply don’t have much practice walking properly in them. 3) Pay careful attention to the color of your heels. Nude heels are very popular right now, and for good reason: the color blends in to the skin, and makes your legs appear even longer. The nude color has been proven to make men think of sex, as well. You can also go for cute, polka dot heels or pink kitten heels for a light feminine look, and go for red or black for a dark feminine look. Lastly, if heels hurt too much for you, and are difficult to walk in, you can get almost all the same benefits from wearing a small to medium sized wedge! And they are usually much more comfortable to walk in. Not to mention you can wear them casually more than you could a pair of stilettos. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*65* ! Attraction Trigger 15 Your Cheeky Wink What does a wink really mean? Even Google isn’t sure. I typed into Google “what does a wink mean?” and 93,000,000 search results popped up. And looking through some of those answers, I realized that either people had absolutely no clue, or people had their varying answers and no one could settle on one thing. No one really knows the answer because a wink could mean so many different things in different situations. A wink is very much context-driven. In one situation, it means you have a secret with someone else and you’re both insiders on this secret. In another situation it could mean ‘I’m just kidding’. Or perhaps in certain situations a wink could mean ‘you know what I’m thinking about…!’ A wink could even mean that you have something in your eye! So it really depends on the context and the mood of the situation to determine what you are trying to express with a wink. That’s why we need to always be cheeky when we wink to a man. In this situation, a wink is a symbol of high value in yourself. Winks give off the impression that you are playful, and that you are confident in the situation and also that you’re open and inviting. Confidence and openness is extremely attractive, as you would probably already know. It can also indicate that you’re leading the interaction in that moment, and being active rather than passive is always a turn on for men. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*66* ! Lastly, a wink can be very suggestive. (Obviously depends on how you use it) Remember, you have to leave certain things to the imagination. And it’s really the imagination that drives men wild. Start with the following to make use of your cheeky wink: 1) Use it at varying times when you want to leave him expectant of something, or when you want to encourage playfulness in the situation. For example, as you say goodbye to him, give him a cheeky little wink to indicate that good things are coming. You can say “see you next time!” And throw a playful wink at him. 2) Instead of verbally greeting him, you could just playfully welcome him, and wink as you walk away (or in, if you are inviting him in to your home). Replacing words for something exciting such as a cheeky wink is a great tool. Words only count for 7% or communication, and often, when you talk a lot, the interaction can get boring because you’re always just talking. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*67* ! Even sitting together in silence and throwing him a cheeky wink is a lovely thing to do. Remember how much men love to play, like little boys. Too serious and it just feels more like a ‘burden’ to him. 3) Use a wink in combination with throwing pebbles, as a method of flirting... We cover this in a lot more details in some of our other courses, where we teach you how to use methods such as push and pull to instantly capture a man’s attention. "A!wink!is!a!symbol!of!high!value!in! yourself.!It!suggests!that!you!have!an! insider!secret!with!the!person!you’re! winking!at”!! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*68* ! Attraction Trigger 16 Your Forbidden Cleavage Note: I did say your cleavage, not your breasts. Why? Because too many women mistakenly believe that it’s the size of their breasts that men are attracted to. WRONG! This is why so many women go and get cosmetic breast enhancements (this is now a multi-billion dollar business). And most of them tend to look awful and work against you, by the way! In reality, what men are really attracted to is your cleavage. Nearly all sex research surveys show that men love breasts in most shapes and sizes – it’s the cleavage that stimulates men the most. It doesn’t matter whether a woman’s breasts are the size of a small lemon or look like watermelons, most men are keenly interested in them all and they love a Key!Point:!In!reality,!what!men! are!really!attracted!to!is!your! cleavage.!Not!the!size!of!your! breasts!! cleavage. The sign of cleavage means that a woman has matured, and has hit puberty (so therefore she is able to bear children). But can this simple signal of development make men go crazy with desire? Studies have also shown that female hitchhikers whom showed cleavage are twice as likely to get picked up as women who did not show cleavage. It’s not that all men just want a piece of your flesh, but it’s just a demonstration of how powerful certain attraction triggers can be. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*69* ! There are in fact many research studies that looked into exactly why men are so attracted to a woman’s cleavage. And so here’s the theory… Humans walk upright on two legs and enlarged female breasts evolved as a mimic of the female rear. Tests conducted with pictures of bum cracks and breast cleavage convincingly show that most men are unable to differentiate one crack from the other. So the point isn’t to make your breasts the size of large melons (in fact too many surveys show that a large proportion of men strongly dislike fake breasts), but instead it’s about how you present your cleavage in the sexist way possible. So here are some action steps to enhance your cleavage: 1. Get push-up bras with gel or water inserts in them, they help to keep the natural looking contour of your breasts whilst enhancing your Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*70* ! cleavage. (Make sure you get your bras fitted to your frame, because research shows that most women have the wrong size bras and it not only gives a poor appearance but also can be damaging to your physical health) 2. Wearing a long, dangling necklace that draws the eyes and the attention to your cleavage. 3. Enhance your cleavage with make-up. Get a large powder brush and make your cleavage look deeper with a darker color than the color of your skin. Bronzer is typically good for this. Also use a lighter color to shade the outer side of your cleavage to make the breasts appear fuller. (You can also use a lighter color on the outside of your breasts) Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*71* ! Attraction Trigger 17 Your Alluring Sexual Confidence This is one trigger that is not of physical nature but of psychological nature. And let’s not discount psychological triggers because they can be some of the most potent attraction and desire triggers you can incorporate in your own life. It doesn’t matter what age you are, by exuding a sense of sexual confidence, you will attract men of all ages, backgrounds and from different walks of life. Kind of like bees to honey. So what is your sexual confidence? It’s basically you being “Having!Sexual!Confidence! means!you!will!never!engage! passively!with!a!man.!Being! passive!means!being!boring!to! men.”! very comfortable with your own sensuality and sexuality and you knowing your own value as a woman. This means…no overly needy behaviour, no nagging, and no passive engagement with a man. And there’s nothing more stale than a passive woman who has no oomph in her. Instead, having sexual confidence means that you are the one in control, you know how much men want you and your sexual value. You ooze an aura of sensuality and sexuality. You’re comfortable with your body, and with moving your body. (Men can spot awkward movements from a mile away and it’s an indication that you’re uncomfortable with yourself) Why don’t men like it when you seem uncomfortable with your own sexuality and your own body? It’s because it may indicate that there is something wrong with you reproductively. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*72* ! And we now know that the need for reproduction is the biggest source of attraction triggers. So why does your sexual confidence stimulate a man so much? Because it tells men that you are the whole package (the real deal) and you could or you would satisfy him immensely in the bedroom (if he was lucky enough to ever be the ‘chosen one’). Just like women love a man who is confident, men love women who are confident, especially towards sex, attraction, and of course, her own body. Here are a few action steps to increase your sexual confidence so that men will always be triggered and stimulated by your confidence: Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*73* ! 1. Say no to men more often! If you’re someone who finds it hard to say no, now is your time to start valuing yourself more and start respecting your own authority. This doesn’t mean you go and reject people, it’s all about you starting to value your own worth. This is the road to become a high value high status woman, someone who doesn’t get treated like a doormat girl, who doesn’t get taken for granted and certainly someone who doesn’t get used and manipulated. 2. Spend more time with your body. That’s right. Spend some good, solid time giving love to your body, touching your own body and learning about your own body. Learn to give nourishment to your own body. Have a sensual bath, take care of your hair, skin and nails. Take all the time in the world that you need to discover your own inner sexuality. (This is really the only way you can start to not only be ok with your own sexuality but be confident with it) 3. Start watching other women who are very sexually confident. Learn what they do and study it. Learn what they say, learn how they talk and how they move (and then do exactly what they do!) You can find these sexually confident women in your own life, on your favorite TV shows, or in movies. The point is for you to repeatedly have these inputs as a source of influence and over some time, you will discover a quicker, smoother transition to becoming more sexually confident. Remember, this is just another part of you that you may or may not have expressed fully, so it’s not about “changing you”, as much as it is about becoming more of you! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*74* ! What to do next? Well, now that you’ve learnt the 17 Attraction Triggers, it’s time for you to implement some of these in your own life. As I mentioned at the very start, you don’t need to master all 17 of these Attraction Triggers to be considered attractive. All you really need is a few of them, and their effects compound and stack on top of each other. Remember, it’s quality over quantity. It is much more important to do a few of these triggers well, than it is to try and cover as many of these as possible. So I know there are 17 of these altogether, however it is a good idea to start on only 3 of these attraction triggers until you get “good” at them, before you move onto improving other triggers. The last thing I want you to feel is overwhelm. When you do start taking the action steps we’ve included for every attraction trigger, you will start to notice more attention from men (and perhaps women too). This may be very subtle at first, but men will pay you more attention when you are a source of attraction triggers to them. Of course, as a woman, there will be times in which you don’t want to have a man’s attention. There are too many men out there who are willing to go with any woman that walks. And will respond to your using attraction triggers as a sign that they have somehow 'won' your attention, when you find them extremely unattractive. So be smart about it and tone it down a notch if you ever feel unsafe or don’t want to attract the wrong types of men. So as you probably have gathered, the 17 Attraction Triggers are based upon a man’s reproductive instincts. They will help you get towards a first date with great men, but they won't hold up 5 minutes in to a conversation. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*75* ! And of course, to be successful in the dating world, where there is so much competition, and to be successful in a relationship, to have passion and attraction long term, to have a man fully commit to you in every sense of the word... requires a lot more than just some attraction triggers. You need to learn how to engage a man’s full attention, trigger his pair bond mechanism, how to bring his attention back if he’s pulling away, and ultimately how to inspire him to commit to you and only you. What you really need is more knowledge and skills in these areas. Having the best information and having the best dating skills will get you in the good books of successful, kind, generous and attractive men. Right now, if you are not in a position of power with the men in your life, you are already losing the game. And, I don't make these programs so that you can settle for less than the very best in your love life. And by a position of power, I mean - having lots of options. I don't mean, trying desperately to control when, what and HOW every little thing happens with a man, and trying to control when, what and how you will act in every situation (this is a sign of desperation). So this is the position you really should be in: you should be a high value, high status woman who has her pick of many successful, interesting, attractive and generous men. For a woman, it's really important to pick the right man. You have a much smaller time in which you can start a family, compared to men. So it's important that you respect this, and choose the right man, not just the easy attention. Easy attention from men is the most dangerous type of attention. Because easy attention will land you in a weak position, always looking for approval from others, having low self esteem, and with little to no options, later on. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*76* ! But most women hardly ever do find 'Mr. He's-going-to-take-care-of you-and-worship-you-forever', because they lacked knowledge and skills in this area. So they settle for far less than they deserve. See, almost any woman could catch a man’s attention for a moment, but hardly any woman can keep his attention, keep him stimulated physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Men need you to keep them stimulated in a relationship. If he gets bored, then the natural option for a man is to leave. After all, if you have ever dreamed that your perfect man will come and sweep you off your feet, then you need the learn how to build and maintain attraction, how to inspire commitment and how to build trust in an intimate relationship. This is why I’ve also included the first volume of Attraction Control Monthly for you when you purchased this e-book... I wanted to start you on the journey of learning how to build long lasting passion and attraction, and have the relationship you really want and deserve. Attraction Control Monthly is designed for you to learn about men, attraction, dating and relationships... (from the stuff that your parents should have taught you when you were younger, to the latest and most advanced coaching in the field of dating and relationships) If you want an exciting relationship that is also secure and safe, then you owe it to yourself to understand these concepts. These concepts will literally make or break your relationship, as so many women have discovered already. So I urge you to stay subscribed to Attraction Control Monthly, learn the tools and strategies within each volume and do the exercises that I recommend to you. Here is a quick sample of what you will learn in future months with us on this journey of Attraction Control Monthly: Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*77* ! You will learn the core differences between masculinity and femininity and how attraction through polarity works. If you want to create a deep sense of attraction with a man, (not just physical attraction but deep emotional attraction,) then this is for you. Polarity is exactly how attraction works between a man and a woman. This is what keeps a man around long term. You’ll discover the three types of love (us humans have different pathways in the brain for 3 different types of love). The bad news is this… these three pathways are not very well connected to each other, which means we can technically feel 'love' for one person, but still fall IN LOVE with another, totally different person. That means your man could love you deeply, but may fall in love with another woman, so you better understand this, because I know this happens to a lot of good hearted people. The key here is really to fulfil and stimulate a man on all three levels, and have him addicted to you forever. If you don't want your man to fall in love with someone else, then this particular volume of Attraction Control Monthly is going to be vitally important. You’ll learn the power of subconscious emotional associations. How we make a man feel is far more important that what we say or do. Humans are driven by emotions, and we are all just looking for a feeling. This is why you can never talk a man into committing to you, or feeling attraction for you. It isn’t something logical. This is why talking about a relationship and where it's going with a man is not the right place to focus! You’ll learn how to becoming a “High Value, High Status Woman”. That’s right, a woman who never gets taken for granted! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*78* ! I know so many women who give men signs that they are low value and therefore could be treated like doormat girls by men. This is simply NOT on! Not only am I not going to let you show up as low value again, I will make sure that men will take you seriously and treat you like a princess. I’m just sick of seeing women who lower their own value in order to get the attention of men or trying to wait for a man to act a certain way. This must end once and for all! Do you know what the 8 Feminine Roles that Allure and Attract Men are? We will break that down and show you exactly what these are in month 6 of Attraction Control Monthly. You’ll discover how to Eliminating Insecurity and Escalating Confidence with Men. And you’ll learn the difference between Light and Dark Feminine Energy… And the list goes on, but I won’t tease you any more. All I can promise you is that there is a lot more in store for you over the next several months and years. So I hope we can serve you again in the future in your love life through our articles, videos or one of our programs, but regardless, we sincerely wish you the best of luck and happiness in everything you do. Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*79* ! About the Authors Renee Wade World Authority and Leader on Femininity, Love Passion & Intimate Relationships. What!began!as!a!journey!out!of!incredible!pain!in!her!own!past!relationships! with!men,!became!a!passion!and!a!mission!to!help!other!women!from!across!the! world!show!up!as!higher!value,!higher!status!women.!Through!her!own! struggles,!Renee!found!that!when!you!hold!yourself!as!High!Value!and!High! Status,!you!have!all!the!power!when!it!comes!to!men,!and!you!attract!the! passionate!and!loving!relationship!that!other!women!envy.!! Renee’s!blog!“The!Feminine!Woman”!has!reached!and!impacted!the!lives!of! over!half!a!million!women!across!the!world!in!the!matter!of!18!months!and! continues!to!inspire!and!teach!women!today.!!!! Through!this!process,!she!has!advised!and!coached!many!well[known!individuals! and!as!well!as!a!number!of!celebrities,!including!newsreaders,!politicians,! lawyers!and!doctors.! But!it!isn’t!just!a!straight!forward!success!story.! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*80* ! Many!years!ago,!Renee!found!herself!in!a!horrible!nightmare.! She!found!herself!lying!on!the!floor!next!to!her!bed,!exhausted!from!crying!for! days!&!nights.!She!had!spent!almost!four!years!with!a!man!who!she!thought!she! had!a!future!with,!but!it!all!turned!out!completely!the!opposite.! It!was!a!moment!where!she!realized!that!the!one!person,!who!was!supposed!to! care!for!her!and!protect!her,!didn’t.!It!was!a!moment!where!she!needed! protection!from!her!man!from!physical!danger,!but!instead,!he!ran!away.! Her!heart!sank,!and!along!with!it!her!hopes!of!that!relationship!ever!working! out.!She!realized!that!she!had!settled!for!much!less!than!what!she!deserved!in!a! relationship.! That!day!was!the!day!Renee!realized!that!she!had!been!living!a!lie,!dating!the! wrong!man,!and!wasting!her!youth!away,!as!well!as!her!life.! Tired!of!blaming!herself,!blaming!him!and!the!situation,!Renee!set!out!to!find! answers.!! Why!did!she!attract!that!man!and!that!relationship!into!her!life?!How!could!she! ever!trust!a!man!again?!How!could!she!move!on!from!this!hurtful!and! embarrassing!experience!and!help!other!women!do!the!same?! Renee!didn’t!find!the!answers!to!these!questions!immediately.!Rather,!it!took! many!high[end!seminars,!expensive!multimedia!programs,!painful!trial!and! error,!and!dozens!of!books!to!get!to!where!she!is!now.! Now!she!has!met!the!man!of!her!dreams,!fallen!in!love!and!living!a!secure,! fulfilling!and!exciting!relationship.!No!more!living!in!anxiety,!no!more!living!in! fear,!and!now!Renee!is!on!a!mission!to!take!this!knowledge!and!share!it!with! everyone!she!comes!across!! It!gives!her!ultimate!fulfilment!to!see!you!become!high!value!high!status,!attract! the!man!of!your!dreams!and!be!safe!and!secure!in!that!deeply!committed! relationship.!! ! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*81* ! David Shen Authority & Researcher on Attraction, Commitment & Long Term Intimate Relationships. Over!the!past!several!years,!David!has!been!obsessed!with!the!theories!and! practice!of!creating!attraction!and!inspiring!commitment!in!intimate! relationships.! Together!with!Renee!for!many!years,!he!has!been!researching!on!these! important!topics!and!has!come!to!some!interesting!conclusions.! He!believes!that!it!is!possible!to!live!your!life!being!in!love!and!having!not!only! excitement!but!security!that!comes!with!a!long[term!relationship.! He!believes!that!you!deserve!to!attract!a!man!who!doesn’t!just!love!you,!but! worships!you!and!will!take!care!of!you!forever.!! It!doesn’t!matter!what!your!background!is,!your!ethnicity,!your!age,!or!your! physical!qualities,!you!can!do!this!because!of!the!feminine!energy!you!that!you! already!have!inside!of!you.!! And!it’s!this!feminine!essence!&!energy!that!will!make!men!fall!in!love!with!you.!! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*82* ! David!believes!that!in!order!for!you!to!become!that!woman!that!men!adore,!are! attracted!to!and!want!to!commit!deeply!to,!you!will!have!to!learn!a!few!key! qualities!and!a!few!key!skills.! You!will!have!to!understand!the!qualities!of!femininity!as!opposed!to! masculinity,!the!qualities!of!emotional!attraction,!and!the!specific!qualities!that! you!need!in!order!to!inspire!commitment!from!men.! David!is!also!a!big!believer!in!having!practical!skills!when!it!comes!to!your! intimate!relationship.!He!believes!you!need!the!skill!of!getting!a!man’s!attention! when!he’s!pulled!away,!the!skill!of!indicating!high!value!and!high!status!instead! of!being!treated!like!a!doormat!girl,!and!the!skill!of!really!connecting!with!men! heart!to!heart.! He!believes!that!every!woman!needs!to!understand!these!qualities!and!have! these!skills!in!their!love!lives.!Without!these,!even!if!you!are!a!celebrity!or! supermodel,!you!will!inevitably!be!heartbroken,!disappointed,!frustrated!and! empty!of!love.! So!David!has!made!it!his!mission!to!spread!the!word!and!share!these!qualities! and!skills!with!all!the!women!he!comes!across.! And!when!there!are!more!quality!relationships!in!this!world,!then!David!is! certain!that!there!will!be!less!violence,!less!suffering,!and!less!child!abuse!and! more!cohesion!in!our!world.! ! ! ! Copyright*©*2012/2016* Page*83* !