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Week of May 6 – 13, 2016 • 28 Nissan – 5 Iyar, 5776 Vol. 9 • Issue 17 WESTERBORK, ABOUT AN HOUR’S DRIVE NORTH-EAST OF AMSTERDAM, WAS THE TRANSIT CAMP TO WHERE ALL THE NETHERLANDS’ JEWS WERE FIRST SENT BEFORE BEING DEPORTED TO THE CAMPS IN EASTERN EUROPE. PAGE 2 PAGE 3 38 BIRCHAT KOHANIM AT THE KOTEL 38 BURNING CHOMETZ IN BROOKLYN IN THIS WEEK’S ISSUE Appearance Of Darkness Roy Neuberger..................................8 A Helping Mitzvah From The Past THE RACE FOR THE PRESIDENCY Top campaign aides were aboard a plane ready to head to Virginia to address media Wednesday morning, but the plane never got off the ground. Governor Kasich instead stayed in Ohio and made the decision to suspend his 2016 campaign. Donald Trump became the only Republican candidate and he will face the Democratic candidate, Hillary Clinton. Now, we have the insider and the outsider competing against each other. The insider, Mrs. Clinton, will have an inner circle of foreign policy advisers who will stand out for not standing out. The names she has on her side are a who’s who of the last 20 years of national security policy, from Madeleine Albright, the second term secretary of state of her husband, President Bill Clinton, to Sen. Tim Kaine, D-Va., the rising Democratic star who is the top party member on the Senate Foreign Relations Committee and Tom Donilon, the first-term national security adviser of President Barack Obama known for his closeness to Israel. Donald Trump takes advice from his son-in-law, Jared Kushner, who is an Orthodox Jew and Jason Greenblatt, also an Orthodox Lawyer from Teaneck, New Jersey. The names are not as famous and full of experience as the Democratic contender, but do bring a promise of favorability to Israel. Hillary brings a promise of con- tinuing policies of President Obama and former President Clinton. Trump, on the other hand has said that “In my opinion, Barack Obama has been tremendously disloyal to Israel, and yet my Jewish friends go out and have fundraisers for him all the time,” “Someday you people will explain to me what you’re doing.” Hillary Clinton is deja vous and Donald Trump is Jamais Vous, which is the feeling or experience that a person knows or recognizes a situation, but that it still seems very unfamiliar or unknown. Even though we don’t know what to expect with Trump, we sense that the Israeli-Palestinian question mark will tilt toward Israel. Alan Magill......................................11 Five Beauty Mistakes You Should Never Make Racheli Fried....................................22 Cran-Nut Energy Truffles Reyna Simnegar..............................23 Murder At Auschwitz Benjamin Brafman.........................23 JNS NEWS.....................................30 Israel’s Temple Mount Approach Faces Renewed Questions After Latest Tensions Watching BDS like a Hawkeye: Iowa latest state to stand against Israel boycotts SEAN SAVAGE JOSHUA SHARF As both the holiest site in Judaism and home to a 1,400-yearold mosque, Jerusalem’s Temple Mount compound is a natural flashpoint of Jewish-Muslim tension. But the conflict over the holy site has been particularly heated over the past year, with the latest incidents coming during the recent Passover holiday. In late April, a group of Muslims were removed from the Tem Iowa on April 27 became the latest U.S. state to pass legislation designed to undermine the anti-Israel Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement. In a 38-9 vote with three excused absences, the Iowa Senate passed one of the strongest anti-BDS bills in the country. While all nine “no” votes came from Democrats, that party controls the State CONT. ON P4 ,urb ,eksv 28 Nissan ixhb j"f Parashat Acharei Mot 7:38 P.M. FIVE TOWNS 7:40 P.M. STATEN ISLAND 7:39 P.M. BROOKLYN 7:40 P.M. TEANECK, NJ 7:37 P.M. MIAMI BEACH, FLA. 6:43 P.M. JERUSALEM Do’s and Don’ts for Divorced Dads IT’S NOT EASY BEING A SINGLE FATHER. SOME PRACTICAL ADVICE ON HOW TO MAKE THE BEST OF THE SITUATION. AVIGAIL ROSENBERG In the ten years of Michael L.’s marriage, his wife had accused him drug peddling, refused to attend therapy, and claimed that he was the one with psychological issues. When the situation deteriorated to the point where she became physically abusive, he walked out. Yet three years later, his CONT. ON P3 CONT. ON P3 The Surprising Health Benefits of Extreme Hot and Cold Temperatures DR. JOSEPH MERCOLA When it comes to improving your health, some of the simplest strategies can have a tremendous impact. For example, did you know that exposure to extreme temperatures can serve as a catalyst to improve your health? CONT. ON P6 5/6/16 2 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 5/6/16 SHARF CONT. FROM P1 Senate with a 26-24 majority. The prospective law would prohibit both investment and contracting by the so-called “Hawkeye State” with companies participating in BDS, either against Israel or “territories controlled by Israel.” The bill also prohibits secondary boycotts by extending its ban to boycotters of those who do business in Israel or the “territories.” “This bill ensures the State of Iowa will not support those that parROSENBERG CONT. FROM P1 ex-wife hasn’t let up, reporting him as violent towards their children to the police, while he’s left struggling to prove his innocence and combat the poison she feeds the kids about him. Danny S.’s ex left him over religious reasons, yet he’s still a devoted dad to his three boys – when he’s able to see them. More often than not, his ex will cancel visitations at the last minute, upending his weekend plans. When he tries to complain, she sweetly turns the tables, claiming the boys didn’t ticipate in campaigns fueled by intolerance and anti-Semitism— like the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement. The passing of this new law sends a clear message against the bigotry and discrimination of the BDS movement,” said Peggy Shapiro, central region director of the pro-Israel education and advocacy group StandWithUs. “We welcome the fact that Iowa is joining Illinois, South Carolina, Florida, Arizona, and almost 20 states which have either passed or in- troduced similar legislation which rejects the boycott campaign.” Shapiro credits numerous community organizations for providing grassroots support for the Iowa bill, and particularly the Israel Allies Foundation for its leadership on the issue. Speaking in favor of the bill, State Senate floor manager Jeff Danielson (D-Black Hawk) noted that BDS “is a movement that hopes to economically destabilize Israel and the Middle East,” and that no Iowa assets should be involved in want to see him anyway and he doesn’t deserve to see them either. Because the child support he pays eats up most of his salary, he can’t afford to take her to court over every infraction, so he just counts his blessings when visitations work out. And when they don’t, he’s helpless, angry, and afraid of her wrath. Ben W. is a dedicated single father whose wife walked out on him when their daughter was six months old. He spent a year in court gaining the rights to see her, and now has regular visitation and a loving relationship with his five-year-old, despite her mother’s attempts at interference. Self-employed, he devotes two afternoons a week to his daughter’s care, as well as every other weekend. Yet his social life is curtailed and his dating prospects minimal, since his life is wrapped around a preschooler’s. In today’s society, single moms usually triumph – they’re often the ones holding the cards when a family dissolves. It’s not easy to manage on the home front singlehandedly, but the resources are CONT.ON P17 such an effort. The bill was also sponsored by State Rep. Quentin Stanerson (R-District 95), who also acted as its Senate floor manager. “There’s no scenario where we reach peace in the Middle East where Israel is economically unstable,” Danielson said. Danielson remarked on his own military service in the region with the U.S. Navy, the time and treasure that the U.S. has spent trying to maintain peaceful economic relations in the Middle East, and the high proportion of Iowans who serve in the military and have contributed to that effort. The debate in the Iowa legislature had followed patterns reminiscent of the BDS debate in other states, with some opponents of the bill claiming that it infringed on free speech rights. Danielson explained that the bill in no way prevents private individuals from investing or conducting business as they would normally do, or from advocating for whatever foreign policy they prefer. When Danielson introduced the bill to the Senate floor on March 3, he said that Iowa has a tradiCONT.ON P4 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 3 5/6/16 Web & Print Design • Social Media Marketing • Virtual Tour Photography Enhance Your Company’s Image and Increase Your Awareness On And Off The Web! Make Your Mark With eb ark esign, Inc. Memorable music for all Simchas GUARANTEED BEST PRICE Creativity. Originality. Experience. SHARF CONT. FROM P3 tion and an interest in supporting countries with rule of law, democratic decision-making, and positive economic exchanges—all as pathways to peace. Israel, he said, meets those criteria. At that time, he also praised those who opposed the bill for their commitment to universal human rights, but disagreed with their rationale that it is necessary to economically penalize Israel in order to achieve that goal. State Sen. Herman Quirmbach (D-Story), an opponent of the bill, claimed that forcing divestment from index funds by state university pension plans—whose holdings are directed by the plans’ individual members but are held by the universities—would create an excessive administrative burden. Such broad indexes might, at some point, include among their holdings companies that participate in BDS. In other U.S. states where such bills have passed or where divestment policies have been implemented, the measures do not apply to index funds. Iowa already has divestment policies in place with respect to Iran and 4 Sudan. Quirmbach, who is also an associate professor of economics at Iowa State University, argued, “In all the substantial discussion [of the bill], I have yet to hear even one member tell me how this would move us even one inch closer to peace in the Middle East.” Yet immediately before the final consideration of the anti-BDS bill, the Iowa Senate unanimously passed a resolution of support for Israel that also called for negotiations leading to a permanent IsraeliPalestinian peace settlement and a Palestinian state. That resolution—sponsored by State Sen. Robert Hogg (D-Linn) on April 18—was seen as a symbolic move to balance the nature of the antiBDS legislation with a more dovish sentiment, making it easier for some lawmakers to support it. Quirmbach spoke in favor of the Israeli-Palestinian peace resolution, arguing that even friends like Israel need to hear tough criticism from time to time. The anti-BDS legislation now heads to the desk of Iowa Governor Terry Branstad, who is expected to sign it. JNS.org To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 718.698.9380 SAVAGE CONT. FROM P1 ple Mount for chanting “Allahu akbar” (“God is greater”) at nearly 1,000 Jewish and Christian visitors who had ascended the site during the Passover holiday. Prior to that incident, 13 Jews were removed from the Temple Mount for illegally praying at the site. Following those incidents, Jordan’s government warned of “serious consequences” for Israel over what it has described as “the invasion of settler groups and Israeli occupying forces in the Al-Aqsa mosque.” “There’s absolutely no basis for these claims,” Israeli officials countered. “Israel is behaving responsibly, and Jordan knows that.” Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has repeatedly insisted that Israel will not change the Israeli-Jordanian-Palestinian status quo—in place now for nearly 25 years—of a ban on Jewish prayer at the Temple Mount, despite pressure from some members of his own political party and ministerial cabinet to do so. “Israel will continue to enforce its longstanding policy: Muslims pray on the Temple Mount; nonMuslims visit the Temple Mount,” Netanyahu has said. Israeli officials have blamed their Palestinian counterparts for using the Temple Mount to incite a large portion of the past year’s terrorist attacks against Israeli Jews. “We will not forsake our country and we will keep every inch of our land,” Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas said in September 2015. “Every drop of blood spilled in Jerusalem is pure, every shahid [martyr] will reach paradise, and every injured person will be rewarded by God…The Al-Aqsa mosque is ours. The Church of the Holy Sepulchre is ours as well. They (Jews) have no right to desecrate the mosque with their dirty feet, we won’t allow them to do that.” The unrest over the Temple Mount has also been attributed to the Jordanian Islamic Waqf, Hamas, and the Islamic Movement in Israel. Gangs of Muslim men and women have harassed Jewish visitors at the holy site. “Peaceful Jewish visitors are systematically hounded by agents of the Jordanian Waqf, and harassed by the Muslim mercenaries who are paid to torment them. This is the daily routine of a Jewish visit to CONT.ON P5 5/6/16 SAVAGE CONT. FROM P4 the Temple Mount,” Rabbi Chaim Richman—international director of the Temple Institute, an organization whose stated mission is “to restore Temple consciousness” and reactivate the Temple era’s “‘forgotten’ commandments”—told JNS. org. These Islamist gangs, known as Murabitat, have been filmed shouting “Allahu akbar” and trying to assault Jews and Israeli police officers on the Temple Mount. “In any democratic society, such inciting behavior would be considered a blatant violation of the most basic civil rights, and an attack on human dignity. The fact that this takes place daily under the watchful and complicit eyes of the Israel Police, as policy set by the Prime Minister’s Office, is a scathing indictment of the total lack of Jewish rights at our people’s holiest site,” Richman said. Last year, in a U.S.-brokered agreement between Jordan and Israel, Jordan promised to install security cameras at the Temple Mount in order to ease tensions there. But Jordan recently dropped those plans over Palestinian objections. “It would seem that the Muslims realized that showing the world what really happens on the Temple Mount would be detrimental to their cause, and thus they cancelled their plan,” Richman said. As the site of the two former Jewish Temples, the Temple Mount has long played a pivotal role in Jewish affairs and worship. Yet after the Second Temple was destroyed by the Romans in the !1st Century CE, the site passed through a succession of foreign rulers, from the Muslim Caliphs and Crusaders to more recently the Ottoman and British empires. During the control of the site by the Muslim Umayyad Caliphate in 691 CE, the Dome of the Rock was constructed over the site of the former Jewish Temple—igniting much of today’s tension. After failing to gain control of the Old City of Jerusalem during the 1948 War of Independence, Israeli forces captured the Old City and the Temple Mount from Jordan during the 1967 Six-Day War. Despite regaining Jewish sovereignty over the Temple Mount for the first time in nearly 2,000 years, Israeli leaders decided to relinquish religious sovereignty over the holy site to the Jordanian-run Islamic Waqf. Under that arrangement, which would become the “status quo,” Jewish prayer was forbidden on the Temple Mount and non-Muslim access was restricted to certain days and hours. Jewish religious leaders in the haredi community have opposed Jewish worship at the Temple Mount and even visitation there, due to the inability of modern Jews to purify themselves properly before ascending the former site of the Holy of Holies. But Israeli public opinion is increasingly favoring increased Jewish rights at the Temple Mount. A poll released last year by the Yesodot Center for Torah and Democracy found that a majority of Israelis favor greater prayer access at the holy site. According to the poll, 37 percent of Israelis believe that their government should allow free access to adherents of all religions who wish to pray on the Temple Mount. Sixty-six percent of respondents said the Israeli government should have sovereignty over the site. The push for greater Jewish access to the Temple Mount has also made its way into Israel’s political leadership. While Netanyahu has remained firmly opposed to any changes, cabinet members such as Housing and Construction Minister Uri Ariel (Jewish Home) have argued for increased Jewish prayer access and even for rebuilding the Temple. “We’ve built many little, little temples, but we need to build a real temple on the Temple Mount,” Ariel said last year. “It is tempting to be seduced by such rhetoric,” Prof. Yedidia Stern, vice president of research at the Israel Democracy Institute (IDI) think tank, told JNS.org. Such rhetoric “has fanned the flames of the intensive attempts to strengthen Jewish presence and renew Jewish prayer on the Temple Mount in recent years, and has swept up some 40 percent of Jews in Israel, who believe that the status quo on the Temple Mount should be changed,” said Stern. Along with Uri Ariel, other Jewish activists such as Temple Mount rights promoter Rabbi Yehuda Glick—who survived an assassination attempt by a Palestinian terrorist in 2014—and the Temple Institute’s Richman are challenging the status quo. “The so-called status quo is an illegal arrangement which makes a mockery of the basic human, civil, and religious rights of all non- Muslims at the Temple Mount. In a country that prides itself on its exemplary record of equality for all its citizens, the ‘status quo’ is a stain on Israeli society, a disgrace that should be uprooted,” Richman told JNS.org. The Temple Institute, which says it has the long-term goal of “building of the Holy Temple in our time,” has already constructed “sacred vessels” that would be used in the future Third Temple, such as a pure gold menorah, a golden incense altar, and the golden Table of the Showbread. “The government of Israel should defend and protect its citizens and uphold Israeli law, which clearly states that free and unrestricted access to all holy places be granted to members of all religions. The Temple Mount is the only site which is intrinsically holy to the Jewish people. The fact that Jews are prevented from praying at their only holy site, by the very government that should be protecting and upholding their rights, is inexcusable and unforgivable,” said Richman. IDI’s Stern, meanwhile, said the Temple Mount issue is more “complex” than anything else on the public agenda in Israel. While he believes that “considerable weight must be given to the argument that we must never surrender to violence, and certainly not on the most symbolic issue of all—control of the Temple Mount,” Stern also reasoned that “we cannot ignore the realistic approach that considers the limitations of national power and seeks to exercise that power responsibly.” According to an April 2016 poll conducted by the Palestinian Center for Policy and Survey Research, a majority of Palestinians (52 percent) believe that Israel is planning to destroy the Al-Aqsa mosque and Dome of the Rock. Furthermore, only 9 percent of Palestinians believe that Israel intends on maintaining the status quo at the Temple Mount. “If we do not think carefully and act wisely with regard to the Temple Mount, 1.6 billion Muslims, fueled by religious fervor, are liable to mobilize and become active participants in the Israeli-Palestinian conflict,” Stern said. “Arguments based on principle, as important as they may be, must be weighed against the likely outcome of their implementation.” JNS.org THE JEWISH SERVING THE ENTIRE JEWISH COMMUNITY Get your FREE copy of The Jewish Connection delivered to you by Email. Send your request to info@jewishc.com To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 5 5/6/16 Dr. Joseph Mercola The Surprising Health Benefits of Extreme Hot and Cold Temperatures CONT. FROM P1 In a previous interview, biological scientist Rhonda Patrick, Ph.D. discussed the importance of mitochondrial function — a topic she expands on in this interview. As it turns out, exposure to extreme temperatures, be it hot or cold, actually improves mitochondrial function. Mitochondria are the energy generators in your cells. While you have about 35 trillion bacteria and as many cells in our body, you have about 500 to 1,000 times more mitochondria. Estimates suggest you may have anywhere from 15 to 50 quadrillion mitochondria. When your mitochondria are not working properly, your body’s ability to generate energy is impaired. The key is to get the old ones out and to create new ones — a process known as mitochondrial biogenesis. There are a number of strategies that can do that, including: Exposure to extreme hot and cold temperatures Exercise Intermittent fasting or time-restricted feeding Certain supplements, such as resveratrol All of these strategies stimulate the peroxisome proliferator-activated receptor-gamma coactivator 1 alpha (PGC-1 alpha), which is the primary driver for mitochondrial biogenesis. And when it comes to maintaining biological functioning and good health, the more mitochondria you have the better. Mitochondrial Biogenesis Benefits From Hormesis According to Patrick, exposure to extreme cold is likely the most effective way to boost mitochondrial biogenesis, followed by exposure to heat, and exercise. All of the strategies listed above place stress on your body, and while stress is generally viewed as a detriment to health, short bouts of stress actually produce benefits by way of hormesis. Hormesis refers to a process of exposing your body to a very short burst of stress, be it exercise, heat, cold, fasting, or antioxidants like resveratrol. Because it’s a short burst of stress, your body reacts to this stress by activating a variety of stress response pathways that are hardwired and encoded in your genes. As explained by Patrick: “It turns them on because they’re thinking, ‘I’ve got to prepare for war. This is stress. I need to make sure I fight this off.’ Not only does it activate all these really good pathways to fight off the stress you’re dealing with immediately, but it is preparing for future war. [Your body] is basically thinking to itself, ‘I may encounter this stress again. I have to activate all these good pathways that can help me deal with stress. That way, the next time I encounter it, I’m ready to fight it off.’ That’s really one of the main reasons why short bursts of stress are so good for you, because we have so many amazing genes in our body that are so powerful. The problem is that as we age, they don’t become activated as often. We need to find ways to activate them more ...” Benefits of Heat Stress Exercise is one form of heat stress, as you’re elevating your core temperature. Other ways of raising your core temperature include taking a hot bath, or using a steam room or sauna. The heat stress generated helps activate genes that are important for optimizing heat shock proteins (HSP) inside your cells. This is important, as these proteins get damaged with time and need to be renewed. Accumulation of damaged HSP can lead to plaque formation in your brain and/or vascular system. Heat stress helps prevent this adverse chain of events. HSP are also involved in longevity, so it’s really good to have a lot of HSP. They’re also important for preventing your skeletal muscle from atrophying, because they prevent proteins from being degraded. “[A]nimal studies have shown Moshe’s CONT.ON P7 CROSSWORD THE JEWISH By Yochai Ben Yitzchak Dov P.O. 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Get even Boutique Fishing aid Oaf Cilantro Haul Bullring cheer Crave 42) 46) 47) 48) 52) 53) 54) 55) 56) 57) Corrosion layer Feathery scarf Bassoon’s relative Georgia city ___ Macpherson Age Pinnacle Psychic Dusk, to a poet Paper quantity Down: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) 7) 8) 9) 10) Tax agcy. Collection Storyteller Goody Part of “L. A.“ Water container Pointed out Cherubic Thin Silent actor 11) Winter coaster 16) Recipe verb 20) Chum 21) Bartlett’s kin 22) Canyon effect 23) Nashville’s state 27) Baseball’s ___ Williams 28) Coalition 29) Sightseeing trip 30) Margin 32) Trailblazer 36) Heavyweight great 37) ____ McEntire of country music 41) Radar’s kin 42) Foot digits 43) Competent 44) Part 45) Jack rabbit 49) Moving truck 50) Doctor’s org. 51) Dress edge ANSWER TO THIS WEEK’S CROSSWORD ON PAGE 25 5/6/16 MERCOLA CONT. FROM P6 that when mice are exposed to the sauna they increase their protein synthesis by 30 percent compared to the mice that are not being exposed to the sauna. This was shown to be dependent on the heat shock proteins, HSPs, in the muscle. [T]he important thing here is the actual heat stress. You want to feel uncomfortable. You want to feel hot. That’s when you know that these good pathways are getting activated. The other thing that happens in terms of mitochondrial biogenesis and the reason why it occurs when you’re exposed to heat, is that heat itself is a stressor on the body and it creates reactive oxygen species (ROS). [ROS are also] generated when you exercise; when you’re causing your body to work more. These ROS act as a signaling molecule to make more mitochondria. If you exercise and take a supplemental vitamin E or something that can sort of soak up the ROS, you can negate some of the positive benefits from exercise because you are now not getting those signaling molecules saying, ‘Hey, we’ve got stress here. Let’s make more mitochondria to deal with the stress.’ It’s really important that you actually have some of that stress. That’s part of the mechanism by which it increases mitochondrial biogenesis.” How Heat Stress Benefits Athletic Performance Heat stress can also help boost endurance in athletes—a topic she covers more in-depth in her Hypothermic Conditioning Report, available for free download here. In one study, athletes who spent 30 minutes in the sauna after their workouts, two times a week for three weeks, were able to increase the time it took for them to run until exhaustion by 32 percent, compared to baseline. As noted by Patrick in her report: “In other words, hyperthermic conditioning through sauna use doesn’t just make you better at dealing with heat; it makes you better, period.” But how exactly does heat boost athletic endurance? First of all, heat stress causes a number of adaptations that reduce the adverse effects associated with elevated body temperatures. This includes: Reduced heart rate Lower core body temperature during exercise Higher sweat rate and increased thermoregulatory control Increased plasma volume, which optimizes blood flow to your heart, muscles, skin, and other tissues Reduced rate of glycogen depletion due to improved blood flow to skeletal muscle In short, being heat acclimated helps enhance endurance, and there are three different mechanisms at work here: By increasing plasma volume and blood flow to your heart, it reduces cardiovascular strain and lowers your heart rate during exercise By increasing blood flow to your muscles, more nutrients such as glucose and oxygen are delivered, thereby reducing fatigue. According to Patrick, hyperthermic conditioning can reduce muscle glycogen use by as much as 50 percent. By improving thermoregulatory control and increasing sweat rate, your core body heat can remain lower even during high exertion. Once you’re heat acclimated, sweating occurs at a lower body temperature than previously, and you sweat longer How Heat Stress Benefits Your Brain Heat also has very robust and profound effects on your brain. Your body responds to heat by cooling itself down, and it does that by increasing production of dynorphin—the chemical opposite of endorphins. However, dynorphin sensitizes your brain to endorphins, which can have a mood boosting effect. Dynorphin is responsible for that dysphoric feeling when you’re hot, when you’re lying in the sun, or when you’re exercising. “I think what’s really important for people to understand is everyone’s always trying to avoid stress. They want to be comfortable. I think the reason for that is people are aware of the fact that chronic stress is bad. When you’re constantly having a stressor, you don’t have this positive hormetic response to it ... But the short burst of stress is really good ... It has this feedback mechanism where it increases the expression of a receptor that binds to endorphin, called the mu opioid receptor. You make more of these receptors. That way, the next time you produce endorphin, you’re more sensitive to it ... So CONT.ON P10 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 7 5/6/16 Roy Neuberger THE APPEARANCE OF DARKNESS In Biblical times at this season, we were marching with Moshe Rabbeinu toward Har Sinai. It was a time of tremendous anticipation. Did Bnai Yisroel know what was coming? Could anyone have imagined the stupendous events which were about to occur at Har Sinai? In the contemporary world, we are also anticipating something huge, but we don’t quite know what it will be. We know the Geula is close, but there is much fear in the world. Europe is overrun by dangerous hordes, America is in disarray from a traumatizing election campaign and the hatred of the entire world is directed toward Israel. Last year, on Seder night, there was a total lunar eclipse. Several months later, on the first night of Sukkos, there was another total lunar eclipse. Similarly, the previous year there were total lunar eclipses on the first night of Pesach and Sukkos. This was unusual; total lunar eclipses are infrequent. In the ten years from 2004 through 2013, there were eight, and then, in two successive years, there were four, all occurring on the first day of both Pesach and Sukkos. Additionally, last year, there was a total solar eclipse on Rosh Chodesh Nissan. Chazal comment on eclipses. “Whenever the luminaries (apparently referring to the moon and stars) are stricken, it is a bad omen for the Jewish People…. During the time that the sun is stricken, it is a bad omen for idolaters. [When] the moon is stricken, it is a bad omen for the Jewish People….” Why? “The Jews calculate [the calendar] according to the moon…. The idolaters [calculate] according to the sun…” (Succah 29a) During a lunar eclipse, the earth stands directly between the sun and the moon, casting its shadow over the moon. During a solar eclipse, the moon comes directly between the earth and the sun, blocking the view of the sun from the earth. There is a significant distinction: during a solar eclipse the sun is actually blocked, but during a lunar eclipse the moon is not blocked; it 8 is simply in shadow. If you held a giant flashlight during a lunar eclipse, you could illuminate the moon from the earth. Why is an eclipse a “bad omen?” Metaphorically, the sun can be compared to the “master” of the solar system and the planets and their moons to servants. The fire, the heat, the central power of the solar system is the sun. All the planets revolve around it and derive their very existence from its presence. Without the sun at the center, there would be no solar system and no life on earth. This is comparable to the spiritual world, in which Hashem kaveyochal is at the “center.” All life is derived from Him. An eclipse implies that we are cut off from Him; our connection with Hashem has apparently been threatened, G-d forbid. We seem to be cut off from the “Light.” But an eclipse is a purely physical phenomenon. How can it affect us? All that happens is that our physical world is temporarily darkened. Why should we be frightened? If we have dvaykus with Torah and mitzvos, then how can physical darkness affect our relationship with Hashem? Do we not say every evening, “We will rejoice with the words of Your Torah … and about them we will meditate day and night.…” In fact, we see how, during thousands of years of the terrible darkness of Golus, our Torah has sustained us in the “four corners of the world,” no matter how they tried to crush us! To paraphrase FDR, the only thing we have to fear about an eclipse is fear itself, fear of darkness. Fear is banished when we are close to Hashem. As King David says, “though I walk in the valley overshadowed by death, I will fear no evil.” (Tehillim 23) The Gemora echoes this theme. “[However], when the Jews do the will of the Omnipresent, they need not worry about all these omens, as it is stated (Yirmiya 10:2), ‘Thus said Hashem: do not learn from the way of the nations. Do not be frightened by the signs To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com of the heavens, though the nations are frightened by them,’ [implying that] the idol worshippers shall be frightened, [but] the Jews need not be frightened.” (Succah 29a) The distinction between lunar and solar eclipses corroborates this. During a solar eclipse, as we said earlier, the sun is actually blocked; the earth is cut off from its energy source. But during a lunar eclipse, the moon is not blocked. It is right there where it always was; only a shadow prevents us from seeing it. The same is true of Golus! Hashem’s light has not disappeared; it is being held in reserve for us. In Golus, there is only the appearance of darkness. Hashem is hidden, but He is with us at all times. We have to know that our connection with Him is through ruchnius, not gashmius. That spiritual connection can never be severed, not even in the darkest of times, not even when chaos seems to flood the world. Next week, as we celebrate Rosh Chodesh Iyar, the moon will once more reappear in the sky, filling us with hope. Each month we say, “May it be Your will, Hashem, my G-d and the G-d of my forefathers, to fill the flaw of the moon … May the light of the moon be like the light of the sun and like the light of seven days of creation, as it was before it was diminished… And may there be fulfilled upon us the verse that is written: They shall seek Hashem, their G-d and David, their king. 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Website: www.2020vision.co.il. 5/6/16 “THE SHMUZ” Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier SYSTEMS OF HUMAN PERFECTION PARSHAS ACHAREI MOS “And a man from the house of Israel, and from the converts who live with you, who shall consume any blood, I shall place My face against the soul of the one who consumed blood, and I shall cut it off from amongst your nation.” Vayikrah” 17: 10 The Torah warns us many times and with many different exhortations not to consume blood. The Kli Yakar points out than in Devarim the Torah tells us not to eat blood because “It will be good for you and your children after you”. He explains that: “Consuming blood brings cruelty into the one who eats it, and the nature of the father is given over to his children to be like him. Therefore, the Torah warns us not to consume blood so that we don’t acquire this nature.” It seems clear from the Kli Yakar that consuming blood will cause a change in the nature of the person who consumes it. His sensitivities and reactions will have changed, and he will become a different person. However, not only will he become callous and pitiless, these traits will become part of his genetic transmission, so that any child that he then has will have this same predisposition towards cruelty. This concept seems difficult to understand. Firstly, how does consuming blood make a person cruel? Secondly, how does that change affect the very hereditary transmission of a person so that his children will be pitiless as well? To understand the answer to this, we need to focus on the basic make-up of man. The Chovos Ha’Levovos (Sha’ar Avodas Elokim 3) explains that HASHEM created man out of two very distinct parts – a nefesh ha’Schili (intellectual soul) and a nefesh Ha’Bahami (animal soul). The “I” that thinks, feels, and remembers is comprised of two separate and competing parts, each one with its own nature, tendencies, and needs. The nefesh ha’Schili desires only that which is good, right, and noble. It yearns to help others, it hungers for meaning and purpose, and more than anything, it needs to be close to HASHEM. Then there is the other part of man — the animal soul. It too has desires and inclinations, and it too hungers for things. One way to better understand the animal soul in man is to visit its parallel in the wild kingdom. have a cognitive, reasoning element. It doesn’t have an “I” that is the master of the ship. But it does have a vibrant essence that is programmed to seek out its needs. That part is the nefesh of the animal. That nefesh is pure instinct, drives, and passions, and is affected by both internal and external triggers. In the spring, birds fly north and engage in a fury of nest-building and mating. The individual bird doesn’t purposefully choose its mate. Two robins don’t sit down and say to each other, “It’s time for us to settle down and raise a family.” The animal is attracted by the sight, smell, and sound of one of its species, and then will hotly pursue it – often CONT.ON P11 Understanding the Nefesh Ha’Bahami HASHEM imprinted into the essence of each animal all the instincts necessary for its survival as well as for the continuation of its species. The animal doesn’t To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 9 5/6/16 your body increases production of norepinephrine in the brain, which is involved in focus and attention. It also improves mood and alleviates pain, partly because it lowers inflammation. You can increase norepinephrine two-fold just by getting into 40-degree water for 20 seconds, or 57-degree water for a few minutes. MERCOLA CONT. FROM P7 you actually can relieve anxiety,” Patrick says. The ROS generated when you’re exposed to heat also benefits your brain by increasing production of growth factors, such as brain-derived neurotropic factor (BDNF), which in turn promote the growth of neurons. With age, neurons are lost in many brain regions, and sauna bathing can be an important strategy to slow down or prevent brain aging. Sauna Bathing Is Good for Your Heart Heat also has a profound effect on your heart and cardiovascular health. A Finnish study published last year found that men who used the sauna two to three times a week had a 27 percent lower death rate from heart disease and a 24 percent lower all-cause mortality rate compared to those who only used the sauna once a week. Men who used it four to seven times a week had a 50 percent reduction in death from heart disease, and a 40 percent reduction in all-cause mortality. So there’s a clear dose-dependent response, meaning the more frequently 10 you use the sauna, the greater the beneficial effect. These heart and cardiovascular benefits are related to the fact that when you get hot: Your heart rate increases, just as during exercise Your blood vessels dilate The smooth muscle cells that line your blood vessels relax Temperature matters, of course. In this study, they used the traditional hot, dry Finnish sauna. The temperature averaged 79 degrees Celsius (174 degrees Fahrenheit), which is extremely hot by most standards. The duration was typically 20 minutes or longer. Infrared saunas and steam rooms operate at lower temperatures, so the outcomes might not be identical were you to compare them. Still, heat that isn’t as extreme will provide similar benefits. Benefits of Cryotherapy As with heat, the rationale for exposing yourself to very cold temperatures also has to do with the benefits associated with hormesis. You may have heard that cold temperatures can help you burn more body fat, and mitochondrial biogenesis is directly involved in this process. When you’re exposed to cold, To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com While best known as a neurotransmitter, norepinephrine also acts as a hormone. One of its functions is causing vasoconstriction, which helps your body conserve heat. Norepinephrine also acts as a signaling molecule to make more mitochondria in your fat tissue (your main energy reserves), and a byproduct of energy production is heat. This also helps prepare you for the next time you’re exposed to cold. The more times you’re exposed to cold, the more mitochondria you make in your fat cells and the better you can withstand lower temperatures. This is a topic Dr. Patrick covers more in-depth in her cold shock report, available for free download here. So yes, you do “get acclimated” to colder temperatures with time. Wim Hof, aka. “The Iceman,” is a perfect example of this. He’s exposed himself to cold on a daily basis for decades. As a result, he’s now able to withstand the cold for much longer periods than one might consider normal, because his body can generate more heat. As explained by Patrick, “The more mitochondria you have in your fat, the more fat you’re burning, the more heat you can make, the longer you can stay in the cold.” The Hormesis of Cryotherapy As mentioned, when you expose yourself to heat, you make heat shock protein. When exposing yourself to cold, in addition to increasing norepinephrine you also make cold shock protein, known as the RNA-binding motif 3 or RBM3, in your brain. This is another intriguing example of hormesis. Interestingly, when you’re exposed to cold, you actually degrade synapses (the connections between neurons), but RBM3 completely regenerates them. This has been shown in hibernating animals like bears and squirrels. “There’s this really great study that was published not long ago that showed when you take a mouse genetically engineered to get Alz- heimer’s disease and expose it to cold, so that it’s increasing RBM3, it delays the onset of Alzheimer’s. Even though they were genetically engineered to get Alzheimer’s disease, they get it much, much later,” Patrick says. Studies have also been done on human cells, showing that RBM3 does get activated when the brain cells are exposed to cold, and that the temperature change needed is only about 1.5 degrees Fahrenheit. More research needs to be done, but preliminary work such as this suggests cryotherapy (cold treatment) could have a neuroprotective effect. Caveat: Avoid Cryotherapy Directly Following Strength Training There is one important caveat worth mentioning. When you’re doing strengthening exercises you generate ROS that help increase muscle mass. If you expose yourself to cold within the first hour after strength training, you suppress that beneficial process, so avoid doing cold immersion (such as a really cold shower or ice bath) immediately after strength training. On the other hand, spending some time in the sauna after exercise may actually help increase muscle mass. It’ll also help with detoxification, allowing you to sweat out toxins that can wreak havoc on mitochondrial function in general. As explained by Patrick: “This is what’s important to understand — Exercise is a stress on the body. You’re making reactive oxygen species. You’re generating inflammation. But that’s a good thing because it’s a short burst, and you want it. ... There’s a one hour timeframe from the time you stop exercising [in which inflammation peaks]. That is the stressful period. But then as soon as an hour hits, the stress response kicks in and you start to have a potent anti-inflammatory [response]. You start having an antioxidant response from activating all these good genes that stay activate for a long time. What happens is that because the cold also is causing an antiinflammatory response, it’s important that you don’t get that anti-inflammatory response too soon, because you need some of that exercise-induced inflammation. You want that inflammation to happen to get the anti-inflammatory response. That’s important for the strength training. CONT.ON P11 5/6/16 MERCOLA CONT. FROM P10 The inflammation you generate during the strength training is part of the mechanism for making more proteins in the skeletal muscle. If you blunt that, then you’re going to blunt the effects of the strength training. The question is then can you do it an hour or two hours later? Studies SHMUZ CONT. FROM P9 becoming bonded for life. It is driven by instinct in a preset pattern. Those instincts and desires are affected by various forces. A bird from a different species will not elicit the mating response, nor will even the same bird in a different time of the year. In the dead of winter, these desires lay dormant. The change in season brings them forward to the extent that they take over the existence of that bird. They have been pre-programmed to respond to stimuli that allow for the success of the individual bird and the species as a whole. The answer to the Kli Yakar This seems to be the answer to the question. The Kli Yakir is teaching us that when the Torah forbids us to eat blood, it is because consuming it would make a dramatic change in our inner essence. We would be ingesting part of the nefesh of that animal, and it would become part of our own Nefesh Ha’Bahami. Our conscious reality would change because part of who we are is the animal soul, and we would thereby acquire cruelty. This change is so potent that if the person who drank that blood were to then have a child, that child would also have cruelty as part of his inner make-up. Much like certain chemicals can affect a man’s mood; the Torah have shown, yes, you can do cold exposure, cold water immersion and actually get some performance enhancements even from doing [that].” Listen to Your Body While sauna bathing and cold water immersion are generally safe, if you have any sort of medical condition, discuss it with your doctor beforehand, since both hot and is teaching us that there are some properties that have a permanent effect on the nature of man. They change his Nefesh, and that changes the way that he thinks and feels. Similarly, the mefarshim explain to us that none of the kosher animals are predators. The nature of a predatory animal is to hunt down and kill. If a person were to consume meat from such an animal, some part of the Nefesh of that animal would enter into man’s soul and he would acquire an aggressive, violent nature. The Torah forbids it because it This concept is very significant as it helps us better understand the Torah as the system of human perfection. HASHEM is the Creator, and He wrote the Torah as the guidebook for human growth. Contained within it are all the tools necessary to reach greatness. Some of the tools are easily understood and some takes years to fully comprehend, but the system is there. By following the guidelines, restrictions, and commandments, a person guarantees that he is headed in the right path – using his stay on the planet to grow and perfect himself. For more on this topic please listen to Halacha Boot Camp – Hilchos Kashrus – Introduction, Parts 1 and 2 The new Shmuz book: Stop Surviving and Start Living is now in print! “Powerful”, “Thought Provoking”, “Life changing”, is what people are saying about it. Copies are now available in stores, or at www.TheShmuz.com, or by would damage the fine balance in man. Experienced & Caring 5 Towns Tutor with M.S. in Spec. Ed. (Gr. 1-12) Available To Help Your Child In All Subjects Specializing in Science Regents Prep, Math & Hebrew • References Available Call Ron at 718-288-5580 cold put stress on your heart and cardiovascular system. Also listen to your body. Individual tolerance for hot and cold temperatures vary widely, and if you push it too far you can do yourself harm. Cryotherapy tends to be a bit riskier than sauna, which is typically very beneficial for people with cardiovascular-related diseases, courtesy of the vasodilation and increased blood flow. Cold causes acute vasoconstriction, which can be potentially dangerous if you have a heart condition. A quick cold shower would probably be okay, but avoid ice baths or other extreme cold water immersion techniques. “With that said, in general it’s really, really good to listen to your body. You need to recover from the stress; otherwise it’s not going to be beneficial,’ Patrick says. ‘If you’re exercising all day, every day, you’re going to die. You can’t constantly keep stressing your body without a recovery period, which is part of the reason why sleep is so important for recovery, you repair all this damage that you generated throughout the day. I tend to push things to the extreme. I’m getting better with that now. But I have experienced, with myself, when I’ve sat in an ice bath for several minutes, I start to feel light headed. I shouldn’t be feeling light headed. That’s enough. I need to get out. The same with the sauna. Feeling uncomfortable is good. You want to push a little bit past that comfort and feel a little uncomfortable. That’s important for some of the hormetic benefits. But you don’t want to faint. Also, never drink alcohol in the sauna.” Dr. Mercola is the founder of the world’s most visited natural health web site, Mercola.com A HELPING MITZVAH FROM THE PAST ALAN MAGILL The distance between lethargy and purposeful activity can be very short. Sometimes all it takes is the right stimulation to go from down and out to uplifted. And that stimulation can come from the here and now or it could come from the past. Years ago when I worked at a Jewish nursing home as a recreation therapist, one of my favorite activities was the Oneg Shabbos program I lead on late Friday mornings. I discussed the sedra, encouraged answers to my questions and we made brachas over grape juice and Challah. One of the most enthusiastic and knowledgeable participants in the program was a man of around 90 who I’ll call Shmuel. When I would arrive in the Day room where the Oneg Shabbos was held, typically around one minute before the 11:30 a.m. starting time, Shmuel would usually be sitting there on the first row, ready to pore over the eternal truths of the Torah. So one Friday morning when I came into that Day room and didn’t see him I was surprised and concerned. A nurse told me Shmuel was in his room and wouldn’t come out. It was 11:30 a.m. and the program was supposed to start but I needed to see what was going on with one of my biggest participants. So I told the CONT.ON P13 VOLUNTEER TUTORS NEEDED FOR ZICHRON ETEL VOLUNTEER TUTORS NEEDED FOR ZICHRON ETEL AN ORGANIZATION THAT PROVIDES FREE TUTORING TO CHILDREN WHO CANNOT AFFORD IT. NOW IN BROOKLYN & THE FIVE TOWNS!! REGENT SUBJECT DESPERATELY NEEDED! 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In short, the soul seeks to do what is right; the ego wants to be right and see itself in the optimal light; and the body just wants to escape from it all. Doing what is comfortable or enjoyable is a body drive. Examples of indulgences of this force are overeating or oversleeping—in effect, doing something merely because of how it feels. An ego drive can run the gamut from making a joke at some- one else’s expense to making a lavish purchase that’s beyond our means. When the ego reigns, we are not drawn to what is good, but to what makes us look good. Over time, these choices erode our self-esteem because when we succumb to immediate gratification or live to protect and project an image, we become angry with ourselves and ultimately feel empty inside. (This means that a single egregious act can infect our belief system and the unwillingness to face the resultant guilt or shame may stain our entire worldview.) When we do not like who we are, we punish ourselves with activities that are disguised as pleasurable: excessive eating, alcohol or drug abuse and meaningless diversions and excursions. We long to love our- THE JEWISH SERVING THE ENTIRE JEWISH COMMUNITY Get your FREE copy of The Jewish Connection delivered to you by Email. Send your request to info@jewishc.com 12 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com selves, but instead we lose ourselves. Unable to invest in our own wellbeing, we substitute illusions for love. These ethereal delights mask our self-contempt, and since the comfort sought is rewarded instead by greater pain, we descend further into despair. As our behavior becomes increasingly reckless and irresponsible, the ego swells to compensate for feelings of guilt and shame. Our perspective narrows, and we see more of the self and less of the world. This makes us ever more sensitive and unstable. these defense mechanisms which are detailed in the next installment.) When a person loses his sanity—the ability to see, accept, and respond to his world—it means that he has lost all perspective. The Talmud states that Adam HaRishon (“Adam, the first man”) could see from one end of the world to the other. Before eating of the Eitz HaDaas (“Tree of Knowledge”), Adam had no yetzer hara (“ego”). This entity was represented by the serpent and was external to Adam. So his perception was unfettered. The yetzer hara entered only when Adam ate of the tree and became alert to the difference between good and evil, which shifted his perspective. Man’s awareness was reduced from the objective world of “truth and falsehood” to the subjective view of “good and bad.” After the sin, human beings would forever see their world through the cloudy lens of “I.” Emotional instability is, fundamentally, a lack of moral clarity—the degree to which the ego infects us. To this extent, we are all somewhat sick. At whatever point we have clarity that a given behavior is wrong, bechirah (“free will”) emerges, and it becomes a genuine choice. That is, to choose good over evil. To the degree that we fall short, we are all somewhat evil. To be continued… PERSPECTIVE = MENTAL HEALTH The clearer our perspective, the more reality we allow in, and the more objective and rational are our attitudes, thoughts, and behaviors. As the ego grows, the seedlings of emotional instability take root because any distortion of our true self produces a misrepresentation of the world; and if our grasp of reality is flawed, then our adjustment to life will suffer. (To the degree that we cannot accept our imperfections and limitations, we shift fault elsewhere. In other words: If there is nothing wrong with me then there must be something wrong with you. In order for us to remain unblemished, we am forced to distort the world around us. The ego has a variety of Sudoku Puzzle Complete the grid so that every row, column and 3x3 box contains every digit from 1 to 9 inclusively. 2 5 8 7 1 8 6 7 5 3 7 2 8 1 8 9 2 7 1 5 4 5 6 9 3 4 6 4 7 ANSWER TO THIS WEEK’S SUDOKU ON PAGE 36 5/6/16 MAGILL CONT. FROM P11 group there would be a short delay and I made a beehive to talk with Shmuel. When I knocked on his door, I heard a low, sad voice say, “I’m not coming.” I asked, “Can I come in?” “I’m still not coming,” he answered. I took that as my invitation to enter and when I walked in I saw a most incongruous sight. There was Shmuel wearing a suit and tie and shoes lying on his bed with his hands behind his head staring up at the ceiling. I said, “What’s wrong, Shmuel? Everybody’s waiting for you.” “They can wait all they want. I’m not leaving this room.” I had a dilemma. I had 40 people waiting for me in the Day Room and had Shmuel lying in bed like he wanted to shut out the whole world. I decided that the priority was in listening to what made this man so distressed. “What happened?” I asked. “The way my aide talked to me today…like I wasn’t even human… like I was a piece of meat. I’m disgusted and I don’t want to do anything.” I knew I wanted to do something and that was to get him out of this mindset. He seemed so entrenched in his resistance that I didn’t think that discussing what happened between him and his aide would help. So I decided to change the subject. I said something like about how much my job meant to me, although I had some good days and some bad days. I asked him, “What kind of work did you do?” He thought back around five decades and said, “When I first came to New York I worked collecting the quarters from washing machines in apartment buildings in Brooklyn.” “I’m sure you had some good days and some bad days. What was the best day you ever had?” He thought about it a few moments and then a small smile came to his lips. “One day I remember,” he began, and I saw him effortlessly going back five decades. “I came to an apartment building and went to the basement where the washing machines were. I took the quarters out and was about to leave when I saw some money on the ground. I picked it up and I saw that it was two one hundred dollar bills wrapped in a rubber band.” In his telling of the story he went from lethargic to more animated. “I rushed out to find a pay phone to call my boss and told him what I had found and asked him if it was okay for me to wait around there to see if the person who lost it came looking for it. He told me, ‘I don’t care how long you wait there. You still have to finish your route.’ I went back to the apartment building and waited by the washing machines. About ten minutes later a woman came in crying, “I lost the rent money! I lost the rent money! My husband is going to be so angry.’ I told her you, ‘You can stop crying lady, here’s the money!” Now there was a big smile on Shmuel’s face as he recounted, “Oh did she hug me. She couldn’t stop thanking me.” The story was over. And in its telling, Shmuel looked like a dramatically different man than the sad, defeated person I had encountered when I had walked in to his room. With a sense of purpose he got off his bed and said, “Let’s go to the Oneg Shabbos!” He walked out the door and headed to the Day room with me gratefully following him. I thought to myself, if Shmuel would have kept the money, 50 years later whatever benefit he had gained from it would have completely gone from his memory. But by doing the good deed and waiting for that woman to come back to return the much needed cash to her, he had done a kindness that not only boosted his spirits then, BUT ALSO 50 YEARS LATER when he needed it most. Thank G-d for the mitzvahs Hashem gives us. They are truly and investment in our future Alan Magill can be reached at pr2hope@aol.com. He is director of recreation at Scharf’s Ateret Avot Senior Home in Midwood, Brooklyn. Mr. Magill offers customized writing, including picture/poems for a variety of occasions. He is a humorist who gives audience interaction programs such as “Still Laughing After 5776 Years.” He can provide one on one recreation for the elderly who live at home. The Shabbos Pirkei Avos shiurim that he organizes is scheduled to resume May 7 at 5:15 p.m. and run throughout the Summer at Congregation Tomchei Torah, 1966 Ocean Avenue, between Avenues N and O, Midwood, Brooklyn, with a variety of speakers. Mr. Magill is a playwright and can customize a play for a specific theme. A free staged reading by actors and actresses of “Put Everything Back Where You Found It!” and other short plays by Mr. Magill is scheduled for Sunday, May 15 at 2:30 p.m., at the Kings Highway Library, Lower Level Meeting Room, 2115 Ocean Avenue, Midwood, Brooklyn, 718/375-3037. Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz “The Observant Jew Learn to Excel Rabbi Issamar Ginzberg, an international marketing expert who happens to be a religious, Chasidish Jew, recently asked a group of people: “Agree or Disagree? “If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!”” A number of people jumped in with various opinions. Some said absolutely, while others said not to take on something you’re not ready for. One person let the cat out of the bag when he revealed that the opportunity quote came from Sir Richard Branson, a British entrepreneur and business magnate. Suddenly, many people rethought their positions, but not me. You see, I’d experienced the above quote on the receiving end of someone saying yes before they knew what they were doing. I needed some short term help with data entry and advertised for someone who was proficient in the spreadsheet program Microsoft Excel. In case you’re not sure, proficient means having a level of familiarity and ability to easily do most required tasks in a certain software or occupation. Because Excel is a complex and powerful tool, it’s not enough to have seen it before, or even to have typed into it. Trying to use Excel after having received a spreadsheet or list from someone else is like trying to drive a Formula One race car because you’ve ridden on a city bus. One respondent spoke with confidence about how she had all sorts of experience and was a fast worker. Because I knew her son a bit, and she sounded good, I hired her. 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Whether your synagogue recites half Hallel or doesn’t, I think most Jews should have a great appreciation for the positive aspects of the continued existence of the State of Israel, regardless of what we think of spiritual lapses of the leadership. I for one recently spent a week in the Promised Land and I know that if not for the existence of a Jewish government in Eretz Yisroel, I would not have gotten to visit Kever Rochel (Rachel’s Tomb,) in Beis Lechem or the Machelpela (Tomb of the Patriarchs) in Hebron or the Kotel/ Kosel (Western Wall) in Ir Hakodesh, the Holy City of Yerushalayim. It was a most tense time and I was extremely grateful for the presence of the young men serving in the IDF (Israeli Army) who were putting their lives on the line to protect my life and that of the other frum and secular Jews so we could pray and enjoy the most holiest sites of Yahadut (Judaism.) Yom HaAtzmaut is always preceded by Yom HaZikaron, Memorial Day for the many Jews (and some non-Jews such as Druize or Bedoins) who have given their lives as soldiers, MAZE ANSWERS ON PAGE 36 14 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com border police, and police officers to protect the inhabitants of Israel. According to figures, some 23,320 lives were lost from 1860 when Jews began rebuilding their homeland till April 19th of last year (2015.) These include not only the War of Independence, the Sinai Campaign, the Six Day War, the War of Attrition, the Yom Kippur War, the First and Second Lebanon Wars, the Palestinian Intifidas, but also terrorist attacks. 23,320 is a number that one can easily gloss over. That is why Smadar Shir’s book about a contemporary icon is Israeli society – Mrs. Miriam Peretz, a mother who lost two sons in combat when serving with the IDF is important to read. You can extrapolate from her powerful reflections the thoughts of all the other tens of thousands of Israeli mothers, fathers, siblings, wives and children [and even grandchildren] whose lives will never be the same again. “Miriam’s Song” begins with Mrs. Peretz’s recollections of her first 10 years of life as the oldest of five children to Ya’akov and Ito Ohayon in the mellah or Jewish ghetto of Casablanca, Morocco. The title of the first chapter tells it all – “Morocco Isn’t Ours – My Childhood in Morocco.” Upon immigrating to the State of Israel, Miriam’s family was directed to an immigrant camp in Beer Sheba which not surprisingly was mostly Sephardim from North Africa. Her parents refused to adapt to the Israeli dress code and her father to his dying days continued to wear the jalabiya covering his wide Turkish pants and pointed Moroccan shoes. The more affluent Ashkenazi immigrants had their own more fancier immigrant camps. And yet that did not deter Miriam Ohayon from developing a hakarot hatov for all the good that she found from living in Israel as compared to what life had been like in the mellah of Casablanca. Most children of Sephardic (Arab countries) in Miriam’s school were mainstreamed into vocational programs after elementary school and initially Miss Ohayon was also directed into such a program. But hashgacha pratit would have it that her vocational teacher, a Mr. Benson saw some potential in the Moroccan born girl and pushed her into an academic slot that would eventually lead to her becoming a school teacher. Miriam’s story is well told by Ms. Smadar Shir. In Chapter Four, we learn how she met her future husband Eliezer Peretz on a city bus in Be’er Sheva when she was a substitute teacher. Not at all interested in Mr. Peretz she brushed him off, not knowing that he had notice one of her notebook’s with a sticker revealing her name and the Degania School where she taught. With that knowledge he was able to call her as the school and plead with her to give him a chance by dating him. And as they say the rest is history. Eliezer and Miriam Peretz married and raised a family. And everything was happily ever after until their first son Uriel was killed in action while serving in the IDF. Israel has by then passed a law saying that subsequent sons in such special families need not serve in dangerous combat missions. But when Uriel joined the IDF he did not want a safe exemption. Years later when he too was killed in action, Miriam Peretz suffered more than twice the pain of a mother who loses a child. As she recalls “There’s nothing worse than losing two sons. Yet I, who experienced the worst that could possibly happen, am busy all day long in my search for G-d’s kindnesses. One day, I decided to do an exercise, I took a piece of paper and drew to columns: (1) My complaints to G-d and (2) G-d’s Gifts to Me.” And the second column was longer than her first list of complaints. “Miriam’s Song” is an inspiration that will give chizuk, strength to many of us who might not see the half-full cup that life offers us. “Miriam’s Song” by Smadar Shir is available in Jewish bookstores or from the publisher by calling (516) 593-1234 or emailing orders@ gefenpublishing.com 5/6/16 FAMILY MATTERS | Dr. Ari Korenblit B HANDWRITING MATTERS See if you have The Write Stuff This article explores the science of Graphology, interpreting handwriting to reveal the personality of the writer. Essentially, it is the brain that is actually doing the writing. If one switches hands, puts a twig between their toes at the beach, places a pencil in their mouth, or use any means to write, the primary aspects of the writing remain the very same. The slant of the lines and the letters, the relative size of the script, the formation of the letters, the space between the letters and the words, and hundreds of others indices will not change! To the untrained eye it might seem to be different, but -like a fingerprint -- it is still uniquely attributable to the same writer. So too. many will say their handwriting or signature is different. However, the many variables that constitute our handwriting, varies very little. Who would you hire for your business to make it more successful? Who is a natural entrepreneur, will help you manage the business, make it more efficient and help it grow? A This writer is very intelligent indicated by a high degree of simplification – meaning no extra strokes and sophistication in the letter combinations. A wonderful example of this is found at the 6th line from the bottom in the words “find the truth.” The simplifications also show creativity and sophistication. The rather formal margins show his need for selfprotection against the imposition of others. This writing is self-contained and contracted indicating feelings of being aloof and keeping distant from others. The writing is small and vertical in slant, fitting in a compressed manner into the proscribed space which means he lives very much inside himself. The wide spaces between words and narrow letters confirm his feelings of distance from others He is extremely efficient, and straight-forward in handling what is necessary. He conserves his energy well and delegates things appropriately. There is a fair amount of angularity in the writing signifying assertiveness and drive. He is very bright and knows how to make things happen. However, he is not a glad-hander or back-slapper, but very analytic and competent. He has excellent managerial skills and likely to be a driving force in any business. The writing appears to be written by a woman, but is actually an effeminate male writing. The writing is forward slanted, indicating drive, persistence and focus on the future. Nevertheless, it is too rounded with an absence of The Challah by Devorah Rosenberg Women & Girls Schools, Camps, Bas Mitzvahs & Other Parties Private Sessions Also Available Learn the art of baking and braiding. Discover the mitzvah and meaning behind Challah making. For more information or to schedule a class in your area contact H- 718-524-7333 angles, attesting to a lack of durable drive, being too pliable and missing the guts and gall to take a chance. He also has a tremendous need for approval, so consequentially, he will avoid unpopular decisions not to forfeit his need for approval. He can’t tolerate the loneliness inherent in true leadership. The writing is very conventional and its speed is slow, making him most unlikely to think out-of-thebox, with any modicum of crea- tivity. The beginning strokes and carefully drawn letters indicate someone who is risk-averse and rather timid. He is unlikely to be a driving and motivating force in business. Dr. Ari Korenblit is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice, a graphologist/handwriting expert, a forensic graphologist and a Supreme Court-certified document examiner. He lectures on and teaches handwriting analysis, and analyzes handwriting for self understanding, personnel selection, shidduchim, forgeries, etc. He can be contacted at 212-721-4608 or dr.arikorenblit@gmail.com. Rabbi Aharon Ziegler PARASHAT ACHAREI-MOT 5776 - 2016 After commanding us to observe all of Gd’s decrees and all of Gd’s laws (18:5) the pasuk concludes with “ VACHAI BAHEM”,”by which we should live”. Our Chazal (Sages) derive from the expression of , by which we should live, that the Mitzvot were given for the sake of life, not death (Yoma 85b). Therefore, if the performance of a Mitzvah may endanger life-such as the need for a patient to be rushed to a hospital on Shabbat-the need to preserve life supersedes the observance of Shabbat. The Torah is here expressing a very special truth: our religion revels in life. To be sure, there are instances when one must be ready to die for one’s faith, but this is limited to three conspicuously severe crimes: murder, sexual immorality and idolatry. But under normal conditions, no Jewish law overrides the preservation of human life. Even the most famous test of Avraham Avinu, the apparent Divine command that Avraham sacrifice his son to Him, concludes with Avraham being forbidden to harm his son. Rashi, even goes so far as to say that Avraham misunderstood the Divine command, that Gd never meant that he should slaughter his son, but rather dedicate him in life and not in death. What remains strange and difficult to understand is that immediately following the mandate to “live by Gd’s laws”, comes a long list of prohibited sexual relationships which fall under the rule of “one must die rather than transgress”. If living by Gd’s laws is so important, why follow that stricture with laws for which one must be willing to die rather than transgress? The Gemara in Tamid (32a) states that Alexander the Great who, besides being a great warrior was also an astute philosopher, asked the Sages of the Negev ten questions. One of them being, “What should a man do to live?” They said to him, “He should kill himself”. He then asked, “What should a man do to die?” They responded, “He should try to stay alive”. Rabbi Shlomo Riskin once explained this Gemara by answering the second question first. If an individual lives a life of only trying to keep on living, he is bound to fail, and he will surely die in the end-for no one lives forever. No individual from the earliest times of history ever got out of this world alive. Thus, if a person wishes to die, let him continue to CONT.ON P16 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 15 5/6/16 Rabbi Naphtali Hoff SEEING A DIFFERENT REALITY The mitzvah to count the days of the sefirah period offers keen insight into the way that we view our purpose and role in this world. Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch (Collected Writings Volume I, Feldheim, p. 114) explains that the reason that we count beginning with the offering of the korban omer on the second day of Pesach is to dismiss any notion that our sense of fulfillment rests exclusively with our material successes (as represented by the harvest of the early barley crop). When Israel has already reached the point which for other peoples represents the ultimate goal of nationalist endeavor, when it already has freedom and independence, land and soil, fruit and grain on its own fields and meadows, at the stage where others cease to strive further and to count, there Israel first begins to count, both days and weeks. And it goes on counting up to the day when it celebrates the bestowal of (the Torah). For other nations, a booming harvest is alone a reason to rejoice. Farmers invest much time and effort into its success, and entire nations rely on it for their collective sustenance. But the Torah, in instructing us to count from the day of the harvest, reminds us that it is just the beginning, the means through which we can begin to focus on our loftier purpose, receiving the Torah. This is the deeper connection between sefirah and the period that links Pesach Shavuos. Rav Hirsch writes in Horeb (pp.84-90) that each of the regalim represents a different aspect within the development of the Jewish nation. On Pesach our nation experienced its physical birth; for the first time we began to develop as an independent nation. Shavuos, on the other hand, represents our nation’s spiritual birth. Only with the acceptance of the Torah could we recognize our true, spiritual essence, fundamentally separating ourselves from all other nations. The true fulfillment of Pesach occurs through its Atzeres, Shavuos. It is then that we infuse deeper meaning to our national identity, well beyond the limitations of physicality and material bounty. But we cannot simply “arrive” at this level of sanctity. It takes continuous work and effort, a step by step approach that elevates us from the spiritual dregs of Egypt to the loftiness of Sinai. That’s where the upward counting of Sefirah comes in. In a sense, the Torah is advancing a paradigm shift, a new way of thinking that goes beyond the conventional understanding of who we are and what we are here to achieve. Without a moral compass, it is easy to get lost in the moment and celebrate successes defined in material terms. Sefirah teaches us to remain doggedly focused on a bigger prize, a goal that is far more valuable than a robust harvest or any other material reward. Shifts in paradigm do not only occur in terms of global thought processes or national attitudes. Such changes reflect any modification from one way of thinking to another in a manner that transcends the current reality. To engage in such a shift is to get past your limiting beliefs and adjust your perspective from who you think you are to who you truly are, which is an individual with incalculable potential. Coaching is a process that helps people see beyond their current way thinking and discover new possibilities. It recognizes that people are naturally creative, resourceful and self-aware, and uses questioning techniques and focused dialogue to push limits and explore new possibilities. It asks probing questions about what is really important (often ZIEGLER CONT. FROM P15 try to stay alive forever. He will surely die because he will surely fail. And regarding the first question, what should one do if he wants to keep on living? Let him find an idea, a cause, a purpose in life, which is more significant than his own life. Then, even if he dies in pursuit of that goal, his life shall have gained ultimate meaning, and he himself will be linked to eternity. I know of many such people and I’m sure you do too, whose lives are linked to eternity because even after they have left this world, the cause of their life 16 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com towards the goal of creating a personal and/or organizational vision and mission statement) and seeks to help people live lives that are filled with passion and purpose. Coaching offers people a thinking partner, someone with whom to investigate and reveal underlying patterns of operating. Oftentimes, these patterns undermine your ability to achieve the way that you wish to. Coaching should not be confused with therapy. Therapy focuses on the past and how to remedy behaviors and thought processes. It is an important process in supporting people in developing a strong ego structure in order to live in well-being in the present. In contrast, coaching is transformational and forward thinking. It focuses on future aspirations and encourages practices that exercise, strengthen and expand people’s capacity to achieve their desired results. We all have dreams, but too many of us are afraid of pursuing them for fear what lies in the great unknown. Coaching attracts people who are willing to take a leap into the unknown territory of their future. It is far more powerful than problem solving, which addresses the symptom but not the root cause of the symptom. Discovering the root cause gives you choice where presently there appears to be none. May we merit utilizing the Sefirah period properly, to focus ourselves on our true purpose and aspirations, a climb that will bring us, be”H, to the loftiest levels of sanctity, holiness and self-fulfillment. Rabbi Naphtali Hoff is an executive coach and president of Impactful Coaching and Consulting (ImpactfulCoaching. com). He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at nhoff@impactfulcoaching.com. goes on. Just to name a few causes that come to mind: “Hatzalah” , “Yad Sarah,” “ Chai Lifeline,”, “Aleh”, “The Chicken Lady of Jerusalem”, “Tomchei Shabbat,” “Kav L’Noar”, Retired doctors and dentists-offering free service to the poor and destitute, etc, etc. There is no end to the list. When the Torah mandates “VaChai Bahem”- It charges us with living a life that has meaning and purpose, of doing something that will improve the life of others and create a better world. Shabbat Shalom from Yerushalayim, Rabbi Aharon Ziegler [aharonlibby@aol.com] 5/6/16 GEWIRTZ CONT. FROM P13 entered into the spreadsheet, and told her I would e-mail it later. She questioned me intently about her task, and pointed to some numbers on the side of the page, asking what they were for. I told her to ignore them as they had nothing to do with the current project. I e-mailed her the spreadsheet but the next day she said she couldn’t open the file. I sent it again. Once again she couldn’t open it. I copied the file onto a flash drive and brought it over myself. I plugged it into her laptop and realized the problem – she didn’t have Microsoft Office or its sub-program Excel on her computer! She had lied to me about being experienced with the program and wasn’t even fazed by it. She said, “I figured it’s like any job where you say you can do it and you learn as you go along.” I was stunned by the dishonesty and was shocked when she asked to be paid for marking up the pages I’d left with her and made notations on the numbers I’d told her to ignore! point I want to make: Those who have used Excel are familiar with formulas. These sometimes confusing strings of numbers, letters, and symbols guide the software in performing powerful tasks. If you looked at a printed spreadsheet you might see a number, but if you clicked on the box in the software, you’d find a complicated calculation taking into account many variables to provide that number on the printed page. We need to realize that there is so much more to the Torah that what we see or take at face value. There is a complex structure intertwined with all of creation and each mitzvah or word of Torah is connected to each other mitzvah or word of Torah. Just dressing or acting a certain way is like erasing the formula and typing in the number without understanding why it was there. ROSENBERG You might be correct in this very specific moment but in any other scenario, you’re miles off base and you’ve got an error. In order to excel in life, it’s not sufficient to just fill in the blanks. We need to understand what’s behind them, and strive to be proficient in understanding what the Boss wants from us. plentiful, and divorced moms often succeed in holding down a job and raising the kids, even on their own. But what about the single dad? Cut off from family life, cash-strapped, and occasionally pushed around by nasty exes, they may struggle to find their footing in the aftermath of divorce. Can a single father maintain his relationship with his kids, hold onto his self-worth, and persevere in the face of the many challenges ahead? He can, but only if he knows how to go about it. Here are some do’s and don’ts for the divorced dad: Recognize your role. Don’t abandon your kids, even if they don’t Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook.com/RabbiGewirtz and follow him on Twitter @RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter. com, where you can order a custommade speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe in the subject. CONT. FROM P3 CONT.ON P25 I had mercy on her and paid her because she was a widow but I was very upset. I relayed to Rabbi Issamar that this is why you should not accept an opportunity when you don’t know how to do it -- with one exception. If the boss tells you that you can learn on the job and that it’s you that he or she is interested in; that he sees potential in you and wants you as part of the organization, then you are not misleading anyone by going in unprepared. That’s an opportunity you should jump on, as Mr. Branson said, and then throw yourself into the learning of the job so you can succeed. We are now in the weeks of Sefira when we count the days to Shavuos and Kabbolas HaTorah. These days are meant to be our learning time, when we prepare ourselves for success in this great opportunity. HaShem, by taking us out of Egypt, expressed an interest in us and declared His full faith in our potential and ability to do the job. We’re being given the chance not just to learn, but to excel. This brings me to one final To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 17 5/6/16 ALEC BORENSTEIN Reclaim Your Energy After Pesach! Every year I have the same postPesach moment of dread. It’s the time when I get undressed, turn on the shower, and right before I get into the shower, I face my scale. Before I step on it, I think: I ate so bad this Pesach. I’m in such trouble. OK, I have to be brave, I have to face up to whatever it says. Here goes. And I take the leap. Or more like a step. Onto the scale. This year I only gained 4 pounds. Phew. Other years I’m not so lucky. My wife actually lost a pound - how did that happen?! We often use weight as a measure for how we are doing, how we are feeling healthwise. However, what we should really be looking at is energy. How are your energy levels? Do you go about the day excited for life? Do you wake up with a smile on your face knowing that today is going to be a great morning? Or do you wake up tired, go to work tired, work tired, go home tired, and watch TV tired? The quality of your life often corresponds to the quality of your energy. If you’re tired all the time then you are living a tired life. If you live life exuberant, on fire, then you have an exuberant life. You know this to be true. Think about your best days. What were your energy levels like on those days? Think about the days where everything went wrong. What were your energy levels like on those days? One of the most important things I have learned is that energy is a psychology. Energy is a way of life. Energy is a choice. Wednesday, May 18th Join the most important single day of advocacy for stronger US-Israel relations. Meet directly with Members of Congress and their staff to make a true impact. Roundtrip transportation to Washington, DC with Glatt Kosher meals included. Last Day to Register: Wednesday, May 11th Register at NORPAC.net or call (201)788-5133 Rates: Adults -- $175, Students -- $125 *Rates include round-trip busing, 3 Glatt Kosher meals, scheduling, training, and all materials. Minimum age: 12 and up. Paid for by NORPAC 18 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com I can hear many people say in response: How can you tell me that energy is a choice - my life is truly exhausting? I have to wake up early with my kids, get them out the door, go to work, get home, make dinner, get the kids to bed, then maybe, just maybe I have a little time to watch television and head to bed. Do you think I have any energy to talk with my spouse? How can you tell me it’s a choice? My life is truly exhausting! Yes, your life (and most people’s lives) are exhausting. But if you search below the surface you’ll often find a belief frames your psychology about your day. A couple of months ago I went away for a weekend to do some personal work on myself. Right before the weekend I was not in the best place. I was fatter than I should have been, I was constantly tired, and I didn’t feel as though I was on the right path. And so I went to this weekend seminar to help get me on the right track. During the seminar we learned (among other things) that we all have beliefs that either help us or hinder us as we go about this life. These beliefs are so central to who we are that we will almost do anything to make sure our lives correspond to our beliefs so that we don’t feel out of balance. For instance, if you have the belief money is the root of all evil, then you will most likely be poor because your subconscious mind will do everything in its power to make sure your life matches your beliefs. But if you have the belief that money is power, that money is a tool you can use to help others, then you will be more giving and will have a different relationship with money. This is the power of our beliefs. They shape our destiny, and often we did not even create them in the first place. Our beliefs are the lenses through which we see the world, but if we are unconscious about them then we will not have the ability to change them. What I uncovered that weekend was that I had the unconscious belief that life was exhausting. I used to believe: Life is hard. Life is exhausting. And because I had that unconscious belief it was producing the kind of life I did not want. Once I decided to change that belief I lost 15 pounds quickly, I have more time for my family and for my spouse, because I have more energy for them. I chose energy and my life has been so much better since. If you find yourself tired all the time then you should ask yourself, “What do I believe about life? Life is (fill in the blank).” This belief, especially as it relates to your energy, has shaped and will shape the rest of your life. If you believe that life is exhausting, you’ll live your life much differently than if you believe that life is exhilarating. Let’s get practical. If you find yourself tired all the time, and you want to reclaim your energy, then do this: First, uncover your hidden belief about life, especially as it relates to energy. Ask yourself, what is life all about for me? Life is _______. Second, ask yourself, what has this belief cost you? Thinking that life is exhausting has cost me a fulfilling relationship with my spouse, with my children, etc. Get specific. Feel the pain this belief has cost you. Third, what new belief about life do you want to have? How will that make your life better? If you truly lived this way, what would it look like? Get specific. If you can really associate to how amazing you’ll feel when you are full of energy, then you’ll start to get yourself closer to where you want to be. Lastly, get grateful. The more you focus on gratitude the happier you’ll be and more energized you will feel. What are three things you are grateful for? What are three moments you are grateful for? What did you feel in those moments? Step into them. As we journey our way out of the matzah, know that you don’t have to live life in slow motion anymore. You can change your beliefs about your life. You must change your beliefs about your life, and choose energy. Remember, the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your energy. Reclaim your energy. Alec Borenstein, Esq., an estate planning attorney, is a Teaneck resident with offices in Springfield and Brooklyn. His firm’s website is bmcestateplanning.com. If you’d like a free estate planning consultation in the comfort of your own home or office, please email alec@bmcestateplanning. com. 5/6/16 JUST A THOUGHT | Aharon E. Wexler On Shoah Education This week Jews around the world observed a day of remembrance for the six million Jews slaughtered in the Shoah. We are a very peculiar generation in terms of our relationship with the Shoah. On the one hand the Shoah weighs heavily upon us and affects our minds, thoughts and actions in ways that psychoanalysts will be studying for generations to come. There is hardly a Jewish newspaper printed in the world, or even an Israeli daily that does not mention the word Holocaust in some form or fashion in every single issue. We think of the Shoah every time we renew the family passports. When we throw away perfectly good food or sweep crumbs from under the table, the thought of starvation in the Shoah comes to mind. We think of the Shoah whenever we see a particular mustache or hand gesture and fear one when a politician uses certain forms of rhetoric or speech. For some of us, even the sound of the German language brings the Shoah to mind. The Holocaust is so pervasive in our community that many fear it has become the new religion of Jews, adding to the Law of Moses a ‘614th command’, Remember! Shoah? We may speak of the S.S., but how many of us know what the letters stand for or the difference between them and the brown uniformed Nazis? Even the word ‘Nazi’, where does that term come from? What does it mean? What’s the difference between Himmler, Goering, and Hess? We may have mourned the six million, but how many of us have any real notion of how we came up with the number? We often talk about Hitler gassing six millions Jews, but the reality is that there were millions of Jews were shot with bullets or died of starvation and disease and never saw the inside of a gas chamber. Not only that, Hitler himself not only never visited a death camp, but he never actually physically harmed a Jew in his life! Ironically, the nameless camp guard was personally responsible for the death of tens of thousands under his watch, while Hitler himself kept a safe distance and never got his hands dirty. Everyone has heard of Auschwitz and Treblinka, but did you know that there was a death camp called Belzec in which close to a million of our people were killed? I had not even heard of the camp until I studied Holocaust Studies as a graduate student. (Part of the reason I had not heard of it was that barely anyone actually survived to speak of it. But still, how is it possible that there was a death camp that I had not heard of till I was in my mid-twenties??) Yet the answer to these questions, while important, are dwarfed by another question: What does the refrain “Never Again!” mean? Never again what? Have you ever stopped to think what “Never Again” is referring CONT.ON P24 These examples though, are actually signs of success. It means that Shoah consciousness has permeated even a Jewish experience such as ours which could not be more different from the realities of Nazism. Our schools have done their part. Hollywood has done theirs. Those movie moguls really hit it out of the ball park in the amount of good quality movies depicting the destruction of European Jewry. It has been said before that there is no business like Shoah business and Hollywood has definitely supplied the merchandise. Yet, there is the other hand. While we are a generation that is Shoah aware we are also Shoah ignorant. How many of us even know what the word Holocaust means? What’s the difference between that term and the word To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 19 5/6/16 STRATEGIES | Rifka Schonfeld Director of S.O.S. (Strategies For Optimum Success) READERS: AGES & STAGES It’s a snowy day in February and Gitty is curled up on the couch with her children, reading Dr. Seuss’s Oh The Places You’ll Go, “Congratulations! Today is your day! You’re off to Great Places. You are off and away!” All of Gitty’s children, even her third grader are huddled around the picture book. In some ways, Gitty is just passing the time on this long, cold day. In other ways, she is doing a lot more for herself and her children on that long, cold day. Beside the obvious enjoyable elements of reading with your children, there are other benefits to reading: • Speech proficiency. Simply reading books with rhyme schemes (by authors such as Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle) can help your child reinforce the basic sounds that form language. This later helps children with pre-literacy skills as they grow. • Elementary book skills. Children do not automatically know that books are read from left to right or that you hold a book and turn the pages as you go. As simple as that may seem, this early knowledge will help your children once they start encountering books in school. • Strengthening the parent-child bond: With our lives constantly on the move, you need some time to slow down and just quietly be together. Snuggling up with a book lets your family do just that. Plus, instead of seeing reading as a chore in the future, your child will view it as a nurturing activity that brings the family together. • Academic excellence. Julie Temple Stan, the director of Early Moments, a company devoted to childhood literacy, writes that “numerous studies have shown that students who are exposed to reading before preschool are more likely to do well in all facets of formal education. After all, if a student struggles to put together words and sentences, how can he be expected to grasp the math, science, and social concepts he’ll be presented with when he begins elementary school?” • Superior concentration and discipline. With so many new cases of ADHD reported each year, it is important to help children learn how to sit still. When children begin reading from a young age, along with comprehension comes more self-discipline, a longer attention span, and better memory retention. Reading Ages and Stages As your children get older, you should never stop reading to them, but what are some benchmarks that you should look out for in order to ensure that your children are lifelong readers? AGES 3-5: How to Encourage Further Development At this age, reading with your children is essential. You can also point out text in your everyday routine – on the cereal box, on street signs, and in the supermarket. You can also play word games with stamps or stickers, writing out words yourself and then having your child copy them with stamps or stickers. Additionally, it is important to be aware of potential problems, as early intervention is key to successful remediation. At this age, speech delays are more easily detectable than reading delays, but if your child has trouble identifying rhymes between two simple words or cannot distinguish between random squiggles and letters, it is a good idea to get in touch with your pediatrician. AGES 6-7 How to Encourage Further Development Get involved with your child’s reading at home by knowing what they are doing in school. If your child was assigned to read a Cam Jansen mystery, take fifteen minutes and read it before bed one evening. When reading becomes a communal activity, it is more exciting and enjoyable. In addition, if your child is reading a book (any book that is appropriate), you shouldn’t pass negative judgment on it (even if it is a silly topic or below grade level). Reading breeds more reading and that is the goal. CONT.ON P35 If you are concerned about your child’s development in this areas, you probably should only take further steps if your child has trouble remembering new words, has difficulty putting different syllables together CONT.ON P24 20 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 5/6/16 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 21 5/6/16 Homemade Granola Un-Stuffed Cabbage Recipe JAMIE GELLER LEVANA I love the simplicity of the recipe for making your own granola and the fact that almost any substitution works. Instead of raisins use dried cherries, cranberries or blueberries. Instead of almonds try walnuts, pecans or peanuts. If you have the palate of a pregnant woman you can just add all of the above. Ingredients: 6 cup old fashioned rolled oats 2 cup whole roasted unsalted almonds 1 cup pecan halves 1 cup unsweetened coconut flakes 2/3 cup brown sugar ½ cup maple syrup ½ cup olive oil 1½ teaspoon kosher salt 2 cup raisins Preparation: Preheat oven to 275° F. Lightly spray 2 sheet pans with cooking spray. In a large bowl combine oats, almonds, pecans and coconut, toss together. Spread evenly in a single layer between 2 prepared sheet pans. In a second bowl combine brown sugar, maple syrup, olive oil and salt. Pour evenly over oat mixture. Bake for 1 hour, tossing with a spatula every 15 minutes for even browning. Remove from oven, let cool 15 minutes. Once cool mix in raisins. Store in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 1 month. Five Beauty Mistakes You Should Never Make RACHELI FRIED Pesach is over and done with, the dishes are packed away. Another one in the books! As I was reuniting with the makeup that I set aside for Pesach, it make me think about some beauty/makeup mistakes that I used to make and have since learned not to anymore. I figured I’d share them with you so that you don’t learn them the hard way. 1) I’m not sure where I read this or who told me this would be a good idea, but I used to comb out my hair in the shower. Figuring I had the conditioner softening in my hair, I should detangle it in the shower so I wouldn’t have to work as hard when I was out. Big mistake! The warm water and steam inside the shower temporarily opens up your hair follicles and when you brush it out, your hair more easily falls out. Wait until after you get out, the follicles close 22 up from the cooler air to detangle those tresses. Your head will thank me. 2) Speaking of your hair, have you ever paid attention to how they wash it in the salon? I used to make the mistake of scrubbing all of my hair on top of my head but have since learned that this is a mistake. In the salon, they apply the shampoo to your scalp and scrub it in circular motions and then glide the suds down To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com Ingredients: ¼ cup olive oil 1 large onion, quartered 4 ribs celery, peeled 2 Granny Smith (green) apples, unpeeled, quartered 1 large bunch dill, fronds and stems 3 pounds lean ground beef or turkey (ground lamb will work perfectly too) 1 medium head white cabbage, center cores discarded, sliced very thin (food processor) 1 cup golden or dark raisins 1 1/2 cups short grain brown rice 6 cups canned crushed tomatoes 6 cups unsweetened cranberry or pomegranate juice ¼ cup tomato paste 2 tablespoons cinnamon 2 tablespoons paprika 4–5 bay leaves, or 1 teaspoon ground Salt (go easy on the salt, as the meat is salty) and pepper to taste Instructions: Heat the oil in a wide-bottom pot. the length of the hair and gently work it in to cleanse the strands. When you create that rat’s nest of scrubbing action on top of your head, not only do you make a knotty mess, but you also cause breakage. Not cute. 3) This next mistake is one I still sometimes make but not intentionally. As a busy mom, I oftentimes lose track of time and get distracted easily. Once a week (if I’m lucky), I like to treat myself to a nice face mask (and scare my kids in the process-I usually resemble a green zombie:). The directions call for leaving it on for around 10-15 mins but time and again I busy myself with something else-like packing lunches and before I know it, 45 minutes passed by. This usually results in over drying my skin and flaking when that is certainly not the intention. Always follow the directions on the back and rinse or peel off the mask accordingly. Nothing like that post mask glow! 4) This one is my favorite-I see this all the time and I cringe. Pumping mascara-how many of you still do that? Yes I know you think it helps you get more product on the wand, but by In a food processor, coarsely grind the onion, celery, apples, and dill. Add the ground mixture to the pot, and sauté until translucent. Add the meat and sauté a few more minutes, stirring and breaking it up, until no longer pink. Add all remaining ingredients and bring to a boil. Reduce the flame to medium low and cook covered for 1½ hours, stirring occasionally to avoid scorching, or a little longer, until the cabbage and the rice are very tender and the liquid in the pot is nice and thick. Transfer to a platter and serve hot. Makes a dozen ample servings. doing this, you are causing air to get inside the tube and drying up the product much faster. Want to get every last drop of product out? Simply put your mascara in a cup of hot water for a few minutes and you’ll be amazed at how effective this is. And finally, 5) Change out your makeup sponges often. Sponges absorb. That’s what they do, right? So when you powder your face, you are not only applying product to your face, but the oil and dirt from your face gets transferred onto the sponge. Think about a week’s worth of oil sitting on that sponge and re-applying that gunk back onto your face. Not a good idea to say the least. Unless you want clogged pores-yuck! You can get a huge pack of disposable sponges and applicators from the Dollar Store or if you have patience, clean your sponges with a little baby shampoo and water but do this often for a more sanitary makeup experience. I’m sure for most of you, these tips were obvious...but for some of you-I hope this was helpful and it saves you from unnecessary beauty mistakes. 5/6/16 Cran-Nut Energy Truffles My name is Yechiel Michoel Friedman. I was murdered in Auschwitz and don’t you ever forget me. REYNA SIMNEGAR heart or as desired. Ingredients 1 cup walnut or almond pieces 1 cup silan date syrup Pinch salt ½ cup sweetened dried cranberries (craisins) These easy raw vegan Cran-Nut Energy Truffles will satisfy your sweet tooth and give you an energy boost at the same time. Optional: Place a whole cranberry inside the truffle and reshape as a Preparation 1. Place walnuts or almonds in a food processor fitted with a metal blade. Process until a paste forms. Add date syrup and salt until well mixed. Add cranberries and mix. The dough will be crumbly and moist but easy to mold into truffles about 1-1/2 inches in diameter. TRUE HEALTH | YAEL TUSK IS IT POSSIBLE TO TREAT STREP WITHOUT ANTIBIOTICS? A number of years ago, I wrote an article for a magazine on the subject of Chinese Medicine and acupuncture. I mentioned that Chinese Medicine can “treat conditions ranging from strep throat to indigestion to insomnia”. The following week, friends a doctor wrote an irate letter in response to my article. The physician felt that it was irresponsible to suggest alternative treatments for strep throat, mentioning the potential danger of untreated strep developing into rheumatic fever. While it has been accepted as a hard fact, many are unaware that the connection between strep throat and rheumatic fever is an unproven theory. Setting rheumatic fever aside for the moment, this doctor believed that employing options other than antibiotics leaves the condition “untreated”. I beg to differ. There are plenty of alternatives to antibiotics that work. They are often much more effective than antibiotics. People rarely come to my clinic for an isolated incident of strep throat. Usually they are suffering from chronically recurring infection. Most of them have taken antibiotics many times. Some have even been prescribed a continuous low dose of antibiotics (see below about drug-resistant Murdered at Auschwitz bacteria). And yet the infection keeps returning! These children (or adults) are often not catching strep; the disease lies dormant in their body. In chronic cases, the bacteria “come back to life” and strike again. Even the biggest fans of modern medicine seek alternatives, when tonsillectomy (surgical removal of the tonsils) becomes the only remaining option... While antibiotics may on occasion be lifesaving, repeated courses often become ineffective or even harmful. Firstly, they create drug-resistant bacteria. What used to be a theoretical concern has now become a reality. The CDC (Centers for Disease Control) is constantly reporting new strains of super-bacteria that are impervious to antibiotics. Aside from strep throat, antibiotics are over-prescribed for a myriad of sometimes only potential conditions. Antibiotics also kill the beneficial gut flora (good bacteria), which is responsible for healthy digestion. Probiotics can balance out this effect somewhat. Live yogurt can also be given at a dose of 1 teaspoon 3 times a day during the course of antibiotics and for three days after completion. This amount of yogurt is all that BENJAMIN BRAFMAN I did not survive – I was murdered at Auschwitz. My name is Yechiel Michoel Friedman. I was “murdered” at Auschwitz. I did not die at Auschwitz. I was “murdered” at Auschwitz. None of you know me. None of the people in this room have ever met me; not even my own grandson, Ben Brafman, who many of you know, has ever met me. I have authorized my grandson to speak for me, because although I was murdered, I was not silenced. You must be reminded of my life and of my murder – not my death – my murder. The murder of my family – of your family – of so many families... This is my story – a true story. A sad, horrific story. My story, like so many of your stories, has a wonderful beginning, a very terrible middle and a tragic, horrible end that Baruch Hashem was not really the end, because although I and part of my family were brutalized and murdered, a part of my family miraculously survived – and because some did survive, my grandson is here to speak for me, to tell you “my” story, his grandfather’s story, my life story and my death story. The story of a life that was brutally taken from me, from my beautiful wife, Malka, my beautiful, sweet daughter, Sima, her young, handsome husband, Yaakov and their baby, my granddaughter, my “first” granddaughter, Chaya Sarah, my little Chaya Sarah, who at two years old was ripped screaming from her mother’s arms and thrown into an oven at Auschwitz as if she did not matter. I speak to tell you that my little Chayala did matter, we all CONT.ON P31 CONT.ON P29 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 23 5/6/16 SCHONFELD CONT. FROM P20 to form words, or avoid reading altogether. If you do notice one or more of these issues, it might be beneficial to get your child evaluated for reading delays. AGES 8-10 How to Encourage Further Reading Board games are great ways to encourage your blossoming reader. Games like Boggle and Apples to Apples inherently require simple reading that can help reinforce what your child is doing in school. It’s also great to keep a lot WEXLER CONT. FROM P19 to? What exactly is it that should never happen again? Is it the systematic wholesale murder of the Jewish people that is being referred to? So does that mean that other atrocities and injustices are okay? And if “Never Again” means that no people, no matter who they are should suffer, how 24 many of us are hypocrites for chanting those words while doing nothing for those people? You must certainly be aware that there are millions of people suffering right now whose pain can be alleviated if we were to just decide that it is important enough to us. How dare we sit in comfort while others suffer! Which brings us to another To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com of age appropriate reading material in the home. This way, when your child is bored, you can always point to a book for entertainment. Unless your child is avoiding reading, guessing at words rather than attempting to sound them out, or does not seem to understand anything he reads, there is probably not a reason for concern. In generally, children develop reading skills at different speeds. If, however, your child is struggling with reading and is acting out or withdrawing in class, it is a good idea to evaluate his reading skill. An acclaimed educator and education consultant, Mrs. Rifka Schonfeld has served the Jewish community for close to thirty years. She founded and directs the widely acclaimed educational program, SOS, servicing all grade levels in secular as well as Hebrew studies. A kriah and reading specialist, she has given dynamic workshops and has set up reading labs in many schools. In addition, she offers evaluations G.E.D. preparation, social skills training and shidduch coaching, focusing on building self-esteem and self-awareness. She can be reached at 718-382-5437 or at rifkaschonfeld@ gmail.com. You can view the web at rifkaschonfeldsos.com. Register now for an Social Thinking workshop by Michelle Garcia Winner on November 16,2016. Please call Mrs. Schonfeld at 718-382-5437 for more information. question, what is the purpose of Holocaust education? Is it our goal just to memorialize the dead; to make some macabre monument for those who have none? Is it to educate the young about the failures of Exilic existence? Is it to instill fear and loathing in our children about the ‘big bad goyim’ out to get us? If so, how do we properly frame our discussions of the Righteous Gentiles who risked their lives and property to save Jews? I’d like to believe (though I can never know for sure) that if I were a single man, that I would risk my life to save a family who needed hiding. But I am equally sure as well, that as a husband and father responsible for my own children, that when the time came I would not risk my family’s life to save another family. What does that say about me? One might say that this admission only means that I’m human. But I am a human who has been teaching Holocaust studies for over a decade. If even I, who confronts the questions of the Holocaust on a daily basis would not be willing to risk the life of my family to save another’s, than what again is the purpose of Holocaust education? Nevertheless, in a world of complete and utter darkness and moral bankruptcy, over 26,000 Gentiles made the choice to risk their own lives to save the life of a Jew. Scholars have studies these people to try to understand their motivations. They came from all walks of life: illiterate peasants, diplomats, captains of industry, farmers, nuns, priests, atheists, aristocracy, scoundrels, and at least one Muslim. Most started out as bystanders with no intention of getting involved, but when the opportunity to save Jews presented itself, they had to make a split second decision to extend aid or to ignore the plea. These men and women chose to risk everything and help the Jews. After extensive studies and interviews, the only common denominator between these disparate populations of Righteous Gentiles was their sense of humanity. It was not socioeconomic standing, religion, or level of education that influenced their decision. Which leads us to the answer to our question: The point of Holocaust Education is to teach us to find the humanity in ourselves and in others. It is correct that the Jews have no place in the world other than Israel. It is true that we live in a world of ‘Esav Sonei et Yaakov’. It is right that we Jews have only ourselves to rely on. But those lessons belong to theology, Zionism, and Jewish History. We Jews have always been the vehicle through which God teaches the world. It is our fate and destiny as being part of the Chosen People. Perhaps we were singled out in the Shoah for that very reason? If Holocaust studies do not teach us to see the face of God in every single human being then we have failed to give over the lesson of the Shoah. This article is being reprinted from The Jerusalem Post 5/6/16 The Body – Mind Connection Part II DR. RACHAEL E. SCHINDLER In a previous article titled, “The Mind/Body Connection”, I wrote that being a diet and exercise expert, as well as a pilates master, I work with a wide array of clients ranging from the highly motivated - extremely physically fit individual, to the exact opposite type; namely the unmotivated, sedentary individual who absolutely HATES to exercise. While many factors may play a role in a person’s lifestyle habits, i.e.: genetics, environment, physical injuries, etc.., many medical studies including my own dissertation concluded that there is a profound and undeniable connection between the effect of the mind (and/or spirit) on the body. This mind-body (and bodymind?) connection may be the CONT.ON P28 ROSENBERG CONT. FROM P17 live with you anymore. All children crave regular contact with their father, whether through phone calls, e-mails, or texts. Weekend visits are important, but don’t limit your contact with your kids to those visits. Let them know you care. Trust me, they’ll thank you for it. Seek help when necessary. As a group, women are often able to acknowledge that they can’t do it all and reach out for help, whether from family, friends, or community. Not so men, who prefer to put up a macho front and go it alone. If you’re a single dad, you may need help with meal planning, parenting advice, or laundry knowhow. Pick up that phone and call someone. Don’t try to do it all, especially at the expense of your kids’ comfort and safety. Money isn’t a weapon. Don’t withhold child support in order to punish your ex. It’ll end up filtering down to the kids, who will realize they can’t trust you. Retaliation is tempting, but it’s not the goal: healthy kids are. Likewise, don’t badmouth. Your kids may hear a lot of negativity about you, but if you take the high road and refrain from returning the favor, they’ll ultimately realize which parent they can trust and which they can’t. Treats yes, free reign no. Kids need structure and stability in order to thrive, even if they’re in your house only once a week. Create routines for them during the times they’re with you: dinner, bath time, and bedtime at predictable times will make your time together much more manageable. Spoil them a bit by buying special treats or renting a movie, but don’t overdo it and return them to their mom sugar high and sleep deprived. Make the minutes count. Take the time to get to know your kids when they’re with you. Ask them about their day, find out about their friends and activities, plan outings and play games together. Turn off your phone and focus on them so they know you really care. Don’t restart till you’re ready. It may be tempting to turn your back on your past relationship and move right into the next one. Don’t do it. Statistics show that 80% of divorced men remarry the same type of woman they married the first time, leading to a similarly unhappy marriage or a second divorce. Before you start dating again, process what went wrong in your first marriage and own your part of the story. Your future family will only gain. Let go of the baggage. If you find your dating always seems to end at the same point, it’s a sign that you’re stuck somewhere in the process. Most of us find it hard to be objective about our own role in a failed relationship. If necessary, find a professional who can help you let go of the baggage and move on. Don’t lose hope. Always look for the light, no matter how bleak your situation is. Use your time alone to grow as a person, as a father, and most of all as a future partner. If you do the internal work necessary, you’ll start off your next relationship on firmer ground, and you – and your kids – will be better off. Single dads may not find it easy, but they can free themselves of past heartache and rebuild their lives, with a new partner or without. Hard as it may be, they’ll be glad they did. CROSSWORD ANSWER FROM PAGE 6 2251 VICTORY BOULEVARD STATEN ISLAND 718.494.1492 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 25 5/6/16 26 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 5/6/16 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 27 5/6/16 Rabbi Eliyahu Kirsh From Rashi & Ahavas Sholom of Kossov Acharei-Bull and Ram, Korbonos of Yom Kippur. Deeper Meanings [From Yalkut Shimoni, Kli Yakar and Ahavas Sholom of Kossov] Parshas Acharei opens with the service of the Kohen Gadol on Yom Kippur. Aharon was not to go into the Kodesh kodashim, holy of holies, at any time except on Yom Kippur. And even then he was to wear white linen garments and not his usual vestments that contained gold as well as other luxurious materials. Moreover, he was to bring all of the daily offerings as well as the special korbonos of Yom Kippur which include a bull and a ram. The bull and ram as well as the other korbonos are understood by the chachamim throughout the ages as allusions to broader concepts. The Yalkut Shimoni quotes Chazal that the bull is a hint to Avraham Avinu who ran to the cattel to obtain meat for his guests. The ram is a hint to Yitzchak who was substituted at the akeidah, binding with a ram. The goats are a hint to Yaakov Avinu who brought the two goats to his father to receive his brachos. This can be understood to mean that the Aharon Hakohen needed the merits of our illustrious patriarchs to be worthy of entering the kodesh kodashim. The Kli Yakar brings this Midrash as well and adds that there are opinions that the events mentioned above took place on Yom Kippur. There are various opinions as whether these events took place on Yom Kippur or Pesach. Interestingly, Chazal explain the offerings by the princes of the tribes at the time of the dedication of the Mishkan in a similar manner. [See Rashi on Bamidbar chapter 7.] The Ahavas Sholom of Kossov explains the bull and ram as hints to the traits needed to enter the kodesh Kodashim. Aharon is a hint to wisdom and chesed. However, with these traits alone, Aharon cannot enter the Kodesh kodashim .The entrance must be accompanied by the bull for a chatas, sin offering and the ram for an olah burnt offering. The ram in this case is a hint to love for Hashem as Cahzal tell us in Zechaim7b that when a chatas and olah are brought the chatas comes first. This is because atonement is required befor bringing an olah a gift of love for Hashem. The bull is the chatas representing fear of Hashem and the ram, in this case being an olah represents love for Hashem. Aharon needed these two traits to do his service for all of Klal Yisroel. We learn this concept for our avodas Hahsem as well. In order to grow in pour relationship with Hashem we need love and fear and not just intellect or even chesed by itself. In fact, we commonly find in chassidus the analogy of love and fear of Hashem being the wings of the bird. While the wings are not necessarily essential to the life of the bird, nevertheless they are essential for the flight which is symbolic of our flight to become close to Hashem. SCHINDLER quality of life by increasing any one or more of these areas: Academic performance, career success, healthy socialization, self-esteem, personal goals, artistic expression, confidence, and overall life enjoyment. Now, the secret behind these peak brain health benefits is incredibly exciting and significant... but surprisingly simple. The latest research suggests the peak brain health solution is a three-step strategy: exercising the body, challenging the mind, and getting the right nutrition. CONT. FROM P25 most important health insight in the history of mankind. With roots in traditional Chinese medicine and Ayurvedic medicine dating back thousands of years, health-related mind/ body philosophies are now making a comeback. Nowhere is this resurgence more exciting than in the one area of health that is most critical to overall quality of life, namely cognitive function or “brain power”. For not only can the mind affect the body but in this series of articles, we will explore how the body can affect the brain in a profound manner. To date, this mind-body medicine Renaissance coincides with exciting new discoveries about how our brains age and how we may keep our brains young, literally. Of all these brain discoveries, the most significant is neurogenesis (literally, birth of neurons), or the process of brain cell regeneration. First identified in a landmark 1998 study, neurogenesis disproved the century-old belief that neurons only regenerated during brain development. In addition to its obvious potential to boost cognitive performance, neurogenesis opened an intriguing new door to peak cognitive longevity -adults as old as 72 have been shown to make brand new neurons! So, with emerging brain function advancements, people from all walks of life and all age groups can supercharge their brainpower in the here-andnow, which may hold incredible promise in terms of raising 28 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com Have I now piqued your interest a little? So how does one reach this brain-pinnacle? Well, imagine you are standing before a mountain. At the mountain’s pinnacle is peak cognitive function: astonishing clarity of vision, crystal-clear mental processing, razor-sharp memory, positive mood, and the capacity to absorb and retain new learning and knowledge. To climb to the top, you need to leverage the following three cutting edge brain discoveries: Discovery 1: Exercise boosts brainpower. In essence, ascending the mountain in itself sharpens cognitive function, because emerging evidence suggests that exercise helps optimize brain function by promoting cardiovascular health and good circulation, which helps deliver nourishing nutrients, glucose, and oxygen to the brain. Aerobic exercise also produces neurotrophins, which promote new synapses and make the neural membranes suppler -this is critical for building, rebuilding, and protecting the brain’s neurons CONT.ON 35 5/6/16 TUSK CONT. FROM P23 is needed to introduce healthy bacteria. Larger quantities of yogurt can be unhealthy for many children. So why do illnesses become chronic in some people? Western medicine understands conditions like tonsillitis to be the result of a bacterial or viral infection. But if microorganisms were the only factor involved, there would be a far greater incidence of strep throat, being that strep has been found living in the tonsils of many well individuals! So why do some people get sick from the bacteria living in their bodies, while others remain completely healthy in the presence of the same micro-organisms? The obvious answer is that it depends a lot more on the state of the body than the presence of microorganisms. For example, of the very large number of people who have been exposed to the Epstein Barr Virus (as indicated by antibodies in the blood stream), only a small percentage suffer from debilitating illness (Mononucleosis). It is not the virus which causes exhaustion, but exhaustion that allows the virus to take hold. Diet and emotions also influence the body’s internal environment and can play an important role in illness. Poor eating habits, especially junk food, can weaken a person and may even feed infection. Regarding emotions; frustration or anger can be contributing Rabbi Dr. Bernhard Rosenberg HOLOCAUST WAS THE MURDER OF SIX MILLION JEWS could hurt the y over straining sic? The Holocaust is the systematic mass murder of European Jewry by the Nazis. The term Holocaust literally means a fire that causes total destruction .Yehuda Bauer, one of the world’s most eminent historians of the Holocaust, differentiates between the term genocide and Holocaust by defining the term genocide as partial murder .While there have been numerous instances of genocide, the total annihilation of a people was never an officially sanctioned purpose of a national government as it was in Nazi Germany. It is precisely this which differentiates the Nazi action against the Jews from other genocidal attempts against a people. The Nazis wished to conquer T.A.N.I. TANI the world and therefore threatened the very existence of every single Jew in the world. The principle target of the Nazis was always the Jews. Yes, it is true that as many as 50 million human beings were murdered by the Nazis and their collaborators. The Nazis destroyed the lives of Gypsies, homosexuals, the mentally disabled, Jehovah’s Witnesses, communists, socialists, trade unionists and religious opponents. But it was only the Jews who were singled out for the Final Solution. The Jews, according to Hitler were maggots, a virus that had to be eliminated. Hitler saw himself as the German Messiah doing God’s work by destroying the Jew. Let us not forget that all people with three or four Jewish grandparents were factors to chronic tonsillitis. Tonsillitis is not commonly seen in infants under two years old, but it often appears between the ages of two and three. Chinese Medicine explains, that the reason for this phenomenon is that at this age, children experience a lot of frustration (think: terrible two’s); they are struggling to communicate, and attempting to accomplish a lot of things but are often unsuccessful. At the age of six or seven, there may be another upsurge of tonsillitis, since this is an age when a child becomes more emotionally self-aware. While the approach of modern medicine is to vanquish the pathogen, traditional medicine looks first and foremost at the body’s environment. While there sentenced to death. Regarding the Polish population, there were no plans for total annihilation. Slavs were looked upon as being inferior Aryans; however Slovaks, Croats, and Bulgarians were Slavs who served as German allies, It was only the Jew that Hitler and the Nazis considered to be like the Devil and therefore inhuman. In the Jew Hitler saw the image of Satan. According to Hitler it was only the Jew who wished to dominate the world, and it was the Jew Hitler wanted to destroy. Hitler and the Nazis created a policy of selective mass murder against the homosexuals, Gypsies, Poles, Russians, prisoners of war, Catholic priests, Jehovah’s Witnesses’, the physically and mentally disabled, dissidents and others. But it was the Jew that was seen as a virus, a bacillus that had to be destroyed before it infected the entire world. It was the Jews who poisoned the mind of mankind. The policy of making the world Judenrein applied to the entire world. The group Hitler hated above all was the Jews. He are herbs that can kill microorganisms, the main treatment goal is to strengthen the body, so that it is capable of eliminating the pathogen and protecting itself from future infection. To treat and prevent illness, it is often not enough just to kill the bad guys; we must strengthen the good guy too. In modern medicine, the good guy is the pharmaceutical drug, in traditional medicine the good guy is you. Yael Tusk, M.S.O.M. is a general practitioner of Chinese Medicine in Jerusalem. She has been treating both adults and children for over a decade. She is a medical researcher who takes pride in debunking pseudo-science and empowering people to take control of their health. Feel free to contact her at yaeltusk@gmail.com to schedule a phone consultation or to receive her free newsletter. Look out for her upcoming myth-busting book on health. made himself the supreme racist. In his final hours, Hitler continued to urge the destruction of the Jew . Hitler had diverted trains and soldiers to Concentration camps when he desperately needed them for the war effort. Germany was destroyed due to this mad man and at the end all he could think about was murdering more Jews. My fear is that after the death of the final Holocaust survivor and eventually the death of the children of Holocaust survivors, history will be re-written and the Holocaust will no longer be a Jewish issue but rather a universal one. The number will no longer be The 6 million Jews but rather or 50 million casualties of war. Many still persist in saying there were six million Jews and 5 million non- Jews who were exterminated by the Nazis. We all should mourn and honor those who fought and died, Jew and nonJew alike. However, let us never forget and always remember that it was the Jews who were the primary target of Hitler and the Nazi regime. By: Leil Shishi & Emunah Publishing turn the music down, It’s too loud, it could hurt the kid’s ears! Do you want them to hurt their ears by over straining themselves in order to hear the music? To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 29 5/6/16 JNS.ORG: FULL NEWS COVERAGE U.K.’s Labour Party antiSemitism scandal widens with 50 suspensions: The scandal surrounding antiSemitism in the United Kingdom’s Labour Party deepened with additional suspensions of party members for making anti-Semitic posts on social media, only some of which have been revealed publicly thus far. According to the Telegraph, Labour has secretly suspended 50 of its members for anti-Semitic and racist comments over the past two months. Of these, only about 20 suspensions occurred within the last two weeks. Among the most recent suspensions on Monday, Nottingham City Councilor Ilyas Aziz was found to have promoted the anti-Semitic blood libel by posting that Jews should “stop drinking Gaza blood,” while Blackburn with Darwen City Councilor Salim Mulla re-posted a message by previously suspended Labour lawmaker MP Naz Shah about the “relocation” of Israel to the U.S. Mulla also alluded in August of 2015 on Facebook that Israel was to blame for the terror attacks in Paris in November, as well as the killing of Japanese prisoners captured by the Islamic State. “So we have France voting to give Palestine statehood, and all of a sudden they get attacked by ISIS. Then we have Japan giving Palestine $100M dollars to reconstruct Gaza and suddenly ISIS takes two Japanese hostages,” he posted. Among several posts, according to The Independent, Aziz also wrote that “Jews and Muslims lived together in the Middle East, in peace pre 1948. Perhaps it would have been wiser to create Israel in America it’s big enough. They could relocate even now.” In addition, later on Monday Burnley Councilor Shah Hussain was also suspended for telling an Israeli soccer player on Twitter that Israel was treating Palestinians like Adolf Hitler treated the Jews. The latest suspensions follow last week’s suspensions of Naz Shah for the revelation of how she suggested in a 2014 Facebook post that Israel should be relocated to the U.S. as a solution to the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, as well as Labour member and former London mayor Ken Livingstone, who told BBC Radio that Hitler initially “was supporting Zionism before he went mad and ended up killing 6 30 million Jews.” Since the suspensions of Shah and Livingstone, Labour Party leader Jeremy Corbyn has launched an independent review of anti-Semitism and racism within his party. But Corbyn himself has come under fire in the past for calling the Hamas and Hezbollah terror groups “friends,” and for his connections to a Holocaust denier. The antiSemitism scandal comes just days before an election for the mayor of London on Thursday. The winner will replace outgoing Mayor Boris Johnson. Hungary arrests 2 suspects in connection with murder of Israeli man: The body of a missing 40-year-old Israeli man was found in a forest in southern Hungary on Sunday. Ofir Gross, a Jerusalem native who was studying biomedical engineering in Germany, had not been heard from after last making contact with his family on April 21. Hungarian police believe Gross was murdered, and two local men were arrested in connection with the case on Sunday. Israel’s Foreign Ministry on Sunday confirmed the death of Gross. According to his family, Gross was visiting Hungary and had originally been staying with a friend in the southern town of Tiszakecske. He disappeared while he was apparently looking for somewhere to stay in the eastern city of Debrecen. Islamic State attack on synagogue foiled in Tunisia: A Tunisian newspaper has revealed that the Islamic State plotted to attack a synagogue in the country, but the plan was foiled. The local Al Chourouk newspaper reported on Monday that the terror group meant to target a synagogue in the coastal town of El Marsa, east of Tunis, but the Islamic State members who planned the attack were arrested before they were able to carry out the attack. A man informed the authorities that an Islamic State cell was planning to murder the synagogue’s caretaker and steal gold the terrorists believed to be present on its premises. He also reported the men wanted to murder local security officials and politicians, not making clear whether these victims were chosen for the ties with the Jewish community, Israel Hayom reported. There are about 1,000 Jews still living in Tunisia today. To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com Meanwhile about 7,000 Tunisians have reportedly joined the Islamic State in the past few years. In May 2015, the Israeli government warned Israelis not to travel to Tunisia due to a “high-level, concrete threat” that Israelis might be targeted by terrorists. opposed to late 2015 and the start of 2016. Suspect arrested in Florida synagogue bomb plot, FBI says: Israeli man wounded in stabbing attack in Jerusalem’s Old City: A 60-year-old Jewish man was moderately wounded in a stabbing attack outside of the Lion’s Gate entrance to the Old City of Jerusalem on Monday night. Israeli police said that the victim was stabbed in the upper torso by the terrorist, who then fled the scene. “The man was treated on site by Magen David Adom paramedics and rushed to Shaare Zedek Medical Center in light-to-moderate condition,” said Israel Police spokesman Micky Rosenfeld shortly after the attack, the Jerusalem Post reported. “The knife was found at the scene and police units are searching for the suspect,” he said. Despite Monday’s attack, there has been a significant decrease in Palestinian stabbing, shooting, and car-ramming attacks in Jerusalem during the past few months, as A man suspected of planning to bomb a South Florida synagogue has been arrested, the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) announced Monday. Sources in the bureau reported that a sting operation was orchestrated to thwart a terrorist attack at the Aventura Turnberry Jewish Center on Friday. WSVN, a Florida news outlet, quoted law enforcement sources as saying that FBI agents posing as terrorists were able to prevent the attack and apprehend the suspect, who had converted to Islam, they said. According to the report, the suspect “wanted to take CONT.ON P31 GAMER DOVIE’S How to solve a search and Find Puzzle WORD SEARCH The words can be located in the diagram by reading forward, backward, up , down and diagonally. All words will be found in a straight line with no letters being skipped. As you find each word, circle it in the diagram and cross it o the word list. Letters may be used more than once and words will often overlap. All the letters in the diagram may not be used. ANGRY BIRDS BIOSHOCK BRAID CENTIPEDE DEFENDER DIG DUG DOOM DRAW SOMETHING FABLE FRUIT NINJA GALAXIAN GEARS OF WAR HALF-LIFE HALO MYST PAC-MAN PITFALL PLANTS VS ZOMBIES POKEMON PONG PORTAL Q*BERT RESIDENT EVIL RIVER RAID ROCKBAND [THE] SIMS STARCRAFT TEMPEST TETRIS ANSWERS ON PAGE 36 5/6/16 JNS CONT. FROM P30 some kind of explosive device and chuck it over the wall. Friday was the next-to-last day of Passover, and the center was crowded with people observing the holiday.” The FBI stressed that the congregants were not in any danger during the sting operation or the arrest because the suspect was apprehended before having a chance to harm anyone. Congregants and neighborhood residents, however, were still agitated by the news of the potential attack. Resident Kim Tepper was quoted as saying, “It’s a very scary world, and you know what? I don’t think that anybody is safe anywhere. We always thought, living in this area, that we could be targeted.” School and an American team— ended in a 2:2 draw, but the defending American champion won due to a technicality. FIRST (For Inspiration and Recognition of Science and Technology) brings together more than 20,000 students from 24 countries for a sports-like tournament in which they pit their robots against one another in completing set tasks. The competition aims to turn students into the next generation of trailblazers, honing their technological and engineering skills while encouraging innovation and leadership. srael to reopen main crossing point into Gaza Strip for goods: Hamas man allegedly received $2,000 monthly salary for operating terror tunnel: Suspected Hamas terrorist operative Medhat Abu Sneima was indicted in Beersheba on Sunday for crimes including plans to attack Israeli soldiers along the Gaza border. Abu Sneima, 24, from Gaza, was arrested last month. According to the indictment, which lists 18 charges, he joined Hamas in 2007. In 2014, he allegedly paid $7,000 to become part owner of a smuggling tunnel from Egypt to Gaza. As such, he made $2,000 per month for operating the tunnel, earning a total of about $50,000—a huge sum in Gaza—during the two years the tunnel was active. The indictment stated that when Abu Sneima became part owner, the tunnel was about 1,640 feet long, but it was later doubled in length and ran under both Egyptian and Israeli territory. Abu Sneima and his partners are suspected of smuggling some 30 rifles, 10 trunks of ammunition, and 35 pipes in order to make 110-pound rockets through the tunnel. From 2014 to early 2016, Abu Sneima and his partners allegedly smuggled weapons to arms dealers in Gaza. IIsraeli team takes second place in prestigious high school robotics contest: An Israeli high school team from Binyamina, near Haifa, came in second place at the prestigious international FIRST Robotics Competition in St. Louis, Mo., from April 27-30. The final match—between the Orbit team of students from Binyamina’s Rothschild-Hashomron High Defense Minister Moshe Ya’alon on Monday announced the reopening of Israel’s Erez border crossing into the Gaza Strip for trucks and goods. “It is in our interests that a significant amount of truckloads of food continues to go to Gaza,” a spokesman for Ya’alon said in a statement, AFP reported. “It is our interest that Gazans live in dignity. Both from a humanitarian point of view and because this is a way to protect the peace, in addition to existing security deterrents,” he said. Despite the announcement, Ya’alon did not give an immediate timetable for the reopening of the Erez crossing, saying that this “will not happen tomorrow or the day after.” Currently, the Kerem Shalom crossing in southern Gaza in the only crossing for goods between Israel and Gaza, which is controlled by the Palestinian terror group Hamas. But according to Ya’alon, the crossing is facing congestion issues. “At least half of what currently goes to Kerem Shalom” will be redirected to Erez, Ya’alon said. The Erez border crossing was closed to the passage of goods in 2008 and currently only serves pedestrians. Israel has maintained tight control over Gaza’s air, sea, and land crossings since Hamas took control there in 2006, due to the terror group’s use of materials such as cement and metal to build tunnels and rockets to attack Israel. BRAFMAN CONT. FROM P23 mattered. Chaya Sarah was the only grandchild I ever knew and I loved her as only a grandfather can love a grandchild and Nazi killers murdered her, my Chayala and 1.5 million other Jewish children. They took our nachas – our life and our joy and our hope. They took our babies and turned them into ashes. Today, I speak to you as a neshama, as a soul from heaven, where I and millions of my brothers and sisters sit in a special place of honor reserved for us, for those you call Kedoshim – holy ones – whose lives were taken only because we were Jews, brutally taken less than 70 years ago, when a whole country became dominated by savages, while a civilized world stood by and through its silence, said that it was “okay to smash the head of a two year old child and then, while she was still alive, throw her screaming in terror into a burning oven, that it was okay to gas and cremate – to murder her parents and grandparents.” A civilized, cultured nation did this and a civilized world watched it happening and did nothing to stop our slaughter. The world heard our screams but did not care, the world smelled our burning flesh but turned away – the world heard my Chayala screaming for her mother and did nothing, because Chayala was a Jewish child and at that time – the systematic murder of Jewish children – undertaken in an efficient, organized manner by monsters in government-issued uniforms -was okay. Indeed, it was encouraged, applauded. The murderers were honored with medals, applauded as heroes for killing our children – for killing my grandchild. Smoke and Gas How did this happen to us? When did our world turn so bitter and dark? I remember our life before Auschwitz, a good life, a quiet, pious life, centered around my family, my wife, Malka, our daughters, Sima, Ruchele, Hencha, Hinda, my sweet little boy, Meir, CONT.ON P32 WHEREVER YOU GO... AMIGO! Sim Cards & Cell Phone Rentals For International Travel 888.AMIGO.US | W W W. A M I G O - U S . C O M To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 31 5/6/16 BRAFMAN CONT. FROM P31 Sima’s husband, Yaakov, and their baby, my zeis little Chayala. We lived in a small town in Czechoslovakia, Kiviash, right near the Hungarian border. I was a learned man, a Hebrew teacher. Our family was a good family. We were poor, but respected. We were honest, kind, sweet people who lived among other respected, softspoken, wonderful families. We had no enemies. I never even raised my voice in anger, never, until that day in Auschwitz, when they murdered my grandchild, then the world heard me, but did not listen, when they tried so hard to destroy my family. I screamed so loud, I cried so hard and long, but the murder continued. The smoke and gas roared and now I am still angry. Now, I raise my voice again, not to complain, but so that you will remember – so that you can wake up, because what happened to my family can happen again, it is happening again! Today, less than 70 years later, monsters are again threatening and murdering Jewish families, 32 murdering our beautiful children – just last month in Israel, in Itamar, the Fogel family was massacred and again, beautiful, little, innocent children were butchered because they were Jews. Udi and Ruth Fogel murdered because they were Jews! Their children, Yoav, age 11, Elad, age 4 and Hadas, age 3 months – slaughtered!! Their throats slit while they slept in their own beds. So I need to tell you about my own murder. I need to relive for you my horror, my terrible loss, so that you will understand and remember, so that you will feel the Shoah – what the world refers to as the Holocaust. It needs to be real for those of you who were not there. It is more than a word – Shoah. You must know the terror, not only to make you sad and angry, but to make you vigilant. If I upset you tonight, good! If my frankness and the terrifying description of brutal murder gives you nightmares tonight – good. I want you to be afraid and sad and angry and bitter and aware – but I also want you to be proud, because the end of my own story, although sad, was not the end. To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com Be comforted in the knowledge that “they did not win.” The Nazi murderers killed me and millions of Jews like me, but they did not win. They did not murder my whole family, or your whole family. The murderers and their army of monsters did not murder the Jewish people, they did not end Klal Yisrael – they made us stronger. Alive Today Jews are alive today. Israel is strong today, my family, your families, are here today, and we must keep reminding the world about our parents, grandparents, great grandparents and the children, who were gassed and cremated. My family is alive today to help you understand the quality of hate that can allow a country to burn and gas and bludgeon newborns, infants and toddlers; to machine gun them and throw them into mass graves or onto trucks and then while still alive, toss them into large ovens, or used while conscious and awake – for vicious, cruel medical experiments. So many children, small Kinderlach screaming for their Mommy and Tattie, for Bobbie and Zayde – can you hear them? Their screaming is so loud – I can still hear my Chayala, 70 years later. Can you hear them? Can you hear your family members? The families you never got to meet or know. Can you hear their screams? When you are in bed waiting to fall asleep, listen hard. If you try, you will hear them in your head and in your heart. Listen and you will also hear 12-year-old Tamar Fogel who, returning to her home in Itamar, after an Oneg Shabbat Friday night, only a few weeks ago, found her parents murdered, her three month old baby sister, Hadas, with her throat slit. Can you hear Tamar screaming? All of us, all the way up here in Heaven heard her screams; you should be able to hear her just across the ocean, her screams for her family, for every Jew whose child – whose life has been viciously taken just because they were Jewish. he difficulty in speaking CONT.ON P34 5/6/16 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 33 5/6/16 BRAFMAN CONT. FROM P32 about such horror and about so much grief is that it is so hard. It is almost impossible for the mind to process so much terrible information, it is almost impossible to make someone understand something so bad, it is hard to even imagine so much murder and torture and starvation, but you must. did nothing wrong and we also know that a civilized world did this to us, that a civilized world abandoned us. We are afraid to die, of the brutal, choking, burning death that is upon us, but we are so I will help you. I am going to be graphic and brutal, because it is the only way to make you get it, for you to really understand what it means when we say Holocaust – or Shoah – or talk about 6 million kedoshim. I am standing in the gas chamber naked with hundreds of innocent Jews. My wife, Malka, whose terrified eyes were already dead, is next door holding our daughter, Sima. Sima’s husband, Yaakov, is with me. We have already watched our Chayala cremated. We are already dead – the gas will just kill us again. We know we are not in a shower. We know we are in a gas chamber. We know we are going to die and we all know that we 34 much more afraid that nobody will ever know that we lived, that nobody will ever know that we were a good family; that we had beautiful, good children and that we had a beautiful grandchild. I was so afraid that nobody would ever know; that nobody in my family or in anyone else’s family would survive; that the “final solution” was really going to be final. Let me tell you something.... You think you know about prayer – you think you know To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com about faith because you are religious or because you pray every day? Let me tell you about real prayer, about real belief – in my gas chamber, as gas filled our lungs, as flames burned off our skin, we screamed “Ani Maamin,” we believe in you Hashem. With our dying breath we screamed, “Shema Yisrael Hashem Elokenu Hashem Echad” – my last words screamed through gas filled lungs, as I died, so afraid that my entire family had been, or soon would be, murdered. What wrenching sadness, what anger rose in my heart and raged through my mind – I pleaded to Hashem, not to be spared, but for nekama, for revenge! How, when, who would ever make this right, or get even for us, who would be alive to say Kaddish for us – to light a candle on our Yahrzeit – no graves, no headstones – no one alive to mourn our death – to even know of our life. Well, I am not here tonight in person. Yechiel Michoel Friedman was murdered at Auschwitz, but we were not all murdered that day, or the next day and some of my children, some of your children did survive and today, our children, our grandchildren, our great-grandchildren and now even our great-greatgrandchildren are alive. We live in the United States and all over the world as proud Jews, and we have the Land of Israel – do you hear that, Nazi murderers? We have Israel, a nation built by survivors. We have a Jewish army and a Jewish state. Our people are strong. We have powerful, eloquent voices demanding to be heard. My daughters, Hencha and Hinda, who were tortured for years, did not die and my daughter, Ruchele, who at age 15 escaped to America, married Shlomo Brafman, who also escaped – they did not die and their children and my grandchildren and greatgrandchildren are growing up as Shomer Shabbos Jews and tonight, my grandson is speaking for me CONT.ON P39 5/6/16 SCHINDLER CONT. FROM P28 (literally). Discovery 2: The brain is a “use it or lose it” organ, and mental workouts support peak mental functionality. As you seek secure footing and handholds and otherwise strategize your best path to the mountain’s peak, you’re sharpening cognitive function -because actively exercising the brain elevates cognitive performance. In other words, new learning builds new synapses on top of old synapses, which helps reinforce older synapses so they stay active. Challenging the brain with puzzles, reading, and other mental workouts appears to stimulate neural development. So, even as we age, an active brain stays sharp; a passive brain grows dull. Discovery 3: Specific quantities of certain nutrients supercharge mental performance and help prevent cognitive decline. Could you ascend to the mountain’s pinnacle without shoes or equipment? Probably not... that’s where special brain-nutrients come in. Neuro-nutrients are the climbing shoes, cables, grapples, protective clothing and energizing sustenance that enable you to climb to the highest peak of mental performance by helping the brain make new neurons, better enable nerve transmission, boost blood flow to the brain and bring more nutrients there in the process to supercharge the brain so that it can fire on all cylinders. So what are these miracle nutrients, you ask? I’ll tell you. Better yet, I’ll explain. When a baby is born, its brain already holds around 100 billion neurons, which means that over the course of a regular nine-month pregnancy, the fetus is developing new brain cells at a rate of 250,000 per minute. How does the fetal brain develop new cells so rapidly? This impressive phase of human development depends on building blocks for new brain cells, and research overwhelmingly shows that these neuronutrient building blocks are omega-3 fatty acids -especially DHA. A mother’s intake of essential fatty acids is a critical component fetal brain development, which explains why high concentrations of DHA are found in mother’s milk. In one DHA study, women at 18 weeks of pregnancy were given cod liver oil (containing 1,183 mg of DHA) or placebo oil until three months after delivery. All infants in the study were breast-fed until at least three months of age. Children whose mothers received the cod liver oil scored significantly higher on intelligence tests at four years of age than those whose mothers took the placebo. Another study of 135 babies found that the highest intelligence scores were among those whose mothers had consumed more than two helpings of fish per week; for each additional weekly serving of fish, the babies’ intelligence scores increased by 4 points, or an average of almost 7%. This improvement was attributed to the brain-nourishing Omega-3 fatty acids found in fish. Once a baby is born, external stimulation triggers waves of brain development, with statistically significant peaks in brain growth rates at age 7, 11 to 12, and 15 years. The good news is these “mental growth spurts” yield staggering results in terms of cognitive function. The bad news is that by the time we hit our twenties, our cognitive decline begins! fall into foggy thinking and impaired memory. Aging makes matters worse, as neurons, neurotransmitters, and blood flow to the brain all decrease over time. Dull thinking and faulty memory are no laughing matter. These symptoms are early warning signs of far more serious cognitive impairment conditions like dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. (Dementia is progressive cognitive decline with symptoms like disorientation, personality change, inattentiveness, and poor reasoning ability. Alzheimer’s disease is an irreversible mental decline caused by the gradual malfunction, degeneration, and ultimate deactivation of brain. Despite these heartbreaking conditions and their rising risk factors, it’s critical to stay positive and recognize a powerful truth: losing your mental edge is not a normal part of aging, and cognitive decline is not inevitable. In fact, modern research asserts that aerobic exercise, mental challenges, and proper amounts of specific nutrients may help stave off many forms of cognitive decline, so that you can get to and actually enjoy those “golden years”. Though old age is the biggest contributor to dementia, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, excessive drinking and especially poor dietary choices such as fatty, sugary, salty foods coupled with lack of physical activity and passive mental states escalate the gravity of the problem. An unhealthy lifestyle really makes a mental difference! In part II of this series I will show you how to put your brain on a proper diet that will boost your power and vitality! So stay tuned (literally)! Rachael E. Schindler, PhD. is a psychologist, founder of ”TheFiveTownsDiet” meals home delivery(www.litenlow.com/ dietdelivery/), Smart N’ Lite takeout meals at Season’s of Lawrence, noted lecturer and author, certified pediatric and adult nutrition counselor, certified personal trainer and celebrated group fitness instructor and Pilates master for over 20 years, practicing in Cedarhurst, Lawrence and Manhattan. A veritable “one-stop-source”, Dr. Schindler specializes in fitness, food, stomach problems, hormonal and behavioral issues for both children and adults. She can be reached to order, for an appointment, or for comments at Teichbergr@aol.com, or (917) 690 – 5097. In our 20’s you exclaim! Declining! Why do our brains decline so early in our lives? While genetics are partly to blame, many experts believe that environmental factors are increasingly responsible for inhibiting brain activity. Some of the more popular risk factors include: Smoking – which reduces brainpower by depleting macronutrients which we all need! Also our lifestyles are more sedentary than ever. This physical and mental passivity (think parking yourself in front of the TV for hours on end) contributes to brain decline! Here’s a big risk factor, chronic stress! Not to mention environmental toxins like pesticides, mercury and other heavy metals which are deadly to brain cells. Also don’t forget that hypertension, stroke, high cholesterol, diabetes, overconsumption of alcohol and chronic abuse of synthetic drugs like cough suppressants and antidepressants are all linked to what I call the “brain bust”. So in essence, bombarded with mind-numbing environmental elements and starved of critical nutrition, the brain can To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 35 5/6/16 THE MAHARAL TZINTZ AND THE RECOGNIZED SEGULAH THAT HAS BEEN PROVEN THROUGHOUT THE YEARS! UPON THE YAHRZEIT OF THE HOLY PLOTZKER GAON, THE MAHARAL TZINTZ ZT”L, 3 IYAR The news was greeted joyfully throughout the Torah world: The two volume enhanced edition of “Ayeles Ahuvim” on Maseches Kesubos is ready to be printed! What is the Rav’s Promise? It happened during the final minutes before the Rav’s departure from this world, on the 3rd of Iyar, 5593 (1833). When the Plotzker Gaon was about to depart for the Olom Ha’Emes, he asked for a wooden board and a quill, and with his last bit of strength, wrote the words that amounted to his last will and testament: “I will come to the defense of whoever shall exert himself to print my sefarim, if he has some merit.” Then the Rav commented: “A merchant does not display a sign in his establishment unless he has goods to sell!” On his matzeivoh in Warsaw, are engraved the simple but awesome words of the Rav’s will, his promise and legacy to future generations. A rare opportunity In honor of the gaon’s Yoma d’helula on the third of Iyar, the Machon Maharal Tzintz is now preparing to publish the gaon’s well-known sefer, the first of the many sefarim he authored, the Ayeles Ahuvim vol 3-4 on Maseches Kesubos. A donation of only $720 will sponsor 30 sets, $450 will sponsor 18 sets, and $250 will sponsor 10 sets. These prices cover both printing and distribution. In an effort to enable more people to take advantage of this unique Segulah, the Machon has established a convenient monthly payment plan option, whereby a small donation of $36 per month will suffice to allow for sponsorship in this project. These sefarim will be distributed to Battei Medrash, Kollelim and Yeshivos. You can designate which of these you want the sefarim you are sponsoring to be sent to. On the occasion of the gaon’s hilula, a group of selected bnei Torah will travel to his tziyun and offer their heartfelt tefilos there and specifically mention the names of all the contributors, and be me’orer rachamim on their behalf. To sponsor the sefarim, or for more information, please contact the Machon at 718-259-2395. You can sponsor 30 sets for $720, 18 sets for $450, 10 sets for $250 or 36$ monthly. Your kvitel may be faxed to 718-2564489 or emailed to tzintz@tzintz.org 36 Sudoku Puzzle ANSWERS TO THIS WEEK’S PUZZLES! Complete the grid so that every row, column and 3x3 box contains every digit from 1 to 9 inclusively. 2 9 5 1 4 7 3 6 8 3 4 1 8 2 6 7 5 9 6 7 8 9 3 5 1 2 4 4 5 2 6 7 3 8 9 1 7 8 6 2 9 1 4 3 5 9 1 3 4 5 8 2 7 6 8 2 9 7 6 4 5 1 3 1 3 7 5 8 9 6 4 2 5 6 4 3 1 2 9 8 7 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 5/6/16 Torah Connection PESACH PREPARATIONS IN YERUSHALAYIM NY BAR MITZVAH BOY UNVEILS FIRSTEVER MOBILE TECH LAB FOR ISRAELI KIDS AT CEREMONY IN JERUSALEM NOAH HELFSTEIN DONATES $76,000 FOR THE FIRST-EVER MAKER BUS THROUGH UJA-FEDERATION OF NEW YORK’S ‘GIVE A MITZVAH-DO A MITZVAH’ PROGRAM To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 37 5/6/16 Birchat Kohanim at THe Kotel BURNING CHOMETZ IN BROOKLYN RABBI JAKE’S MUSIC ENLIVENS CHAZAQ CHILDREN’S CHOL HAMOED CONCERT FIDF SUPPORTERS FROM THE US AND ISRAEL DEPARTING TO POLANDS On May 5, 2016, 50 Friends of the Israel Defense Forces (FIDF) supporters from across the U.S. will embark on an unprecedented mission to Poland and Israel with Holocaust survivors, G.I. liberators, and Israel Defense Forces (IDF) soldiers. 38 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • ads@jewishc.com 5/6/16 BRAFMAN CONT. FROM P34 in a shul with 1,000 proud, strong Jews who came to remember all of us tonight. So I do not have my life, but I have my revenge. In fact, my little boy, Meir, who they tried so hard to murder, he lived too. At age 16, he weighed 45 lbs. when found alive in a pile of corpses at Auschwitz. When liberated, he went to Israel, to Israel, where for 50 years he was a soldier in Tzahal – Israel’s army. A Jewish hero, he fought for 50 years in Israel’s army. My son, my Kaddish, he did not die in Auschwitz either. How proud I was to watch as he put on the uniform of an Israeli soldier to fight for our country, a Jewish community. They Will Not Win I am very sad and very angry and bitter that I did not get to enjoy the world of nachas that was mine, a world of nachas and pride and Yddishkeit that I had a right to live through and enjoy. The Nazis hurt me beyond words, but they did not win. Ladies and gentlemen, they only win if you forget – or now, if you allow the world to deny. They only win if we do not cry real tears when we hear about the slaughter of the Fogel family in Itamar. They only win if you cannot hear my Chayala screaming or feel the terror of Tamar Fogel, or her grandparents who must now face a quality of grief so savage that it is hard for you to grasp. Trust me – I know about the murder of a child and a grandchild and how that impacts on everything else. How everything else is forever shrouded in death and overwhelming sadness. The Fogel family will never recover but they cannot be forgotten. Here we are in a beautiful shul, with so many Jews. Good Jews. Strong, proud people who have not forgotten us, me, my family, your families – the parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, the children, the grandchildren – the babies who were murdered and gassed and buried alive. It is okay to cry for what we lost, for what was taken from you, for the lives lost, the nachas of family we were deprived of. Cry for us. We cry for you too, for what you lost, for the family you never met, for the millions of good, sweet Jews who did not live – for the students who never finished their studies, for the scientists and artists and musicians and teachers and Rebbes who never got the chance to excel, to perform, to teach, to cure, to live. It’s okay to cry for the children who never got to play, or sing, or laugh, who were put to death with such violence, with so much hatred that I cannot describe it in words as for certain levels of grief, there are no words. It is so bad that it cannot even be imagined by any decent human being, impossible to process rationally. But you must, because today, people are already questioning whether the Holocaust really happened. World leaders and scholars are already denying the Holocaust; they are challenging even the integrity of a handful of survivors, the eyewitnesses who are still alive, those who saw the horror with their own eyes. Even these heroic survivors are being doubted and am so afraid that in coming years, vicious, antiSemitic revisionists will tamper with history and the truth and we cannot – you cannot allow that to happen ever – never... I had a granddaughter, a charming, beautiful little baby girl named Chaya Sarah and she was murdered in front of my eyes and although her neshama, her soul, is in heaven with me, her memory must be emblazoned in your hearts forever. If our memory is really to be for a blessing, for our neshamos to really have the aliyah you ask for, an aliyah we have earned and paid so dearly for, then you must remember. You must make certain that your children and their children understand what happened to their family, to your family, to all of our families, or it will happen again. You think it cannot happen again? Why? Because you have good lives – you live in civilized times? We had a good life – we lived in civilized times. We were happy and complacent, but we were not vigilant and we walked right into a Holocaust. Our neighbors, an entire nation of ordinary men and women of intelligence and breeding and culture turned into monstrous, murderous animals who withdrew from humanity and imposed a level of brutality on us that cannot now be described and could not then, ever have been predicted – but that is exactly what happened. with clarity and force, so that hopefully some people in this room will never doubt the Shoah and you will take it upon yourself to confront anyone who dares to deny it and make them hear my story – your story, the sad but true stories of our families, whom we too often refer to as the “6 Million,” but rarely if ever refer use their names. It was even worse than the worst true story that any survivor can report, because the brain is not capable of capturing so much grief without exploding, so even those who survived, who saw it all, cannot fully capture the full horrific ordeal, the vicious detail. We have names. Our lives were taken, but they cannot take our names. Only a victim like me, only someone who did not survive, can tell you the whole, bad, ugly, demented, terrible truth about our murder, of 6 million murders. That, my friends, is why I chose to speak to you through my grandson from my seat in heaven and although Hashem does not permit me to tell you “why” these terrible things happened, I am commanded to discuss “what” happened. To tell you “what” happened My name is Yechiel Mechoel Friedman. I was murdered at Auschwitz with my wife, Malka and my daughter, Sima, her husband, Yaakov Weiss and my granddaughter, Chaya Sarah. Can you see them? 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