MPPOMOctNov13 leaning in to motherhood

The newsletter of the Mid-Peninsula Parents of Multiples Club
Published bi-monthly; subscription included in MPPOM membership dues.
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650.599.2022
October / November 2013
"Leaning In" to Motherhood, pg. 10
Thoughts from before and after twins
Motivation for Multiples, pg. 12
How to foster a growth mindset
MPPOM 2013-2014 Speaker Series, pg. 9
See the full slate of upcoming events!
October 2013 Calendar*
Sunday
Monday
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Tuesday
Wednesday
2
3
Thursday
Toddler Times Play Date
U-Me, Menlo Park
3-5pm
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7
8
4
Friday
5
Expectant Parents Meeting
Blossom Birth Ctr, Palo Alto
7:30-8:30pm
9
10
UC&E Sale and Donation Day
Twin Pines Community Center,
Belmont
9am-noon
11
Twins and Triplets Drop-In Play
Parents Place, Palo Alto
3-4:30pm
Saturday
12
New POMs Meeting
Sequoia Health & Wellness Ctr
11am-12:30pm
13
14
15
16
20
21
22
23
27
28
29
30
17
24
Mom’s Night Out
The Plant Café Organic,
Burlingame
7-9pm
Speaker Series – Anxiety
Parents Place, Palo Alto
7-9pm
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19
25
26
New POMs Meeting
Sequoia Health & Wellness Ctr
11am-12:30pm
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November 2013 Calendar*
Sunday
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
1
Friday
2
Saturday
Expectant Parents Meeting
Blossom Birth Ctr, Palo Alto
7:30-8:30pm
3
4
5
6
7
Twins and Triplets Drop-In Play Multiples Plus Night Out
Parents Place, Palo Alto
The Lobster Shack, Redwood
3-4:30pm
City
7:30-9:30pm
10
11
12
8
9
New POMs Meeting
Sequoia Health & Wellness Ctr
11am-12:30pm
13
14
15
16
22
23
Mom’s Night Out
Town, San Carlos
7-9pm
17
18
19
20
21
New POM’s Meeting
@Sequoia Health & Wellness Ctr
11am-12:30pm
24
2
25
26
27
28
*Please see activity details on the BigTent Calendar
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Editor's Message
As I write, we are nearing the end of September, which means my children are starting to think about Halloween! There’s
nothing like getting to go out in public dressed up in costume, and collect candy from all the neighbors, to make the perfect
holiday. This can be an especially fun time for parents of multiples, given the potential for adorable twin-themed costumes.
At Jeffrey and Mollie’s first Halloween, they were barely four months old, so I pretty much just wanted something that was
simple to put on babies who could not yet sit up on their own. I ordered them baby buntings decorated as M&Ms, one
green and one blue. The next year, a friend of my mother-in-law bought us costumes, a little monster and a pink poodle.
My son in particular seemed to get into the spirit of his outfit, roaring happily at visiting trick-or-treaters (and trying to
swipe one child’s candy basket, before being restrained).
The year when they were two was the first time they were old enough to consciously select costumes of their own. Jeffrey
announced one morning that he and Mollie had discussed the matter and chosen costumes. He would be Elmo, and she
Cookie Monster (yes, they were big fans of Sesame Street). I dutifully ordered the requested outfits. The following year they
continued with a correlated costume theme, when Mollie declared that she wanted to be a princess, and her brother decided
to be a prince in order to match.
The next year was super heroes, and a surprisingly early introduction to gender issues. My son had little problem choosing
his Batman costume, but his sister looked through the catalog with increasing disgruntlement. Why, she asked, were there
so many more boy heroes than girl heroes? And why were so many of the girl heroes just copies of the boy heroes, such as
Supergirl, Batgirl and Spidergirl? Speaking of which, she demanded to know why was it Supergirl and Batgirl, but Superman
and Batman? There was, in short, only one possible choice, and Mollie happily wore her Wonder Woman costume that year.
The year they were five, they had no obvious similarities in costume, although there was in fact a shared “future careers”
theme. Jeffrey was a fireman, while Mollie was a ninja (and yes, she wrote on her kindergarten project that that was indeed
what she planned to be when she grew up).
This year, they seem finally seem to have abandoned any twin theme to their garb. Jeffrey will be Mario, from his favorite
video game, while Mollie plans to be a genie. But we’ll see if they decide to return to twinned costumes in later years.
Halloween is a big event not just for individual members, but for MPPOM as a club! The Halloween Costume Exchange
and Picnic on September 29 looks set to be a success with over 200 planned attendees as of this writing. Stay tuned for
details on the upcoming and ever-popular MPPOM Halloween Party, on October 19.
There’s a whole lot more going on as the club heads into fall! See page 4 for more upcoming toddler and parents events, and
page 5 for details of the fall Used Clothing and Equipment Sale. And see photos from the Summer Socials on page 17.
In addition, the MPPOM Speaker Series is up and running again! See page 9 for details of upcoming speaker events, as well
as a summary of the September 9th event on “Making and Keeping Friends”, at page 8.
Also in this issue:
Balancing work life and parenthood is a perennial issue for all parents, especially those dealing with the extra challenges of
multiples. Victoria Worch shares her thoughts about “leaning in” to her career, from the dual perspectives of before and after
the birth of her twin girls. See page 10.
It’s wonderful to see how multiples will support and help each other, but have you ever wondered how to encourage each
one to practice the areas in which they are weaker, rather than relying upon their sibling? At page 12, columnist Linda
Krenicky explains the idea of a “growth mindset” and how to use it to motivate your multiples.
Enjoy all the upcoming fall fun, and think of all we have to be grateful for as Thanksgiving approaches!
Barrie Bell
newsletter@mppom.org
On the cover: Elliot Thomas and Mia Louise Stevens. Photo by Kate Kelly (kate.marie.kelly@gmail.com).
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Club Business & Events
Toddler Times Play Date at U-Me (12 to 24 Months)
Mom's Night Out at Town in San Carlos
When: Saturday, Wednesday October 2, 3-5 pm
Where: U-Me, 3355 Edison Way, Menlo Park
When: Thursday, November 14, 7-9 pm
Where: Town, 716 Laurel Street, San Carlos
Contact: Marissa Dixon 562-500-8214 marissadixon@mac.com
Please join us for a toddler play date at U-Me in Menlo Park on
October 2nd from 3:00pm to 5:00pm. The cost is $15 for twins
and parent or other caregiver. $10 for each additional sibling.
This event is targeted at twins from 12 to 24 months but feel free
to join us even if your twins are a little older.
Twins and Triplets Monthly Drop In Play
Contact: Lauren Ngongang 650-387-0978 lauren.yann@gmail.
com
Join us for a lively night out at Town in San Carlos!
Located in the heart of downtown San Carlos, Town features
hand cut steaks & chops, the freshest seafood, local organic
produce, hand crafted cocktails, and a wine list with a focus on
California, Washington and Oregon wines.
Please R.S.V.P. as space is limited.
When:Monday October 7, 3-4:30pm
Monday November 4, 3-4:30pm
Where: Parents Place, 200 Channing Ave., Palo Alto
*** (This is a no-host event; each attendee is responsible for their
own bill).
Note: This is not an MMPOM event but is run by Parents
Place.
Raising twins or multiples is challenging. Join other families of
twins and while the children play and build social skills in the
Parents Place Drop In Playroom, parents meet and discuss how
to promote individuality, understand the twin bond, deal with
comparisons and competition and provide developmentally
appropriate play/learning opportunities.
Lori has been a parent educator for more than 20 years,
specializing in child development, discipline and separation
issues. She especially enjoys guiding children in creative activities,
and exploring outdoors. Lori is married with three grown
children, two of whom are twins, and three grandchildren.
Mom's Night Out at The Plant Café Organic in
Burlingame
When: Thursday, October 24, 7-9 pm
Where: The Plant Café Organic, 1395 Burlingame Ave.,
Burlingame
Contact: Lauren Ngongang 650-387-0978 lauren.yann@gmail.
com
Join us for healthy food and yummy cocktails at The Plant Cafe
in downtown Burlingame!
The Plant Cafe offers 100% organic local produce, free range
organic poultry, and sustainable seafood.
Cost: $10 per family
Known for their Plant Burger, juices, and blue bottle coffee,
this newest location of the Plant, opened in Spring 2013, also
features a full bar with seasonal organic cocktails, sustainable
wines and both beer and kombucha on tap.
Multiples Plus Night Out
When: Tuesday November 5, 7:30–9:30pm
Where: The Lobster Shack
851 Veterans Boulevard, Redwood City
You know they say a happy parent equals happy children! You
deserve a night off! If you have twins (or triplets!) and one or
more other children, please come join us! Whether your twins
are older school-age children or babies, join others in like
company for a relaxing night out. In addition to enjoying dinner
or a drink, we will also share stories, suggestions and strategies
for raising our "Multiples Plus" children. Space at this intimate
event is limited to 12. MMPOM has kindly agreed to provide a
small subsidy for the event. Otherwise it is a no-host dinner and/
or drinks.
Join us for some healthy food, accompanied by good drinks and
even better dinner guests!
Please R.S.V.P. as space is limited.
*** (This is a no-host event; each attendee is responsible for their
own bill).
Please RSVP on Big Tent. For further information, please
contact Lisa Hwong 415-699-2691(ljlh2008@gmail.com) or
Diane Bailey 650-281-7073 (bing_73@yahoo.com).
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Club Business
Save the Date: MPPOM Annual Halloween Party, Saturday October 19, 11am-2pm
Keep an eye out for complete event details and RSVP invitations coming up shortly. We have the date and time settled, but
the venue and entertainment has not been confirmed. Please contact Hillary Stark (mppompresident@gmail.com) if you
would like to be involved on the planning committee! We especially need volunteers to plan and bring fun games for the
kids - let us know if you have any fun ideas!
MPPOM Fall 2013 Used Clothing and Equipment Sale Saturday October 5, 2013
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Pregnant? Got babies, toddlers or older children?
Why purchase new clothes and equipment, when you can purchase “practically new” or “gently worn” at bargain
prices?
Find used gear such as: strollers and prams, gates, high chairs, excersaucers, swings, baby carriers, slings, activity
centers, potty training gear, pack ‘n’ plays, car seats, etc.
Buy gently used clothing - from preemie and up at great prices. There always is a nice selection of styles as well as
matching sets.
Find great quality toys and books at rock bottom prices!
If you are in the market for something, you do not want to miss this sale! Tell your friends, neighbors, nannies and
their friends.
When: Saturday, October 5th, 2013
9:00 am - 9:30am MPPOM Club Members Only
9:30 am - 12 noon Open to Everyone
What: Clothing & Shoes - Sizes from newborn through 5 years old.
Equipment -Strollers, Car Seats, Safety, High Chairs, Toys, Videos, Books, etc.
Where: Twin Pines Community Center, 1225 Ralston Avenue, Belmont
Plus: Bake Sale - Homemade baked goods
We will also be taking Helping Hands donations. Helping Hands welcomes your donations of gently used baby
equipment, children’s clothing and toys. MPPOM supports low income families with multiples by passing along
these useful and much appreciated items.
Cost: Admission is FREE to everyone!
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Services & Support for New Parents
Expectant Parents of Multiples Meetings (Expectant POMs)
MPPOM Bed Rest Program
When: 1st Friday of each month 6:30 to 7:30pm
Where: Blossom Birth
Contact: Leslee Belzer | 650.353.6583 | throckbelz@gmail.com
299 S. California Ave, Ste. 120, Palo Alto
Contact: Lisa Morse | lisa@lisamorse.com
Emily McNally | emilysusanmcnally@gmail.com
All expectant parents of multiples are invited to join us for
a roundtable discussion on surviving and thriving during a
multiples pregnancy and those first crazy newborn months.
Typical topics include: how do I safely navigate a twin
pregnancy; how do I make it through those first few weeks with
my new arrivals; how do I breastfeed; what kind of help will
I need; what kind of gear will I need. We also welcome new
parents of multiples to attend, especially if your schedule does
not permit you to make it to the daytime meetings for new
POMs on Mondays!
The MPPOM Buddy Program
Contact: Irene Hsu-Dresden, buddies@mppom.org
If you are expecting or have just given birth to multiples,
you want a buddy – trust us, we’ve been there. MPPOM
has matched over fifty new MOMs with buddies this past
year!
1. Are your twins/multiples fraternal or identical?
2. Are they pre-term births?
3. Do you plan to work outside your home, or be a stayat-home mom?
4. Do you plan on breastfeeding or formula feeding
5. Do you plan on having any help with the multiples?
6. Do you have other children?
7. Would you prefer phone/email contact, or would you
like to meet your buddy in person?
8. Any other info that may help to find a suitable match,
language or food preferences, location, multicultural
background, etc.?
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If you are a mom who has been on bed rest and would like to
share your expertise with an expecting mom, please let me know!
Expectant Parent Calls (Expectant POMs)
There are different types of buddies. You may just want
someone at the other end of a phone line for a little bit of
advice, or you may be looking to become close friends with
your buddy. If you have specific interests or experiences,
Irene will do her best to make a match for you.
Whether you want a buddy or can offer to be a buddy,
please have the answers to the following questions at hand
when you contact Irene:
While most of our members go through their pregnancies on two
(sore) feet, it is not uncommon to end up on bed rest during a
multiples pregnancy. And when you do, it often comes with no
warning – leaving you lonely, bored, overwhelmed, and stressed
out all at the same time. The MPPOM Bed Rest Program is here to
help.
Contact: Nina Kirz | 650.353.6836 | nina.eisenberg@gmail.com
Karen Scifres | 925.323.8532 | ke8583@gmail.com
We help new members access the valuable resources our club
offers to expecting and new parents of multiples. Our primary
responsibility is to call new parents to obtain birth information,
and to offer and coordinate club services, such as Meals for New
Parents, Bed Rest support, and access to the Preemie Closet.
Twin–to–Twin Transfusion Syndrome
Contact: Katie Riggs | ttts@mppom.org
Twin-to-Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS) is a serious
complication that can only occur in identical twins with a shared
placenta. It is important for women to determine if their twins
share the placenta during the first trimester of their pregnancy.
Current research suggests that these expectant moms be closely
monitored and have frequent ultrasounds. The benefits of
liquid protein and modified bedrest should be discussed with
the physician. It is estimated that 2/3 of all identical twin
conceptions are monochorionic. Studies suggest that 10-15%
of monochorionic twins are affected by TTTS. Between 1,5002,000 cases of TTTS occur each year in the U.S., making it more
common than SIDS.
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Services & Support for New Parents
New Parents of Multiples Meeting (New POMs)
0–12 months
Preemie Closet
Contact: Suzanne Machacz
650.291.1904 | Suzanne.machacz@gmail.com
When: 2nd and 4th Fridays of the month,
11 am to 12:30 pm
Where: Sequoia Health and Wellness Center
749 Brewster Ave., Redwood City
Contact: Christa Khoury | christamickel@yahoo.com
All expectant parents of multiples (and POMs with children
under 12 months) are invited to discuss the joys and the
challenges of the first year of parenting multiples. Parents share
support and advice on topics on a variety of topics, such as
feeding, sleeping, getting out with more than one baby, traveling,
baby products, dealing with extended family and how to navigate
conflicting baby advice...just to name a few. Expectant parents
can meet new POMs, get ideas on how prepare for their babies,
and a first-hand look at other parents caring for multiples.
Moms, dads and helpers are welcome to come with or without
their babies. Sorry, children older than 12 months cannot attend.
Meals for Families
Contact: Ellen Jacobson | mealsforfamilies@mppom.org
MPPOM offers a service to new parents, providing a meal that
is prepared and delivered by an MPPOM member volunteer.
Becoming a new parent to one newborn is stressful; double that
and add NICU stays and other complications, no family nearby
to help, additional children and other various difficulties, and
you realize how a delicious meal delivered to your door can be a
great help.
Upon request, I will post a message to the MPPOM forum
asking for a volunteer to prepare and deliver a meal to a family in
a specific area. The volunteer will contact the family by e-mail or
phone and ask the following questions:
1. What is your address?
2. What are a few dates when it would be convenient to
deliver the food?
3. When is the most convenient time to drop off the
food?
4. Can I ring the doorbell or leave the food somewhere
safe?
5. Any food allergies?
6. How many people are in your family?
7. Any meal preferences? (You may want to provide a
few suggestions on what you would like to bring.)
I ask that the volunteers email me after the meal has been
delivered so I will know that the family has been cared for and so
we can thank you in the next newsletter.
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We have just about everything from footed sleepers, onesies,
pants and seasonal outfits to socks, hats and bibs. To request
clothes, just e-mail Suzanne with the genders and weights of
your babies and your address. We will drop off a bag of clothes
within a few days. We ask that you wait until your twins are
born to contact us to make sure your babies actually are preemie
weight (under 6 pounds). You may keep the clothes for as long
as you need. When you are done, we will ask that you drop them
off at Suzanne’s house at your convenience. Feel free to include
any additional preemie items you purchased as a donation when
you return the clothes. We will send you a receipt for your
donation via e-mail.
The Lending Closet has your travel gear!
Are you making travel plans? Wondering how you are going to
get through the airport quickly with your little ones? Planning a
ski or snow trip? Fear no more, the MPPOM Lending Closet is
here to help!
If you have a need for travel, camping or snow gear, check
out what’s available in the lending closet before going out and
buying new equipment. A sampling of some of the items we
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Lending from the Lending Closet is first-come, first-served, and
free of charge for all members. All items must be returned in
clean and working condition.
We also welcome donations of gently used travel gear, snow gear
and Halloween costumes! Tax receipts will be provided.
To make a reservation, please contact Camala or Renee at
lendingcloset@mppom.org
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Supporting Your Child’s Social Development: Speaker Series Report
We all have our different dreams for our children’s futures, but
surely the most common and fundamental wish is that our
children have rewarding friendships. Yet while some children are
natural social butterflies, for others, the skills of friendship may
not come so easily. As it happens, the first event in MPPOM’s
2013-2014 speaker series focused on the topic of making and
keeping friends: supporting your children’s social development.
Stephanie Barry Agnew, the Parent Education Coordinator at
Parents Place San Mateo, gave her presentation on September 9
at Parents Place in San Mateo.
Agnew discussed the skills of friendship, including joining
into play, being supportive and approving, exercising tact,
and conflict resolution. Being supportive includes smiling and
making eye contact in order to show interest, physically and
verbally showing affection, saying “thank you” to demonstrate
appreciation, and cooperating and being able to compromise.
Parents can model these behaviors themselves in order to help
their children learn them. Exercising tact is typically tricky for
preschoolers, but parents can help by pointing out the reactions
of other children (“Susie looked sad when you said her idea was
stupid”), and providing examples of how to use kind words.
Parents can assist with conflict resolution by teaching children
how to express their feelings and listen when other children do
the same, think of alternatives and problem solve, and follow
through with agreements.
Agnew also discussed what parents can do to support their
children’s friendships. Most important is to provide a variety of
opportunities for play and socializing. Playdates are a staple for
young children, and Agnew offered some suggestions for helping
playdates go more smoothly. She recommended starting out
with shorter visits (about an hour for young children), gradually
increasing the time together as your child is ready. It can also be
helpful to schedule a couple of playdates close together so that
children can get to know each other through repeated visits.
She suggested having some materials available (such as markers,
stickers, tape, glue sticks, string, clay) to provide open-ended
activities if the children are uncertain what to do next. Stay
nearby so that you can offer help when needed. If your child has
difficulty sharing, meet at a neutral place, such as a local park.
If there are specific toys that your child is reluctant to share, put
these out of sight before the friend arrives.
In addition to playdates, Agnew suggested various other ways to
help your child meet and make friends with other children. Sign
up for group activities or classes that your child is interested in,
such as art, dance, drama or science. Lead a carpool or walking
group to school or afterschool activities. Go to the park, and
bring extra toys, balls or snacks that other children can share.
Include your children when you talk to family, friends and
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neighbors so that they become accustomed to interacting with a
variety of people.
Agnew also advised parents on how to support your children’s
friendships. Get to know your children’s friends, and their
friends’ parents. Listen to your children and observe how they
interact with their friends. Give your children the opportunity
to handle difficult situations, while offering help as needed if
the situation is beyond your child’s skill level. And remember
that it is okay to ask for help (from teachers, other parents, or
counselors) when you need it.
The presentation also offered advice on how to stay calm when
your child’s friendships do not go as smoothly as you would
hope. Agnew explained that we should empathize with our
child’s sadness, but keep it in perspective, remembering that
developing friendships is a lifelong process and everyone will
experience some pain and rejection. Of course, it is always
difficult to see your child struggle, or feel hurt or left out.
Agnew recommended talking about your concerns to other
adults you trust, while being careful not to burden your child
with your own anxiety. It’s also helpful to stay informed.
Teachers, coaches, family and friends can often provide useful
information and insight about your child. You can also learn
about common developmental and friendship issues by reading,
talking with other parents, and consulting with professionals if
needed.
Social skills groups are another resource that our family has
found helpful in teaching the social skills involved in making
and keeping friends. Social skills groups are typically small
groups of similarly aged children led by one or more trained
facilitators, which focus on learning skills such as playing
together, sharing and taking turns, resolving conflicts and self
assertion. In my child’s group of preschoolers, the session would
typically start with some direct instruction, usually by reading a
book, then discussing it or playing a related game. These games
would practice particular skills such as making eye contact or
responding calmly when being told “no”. This would be followed
by an activity where the children would all play together,
facilitated by the therapists, so as to practice their lessons in a
real-life situation. The parents were able to watch the sessions
through a one-way window, so this was a helpful way for parents
to learn how to teach and model social skills to their children.
While our child’s social skills group was organized by Parents
Place, other organizations which offer similar groups or other
related resources include Amicus Therapy Group in Los Altos,
the Children’s Health Council in Palo Alto, and Therapeutic
Learning Consultants in Mountain View. A selection of
suggested books for both children and parents is provided below.
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Speaker Series
The 2013-2014 Speaker Series has begun! The series kicked off
with two September events, a talk on “Childhood Relationships:
Making and Keeping Friends” in San Mateo, and a presentation
and panel discussion “Bye Bye Diapers: Toilet Learning” in Palo
Alto. The following list presents the monthly lineup so far, with
a few more to come! There should be something for everyone, so
please plan on attending.
We are partnering with Parents Place for these Speaker Series
events, which can cost up to $40 per person to attend. But with
your MMPOM membership, you are getting all of these for
FREE! Plus there will be MMPOM exclusive workshops and
additional speaker events that we have yet to schedule.
When January – Date to be announced
Where: Parents Place, 2001 Winward Way, San Mateo
During this workshop, based on Jane Nelsen's Positive Discipline
books and interactive workshops, discover how better to
understand your child's behavior; discipline with friendship,
love, and respect; and find common-sense solutions to everyday
challenges.
Mothers of Boys -- Growing Boys into Men
When: Wednesday February 5, 7-9pm
Where: Parents Place, 200 Channing Ave, Palo Alto
Helping Kids Cope with Anxiety
When Thursday October 24, 7-9pm
Where: Parents Place, 200 Channing Ave., Palo Alto
What does anxiety feel like to your child and how do his feelings
affect your family as a whole? Strategies to help children cope
and manage their feelings will be discussed, and common anxiety
triggers such as school situations, social dynamics, sleep and
separation issues with be discussed.
Explore this special relationship and learn what boys need from
their moms. Discuss how to handle boy energy and foster longlasting communication and closeness.
Beyone Sibling Rivalry
When: Tuesday March 18, 7-9pm
Where: Parents Place, 2001 Winward Way, San Mateo
Mr and Mrs Bossypants: Taming Your Little Dictator
When: Thursday November 14, 7-9pm
Where: Parents Place, 200 Channing Ave, Palo Alto
Bossy behaviors appear as children begin to explore power
within the peer and parent relationships. Children need to learn
important social skills for building friendships and healthy
family interactions. Discuss ways to teach respectful language,
share ideas during play interactions, and express needs in more
appropriate ways.
Discover the reasons for sibling quarrels and learn techniques to
help children minimize and resolve conflicts. Learn when and
how to become a successful mediator and help your children
develop the skills they need to become cooperative, caring, and
compassionate. Learn how to manage your twins’ differences as
they grow.
Raising Resilient Children
When: Wednesday May 21, 7-9pm
Where: Parents Place, 200 Channing Ave, Palo Alto
Learning While Playing: Two for One (For Teachers)
When Tuesday December 10, 7-9pm
Parents Place, 2001 Winward Way, San Mateo
Teachers/parents will be given tools and creative strategies to
promote an optimal play environment for children, to encourage
healthy play between children and to address conflicts or
problems that can arise during play.
October / November 2013
Positive Discipline/Limit Setting
In this workshop we will discuss strategies for raising resilient
and healthy children. Learn what is important in teaching
your child to be successful with real world examples in today's
challenging and competitive environment.
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Leaning
in to Motherhood
By Victoria Worch
Victoria Worch is a student life and leadership manager at Cañada
College in Redwood City. She and her husband Matthias are the
parents of Sam (3 ½) and twin girls Eleanor (Ellie) and Lillian
(Lily). Victoria blogs about her experiences at Café Victoria (www.
victoriaestrella.com). Here she shares with us two posts about
“leaning in” from both before and after the birth of her twin girls.
Written on March 10, 2013
This weekend, the hottest topic up for discussion is the launch
of Facebook’s Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg’s new
book Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead and her nonprofit LeanIn.org. I was excited to see Sandberg make the cover
of Time. The cover story and the essay by Sandberg are excellent
reads. I highly recommend that you pick up a copy for yourself.
After reading the article on Friday night and catching the
response from the panel on “This Week” this morning, it got me
thinking about my own personal journey.
As a student affairs professional, I aspire to be a Director of a
program, an Associate Dean of an area and one day, a Dean
of Students. I also aspire to work on a university campus with
transfer students, hold a position in NASPA (the National
Association of Student Affairs Administrators in Higher
Education), and to teach the Phi Theta Kappa leadership
class I have been trained in. As a leader, I aspire to serve on a
community board or in a position either in city government,
economic development or education.
In the spring of 2005, I leaned in when I decided to go back
to school and earn my masters in Education in college student
affairs. I could have left my job at Napa Valley College and done
a graduate internship up in Seattle. Instead, I chose a program
that allowed me to keep my full-time job while taking classes. By
keeping my full-time job, I was able to serve as the president of
the California Community College Student Affairs Association,
continue to stay in the California Community College system
and develop my leadership skills and job experience in student
life and leadership. It was at this time that I also met my
husband Matthias.
In the summer of 2010, I leaned back. I had just returned to
work after being off for the spring semester on maternity leave
with my son Sam. I was balancing pumping at my office, a 45
minute commute, and the sleep habits of my four month old
son. I had applied for an Interim Associate Dean of Admissions
and Records position and was offered an interview. At the time,
I was the Coordinator of Student Life, a position I had held
for nine years. On the day of my interview, I was home with
Sam, getting ready for my German in-laws to arrive later that
day. I had to make a decision. Either I would pick up my inlaws at the airport and expect them to watch my son after a 12
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hour plane ride, while I drove 45 minutes back to the campus
for the interview, with the hope of getting home in time for
dinner, or I would cancel the interview and not go after the job.
In that moment, with Sam in my arms, I chose to cancel the
interview. Two months later, I would take the Student Activities
Coordinator position at Cañada College in Redwood City.
The position was similar to the work I had been doing, but it
offered me something I had not realized I needed. It allowed my
husband and me the opportunity to live on campus at a reduced
rate so that we could save money for the down payment on our
future house. I was now walking to work instead of driving. The
daycare Sam was going to was a 100% better and I was now
part of a multi-college district. I was also making more money.
Even though I was doing similar work as before, I was learning
so much! I was learning everything from how to serve a whole
different student population, to managing the relocation of a
department, to a planning a newly remodeled Student Center.
So, in a way… at the time I thought I was leaning back when
really, I was leaning in to what mattered to me most, my son,
and it showed me that my career was still growing.
As a working mother who loves her career I struggle on and off
about when to lean in and when to lean back. Right before I
decided to try for another baby, I thought long and hard about
whether I wanted to go for a Director job in my district. At
35, what was it that mattered most? Was it that Director title?
Or was it giving Sam a brother or sister? Before I knew it, I
was picked to represent my college as part of the Redwood
City Leadership Class (something I secretly wanted to do
but didn’t tell anyone). So the one month I said “let’s put off
having another baby while I start my leadership class” I became
pregnant with twins.
So now, my question to Sheryl Sandberg is: When do you lean in
and when do you lean back?
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My district allows me to take a year off unpaid. I have chosen
to take the year off. I don’t know what this means. Have I just
leaned back from future leadership opportunities or will I be
surprised? If there is one thing I know for sure, it is that this
is not the end. I know my future holds that Director position,
even maybe that Dean of Students. Hey, I might just run for city
council. I guess you can say that for now, I am “leaning in” to
motherhood knowing with confidence that I will lean back into
leadership in the future.
Written on July 28, 2013
Back in March, I wrote an entry about how I have chosen to
“lean in” to motherhood and take a one year unpaid maternity
leave. The last time I did not have a full time job was 14 years
ago in college and even then I worked part-time. So for this
career woman, taking this time away from work was going to be
a big change.
So, how am I doing? I’m entering my ninth week of being a
mother of twin girls and a 3 1/2 year old boy and technically my
fourth month of maternity leave. I was put on bed rest six weeks
before the girls were born. It was tough, but I made it through
with the help of Amazon Prime access to all three seasons of
Downton Abbey. So, let’s see, as I try to write this, I’ve got one
baby crying and another one who loves to keep her eyes open
even though they close as soon as you pick her up. Luckily, my
husband is playing Harry Potter Lego on the Xbox with my son
and now is holding a baby. Thank God we have a swing and
pacifiers. Oh, yeah, I am trying to eat some breakfast too.
is enjoying the new leadership role he has. We still live near
my work so I see it every time I go to pick up my son from
preschool. I’m in the first three months of feedings so I am up
multiple times in the middle of the night and through out the
day, which leaves me wondering “when is my next girls night
out?” And then the final reason why I think “leaning in to your
career” keeps coming up is that I’m someone who has found a
career she truly enjoys.
For now, I am still on my one year of maternity leave and feeling
very grateful. The idea of starting the fall semester in three weeks
and taking care of the girls and Sam would be way too much.
Especially with the lack of sleep. I could do it, but not very well,
and would have a hard time enjoying it. I think as much as I
keep leaning into motherhood, there will always be something
that reminds me of my career and where I want to be when I’m
ready to go back. And that’s okay.
I want to share this important lesson I’ve learned though through
all of this. My career, my work is only one part of who I am. Can
you imagine if for any one of us it was the only part? As I hear
one baby cry and I grab more Honey Nut Cheerios for Sam, and
hold our other girl in my arms, a feeling of peace comes over me.
Having a family, being a mom is another awesome part of who I
am. Along with my love for blogging, gardening, advising college
students, walking to a cafe, and spending time with friends. The
key is to lean in to something you love each day.
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Regarding leaning into motherhood, I am all in. In just the last
two weeks, my mom and I took the girls to their two month
doctor’s appointment. Then I took my son to the doctor for a
follow up appointment on his arm and now his snoring, and
finally to the dentist. I’ve been on my own during the night
feedings (it was a blessing to have a night nanny the first six
weeks). Feeling very Mom!
I will be honest though, in the last nine weeks I have considered
two possible opportunities to go back to work. One was a new
job opportunity I applied for at a college near the city where we
are looking to buy a house. The other was as a sub for a position
at my college that in the end they were unable to make possible.
Then this past weekend, one of my close friends emailed me new
admin job opportunities at another local college.
So, you might be asking, “Can she really take a whole year off?”
Deep down I know this time with the girls is precious. Even
more because there are two of them! I’ve already started to feel
the challenge of giving each one her own special attention. Plus,
I have many years ahead to work. So then why does the “leaning
in to your career” issue still come up?
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Linda Krenicky – Positive Discipline made easy
Linda Krenicky is a credentialed Early
Childhood Educator as well as a certified
Positive Discipline Trainer and Co-Chair,
International Board Positive Discipline
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Q, My twins are in first grade. An issue is that when one is notice-
ably better at something, the other relies on their twin to do that
task for them. For example, my son will read signs to my daughter,
and my daughter will sign birthday cards or draw pictures for my
son. They are very reluctant to practice the skills they are weak at,
especially if their twin is nearby to watch. How can I help them
each to work on the skills they need to develop? (They are in separate classes at school, which helps with this issue, but I also want
to be able to work with them at home, particularly once they start
having homework).
A. This is a great question, and an opportunity to explore current
thinking and research about success as determined by our
“mindset.” This is a term coined by Dr. Carol Dweck, a leading
expert in motivation psychology. Luckily for us in the Bay Area,
she is doing her work at Stanford, so there is always the chance
we will be able to hear her speak some day.
What I think might be going on with your first-graders is that if
they have even the slightest inclination toward a fixed mindset
on these particular tasks, it’s doubly enforced because there’s the
other twin, ready to take over. They don’t have to give up; the job
will still get done. Easy peasy. Where’s the motivation to do it for
themselves?
Encouragement is the remedy. Encourage your daughter’s
smallest effort to read a sign. “You put a lot of effort into that!”
And for your son, when he signs his own cards, “I noticed you
really took some time to sign that yourself.”
Encouragement notices effort and improvement, not just success.
Encouragement builds long-term self-esteem and empowerment.
I will encourage you again: read Dweck’s Mindset. She shares
research that shows how praise DE-motivates, and how
switching to encouragement motivates. You’ll love the book, and
everyone will live happily ever after.
Smile. I do so appreciate the question. Nothing provides all the
answers; I would never pretend it would. I do think mindset plays
a role here, though. As I’ve been writing this, I’ve thought, “These
moms are really well-read and educated. They probably know all
this stuff !” Maybe you haven’t looked at it this way yet. Thank you
for the privilege of sharing my thoughts.
I’m going to share the basic information as it relates to what your
children are demonstrating in helping each other out. I highly
recommend reading Dweck’s book, Mindset. It’s a great read, and
she makes the research material very accessible to us everydayfolk.
Dweck talks about the Fixed Mindset and the Growth Mindset.
A person with a fixed mindset has an inner belief that s/he
already has all the talent and skills s/he’s going to have, and if s/
he can’t do something well, that’s just the way it is, and there is
no reason to try to do better. Have you seen kids who won’t try
something new, something outside their comfort zone, or if they
don’t do something well the first time they try, they won’t try
again? That’s the fixed mindset at work.
A person with a Growth Mindset has an inner belief that if s/he
keeps trying, s/he will eventually figure it out. This person sees a
difficult task as a challenge and enjoys overcoming it. There may
be some frustration, but s/he doesn’t let it stop forward progress.
This person doesn’t give up easily.
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October Birthdays!
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Emma and Kaelyn Fisher
Lily and Logan Partridge
Burroughs
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Damien and Tyler Wang
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Kayla and Kieran Normile
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and Violet Bailey
4 Audrey
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Claire and Liam Goodman
Madeline and Adriana McGinn
Tyler and Cameron McMullen
Zoe and Gabrielle Ngongang
November Birthdays!
(by number of candles)
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Nataliya and Nadiya Goworek
Makaylee and MacKenzie Summers
and Brooke Lewis
2 Delaney
Dara and Ciaran Morrissey
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Luke and Leah Hazlehurst
Juliette, Sophie and Violet Montalvo
Aaron and Kaitlyn Yu
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Alexis and Taylor Butcher
Cailean Pierce and Isabel Rose Cox
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Isabel and Maximilian Hesse
Lorelei Kardwell
Sophia and Chloe Luscri
Ella and Penelope Nah
Jesse and Jackson Nguyen
Zachary and Gabriella Sanchez
Anthony Shenk
Liam Widner
October / November 2013
Natasha and Anjali Mariathasan
5 Kendra
and Kayla Moon
Sofia and Ricky Pera
Daniel and Abigail Smith
Will and Mia Stevenson
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Nicholas and Katherine Grigoryev
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Twins due in November
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Twins born in August
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Mountain View
Twins due in November
Carol and Vagelis Papazisis
Redwood City
Gus and Alex (19 months)
Deborah and Josh Yuster
Foster City
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San Mateo
Isabel and Maximilian (2)
Lisa Slater
San Carlos
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Birth Announcements
Zachary Daniel and Violet Clare
Elliot Thomas and Mia Louise
Shannon Stevens and Maxime Beauchemin, along with
daughter Lucie welcomed their twins, Elliot Thomas and Mia
Louise, on March 21, 2013 at 1:20am and 2:45am, respectively.
Born at 37 weeks, Elliot was a sturdy 5 lb 10 oz and Mia a
healthy 5 lb 14 oz..
On July 16, two new members joined the Murphy-Krause
family. Zachary Daniel was born at 6 lbs 10 oz and 19.5 inches,
and Violet Clare was 6 lbs 13 oz and 19.5 inches. Liya, Molly
and big brother Sammy (age 4) are tired but happy!
Joss Xavier and Lee Rosalind
Reija and Liya Zhu McGraw
Congratulations to Ming Zhu and Ian McGraw on the birth of
their identical girls Reiya Zhu McGraw and Liya Zhu McGraw
on July 13. Reiya (銳雅) weighed 6 lbs, while Liya (利雅)
weighed 5 bs12 oz.
Robin and Salomon Trujillo welcomed Joss Xavier and Lee
Rosalind on May 7 at Kaiser Permanente Medical Center in
Redwood City. Joss weighed in at 6 lb 9oz, while sister Lee was
6 lb 5 oz.
Expectant MOMs
October
Veronica Green
Tietjen Kammerer
Brenda Lewis
Christie Ma
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Alicia Padgett
Lindy Rouillard
Amanda Royer
Fiona and Emma Grace Hall
Jaime Schopflin Hall and Jonathan Hall, along with big sister
Stella (4), are proud to announce the arrival on July 31 of Fiona
Katherine Hall (6 lbs 14 oz) and Emma Grace Hall (5 lbs 14
oz), at Sequoia Hospital.
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Celebrations
Kearney Linnea, Aisley Rowan, and Mabrey Myrtle Hennessey
Dante and Ashley Ross
Congratulations to Melaine and Wade Hennessey on the birth
Leanne and Jed Ross are proud to announce the birth of
of their triplets! Kearney Linnea Hennessey, 7 lbs, 10 oz, 20.5
Dante, 6 lbs 2 oz, and Ashley Sequoia, 5 lbs, on August 20 at
inches long, and Aisley Rowan Hennessey, 4 lbs, 14 oz, 19.25
Mills-Peninsula Hospital.
inches long, were born on July 13, 2013 to gestational surrogate
Elke Betonte. Thirteen days later on July 26, Melaine went in for a
scheduled C-section and delivered Mabrey Myrtle Hennessey at 6
lbs 11 oz.
On July 31st, Marla Hochman welcomed Jacob Benjamin
Hochman (8 lbs 12 oz, 20 inches) and Abigail Rose Hochman
(6 lbs 3 oz, 18 inches). Congratulations!
Meals for Families
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Supporting Your Child's Social Development, Continued:
It’s great to know that there are now so many resources available to
help our children develop their social skills and make friends.
Social Skills
t Be Polite and Kind, by Cheri J. Meiners (4 and up) (NOTE: she has
many other social skills books, some of which are listed below)
tListen and Learn, by Cheri J. Meiners (4 and up)
tJoin In and Play, by Cheri J. Meiners (4 and up)
tHow to Be a Friend, by Krasny and Marc Brown (5 and up)
tShare and Take Turns, by Cheri J Meiners (4 and up)
tI Just Don’t Like the Sound of No!, by Julia Cook (4 and up), How to
respect the adult in charge – even when you don’t get what you want!
t A Bad Case of Tattle Tongue, by Julia Cook, (3 and up)
tWhat is Funny? , by Etan Boritzer (5 and up)
tHow to Lose All Your Friends, by Nancy Carlson (3 and up)
tHave You Filled a Bucket Today?, by Carol McCloud (5 and up)
For Parents:
tThe Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child
Make Friends (Paperback) ~ Natalie Madorsky Elman
t Coping for Capable Kids (Revised) (Paperback) (one parent section
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Spotlight on Social Events
Thank you to Linda Sonne-Harrison and Connie Linscheid for planning the first
of our Summer Socials, the San Mateo/Burlingame/Milbrae event. Held on July 20
in Sunnybrae Park, attendees enjoyed singing, dancing and playing with musical
entertainer Mister Q.
Thanks also go out to Valerie Frederickson for organizing the Menlo Park/Palo
Alto/Atherton/Portola Valley event – the Scoot-A-Licious Bike-A-Rama at Flood
Park on August 3rd! Kids loved riding their bikes, trikes, scooters and other
wheeled vehicles at the event, while eating melon, blueberries and pizza. Thank you
to the many volunteers who assisted with food preparation and cleanup, and to
Round Table Pizza in Menlo Park for a generous discount on the pizzas.
Maureen Rome also won accolades for her planning of the Redwood Shores/San
Carlos/Belmont event at Marlin Park on August 24. The fire engine in particular
was a huge hit. Participants also enjoyed a bounce house, taco dinner and watermelon!
Sophia and Chloe Luscri and Tyler
and Alex DeCourcey explore the fire
engine at the Redwood Shores/San
Carlos/Belmont Summer Social.
Thank you to Linda Sonne-Harrison for coordinating the planning of the summer socials, and to all of the volunteers who
helped with these fabulous events for our members to enjoy!!
Joey Gotshall, Claes Machacz and Dorian Vogt are ready
to roll at the Bike-a-Rama.
Musical fun with Mister Q at the San Mateo/Burlingame/Milbrae
Summer Social.
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Parents of Preschoolers (POP) Coordinators
Parents of Preschoolers (POP) Coordinators
Toddler Times (TT) Coordinators
OPEN
OPEN
Elizabeth Furukawa
Lauren Ngongang
Denise Terry
Linda Sonne-Harrison
Danielle Vogt
OPEN
Maureen Rome
OPEN
Sandy Yu (until fall)
OPEN
Marissa Dixon (1-2 year olds)
650.380.8547
202-294-8844
650.387.0978
415.424.5588
650.577.1004
650.867.7378
917-783-5108
jones8844@yahoo.com
efurukawa@earthlink.net
lauren.yann@gmail.com
denise@deniseterry.com
linda_sonne@yahoo.com
marketnpro@yahoo.com
myrnafvega@gmail.com
650.573.5550
sandyyu99@yahoo.com
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Peninsula Children’s Dentistry
Purvi Zavery, DDS, MS
Mission Statement:
MPPOM is a non-profit organization that provides
support and encourages the exchange of information,
ideas and experiences relating to the birth and care of
multiples on the San Francisco Peninsula.
PEDIATRIC DENTIST
GENTLE AND CARING PEDIATRIC DENTISTRY
The purpose of this organization is to build parenting
skills for expectant and current parents of multiples
through educational programs and peer support; and
to assist financially disadvantaged families of multiples
through our philanthropic services.
 Experienced pediatric dentist, great with kids  New modern office, loved by kids!  Prompt, attentive and personalized care  Full range of pediatric dental services  “Green” office, digital x-­rays (90% less radiation) Board of Directors Meeting
 We work with most insurances MPPOM’s Board of Directors usually meets monthly
on the third Tuesday of the month (except August
and December) from 7:30-9:30 p.m. Location to be
announced on BigTent. All MPPOM members are
welcome and encouraged to attend.
Your input will help our club stay fresh and meeting
members’ needs. Looking forward to seeing you at a
meeting soon.
1390 El Camino Real, San Carlos
(Next to Walgreens and Trader Joe’s in San Carlos) www.PeninsulaKidsDDS.com (650) 394-4200
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Mid-Peninsula Parents of Multiples
P.O. Box 2182
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TO:
MPPOM Fall 2013 Used Clothing and Equipment Sale
Saturday October 5, 9 am- 12 noon
Pregnant? Got babies, toddlers or older children?
Why purchase new clothes and equipment, when you can purchase “practically new” or “gently
worn” at bargain prices?
Find used gear such as: strollers and prams, gates, high chairs, excersaucers, swings, baby carriers,
slings, activity centers, potty training gear, pack ‘n’ plays, car seats, etc.
If you are in the market for something, you do not want to miss this sale! Tell your friends,
neighbors, nannies and their friends.
Details on page 5
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