Spring 2012 - Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care

CARELINES
A Quarterly Newsletter Published for Friends & Families of Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc.
Spring 2012
Dottie Metzger:
Hospice Nurse &
Friend Retires
Feature Story on Page 3
From the Director’s Chair:
Caldwell Hospice among Best in US
Welcome to the spring issue of CareLines.
First things first: Caldwell Hospice and Palliative
Care homecare nurse Dottie Metzger’s retirement is
our “cover story.” She retired at the end of
February, as our longest-tenured employee with 27
years of service.
If you look for “hospice nurse” in the dictionary,
you might see a picture of Dottie Metzger. We have
shared some “Dottie stories” on page three, and
their common theme is her respect for the dignity
of her patients and families. She combined professionalism with extraordinary people skills to serve
as a role model for all of us.
Dottie’s contributions to hospice care were proven,
when Lenoir’s News-Topic readers voted her
Caldwell County’s best nurse in 2005 and 2008.
We cannot measure Dottie’s value to our patients
or our staff. We will miss her!
Next, our entire staff deserves thanks for helping
us maintain our status as one of the top hospices
in the country. Each quarter, the National Hospice
and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO) conducts
surveys with patient family members and caregivers. Caldwell Hospice is consistently among the
national leaders, and the numbers show why.
Fourth-quarter 2011 survey results place Caldwell
Hospice among the top 10 percent of all hospices
nationwide in 19 of 22 quality indicator results. In
14 of those indicators, we recorded a perfect score.
The overall quality of care given to our patients
during the fourth quarter of 2011 was 93.9%,
compared to 81.1% for hospices in North Carolina
and 75.6% for
hospices nationwide.
The survey reports a
hospice’s performance
in four key areas:
coordination of care,
attending to family’s
needs, providing information about
symptoms, and informing and communicating with
patients. Performance is presented as a “problem
score,” with zero noting no problems. Below are
Caldwell Hospice’s performance numbers, followed
by North Carolina and national figures:
•
Coordination of care – Caldwell Hospice
(2.0), N.C. (6.3), U.S. (7.3)
•
Attend to family needs – Caldwell Hospice
(0.0), N.C. (4.2), U.S. (5.1)
•
Provide information about symptoms –
Caldwell Hospice (0.0), N.C. (4.0), U.S.
(4.9)
•
Inform and communicate with patients –
Caldwell Hospice (0.0), N.C. (13.2), U.S.
(16.0)
At Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, we are
always seeking to improve quality of care. These
results verify our place among the best in the
country; this is both gratifying and humbling.
Thank you for making it happen.
—Cathy Swanson
Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care
Board of Directors
Parker Williamson
President
H. Houston Groome, Jr.
Vice-President
Peg Broyhill
Secretary
James C. Harper, Jr.
Treasurer
Robert Belk, MD
Claudia Bujold
Marc Carpenter
Joseph C. Delk, III
Laura Easton
David Gray
Financial information about this organization and a copy of its license are available
from the State Solicitation Licensing Branch at 919.833.4510. The license
is not an endorsement by the State.
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Rob Hinman
Inez Jones
Deborah Murray
Tamra Beach Starnes
Janet Wilson
Janet Winkler
Dottie Metzger Retires after 27 Years
She’s More than “Just a Nurse”
Dottie Metzger retired from Caldwell Hospice and
Palliative Care at the end of February as its
longest-tenured employee, concluding a 27-year
hospice homecare nursing career.
Dottie’s home visits with patients go far beyond
“duty”; she cares about them. “I will miss my
patients and their families,” Dottie said.
Dottie’s patients and their families will tell you that
the feeling is mutual, and people throughout
Caldwell County agree. Lenoir’s News-Topic readers
voted her Caldwell County’s best nurse, in 2005
and again in 2008. Her philosophy of hospice care
is “to keep patients comfortable, give them the
dignity they deserve, and give them the opportunity to die at home.”
During a recent home visit, Dottie pulled out her
stethoscope and listened to Alley Brooks breathe;
she read medicine labels and reassured his wife
that the store-brand cough medicine was okay; she
asked Mr. Brooks if he was feeling better and then
got a second opinion from his wife to be sure.
The Brooks’ cousin who lives next door came in,
followed by a friend who was dropping by to visit.
The couple’s German Shepherd Charlie sat to the
side of the couch, close by the patient. Laughter
rose and fell, as jokes and teasing were matched
with questions and answers about Mr. Brooks’
health.
We love her and have grown
very fond of her and we claim
her as part of our family. We
could have searched the world
over and never found a more
dedicated, faithful, caring, and
compassionate person….
—Alley and Elaine Brooks
This is the atmosphere that Dottie cultivates: you
might think she’s a friend dropping by for a weekly
visit, except that Dottie gathers necessary medical
information and learns essential details during the
visit. This is her gift: she combines medical skill, a
professional focus on patients’ well-being, and the
special qualities that make her visits feel personal.
“Dottie carries skill, respect, and her stethoscope
on each patient visit,” said Executive Director Cathy
Swanson. “There is no way we can measure her
value to our patients or to our staff. We will miss
her.”
Dottie didn’t plan on a career as a Caldwell Hospice
nurse. She worked in Baltimore’s Lutheran Hospital
emergency room
for five years
before she moved
to Lenoir. It took
two requests to
entice Dottie to
join the Caldwell
Hospice staff. The
first time, Dottie
explained that she
wanted to help
people get better.
When the second
request came after
her father’s death,
Dottie welcomed
the chance to
“repay for services
rendered.”
It turns out that Dottie was a natural for providing
hospice care. “I believed in what I was doing,”
Dottie said. “I’ve always loved being here.”
“Here” is Caldwell Hospice, generally, and although
Dottie worked in the Stevens Patient Care Unit for
almost a year, after it first opened in 1989, she
was relieved when she returned to making home
visits. Dottie likes getting to know families, building
relationships with them, and teaching them that
patients can die at home, comfortably.
Co-workers can recite the important lessons they
learned from Dottie: be prepared for any situation,
ensure that patients will be pain-free, and maintain
a sense of humor. Dottie’s parting words to them,
at the retirement lunch, were: “I’ll genuinely miss
you all, but it’s time to go.”
Dottie plans to limit her travel to visiting her four
children and their families, including three grandchildren. She has been to Europe and on a cruise
to the Bahamas, Dottie explained, but “my wanderlust has left.” She will bake cakes—another of her
talents—and crochet and return to Caldwell Hospice
periodically to teach CPR classes.—Pam Hildebran
Editor’s Note: See the Dottie photo collage, page 10
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Contributions
MEMORIALS
Roger M. Adams
Nancy Adams
Geneva "Boots" Anderson
Lynda Sheffield
Willard Anderson
Linda Campbell
Shirley Andrews
Marc & Bennie Carpenter
Betty Annas
Millie West
Clara Annas
Linda Campbell
Robert C. Appleby
Catawba County Landfill
Jim & Judy Beebe
Keith & Peggy Blinson
Charles & Billie Braswell
Kim Hurt
C.W. & Carolyn Johnson
Fred McGee
Mary Terry
Mr. & Mrs. Frank Witzelhofer
Anita Austin
Robert & Donna Belk
Henry Bagley, Jr.
Robert & Donna Belk
Cameron Banker
Robert & Donna Belk
Louise Barber
Harris Chapel Baptist Church
Lucille Clark
Dennis & Bessie Farr
Wayne & Anita Prestwood
S. Nelson Barlow
Tom & Kim Barnhardt
Mary Jo Barnwell
Gene & Jean Barrier
Bill & Emily Craig
Mary L. Barnwell
Jimmy Barnwell
Judy E. Bauman
Harvey Bauman
Harold Beam
Helen Beam
Doris Beaver
Mt. Zion Baptist Church,
Susie McCall's Class
Jack & Peggy Caldwell
Clyde Belk
Don & Barbara Weiller
Gerald Benfield
Little Rock Baptist Church
George Bernhardt, Sr.
Robert & Donna Belk
John C. Bernhardt
Robert & Donna Belk
Katherine Bernhardt
Ann B. Anderson
Ed & Evelyn Beam
Robert & Donna Belk
Suzanne B. Bell
Marc & Bennie Carpenter
Barney & Alliene Cloer
Mr. & Mrs. James C.
Harper, Jr.
Robert Kirkman
Mr. & Mrs. James McCarl
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Barry & Dianne Spicer
Isabelle "Polly" M. Steele
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Mary Lib Blackwell
Robert & Donna Belk
Lacy Blair
Robert & Marsha Marshall
Lonnie & Kaye Player
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Dale J. Blevins
Bernhardt Furniture Co.
Robert & Mary Brown
Margaret M. Bolick
Glenn Arthur
Helen Wesson & Laura Bean
Melvin
Carol Brown
Dan Brubaker
Bill & Pat Campbell
Marc & Bennie Carpenter
Perry & Marilyn Drum
Jerry, Shannon, & Peyton
Flynn
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Nickey Mathes Family
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Donald & Lynda Rejkowski
Lynda Sheffield
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Family
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Mayme Bolick
Mary Frances Sullivan
Garland & Dorcas Bollinger
Joyce White
Arthur "Art" Bousquet
Ken & Marilyn Bousquet
Caron Rose
Claudia Szemela
Frank & Shirley Tarantino
George Boutwell, Jr.
Bill & Vivian Armfield
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Glenda W. Holman
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Thomas Bracken
Barry Bracken, Thomas
Bracken Family
J. Landon Braswell
Mary Perrou
Millard & Jewel Brookshire
Dean & Gwen Humphries
Ronald Brookshire
Dean & Gwen Humphries
Scott Brooms
Melissa Brooms
Faye A. Broyhill
Robert & Donna Belk
Thomas H. Broyhill, II
Boyd & Sally Barnhardt
Beverly & Judy Beal
Robert & Donna Belk
Ronald K. Bromley
Paul & Carole Bulot
Dr. & Mrs. David L. Dill
Kenneth & Jan Ferguson
Elaine Kent
Dr. & Mrs. W. Hampton Lefler
Dianne G. Lynch
Cam MacQueen
Jill B. McNeely
Mr. & Mrs. Vance Miller
Lee & Debra Pennell
Leslie Peterson
Michael & Robin Shows
Rose Ann Smith
Millie West
Janet Wilson
Annie L. Bryant
Ernest & Marsha Bryant
David T. Bumgarner
Emelyne Williams
Margaret Bumgarner
Emelyne Williams
Thaddeus C. Bumgarner
Kenneth & Donna Bolick
Jackie Bumgarner
Margaret K. Setzer
Larry & Sandy Stallings
Millie West
Floyd Wilson
Richard & Renae Winkler
Troy Bumgarner
Jackie Bumgarner
Floyd Wilson
Mozelle Woods
Zelda Bumgarner
Jackie Bumgarner
Carrie K. Bush
Louise K. Taylor
R.L. "Rooster" Bush
Arlie Wilcox Family
Cars Plus Lenoir, LLC
Harry's on the Hill
Historic Charleston
Foundation, Trustees & Staff
I-40 Used Auto Parts, Inc.
Keener, Cassavaugh, Farmer,
& Connor, PA
R.L. Bush Family
Rogers Family & Rogers
Automotive Group
Rooster Bush Automotive
Employees, Lenoir &
Morganton
TEAM
Wayne Vaughan & CornerCap
Investment Counsel Staff
WNNC/WAIZ
Becky Adderholdt
Tim L. Andrews, Maggie
White-Andrews
Jeff & Anne Bachman
Fred & Martha Barnes
Boyd & Sally Barnhardt
Beverly & Judy Beal
Harper & Brenda Beall
John & Josephine Beall
Ed & Evelyn Beam
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. G. Alex
Bernhardt, Sr.
Keith & Peggy Blinson
Clay & Janette Bollinger
William Bradshaw
Charles & Billie Braswell
Paul & Carole Bulot
C.R. & Doris Bush
Phillip B. Bush, II
Linda Campbell
Mary C. Crews
Don & Paulette Culbreth
Emerson & Cheryl Dickey
Skip & Davanna Downs
Howard & Judy Edwards
Arthur & Cynthia Ellis
Mr. & Mrs. William Faber
Mr. & Mrs. Larry Freiman
Mrs. Miller Harmon
Mr. & Mrs. James C.
Harper, Jr.
Cecelia Hartsell
Larkin & Pat Horton
Michael & Carman Johnson
A.G. Jonas, Jr.
Darrell & Cheryl Keener
Mr. & Mrs. Horry M. Kent, Sr.
Alan L. Markowitz
Mike Maynard
Mr. & Mrs. James McCarl
Vicki McClurg
Donald & Ann McNeill
Mr. & Mrs. Vance Miller
Annette Murphy
Barbara Myers
Jon & Melissa Nelson
Lewis Norman
Joe & Carolyn Parker
Gayle C. Price
Mr. & Mrs. L.F. Queen
John Sholar
Michael & Robin Shows
Mr. & Mrs. Ken Sipes
Rebekah Spencer
Tom & Tamra Starnes
Mr. & Mrs. Emmett Stevens
Steve & Connie Strange
Louise Sullivan
Mary Lib Todd
Mark & Teresa Transou
Harold Wells, Sr.
Janet Wilson
Betty B. Wright & Family
Thomas "Gene" Bush
Robert & Donna Belk
William "Bill" Butler
Millie West
Ruth C. Camp
Jerry & Patricia Triplett
Pearl Cannon
Elaine Brooks
Linda Campbell
Alice Carlton
Linda Campbell
Richard Carpenter
Town of Granite Falls
Joyce H. Burch
Contributions
Debbie Davis
Bill & Louise Hamilton
Melda C. Lewis
Don Carr
Garlen Laws
Sadie Carswell
First Baptist Church Whitnel
Mr. & Mrs. David Byrd
Zelda Stallings
Shirley S. Bynum & Deborah
B. Triplett
Welden Chambers
Robert & Donna Belk
Eugenia "Jeanie"
Champion
Lois Benfield
Hazel Cheek
West Lenoir Baptist Church
West Lenoir Baptist Church,
Adult Ladies’ Class
Rita D. Cheek
Joe & Hilda Cook
Max & Betty Crump
Horace & Dorothy Harwood
Nell Rader
Bill Church
Linda Campbell
Charles E. Church
Linda Campbell
Kathleen A. Church
Judy Greene
Mary Church
Joyce White
Odell Church
Blue Ridge Electric
Membership Corp.
Gamewell High School, Class
of 1958
Rosalie Blythe
Larry & Janet Branch
Nancy Church
Jim & Gail Dudley
Carol Famulary
Thomas & Marianna Isaacs
Mr. & Mrs. Shelby McKinney
Mr. & Mrs. Jeffrey W. Robinson
Mr. & Mrs. Ken Sipes
Bob & Gwen Suddreth
Scott & Rita Triplett
Ronnie D. Church
Patricia Church
Tony Cook
Danny Clark
Richard D. Myers
Betty Sue Cline
Gaye M. Fowler
William "Bill" Clippard
Mary Bean
Carroll Cloer
Rachel Cloer
Hilda Coffey
Concord Baptist Church
James & Phyllis Bumgarner
Richard Cole
Robert & Donna Belk
Carson Copeland & Janet Kuck
Joy Collins
Bernhardt Furniture Co.
R.L. Bush Family
Mr. & Mrs. Chet Allen
Harper & Brenda Beall
Ed & Evelyn Beam
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. G. Alex Bernhardt,
Sr.
Mr. & Mrs. Gerald Coffey
James & Nancy Collett
Wes Collins
Gail Westmoreland, Linda
Barr, & Don Denny
Mr. & Mrs. Larry Freiman
Mr. & Mrs. James C. Harper,
Jr.
Cecelia Hartsell
Brenda S. Heins
Erik & Melissa Jordan
Mr. & Mrs. Horry M. Kent, Sr.
Brad & Sharon Kimball
Darrell & Dottie Lloyd
Willis & Patty Martin
Donald & Ann McNeill
Barbara Myers
Barry & Dianne Spicer
Tom & Tamra Starnes
Steve & Connie Strange
Louise Sullivan
William Colvard
Millie West
Bob Conley
Robert & Donna Belk
Lucille C. Cook
Caldwell Hospice & Palliative
Care Staff
Sherrill Furniture
Paul & Faye Comer
Howard W. Cooke
Richard & Linda Orr
Danny & Shirleen Wyke
Marischa B. Cooke
Robert & Donna Belk
Judith G. Eller
Carlene Corley
Robert & Donna Belk
Tony & Marlene Setzer
Susie Mae Corley
Robert & Donna Belk
Cecil Cornett
Millie West
Avis Corpening
Robert & Donna Belk
Billy G. Correll
Arlie Wilcox Family
Clay & Janette Bollinger
Tom & Lil Lauterbach
Katie K. Lefever
Willie & Susan Lefever
Dean & Nancy McGhinnis
Alex & Marian Motsko
Alan & Susan Nelson
Alfred R. Crisp, Jr.
Jean Bernhardt
Mr. & Mrs. Wayne Miller
Mr. & Mrs. M.L. Moore
Barbara Myers
Jane Carswell Roberts
Rose Ann Smith
Charles Woods
Richard Crouch
Robert & Donna Belk
Scott Dawson
Robert & Donna Belk
Iris G. Decker
Bill Decker
Tommy & Belinda Kirby
Bill Dillard
Linda Campbell
Karen Doll
Robert & Donna Belk
Dwight Drum
Reba Drum
Reston Drum
Reba Drum
Kate Dula
Paul & Gail Dula
Ransom Dula
Reba Drum
Vergie Dula
Reba Drum
Walter M. Dula
Reba Drum
Willard J. Duncan
Gail Duncan
Luther Eggers
Judy Greene
Oclair Epps
Shonda Paige
Ronald Epps
Shonda Paige
Jeffrey Estes
Millie West
Robert "Bob" Floyd, Sr.
Robert & Donna Belk
John A. Forlines, Jr.
Robert & Donna Belk
Dr. & Mrs. David L. Dill
Skip & Davanna Downs
Julia Forlines
Robert & Donna Belk
Levi Fox
First Baptist Church Hudson,
Stella Austin Circle
Blanche Fox
Charles Fox
Suzanne Peeler
Marilyn Franklin
Millie West
Beverly Fritts
Millie West
Marcia P. Froh
Gene & Sharon Monday
Helen Gagnon
Pete & Mary Jo Loyzelle
James Edwin "Ed" George
Robert & Donna Belk
Emily D. Gibbons
Robert & Donna Belk
Bobby Jack Gilbert
Ed & Eunice Watson
Alfred L. Gragg
Jack & Geneva Kincaid
George L. Green
Baton Water Corp
Mountain Grove Baptist
Church, George Green Class
Wilkes Regional Medical
Center
Jerry & Matt Anderson
Ron & Christine Beane
Lois Benfield
John & Frances Bumgarner
Dan & Mildred Hartsoe
Don & Donna Hartsoe
Teresa, Mike, Alac, & Micah
Hatcher
Betty Hovis
Sonya B. Johnson
Maecile Ramsey
Linda Wilkie
Mildred C. Green
Lois Benfield
Floyd Greene
Joyce Greene
Russ V. Greer
Anne D. Pennington
Charlotte Groome
Robert & Donna Belk
Nolan Haas
American Tire Distributors
Baton Baptist Church, Adult
#4 Class
Caldwell Baptist Association,
Inc.
Beverly & Judy Beal
Clay & Janette Bollinger
Francis & Betty Crisp
Skip & Davanna Downs
Judith G. Eller
Steven & Susan Hassman
Jeff & Rita Joines
Carroll & Margaret Kirby
Eddie & Judy McLean
Joe & Celeste Oliver
George & Nancy Rhodes
Joseph C. Setzer
Eugene & Rebecca Sigmon
Rene Haigler
Grandview Park Baptist
Church, Young Happy Hearts
Class
Charles & Billie Braswell
Elaine Brooks
Linda Campbell
Bobby & Carol Harmon
Millie West
Jack Hampton
Rosalie Blythe
Mr. & Mrs. Shelby McKinney
Evelyn B. Harless
Donna & Zelma Burgin
William & Lisa Grimley
Millie West
Sheldon Harmon
Cathy Harmon
Captain James Harper
Robert & Donna Belk
Margaret Harper
Robert & Donna Belk
Grant Harrold
Marc & Bennie Carpenter
Mary "Frances" Hart
Louise Taylor
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Contributions
Allie Hartso
Robert & Donna Belk
Betty Jo Hathcock
Robert & Donna Belk
Kenneth & Jan Ferguson
Louise Sally Hatley
Accel Discount Tire of Springs
Road, Inc.
Judy Greene
Marjorie E. Hawkins
Carolina Oncology
Specialists, PA
Howard D. Hayes
Elaine Brooks
Linda Campbell
T.D. Hedrick
Robert & Donna Belk
Waldine Hedrick
Robert & Donna Belk
Harry Heltzer
Robert & Donna Belk
Clonnie Hendrix
Robert & Donna Belk
Kathleen M. Hendrix
Robert & Donna Belk
Ann N. Hines
Robert & Donna Belk
Clarence A. Holden
Robert & Donna Belk
Toye S. Holden
Robert & Donna Belk
Robert S. Holder
Caldwell County Clerk of
Superior Court & Staff
Meadowbrook Baptist Church
Pete & Mary Jo Loyzelle
Robert & Barbara Melton
Charles & Lorraine Minton
Belva Dean Hollar
Robert & Donna Belk
Harold "Wayne" Hollar
Euel Koontz
Mr. & Mrs. Edward Micol
Larry & Patricia Sterling
Alda Triplett
Parlee W. Hollar
Millie West
Susan Houk
Joyce White
Wilmette Huffstetler
RPM Wood Finishes Group
Winnie Huntley
Robert & Donna Belk
J.D. Huskey
Charles & Billie Braswell
Dewey Icenhour
Robert & Donna Belk
Joe W. Icenhour
Linda Jo Anderson
Gabby Ford
David Greene
Mr. & Mrs. Doyle M.
Hembree, Jr.
Alan, Teresa, Melissa, & Abby
Icenhour
Spencer Icenhour
Eric Icenhour & Carol Parker
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Verna H. Jenkins
Joy Comes in the Morning
Helen C. Johnson
Millie West
Susan R. Johnson
Robert & Donna Belk
Joanne Kaylor
Scott & Rita Triplett
Charles Herbert Keller, Sr.
Patricia Barry
Diane Carpenter
Alvin & Judy Daughtridge
Gozelle Ham
Bill & Rosemary Jones
Wayne & Eula Little
Dale & Marion Livingston
David & Margaret Livingston
Otis Lee & Anna Livingston
Robert & Martha Livingston
Scott & Myrtle Livingston
Bruce & Sharon Moon &
Kimberly
Louis & Allison Schleuger
Ms. B.J. Setzer & Vickie Setzer
Sam & Dorothy Wiley
Faye Keller
Richard D. Myers
Frances Keller
Glenn & Jan Williams
Jerry S. Keller
Tate & Sue McKee
Neal & Ben Warren
Alvis D. Kelley
Precious Kelley
Sherry H. Kelley
Brenda Goble
Arthur & Ruth Kincaid
Paula R. Kincaid
Charles H. Kincaid
Robert & Donna Belk
Edward A. Kirby
Hal & Joyce Hall
Edith Kirby
Faye H. Knight
Linda D. Livingston
Dee Mitchell Lackey
Robert & Donna Belk
Donald Lackey, Jr.
Robert & Donna Belk
Kay Lampert
Curt & Lisa Hobbs
Lynn York Vanderford
Wanda Land
Robert & Donna Belk
Eloise Laxton
Robert & Donna Belk
Victor Laxton
Robert & Donna Belk
Eddie Ray LeFever
Millie West
Elizabeth "Betsy" Ludwig
Robert & Donna Belk
Jack Ludwig
Robert & Donna Belk
Joan C. Marshall
Paul Marshall
Daniel "Dan" Martin
Teresa Vaughn
Linda M. Martin
Helen Beam
Pearl May
Cindy Cox
Ann W. McCall
Robert & Donna Belk
Boyce McCall
Robert & Donna Belk
Johnsie McCall
Gerald & Mary Alice Houck
Floyd C. McCloud
Draka Communications
Americas, Inc.
Jewell McCreary
Robert & Donna Belk
Charles McFarland
Jean McFarland
Thomas McIntosh
Helen Wesson &
Laura Bean Melvin
Baxter & Rachel Harmon
Cathy Harmon
R.L. & Bunnie McIntosh
James & Carolyn Wagner
Lester D. McKinney
Corning Cable Systems Credit
Union
Geri Davidson
Dennis & Pearl Setzer
Fred McMillan
Robert & Donna Belk
Freida McNiel
McNiel Family
Karen McNiel
McNiel Family
Maude McNiel
McNiel Family
Ruby McNiel
McNiel Family
Vondell McNiel
McNiel Family
Billy Bob "Pete" McRary
Town of Sawmills
Bernice J. McRee
Catawba Country Club, Inc.
Matthew J. Melcher
Edward & Claudia Bujold
Mr. & Mrs. Houston Groome
Mr. & Mrs. James C.
Harper, Jr.
Peggy Phillips & Carol Kathke
& families
Phillip Mell
American Singles Golf Assn.
Caldwell Memorial Hospital,
IT Dept.
David & Becky Crawford
Richard & Rosemary Marlowe
Steve & Connie Strange
Margaret Melton
Larry & Sandy Stallings
Millie West
Marsha Melton
SunBelt Furniture Xpress
Josephine T. Menendez
Pete & Mary Jo Loyzelle
Kip Merrick
Jack & Jodie Michie
William "Sonny" Mikeal
Mr. & Mrs. Horry M. Kent, Sr.
Burl J. Miller
Town of Boone
M.K. Holder
Reeves A. Holder
Earl L. Miller
Ellen Miller
Jonathan Miller
Grady Miller
Mr. & Mrs. Jack Bradshaw
Irene Mills
Mickey Lester
Kathy Sizemore
Carol Stone
A. Ross Moore
Emily Moore
Arnold Moretz
Robert & Donna Belk
Eliza Moretz
Robert & Donna Belk
Tana Moretz
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Class, Mulberry Recreation
students & teachers
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Plez J. Munday
Gary & Judith Munday
James Christopher Mundy
Mitzi Davis-Mull, Marty &
Natalie Davis
Mr. & Mrs. James Mundy
Alfred Murrell
James & Carolyn Wagner
Daniel Muse
Florine Muse
Granville Myers, Sr.
Kenneth & Jan Ferguson
J.B. Myers
Richard D. Myers
Opal Myers
Richard D. Myers
Pauline "Polly" Nelson
Robert & Donna Belk
Pearl Nelson
Linda Campbell
John Newsome
Millie West
Mary Frances Nichols
Sue Prestwood
Phyllis D. Page
Mt. Zion Baptist Church,
Susie McCall's Class
Sarah Parker
Robert & Donna Belk
Robert Parmley
Chris Cole Family
Hester R. Hollar
Ann Parsons
Paul & Gail Dula
Constance B. Parsons
Clifton Broyhill Family
Dan & Wanda Bolick
George Crowell
Alvin & Judy Daughtridge
Wayne & Eula Little
Contributions
Wanda Medlock
Eve Vitaglione
Vaughn & Lyda Walsh
Winfred Parsons
Clifton Broyhill Family
Dan & Wanda Bolick
Eve Vitaglione
Vaughn & Lyda Walsh
Jack Pastor
Sharon Nelson
Sallie Pennell
Eva Cloninger
Jaretta Harrington
Marjorie S. McDaniel
Jackie Pennington
Keith & Peggy Blinson
Eddie Phillips
Berea Advent Christian Church
Sharon McDowell
Elmer Philyaw
Linda Campbell
Richard W. Pipes
Billy & Zelma Foutz
Doug & Kathy Saunders
Ted C. Pipes, Sr.
Millie West
Barbara Pitts
Roy L. Pitts
Patsy Pitts
Linda Campbell
Robert Poovey
Granite Falls High School,
Class of '68 Reunion
Merle Prestwood
Sue Prestwood
Michael Price
Roger & Mavis Carter
Horace Pritchard
Paula R. Kincaid
Pauline Pritchard
Paula R. Kincaid
Bob Proctor
Robert & Donna Belk
Bill Rainey
Robert & Donna Belk
Bill Ramsey
Maecile Ramsey
Randy Ramsey
Maecile Ramsey
Jeff Rash
Robert & Donna Belk
Ralph P. Reid
Faye Bell
Ruth A. Reid
Faye Bell
Carolyn R. Keller
Michael J. Rice
Jill Rice
Marcus Roberts
Baxter & Rachel Harmon
Christine Roper
Peggy Hamblin
Shirley Kincaid
Gary & Nancy McLean
Doug, Kathy, & Christa
Saunders
John Cecil Scroggs
Robert & Donna Belk
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Bobby Setzer
Jackie Bumgarner
Dermont G. Setzer
Ms. B.J. Setzer
& Vickie Setzer
Lillian K. Setzer
Mr. & Mrs. Horry M. Kent, Sr.
Mary Shell
Scott & Rita Triplett
Lloyd Shew
Millie West
Carl Shoemake
Art & Jan Scurlock
Bill Sides
Robert & Donna Belk
Betty Lou Sigler
Mr. & Mrs. Richard R. Hedrick
Larry Simmons
Web & Karen Sphar
Betty Smith
Maria Starnes
Dwight Smith
Loretta S. Annas
Harris E. Smith
Robert & Donna Belk
Linda M. Smith
Rodney & Joyce Williams
Mattie Smith
Loretta S. Annas
Ruth H. Smith
Mary K. Miller
Grace "Susie" J. South
AKZO Nobel Coatings, Inc.
Jack B. Spainhour
Robert & Donna Belk
Anne Starnes
Robert & Donna Belk
Billie Starnes
First Advent Christian Church
Mountain Grove Baptist
Church, Ron Beane Class
Faye Bell
Dean & Gail Cline
Carolyn R. Keller
Thelma & Margie Prince
Adelaide W. Sullivan
Colene Townsend
Evelyn J. Wilson
Polly Starnes
Robert & Donna Belk
Billy C. Steele
RPM Wood Finishes Group
Charles & Lorraine Minton
Dorothy Stewart
Scott & Rita Triplett
Dare Wells
Charley Carroll Story
Wayne & Billie Eller
Millie West
Novella Mitcham Strong
Oliver W. Strong
Loretta S. Suddreth
David & Betty Weaver
Dent Sullivan
Robert & Donna Belk
Louise Sullivan
Donald Sullivan
Adelaide W. Sullivan
Julia Sutton
Millie West
B.H. Swanson
Renee Smith
Janet Wilson
Kathleen Swanson
Rebecca S. Davis
Richard "Bill" Swanson
Rebecca S. Davis
James S. Taylor
Duke Energy Real Estate
Services
Mr. & Mrs. Gary Angel
George Crowell
Daniel M. Griffin
Mr. & Mrs. Richard R. Hedrick
Darrell & Dottie Lloyd
Pete & Mary Jo Loyzelle
Paul & Cindy McCurry
Pat Pennington
Doug, Kathy, & Christa
Saunders
Ms. B.J. Setzer & Vickie
Setzer
Margaret "Dib" Story
Rob & Vivian Taylor
John & Sandy Watkins
Ned R. Taylor
Louise K. Taylor
Wayne Teague
Robert & Donna Belk
Fred Thompson
Robert & Donna Belk
Frederick A. Thompson, III
Robert & Donna Belk
Martha Thompson
First Baptist Church Hudson,
Pairs & Spares Class
New Hopewell Baptist Church
Smith Miller & Buff, CPA, PA
Woodie & Brenda Cleary
Fred & Pearl Cooke
Donna Ward & Karen Key
John & Lisa Lewis
John & Patricia Toler
Patricia Tolbert
R.L. Bush Family
Sarah P. Townsend
Sara Lee Food & Beverage
Terry Townsend
Sara Lee Food & Beverage
Dale & Joann Engle
Jack Triplett
Patrick & Kay Crouch
Mack B. Triplett
Millie West
Roby Triplett
Yadkin Baptist Church
Frankie Turner
Rodney & Joyce Williams
Jean Turner
Mt. Olive Women of the ELCA
Edward H. Tuttle, Jr.
Edward H. Tuttle, III
Mildred Underdown
Barney & Alliene Cloer
Ray "Jack" J. Underwood
Millie West
Ferne VanHorne
Robert & Donna Belk
Sid Jarvis Walker
Kings Creek High School,
Class of '55
Ms. B.J. Setzer
Mack Wall
Robert & Donna Belk
James R. Walsh
Butch & Cheryl Brock
Al & Elaine Pizzano
John & Martha Shanks
James V. Walsh
Margaret Walsh
Marvin E. Walsh
Helen Walsh
Richard Walton
Robert & Donna Belk
Ruby W. Warlick
William F. Warlick, Jr.
F. Floyd Watson
Gamewell High School, Class
of 1958
Helen Underdown & Family
Zona Weaver
Hugh & Dolores Setzer
Jewette P. Weber
Robert & Donna Belk
Doug Weiller
Robert & Donna Belk
Debbie West
Billie S. West
Pete West
Billie S. West
Steve West
Billie S. West
Charlie & Martha White
Joyce White
Dawn White
Gene & Jean Barrier
J.C. "Jake" White
Joyce White
Ted White
Charles & Billie Braswell
William "Bill" White, Jr.
Robert & Donna Belk
Mildred Wike
Huffman Finishing Co.
Adelaide W. Sullivan
Millie West
Nettie Wilcox
Curt & Lisa Hobbs
Lynn York Vanderford
Donald Wayne "Kicey"
Wilson
Mr. & Mrs. Emmett Stevens
Larry D. Wilson
Julie Cornelius
Dessie S. Woods
Deer Park Campground
Campers Assn.
Louise Thompson
Larry E. Woods
Mozelle Woods
Larry Woods
Jackie Bumgarner
Contributions
HONORS
Caldwell Hospice &
Palliative Care Board
of Directors
Robert & Donna Belk
Caldwell Hospice &
Palliative Care Staff
R.L. Bush Family
Robert & Donna Belk
Ray & Blanche Pitts
Caldwell Hospice &
Palliative Care Volunteers
Robert & Donna Belk
Ray & Blanche Pitts
First Presbyterian Church
Staff
Robert & Donna Belk
Howard P. Benfield Family
Lois Benfield
Matrix Wealth
Advisors, Inc.
Robert & Donna Belk
Virginia Adams
Robert & Donna Belk
Deborah Ashley
& Wade Smith
Bill Koelliker
Gene C. Barrier
Jean Barrier
Harper & Brenda Beall
Robert & Donna Belk
Dr. Robert Belk
Marc & Bennie Carpenter
Harry & Bobbie Curtis
Nell Rader
Suggie Styres
Parker & Patty Williamson
Robert & Donna Belk
R.L. Bush Family
Maggie Bush
Mary Lib Todd
Mr. & Mrs. G. Alex
Bernhardt, Sr.
Robert & Donna Belk
Drs. Nancy Morgan
& John Bowen
Robert & Donna Belk
Jerry & Millie Brooks
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. Paul Broyhill
Robert & Donna Belk
Peg M. Broyhill
Robert & Donna Belk
Cam MacQueen
Maggie Bush
Robert & Donna Belk
Steve Butler
R.L. Bush Family
Marc & Bennie Carpenter
Patricia Neill
Nadine Clark
Danny & Shirleen Wyke
Wes Collins
R.L. Bush Family
Marjorie Conley
Robert & Donna Belk
Evelyn "Bootsie" Creason
Robert & Donna Belk
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Dr. & Mrs. Tom Cruden
Robert & Donna Belk
Dr. & Mrs. Gerrit Dawson
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. Tim Edmonson
Robert & Donna Belk
Howard & Judy Edwards
R.L. Bush Family
Joyce Fare
Robert & Donna Belk
Guy Garner
Sharon, Tiffany, Lynn, &
Sharon
Mr. & Mrs. Houston
Groome
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. Dennis L.
Hamby
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. James C.
Harper, Jr.
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. Richard R.
Hedrick
Robert & Donna Belk
Jerri Heltzer
Robert & Donna Belk
Steve & Dennice Herman
Randy & Becky Houck
Dr. & Mrs. Ted Holcher
Robert & Donna Belk
Alexander S. Holden
Robert & Donna Belk
Virginia N. Hoyle
R.L. Bush Family
Frank Jenkins
Dr. & Mrs. David L. Dill
Inez Jones
Dr. & Mrs. David L. Dill
Dr. Donald W. Lackey
Robert & Donna Belk
Mr. & Mrs. Fred Landford
Robert & Donna Belk
Dr. & Mrs. N.M. Lewis, Jr.
Robert & Donna Belk
Janie Mangum
Robert & Donna Belk
Dottie Metzger
Robert & Donna Belk
Dr. & Mrs. G. Andrew
Metzger
Robert & Donna Belk
Walter & Carolyn Moore
Robert & Donna Belk
Dick & Sara Mursch
DeAnn Bowen
Mr. & Mrs. Lewis Norman
Robert & Donna Belk
Will & Jill Norment
R.L. Bush Family
Henry S. Parker
Robert & Donna Belk
Dick & Jan Pennell
Robert & Donna Belk
Harry & Janice Polly
Robert & Donna Belk
Sara M. Putzell
Archie & Margaret Morton
Sharon Robbins
Kay Bumgarner
Agnes Scroggs & family
Robert & Donna Belk
Ronnie & Anne Simmons
Robert & Donna Belk
Gerald R. Sims
Rosemary Bauermeister
Mr. & Mrs. Clifford Sloan
Robert & Donna Belk
Alma Smith
Robert & Donna Belk
Jean P. Smith
Rand P. Smith
Barry & Dianne Spicer
Robert & Donna Belk
Dr. & Mrs. Rodney
Stalheim
Robert & Donna Belk
September Stallings
Linda D. Livingston
Tom & Tamra Starnes
Robert & Donna Belk
Allene B. Stevens
R.L. Bush Family
Cathy Swanson
Robert & Donna Belk
Gwen Teague
R.L. Bush Family
Dr. & Mrs. James R.
Thompson
Robert & Donna Belk
Freda M. Thompson
Robert & Donna Belk
Mary Lib Todd
R.L. Bush Family
Ed & Evelyn Beam
Maggie Bush
Joanne Triplette
Robert & Donna Belk
Don & Barbara Weiller
Robert & Donna Belk
Parker & Patty Williamson
Robert & Donna Belk
Margie Wilson
McNiel Family
Lisa Yount
Faye H. Clark
Robin Yount
Faye H. Clark
IN-KIND
Baton United Methodist
Church, UMW
Bernhardt Furniture Plant 6
Center Grove Baptist Church,
JOY Club
Covenant Fellowship Ministries
Crestview Baptist Church
FFuts & Co.
First Wesleyan Church
Friendship Baptist Church,
Auditorium Class
Hudson United Methodist
Church, Circle #1
Hudson United Methodist,
WMU
Irene Mills Family
Joy FM 88.1
Lenoir Rotary Club
Liberty Baptist Church
Livingston Memorial Baptist
Church
Marion Church of God Youth
Miller Hill Baptist Church
North Lenoir Church of God
Odum Salvage
Outdurer
Poovey's Chapel Baptist
Church, Special Baptist
Women
Poovey's Chapel Baptist
Church, WMU
St. James Episcopal Church
Vulcan Materials Co.
Wildwood Advent Christian
Church
Yadkin Baptist Church
Zion United Church of Christ
Meredith Belk
Debra Brown
Melinda Clontz, LCSW
Martha Coleman
Frank Harmon
Norman Herold
Carolyn R. Keller
Jerry Kincaid
Mr. & Mrs. James Mundy
Wayne Phillips
Jean Plunk
Sara M. Putzell
Carol Ribbins
Mary Lib Todd
Lorene Walker
Larry Whitlock, NC Health
Horizons, LLC
Elechia Wimbish
Caroline Woody
IN-KIND
MEMORIALS
Judy E. Bauman
Hope Christian Fellowship
Harvey Bauman
Corine Carden
Eric & Sharon Blackden
Ned Cloer
First Baptist Church Hudson,
Wade Dellinger Class
Robert Earl Coffey
Sylvia Watson
Raymond Earp
Shaua Pearson
Catherine Herold
Andrea Herold
Helen C. Johnson
Jim & Pat Johnson
Thomas R. Laws
North Lenoir Church of God
Robert McRary, Sr.
Lou McRary
Margaret Moore
Annie Harper
Mr. & Mrs. Charles Parlier
Sallie Pennell
Patricia Phillips
Contributions
Jean Pennington
Jeff Pennington
Bill Rainey
Rainey Battery
Jerry Vance
Tina Greene
IN-KIND HONORS
Emma Jean Whisnant
Crystal Reyes
CONTRIBUTORS
Blue Ridge Electric
Membership Corp.
Broyhill Family Foundation,
Inc.
Carolina Orthopaedic
Specialists
City of Lenoir
Grace Chapel UMC, High
Nooners Seniors Class
Hudson High School, Class of
1965
Premier Rental Property
Management
RPM Wood Finishes Group
Mr. & Mrs. Henry E. Alexander
Mr. & Mrs. Thomas C. Arnold
Bobby L. Austin
Robert & Donna Belk
Lee & Jane Brinson
Mike & Anita Broach
Edward & Claudia Bujold
Marc & Bennie Carpenter
Gary & Emily Correll
Bill & Gayle Fisher
June T. Ford
Myrtle Frye
Robert & Judy Gardiner
Dal & Margaret Greer
Robert Harris
Travis Hartley
Randy Hollar
Paul & Sally Hunsucker
Inez Jones
Brent & Kathryn Kincaid
Kathleen Ogborn
Charles & Juanita Poovey
Paula Rice
Doris J. Sams
Newland Saunders
Tamra B. Starnes
Tom & Tamra Starnes
Jewel C. Sutton
RELIGIOUS
ORGANIZATIONS
Baton Baptist Church, Adult
#4 Class
Berea Advent Christian Church
Cajah's Mountain Baptist
Church
Caldwell Baptist Association,
Inc.
Cedar Rock Baptist Church
Center Grove Baptist Church
Community Baptist Church
Concord Baptist Church
Dudley Shoals Baptist Church
East Flat Baptist Church
Faith Baptist Church
First Advent Christian Church
First Advent Christian Church,
Hattie Steele Circle
First Baptist Church Granite
Falls
First Baptist Church Hudson
First Baptist Church Hudson,
Pairs & Spares Class
First Baptist Church Whitnel
First United Methodist Church,
UMW
Flemings Chapel Baptist
Church, Adult Men II Class
Four Seasons Sunday School
Class
Friendship Baptist Church,
Adult Men's Class
Gamewell United Methodist
Church
Grace Chapel United
Methodist Church
Grandin Baptist Church
Grandview Park Baptist
Church, Young Happy Hearts
Class
Green Mountain Baptist
Church
Harris Chapel Baptist Church
Hibriten Baptist Church
Little Rock Baptist Church
Livingston Memorial Baptist
Church
Meadowbrook Baptist Church
Mountain Grove Baptist
Church, George Green Class
Mountain Grove Baptist
Church, Ron Beane Class
Mt. Olive Women of the ELCA
Mt. Zion Baptist Church,
Susie McCall's Class
Nazareth Advent Christian
Church
New Hopewell Baptist Church
Refuge Missionary Baptist
Church
Sunrise Baptist Church
Temple Hill Baptist Church
West Lenoir Baptist Church
West Lenoir Baptist Church,
Adult Ladies’ Class
Yadkin Baptist Church
Yadkin Valley Baptist Church,
Golden Nuggets
Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care, Inc., gratefully acknowledges memorials and contributions received between
01 October and 31 December 2011. Please notify us if we have omitted a donation from this listing. Contributions
received after 31 December 2011 will be listed in our Summer 2012 issue.
Newsletter mailing list policy: Carelines is published four times a year. Each person who makes a contribution to our
hospice during the six months prior to a mailing will receive the next two issues. When individuals ask to be placed on
our “do not remove” mailing list, they will continue to receive the newsletter every quarter.
Caldwell Hospice Recognizes Service
Camelot Manor Employees Go “Above & Beyond”
Judy Baire, Caldwell Hospice’s Above and Beyond
committee chairperson (photo, left), recognized Winter
2011 Above and Beyond recipient Sarah Eckard,
Camelot Manor director of nursing (photo, center).
She was described as “creating a team atmosphere
for both Camelot staff and Caldwell Hospice.”
The Fall 2011 Above and Beyond recipient, Brenda
Monahan (photo, right), is Camelot Manor’s nursing
unit secretary. Even in a “noisy environment, she
remains calm and steady,” wrote the staff member
who nominated her.
Caldwell Hospice employees and volunteers can
nominate staff members of area long-term-care facilities who encourage quality end-of-life care for residentpatients and their families and who go “above and
beyond” to support resident-patients, their families,
and Caldwell Hospice staff members. The award is
presented each quarter.
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Kodak Moments with Dottie Metzger
A Nurse for All Seasons Says It’s Time to Retire
Pictured at right
are Dottie and
Gibbie Harris,
former Caldwell
Hospice executive
director, at the
organization’s
25th anniversary
celebration in
June 2007.
Deborah Murray, then News-Topic publisher,
awarded Best Nurse in Caldwell County recognition to Dottie--for the first time--in 2005.
Pictured at right: At
Dottie’s retirement
lunch, Director of
Nursing Grace
Bradford and
cheering co-workers
welcomed Dottie,
her daughter Eileen,
and her grandson
Cooper.
Above: two Caldwell Hospice legends, Dottie and Dr.
Robert Belk, at his retirement reception in December
2011.
A Lasting Tribute
Caldwell Hospice’s Path of Remembrance
Each person’s life tells a story, and we at Caldwell
Hospice are happy to offer a way of ensuring that
your loved ones’ lives can be remembered.
You can purchase a personalized brick in memory
or in honor of your loved one to be placed on the
walkway that leads from the Kirkwood front porch
to our Stevens Patient Care Unit.
Each four-by-eight brick can be purchased for a
$200 donation; it comes with a certificate that
recognizes your gift. For an additional $25, you
can receive a duplicate brick with felt backing
and a display stand.
We will notify you when your brick has been
installed, approximately 12-16 weeks after the
purchase.
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Your $200 gift is tax-deductible, as allowable by law,
and you can pay by check or credit card. Caldwell
Hospice’s mailing address is on the back cover of
this newsletter.
Ashewood Grief and Counseling Services:
Exploring Grief in All Its Varieties
Suicide Grant Put into Practice. We applied for a
Hogan Family Foundation grant in 2011, based on
our awareness that suicide rates in this community
and our resources for responding to them were not
in sync:
Ashewood…provides bereavement services for
anyone in the community who experiences the
loss of a loved one. In addition to providing
what might be identified as “normal” bereavement support, we have averaged 10 to 15
suicide-related cases per year over the past four
years. The gravity of the issue led two members
of our staff to participate in a workshop led by
UNC-Chapel Hill School of Social Work Clinical
Instructor Jodi Flick, ACSW, LCSW. The staff
members were determined to strengthen the
community’s ability to respond to the complicated grief that accompanies deaths by
suicide....
Our idea was to bring together, as a mutually
supportive group, the people who are charged with
resolving this issue:
Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care proposes to
host (1) a day-long suicide-prevention workshop
to educate and train mental health professionals, nurses, physicians, teachers, counselors,
social workers, youth workers, police and correctional officers, school support staff, clergy, and
volunteers and (2) a half-day program for area
clergy. Ms. Flick will teach both workshops....
Using the Hogan Family Foundation’s generous
financial support, we held two workshops in March.
The first, Suicide: Prevention, Risk Assessment,
Intervention, Postvention, was a day-long presentation to professionals. The second, Community
Clergy: Caring for Families in the Aftermath of
Suicide, was a shorter presentation to a different
audience whose members are also called upon in
crisis situations. Both events were co-sponsored
with Catawba Valley Behavioral HealthCare.
We are grateful for the opportunity to explore,
explain, and offer practical answers that allow
professionals to provide support, with confidence,
for coping with the complicated grief that follows
deaths by suicide.
What Color Is Your Grief? Parents and guardians
might wonder how to help children who have lost a
parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle—the children
might be sleeping too much or too little; they
might be too rowdy or too quiet; schoolwork or
grades might suggest a problem.
At Grief Camp, children meet others who’ve known
similar losses. The staff, adult volunteers, and
volunTEENS use every activity to help the children
understand that it’s okay to feel sadness and loss.
As they talk, draw, write, listen, and laugh, they
can find the healing tools they need.
Children may not know how to express their
feelings. Who would know that COLORS would be
so helpful to this process? Well, Dr. Seuss, for one,
as these lines from My Many Colored Days illustrate:
"Some days are yellow. / Some are blue. / On
different days / I'm different too. / You'd be /
surprised / how many ways / I change on
Different / Colored / Days."
Last year’s Grief Camp
committee used Dr.
Seuss’s book and
explored “the Colors
of Grief.” Emotionconnected colors were
in every activity.
Colors gave children
freedom to choose
their expressions of
grief; colors gave
parents and guardians
a vocabulary for
talking with them.
One parent said,
afterward, “He was
able to express the anger, and now the sadness is
catching up.”
“We saw the anger he had, following his terrible
loss,” said another parent. “He filled the [sand art]
jar with his anger.”
At Grief Camp, staff members talk with the adults,
too, about how to continue the learning experience
once they return home, how to respond to anger,
tears, and other emotions; they offer support to
the grown-ups who are still grieving, too.
The camp is FREE, and lunch will be provided. To
pre-register a child, ages six to 12, for Grief Camp,
call Ashewood Grief and Counseling Services at
754.0101. Details: April 21, 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., at
United Presbyterian Church, Pennell Street, in
Lenoir. Sponsors for this year’s camp are GreerMcElveen Funeral Home and Crematory and a
special friend to Caldwell Hospice.
Pictured above: Nolan Wallace spends a few minutes with Dr.
Seuss’s Cat in the Hat. Nolan was one of the 18 children who
attended the 2011 Grief Camp. He’ll be back this year, too.
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Unifour Volunteer Conference:
“Dementia Is More than Just Forgetfulness”
Caldwell Hospice and Palliative Care sponsored the
2012 Unifour Hospice Volunteer Conference,
welcoming approximately 170 volunteers from
Hospice and Home Care of Alexander (County),
Burke Hospice and Palliative Care, Palliative
CareCenter and Hospice of Catawba Valley, as well
as our own volunteers.
Heather McKay, MS, OTR/L (pictured above), an
occupational therapist and dementia care specialist,
was the day’s featured speaker. Attendees raved
about the quality and depth of information she
presented, including:
Dementia Facts
l It is not part of normal aging! It is a disease!
l It is more than just forgetfulness, which is part
of normal aging.
l It makes independent life impossible.
l It … includes many cognitive loss conditions
[Alzheimer’s, vascular dementia, Lewy Body
Dementia, frontal-temporal dementias]….
Ways of Helping—Verbal Cues
l
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Use the person’s preferred name
Keep information simple... (“Here’s your tea.”)
Say what’s going on (“It’s time for lunch.”)
Offer simple choices (“Do you want tea or
coffee?”)
Ask for help (“Could you help me, please?”)
Ask to try (“Would you like to give it a try?”)
Break requests into smaller steps (“Stand up,
please.”)
ALWAYS give positive feedback and praise
(“Yes! Good!”)
More and more people, including hospice staff and
volunteers, are facing the hard realities connected
with dementia. Heather McKay delivered practical and necessary information. Her compassionate
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Pictured at left: Guest speaker Heather McKay; pictured
above: nearly 170 volunteers from hospices in Alexander,
Burke, Caldwell, and Catawba counties attended the 2012
Unifour Hospice Volutneer Conference.
and conversational presentation brought these
comments from volunteers:
“This is one of the best conferences I have
attended. The speaker was wonderful! Thanks for
this opportunity.”
“This information will help me in my personal life,
as well as in my volunteer work.”
Caldwell Hospice needs licensed hairdressers
and barbers to serve as “special volunteers.”
They take their skills to the homes of our hospice
patients who aren’t well enough to go to a salon.
It’s an opportunity to use your special skills and
“give back” to the community. If you’re interested,
please contact Volunteer Coordinator Brittany Bonn
at 828.754.0101. We really need you!
Board Spotlight on Rob Hinman
Wonderful Differences and Wonderful Similarities
Did you hear the one about the
banker who became a
Presbyterian pastor? If you’re
unfamiliar with the story, this is
how it goes:
Rob Hinman went into banking
after earning his bachelor’s
degree from Wake Forest
University. He was in the profession for 10 very good years; then
he went dove hunting, and everything changed. No earthly birds
were flying that day, but Rob’s
life changed forever. It was “not
the first time I heard the call,”
Rob said, “but this time I knew.” He went home,
talked with his wife, and they moved to Virginia,
where he attended Union Theological Seminary.
After graduating with a Master of Divinity degree in
1990, Rob returned to North Carolina and pastored
the Presbyterian Church in Lowell for eight years and
Bethel Presbyterian Church near Lake Norman for
seven years. Then he came to the First Presbyterian
Church in Lenoir and soon, thereafter, he was invited
to join Caldwell Hospice’s board of directors.
Rob’s father is his model for the ministry; the elder
Hinman, a medical doctor, was available 24 hours a
day, seven days a week. He was one of seven physicians called to Washington, DC, by the late President
John F. Kennedy to serve on a mental retardation
committee. His influence is clear in the younger
Hinman’s community service, as well.
Rob was asked to serve on the board of directors for
Holy Angels in Belmont. He calls his ongoing involvement “one of the greatest joys of my life.” He
believes in the Rotary Club International, too,
although he is an inactive member, currently. He
realized how “international”
its membership is when he
traveled to Ghana while in
the seminary—and attended
a local meeting. They were
collecting money to fund the
eradication of polio, just as
American Rotarians do.
Rob has been a Caldwell
Hospice board member for
six years, and he serves on
the finance committee. He
views hospice care, as a
board member and as a
minister: “The help our
Caldwell Hospice staff and volunteers give makes a
big difference, but the heart of Christ that they share
is life-giving to the families we serve.”
Community work and ministerial duties offer similar
opportunities: to respond to needs and bring groups
together, to appreciate and respect both differences
and similarities in people.
Even in the Hinman household, similarities and
differences are honored—the Wake Forest graduate’s
wife Ginger graduated from NC State, and their sons
attend UNC-Chapel Hill, where one is a freshman and
the other is a junior.
Rob enjoys hunting and backpacking, and he counts
having hiked in Israel—where the terrain climbs from
the Dead Sea at 1,349 feet below sea level to Mt.
Hermon at an elevation of 7,330 feet—among his
accomplishments.
The core of Rob Hinman can be stated in these
words: “I absolutely love Jesus Christ because he
loves me, and I look out for the new person who is
wondering if he or she will be welcome.”
Photos: at top, Rob Hinman
in office at First Presbyterian
Church; at left, Rob sings
carols with CHPC staff at
annual Christmas luncheon;
at right, Rob talks with
CHPC Board President
Parker Williamson at
Christmas luncheon.
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In This Issue
From the Director’s Chair:
High Marks for Quality of Care ...2
Feature: Dottie Retires ................3
Contributions ...........................4-9
Pathway of Remembrance ........10
Ashewood: Making Peace with
Suicide Grief...............................11
Volunteer Conference: Dementia
More than Just Forgetfulness ....12
Board Spotlight: Rob Hinman ...13
Wish List 2012
Snacks (individual-size) for
patients’ families
Applesauce
Artificial sweetener (Equal, Sweet
’n’ Low, etc.)
Cans of soup
Flavored instant oatmeal or grits
Storage bags (one-quart and
one-gallon sizes)
Coffee (cans, regular and decaf)
Decaffeinated coffee in singleserve bags
Bottled water (ind.-size = 8-oz.,
etc.)
Napkins
Aluminum foil
Plastic wrap
Styrofoam coffee cups (8-oz.)
Solo cups (16-oz. for soft drinks,
tea, etc.)
Paper plates and bowls
Plastic spoons and forks
Lotion (personal size)
Deodorant (personal size)
Toothpaste (travel size)
Mouthwash
Nail clippers
Disposable cameras
Baby wipes or refills (not antibacterial)
Individual boxes of cereal
Triple blade disposable razors
Hair brushes
Boxes of tissue (Kleenex)
Amazon.com gift cards to
purchase children/teen grief
books, music, and resources
Music CDs (instrumental, gospel,
inspirational, meditation, nature
sounds)