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It's countdown time, and we're not talking
about to the millennium. It's countdown time
to your wedding day, and to assure your day
will, be a treasured reflection of the two of
you will take some planning.
Here's a handy checklist and month-tomonth guide to help assure you're on course
to achieve that personal, special day.
START H E R E . . .
.Even a small or informal wedding is difficult to plan in much less than two or three
months. Many locations and services are
booked six months to a year in advance, especially in busy wedding months like June.
With that in mind:
• Determine the style of wedding and color scheme.
• Set a budget; decide who will pay for
what.
• Reserve the ceremony and reception locations.
• Finalize date and time of the wedding.
• Decide the wedding size and start compiling the guest list. ..
• Arrange an appointment w ith your clergyman.
• Choose attendants.
• Select a caterer, florist, musicians, photographer. videotape service, transportation.
• Order personalized stationery.
• Announce engagement in the paper.
T W O - F O U R M O N T H S BEFORE...
• Complete guest list, order invitations
(three to four months before the wedding
day).
• Make sure all .bridal attire has been ordered.
• Purchase wedding rings.
• Select patterns; register.
• Check state requirements for blood tests
and marriage license and schedule medical
appointments.
O N E W E E K BEFORE—
• Plan seating-arrangements for reception.
• Reconfirm guest totals with caterer.
• Practice doing your hair and putting on
makeup in the light you'll be in.
• Arrange a place for you and your bridesmaids to dress if the ceremony location .
doesn't have one.
• Tie up loose ends with baker, musicians,
florist, etc.
• Make sure attendants and out-of-town
guests have directions and timetables for all
activities.
• Give the best man the officiant's fee to
be delivered on the wedding day.
• Pack for your honeymoon.
• Send an"announcement and wedding
picture to the newspaper. (Pick up a form at
the Herald Times. 2066 S. Olsego Ave..
Gaylord.)
• Make sure you have the license.
• Go to bed early. You'll want to wake up
fresh for the big day.
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• Select attire for the groom, attendants,
etc. and reserve sizes.
T W O MONTHS BEFORE...
• Address invitations and announcements,
mail four to six weeks before the wedding
day.
• Plan rehearsal dinner.
• Order wedding cake.
• Finalize details'with all services: caterer,
florist, officiant, musicians, photographer,
reception contacts.
• Keep-records of all gifts received, write
thank-yous.
• Make appointment with hairdresser.
• Buy ring pillow, cake knife, toasting
goblets, guest book, candles, etc.
• Plan bachelor and bachelorette parties or
luncheons.
• Finalize honeymoon plans.
• Schedule bridal portrait.
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• Apply for mamage license.
• Have final fittings for all gowns.
• Have bridal portrait taken.
• Complete all physical and dental appointments.
• Purchase gifts for your fiance and attendants.
• Purchase a going-away outfit.
• Finalize rehearsal dinner details.
• Select the persons to handle the guest
book.
TWO W E E K S BEFORE...
• Finish addressing wedding announcements.
• Pick up wedding rings; check for correct sizes and engravings. Contact guests
who haven't responded.
• Relay firraf-guest-total to caterer and
review details'.
• Give photographer a list of photos you
want taken.
• Meet with musicians"for wedding and
reception, finalize selections and timing.
• Reconfirm arrangements for out-oftown guests.
• Finalize bridal attire and trousseau.
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• Do something that relaxes you — a bath,
music.
• Send out announcements to people you
didn't invite to the wedding.
• K e e p your hair appointment, or if you're
doing it yourself, make sure you give yourself three to four hours before the ceremony.
• Make sure the rings and marriage license are brought to the ceremony.
• Start dressing 1 1/2 hours before the ceremony. (If you're taking pictures, add another hour.)
A F T E R T H E WEDDING...
• Complete writing thank-you-notes.
• Take care of any legal concerns you
didn't gel to before the wedding, such as
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Today's bride more colorful in every way
told when to marry, how to marry
and whom to marry. She is far.
more independent," says Weinreich. who caters to a clientele com"Walking down the aisle has
posed largely of first-time brides.
never looked so colorful, thanks to
30 to 45 years old.
a modem breed of bride who is- .
"No one today can tell a bride
saying "I do" to a whole new hue. •
what style to wear or what color to
Courting color is the business of
wear. That is why we have seen
bridal salon owners Michelle Roth
such phenomenal growth in the use
and Henry Weinreich, who
of color, be it a smattering of color
grabbed the old adage about
on the gown or the entire gown it- \
"something blue" and ran with it.
self," says Weinreich.
Indeed, periwinkle blue is the
And that is why "around-one -number one choice for their con-,
temporary customers who fast-for-' fifth of our brides are walking
down the aisle in canary yellow or
ward right past the time-honored
blue," he says.
white wedding dress.
Roth and Weinreich are doing
While there's'no shortage of demand at the salon for basic ivory or their best to take a bite out of the
candlelight, periwinkle is "tradi- , wedding apparel market, which
generates billions in annual retail
tionalist with a twist," says Roth.
sales. Their salon whispers EuroNext, in order of her customer
pean charm, attracting well-to-do
preference, comes lilac (highly
customers
in search of designer
feminine and ethereal), then blush
gowns
from
$2,500 to $30,000.
pink (more traditional and femi- .
Brides taxi over from as near as
nine), maize or yellow
New York City's Upper East Side,
.'(warm and sophisticated), and gold
or jet in from as far away as Ar(Renaissance princess). Brides degentina and Australia, and those
siring a blaze of color choose lime
are just the A's. In other words.
green (bold, definite, cool, calm
they represent "pretty much every :'~
and collected) or red (passionate).
major country in the world," says!
At bridal salon Michelle Roth in
Weinreich.
New York, sales of cotbrful dressHe and Roth are hardly
es. be they belle-of-the-ball gowns
strangers to the global map. They
or sleek embroidered columns.
are natives of Sydney, Australia,
have doubled in the past year.
where their parents. Holocaust surChalk it up to fashion freedom.
vivors from Poland, have operated
says Weinreich. executive vice
one of the nation's largest bridal
president. He is also the brother of
gown companies, Henri Josef, for
Roth, company founder and presi42 years.
dent.
'Today's bride is not going to be
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From page 3
"I think I was bom with lace in
my blood,*" says Roth. "My mother always told me that. And my
"grandmother was a milliner during
World War II who emigrated from
Poland to Israel and opened a
dressmaking business. I was
brought up with a sense of European style." says Roth, who converse - easily with her clients in
French and Polish, while Weinreich's contribution is Hebrew and
some German.
Backed by her parents' business. in 1992 Roth created a New
York bridal boutique from her
apartment, where she showcased
the collections of Australian designers. Only a year later, she
opened the current salon on New
York's tony 57th Street. Weinreich.
a lawyer who lived in London
from 1987 to 1992. was a concert
promoter before joining the family
business.
The salon, with its celadon
green crescent-shaped couches,
high ceilings and canopied dressing rooms, offers gowns of more
than 20 top designers from New
York, London. Paris. Rome and
Milan. European bridal gowns tend
to be more fashion-forward in color and design, says Roth.
But there are additional considerations when choosing just the
right color.
"When we style a bride, we take
everything into account — the location, the season, the time of day,
and what the bride wants to reflect,'" says Weinreich.
" W E rrrently had a bride with
an extremely gregarious personality — sunshine personified. She
was getting married on a farm and
was riding in on a horse. So
heeeello,'" says Weinreich. suggesting a conclusion that to the
styled-minded might seem obvious...
"With the color of her eyes and
Details, details,
details make —
or break—
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L ^ f o u n d the gown.
There's more. To look well dressed on your wedding day, carefully survey accessories from your finenet veil down to your peau de soie pumps.
Averaging more than $800 (according to readers of
Bride's magazine), a bridal gown ffiay-be the most expensive garment you ever purchase. But d o n ' j forget
the go-withs. "Accessories are the framework." says
New York bridal salon owner Michelle Roth, who
deals in everything from handmade porcelain headpieces to lingerie.
Here are a few tips:
• No accessory should overwhelm you. T h e
veil has to be very gossamer, hardly noticeable, so
when the bride is walking down the aisle, you can
see right through, and it creates the aura."' says
Roth. "The highlight is not the veil; the highlight is
the bride.'"
• Likewise, shoes "are a very important part of the
gown," says Roth. "Even though you may only see
the tips of them, they still create the entire look."
• When it comes to accessories, let tradition take
over. Do you have a pearl necklace passed down from
your grandmother? Or a special pair of earrings? "I
encourage brides to bring in heirlooms.: says Roth.
' T h e y reflect a sense of continuity. I believe in bringing the past into the fulure and creating a sense of
family."
— The Associated Press
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her personality* we put her in a
corset wilti periwinkle lace. From a
bride's perspective, with color she
can really express herself. From
our perspective, color is truly the
highest form of sophistication and
styling."
Don't even think of dictating
fashion to today's bride, he says.
"In choosing the dress, 80 percent of our clients determine for
themselves what they are going to
wear. They are the final arbiter,"
says Weinreich. "Even 10 years
ago, it would have been the other
way around. Mother would have
had the final decision.'"
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Emeralds are soothingly green.
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Other green stones include
garnet, peridot, and sapr
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The warm glow of yellow or orange is usually found "in topaz, a
symbol of friendship and fidelity.
Altemat^-stones in these colors include beryl, citrine, and tourmathought to have magnetic powers
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A violet version of qu,artz.
Diamond engagement rings are
amethysts were worn by the anthought to have originated with
cient Romans to ward off the inEuropean royalty in the 15th centoxicating powers of Bacchus, god
tury.
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Diamonds are judged by "the
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Jewelers express diamond weight
in points — 100 points to a carat.
ong after the wedding and
through the marriage, one
thing shines as brightly as it
did at first — the ring.
The bride's engagement
ring stands out as the most,
significant part of wedding jewelry. Its stone
represents the first seri• ous jewelry investment
for the couple, and its
durability celebrates — sentimentally and substantively —
their commitment to one another.
Further, it will last beyond their
lifetime, possibly to be enjoyed by
• their children.
The number one choice of
stones remains the diamond, according to jewelry industry experts. Nearly 70 percent of all
brides-to-be will receive rings with
diamonds.
'The diamond will last forever,
and the style of its setting should
always reflect the taste of the
wearer." says Melvyn Kirtley, vice
president at Tiffany & Co.
However, colored gems, used
alone or in combination with diamonds. are gaining in popularity,
according to the November-December issue of Bridal Guide magazine.
"Before diamonds were readily
available, colored gen*s were the
betrothal stones of choice." says
Diane Forden. the magazine's editor-in-chief. Top choices include
sapphires, rubies, emeralds.
topazes and amethysts, according
to the magazine.
Whatever the selection, here are
some basic facts, collected by
Tiffany & Co.. Bridal Guide magazine and the Diamond Information Center, representing DeBeers:
The diamond's rating affects its
cost. The Diamond Information
Center suggests using two months
of a groom's salary as guideline
for the expenditure. Tiffany says
simply that the choice should be
the best the couple can afford.
Diamonds
Colored Stones'-"
Diamonds are tough, with a
melting point 2 1/2 times higher
than that of steel.
Discovered in India over 3.000
years ago. they have had a place in
cultures around the world through
history. Th£_Greeks considered
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falling stars that guided the arrow
of Eros, the god of love. In the
Middle Ages, the gems were
Sapphires are the most prized of
the blue stones, traditionally
thought to symbolize innocence
and truth. Alternate blue stones include aquamarine, iolite. blue
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(AP) — Aside from the wellknown big-ticket expenditures for
the wedding, there are other things
to buy. such as gifts for the couple
or remembrances for the wedding
party. To get you started:
• Those little mementoes from
the wedding that don't make it into
the photo album — such as dried
flowers from the bouquet, the
wedding cake topper, or sheet music of the wedding song — can be
displayed as a collage in a shadow
box.
• Celebrate with a very personal
toast — wines labeled with the .
couple's names, wedding date, and
a message. Appropriate for gifts
either to or from the couple.
Champagne from Windsor Vineyards can be ordered with keepsake labels in sets, several including both the sparkling wine and
flutes. Two bonles of 1995 Brut in
a gift box are $35. and a case is
$156, both plus shipping. A onebottle set with two flute glasses is
$30 plus shipping; for $16 more,
the flutes can be engraved with the
couple's names. Other wines, such
as Blanc de Noir, extra-dry Champagne, and non-alcoholic Champagne. also are available.
For information. caTT800-3339987.
• Sterling silver vanity accessories— boxes, brushes, clips, ^
rnonogrammed compacts, perfume
flacons — are among wedding
party gifts suggested by the Silver
Information Center, which estimates the average cost of these
items at about $50. Also consider
bud vases, mint julep cups, picture
frames, sewing or manicure sets,
key rings or business card cases,
all in silver.
Be creative to avoid 'cookie-cutter wedding'
arlands of baby's breath, tiny white
lights and French ribbon are long
gone from the rustic posts and beams.
Grass on the ramp has turned brown, the
trees are bare and there's a chill in the air.
But there are warm memories of a special
day for a couple who say :
"If you can successfully plan your wedding together and have a good time, it's good
training for your life together."
Mil and Lance are practical and wanted to
leave nothing of their day to chance. They're
also creative and wanted more than a cookiecutter ceremony punched out by wedding
professionals. So they did it all themselves.
They developed a master plan of what
Lance calls "dates and deliverables" and sat
down every Sunday night to chart their
progress and to parcel out the next
week's chores. Still in love after more than
70 such Sunday sessions, they were married
in an outdoor ceremony on a warm clear day
in early spring.
Both Lance and Mil are thirty-something
professionals in New York City. She was
bom in Washington, D.C.. grew up in
Philadelphia and went to Quaker schools and
summer camp. After college she worked for
a lime in Paris. He was raised as a Southern
Baptist not far from Frankfort. Ky. He spent
a lot of time on his grandparents' farm, and
between college and grad school went to the
Philippines with the Peace Corps. If there
was a theme to the wedding, it was an informality and the blending of their beliefs.
"We wanted the event-to be about the
marriage, not about the wedding." Lance
says. "And to have it reflect what it is that
you want to create in your life together. With
us it was friendship, our social commitments, community."
of respect for," Lance says.
The Quaker aspect provided one of the
day's highlights for Lance. The other was
when he and Mil repeated the vows they had
written. "I thought that moment was magical
.... We wanted the vows to reflect what it was
we were creating as a couple in the marriage.
When we actually got to the moment when
we stood and said them to each other, it felt
like the beginning of something:"
Mil's favorite memory is of Lance singing
to her at the reception. She says some
months earlier she suggested with a wink
that Lance follow a family tradition. His
grandfather, a gospel singer, was known for
a rousing rendition of Tennessee Ernie
Ford's "Sixteen Tons." It's a song "which
everyone knows, including all the French
people at the wedding. There's this very funny line, which is "... ain't no high-toned
woman gonna make me walk the line."'
Lance sang it. And after months of practice and a little professional coaching from
his best man. he also sang John Coltrane's
"My One and Only Love." A cappella.
Could a glorious sunny day when 85
friends and relatives celebrated a union end
without a hitch? No. The glitch came when it
was time to throw the rice, the confetti or
whatever. As an alternative to rice (harmful
to bifds). Mil chose to-honor both her and
Lance's heritage. She chose packets of Kentucky bluegrass seeds for him, mixed with
rose petals in lieu of out-of-season cherryblossoms from her birth city.
"It was a fatal mistake," she recalls. The
seeds are tiny, about the size of poppy seeds,
and some of the guests "dumped whole bags
on our heads. Our scalps were encrusted. We
had to rake t o get them out
Even after days of shampooing and comb-
The ceremony with far-flung friends and
relatives closer by took place in picturesque
Bucks County, Pa., on a grass-covered cattle
ramp leading to a big red bam and the reception.
Every detail for the day had meaning. T h e
small-batch bourbon (Kentucky), the champagne (France). Her long, champagne-color
sheath was complemented with a light wrap
made by her friend the dressmaker. His suit.
Mil says, "was made by a designer in Brooklyn we wanted to support. His shirt was
made by a Nigerian we wanted to support."
In recalling all of the hideous bridemaid's
dresses she never wore again. Mil asked the
attendants to express their own good taste.
N o two dressed alike, and all seemed confident and comfortable and lent a certain sophistication to the scene.
Beyond the bridal party, many guests and
family members had special roles in what
Lance calls "a participatory wedding." Mil's
mom did the flowers, from the bridal bouquet to the table arrangements; an aunt from
her extended family was the jeweler who,designed the rings. And friends contributed
their talents as wedding gifts: the deejay, a
graphics design director, a producer, a professional musician among them.
The man who married thenrhad worked
with Mil at Habitat for Humanity and was
chosen for his convictions more than his religion. After the wedding vows were read,
guests were invited to stand up and speak to
or about the couple, Quaker-style. Their early fears that no one would rise were unfounded. It seemed as though everyone
wanted a chance.
' T h a t whole process of having the community be the ultimate authority that affirms
your union is a tradition we really have a lot
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Looking back on the day^Mil says, "I just
loved it. It just flew ... I'm hard-pressed to
think of anything I'd do differently."
Lance says there was stress at times, but it
was rare.
"We were married in a community we had
imported for the day. There was a village in
pi iiIrnr.r-Thai *s what we waTited to create,
and we did. I can honestly say I had a fabulous time at the wedding.
"I wrote Mil a note a few months later,
saying I'd d o it all over again.
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married. Well before the wedding,
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Also use makeup techniques
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curling your eyelashes before ap- .
plying mascara, keeping foundation demi-matte (not too oily or
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Packing with a plan promises
no-hassle honeymoon time
T
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still glowing, and you're
heading for the honeymoon of your dreams — perhaps •
somewhere warm and exotic.
The last thing you want is to
be weighed down by too much
stuff. But you'd like to have
enough of just the right pieces to
look sensual and alluring day and
night.
Several things already are in
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new husband loves your look just
the way you are. Two. you've
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get your body into good shape.
And three, current fashion trends
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"The most important thing to
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"Dressing decisions are much
easier with 'less is more'."
That means one suitcase, one
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Total.
Dresner, recently voted Money
magazine's "blaclc belt shopper."
says never pack separate individual outfits — mix separates instead and never pack anything
you haven't tried before the trip.
"Go with something you know
you feel great in. All of the
pieces should make you feel sexy
and fun."
FASHION CURRENTLY is
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even sundresses. Perfect.
Include some of the newest
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plus one or two accent colors like
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Pa.ln.ting a reception picture: N
atmosphere, food, music
post-ceremony reception is tbe most
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wedding festivities, so plan it
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editor Diane Forden.
"The options can
be overwhelming,"
she says, noting
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you want and
can afford:
• Budget. Your
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you can spend on each person.
• Location, location, location. Inspect the potential site, and visualize if it will be big enough to let.
your guests mingle and dance comfortably. The
management s idea of "comfortable seating" may
be too.close for real comfort.
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a big attraction, sd finding a spacious dance
floor and good acoustics
take priority. For more lowkey, delicate ambience, you may
want to invest more in floral displays.
• Long into the night. Suppose you want your
guests to enjoy themselves
into the wee hours.
Investigate the closing
time of the location
and if the establishment has any problems
with guests drinking
and dancing until
dawn. A hotel or
private club may be
your best bet.
• Something
different. You
don't have to pick a conventional
location.
According
to Forden, many bridal
couples choose offbeat sites such as art galleries.
lofts, or athletic clubhouses. Use your
imagination.
• Delegate it. Maybe you
hate all the planning rigmarole. Then why not
choose such a place that
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ewlyweds should carefully
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"as if it is their first child,"
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Communication is the key,
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America.
But men and women often
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if they talk about a problem with
their spouse, and husbands often
feel that relationships are better
when they don't have to talk
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"Premarital and marriage
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A support network of close
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