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Issue 2/2008
The FAMILY
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Building the Christian Family
You Never Had
Facing the No-Baby Blues
Real Life Miracles
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Family Yo
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Creating a safe haven
18 7 Tips for Pioneer
Parents
Pioneering a new path
28 Facing the No-baby
Blues
Empty arms, heavy burden
31 Baby Blues Too
The Second Time Around
32 Myths about
Infertility
Which ones do you
believe?
34 All in the Family
Aligning our relationships
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Building the
Christian Family
You Never Had
HOW
PIONEER
PARENTS
CAN CREATE
A SAFE
HAVEN FOR
THEIR KIDS
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Perhaps you are a first-generation
Christian and didn’t grow up in a
Christian family. Or maybe your family
was dysfunctional. How do you pioneer
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Will I repeat my parents’ mistakes?
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How will I parent if I’ve had no positive, godly
example?
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Why, when I read Christian parenting books,
do I feel like the author can’t relate to me?
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How do I protect my children from possible
a new path and create a truly Christian
negative influence of my parents without
home for your children? Mary E.
harming their relationship?
DeMuth shares her experience.
As a Pioneer Parent, these questions have swirled
around in my paranoid head ever since I birthed
MOST PARENTS want to create an environment
my first child. Thirteen years later, sometimes
where their children feel safe. Yet you may have
they still haunt me. How do we break free from
grown up in a place where fear reigned. Or perhaps
harmful parenting patterns? How do we build a
it was rage. Or violence. Or an obsession with
Christian foundation in our homes if we’ve had
body fat. We all come from dysfunctional families,
no example? How do we make our home a haven
because all families are made up of sinners. But there
for our children?
are degrees of dysfunction, and chances are, you
or someone you love grew up in a
The one safe place
threatening environment. You may
To pioneer a safe, loving place for
be haunted by the fear that you will
parent your children the way you
were parented.
Are you a pioneer parent?
Pioneer Parents are those who don’t
We need to realise
that outside of our
relationship with
Jesus Christ, there
is no safe place.
our children, we need to realise that
outside of our relationship with Jesus
Christ, there is no safe place. This
world is racked with terrorism, child
abductions, drug abuse, suicide,
and a host of other malevolent
want to duplicate the homes they
forces. Jesus said, “In the world you
were raised in. They share many
have tribulation, but take courage;
common traits, the most common being fear. They
I have overcome the world” (John 16:33, NASB).
ask themselves questions like:
The only safe place isn’t a location but a Person:
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Will the hurtful words my parents said to me
Jesus. “The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the
fly out of my mouth in a moment of anger?
righteous run to it and are safe.” (Proverbs 18:10)
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The psalmist acknowledged that the only true
experiences, it is difficult to picture what a safe
refuge from our earthly fears is found in God’s strong
place does look like. We need to understand the
arms. “I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you
meaning and characteristics of safe places. With that
alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety” (Psalm 4:8).
in mind, consider the following characteristics:
Although it is naive to think we can
provide an entirely safe place for our
children, it is possible with God’s help
to foster a warm, secure parental bond
with a child.
1 A safe place is a refuge.
Just as a wildlife refuge protects
animals from bullets and arrows, a
safe home protects a child from life’s
barbs. It’s a place where a child
can fall apart and not fear judgment.
Not having a safe place grew a weed of insecurity in
When I was a junior-high teacher, I noticed an
my heart, and the tendrils still wrap around my heart
interesting dynamic in two types of students. When
today. Growing up in an unprotected environment,
I met the parents of some students who were out of
I seldom felt taken care of. The result of this neglect
control at school, the parents were often surprised
was two fold. It gave me a passionate desire to love
to hear about their child’s outbursts. They’d say
my own children fiercely, but it also made me worry
something like, “Well, she isn’t that way at home,”
that I would repeat my parents’ mistakes. Would my
and then they’d look at me as if I were Mephistopheles
children feel as unsafe as I did when I was a girl?
in the flesh for suggesting such a thing.
That worry still haunts me today. Although it is
naive to think we can provide an entirely safe
Sometimes, when I met with the parents of an
place for our children, it is possible with God’s
I’ll-do-anything-for-an-A student, they’d raise their
help to foster a warm, secure parental bond with a
eyebrows and say, “He certainly doesn’t act that way
child. Not only is it possible, but it’s essential. Our
at home. He’s been climbing the walls.” The kids who
children’s first task is attaching to a person who will
worked diligently at school, who did extra credit
(hopefully) protect them.
to get an A-plus, seemed to have the freedom to fall
apart at home, to let down after a day of school stress.
What a safe home looks like
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We may instinctively know what a safe place
My unscientific proposition is this: Safe homes
does not look like, but because of our negative
allow children to fall apart; unsafe homes don’t.
The truth is, we all fall apart,
and God designed the family
as a holy refuge – a place
where both acne and anger
can erupt. It doesn’t mean a
family is a place to take license;
instead, it’s a safe place where
love overlooks the acne of
character and enables a child
broken pasts, infuses them
Part of successful pioneer
parenting is unlearning
old patterns, pressing
into God’s warm embrace
and parental heart, and
learning His ways.
to work through anger.
with His healing, and through
the Holy Spirit enables us to
forge new parenting paths.
The apostle Paul encouraged
the Christians living in ancient
Ephesus with these words:
“God can do anything, you
know – far more than you
could ever imagine or guess
or request in your wildest
dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but
2 A safe place is a
demonstration of God’s
parenting skills.
by working within us, His Spirit deeply and gently
We are representatives of God to
demonstrating God’s nature to our children, but
our children. Whether we grew
we cannot do that unless God redeems our broken
up in a stable or a chaotic home, our task is to
within us” (Ephesians 3:20, The Message).
We have the privilege as pioneer parents of
pasts and parents our kids through us.
uncover the true characteristics of God that our
parents’ sinful natures marred. God is not the
same as our earthly parents, even the good ones. As
injurious, aloof, or neglectful. Even the best
3 A safe place is grace
infused.
parents fall short of demonstrating God’s perfect,
Because the one truly safe place is
unconditional love. And so will we.
in the arms of our heavenly Father,
our heavenly Parent, He is not critical, condemning,
if we as parents are to provide a
But we can grow in godliness as we raise our
safe place for our children, we need
children. Part of successful pioneer parenting is
to demonstrate grace. Jesus modeled this concept
unlearning old patterns, pressing into God’s warm
when he welcomed the children who clambered
embrace and parental heart, and learning His ways.
onto his grace-filled lap (Matthew 19:13-14).
God is in the redeeming business. He takes our
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My friend Jack, now a parent, wants to create a
I was a pest as a child. Because I didn’t feel that my
home of grace. “I want my daughters to know there
mother cared about me, I constantly asked,
is nothing they can do to make me not love them.”
“Do you love me?” I asked for hugs and relished
her spontaneous affection. As pioneer parents, it’s
His daughter once asked, “Daddy, will you love me if
imperative that we watch for cues from our children.
I hit my sister?”
When mine pester me to hug them, I know I am
failing to instill a deep knowledge that they are
Jack responded, “Honey, I would be very disappointed
loved. I want my children to wonder wide-eyed at
if you hit your sister, and I would have to discipline
the God who gave them life. I don’t want them to
you, but I will always love you.”
wonder whether I love them.
That’s a grace-infused home.
4 A safe place is a place
where a child doesn’t
wonder about love.
5 A safe place has
clear boundaries and
expectations.
A certain school had an unfenced
playground. Children, afraid of the
A child does not live in a safe
nearby street traffic, huddled near the playground
place if he or she is constantly
equipment during recess and avoided the open field
wondering, Do my parents really love me? If I died,
near the street. A smart principal erected a fence
would Mommy miss me? To feel safe, children must
around the field, and suddenly the children ran and
know from the top of their tangle-haired heads to
played freely – right up to the edge of the street.
the bottom of their toe- jammed toes that their
A simple chain-link fence provided a boundary
parents love them – no matter what.
that created freedom and spontaneity inside its
protective enclosure.
As pioneer parents,
it’s imperative that we watch
for cues from our children.
Parents, because they love their children, will
set boundaries by letting them know what is and
isn’t allowed. If there are no family rules, chaos
results – not necessarily overtly, but in the heart of
a child. Children who have to determine their own
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set of rules never really know where they stand with their
Dusting our children off,
parents, and they are ill-equipped to determine rules in the
first place. A child without boundaries growing up will
struggle in adulthood to learn to erect appropriate
boundaries.
tousling their hair, and
lovingly setting them back
on their feet helps them
6 A safe place gives children
freedom to fail.
A safe place, however, isn’t a straitjacket of
learn that failure is
a normal part of life.
rules and regulations. Pioneer parents need
not become Pharisaical legalists, doling out
so many parameters that they confuse and
overwhelm their children. In a safe place, realistic ground
rules are set. Children who break those simple rules are
disciplined with love. Just as Jesus Christ disciplines us for
our own good, so we must discipline our children.
But we stop short of barraging them
with reminders of their failures.
Children will fail to meet
our expectations; it’s
one of life’s realities.
Dusting our children
off, tousling their
hair, and lovingly
setting them
back on their
feet helps them
learn that failure
is a normal part
of life.
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Our goal should be to correct
our children’s behaviour while still
delighting in their individuality.
When we freely admit our failures – even our parenting mistakes – to our children, we
create a safe place for our families. We demonstrate the truth that at times we all fail,
and we all are in desperate need of God’s forgiveness, grace, and empowerment.
Our goal should be to correct our children’s behaviour while still delighting in their
individuality. A stable home provides freedom to fail within the context of grace. For our
children to grow up into autonomous adults who revel in their God-given individuality,
they must understand the nuances of God’s unconditional love. We give them that
understanding as we live out unconditional love in our own lives.
“You are a good parent”
The insecurity I’ve nursed about providing a safe home for my children is at times a
nondescript fear; at other times it strangles me. A few moments stand out to me, little
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glimpses, really, that help me continue down this
loosened; I gasped, breathing in free air for the first
pioneering path.
time in nine years of parenthood. As I look back on
those freedom-filled words, I realise that in saying
One snapshot is when my friend Heidi came to visit
them aloud, I was declaring God’s ability to heal me.
in 1999. At the end of her stay, she held my gaze.
God is in the business of gathering hurting people
“You’re a good mother, Mary. Your children know
and transforming them into dependent followers
you love them.”
of His Son. It is our weakness that allows God to do
His work. The apostle Paul emphasised this when
Her words salved my fearful heart. Growing up, I felt
he said,
I was in the way. I worried that I would project that
same feeling onto my children. Knowing an outsider
Isn’t it obvious that God deliberately chose men
saw that my children knew I loved them eased much
and women that the culture overlooks and exploits
of my worry.
and abuses, chose these “nobodies” to expose the
hollow pretensions of the “somebodies”? That
Another snapshot. Just two years after Heidi’s visit,
makes it quite clear that none of you can get by
I was sitting on the love seat in our Texas living
with blowing your own horn before God. Everything
room. In the quiet of evening with the kids tucked in
that we have – right thinking and right living, a
bed, the Lord said, “Mary, I want you to say ‘I am
clean slate and a fresh start – comes from God by
a good mother’ out loud.”
way of Jesus Christ. (1 Corinthians 1:27-30,
The Message)
“Really?” I asked, without giving voice to my thoughts.
Being a Pioneer Parent and building the Christian
“Yes.”
family you’ve never had is no easy task, particularly
when we’re plagued by worry that we’ll duplicate
It took me a long time to say the words. I’m not
the homes we were raised in. But we will scale the
sure why I was so afraid; perhaps I was worried that
difficult peak of parenting – by God’s grace. Through
I would sound self-absorbed or self-important if I
God’s grace, our children will never have to say,
spoke them into the air.
“I didn’t grow up in a safe home.”
“I am a good mother,” I whispered.
Used with permission. Excerpt from Building the
Christian Family You Never Had (WaterBrook, 2006) by
As soon as I said it, the noose around my heart
Mary E. DeMuth. Find Mary at www.marydemuth.com
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TIPS for
Pioneer Parents
Mary E. DeMuth shares 7 practical tips w
which, along with the power of
the Holy Spirit, will help you build the C
Christian family you never had.
Read parenting books with a caveat of grace.
When I first became a mom, I read every Christian
parenting book I could find, determined not to
repeat my past. I highlighted words until the pages
glowed yellow. With every book I read, I berated myself
for not being a perfect Christian mother. Instead of
letting the words encourage me to improve my parenting,
I would shun myself for not parenting correctly. I didn’t
offer myself grace.
Eventually, I learned to see the books as kindly
companions instead of angry Pharisees, pointing out my
failures. I had to remind myself to be gentler toward me
– a sinner in need of grace – and understand afresh that
God delighted in me, sang over me. He was not watching
me read parenting books and mumbling, “Well, I sure hope
she bucks up and parents better after reading this.” No,
God, as I’ve had to learn, comes alongside me, cheering
me when I fail, and giving me confidence as a parent.
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Find or observe a
parenting mentor.
Of all the campaigns
I’ve initiated to try to improve my
parenting, finding a mentor has
been the most effective. I have
learned the importance of
engaging parents who are raising
stable, well-adjusted children.
The most rewarding parentingmentor relationship I experienced
happened on walks with my
friend Kathy. She had two grown
children who were serving Christ
full-time. Pushing a double
stroller as I walked a mile or
two around the neighbourhood
with her, I peppered her with
questions, she listening and
praying and offering advice.
I’ll admit it’s not easy to find a
Confessing our sins to our children
mentor like Kathy. If you can’t
and asking their forgiveness opens
find one, remember that
the door to communication, de-
mentors can come in surprising
escalates heated arguments, and
packages. I’ve been “mentored”
shows children that even parents
by kind mothers in the grocery
need the restorative forgiveness
store who answer my questions
of Jesus.
patiently, by grandparents who
get on the floor and play with
their grandchildren, by friends
who share their trials and
victories with me. The most
surprising mentor in my life has
been my eldest daughter who
is now old enough to baby-sit.
Watching her kind patience with
toddlers inspires me to be a more
patient mommy.
Say, “I’m sorry.”
Pioneer parents –
and all parents for
that matter – make
mistakes. We say painful
words that we heard our parents
say– words that once stung
us, words that now sting our
children. The best way to disarm
sin is to admit it. No parents are
perfect. Trying to appear sinless
(particularly during a bout of
anger) causes children to worry
about how they “made” mommy
or daddy be mean.
Understand that
parenting is not
outside-in, but
inside-out.
I used to think
parenting successfully
meant finding the “best”
strategies and practicing
them. Though good
parenting strategies are
helpful, particularly for
Pioneer Parents, they lacked
real power. I realised I could
impose all sorts of methods
from the outside, but my
heart (where parenting
starts) remained the same.
To parent differently than
how I was raised, my heart
needed to be healed.
David said, “What you’re
after is truth from the
inside out. Enter me, then;
conceive a new, true life”
(Psalm 51:6, The Message).
God is in the business
of cleaning, healing and
rejuvenating our hearts from
the inside out. The greater
the healing, the more
authentic and effective our
parenting will be.
Forgive your
parents.
Jesus told us to
forgive, plain and
simple. Sometimes He even
used impossible math: 70 times
7– 490 times! Holding bitterness in
your heart, shunning forgiveness,
actually hinders you from
parenting freely in the present.
Forgiveness sets you free – free
to love your imperfect parents,
free to give grace to your
imperfect self as you struggle
to parent differently. It’s not
pretending nothing happened back
there; on the contrary, forgiveness
is a revolutionary, brave act.
How is forgiveness connected to
pioneer parenting? Picture a thick
iron chain around you and your
family of origin. If you choose not
to forgive, the chain keeps you
connected to the past. It stifles
your heart so that you cannot
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parent effectively today. Choosing
to forgive causes the chain to fall
away, setting you free to parent
your children differently.
Stop the
comparison game.
Few acts are more
destructive than
comparison. I’ve
caught myself observing
other parents not to glean
pointers about parenting,
but to chide them or myself.
I will never parent that way,
I think, which can either
mean I don’t want to be
like that parent or I am an
utter failure at parenting
well. Jogging through my
neighbourhood one day,
God taught me a
comparison lesson. Each
yard was different. Some
sported “Yard of the Month”
signs. Others hatched
weeds. I realised that the
sanctification journey is
different for me, as my
“growing up” yard may
have had bad soil and not
enough sun. Comparing
myself to Yard of the Month
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parents, who may have
had affirming upbringings,
was unfair. God asks us to
concentrate on our own
yard, to pull one weed at a
time, to revel in one flower
planted.
Paul says, “That means we
will not compare ourselves
with each other as if one of
us were better and another
worse. We have far more
interesting things to do
with our lives. Each of us is
an original” (Galatians 5:26,
The Message). A chapter
later, Paul asserts, “But each
one must examine his own
work, and then he will have
reason for boasting in
regard to himself alone, and
not in regard to another”
(Galatians 6:4 NAS).
Find support.
My parenting skills
vent. Paul says that we are to “bear
one another’s burdens and thus
fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians
6:4 NAS). Finding like-minded
pioneer parents who are willing to
share struggles lightens burdens.
As I shared my burdens, and
listened to other Pioneer Parents
share theirs, I realised I was a
normal parent with typical
struggles – with a big God who
ultimately shouldered every
burden. In the company of likeminded friends I’m able to laugh
at my mistakes and continue
down the pioneer parenting path.
Being a Pioneer Parent is no
easy task, particularly when
we’re plagued by worry that
we’ll duplicate the homes
we were raised in. In granting
ourselves grace, seeking mentors,
saying I’m sorry, seeking insideout healing, forgiving our
parents, eliminating comparison,
and finding friends who bear our
burdens, we will scale the difficult
peak of parenting, by God’s grace.
increased when I
found other pioneer
parents who struggled
Used with permission. Adapted
from Building the Christian Family
just like me. When I’ve had a
You Never Had (WaterBrook, 2006)
particularly difficult parenting day,
by Mary E. DeMuth. Find Mary at
I’ll call a fellow pioneer parent and
www.marydemuth.com
I knew God was real
when my son
started washing
the dishes!
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When her elder son Desmond
started washing the dishes, it
simply confirmed a hunch Iris
Lam had: There is a God, and His
name is Jesus! Within six months,
Iris and her younger son also gave
their lives to Jesus, and together,
they experienced a total
turnaround in their family life.
DESMOND SPEAKS
Desmond Kho, fitness trainer
I was the type of person whom
people can’t believe would
get saved. You
know the kind; you
probably know a
couple of people like
that. I was ‘anti-Christ’. I
didn’t like Christians, and
I didn’t hide my disdain of them. Maybe it’s because
of certain encounters I had with Christians. I felt that
It was a sight for co-ordinator Iris Lam to behold.
instead of being loved, I was judged by them and
Instead of simply dumping his plate at the kitchen
looked upon as someone “unclean”.
sink, her 26-year-old son Desmond was washing
it. She stared in amazement as he nonchalantly
There is a Navy advertisement that poses the
picked up the sponge and began washing the plate.
question: “If your life were made into a movie, what
She was tempted to pinch herself to see if it was a
would it be like?” I knew the answer. Mine would
dream. He had never done this before. “I thought
be a short film because too much would have to be
to myself, if my son can wash the dishes, then God
censored out. That’s the kind of life I led. I was very
must be real!”
proud. I didn’t think that I needed God. Actually,
I thought I was God; all things are possible for
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It had been an eventful week; so much had
me, and nothing is too difficult for me! Doesn’t
happened in such a short time. Desmond had
that sound like God? So for 26 years, I led a life that
just received Jesus as Lord and Saviour at Trinity.
only God and I knew about. I was never a good
He, a feisty objector to Christianity, had become a
son, never a good brother, never a good family
Christian. The turnaround was both dramatic and
member to my loved ones. All I cared about was I,
drastic. It was so real that Iris, her younger son
me and myself. In order to achieve what I want,
Martin, and Martin’s girlfriend Tammy all received
I would “stab” my way up the ladder of promotion.
Christ within six months.
I worshipped money and power.
As a fitness trainer, I was proud that I could
family and three lovely children. How could he
command an hourly rate higher than what my peers
and his family still love me when I can’t even love
in other fields were earning. I had a real huge ego.
myself? I desperately needed a place to find peace.
I felt that my clients had to fit into my schedule;
So I did the unthinkable. I sent a text message to my
I wouldn’t take any appointments before 10am
uncle, asking him if I could visit his church one day.
and after 2pm. That’s the kind of attitude I had. I
(My uncle had invited us to a few events before, but
was earning far more than I expected, and was
I was always reluctant to go.) His reply was quick.
spending it faster than I earned it. It was wild. My
By God’s plan, the pastor would be reading out a
promotion was rapid. A client who trained under
testimony about him that day. Afraid that my mum
me won rugby competitions. I was selected as
would scold me for wanting to
one of the youth coaches
go to church, I lied to her that
for the national weight-
“U
“Uncle
Leslie asked me to go to
lifting team. I was featured in
h church”.
his
some newspapers and media
articles. I felt successful.
W
We all went to church together
– my mum and I, along with my
Because of my self-centered
uncle, his wife and his children.
behaviour, my girlfriend left me.
I didn’t know the songs the
It could not have happened
people were singing, or what
at a worse time. I was in credit
card debt. My career was going
downhill because I couldn’t push myself to strive
like before. My relationship with my dad was very
bad; in fact, we weren’t even on talking terms. That
night when my girlfriend left me, I went home
and walked to the window, but I didn’t have the
guts to jump. I couldn’t sleep and yet I couldn’t cry.
The next morning, as I sat in front of my computer,
I thought of my uncle and wondered how he
managed his life – he had a good career, a caring
The moment
I reached
church, I felt
like someone
reached into
my heart and
just untied all
those knots
I had inside.
the pastor was preaching.
All I knew was, the moment
I reached church, I felt like
someone reached into my
heart and just untied all
those knots I had inside.
Tears started to flow. I tried
to stop crying because there
were quite a lot of pretty
ladies in Trinity, and I didn’t
want to look bad in front of
them, but I simply couldn’t!
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There I heard
a voice that said,
“Leave it to Me.”
I knew it was God.
Then I remember
receive Christ because I had a few altars at home
Pastor Sabrina, who
and had to decide what to do with them. He
was hosting the
respected my decision but made this one statement:
service, said, “For
“You will be surprised by the power of God.”
those who have been
taking things into
One of these altars in my home was placed at the
your own hands and now your life is in a mess, raise
window of my HDB flat. Shortly after that visit to
your hands if you would like Jesus to help you.” I did
Trinity where Desmond received Christ, I received a
and I went to the altar. There I heard a voice that
warning letter from HDB stating that I would be
said, “Leave it to Me.” I knew it was God. I had made
fined $5000 if I did not remove the altar hanging
a mess of my life, and had nothing to give Him but
at my window. I took the opportunity to remove it,
brokenness. My tears flowed continuously. Honestly,
and saw it as a preparation for me to receive Christ.
it felt good to cry. Crying made me feel human
again. When Pastor Sabrina asked me “Where is
After Desmond received Christ, I could see many
Jesus now?” I pointed to my heart. That was the
changes in his actions and behaviour. He was
first time in my life I experienced such a true and
washing dishes and picking up his own clothes! He
tangible love; I knew it could only come from God.
also apologised to his father. The two of them were
constantly at loggerheads, because they are both
MUM SPEAKS
Iris Lam
senior service co-ordinator
stubborn people. I knew my son had a huge ego
and would never be the first to let go of his pride.
But he actually apologised to his dad for being
rude to him. I was amazed. About two months later,
When the altar call was given,
I myself received Christ.
I had a feeling that Desmond
should go up. So I told him to.
I can see that Desmond has really found his direction
He was weeping all the time
and focus in life. I can really see the changes in his
he was there.
life. He is no longer a big spender. He is now careful
with his money, and gives sacrificially for his faith
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At the Guest Reception, we
promise. Yet, recently, he bought
met Pastor Edwin. He asked me, “Are you ready?”
a watch for his brother. Despite
I told him that I needed to wait because my husband
being in a job transition, he spent
was not yet a Christian. Actually, I hesitated to
his bonus on a watch for his
Desmond’s take on…
Care & Connect
I received a lot of Care & Connect
from my uncle Leslie, auntie Mary and
their children, even though I did not
realise it at that time. I threw a lot of
rejection in my uncle’s face when he tried to share
Christ with me. (In fact, after I received Christ, I had
to apologise to many people, especially Christian
friends whom I had rejected very strongly.)
brother. It brought tears to my eyes because I know
it cost him dearly. It gave me great joy to see him
In order to Care & Connect, we must understand
love his brother this way.
the true value of salvation in a person’s life.
My salvation did not come easy; there was a lot
BROTHER SPEAKS
Martin Kho, payroll executive
of sacrifice by my loved ones – even my uncle’s
youngest son, who is my closest cousin. He was only
10 years old at that time, and already actively caring
I am thankful to my brother
and connecting with me.
Desmond for sharing Christ
with me. My brother played a
Each one in their family often took the chance to
big part in my salvation. If not
tell me, “We are praying for you, we are praying for
for him, I would have missed
your work”. Now that I look back, I value all these
out on this greatest blessing
small little efforts. I realise that these are actually
in life. He shared with me his
experience with God, and wanted
the same for me.
big efforts, because there are obstacles, and you
have to overcome the obstacles in order to do
these things.
At that time, our grandmother was diagnosed
I believe Trinity’s Care and Connect culture will go
with a tumour and needed to go through an
a long way in helping Christians understand the
operation. Undergoing surgery at her age was
value of salvation. There was once I fasted and
very risky. My uncle Leslie, my mum and Desmond
prayed for a friend, and at the last minute, he told
were all believing for a miracle. I told my mum, “If
me that he was not coming for the event simply
tomorrow the doctor says there is no need for an
operation, I will give my life to Jesus!”
because he “just didn’t
feel comfortable with
the idea”. I literally cried
The next day, just as I arrived at the hospital, the
doctor walked out to where our family was, and
said, “There is no need for an operation because
we cannot find the tumour anymore.” In other
words, the miracle happened! I was dumbfounded
and amazed at the power of God. I kept my word to
my mum; that weekend, I accompanied her to
when I heard that,
because I wanted so
much for him to come.
I realise that to be
successful at Caring and
Connecting, I have to put
all the rejection I receive
into a box, and place it
at the foot of the cross.
To be successful
at Caring and
Connecting,
I have to put
all the rejection
I receive into a
box, and place
it at the foot of
the cross.
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to her for help because of her strong character. But
now she has this glow, and people are just attracted
to her, and come to her for advice and help.
I can see changes in Desmond too. In the past,
whenever I approached him for advice, he would
scold me first – and then he would advise me. But
now, his attitude and approach is different. He has
become much more patient. He cares more about
the family. For example, he will remind us to visit
Grandma despite our busy schedules.
the Welcome to the Trinity Family course and right
there in the class, I got saved!
There is a promise in the Bible that when one is
saved, the whole family will be saved. This has
really happened in our family. My mother’s
salvation was because of the love of my uncle
But now, we love to sit around
and fellowship. We talk about
our walk with God, our experiences
with God, our encounters with Him.
Leslie and his family, and the transformation in my
brother’s life. It happened at Trinity’s Christmas
Our family life has also changed. In the past, we didn’t
presentation, The Inn. My uncle’s wife, Auntie Mary,
really sit down and talk. Everybody goes to their own
‘popped the question’ and my mum made her way
room, does their own thing. We didn’t have much
down to the altar to receive Christ. My uncle was so
in common. But now, we love to sit around and
happy to see my mother saved – after 10 years of
fellowship. We talk about our walk with God,
prayer! After that, my girlfriend Tammy got saved as
our experiences with God, our encounters with
well. So that makes four of us!
Him. There is so much to talk about, and we feel
encouraged by each other’s sharing!
My mum is a happier person now. We can see
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this inner glow in her. Others have also noticed a
As for myself, I have experienced God’s blessings
change in her. She really cares for people – family
upon my life. God has given me a lot of favour and
members, colleagues. She has a heart that just
increase in my career. I am new in the workforce,
wants to help. In the past, people hesitated to come
but in just one and a half years, God has blessed
Desmond’s take on…
Spiritual growth
I appreciate Trinity encouraging us to have Time
Alone with God, a time where I can hear God for
myself. I believe this is very important as we are in
the last days. If and when persecution comes, we
will not be able to survive spiritually unless we are
able to feed on the Word of God ourselves.
I have received a lot from my carecell. I often call my
me with a few increments. Then there’s my carecell.
leaders to ask them about issues I struggle with or do
The support I have received from my carecell –
not understand. They always make time for me and
especially my carecell leader Davis – is tremendous.
believe in me. Being in carecell has taught me to be
I am now a spiritual parent in my carecell. God has
open, to be human. In the past, I thought I needed to
built me up, and now I want to nurture other
put up a strong and positive image in front of others,
people. I am responsible for three spiritual babies
but now, I know it takes more guts and courage to be
and I want to help them grow.
vulnerable and to show that I am weak.
MUM SPEAKS
I am still learning to
My greatest joy is to see my sons growing in the Lord
and living out their purpose in life. I pray for them,
but I don’t have to worry about them, because I know
they are being taken care of. They are in God’s hands!
I am not a vocal person, but because I am so blessed
by God, I just want to do more for Him. Because of
the relentless belief my carecell leader Pansy has in
serve. Like everyone
else, I struggle to
serve in a joyful
manner, especially
on days when I am
If no one volunteers,
there would be
no church – then
I would not be
where I am today.
tired. But I think
to myself, if no one volunteers, there would be no
church – then I would not be where I am today.
me, I am now an associate leader in the cell.
His career in the fitness industry
What God has done in my life and family is powerful.
Our family life is so very different now. We used
to come home and keep to ourselves. There wasn’t
I now view my career as a fitness trainer through new
eyes. I see myself changing people’s lives and helping
them believe in themselves. I also want to help
much communication; there wasn’t much to talk
clients see that beauty is more than looking good on
about. Now we can talk for hours! We love to talk
the outside. There are clients whose lives are turned
and share about what God has done for us, what
around after they lose weight and gain a new figure.
God is speaking to us, what is happening in church
and in our carecells.
We are much closer now. We encourage
each other. We share our thoughts and
our feelings with each other. I guess you
could say, we are now truly a family!
I see myself
changing
people’s lives
and helping
them believe
in themselves.
Some do not know how
to handle their new-found
looks, and they literally go
wild in their lifestyle. I try
to prepare them and help
them handle their new
lease of life.
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FACING THE
No-Baby Blues
After a decade of infertility treatments,
multiple pregnancy losses, three failed
adoptions and an ectopic pregnancy,
Sandra Glahn understands the no-baby
blues faced by childless couples.
“I think I just need to relax,” I told my ob/gyn after
getting pregnant” – I left his office and stayed away
my annual examination. “We’re putting in long
for another 18 months. “If God wants us to have
hours with our youth group, I work full-time, and my
kids,” we told ourselves, “He’ll make it happen.”
husband just finished seminary.” I had believed the
myth that the cure for infertility is relaxing.
When we returned to the doctor, we began a journey
which would take us through three years of no
“How long have you been trying?” he asked.
conceptions followed by eight early pregnancy losses
and then three failed adoptions in our quest for a child.
“About 18 months.” He rolled closer and spoke gently,
“No. Perhaps it’s time to ‘stop relaxing.’ We can try a
God’s grace and some information drove us forward.
few simple procedures; the pace is up to you.”
First, we learned that infertility is usually a symptom
that something is physically wrong. Perhaps there’s
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I did not know then that I had already met the
a thyroid problem or an infection. In 95 percent of
textbook definition of infertility: the inability
cases, doctors find a diagnosable medical problem.
to conceive or carry to term after one year of
Second, we learned that for those entering medical
unprotected intercourse. (Some patients say it’s also
treatment, about 65 percent go on to give birth;
the chance to determine mood by a thermometer,
for those avoiding treatment, the number drops
hear every home remedy imaginable, and endure
drastically. Medicine and faith do not have to be
bankruptcy in injectable form.)
mutually exclusive.
Since I cringed at the idea of joining the one in
So we started the process of Love Life by Calendar
six Americans of childbearing age with fertility
Rule (which brought about as much joy as mopping
problems – people I considered “obsessed with
floors). A few times we had to “get together,” then
rush to the doctor’s office to learn whether our
loss of a dream; my heart’s desire is to have my
bodily fluids were “hostile” to each other. We turned
husband’s child and raise it together.”
into pincushions, stuck with daily injections either
to help me conceive or keep a pregnancy going.
I turned to the husband and addressed him. “And you?”
And we fought with our insurer, who lumped our
heartbreak in the same category with tummy tucks.
He looked at her, then back at me. After hesitating
a moment, he spoke to her gently, and stroked her
The emotional toll astonished us. “The depression
arm, “Don’t take this wrong, honey, but…” Then he
and anxiety experienced by infertile women are
looked at me. “It’s the loss of my wife – she is not
equivalent to that in women suffering from a
the same woman I married. Infertility is really
terminal illness,” says Alice Domar, Ph.D., director
taking a toll on us.”
of the Behavioral Medicine Program for Infertility at
New England Deaconess Hospital in Boston. Why?
“You’re normal,” I assured them. After enduring a
We’re not talking about a new living room set here.
decade of infertility treatment that included multiple
We’re talking about a child – a child who might
pregnancy losses, three failed adoptions, and an
make daisy chains, throw her arms around us, even
ectopic pregnancy, my husband and I had talked to
throw up on us. It’s not that we were “stuck on
numerous couples. And I recognised their stress,
genetics,” as some accused.
which – though different in each couple’s case – was
still a normal response to an abnormal experience.
The idea of conceiving a child as the product of
two people’s love is a precious dream, and a deep
When empty arms are a heavy burden
longing. Thus, what a comfort it often is for couples
I always hesitate to tell our “sad story” because
to discover Proverbs 30:16, which tells us that a
I don’t like to engage in what I call the Suffering
“barren womb” is among four things on earth that
Olympics – going for the gold in competing over
who’s hurt the most. Many people
are never satisfied. The intense desire
to have children is part of the way
God structured the world. The drive,
the longing, that “unsatisfied” feeling
– these are part of the design.
The intense desire
to have children
is part of the way God
structured the world.
Why does it hurt so much?
have endured much worse. Yet
during that decade (which ended
– thank God! – in the miracle of
a successful adoption) the Lord
taught us these and a few other
things that helped us:
A couple sat to eat lunch with me
after I had spoken at an infertility symposium. As
Infertility involves a normal grief process. The
we began to talk, I asked the wife, “When you grieve
loss is intangible, but it is real. First there’s denial.
over your infertility, what is your greatest loss?”
One woman insisted, “I’m not infertile; I’m just
having trouble getting pregnant!” Other responses
She didn’t have to think about her answer. “It’s the
include crying, bargaining, depression, anger,
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Children are among God’s many blessings,
but they are not the only blessing.
isolation, and resolution. Look at Hannah
friends and support groups.
(1 Samuel 1); she exhibited almost all of these.
Remember: children are a gift, not the gift. When
Unfortunately, infertility is a grief cycle within a
people quote verses about children being blessings
grief cycle: the monthly cycle of hope and despair
from God, it’s easy to feel you’re being punished.
interrupts the greater grief process, often leaving
Of the thousands of infertility patients we have
couples wondering if they will ever stop hurting.
talked with, I’ve met only one person who told me
she’s never wondered whether God was punishing
Spouses grieve differently. Because infertility
her (She was an atheist.) Children are among God’s
occurs during the childbearing years, it’s often the
many blessings, but they are not the only blessing.
first major loss husbands and wives experience as
a couple. It can be a shock to discover they grieve
Read up and speak up. As believers, our bodies
differently. Many researchers have concluded that
are temples of the Holy Spirit. So we must manage
gender-based differences significantly complicate
them well. Christian ethics here require thought
the crisis. One sociologist observed that, in
and investigation. Will the clinic show respect for
general, “Wives saw their husbands as callous and
your convictions? (Most will.) If you do high-tech
unaffected by infertility while husbands saw their
treatments, will you limit the number of potential
wives as ‘overreacting’ and unable to put things
embryos to those you are willing to carry to term?
in perspective. While wives felt their husbands
Take responsibility for your treatment.
were unwilling to talk about infertility, some
husbands wondered what there was to talk
Let God strengthen you. This is most important.
about.” In another study, half of the infertile women
Keep asking yourself, “Do I believe God is good?”
said their infertility was the hardest thing they
and “Will I trust Him?” Resist the temptation to cry
had ever experienced; only fifteen percent of their
out, “My stupid body!” Know that God made you
husbands said the same thing.
fearfully and wonderfully in love, mysterious as His
reasons may be. When Job hurt, he fell on his face
Yet it’s not always she who feels more pain; in some
and worshipped. Worship your Creator in your
marriages, he does. And infertility is not a “woman’s
pain. He cherishes you and bears your hurt. You’re
problem.” Its causes are about evenly split between
not alone.
the genders.
Reprinted with permission. This article first appeared
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One solution to the emotional disparity is for both
in HomeLife. Sandra Glahn, Th.M., is adjunct professor,
partners or the one feeling more emotional pain to
Christian Education and Pastoral Ministries, at Dallas
connect with a support group or find an Internet
Theological Seminary (DTS). Together with Dr William
buddy. Some psychologists estimate that even
Cutrer, she has co-authored other books which explore
happily married couples should expect only about
the spiritual, marital, emotional, medical, and ethic
25 percent of their support to come from their
issues surrounding infertility. More articles on this topic
spouses. The rest must come from family, church,
can be found on www.aspire2.com
Baby Blues:
The Second Time Around
By Sandra Glahn
For couples trying in vain to have a second
or third child, the no-baby blues are no less
painful.
i f l In
I fact,
f
couples
l with
i h secondary
d
infertility face unique challenges.
unexpected grief: “You notice you’re the only
mother who is not pregnant, carrying an infant,
or holding a toddler’s hand,” she says
says. “Your child
asks why she’s the only one in her class with no
brothers or sisters. You listen to everyone in your
play group discuss how far apart they want to space
When Charla and Bob Boyl tried to have a second
their children, and then you watch them conceive
child, they were shocked to discover they had a
according to plan. Meanwhile, you continue with
fertility problem. The Boyls have plenty of company;
temperature charts, medications, and doctor visits.
at least one in twelve couples of childbearing
You wonder if your child will be emotionally scarred
age experience secondary infertility. They have
by your deep desire to have another. You struggle
one child, maybe more, then find that after a year or
to answer friends and relatives who comment, ‘Time
more of trying, they have been unable to conceive
for another, isn’t it?’ Or worse, those you’ve told
or carry another pregnancy to term.
you’re infertile say, ‘At least you have one child; you
should feel grateful.’”
Fort Worth fertility specialist, Kathleen Doody, M.D.
says, “Secondary infertility appears to be under-
Many parents worry their children will be lonely,
treated. Research reveals that while half of all
lacking family connections. They may become
couples diagnosed with primary infertility pursue
overly protective or unusually ambitious for their
treatment, only one fifth of couples with secondary
single child. They may also worry that their only
infertility seek medical help.”
child will die, or bear the sole burden of caring for
them in their old age.
Psychologists confirm that both primary and
secondary infertility evoke feelings of guilt, denial,
Add to this the expense. Few employers’ health
anger, depression, and frustration. But differences
plans cover infertility. Companies often label
exist, too. Secondarily infertile couples are at an
such treatments “elective,” placing them in the
in-between place. The fertile population generally
same category as cosmetic surgery. Yet more
perceives them as having no problem because they
than 90 percent of fertility problems stem from a
have a child. And when they are with primary
diagnosable medical cause.
infertility patients, they often feel too ashamed to ask
for support for fear childless couples will resent them.
“Couples confronting secondary infertility need
empathy and validation of their pain,” says therapist
A mom finds that an activity as common as picking up
Judy Calica. “They need the freedom to grieve their
her daughter from kindergarten brings unexpected
losses and they need support in resolving their crisis.”
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By Sandra Glahn
Myths about Infertility
When it comes to infertility, a lot of myths get passed around.
Maybe you’ve heard – and believed – some of them.
MYTH: INFERTILITY IS RARE.
FACT IInfertility is quite common. Approximately one
iin six
i couples of childbearing age experience fertility
problems.
MYTH: INFERTILITY IS NOT ANY MORE COMMON THAN
IT USED TO BE; IT’S JUST THAT WE’RE TALKING ABOUT
IT MORE.
FACT The
T number of couples diagnosed with fertility
bl
problems
is on the rise. Delayed childbearing and
sexually transmitted disease are partially responsible.
Environmental factors may also play a role.
MYTH: ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE BIBLE WHO WERE
MYTH: INFERTILE COUPLES JUST
NEED TO RELAX AND THEY’LL
GET PREGNANT.
FACT Infertility is not caused
by the ffailure to relax. Ninety-five
b
percent of the time it is due to a
diagnosable medical cause. About
sixty percent of all couples who
seek treatment will eventually have
a biological child. The percentage
is much lower for couples who do
not pursue medical treatment.
INFERTILE WERE WOMEN.
W have to be careful to avoid viewing the
FACT We
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ble
as an exhaustive textbook on infertility. While
Bible
the Scriptures describe a number of couples who
had difficulty conceiving, the stories are not about
the process of infertility per se. And women are not
the only infertile people. The levirate marriage laws
(Deuteronomy 25:5, 6) suggest male fertility problems.
In addition, Ruth was married for ten years to her
first husband without children. After he died, she
went on to marry Boaz and give birth to Obed, King
David’s grandfather. This would suggest that her initial
inability to conceive was due to male factor infertility.
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“It seems there are as many causes
of infertility as there are people,”
says Dan Underwood, who has
a low sperm count. “Some of our
infertile friends have antibody
problems, some don’t ovulate, some
have tubal damage. In about a
third of couples, both husband and
wife have fertility problems. A lot of
people think it’s a ‘women’s issue.’
MYTH: INFERTILITY IS A WOMAN’S
PROBLEM.
FACT Infertility
I
is shared about equally
b
between the genders. About 30 percent
of infertility problems are due to female
factors, 30 are due to male factors, and 35
percent are a combination of both. The
other five percent remains unexplained.
Fertility problems are just as common in
men as in women. The hardest seems to
be when it’s unexplained. That happens
about five to ten percent of the time. It’s
tough to go through treatment month after
MYTH: INFERTILE COUPLES CAN END THEIR HEARTACHE
SIMPLY BY ADOPTING A CHILD.
month when all the tests indicate there’s
nothing wrong.
FACT Adoption
A
is the solution for only one of the many
llosses in
i infertility – the loss of the ability to parent the next
generation. Most experts encourage couples who pursue
MYTH: REAL CHRISTIANS ARE AGAINST ANY
infertility treatment to exhaust medical options before
ASSISTED REPRODUCTIVE TECHNOLOGIES.
pursuing adoption, as the two experiences require working
G
people, should they choose
FACT Godly
through separate sets of losses.
tto use assisted reproductive technologies,
must do so in a way that honours the
Some couples deeply grieve the loss of a jointly created child,
dignity of life, even at the one-celled stage.
the pregnancy and breastfeeding experiences, and a
continuing family line. For them, adoption will never fill these
voids. However, once they reach the “resolution” stage of
Do you know a couple
their infertility, other options look more appealing. Only then
struggling with fertility problems?
can adoption become a wonderful solution for the longing
Say a prayer for them as they
and the loss. This is why so many infertile couples find it
aggravating when their friends encourage with, “You can
face the daily heartbreak that
always adopt.”
accompanies such a loss.
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When I first started out in the ministry,
I believed that more than 50 percent
of all problems were in part due to
unresolved anger and unforgiveness.
But after 10 years in ministry, I revised
my estimate to 75 percent. Now after
20 years of ministry, I have concluded
that 90 percent of all health, marital,
family and financial problems are
rooted in unresolved anger and
unforgiveness!
This is not a scientific study; it is simply
my own assessment, based on my
observations of human relationships.
How does this relate to our families?
Because families are made of people,
they are inevitably organic, even chaotic.
Tempers can flare, relationships can fray,
and things can get out of alignment.
Rev Jeffrey Wong shares how to
bring God’s alignment into our
families and our relationships.
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We all know that maintaining healthy relationships
of witnesses.” This has to do with murder rather than
with our family and loved ones is important. But the
the killing of enemies in times of war.
reality is, relationships can get out of alignment.
The Scribes and Pharisees interpreted the Law to
Anger and an unforgiving spirit can knock our
mean that as long as you do not commit physical
relationship with God and with others out of
murder, you have obeyed the commandment. Jesus
alignment. Unresolved anger in relationships
redefines this commandment by saying, “Anyone
can defile us, prevent us from receiving God’s
who is angry with his brother will be subject to
forgiveness, give Satan an advantage, prevent us
judgment.” Jesus made anger equivalent to murder.
from bearing fruit spiritually, open us to curses and
torment, and block God’s answers to our prayers
Now does Jesus really mean that all forms of anger
such that we are not in any position to receive God’s
against others are acts of murder? We all get angry,
blessings and the new things He has for us.
don’t we? Are we therefore all murderers? Jesus
Himself was angry when He saw injustice (Matthew
Aligning our relationships
21:12-13; Mark 3:5) and the apostle Paul tells us in
If you want to align your relationships in a healthy
Ephesians 4:26, “in your anger, do not sin.”
manner, Jesus gave us three pieces of advice from
Matthew 5:21-26 to heed:
If we refer to Matthew 5:22 (NKJV), we get a clearer
picture of what Jesus meant. It says, “But I say to you
1. Jesus redefined a Command: Anger = murder
that whoever is angry with his brother without a
“You have heard that it was said to the people long
cause…” So if you are angry with someone without
ago, `Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be
reason, or if you mull and brood over something
subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone who
that has enraged you and harbour it in your heart
is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.
such that you secretly seek revenge or look for a
Again, anyone who says to his brother, `Raca,’ is
chance to get back at the person, you will be subject
answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who
to judgment.
says, `You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.”
(Matthew 5:21-22)
I once heard this story. A husband asked his wife,
“Honey, when I get mad with you, you never fight
The teaching about murder has been around for the
back. How do you control your anger? Tell me your
longest time, dating back to two passages in the
secret!”
Old Testament. The sixth commandment in Exodus
20:13 says, “You shall not murder” while Numbers
His wife replied, “I just clean the toilet.”
35:30 tells us that, “Anyone who kills a person is to
be put to death as a murderer only on the testimony
Puzzled, the husband asked, “How does that help?”
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The wife answered calmly, “Well, I use your
had something against them, all they needed to do
toothbrush.”
was to make a sacrifice, and that would put them in
right standing with God. If they failed to measure up
Husbands, if you are not nice to your wives, think
to what they knew was God’s standard, they would
about this the next time you use your toothbrush!
simply offer a sacrifice and get on with their lives. No
change required!
Jesus then goes on to describe the expressions
of anger that are sinful. The word ‘Raca’ means
But Jesus corrected that error. They needed to go
‘empty-headed’, signifying a senseless, worthless,
and make things right, and then return and give God
and brainless person. It is used to express contempt
true and acceptable worship. Have you ever been
or disdain or to dismiss someone as useless and
through a mechanised car wash? Once in a while, my
hence not worth having anything to do with. To call
wife and I will take our car for a wash. We just roll up
someone a ‘fool’ is an abusive
the windows and sit in the car
attack on a person’s character.
while it goes through the car
It connotes that the person is
corrupt and evil, and that there
is no good in that person at
all. When we run people down
and belittle others like that,
whether in their presence or
If they failed to measure up
to what they knew was
God’s standard, they would
simply offer a sacrifice and
get on with their lives.
wash. We can see all the soap
suds and water all over the car,
but nothing inside ever gets
washed. Only the outside gets
clean. You can go through
a car wash over and over
behind their backs, it is an act
again, but it does nothing to
of murdering the person’s
clear up the mess inside your
character and tearing down the individual’s
car. The inside will keep getting dirtier until you
personhood. Jesus tells us that anyone who does
decide to do something about it.
this is in danger of the fire of hell.
Many Christians come to church every week; it is like
2. Jesus gave a Correction: Be reconciled before
offering your gift
going for a spiritual car wash. But Jesus requires a
change on the inside. It does not make much sense
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar
for us to offer our prayers and worship, to partake in
and there remember that your brother has something
the Lord’s Supper, and to give our gifts and offerings
against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar.
to God if we have been dishonest or abusive, or if
First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come
we have strife and enmity with a fellow believer.
and offer your gift.” (Matthew 5:23-24)
An external clean-up is not sufficient. Religious
activity cannot be a cover-up for, or replace,
The Jews had concluded wrongly that if someone
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corrective action. You must first make things
right with your brother or sister. In fact, Jesus gives
imprisons you emotionally. This can also cause you to
greater importance to getting our relationships
start cutting them off or putting them down.
right. This is the one time it is alright to keep God
waiting! That’s how important it is to Jesus.
It does not matter who is in the wrong. You take the
initiative and do whatever is needed to settle
In case some of you think that you can put your
the matter quickly. If you need to make a call, send
intended offering back into your pocket, Jesus
an SMS, write a note or buy a gift, do it – and do it
actually says, “Leave your gift there in front of the
quickly before things gets complicated. This means
altar.” So God is not releasing you from offering up
that you will not always have your own way. The
your gift! Rather, he says, go settle the issue first,
more you insist on your rights and your way, the
and then come back to worship Him.
more problems and heartache this will cause.
3. Jesus offered wise Counsel: Settle the matter
God Himself took the initiative toward reconciliation
quickly
with us. The Bible says that even while we were still
“Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is
sinners, Christ died for us. We also must be like
taking you to court. Do it while you are still with him
Him and take the first step toward reconciliation
on the way, or he may hand you over to the judge,
where there is enmity and hostility, regardless of
and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and
who is in the wrong. Align your relationships and
you may be thrown into prison. I tell you the truth, you
relate to others the way God wants us to relate.
will not get out until you have paid the last penny.”
(Matthew 5:25-26)
Do you want this year to be a year of new beginnings
for you and your family? How you relate with others
Jesus was speaking about someone who was about
will determine how God will respond to you. It will
to be taken to court by an adversary. His advice was
determine whether you and your household will
to settle the matter quickly before the case is heard
receive the blessings God wants to bring this year.
in court, in order to avoid the risk of being thrown in
Are you ready to make the first move?
prison.
Rev Jeffrey Wong serves on the Leadership Team
If you think that this may have nothing to do with
of Trinity Christian Centre and is Trinity’s
you, you are mistaken. There is an emotional prison
Missions Director.
that can be just as painful and agonising as the
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physical one. The longer you wait to be reconciled,
the more complicated the situation will become,
and you will find it increasingly hard to be reconciled.
This causes great pain and deep hurt, which
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SHAPING
u
By mum May Tan, homemaker
Once, my son was inflicted with rashes that refused
started attending DiscoveryLand two years ago, and
to go away. A lady working in the nearby provision
always look forward to going there on Sundays. I wish
shop suggested that perhaps that my son had come
to thank the teachers for helping my children to walk
into contact with an unclean spirit. She advised me
closer to God, to live up to godly principles and to
to perform some form of ritual before nightfall to
help them become better Christians each day.
chase away the unclean spirit. When my son heard
that, he told me very firmly: ‘MAKE SURE YOU DON’T
DO THAT, YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN’.
WHAT DO YOU DO AT HOME TO SHAPE AND
NURTURE YOUR CHILDREN?
I was amazed that he immediately understood the
As a family, we usually set aside some time daily
spiritual implications of such a ritual, and how it
to read the Bible and pray for the needs of loved
relates to our relationship with God and our faith
ones and friends. As for worship, the kids would
as Christians. I was pleased by the stand he took in
gather together to sing the songs they have
Christ Jesus.
learnt in DiscoveryLand; it’s like having a mini
concert or rock band among themselves! After
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This particular incident left a deep impression upon
each DiscoveryLand service, they will share
me and caused me to be very grateful to the team
with us what they have learnt, and we will give
of teachers in DiscoveryLand for imparting biblical
examples to help them see how they can apply
truths to my children and others alike. My children
it in their daily lives.
Shaping young lives is a shared endeavour
and partnership between parents and Trinity’s
Children’s Ministry. In this family special, we take
a look at young Trinitarians who, because of
this partnership, are demonstrating strength of
character and conviction.
As told to us by father Jason Yeong, team manager
My wife had a bad fall and, as a result, had a constant pain in her back. I decided to pray
for her one night before bedtime so we gather by the bedside and both our girls were
with us. I decided to ask our girls to start the prayer and I would conclude it, thinking
that they may not have the knowledge to be able to pray.
To our surprise, Raena spoke out "Dear Lord Jesus..." and went on to pray a simple but
powerful prayer. As a father, I must say I was moved beyond words to see such boldness
and conviction coming from a 5-year-old! Indeed it was her child-like faith that began
God's healing process. My wife is now well again and the pain in her back is gone...
Praise be to God!
I believe that from DiscoveryLand, Raena has learnt to pray and believe in
God with such audacious fervour. To the teachers, I want to say, thank you for
building up the next generation of prayer warriors! Raena has learnt to pray
and it has been such a blessing to us. Thank you for giving so much of your love
and care to our 2 girls.
WHAT DO YOU DO AT HOME TO SHAPE AND NURTURE YOUR CHILDREN?
We try to inculcate prayer in the lives of our children. We give them an
opportunity to give thanks for meals, so as to create a habit or culture of
thanking God. We try to have bedtime prayer times as much as we can,
though we don’t succeed all the time. During these times, we pray for cell
members or their children who are not well. Through all these, our children
learn that God hears their prayer.
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By mum Lai Siew Min, director of a language centre
For my son, church starts
Because he is responsible and sensible, I had
at 3pm every Saturday.
the peace of mind to let him go for an overseas
That’s when he arrives in
exchange programme for two months. During that
DiscoveryLand to help
time, he told me that he and his friends had their
out in the preparations for
own ‘devotion time’, and as a result, one of his friends
the service, from manning
came to know Christ. It made me very happy to
the sound system to
know that I can trust him to be responsible, to resist
playing the keyboard.
temptation and to be a blessing to other people.
There were older ones who
mentored him. He first started out just rolling the
WHAT DO YOU DO AT HOME TO SHAPE AND
wires, and soon discovered that he has an interest
NURTURE YOUR CHILDREN?
in these things.
When he was in lower primary, I was not working.
I sent him to school everyday; it was our mother
I am pleased as it helps him to be responsible. It has
and son bonding time. I prayed for him and asked
built up his confidence and whatever he learns in
him to pray for me. I was touched and encouraged
church, he also uses in school. Now he is in charge
by his prayers. So allow your child to pray for you;
of the sound system at the morning assembly.
they will learn that they too can pray!
By mum Chua Peck Hoon, teacher
My son played games that had an
WHAT DO YOU DO AT HOME TO SHAPE AND
occultic influence. He later learned
NURTURE YOUR CHILDREN?
in DiscoveryLand that these games
I try to emphasise practical application. Once, we
were not healthy. We talked about
read this book You Are Special by Max Lucado.
it, and he did get rid of some of his
The toys in the book like to ‘label’ one another
cards, but not all. Then one day,
with dots and stars. The popular ones get stars
to my surprise, he suddenly opened his drawer and
and the unpopular ones get dots. But there is
cleared out all the cards. Now he tells me that he can
one character whose labels just slide off and
sleep better and does not have bad dreams anymore.
don’t stick, because she gets her sense of worth
from the Toy Maker. When we read this story, I
He has also experienced the presence of God in
applied it to the situation in his class, where his
DiscoveryLand. He came back and told me that when
classmates were ostracising a particular child.
everyone worshipped, he felt like crying. I told him
Then he understood that
that what he experienced is the presence of God. He
we should not ostracise
said that the presence of God gave him a desire not
anyone because everyone
to do wrong things. As a parent, I am very glad that
is created by God.
he encountered God at such a young age.
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By mum Soh Liang Liang, media director
I can see that Joy and Faith have an awareness of what pleases
God and what doesn’t. One day, we were at a shopping centre and
everyone was joining this queue to watch a free movie screening.
We joined in the queue as well. But when we reached the front of the
queue, they told me that it was “not a good cartoon” and that they did
not want to watch it.
I was surprised as I did not know about the background of the cartoon,
but I am glad that being in DiscoveryLand has taught them to be savvy
about the mass media; they have the awareness that some media
content is good, and some is not.
It happens not just in DiscoveryLand, but it starts when they are in
Nursery. All my three children have been in Nursery since day one. They
come back singing praise songs and they learn to know and recognise
Bible characters like Samson and David. Through both the songs and
stories, they understand that God can do miracles, like multiplying the
loaves and the fish. I am pleased that they ‘pick up’ all these things,
which I feel makes a big difference in their lives.
WHAT DO YOU DO AT HOME TO SHAPE AND NURTURE YOUR CHILDREN?
I try them to help them see beyond and pray beyond their own needs. I take what is in the
newspapers and use it both as a teaching point and as a prayer item. Once there was this
girl who drowned in the swimming pool because she had run ahead of her parents and not
waited for them to bring her there. I used it as a lesson on safety. There was also a photo in
the newspaper of the distraught parents, so together we prayed for the bereaved parents.
Whenever we see a funeral wake, I encourage them to pray and bless the grieving family.
They have come to realise that we can bless even those whom we do not know. This helps
widen the scope of their prayer and broaden their worldview.
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There has been such a total turnaround in Jimmy Ong’s
life; he is like a new man living a new life. What God has
done for him spurs him to reach out to many others.
Trinitarian magazine comes face to face with Trinitarians who
embody Trinity’s Vision, Values and Culture of Care & Connect.
Trinitarian magazine meets this Care & Connect champion
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who has invited more than 100 friends, and successfully
brought 40 of them to church.
WHAT SPURS YOU TO
INVITE SO MANY PEOPLE?
• My marriage failed and the whole family
Because of what I have gone
• children, my son Shaun. Shaun was a high-
through, I feel that life is very
spirited boy and a caring son, well-liked
fell apart. I had custody of one of my two
fragile. Before I knew Christ, I was a lost sheep.
and loved by all who knew him. He meant the
I had a ‘heck-care’ attitude at home, at work
world to me.
and towards life. I took things for granted and
• My son Shaun was
couldn’t be bothered with anything, let alone
diagnosed with
my family and parents!
last stage brain
cancer. I did everything
Then different things began to happen and I
• I knew to save my one
experienced all kinds of challenges. These came
and only son. I turned
at the same time, one after another.
to every single thing
and man to seek help.
• I had a punctured lung and almost lost my
life. My doctor said, “Your life is a bonus from
Yet after seven months and seven days, I lost
now on.”
him to brain cancer. He was 10 years old then.
• My business went bust and I was saddled with
I felt like I had lost everything, and that it was
overwhelming debts. I was made a bankrupt.
all over for me. Indeed I was a wretched man,
like a bird with broken wings. The turning point in
• God sent me a wonderful and God-loving
my life came when I recalled Shaun’s last days in
woman, Tricia, whom I married in January this
the hospital and the ordeal we were going through.
year. She is an incredible blessing to me. She keeps
I was utterly helpless and deeply pained by the
me grounded, makes up for my weaknesses and
sufferings he was going through, and asked him if
complements me perfectly!
he was afraid to die.
• After searching for a church for more than a
year, I stepped into Trinity and found a spiritual
Shaun said, ‘No, Dad.
family where I can belong.
When I asked “Why?”, he replied, ‘If I die, Dad, I will
be seeing Jesus.’
Because of my son’s hunger for Christ even to his last
I felt like I had lost everything,
and that it was all over for me.
breath, the strength and peace that he demonstrated
and all the significant signs that unfolded before me,
I realised that there is indeed a God and He has a
purpose for all that has happened in my life.
Indeed, I have never felt so at home and at ease
until I stepped into Trinity. It is a feeling of being
I decided to surrender my life to God, and God did
welcomed home into the family after a long and
a great restoration work in my life. He has mercifully
tiring journey out in the desert! My spiritual walk
blessed and restored my life. Christ is able to redeem
with God has flourished and grown so rapidly
all my mistakes and make my life new. Today:
since I have been here.
• I am blessed with great health. By His grace,
I was introduced to carecell, and boy! I am in awe of
I kept my promise to my late son to quit smoking,
my carecell, Farrer Harvesters from South, Trinity@
a habit I have had for more than 20 years. Today,
Adam. Kindness, warmth, care, love, peace, joy,
I can even run 7-10 km every week.
laughter, Bible knowledge… you name it, they
• My career has been restored. Today I hold a
have it! They were with me every single step
management position in the marine, oil and gas
from day one till today, helping me to grow in
industry.
my relationship with God, helping me in all my
• My broken relationship with my parents has
been restored, and we have great fellowship
needs, prepping me for my water baptism and my
wedding. Indeed they are my extended family!
every time we meet.
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incredible. God is so good. Indeed, He has
made everything new for me!
As I look back at my life, I realise that God
has been pursuing me all these years.
He was with me all this while. Though it
has taken me a long time to realise how
much my Father loved me, yet it is never
too late to give my life to Him – to
serve Him and do His work of bringing
the lost to know of Him.
Today, I am no longer like
What God has done for me
me,
no man can do; only God!
He has literally restored
everything that I had lost
– and more! But that is not
all. I had been a bankrupt
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What I can do in return
for His great love is to simply
share His love and all that He
has done in my life.
the lost sheep; I know
where I am heading. I live
my life to do God’s work,
and trust God to handle the
things that I am not able to.
for years, with all the
What I can do in return for
inconveniences that came
His great love is to simply
along with it. I had tried to get myself discharged,
share His love and all that He has done in my life. It
but was unsuccessful. When I got baptised, as
is very easy to speak and profess our love for God
I went down into the waters of baptism, I cried
by going to church, attending carecells, serving and
out to the Lord, “God, You have been faithful to
reading the Bible. But all these amount to nothing
make everything new for me, but there is just
if I do not make my life count for Him. The life I have
one thing that remains: I surrender this issue of
and live is not about me, but about what I can do to
bankruptcy to You.”
for Jesus.
Right after the weekend of my baptism, I received
Reaching out to people and sharing about Jesus
a letter. It was a notice from the court that I had
is my intentional goal and purpose. Bringing and
been discharged as a bankrupt on 16 November
connecting a friend is a very simple and small task
– the Friday before my baptism weekend. It was
compared to what God has done for me. Talking
to people,
belief and what they do or turn to in times
following up
of difficulties) and from there, I share my
and encouraging
personal testimony.
them… it is all
YOUR COLLEAGUES PETER
AND PRISCILLIA HAVE
RECEIVED CHRIST. TELL US
MORE ABOUT THAT.
very simple. I leave
all my own problems and
difficulties in life for God to handle. It’s an
act of faith – trusting God that as we do His work, He
will do what we cannot do in our lives!
I have been working together with Priscillia for the
past six to seven years. Many people in the company
HOW MANY PEOPLE DID
YOU INVITE, AND HOW DID
YOU DO IT?
have seen the changes in me since I came to know
For the water baptism service where
baptism service. She was touched by the many
God. I knew that she goes to church on and off,
and took the opportunity to invite her to the water
powerful life stories were shared, I invited 45 friends
testimonies that were shared and answered the altar
– and 21 actually came. For the ‘I Need a Miracle!’
call to accept Christ.
Power Weekend last August, I invited 120 people,
and 17 came.
For Peter, I saw a sense of emptiness in him and
reached out to him. Peter saw how God had touched
I have a regular contact list of friends which I have
and changed my life. He accepted my invitation to
built up over time. I make it a point to keep in touch
come to church and gave his life to Jesus that
or follow up with them, through calls, SMS or emails.
weekend. God has done much for him as well. Our
For these events, I called each of these people
colleagues have commented that they can see the
personally to invite them.
difference in him. God has also blessed him with a
relationship.
The key challenge I face is how to approach people
without them feeling uncomfortable; inviting them
I am very happy to see their lives changed! And
to an exciting and fun gathering. These
God is still doing His work among my friends and
people know me and I usually begin
colleagues. In fact, just this Easter, my colleague Kris
with sharing on what God has done
Lee and her three daughters also received Christ.
for me. Sometimes I ask questions
So the gift goes on!
(whether they have a spiritual
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Peter Tan
assistant sales manager
and team leader
What made you accept Jimmy’s
What made you decide to make
to God for my complete healing.
invitation?
Trinity your home church?
Besides improvement in my
Jimmy and I have been colleagues
Jimmy’s carecell members!
health, there is also a great sense
since 1995. Jimmy is very
Everyone is very friendly and
of peace and calm that I have
different from the early days
encouraging, and I enjoy their
never had. My job is very hectic
before he became a Christian.
company. They have been very
and fast-paced, but I no longer
There is a peace in his
caring and are always inviting me
feel so stressed, like I did in the
demeanour. I know he has gone
to join them.
past. It feels so much easier
through much in life - bankruptcy,
to achieve my sales target
divorce, illness, challenges in the
What made you decide to join
nowadays – and I know this
family, bereavement – and yet
a carecell? How has the carecell
is all because God has helped
there is a peace that he has. He
been a blessing to you?
me, bringing people to call and
has been talking to me about his
I have only attended the formal
contact me. I used to be worried
God and I was curious. He said
carecell meeting once so far.
and stressed up about meeting
something like ‘I can talk to my
I have not been able to join
the targets, but now I’m learning
God’, and I was curious to find
regularly because of my work
to enjoy the work I do. Also, it
out more.
schedule. But the carecell
does not feel so routine. In fact,
members are very warm, and I
I have just been promoted to a
Share with us your impression
usually join them for lunch after
team leader. I am very thankful to
when you came to Trinity. What
service on Sunday, going to
God for answering my prayers –
led you to accept Jesus?
different places to makan (eat).
in terms of health and work!
feels very different from other
Since then, how has your life
Praying every night is also
religions I know. It is a very new
changed?
a new experience; I have a
thing for me, especially the part
I had a health problem for more
new peace and can rest much
about talking to God and Him
than 10 years. The amazing
better. I find a greater sense of
speaking to us.
thing is, since I came to church
meaning in my life now. Also,
and gave my life to Jesus, the
there is a sense of belonging to
How long have you been
internal bleeding stopped! It
the carecell.
attending Trinity?
came back again recently, but it is
More than 6 months now.
not that serious and I am praying
I first came in October 2007. Prior
to that, I had never stepped into
church before, not even at the
gates. The company I keep is from
a very different world; my friends
are the very rowdy type. My first
impression was that Christianity
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Priscillia Yang
project administrator
What made you accept Jimmy’s
invitation?
I listened to the stories of the
I used to go to church for special
people and how God changed
the people here in Trinity very
events at the invitation of friends
their lives for the better. I felt
warm and caring. They make me
but I’ve never attended church
a great need for comfort and
feel really welcome, and there is
regularly. I have never given my
strength and decided to accept
genuine concern and love.
life to Jesus, though a friend did
Jesus as my personal Lord. You
pray for me many years ago.
could say it was also a case of
What made you decide to join
being at the right place at the
a carecell? How has the carecell
right time.
been a blessing to you?
Jimmy is my colleague and we
I have attended carecell 5-6 times.
are good friends. I see a drastic
transformation in him… He is
How long have you been
Having friends to rally round and
like a different man altogether!
attending Trinity?
support me helps me feel that I
The other reason why I accepted
For more than 6 months now,
am not alone.
Jimmy’s invitation was because I
since November 2007.
Since then, how has your life
was going through a rough patch
and was feeling quite down.
What made you decide to make
changed?
I didn’t feel like being alone so
Trinity your home church?
I don’t feel alone anymore,
I decided to come to church.
I was feeling very helpless and
since I now have a spiritual
alone, and the only one who
family to share my burdens
Share with us your impression
could help me was Jesus. At the
and difficulties with. I also know
when you came to trinity. What
same time, knowing Jimmy and
that God is there to help me
led you to accept Jesus?
his friends gave me a sense of
whatever my difficulties may be.
The water baptism testimonies
belonging. Among the different
There is a greater sense of peace
were very touching. I cried as
churches that I have visited, I find
in my life now!
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We met Phuong, a Vietnamese lady, at our cell
member’s house blessing. Actually we cell folks
were tempted to keep to ourselves as it takes
extra effort to get to know new people and there
were many sophisticated pre-believers there, some
of whom were high flyers in the financial world.
They also seemed to know each other very well, so
it was not easy to talk to them. Nevertheless, a few
of us stepped out of our comfort zone and made the
effort to talk to Phuong.
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• We then invited her to our section’s Chinese New
Year celebration. She came and enjoyed herself
the nurturing material for new Christians and
newcomers.
very much, and she got to know many of our
cell folks.
God has taught us that when we step out in
• Next we invited her to witness two of
obedience, He moves mightily! We also learnt the
our cell members getting baptised.
power of teamwork in reaching out to our friends,
She came to church but said she was
as Phuong came as a result of the efforts by two
not ready to receive Jesus yet.
carecells - Tessarina and 342 Champions - to keep in
• We kept praying for her and believing
touch with her
God to touch her.
Praise God for the marvelous way He is working! We
At Easter she came but did not respond to the altar
are truly encouraged!
call. However, when asked later if she wanted to
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receive Jesus, she said that she already had as she
Rosita Fernandez, adjunct lecturer
prayed along with Pastor Dominic when he said the
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sinner’s prayer.
West, Trinity@Adam
Through a sermon series
I invited my colleague to attend the Easter drama.
She could not make it because of her shift work that
day. However, I was prompted by the Holy Spirit to
invite her to the church preaching series, Sit, Stand,
Walk: Your Posture Matters! It was a series on spiritual
authority. She came to the church for the first time.
After that, I continued to follow up with her because she is very open and
receptive. She told me that she used to attend a Christian school. I have asked
her whether she wanted to receive Jesus, but she said she wasn’t ready.
She attended the church a few times, and one morning, I received an SMS
from her, saying that she was now ready to receive Jesus as Lord!
I quickly responded to her and led her in the sinner’s prayer.
When I asked her why she came to this decision, she told me that her spirit
and heart kept stirring within her about receiving Jesus as Lord, and she
did not feel at peace. When she attended service, she felt very peaceful, but
whenever she missed the service, she felt very uneasy.
I thank God for stirring that
desire in her heart to receive
the Lord. Truly, the Lord loves
her and led her to make
that decision. I know that all
heaven is rejoicing over her
salvation!
Kevin Liew, engineer
North, Trinity@Paya Lebar
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Through a dinner
Mui Hung and I are colleagues, albeit in different
shocked me for a while, for I’ve never personally
departments in our workplace. She is part of the
led anyone to Christ in my nine years of being a
sales team working as a coordinator, while I am in
Christian! I immediately took my ‘Guilty!’ invitation
the Regional Marketing Department. Though we
card out and invited her for the Easter drama. She
are not very close, I managed to strike up
accepted the invitation and said that she
some conversations with her at work.
would make it for the play.
It all started when we wanted
Days went by after that. As the
to catch the same movie and
weekend drew near, I realised
I suggested that we should
that I should have led Mui
watch it together after work
Hung to say the sinner’s
one day. But by the time we
prayer with me there and
reached the movie theater,
then! Why should I wait till
we were already late for the
‘Guilty!’ to get her saved? Why
show. Not wanting to make
couldn’t she receive salvation
it a wasted trip, we decided
now? What if something
to have dinner together before
happened to her before the drama
heading home. While having dinner,
comes around? The more I thought
our conversation topic began with ‘types
about it, the more I had the urge to lead
of movies we liked’. Somehow or other, I started to
Mui Hung to Christ. When I was on the bus, I texted
bring Christianity into the conversation. Mui Hung
her to call me on my mobile phone, and she did. I
was quite open about it and we started to talk about
led her through the sinner’s prayer on the phone
church and different beliefs, etc.
that day. I was so glad that I managed to make an
impact in my workplace; it is something that I’ve
As we talked, I had this gut feeling in me that Mui
prayed about ever since I started working in Warner
Hung has an aunt who is a Christian. Taking a step
Music.
of faith, I asked her if one of her aunts is a Christian.
Mui Hung’s reaction was instant. She looked
Mui Hung did come for ‘Guilty!’ and has started to
shocked and admitted that her aunt is a Christian,
attend service together with me since then. She
but she has never really told anyone about it. There
also managed to join some of my friends for some
was a lingering silence between us for a while. I
activities outside of church a couple of times. I’m
tried to lighten the mood by saying “ooohh, God is
glad that all the Trinitarians are welcoming and
in our midst liao.. haha...” but I could see that she
friendly to her. This is also a personal breakthrough
was thinking about something.
for me; God gave me the strength and courage
to spread the Gospel at work, despite difficulties
Mui Hung has never come across to me as
such as people’s reactions and perceptions about
someone who would want to know about Christ.
Christianity. Indeed God saves, and all things are
Frankly I didn’t think that she would be open to
possible with Christ!
the Gospel! Despite that, I really wanted to ask her
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the ‘million-dollar question’. Mustering up enough
Pauline Chua, promotions executive
courage, I asked her if she would like to accept Jesus
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into her life. She immediately said ‘Yes’. That
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shared that his daughter went for the “Guilty!”
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Sermon
Series
What is a sermon series?
A sermon series explores a particular topic or issue
over the span of a few weeks.
Why invite someone to a sermon series?
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such as work, relationships, family, finances, or
You may have seen
topics such as abundance or leadership. It is
the flyers. You may have
even sat through one
relevant to life in a contemporary world.
2
Each sermon series is an engaging take on
issues that affects us all, and gives believers
without realising it.
and pre-believers alike a biblical perspective on
these issues.
We are talking about a
unique feature of Trinity’s
Each sermon series touches on real life issues,
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It is an opportunity for a friend or loved one
to gain new perspectives of God, and fresh
celebration service –
insights into pertinent themes and issues.
the sermon series.
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As a sermon series stretches over a few weeks, it
is an opportunity to explore a topic at length, in
a way that cannot be done in a single sermon.
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5
It is usually presented by a different speaker each
• There have yet been others who persisted and
week, providing multi-faceted insights into a
persevered in inviting their friends and loved
single topic.
ones again and again, using the sermon series
along with other platforms, such as life skills
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As each speaker will share from his or her life
seminars and special events.
experience, you can be sure that your family and
friends will find it more than applicable.
When’s the next sermon series?
There is always an upcoming sermon series. Look
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People have been saved and impacted through
out for the publicity, which may come in the form of
the sermon series.
a well-designed flyer, or simply as a description in
the bulletin, on the panel that says “Bring a friend,
Many Trinitarians have seized the sermon series
connect the friend”. If you are on the mailing list,
as an opportunity to invite their friends, and
you will also receive an email or web flyer. (If you are
connect them to God and to the Trinity family.
not, just subscribe at the website!)
• Some Trinitarians have been able to invite
So I don’t have to wait for the next “mega-event”
friends who received a timely word from God
to invite my friends to church?
for their particular situation.
That’s right! The next time you hear of a sermon
• Others have just used the catchy title to invite
series, remember that it is an opportunity for you
their friends at random, and opened a way for
to invite someone. For more information, look into
them to have a divine encounter with God.
your bulletin… and invite someone today!
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Who brought you to church?
Jeffrey Wong
A friend whom I knew during my national service days
invited me to Trinity. I bumped into him a few years after army and that’s when he
extended an invitation for me to visit Trinity. Out of an inner prompting, I accepted
the invitation.
When I first stepped into Trinity’s service at World Trade Centre, I was immediately
attracted to the tangible presence of God during the time of worship and the ministry
of God’s Word; it was so real. My friend introduced me to two others, and these two
Trinitarians cared and connected with me. I felt the warmth of their friendship, and
they constantly ‘looked out’ for me. They introduced me to others and connected
me to Petra Fellowship, which was the name of Trinity’s Young Adults Ministry then.
Danny Leong
Erolyn (who is now my wife) was brought by a friend of
mine to a gathering I organised. I didn’t know her before that. At the gathering, she
invited me to church with a simple question, “Why don’t you come to church to
find out more?” I came, had a good feeling, and returned regularly after that.
She introduced me to the choir, a great group of believers who welcomed
this pre-believer into their closely knit group. Linda Ong, Patsy, Lily Lim, Lai
Ying, Bernard, Anita and others invited me to all their activities: BBQ, bowling,
swimming, and of course, food! What surprised me most was the genuine love
expressed by everyone towards each other and me. The choir members were
very affectionate! I felt very accepted. I had great fun. They had one goal in mind –
to get me saved! Some six months later, I gave my life to Jesus at one of the services.
A friend and I saw a bus advertisement with this question: “Are
you hurting?” It was an advertisement by Trinity. My friend was
suffering from a slipped disc, and so she decided that we should
visit Trinity, even though the ad was referring to emotional hurts.
Beatrice Kang
As a first-time visitor and a pre-believer, I was very wary, but to
my surprise I felt safe. The people were warm. Subsequently,
I came to Trinity alone. I received the Lord four weeks later but
being an exceptionally guarded person, I did not avail myself
to anyone for nurturing. Despite that, two persons really made a connection in my life – Pastor Dowdy, and Lai
Ying (then the Pastor overseeing the Worship & Fine Arts Ministry) who opened her heart, home and her family to
me. Their informal nurturing changed my perspective of God and what it is like to be in the family of God.
That spurred me to just want to serve God. Within a couple of months I was in cell, serving in the Worship & Fine Arts
Ministry, and helping out in the church office.
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Bring a friend, connect that friend… for who knows, you might change the course of your
friend’s life forever! Our Leadership Team pastors spill the beans on who brought them to
church and set them up for a date with Destiny.
Wilson Teo
My sister invited me to Trinity in 1985 when I stagnated in
my spiritual walk. She had been coming to Trinity for a few months and shared
with me her wonderful experience in Trinity. That got me all excited to come
and see it for myself.
On my first visit, I felt the presence of God in a way which I had not
experienced before. That kept me coming back to enjoy the vibrant and
intimate worship with God. I started attending classes and cells, which
further integrated me into the life of the church. The people in the Trinity
were very warm and friendly, and helped me to feel part of this large family.
I decided to get water baptised in Trinity and have been a member ever since!
When I was in school, a friend tried to share the
Lam Ee Lin Someone invited one of
gospel with me while we played table soccer together.
my friends to Trinity, and he invited a whole group
Talk about care and connect! This brave soul was
of us! We all decided to come together –
none other than Pastor Dennis Lum Although I didn’t
I guess you could call it the friendship factor,
receive Christ then, I did two years later.
or the herd instinct! For a long time, we stuck
together as a group, attending church and growing
But he
together. We enjoyed the worship and the sermons.
wasn’t the
Gerald Tan
one who
A brother from
brought
Trinity connected
me to
with our whole
Trinity; it
group, often
was my
stopping to talk to
parents.
us and encourage
us. I thank God
Here’s what happened: I got saved in another church,
he did, for he
but when my parents got saved in Trinity, I moved
was the one who
over to join them. I was very introverted, and did
encouraged me
not have a single friend. I was happy just to keep to
towards water
myself and attend service with my family. Later, I did
baptism and finally saw me water baptised.
some reverse ‘care and connect’ by inviting Dennis
I continued to grow in Trinity, and later, I started
over to Trinity. Now, I had a friend!
serving as a Sunday school teacher.
Wanting to serve in any way I could, I volunteered to
I would say the friendship element definitely
be a sound man for the youth ministry. I must have
played a part in helping me settle into church.
been good at it, because they later put me in charge
But once I settled in, it was connecting with God
of it. Perhaps this goes to show that serving helps
that helped me grow further and deeper. Now
a person get connected and settled into church!
that’s the ultimate connection!
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We are mid-way
into the year of new
beginnings! Are you
still pressing in for
that which God has
promised you? Get
ready for The Blessing,
for God wants to pour
it out into your life, says
Rev Dominic Yeo.
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When someone is taking his or
her leave, we often say ‘man zhou’,
which literally means ‘walk slowly’.
It is a Chinese tradition that is used
to release a blessing. It is a way of
wishing the other person a wonderful
journey and a safe return. People in
I will make you
into a great nation
and I will bless you
I will make
your name great.
you. I will make you into a great nation
and I will bless you; I will make your
name great, and you will be a blessing.
I will bless those who bless you, and
whoever curses you I will curse; and
all peoples on earth will be blessed
through you.”
times past seemed to understand
the richness and impact of such a blessing. Today,
Understanding The Blessing
many contemporary believers want to be
There are a few things we need to understand about
blessed, but fail to understand the significance
our God who is a God of blessing.
and power of The Blessing.
The concept of The Blessing did not originate
from man but from God, because God is a God of
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It is God’s will to bless us
God wants to bless us. God tells Abraham in
Genesis 12:2, “I will bless you.” The word ‘will’
blessing. Genesis 1:28 gives us the first record of
indicates both God’s desire and intent. God loves to
God blessing humanity: “God blessed them and said
surprise us in ways that causes us to be awestruck
to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the
and fascinated by the great and wonderful love of
earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and
a magnanimous God. When God says, “I WILL bless
the birds of the air and over every living creature that
you”, it means that God not only has the desire
moves on the ground.”
to bless us, but He WILL bring it to pass. It is an
imperative. God WILL make it happen. God has both
To arrive at a true understanding of The Blessing
the intent AND the ability to bless us!
of God, we must look closely at the Abrahamic
Covenant. For when we believe in Jesus, we become
sons and daughters of Abraham, and are spiritually
grafted into the true vine, Israel. We come to share
in all the blessings of God that are for Abraham’s
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God’s blessing is not based on our
righteousness, but on His grace
and sovereignty.
descendants. The Bible records the Abrahamic
Many of us think that God will bless us only if we
covenant in Genesis 12:1-3. “The Lord had said to
are righteous. As a result, we go through rigorous
Abram, “Leave your country, your people and your
religious disciplines and exercises, live our lives
father’s household and go to the land I will show
according to a list of do’s and don’ts… trying to
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make ourselves righteous, so as to earn God’s
entirely on His magnanimous grace and sovereignty.
blessing. But no matter how hard we try, we can
Are you ready for God’s blessing to come into your
never be good enough. So we reason that since
life? Remember, it is based not on your works or
we can’t please God, God won’t bless us. But that
righteousness, but on God’s sovereignty and grace.
is a lie from the pit of hell, because the blessing of
God is not based on our righteousness. The Bible
tells us clearly that our righteous acts are like filthy
rags before God (Isaiah 64:6). In other words, we
can never be good enough! But the moment you
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God’s blessing is not based on who
we are, but on our response to God.
God wants to bless us. God is able to bless us.
But He looks for our response. He is not looking for a
The beauty of God’s blessing is that it is based entirely on
His magnanimous grace and sovereignty.
acknowledged your sin before God and came to
response of religious rites or duties, but a response
know the Lord Jesus Christ, God cleansed you
from our hearts; a response of faith and obedience.
instantaneously. The point is not whether you feel
clean or not. The fact is, Jesus – by His blood shed
In order to capture the essence of this, we must
on the Cross – has cleansed you and made you
understand Genesis 12:1. God told Abram to leave
clean. The blessing of God comes to you today
his country, his people and his father’s household
solely because of God’s grace and sovereignty!
and to go to the land that He would show him.
Who was Abram? He was actually someone who
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During Chinese New Year, we give ‘ang pows’ or
worshipped idols. Why did God choose him? We
red packets to our children and loved ones. Did you
don’t know, but the blessing of God is never
withhold red packets from your children this year
based on who we are, our accomplishments or
just because they misbehaved? Of course not! We
our relationships. God doesn’t work this way. God
bless them nonetheless. It’s the same with God.
blesses us not because we lead a carecell or go to
God’s blessing is not based on our righteousness.
prayer meetings. God sovereignly picked Abram and
The beauty of God’s blessing is that it is based
chose to bless him based on his response.
God asked Abram to leave the Ur of the Chaldeans.
impact our nation. I believe that God is about
This was a flourishing sea port with extensive trade.
to touch every Trinitarian so that corporately,
In fact, it was the most magnificent city in the world
Trinity will impact our nation for God’s glory.
at that time, very prosperous and progressive, with
I also believe that God will establish you in your
great commerce. It was also a centre of farming with
business so that you will stand out and impact
very fertile ground, and a manufacturing centre to
the nation, and the church will experience that
boot. They had it all! Who would want to leave a
blessing as well.
place like that? And especially when you don’t even
know where you are supposed to go!
2 “I will bless you” – Personal blessing
I believe that God is about to bless us with
God also asked Abram to leave his father’s household,
a personal blessing. We are blessed to be a
which included his father’s treasury. His father Terah
blessing, to be a source of blessing. God’s
was very wealthy. The wealth Abram stood to inherit
personal blessing will rest on us. Kings like
could probably feed his family for generations. Yet
Darius, Nebuchadnezzar and the Pharaoh paid
God told him to leave all that security. Why? Human
attention to people like Daniel, Nehemiah and
affection needs to give way to divine grace when
Joseph because they recognised that God
we follow the Lord in faith and obedience.
was with them and they were blessed of God.
I believe that God will bless you richly with a
God wanted to bless Abram, but Abram’s response
personal blessing this year. It could be a blessing
was key. He needed to respond in faith. Because
in your relationships, in your finances or in your
Abram responded in faith and obedience, he later
physical health.
became the father of the nation of Israel.
3 “I will make your name great” – Reputational
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Blessings God wants to give you.
blessing
I believe there are four blessings that God
In the first blessing, the word ‘make’ in the
wants to restore and release to you as part of
phrase ‘make you into a great nation’ means ‘to
the Abrahamic covenant:
establish’. But here, in this blessing, the word
‘make’ in ‘make your name great’ means ‘to
1 “I will make you a great nation” – National
enhance and grow’. God promised to establish
blessing
Abram as a nation, and then to enhance and
This means that God will establish us as a great
grow his name and reputation.
nation. The blessing of God in our lives will
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This connotes growth
and promotion. God
will enhance and
grow your name,
which refers to
your reputation or
fame. God will also
to others. As God
God wants to grow your name
into a name of renown, a
name that people will relate to
greatness and goodness.
make you renowned
blesses you financially,
it will be multiplied to
others. As God blesses
you relationally, your
relationships will bless
others. Get ready for your
multiplied blessing! Your
and bless your
life will be so blessed, and
reputation. God wants to grow your name into a
you will bless many more lives. That is what The
name of renown, a name that people will relate
Blessing is all about.
to greatness and goodness.
I am blessed, so are you!
4 “You will be a blessing” – Multiplied blessing
Are you ready to step in to receive the blessing that
Out of your life will flow a multiplication of
God has for you? God knows the exact blessing
blessing wherever you go and with whomever
that you need, and He desires to pour out The
you come into contact. The blessings of God will
Blessing into your life.
overflow in your life such that everyone around
you will get blessed!
I am blessed, I am blessed
Everyday that I live I am blessed
An example of someone who is blessed is Pastor
Tan May Ling. Even in her affliction and battle
with cancer, she has so many other cancer
patients coming to her, because she blesses
When I wake up in the morning
When I lay my head to rest
I am blessed, I am blessed!
them. Her doctor even joked that at this rate,
he might have to set up an office for her at the
hospital. The blessing that she has experienced
from God has multiplied to all around her.
Rev Dominic Yeo is the Senior Pastor of Trinity
Christian Centre.
Were you blessed by this article? Tell us about it!
You can’t be a blessing to others if you have
not experienced God’s blessing. God wants to
bless you with joy so that it will be multiplied
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My Divine Assignment
In April, Trinity celebrated
Apostle Naomi Dowdy’s
birthday and paid her a
tribute in all its services. She shared
with the church a glimpse of the
next phase of her life. Here we
produce an excerpt of her speech.
Dear Trinity, you are an awesome church! Thank you for this birthday surprise.
May I take this occasion to share with you God’s plans and assignment for me in the
next phase of my life.
As the expressions of my extended ministry through Naomi Dowdy Ministries (NDM)
are growing and expanding, I believe it is wise for me to be released from positions of
legal governance in the Church, and from being an official staff member of Trinity.
No matter what God calls me to do, my heart, passion and first priority will always
be Trinity Christian Centre. I am still the Resident Apostle of the Church. I am still a
member of Trinity. I am still living in Singapore – though I will be travelling in and out
of the country, as I usually do. And I am still part of the Preaching Team!
You may ask, what does a Resident Apostle do? It means that I serve alongside our
Senior Pastor, Pastor Dominic, and the Board in Trinity as they continue to bring
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the church to the next level. I primarily serve as
that you bring to my heart, as I continue to watch
a coach, mentor and advisor. So I am still around –
you grow and soar to new heights in the Lord.
just in a different capacity. Pastor Dom and the
Years ago, God gave me a promise in Psalms 2:8:
team are doing a great job. I am proud of them.
“Ask of Me, and I will make the nations your
God is stretching them and Trinity is growing.
inheritance, the ends of the earth your possession.”
Praise the Lord!
Trinity will always be part of my inheritance, but
God is continually enlarging my inheritance –
Naomi Dowdy Ministries will continue to be involved
and I am seeing the fulfillment of that promise!
in areas of consultation, mentoring, training, and
the building up of pastors, leaders and churches in
By God’s grace,
other nations, as well as in Singapore.
I will endeavour to
accomplish every
I want to thank each of you for your love. Your cards,
assignment that God
emails and words of encouragement are special and
gives to me. For this,
mean a lot to me. Words can’t describe all the joy
I covet your prayers!
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Corporate Donors –
Together we make it happen!
ALBERT LOH,
DEUTSCHE BANK
For the past 7 years,
Deutsche Bank has
partnered with Care
Community Services
Society in caring for
the needy through
their Deutsche Bank
Asia Foundation. It
all started through one
k, Albert Loh.
man from Deutsche Bank,
Albert Loh was the man who spearheaded
the Beyond Us project under Deutsche
Bank Asia Foundation since 2001. His first
project saw 46 Deutsche Bank staff raising
$4,800 for CCSS’ elderly lunch fund. His
compassion touched many and in the
Beyond Us and raised money to kick start CCSS’
back-to-school fund. Over the last few years, he has
done much to raise funds for CCSS’ school pocket
money fund. Because of him, CCSS is able to bless
children with pocket money for their meals, school
stationery and assessment books.
following year, more Deutsche Bank staff
came forward and joined him in the fund
raising effort. Once he ran a half marathon
to commemorate the 5th anniversary of
What motivates Albert Loh to do what he does?
“I saw families having to share a packet of instant
noodles for dinner, kids going to school without
pocket money, kids without textbooks or a school
uniform, single parents leaving their kids without
supervision at home. I knew I could do something,
and not only me, but I could rope in my company to
help too. We created a school pocket money fund
and an elderly lunch fund. We got book vouchers
ffor kids and brought them on outings. I’ve been so
blessed to give, and all my staff, regardless of their
position, have learnt that they can do so too.”
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Whatever your position in the company, you can encourage your
company towards love and good deeds – to be a corporate donor of Care
Community Services Society (CCSS).
Here are two ordinary people in the marketplace who have done just that.
ALAN, EMPLOYEE OF AN MNC
An employee of a multi-national corporation
revamp! These engineers did what they knew best;
pioneered a different path by leading a team of
they fixed stuff! They changed the furniture, added
employees from his company to give physical
a heater in the bathroom, gave the bedroom a new
support to CCSS beneficiaries through sheer sweat
look, painted one of the rooms and made many
and aching muscles. Under our Make Their Day
other meaningful changes. They literally sweated
programme, we introduced a family to this group
it out the whole day to made a lasting and visible
of colleagues, and they readily agreed to “make the
change in the lives of this family. And in so doing,
day” of this family. They made the day of this single-
they changed the quality of life for this family, in the
parent family by giving their 30-year-old flat a total
very place that mattered the most – their home.
Don’t make a difference – make YOUR
difference!
Have you ever wondered why you do what you do?
You may be a banker, engineer, politician, manager,
caregiver, receptionist, personal assistant, or
homemaker. Do you ask why you have been placed
in that job? I do. I asked such questions.
And now I know the answers:
✔ I believe that God has the best plans for me and
nothing ever happens to me without God’s approval.
✔ Wherever I am, there is an opportunity for me to
be a blessing to others.
✔ We are called not just to preach the word of God
but to show the love of Christ through our
everyday life; through the works of our hands, the
way we interact and connect with people.
Who knows if perhaps you were made _____ (insert
your job) for just such a time as this? - Esther 4:14b
Here’s how you can make YOUR difference!
✔ Be an advocate of CCSS wherever you are.
Tell others about the charity, and what it does.
✔ Suggest, speak up and encourage your
employer or company to do something for
the needy through CCSS
✔ Rally your department or colleagues to get
together and make a difference to a needy
family or child.
✔ Don’t know where to start? For ideas and
resources, just drop us an email or give us
a call!
To find out how you can partner with us to serve the
community either as a volunteer or a sponsor, please contact
our Community Partnership Team: John Chua at 6304 7619
(JohnChua@carecom.org.sg), or Ms Stella Aw Yong at 6304 7617
(StellaAwYong@carecom.org.sg) or Miss Daryl Lee at 6304 7618
(DarylLee@carecom.org.sg).
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Friends,
Foes and
Lovers
Would you become friends with The Boss? How about sex
before marriage? These provocative questions were posed
at the forum and talk-show which were the focus of the
Combined Districts Young Adults Gathering on 4 April 2008.
By Kevin Kwang, Tan Rou’en and Gillian Ang
ramifications it might have. While
towards non-disclosure.
the reasons varied in content,
the panelists had no qualms in
At the end of the evening, Pastor
befriending their superiors, even
Dominic Yeo took to the stage
if it might cause envy or gossip
to share some of his thoughts
with their colleagues.
on the complexity of office
relationships between opposite
But it was, perhaps, the second
genders. He shared candidly of his
question which created a bit
own response to the blog entry
more of a stir, when the question
scenario, calling it “professional
Working Adults
of making friends with the
will”, where we, as Christians,
The working adults had a forum
opposite gender was broached.
have to “set the motivation of
discussion that revolved essentially
A blog entry depicting a scenario
both heart and mind right” and
around friendship in the workplace.
where a man and a woman,
exercise discipline and
It was facilitated by Pastor Larry
who spent most of their time
practicality in averting
Lee, and joining him were 6 young
working together on a project,
the allure of attraction.
working adults, who were the
began to wonder if they had
panelists for the evening.
feelings for each other. The catch:
one of them was married. The
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Would you become friends with
audience was then invited to
The Boss? This question kicked
discuss among themselves their
off a thought-provoking session
personal reaction to the scenario,
as Pastor Larry asked if the panel
particularly if it happened to
and audience were for the idea
them. While some chose to be
of befriending their bosses,
upfront to their partners about
and what some of the possible
the feelings, others leaned
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the “man-woman relationship”.
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10!” The focus then shifted to
pertinent to campus adults. A few
issues about being in a relationship,
real-life scenarios provided fodder
such as spending the night at your
for audience interaction, as the
partner’s place, or having sex if a
participants put in their votes via
couple really loved each other and
SMS, which were then tallied in
was committed to marriage.
real time.
During the interlude, the audience
In talking about relationships with
was shown a blog post by a
the opposite gender, it was revealed
certain “Princess Charming” in
that one of the panelists, Victor,
which she lamented her inability
had 47 criteria for a spouse!
to let go of a previous break-up.
Another panelist Grace had only
Everyone had an opportunity
to post a comment, with a prize
given to the one who dished out
the best advice.
Pastor Gerald Tan rounded off
the forum with a short message,
encapsulating the evening’s takeaway in a one-liner: “When you
honour God, you will honour your
partner.”
The little-known 19th Century
writer, Randolph Bourne, once
said that “friendships are fragile
things, and require as much
handling as any other fragile and
precious thing”. “Handle with
care”, then, pretty much sums up
the approach needed for life’s
friendships and relationships.
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Our HUNGRY hosts take up positions and “3, 2, 1….. WELCOME!”
Doors open. Youth scramble into the Summit to be greeted by
an enormous burger, almost 8 feet in diameter. Kudos to the décor team!
After a round of ice-breakers, teams take turns to display their group cheers. Group
names of “Popiah”, “BBQ Sting Ray”, “Claypot Rice” fill the air with their fragrant sounds
of laughter. Off goes the bell, and the actual race begins. As citizens of the “Land of Hungry”,
the mission is to “Get the Hungry People Fed Up” by making the best sandwich in town.
Teams run between stations playing games to win the necessary ingredients and tools that
they need to make the best sandwich. Tasks range from singing a song with water in their
mouths, to eating chee cheong fun in the fastest time possible – without hands.
At the final mission, teams return to the Summit to build their ground-breaking sandwiches.
Our Hungry judges have a hard time selecting the winners from all the scrumptious food.
Since man does not live by bread alone, ministerial staff Gwen Zhou
takes some time to share with us about being Hungry for the things
of God. What an inspirational way to end the day!
After a day of food, fun and fellowship,
we all go back… ‘Fed Up’!
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Among the latest batch of graduates from Trinity’s Ministry
Internship programme, there were not one but two IT
engineers! It was an unforgettable experience for both of
them, but in different ways.
Trinitarian: What prompted you to join Trinity’s
Ministry Internship (MI) programme? Were there
obstacles and challenges you had to overcome?
Tat Liong: This has been something that was on
my heart even before I graduated from university
in 2003. Although I felt a calling of God to the
marketplace, God’s prompting was that this would
be His preparation for where He would lead me in
future. So after working for 3 years in a sales job at
an IT engineering firm, I left in 2007 to join Trinity as
a full-time Ministry Intern.
The challenge was facing up to what my relatives
and friends would think about what would seem
Ministry Intern
Wan Tat
Liong
like a foolish decision to them. Only a few
people knew that God had been preparing me
for this move for years. The prospect of the
huge drop in finances, having to depend on
my savings as well as my wife’s salary during that
one year, was daunting. Now, having gone through
it, I look back in wonder at how God provided and
brought us through it all!
Trinitarian: How would you describe your year
in the MI programme? What were the life lessons
you learnt?
Tat Liong: My learning stint can be summed up by
three words and two reminders from God. The 3
words are faith, communicate and lead. The
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two reminders from God were, “Don’t worry, I will
faith, communication and leadership – are still areas
vide.” and “Tat, you will excel in it.”
provide.”
that I am honing everyday.
Many times, when I was stretched in the areas of
time and energy, these two reminders from God
of “Don’t worry, I will provide.” and “Tat, you
will excel in it” kept the passion in me burning.
I live each day feeling more
excited, more purposeful and
more fulfilled than before.
Communication was an art that I picked up in the
programme. I enjoyed learning to communicate
God has blessed me with another sales job that
better as a leader and as a preacher. I cherished the
I truly love, with lots of potential. I live each day
preaching opportunities during chapel to hone
feeling more excited, more purposeful and more
my skills in preparation to be a better speaker in
fulfilled than before. I feel that there are still many
future. I always found it fascinating and inspiring
areas in my life where God is still working on and one
how our Trinity preachers blend effortlessly the
of this is to be a great leader at home. As a husband
context of the bible with daily applications to bring
to Jeanne and a new father to my son Daniel, I now
out relevant the truths. Now I could learn this!
rely on God every day to lead me, as I lead my family
And I learnt more about leadership than I ever did
and marriage towards where He wants us to be.
before. Plus, I thank God for the opportunities to be
involved in several committees that ranged from
Trinitarian: What would you say to others who
small research groups in TCA classes to the Life
are thinking of joining the MI programme?
Conference planning committee that involved the
entire church.
Tat Liong: For those who wish to join MI,
intentionally pray through your decision before
Trinitarian: Now that you have graduated, how
going for it. Pray and seek godly counsel before
are you different? What has God deposited in your
embarking on it, but once you have settled it in your
life through the MI programme?
heart, DON’T LOOK BACK! Just do it! You will find
great fulfillment in this new season ahead of you!
Tat Liong: I am definitely more aware of God’s
divine intervention. His quiet voice of assurance still
Wan Tat Liong is now a sales engineer and a sectional
compels me to press on in Him, and the 3 words –
leader of Trinity. He serves in the Chinese Ministry.
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Trinitarian: What prompted you to take
this step of faith and were there obstacles
and challenges you had to overcome?
Melanie: I heard the call of God upon my
life around 11 years ago when I was still
a varsity student. But I figured that I was
still too young; I wanted to see the world,
experience in life, get married and watch
my children grow up before I answered
God’s call! But in 2005 while I was working
in the IT industry, God reminded me of His
call again.
At thatt time, I was at the crossroads of
deciding whether or not to take up
dec
a job opening. When I mooted the
Ministry Intern
‘‘
The entire experience
and Kingdom gains have
been so valuable, they
cannot be exchanged
or compared to all the
tangible or monetary
rewards I would
have earned.
idea with my parents, of taking
Melanie
Tan
a year off to join this Ministry
Internship programme, they
were not in favour of it. I decided
I decided to go back to my prayer
closet, to commit the whole situation
closet
to the Lord and wait on God and His timing.
I took the new job and God blessed me immensely,
not just financially but in terms of job satisfaction,
success and favour. At the peak of my career
towards the end of 2006, I felt restless in my spirit
and was once again at the crossroads, seeking God
for His direction.
God used the two years in between to work in my
parents and prepare them for this move. I entered
into the programme with their blessing.
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Trinitarian: How would you describe your year in
Trinitarian: Now that you have graduated,
graduated how are
the MI programme? What were the life lessons you
you different? What has God deposited in your life
learnt?
through the MI programme?
Melanie: I really enjoyed the learning although it
Melanie: I have taken the bold step of faith to move
was tough juggling the workload from TCA College
into God’s destiny for my life by joining Trinity as
modules as well as the demands of the ministry.
a Ministerial Staff, and I believe that it is only the
I had to discipline myself and manage my time
beginning of greater things to come!
wisely. Having to process, reflect and interact
with the material that I was studying and being
God has shown me that He will never leave me,
mentored by different pastors was a highlight for
forsake me nor short-change me. When my
me. I thank God for His marvellous grace to which
family saw that I was really enjoying what I was
I totally attribute my good grades. Another highlight
doing, they gave me their blessing to serve God
was the mission trips that I had the opportunity to
full-time in the church and not return to the
go for during the one year. God enlarged my vision
marketplace.
and I saw how the Lord was working not only in
Singapore but around the world; I experienced it
There was so much God deposited in my life during
for myself first-hand!
this one year and I am so grateful to God. The entire
experience and Kingdom gains have been so
God was pruning me and moulding me at an
valuable, they cannot be exchanged or compared
intense pace. As the intensity was stepped up, I had
to all the tangible or monetary rewards I would
to learn to die to myself daily. One specific incident:
have earned if I had not taken time out to do this
I was asked to be the chairperson in the campus
programme.
camp committee. Knowing that I would be ‘stuck’ in
camp on my birthday, everything in me wanted to
Trinitarian: What would you say to others who are
say ‘no’ but eventually, I surrendered and yielded to
thinking of joining the MI programme?
God, by asking God for a special birthday present –
for Him to bring a confirmation of His call in my life.
Melanie: I definitely have no regrets joining the
Being in the committee and needing to see to all
programme! It is such a joy for me to encourage
the details, I never expected to receive ministry but
others to take the step of faith like I did so that they
God gave me the best birthday present ever. The
can experience MI for themselves!
camp speaker released a prophetic word saying,
“Young lady, don’t ever leave the ministry; there
is no more place for you in the marketplace!” This
Melanie Tan is now a ministerial staff of Trinity. She
was the very confirmation that I asked God for.
serves in South, Trinity@Paya Lebar.
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Passionate Heartbeat:
Touching our Nation,
Reaching the World
The annual Missions Convention is always a time of world-changing faith and
excitement in Trinity. 300 delegates from 18 nations came for the Cell Church Conference,
while Trinitarians saw their faith promises break the $9 million dollar mark.
March is a very exciting time in the life of Trinity. It is
the time when ‘missions’ is the buzzword
in church. This year, missions booths were
set up to showcase the different missions
programmes in Trinity. Through photos
and videos, we caught glimpses of what
God was doing through Trinity both in
Singapore and around the world.
A highlight was our Annual
Cell Church Conference
from February 27 to March 4.
time of worship, basking in
Here, Trinitarians played host
the presence of God and
to almost 300 visitors from
allowing the Holy Spirit
18 different nations and our
free access into lives as we
delegates had a taste of the Trinitarian Experience.
received the timely Word of
The conference started off with a bang at Missions
God from anointed devotion
Night, with the parade of nations represented by
speakers every morning.
their colourful national flags and costumes. With
one heart and voice, we prayed for God to reign
Training sessions were next, where pastors and
over the different nations represented. Bishop Tony
leaders representing more than 60 churches were
Miller then challenged us to join the company of the
impacted not only with tools to bring their churches
Holy Discontented and to rise up with the spirit of a
to the next level, but more importantly, were
reformer like the Apostle Paul.
transformed as they caught the heart of God and
received what He wanted to do for their lives and
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Throughout that week, Trinity@Paya Lebar was a hive
their churches. The evenings were filled with different
of activity. First thing in the morning, delegates were
programmes such as the Impartation Night
greeted with a contagious joy by Traffic Marshalls
where we received the Word of God as well as the
and Celebration Hosts who directed them from
ministry of the Holy Spirit, and Carecell Visitation
the gates right up to The Summit for a sumptuous
Night where delegates rubbed shoulders with
breakfast spread. This was followed by a powerful
Trinitarians in various homes where our carecells met.
What delegates say
We received countless kudos from all our
international delegates. Here is a sampling
of their comments:
“The first time I entered the sanctuary, I was
overtaken by the atmosphere of love and faith
and of God’s presence”
Susan Shaulis, USA
“In ways that I cannot begin to articulate, this
has been so much more than a conference. This
has been a life-changing experience!”
Lynn Luellen, USA
All through the week,
our delegates had a lifetouching-life encounter
“Trinitarians have the family of God atmosphere
totally worked out. Thank you for including me
in your family.”
Liz Bowell, Australia
as they interacted with
speakers, trainers, pastors, staff
and Trinitarians, young and not
so young from all walks of life. In
all, they were treated to what we
have all come to know and love –
the Trinitarian Experience.
This was followed by the Missions Convention
Weekend at all our various Celebration Services children, youth, language and adult services where
Trinitarians and visitors alike were challenged by
“Once again, the Trinity family has risen to the
occasion…this is the third time I’m coming to
the conference and it gets better each time.”
Richard Scott, Bermuda
“All the trainers and members were great modellers
of the love and servanthood of Christ.”
Roderick Allen, USA
“The passion and vibrancy of your people is
contagious!”
Sur Del Rosario, Philippines
the sharing of powerful and anointed speakers
like Bishop Tony Miller, Rev Ed Pousson and other
guest and in-house speakers. At the end of each
celebration service, we all saw and experienced our
“I have been so blessed by the volunteer hosts…
really felt welcome!”
Leona Lim, Malaysia
faith level breaking through to new heights as the
Holy Spirit moved. Our cumulative Missions Faith
Promises from the entire Trinity Family that weekend
crossed the $9 million mark.
Once again, God has blessed us to be a blessing to
the nations and we are so thankful for the privilege
to carry God’s passionate heartbeat in touching our
“Seeing the church in action, I have seen the
possibilities of a true church functioning in an
excellent way.”
Deborah Combs, USA
“I was overwhelmed by the hospitality of the
carecell I visited…this made our trip even better.”
Barry Thygesen, Australia
nation and reaching the world.
“You really walk the talk!”
Alodia Maye Hindoy, Philippines
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POWER TRIP
A missions impact trip to Pune, India
was power-packed with spiritual
itual
adventures and life lessons
for this team of eight.
Almost immediately after the
“I learnt to pray for others and even
and doing their part whenever
Missions Convention, a Missions
when I didn’t know what to pray,
called to, no questions asked,”
Impact Team left on an 8-day trip
the Holy Spirit enabled me when
observed Andrew Lee, a company
to Pune, India from March 6-13.
I availed myself to do His work,” said
director from West, Trinity@Adam.
The team was led by Pastor Sabrina
Tay Hing Heng, a manager from
Lee and comprised eight men and
South, Trinity@Adam.
Retiree Tony Chye from South,
Trinity@Adam, concurred. “We
women from various districts.
One highlight of the trip was when
achieved bonding as a team despite
the team visited four schools and
the large age differences. The team
ministered to the children there.
impacted many lives as ‘one.’”
They were so encouraged by the
many willing responses from the
One thing is for sure: God
children to the salvation invitation.
has deposited His passionate
heartbeat into each and every one
“I was so thankful to be able to
of them, for all have expressed a
share the gospel in a school where
desire to go to the nations on a
200+ children made decisions to
regular basis.
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receive Christ on the very first day!”
each of the team members was
enthused teacher Emily Wee from
“I learned to serve the Lord in ways
tasked with a different role.
West, Trinity@Adam.
I thought I would never be able to,
and I definitely want to do so again!”
Although they were from varied
occupations and backgrounds,
The camaraderie and love within
testified Dorit Grueber from South,
they worked together with great
the team was also very evident.
Trinity@Adam.
synergy and teamwork.
They ministered not only to the
people in Pune but also to
Everyone on the team experienced
one another throughout their
personal breakthroughs. There
time together. This bond is
were many ‘firsts’: preaching,
something precious that will
sharing their testimonies,
remain long after the trip
facilitating games, performing
is over.
skits, making props, praying for
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people, conducting a life skills
“The team spirit and bonding that
seminar, and ministering to young
was apparent from the beginning.
girls rescued from prostitution.
Everyone was pro active in helping
Upcoming Trips
July 10-17
Indonesia
July 11-18
Taiwan
Aug 10-16
Taiwan
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Aug 22-28
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download the form at www.trinity.net.
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Thinking of going on a Missions Impact Trip?
Don’t hesitate! Training will be provided.
Registration closes two months before
each trip. Dates are tentative and subject
to change.
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If I didn’t, I would be very much “gui
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Singing with a bunch of people who
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Very touched and amazed at the leve
l of commitment of the cast and crew
. They
turn up for rehearsals on time and
hardly miss any. Wow…! I can see
thei
r love for
God. They pray like the apostles of
old during the days of Acts!
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I have built some new friendsh
ips. Which is really nice
since Trinity Christian Centre is the
newly adopted spiritual
home for our family.
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Two weeks before the production.
We are in church
h till 10
plus almost every other night…
rehearsing! No time to
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blog!!
Two down, one more to go. After two
nights of presentation, we still had
Easter
Sunday service to present. I nea
rly gave up after my son, who was
alre
ady
down with fever and diarrhoea, dev
eloped big patches of rashes. I SMS
ed our
team leader that I might not turn
up to sing on Easter Sunday. The guy
s prayed
and miraculously, my son was fit eno
ugh for church on Sunday.
My mum had a cancer relapse. She
has been on chemotherapy and
strong medication. But God
turned it around for good. My mot
her whom my sister and I have bee
n
praying for 27 years, decided
to be baptised in Malaysia on Resu
rrection Sunday! Thanks to God and
the prayer warriors in Trinity,
challenges have become stepping
stones for greater victories!!!
Seeing the whole production
come together was
awesome. Every musical note sun
g and every moment
of prayer was worth it. I felt like I
was not singing alone
but with the rest of the army of God
, plundering hell and
populating heaven, proclaiming the
gospel message to
those whom God loves.
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EASTER 2008
Preparation work for what was to
take place at Easter began right
from the turn of the year. Ideas
were churning in the minds of
all who were involved as they
brainstormed over cups of coffee.
Recruitment for the cast and crew started, with
auditions taking place in early February. The
Children’s and Chinese ministries were also hard
at work planning for Twist, an exciting game show,
and Life’s Tic-Tac-Toe, a Chinese Easter evangelistic
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would sustain and bring to fruition all the hard work
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put in by the production team – prayer. Trinitarians
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moving
engaged in prayer individually, in their carecells,
we revisited the lives of Jesus and His disciples. All
during pre-service prayer, and Church Prayer
the evidence pointed to the fact that Jesus was
Meeting. We brought the names of our friends and
guilty. Yet what was He guilty of? Guilty of healing
loved ones before the Lord and prayed that they
the lame on the Sabbath. Guilty of loving and
would get connected to the love of God during
befriending the outcasts. Guilty of forgiving those of
Easter. This culminated with a 3-day Fast.
ill repute. Guilty of being the Son of God. Guilty of
loving us.
The weekend of God encounters started on Maundy
Thursday, where we commemorated the Last Supper
As the Holy Spirit moved powerfully in our midst,
at our touchstone Communion Service, which is a
individuals and whole families made decisions
Trinitarian tradition. GUILTY! took place on Friday
for Christ. Trinitarians were overjoyed for their
and Saturday, concurrently at Trinity@Adam and
family members and loved ones as they shared in
Trinity@Paya Lebar, with two separate casts and crew.
the moment of decision with them. That was not
It was the same creative production, yet unique in
all. Easter Sunday was a wonderful celebration
presentation. Over at Trinity@Adam, Pastor Dominic
across the different ministries and congregations
Yeo and his “forensic team” set about examining
– children and adults; English, Chinese and other
the evidence that condemned Jesus as guilty,
language ministries.
while at Trinity@Paya Lebar, Pastor Beatrice was the
Prosecutor showing us all the compelling evidence
In total, we had close to 500 first-time visitors and
before us proving that Jesus was guilty…but wait a
more than 200 decisions made for Jesus throughout
minute…was she instead speaking in His defence?
Easter. What an amazing weekend!
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70
students embark
on UK University
programmes
In an exciting
development,
70 TCA College
students have
embarked
on their
internationally
recognised,
UK University
validated
programmes.
The validated programmes include:
MTh in Applied Theology (Ministry)
MTh in Theology
BA (Hons) in Theology*
Post-graduate Diploma in Counselling
Diploma in Higher Education in Creative Arts**
* Certificate and diploma awards are also available
** Certificate award also available
This means that when they graduate from TCA College, they will gain
University of Wales awards and receive the same recognition as fulltime students in the UK. The University of Wales is one of the largest
universities in the United Kingdom.
With this development, TCA College has the distinction of being the
first and only institution in Asia offering University of Wales validated
programmes in Theology.
Interested? Visit tca.edu.sg for more information. For application, please
contact the Registrar’s Office at 6304 7602 or email admin@tca.edu.sg
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Benefits of
Undertaking
a University of
Wales Validated
Programme
• The University of Wales awards are recognised internationally as a UK
degree. This is immediately recognised within all Commonwealth countries
and places all graduates on par with graduates from any other University.
• The University of Wales awards allow graduates to continue to seek higher
education in relevant areas of study at universities worldwide as well as at
Bible seminaries.
• The University of Wales awards presents greater possibilities for the student
to engage in market-place and “tent-making” ministries as they are
recognised by governments internationally.
• The University of Wales programmes guarantee the quality provided by
TCA College to the students.
• The cost of obtaining the University of Wales awards are only a fraction of
the cost of obtaining an equivalent award at the University of Wales in the
UK (13% to 25% of the cost in UK, depending on the courses).
• Students on validated programmes of study have access to the Online
Library of the University of Wales, offering them a wide range of subjects
and resources.
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Building on the Extraordinary theme, carecells
The prize presentation
were encouraged to create the most extraordinary
was held on March 30
burger, submit a photo of that burger and take a
with each winner getting
deep breath. The results: a showcase of creativity
a trophy imprinted with
and innovation from carecells – from an aeroplane
a picture of their extraordinary
burger to take Trinitarians to the camp to a
burger, and a bag of burger sweets.
representation of the five loaves and two fishes.
Like on the registration day, there
Many carecells took part in the competition and
were fun games for all. Adults and
the following emerged as winners:
children took part in
· Dover Crescent 18, West, Trinity@Adam
a gigantic Snake and
· CCK 618, West, Trinity@Adam
Ladder board game
· Toh Yi, West, Trinity@Adam
as well as a paper
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aeroplane contest.
· SEM 509, North, Trinity@Paya Lebar
· Guilin 20 & Guilin 22, West, Trinity@Paya Lebar
Cha-Am, here we come!
With heightened anticipation since the extraordinary sign-up on March 8, this camp, as its name suggests,
will indeed be extraordinary.
Since the planning of the camp began last year, the three key extraordinary takeaways desired for
every camper is:
1 Expectation: a belief that God will do something radical in our lives in this camp.
2 Experience: an experience that is life changing.
3 Exploit: brave and extraordinary things that we will do after this camp (Daniel 11:32).
Just as the disciples were ordinary men who became extraordinary because
they had been with Jesus (Acts 4:13), we believe that our church camp speakers
Rev David Doery and Rev Ong Sek Leang will have powerful life-changing
messages for us, so that we can arise to be extraordinary men and women
for God’s glory.
Do pray for the camp and come with an open heart to hunger for more of
God in Cha-Am.
Didn’t manage to book a church camp package? You can still catch speaker
Rev David Doery at the weekend services before the camp!
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