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THIS is The Deal… a magazine written
for you — young people — about living,
loving, thriving, sex, relationships,
HIV/AIDS and testing. It’s filled with
talk from real teens, soundbites with
sound advice from experts and
information on ways to protect your
health and your future.
In this issue: we take five to talk with Miss
Universe 2003 Amelia Vega (aka Amelita), a feature
quiz answers your questions on romance and safe ways
to kick it without riskin’ it, teens holla’ back about what
to know before looking for nookie and finally, finally,
finally, there’s a resource list at the end of The Deal
that you’ll want to check out — it provides essential
information on youth-friendly programs and HIV
testing and care.
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We hope you enjoy our fourth and latest issue.
Have a comment? Want to ask a question?
Send your thoughts to Adolescent AIDS
Program, 111 East 210th Street, Bronx, NY
10467 or TheDeal@adolescentaids.org.
What does Miss Universe 2003 have a hard time resisting?
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Reading the signs
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What’s real: Can you separate fact from fiction?
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Word!
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Questions about coming out? Flip to page
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Don’t Tune Out
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Getting Serious About Safer Sex? Turn to page
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Steamy, but Safe
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Dangerous Daze
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Condom Dos and Don’ts can be found on page
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Lo que se debe y no se debe hacer cuando se utilizan condones 20
In Control of Your Birth Control
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Why You Want to Get Tested is spelled out on page
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¿Por qué quieres hacerte la prueba...?
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Life After Getting Tested
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What’s Really Good. We’re all over that on page
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Ask Dr. Donna
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Know the Numbers
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Fresh from the Front Lines
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Crash Course on the Crisis
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Da 411: Resources
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At age 19, Amelia Vega dreams of becoming a singer, and we’re not
just talking the next American Idol. She has recorded a demo and
is working on her debut album. But first, Amelia, who hails from
the Dominican Republic, will focus on her current job… as Miss
Universe 2003.
Amelia
The Deal Meets
Sobrenombre:
Amelita. It’s something that my grandmother calls me back in the Dominican Republic.
Favorite dessert:
(laughs) At the pageant I had a hard time resisting the cake table because my
favorite dessert is cheesecake.
Proudest personal accomplishment (aside from the Miss Universe pageant):
I am proud that I am, at my age, independent and able to make most of my
own life decisions, and my parents and family trust me on that.
Getting her
HIV test
On HIV and getting tested:
I got tested on June 27, National HIV Testing Day. I did this to show the kids
that I wasn’t scared and that they shouldn’t be either. It was a way to let them
know that they should get tested, too.
Sobre la vida:
Cuando se piensa positivo, hay muchas posibilidades de triunfar.
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Amelia Vega in 10 years:
Professionally I see myself as an internationally recognized singer,
contributing with my songs to the creation of a better world. Personally I see
myself forming and building a great family based on love and respect with a
great companion.
Do Libras fall for Leos? Do Sags
tend to hook-up with Scorpios?
Check out if you and your honey
have a cosmic connection.
Aries (03/21–04/19) Emphasis on the E’s: Entirely Energetic– Likely Link: Libra
Taurus (04/20-05/20) Peaceful and Persistent– Likely Link: Scorpio
Gemini (05/21-06/21) Sociable but a lil’ bit Scattered– Likely Link: Sagittarius
Cancer (06/22-07/22) Emotional and Protective– Likely Link: Capricorn
Leo (07/23-08/22) Impulsive, Creative and Loyal to the Bone– Likely Link: Aquarius
Virgo (08/23-09/22) Heavy on the H’s: Honest and Humble– Likely Link: Pisces
Libra (09/23-10/23) Fair and Artistic– Likely Link: Aries
Scorpio (10/24-11/21) Intense and Private– Likely Link: Taurus
Sagittarius (11/22-12/21) Freedom-Loving– Likely Link: Gemini
Capricorn (12/22-01/19) Shy, but Ambitious– Likely Link: Cancer
Aquarius (01/20-02/18) Non-conformist. An original– Likely Link: Leo
Pisces (02/19-03/20) Dreamer and Schemer– Likely Link: Virgo
What makes a relationship good? It all comes back to you. Loving and
knowing yourself lets you love someone else. Figure out who you are
and what you want outside of your relationship. Also, look for a
relationship that is balanced; one where your boyfriend or girlfriend
feels like an equal partner and you can talk, laugh, and even fight fairly.
When you do find your sweetie, still take time for yourself. If you find
yourself in a bad relationship, seek support and leave. This can
take a lot of courage but you’ve got to recognize that you are
the key to your own happiness. It’s amazing how much
more attractive, secure, and desirable you feel when
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you know and respect yourself.
1. B There is not one right time that is best for everyone. Waiting is ok if that’s what you want. Sometimes
it’s difficult to separate your partner’s expectations from your own. And, it can get confusing if friends
are always talking about sex. Keep it real and check in with yourself and your partner. Don’t let anyone
pressure you and make sure you’re comfortable with the situation.
You didn’t sleep with that guy from the club, so that means you’re safe,
right? Can you contract HIV from giving a blow job? Find out if you know
what’s what with this quiz on common myths about playing it safe:
1. How soon is too soon? The right time to have sex is…
A After three dates B When you both are ready. It’s OK to wait.
C In the afternoon D After one year
2.
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A person with an STD/HIV may look like…
Rámon. Age 15. Homosexual. Sports Rocawear.
Jamie. Age 17. Bisexual. Drummer in his band.
Jocelyn. Age 21. Heterosexual. An Afro-Cuban all-star.
Any of the above.
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When your girlfriend asks what protection you use during sex, you say...
”If you’re on top, you can’t get pregnant.”
“Condoms.”
“Don’t worry baby, I’ll pull out.”
“That’s not a problem. I only kick it with people who are clean.”
4. At age 19, how many teens have held off on having sex?
A 9 out of 10
B 5 out of 10 C 3 out of 10
D 1 out of 10
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The Naked Truth: Which of the following is true about condoms?
Condoms can prevent pregnancy and HIV/STDs.
You can last longer using condoms.
A Jimmy Hat can up the ante on the pleasure pot.
All of the above.
2 D You’re wildn’ out if you say that you can tell someone has a sexually transmitted disease (STD)
based on their hairstyle, sexuality, interests or ethnicity. STDs can have various symptoms, but
looks are not one of them. Sometimes STDs have no symptoms at all, so get tested if you are
sexually active. Also, pay attention to your own body. If you do notice something different or
suspicious, have it checked out.
3 B Show her you care… use a condom. Is her birthday today? Reach for a rubber every time
beginning tonight. What about your eight-month anniversary tomorrow? Tell him you want to use
condoms all the time starting tomorrow night. Condoms, when used properly, are effective at
preventing pregnancy and many STDs including HIV. It is important to remember, though, that
some STDs can be passed if the infected area is not covered by the condom. And although it is
rare, it is possible to get HIV from giving a blow job. So to be 100% safe, use a condom.
4 B Everyone might be talking about it but not everyone is doing it. Roughly 50% of girls have never
had sex and 45% of guys are holding out on gettin’ down. Get creative about ways to be sexy
without having sex. Try kissing, masturbating, talking, heavy petting or mutual masturbation, soft
touches and cool glances... anything that turns up the heat.
5 D We have a winnah… condoms can make sex better, whether it’s from the feeling of the condom
itself or the peace of mind from knowing you’re protected. Styles like Rough Rider (a little extra
ribbing) and Pleasure Plus (more room for the men to maneuver) add to the physical sensation,
while the knowledge that condoms are effective in preventing pregnancy — and that they are the
best method of protection against HIV aside from abstinence — puts the mind at ease, so you can
be intimate instead of on edge.
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Abstinence is…
“Free… and my way of not worrying about getting pregnant or STDs.”
– Jennifer, Detroit
“Having a boyfriend or girlfriend and not having intercourse. Like, I kiss and
touch my girl but we don’t have sex.”
– Jose, Utica
“I have always known that I will wait until I get married. That is just the way it is.”
– Anne, Washington DC
Virginity is…
“A guy loses his virginity when he has sex with a woman.”
– Angel, Miami
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Sex is…
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person and I know I’m ready.”
– Tyrone, Los Angeles
“If it says sex, it IS sex – anal sex, oral sex, vaginal sex, dry sex… (listing on his fingers)
sex, sex, sex and sex.”
– Lance, New York
“My definition of sex has changed over time. I think the definition is a little hazy because
for a while I still considered myself a virgin when I was only having sex with girls.”
– Melissa, Chicago
For more information on abstinence, sex, and virginity visit www.cfoc.org/teenguide or www.teenwire.org.
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At the 20-year anniversary of the first known AIDS case, headlines like, “The Epidemic is Just
Starting,” told the story that there still was much to be done. Here’s what those in the know say:
Russell Simmons, (founder, Def Jam/Phat Farm): “Everyone needs to know their
HIV status, especially those who are sexually active and/or involved in high-risk
behavior. Knowledge is power in any situation, and young people need to know
that HIV/AIDS can affect them too. Unfortunately, HIV/AIDS is just as much a part
of the hip-hop community as rap, fashion and culture.”
Photo by Henry Leutwyler
Number of countries
that broadcast the
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Average number of live
viewers of the MTV
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T-Boz Watkins, (of the platinum selling female music
group TLC): “AIDS is the no. 1 killer of African Americans.
We have an obligation to ourselves and to our loved ones
to be educated about this disease.”
Nasir (NAS) Jones (legendary hip-hop artist):
“Everybody’s affected by AIDS… I’m sure everybody’s been
talking about raising some awareness about what this
disease is doing to brothers in Africa. It’s not just Africa,
but the whole world.”
Number of people living
with HIV as of 2001
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Get Involved
Flip to page 25 to find out what YOU can do to get involved.
Courtesy of Columbia Records
Viacom, considered one of the granddaddies of media companies around the world, joined with the Henry J. Kaiser Family
Foundation, a force to be reckoned with in the field of health information and research, to create an unprecedented media
campaign aimed at eradicating ignorance about HIV/AIDS. Heavyhitters like BET, MTV, UPN, CBS, Blockbuster and Paramount
Pictures helped launch the global campaign to promote AIDS awareness. Visit www. KNOW HIV/AIDS.org for more information.
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Ringfinger
“I love having sex with
my girl… and I enjoy
sleeping with guys. No
matter if it’s my girl or
a guy, I use condoms
all the time.”
— Jayson, Brooklyn
Pinky
“I wanted to start using
condoms after I heard
about a friend who got
HIV, but we didn’t use
them before and I knew
he’d ask why. So I told him
about something I read on
a website — it was talking
about sexy ways to put on
condoms. He got hard
right there and we got it
on — safely — after that.”
— Amy, Atlanta
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your honey about sex:
Middlefinger
“Without that test he wasn’t
getting any. We were on a
break for a half a year and I
know I was with someone
else. I can’t begin to guess
who he was with.”
— Jin, Oakland
Forefinger
“Baby, I get in the mood when I’m
relaxed. And you know what? I
relax when I’m not worrying about
pregnancy, or an STD, or HIV.”
— Anthony, Buffalo
• Even if your baby likes surprises, this is one thing you don’t want to spring on him or
her at the last minute. Plan some down time for you two to really talk about safer
sex and getting tested.
• The relationship will change and so will your needs to get tested. Have
the conversation once… and then have it again… and again… and again,
if necessary.
• Knowing the locations of your local testing center will
make it that much easier for your partner to agree
to get tested. Flip to the back of this magazine
or log onto www.gettinbusy.org for your
neighborhood test center.
• You’ve decided that the time isn’t right for
you and you want to hold off on having sex. How
do you say that to your partner? Here’s one way: “I
want to wait.”
Here’s another:
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“No test… no sex.”
— Cristina, Houston
“I’m just starting to know you and I really respect what I know so
far. I mean, for who you are, not just the way we make each
other feel. I want to wait to have sex.”
– Jasmine, Ft. Lauderdale
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Diapers and dating?!? Yes, the two can mesh. The key is not to rush in. Number-one
on your list should be making sure you and your baby are settled. When you’re
secure on that front, remember that there is no set time when it’s best to get back
into the game. It’s all about knowing yourself and finding someone who treats you
and your child right.
Hooking up online
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Internet dating and 800#s are blowing up. In a private chat room, you can find your
next hook-up, explore your sexuality or seek support for coming out. Whatever the
situation, be careful with how much you share, especially when you haven’t met
yet. If you decide to do the face-to-face with
LIVIN4LUVIN or NUN4NOW, remember that
this is like your first date. Since in reality you
might not know this person as well as
you think you do, make sure
you meet in a public place
and if it leads to lovin’,
always use protection.
Whether you’re at a rave in Florida, clubbing in New
York or flying high in the Midwest, know this: aside
from all
of the legal consequences that come with under
age drinking and using illegal drugs, mixing drugs
and/or alcohol
with sex is far more explosive than the soda and
pop rocks you blended as a kid. Mixes like crysta
l meth with
Viagra and drinks like Thug Passion can influence
decisions about how far you go, and whether you
practice safer
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health problems like liver, heart, and
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skin and teeth, depression and serio
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If you or someone you know could
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urself.com.
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Dressing up when you’re going down.
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Know When to Use It or Lose It
• Is the condom latex or polyurethane? If so, then carry on…
• Polyurethane is good if you’re allergic to latex.
• Don’t use lambskin condoms. They don’t protect against HIV or STDs.
• Check the date. Has it expired? That would make it a no-go…
• Has it kept its cool? Heat can dry out condoms; so don’t keep them in your
pocket, wallet or near a heater.
• Does it look sketchy? Check for tears from fingernails or teeth.
• Does it fit? Condoms come in a variety of flavors, textures, colors and most
importantly… sizes. Condoms can be either too small or too big. Find the size
that’s right for you.
Private Practice
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If you’ve never used a condom, practice when you’re alone; girls can practice
putting a condom on a banana or their fingers.
• Put on the condom as soon as the penis gets hard. This means before any vaginal,
anal or oral sex.
• Make sure the condom is right side out. It should roll down easily.
• Pinch the tip of the condom between your fingers, leaving space at the tip of the
condom for the cum.
• Roll the condom down as far as it will go (to the base of the penis near the balls).
• Smooth out air bubbles. Air bubbles can lead to breakage and decrease sensation.
• Withdraw before the penis gets soft. Hold the condom tight against the base of
the penis — you don’t want it to slip off!
Use a dry, flavored condom for oral sex to reduce your risk of HIV and other STDs.
For oral-vaginal or oral-anal sex, you can use a dental dam. Don’t have a dam handy?
Make your own by cutting open a condom or use plastic wrap and lay it flat over the
vagina or anus.
Only use a condom once — don’t reuse the
condom. Use a condom every time no matter
who you’re with. You get the idea one
condom = one sexual act. No exceptions.
The Treasure Chest
Here’s the low down on lubes: they offer moisture for a dry condom — which brings
you one step closer to through the roof — and they reduce the risk of a condom
breaking. Unlike lubes, some steamy bedroom additions don’t work with condoms and
will weaken them. The important thing is to know which are ok to use.
Latex Enemy
Latex Friendly
(Don’t use with condoms)
(OK to use with condoms)
• Anything oil-based, like massage
oil, edible oils, mineral oil, baby oil
• Water-based lubes, like K-Y Jelly
or Astroglide
• Any lotions or Vaseline
(petroleum jelly)
• Ice (Remember, water is friendly;
oil is your enemy.)
• Peanut butter or chocolate sauce
• Honey
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Como saber si debes usarlo o botarlo
• ¿El condón es de látex o de poliuretano? Si lo es, entonces continúa...
• El poliuretano está bien si eres alérgico al látex.
• No utilices condones fabricados con piel de cordero. No te protegerán contra el VIH ni contra las
enfermedades de transmisión sexual (ETS).
• Verifica la fecha. Si esta vencido no lo uses…
• ¿Ha sido mantenido en temperaturas frescas? Los ambientes cálidos y el calor pueden secar los
condones; por lo tanto, no los guardes en el bolsillo ni en la billetera, ni los pongas cerca del calefactor.
• ¿Te parece que está dañado? Asegúrate de que no tenga rotos que le hayas hecho con las uñas o los dientes.
• ¿Te queda bien? Los condones se fabrican de varios sabores, consistencias, colores y lo que es más
importante... tamaños. Los condones pueden quedarte demasiado pequeños o demasiado grandes.
Busca la talla que te quede bien.
Practica en privado
Si nunca has usado condones, practica cuando estés solo; las mujeres pueden practicar colocándole un
condón a una banana o en los dedos.
• Colócate el condón tan pronto se te endurezca el pene. Esto quiere decir antes de que tengas cualquier
tipo de relación vaginal, anal u oral.
• Asegúrate de que el condón tenga los bordes por fuera. Debería poder deslizarse sin dificultad.
• Agarra con los dedos la punta del condón, dejando suficiente espacio en la punta para el semen.
• Desenrolla el condón hacia abajo hasta donde puedas (hasta la base del pene, cerca a los testículos).
• Alisa las burbujas de aire. Las burbujas de aire pueden causar roturas y disminuirte la sensación.
• Retírate antes de que el pene se te ablande. Sujeta firmemente el condón en la base del pene — ¡no vas
a querer que se te salga!
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Utiliza un condón seco o con sabor durante el sexo oral para reducir el riesgo de
contraer el VIH u otras ETS. Para el sexo oral, sea vaginal o anal, puedes utilizar una
represa dental. ¿No tienes una represa a mano? Hazla tú mismo cortando un condón o
usando papel de plástico para envolver y extiéndelo sobre la vagina o el ano.
Usa el condón una sola vez — no lo vuelvas
a usar. Usa condones cada vez que tengas
sexo, no importa con quién sea. Ya
entiendes lo que te quiero decir... un
condón = un acto sexual. Sin excepciones.
Productos Personales
Esto es lo que tienes que saber sobre los lubricantes: humedecen al condón cuando
está reseco — lo que te acerca un poco más al punto de exitación máxima — y reducen
el riesgo de que el condón se te rompa. A diferencia de los lubricantes, algunas
cositas eróticas de que usas en la habitación no funcionan con los condones y los
volverá menos eficaces. Lo importante es saber cuál es aceptable.
Los enemigos del látex
No le hacen daño el látex
(no los uses con los condones)
(sí los puedes usar con los condones)
• Cualquier cosa a base de aceite, como
aceites para masajes, aceites comestibles,
aceite mineral, aceite para bebés
• Lubricantes a base de agua, como
el K-Y o el Astroglide.
• Cualquier tipo de loción o vaselina
• Hielo. Recuerda lo que es tu
enemigo, pero el agua es tu amigo.
• Mantequilla de maní o salsa de chocolate
• Miel
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Question: What can a condom combat that The Patch won’t prevent? Answer: STDs
and HIV. The difference between contraception and prevention is important to keep
in mind when choosing birth control.
Barrier Methods offer contraception and STD protection: OK to fly solo
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For example:
The Male Condom — latex or polyurethane
The Female Condom
What’s sweet:
Protects against the transmission of STDs and HIV
Effective at preventing pregnancy
Don’t have to go to a doctor to get it
What’s weak:
Forget to bring condoms and you have to hold off on having sex
Pregnancy Protection but still Risk of Infection:
The diaphragm and cervical cap prevent pregnancy but do not protect against HIV. Both
are inserted into the vagina before sex.
What Doesn't Work:
NONE of the following “methods” are considered effective as birth control or for
preventing HIV or STDs.
• Pulling out
• Jumping up and down
• Spermicides alone
• Peeing after sex
• Douching
• Thinking your partner looks clean
• Having sex during your period
• Loving your partner
Contraception: Requires a co-pilot (Use with a condom to protect yourself)
Did we Mention Emergency Contraception (EC)?
For example:
The pill
The shot (given monthly or every 3 months at a doctor’s office)
The patch (worn on your skin and changed every week)
The ring (you insert into your vagina and change it every 3 weeks)
• Take within 3 days of unprotected sex to reduce your risk of an unwanted pregnancy.
What’s sweet:
These hormonal methods are very effective at preventing pregnancy
What’s weak:
Do not protect against STDs or HIV
Costly
Gotta have regular check-ups with the doctor
You have to take them even when not having sex
• This is NOT to be used as a regular method of birth control and is not considered a
method of abortion.
• Available at neighborhood clinics nationwide. Call 888-NOT-2-LATE for a location
near you.
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Two things to keep in mind when testing for HIV.
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Pero lo que es más importante… Te Da Poder
Cuando sabes tu condición con respecto al VIH obtienes
poder. Si te enteras de que eres seropositivo,
existen tratamientos y servicios de apoyo parati. Entre más
temprano lo detectes, pues mucho mejor. Si
resulta que no tienes el VIH, enterarte puede ser un alivio.
Y como ventaja adicional, aprenderás a continuar
siendo negativo al VIH. Hazte la prueba con tu pareja para
que ambos sepan mantenerse negativo.
Pasos fundamentales para hacerte la prueba
Pide que te hagan la prueba
Toma las cosas con calma durante el “período de espera”
Dedícale un tiempo a recoger los resultados. Si no regresa
s, no tendrás los resultados.
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enfermera.
Dos cosas que debes recordar
Dos cosas que debes recordar cuando te hagas la prueba
del VIH.
1: Los jóvenes pueden hacerse ellos mismos la prueba del
VIH. No necesitas permiso de tus padres…
pero siempre es mucho mejor si ellos participan.
2: Es importante saber que tu privacidad siempre estará
protegida, no importa cuál sea el método que se
utilice para hacerte la prueba. Los padres, la escuela, el colegio
, el trabajo… nadie tiene que enterarse
de tus asuntos, cualquiera que sea el resultado. Habla con
la enfermera si tienes más preguntas sobre
la confidencialidad o sobre la prueba.
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Whether it’s putting down rhymes or picking up the latest beats,
it’s important to find ways to make like Mary J. and strive for
“no more drama, no more pain.” Do you kick back to relax? Or,
does running, jumping and riding sound more like one fine day
to you? Here are some suggestions for takin’ it easy:
For some people, a negative HIV test result is a wake-up call and a
chance to get things right…
“I got tested after I had sex with my boyfriend and we didn’t use a condom…
whatever, it’s a story. But, the results from my second test just came back negative,
so I’m pretty sure that I’m ok. I’m lucky and I know that. During the time when I
was stressing out about the result, I realized that I don’t want to be sitting back,
just relying on luck to make sure I don’t get anything. I’m going to use a condom
when I have sex and I’m going to be active about preventing HIV.”
– Kevin, Denver
For others, life goes on, but is changed forever…
“I cried when I found out — I did. It was a combination of being scared and
being mad at myself because I knew that I could have prevented it. So I cried
and then the counselor — she was so supportive — totally comforted me. In a
weird way I almost was glad that she’s the one who told me. It felt OK to talk
about it with someone who didn’t know me before but sees this all the time
and could take my hand and walk me through what I do next — because I
couldn’t even think straight. When I went to my doctor, I found out
that I couldn’t wait to start treatment, so after I got over the initial
shock I began taking my pills. Five pills a day. So now, here I am. I’m
LIVING with HIV.”
— Tricia, Philly
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Whether your HIV test results are positive or negative, the important
thing to remember is that you’re not alone. Support groups and individual
counseling can get you the help you need. Your testing and treatment site
can refer you to a counselor, if you need one. Additional resources can be
found at the end of this magazine or at www.AdolescentAIDS.org.
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Shopping
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Dancing
Writing
Movies
Playing
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Running
For some people, minimizing stress and anxiety can be done by eating healthy and taking
better care of their bodies. If you struggle with your weight, you’re not alone. Use these tips to
avoid feeling badly from eating badly:
• Skipping meals deprives your body of much-needed energy and can slow down your metabolism.
Pass on pressing C4 at the vending machine for the candy bar and hit A1 for the baked potato
chips instead.
• Exercise — even 15 minutes a day — can do your body good. Think you don’t have that kind of time to
spare? Try this: Instead of taking the bus a few blocks to your friend’s place, lace up your new kicks
and hike it.
• Love the skin you’re in! Focus on your music, poetry, school, relationships, whatever it takes to help you
realize that being healthy is important, but there’s more to you than an obsession with weight.
Sometimes professional help is the best way to work through the pressure or depression that a lot of
people feel. For more information on what to do if you or a friend is seeking help, go to
http://www.findtreatment.samsha.gov/facility locatordoc.htm.
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I just found out I am HIV positive. What do I do? Who do I tell?
– Jeff, Cleveland
Jeff, your number one priority should be to seek care with a doctor or program
you trust. Your doctor will help you get the treatment you need and can connect
you with service providers, such as counselors, who will support you and talk
with you about your concerns and emotions. This may help as you prepare to tell
your family, friends, any sex partners, and other people in your life.
Medically, the first thing will be talking to your doctor or nurse practitioner
about your health. You will get a physical exam and blood tests, to show
how HIV has affected your health. The two main tests look at T-cells,
which measure your body's immune system, and viral load, which
measures the amount of HIV in your blood. These tests will help you
and your doctor decide if you should start taking medicines or if
you are healthy enough to wait. Either way, you will need to get
regular checkups. These days, there are new HIV medicines
which are strong and easier to take. However, like almost
every medicine they can have side effects. This can take a
while to adjust to, so be patient and take care.
Donna Futterman, MD, takes care of teens with HIV at
the Adolescent AIDS/Risk Evaluation Program at
Children’s Hospital at Montefiore in the Bronx, NY. If
you have a question for the next issue, send it to her
at Adolescent AIDS Program, 111 East 210th Street,
Bronx, NY 10467 or TheDeal@adolescentaids.org.
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I think my girlfriend is cheating on me, but my friends keep telling
me she’s whipped and would never be with another guy. How can I
get the truth?
— William, New Orleans
First, ask yourself if this is jealousy or are there clear signs of cheating? The best
way to get the truth is to ask her. You might not like what you hear, but it’s more
important to know the truth so you can get on with your life.
Next, protect yourself emotionally and physically. If you are intimate with your
girlfriend, always — without any exceptions — wear a condom. The biggest
heartbreak would be to find out that she’s cheating on you and she’s passing along
an STD. Even if your girlfriend is being faithful, there’s no guarantee that everyone
else you’ve both been with in the past was STD-free.
What about a vaccine for HIV? Is there one available?
– Corey, Springfield
Doctors have learned a lot about HIV since it was discovered, but many believe
that a safe and effective AIDS vaccine is still many years away. HIV is a complex
virus that the body’s immune system is unable to fight off completely. Unlike other
infections, like chicken pox, where you recover and become immune, this does not
happen with HIV. There is now a lot of research going on to find a vaccine.
Got Trials?
The Adolescent Trials Network (ATN) conducts research to find better treatment,
preventive vaccines for HIV and develops programs to keep youth safe and
uninfected. The ATN program called Connect to Protect partners with youth,
community organizations and leaders to learn the best ways to connect youth with
prevention and care. Visit www.atnonline.org, www.adolescentaids.org or
www.pedhivaids.org.
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If you think you’re not at risk for HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, think again.
Here’s a snapshot of infection rates:
For me the pain was subtle. It was when he talked, saying that I
was lucky to be going with someone like him; someone older. It
was the way he told me that I should be happy to be sleeping with
him — with or without a condom. He has good qualities too, don’t
get me wrong. I mean, I didn’t have black eyes or bruises. Nah — it
wasn’t like that. But you asked why I left. All that noise got to be
too much. My girlfriend kept saying it was verbal abuse. That was
when I walked away. Peace.
— Shanté, Newark
When asked “Why did your last relationship end?”
Find out more about dating violence: www.teenrelationships.org or
call 1-800- SAFEYOUTH.
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All Around The World
• Six in 60 seconds: Count to 60. Six people
ages 18–25 around the world were just
infected with HIV in addition to the 42
million people who are already infected.
• AIDS orphans 1 child every 14 seconds.
Some experts fear that by 2010 there will
be 40 million children orphaned by AIDS.
• About 1 million infants are born every year
with HIV. In the developed world the
transmission of HIV from mother to child
has been virtually eliminated with
medications that are not yet available in
other countries.
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On December 1, 2003, Beyoncé
and Oprah (no last names needed)
appeared in Africa to raise global
awareness of HIV/AIDS. These two
women witnessed the effects of
HIV/AIDS in countries hit hard by
the epidemic; countries where
many are infected and do not
share the same access to
treatment known in the U.S.
However, the disease is entirely preventable and activists are not giving up
hope. Check out these programs, targeting relief in the most heavily-hit
sections of the world and learn about how you can take action.
loveLife
As many as 50% of young people in South Africa could become infected with HIV.
This is a higher rate than anywhere else in the world. Lovelife is a youth centered
program teaching young people how to prevent HIV and motivating them to take
control. Check out for yourself what teens in South Africa have to say about
preventing and living with HIV.
www.lovelife.org.za
M2M2B: Mothers to Mothers-to-Be
M2M2B helps to keep moms and their children healthy by connecting newly
diagnosed HIV positive pregnant women with other mothers who are HIV-positive
in Cape Town, South Africa.
www.m2m2b.org
Kicoshep
A program based in Nairobi, Kenya, in one of the country’s poorest and most
affected neighborhoods. Kicoshep focuses on neighborhood initiatives, like
uniting a community to build a youth center and a school for orphans.
www.kicoshep.org
Nelson Mandela, the first president of a free,
post-apartheid South Africa, a Nobel Prize
winner and world renowned activist, is
committed to fighting HIV worldwide.
Get involved! Find out how you can do more globally at www.pandemicfacingaids.org
and www.UNAIDS.org and in your own neighborhood at www.idealist.org and
www.volunteermatch.org.
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Find a Test Site, Find More Information
National Resources
Adolescent AIDS Program
718-882-0232
www.AdolescentAIDS.org
www.GettinBusy.org
AIDS Alliance for Children,
Youth and Families
888-917-AIDS
www.aids-alliance.org
Adolescent Trials Network
www.atnonline.org
LIFEbeat, the music industry
fights AIDS
800-AIDS-411
www.lifebeat.org
Advocates for Youth
202-419-3420
www.advocatesforyouth.org
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CDC National AIDS Hotline
800-342-2437 (English)
800-344-7432 (Spanish)
800-243-7889 (TTY)
www.hivtest.org
▲ = Connect to Protect Site
National Association of
People with AIDS
Ryan White Youth Conference
202-898-0414
www.napwa.org
National Minority AIDS
Council
202-483-6622
www.nmac.org
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States
Alabama
Birmingham
Adolescent Health Center
205-939-9400
California
Los Angeles
National Network for Youth
202-783-7949
www.nn4youth.org
Risk Reduction Program, Children’s
Hospital Los Angeles ▲
888-25-YOUTH
National Pediatric and Family
HIV Resource Center
800-362-0071
www.pedhivaids.org
Los Angeles Get Tested!
Hotline: 800-758-0880
National Youth Advocacy
Coalition (for LGBTQ youth)
800-541-6922
www.nyacyouth.org
USC Portals into Care
323-226-5068
Planned Parenthood
800-230-PLAN
www.teenwire.org
Family Care Network
510-428-3178
California Youth Crisis Hotline
800-426-4263
Oakland
San Francisco
Jacksonville
Illinois
Massachusetts
Larkin Street Youth Center
415-673-0911
Rainbow Center for Women,
Adolescents, Children and
Families
904-244-2120
Chicago, IL
Boston
Adolescent Medicine at the
CORE Center ▲
312-572-4742
The Boston HAPPENS Program ▲
617-355-8127
UCSF Connect to Protect
Bay Area ▲
415-476-9622
Miami
AIDS Health Project
415-502-TEST
U. M. Adolescent Trials Unit ▲
305-243-3442
Connecticut
Hartford
CYFAN Program
888-294-2722
District of Columbia
Latino Health Institute
617-350-6900
ACTS, Gettin’ Busy Miami
877-HIV-TEEN
New Orleans
Statewide
Tampa
Drop-In Center
504-948-6701
AIDS Action Line
800-235-2331
N.O. Adolescent Trials Unit ▲
504-988-6887
Michigan
Maryland
Horizon’s Project
313-745-4213
C2P Tampa Bay ▲
813-259-8800
YES, Gettin’ Busy Tampa Bay
866-3-TEST-YES
Metro TeenAIDS
202-543-9355
DC Get Tested! Hotline
202-HIV-TEST
Atlanta
San Diego
Ft. Lauderdale
UCSD Youth HIV Program ▲
619-405-4680
The POWER Youth Project ▲
954-728-1080
Justice Resource Institute
617-457-8140
Louisiana
Children’s National Medical
Center Adolecent Clinic ▲
202-884-5389
Florida
Howard Brown Health Center
773-388-1600
Georgia
Adolescent Clinic, Children’s
Hospital
404-616-4640
Baltimore
STAR TRACK at the University
of Maryland ▲
410-706-6000
Statewide
MD State Department AIDS
Administration
410-767-5227
Detroit
Missouri
St. Louis
Project ARK
314-535-7275
New Jersey
Newark
STOP/START Program
800-375-9482
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Published by the Adolescent AIDS Program
Children’s Hospital at Montefiore Medical Center
111 East 210th Street, Bronx, NY 10467
(718) 882-0232
www.AdolescentAIDS.org
New York
For a testing site in New York
City, call 718-881-TEST
New York State, call
800-962-5065
Bronx
Mt. Sinai Adolescent Health
Center ▲
212-423-2971
Project Stay, NY Presbyterian
Hospital 166th ST
212-342-3201
Yonkers/Westchester/Putnam/
Rockland
Iniciativa Comunitaria
787-250-8629
Edited by Donna Futterman, MD, Adolescent AIDS Program and
Susan Wolfson, SENSEI Masterful Health Communications
Teen HEAT Clinic, Westchester
Medical Center
914-493-1360
Latin American Center for STD
787-754-8118
Written by Sara Satinsky and Sarah Oetgen, SENSEI Health and
Melissa Laurie, Adolescent AIDS Program
Tennessee
Designed by Adam Selbst, SENSEI Health
Memphis
Thanks to partners LIFEbeat and AIDS Alliance for Children,
Youth and Families. Special thanks to The Royal S. Marks
Foundation, Fund for the City of New York for funding support.
Ohio
Adolescent AIDS/REP Program,
Children’s Hospital at
Montefiore ▲
718-882-0023
Albany
Cleveland
CHEER
518-463-6824
MetroHealth Medical Center
216-778-2222
Bronx AIDS Services
718-295-5605
YES
888-510-FACT
Pennsylvania
Brooklyn
Buffalo
Project HEAT
718-467-4446
PACT Program
716-878-7908
Manhattan
Rochester
GMHC
800-AIDS-NYC
Threshold, University of
Rochester Medical Center
585-454-7530
Hetrick Martin Institute for Gay
and Lesbian Youth
212-674-2600
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Philadelphia
The Children’s Hospital of
Philadelphia Adolescent HIV
Initiatives ▲
215-590-1154
The Attic Youth Center
215-545-4331
Community AIDS Hotline
800-985-AIDS
Friends For Life
901-278-2437
Texas
Dallas
Youth Angle
214-521-5191
Harlingen
Valley AIDS Council
800-840-3629
Houston
Syracuse
Puerto Rico
Houston Regional HIV/AIDS
Resource Group
713-526-1016
Syracuse Community Health
Center, Teen Program
315-234-TEEN
San Juan
Washington
CONCRA Youth Initiative
787-753-9443
Seattle
Proyecto GAMMA ▲
787-759-9595
Orion Center
206-622-5555
LOCAL INFORMATION HERE
Adolescent AIDS Program