Quest Volume 16 issue 19

WISCONSIN SUPREME COURT REJECTS APPLING’S DP LAWSUIT
M a d i s o n - The Wisconsin Supreme Court has
declined to hear an right-wing anti-gay group’s
constitutional challenge to a law creating a domestic partner registry for gay couples. The high
court denied a petition for original action from Julaine Appling and two other board members of
Wisconsin Family Action (WFA) November 4.
The WFA suit claimed the registry violates a state
Constitutional amendment banning gay marriage
or any similar status. The court rejected the case
without comment.
Lester Pines, the attorney who was selected to
represent the state in the case after Attorney
General J. B. Van Hollen’s last-minute decision
not to defend the WFA suit, noted in an interview with Andrew Beckett of Wisconsin Radio
Network that the court’s rejection does not mean
an end to the case. Pines said that the lawsuit will
just have to start at the Circuit Court level instead, the way most such lawsuits are handled.
Lambda Legal and Fair Wisconsin, the two
groups leading the defense of the recently-en-
acted registry, applauded the court’s decision.
“We are pleased that the Court has rejected this
challenge to an important law that was validly
enacted to protect Wisconsin families,” Christopher Clark said. Clark is the senior staff attorney
in Lambda Legal’s Chicago office.
“Because of today’s ruling, Wisconsin’s samesex couples and their families who depend on domestic partnership protections can take care of
each other in times of illness and crisis,” Clark
added. “Even with the discriminatory amendment
excluding same-sex couples from marriage, the
Wisconsin Constitution does not prevent enactment of laws that offer basic decency and security for couples.”
Fair Wisconsin, the state’s only full-time
statewide LGBT advocacy group - along with national and regional allies - worked with Governor
Doyle and the State Legislature to enact the domestic partnership protections for same-sex couples just two years after its unsuccessful $5.5
million fight to prevent the adoption of the 2006
WISCONSIN SUPREME COURT HEARS
GAY MARRIAGE AMENDMENT CASE
M a d i s o n - When voters had the opportunity to vote on whether the socalled Wisconsin Marriage Amendment should be adopted in November
2006, were they cheated out of deciding two distinct questions about gay
marriage and civil unions, or were they merely deciding about one question
with several closely-related parts? That was the crux of the two opposing
arguments heard November 3 as the one-time one-man lawsuit against the
ballot measure brought by University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh William McConkey had it day in front of the justices of the Wisconsin Supreme Court.
The case focuses on the voting and referendum process, not the validity of
same-sex marriages or civil unions. Gay marriages will be illegal in Wisconsin whether the court sustain or rejects the amendment’s wording.
Each change proposed to the state constitution should be reviewed and
decided by the voters Madison attorney Lester Pines argued. In 2006 they
did not have that opportunity Pines claimed. Instead voters were asked one
question with two parts - whether the state should ban same-sex marriage
and whether it should ban other legal recognition such as civil unions or domestic partnerships. Voters could not vote “no” to one part and “yes” to
the other, Pines argued the entire amendment should be invalidated
“This case is about the rights of voters,” Pines said.
Assistant Attorney General Lewis Beilin argued the wording of the referendum was valid because the intent of the amendment was “to preserve
amendment banning marriage equality and civil
unions. Lambda Legal filed to intervene in the
lawsuit on behalf of Fair Wisconsin and its members to protect the few but fundamental protections granted to same-sex couples through the
domestic partnership law.
“We are elated with this decision from the
State Supreme Court,” Fair Executive Director
Katie Belanger said. “Over 15,000 same-sex
couples in our state need the basic protections
domestic partnerships provide.”
The only notable quote in the WFA’s predicable disappointment press release was that
the group only “may bring” a lawsuit at the
circuit court level.
Pines disagreed. “These people are relentless
in trying to deny gay and lesbian people any
semblance of protection for themselves and
their families,” Pines said. “We’re going to vigorously defend the domestic partner registry
because it’s absolutely constitutional, and it’s
good public policy for this state.”
the unique status of marriage.” The two sentences of the amendment were
closely related, Beilin claimed.
Wisconsin voters adopted the amendment in 2006 by a 59-41% margin.
A year later McConkey began his pro se suit in Dane County Circuit Court.
McConkey lost the case and appealed. The appeals court later declined to
rule on the case, asking the Supreme Court to take it up because of its
statewide importance.
The Court is expected to rule on the McConkey by next summer.
“EVERYTHING BUT MARRIAGE” DP
MEASURE OK WITH WASHINGTON VOTERS
O l y m p i a - By a 52-48% margin, Washington voters have approved the
state’s new “everything but marriage” law, expanding rights for domestic
partners and marking the first time any state’s voters have approved a gay
equality measure at the ballot box.
State Senator Ed Murray (D-Seattle) who sponsored that law, called the
vote “a great step forward for equality in Washington state.”
“I was very concerned that if the voters had said no, it would have been a
major setback for gay and lesbian families in Washington state,” Murray said.
The measure asked voters to approve or reject the latest expansion of the
state’s domestic partnership law, granting registered domestic partners additional state rights previously given only to married couples. Full-fledged
gay marriage is still not allowed under Washington state law.
Two national gay equal rights groups - the
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force and the
Family Equality Council - stated that voter approval of such a measure was a first. Gay
equality laws in other states, ranging from civil
rights to gay marriage, have either been implemented by the courts or legislative process.
Voters have rejected gay marriage 31 states,
most recently in Maine.
“Our state made history today,” Anne Levinson of Washington Families Standing Together
boasted. “This is a day for which we can all
look back with pride.” Levinson’s group fought
to keep the law on the books.
The expanded law in Washington state adds
benefits, such as the right to use sick leave to
care for a domestic partner, and rights related
to adoption, child custody and child support.
During the campaign, opponents argued the
law is a stepping-stone to gay marriage. Gay
rights activists countered that while the marriage debate was for another day, same-sex
couples need additional legal protections and
rights in the meantime.
The law was to take effect July 26, but was
delayed because of the referendum campaign.
It will now take effect December 3, according
to the secretary of state’s office.
The original domestic partnership law, which
the Legislature passed in 2007, provided hospital visitation rights, the ability to authorize
autopsies and organ donations, and inheritance rights when there is no will. Some have
pointed out the Washington law is very similar in scope to the Wisconsin domestic partner ship bill passed as part of the state budget
earlier this year.
Under Washington’s law, however, senior
heterosexual couples can register as domestic
partners as well, if at least one partner is 62
years old or older. That provision was included
by lawmakers to help seniors who don’t remarry out of fear they could lose certain pension or social security benefits.
More than 12,000 people in Washington
state are registered as domestic partners, and
most are gay.
REPORT: GAY & STRAIGHT
COUPLES MUCH ALIKE
S a n Fr a n c i s c o - Same-sex couples who identify
as married are similar to straight spouses in terms
of age and income, and nearly one-third of them
are raising children, according to Census data released November 2 that provides a demographic
snapshot of gay families in America.
The study released by a UCLA think tank also
found that Utah and Wyoming were among the
states with the highest percentages of gay
spouses in 2008, despite being heavily conservative states with no laws providing legal recognition of gay relationships.
The data from the annual American Community
Survey showed that nearly 150,000 same-sex
couples in the U.S., or more than one in four, referred to one another as “husband” or “wife,” although UCLA researchers estimate that no more
than 32,000 of the couples were legally married.
The couples had an average age of 52 and household incomes of $91,558, while 31% were raising
children. That compares with an average age of
50, household income of $95,075 and 43% raising children for married heterosexual couples.
“It’s intrinsically interesting that same-sex couples who use the term spouses look like opposite-sex married couples even with a characteristic
like children,” UCLA researcher Gary Gates said.
“Most proponents of traditional marriage will say
that when you allow these couples to marry, you
are going to change the fundamental nature of
marriage by decoupling it from procreation.
Clearly, in the minds of same-sex couples who are
marrying or think of themselves as married, you
are not decoupling child-rearing from marriage.”
Editor’s Note: Coupling marriage to procreation is
the very core of the argument made by Wisconsin
Family Action in its lawsuit to overturn Wisconsin’s
domestic partnership registry. The Wisconsin
Supreme Court rejected the WFA suit without comment November 3.
Gates said the report is the first to reliably compare same-sex couples who identify as married
with gay people who say they’re in unmarried partnerships and with married opposite-sex couples.
In the past, same-sex couples who referred to
one another as “husband” or “wife” automatically
were recorded as unmarried partners, a step gay
rights activists lobbied the Census Bureau to eliminate as more states have legalized same-sex unions.
Unsurprisingly, Massachusetts, where gay couples have been able to get married since 2004,
had the highest proportion of same-sex couples
who were either legally married or considered
themselves married, 3.63 for every 1,000 households. Vermont, which allowed same-sex couples
to enter in civil unions with all the rights and obligations of marriage in 1999 and made same-sex
marriages legal this year, came in second, with a
rate of 2.71 per 1,000.
But Hawaii, Utah and Wyoming - states with neither civil unions nor same-sex marriage - came in
next, ahead of California, Nevada, Connecticut, New
Jersey and Rhode Island. What accounts for the
phenomenon is unclear, but “it does provide this
evidence that there are clearly couples in conservative parts of the country who do use these terms
and do see their relationships in that framework.”
The Census Bureau has promised to produce a
report on the marital status of gay couples after
the once-a-decade national census is completed
next year. However, the bureau said there was too
little time to change the questionnaire to separate out legally married gay couples in the nationwide tally.
MAINE GAY MARRIAGE
LAW REPEALED
A ug u s t a - The tide of extending marriage rights
to same-sex couples - which has swept across
New England in recent months - stopped at
Maine November 3.
Voters rejected a state law that would have allowed same-sex couples to wed. The repeal
comes just six months after the measure was
passed by the Maine legislature and signed by the
Democratic Governor John Baldacci.
Maine would have been the sixth state in the
country to allow gay and lesbian couples to marry,
but instead becomes the 31st state to oppose the
unions in a popular vote. Gay marriage opponents
claimed 53% of the vote to supporters’ 47%.
Marc Mutty, campaign manager for Stand for Mar-
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riage Maine which opposed gay marriages, claimed
victory at a rally in Portland. “We’ve struggled,
we’ve worked against tremendous odds, as we’ve
all known,” he said. “We prevailed because the
people of Maine, the silent majority, the folks back
home spoke with their vote tonight.”
Gay marriage equality supporters had hoped
Maine voters - known for their moderate, independent-minded views - would have been the
first to endorse same-sex marriage in a statewide
ballot. The five states that perform gay marriages
- Iowa, Connecticut, Vermont, New Hampshire
and Massachusetts - do so after legislation or
court order. New York and the District of Columbia recognize same-sex marriages performed in
other states, but do not grant them.
“We’re in this for the long haul. For next week,
and next month, and next year until all Maine
families are treated equally. Because in the end,
this has always been about love and family and
that will always be something worth fighting for,”
Jesse Connolly of Protect Maine Equality said.
OBAMA SIGNS HATE
CRIMES BILL
Wa s h i n g t o n , D C - President Obama signed
legislation expanding federal involvement in prosecuting hate crimes here October 28.
The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate
Crimes Prevention Act would expand the federal
definition of hate crimes to include those motivated
by gender, sexual orientation, gender identity and
disability. It also will allow federal authorities to
pursue hate-crimes cases when local authorities
are either unable or unwilling to do so.
“We must stand against crimes that are meant
not only to break bones, but to break spirits - not
only to inflict harm, but to instill fear,” Obama
said at a White House reception for the bill,
signed as part of the $680 billion defense authorization bill.
“Because no one in America should ever be
afraid to walk down the street holding the hands
of the person they love,” he said. “No one in
America should be forced to look over their shoulder because of who they are or because they live
with a disability.”
Obama also noted that advocates had been working to pass the bill for more than twelve years.
HALLOWEEN PROTEST SPOOKS “EX-GAY” CONFERENCE
G r e e n L a k e - Neither rain nor light snow could
scare off more than three dozen gay, lesbian and
allied protesters from a 6 1/2 hour Halloween
protest outside the Exodus International Fall
North Central Conference at the American Baptist-owned Green Lake Conference Center here
October 31. Boasting participants from as far
away as Bloomington, Indiana, the group began
holding their signs, banners and placards at 7:30
AM. They broke for lunch on the Conference
Center grounds where the spoke with three involved with the Exodus conference, then returned to the highway for more demonstrating
until calling it quits at 2:30 PM.
“I think the highest number of people protesting at any one time was around thirty,” protest
organizer Travis Swanson told Quest. “People had
to come and go because of their jobs and other
commitments.” Most of the protesters came from
Wisconsin with car loads from Appleton, Green
Bay and LaCrosse among the largest contingents.
Individuals identifying themselves as from southeast Wisconsin and Madison also took part.
Demonstrators ranged in age from the late teens
to “seasoned citizens.”
Swanson said the demonstration, which took
place several miles west of Green Lake on Highway 23 in front of the gated compound, was well
received by passers-by. “We got a lot of appreciative honks and thumbs ups,” he said.
However, Swanson added that he most interesting interaction occurred during lunch hour. Because
the main building at the conference center is open
to the public and has restaurants and a cafeteria,
the demonstrators decided to store their signs and
have their Noon break on campus. “We had three
long tables full, and we were very reserved,” he
said. “Plus, there were several conferences having
their lunch in the same area - Exodus was not the
only thing going on that day.”
As the group was finishing their meal, three people involved with the “ex-gay” program joined
them at their tables to talk about their experiences. “They may have been stragglers, but
beacuese there was just one for each table, I think
they may have planned their discussion with us,”
Swanson said. “The man who sat at my table said
he had done some volunteering for Exodus over
the years.” Swanson noted that the Green Lake
Conference Center had been made aware of the
planned protest days before the event.
“I can’t speak for what others heard,” Swanson
said, “but our guy told him that deciding to become ‘ex-gay’ was his own decision. It was based
on his own beliefs. No one forced him into it. He
also said that he has had control over his homosexuality for 12 years.”
Control didn’t mean cure however. “He said he
was single and hasn’t dated anyone - male or female,” Swanson said. “He says he is in control of
his sexuality, and he’s still attracted to men, but
he’s waiting for God to make him interested in
women. He said he knows that time will come.”
Swanson was motivated to organize the Exodus
conference protest because his partner Bryce
Faulkner is currently involved with Exodus International, most likely at a compound in Florida.
Faulkner was allegedly coerced into entering the
14-month “ex-gay” reparative therapy program
by his parents under the threat of withdrawal of
all family emotional and financial support last
Spring just as he was planning to travel to
Oshkosh to be with Swanson.
Since Quest’s last full interview with Swanson in
early October, he has had no further update on
or contact with Bryce.
MILWAUKEE TO OBSERVE A WEEK OF TRANSGENDER
DAY OF REMEMBRANCE EVENTS
M i l w a u k e e - Multiple LGBT organizations in the Milwaukee area
have organized and are co-sponsoring events in the week surrounding
the 11th Annual International
Transgender Day of Remembrance
Friday, November 20.
On Sunday, November 15, from
2 - 4 PM SAGE and FORGE will
co-sponsor the presentation
“Screaming Queens” and Other
Transgender Political Issues at the
SAGE office, 1845 North Farwell, Ste. 220.
The University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee and the
Milwaukee LGBT Community Center will cosponsor guest speaker Eli Clare who will offer “Living In Marked Bodies” on Monday November 16
at 7:30 PM in the Wisconsin Room West of the
UW-M Union.
White, disabled, and genderqueer, Eli Clare has
a B.A. in Women’s Studies, a M.F.A. in Creative
Writing, and most importantly a penchant for
rabble-rousing. Among other pursuits, he has
walked across the United States for peace, coordinated a rape prevention program, and helped
organize the first ever Queerness and Disability
Conference. He has spoken all over the United
States at conferences, community events, and
colleges about disability, queer and trans identities, and social justice. Eli is the author of a book
of essays Exile and Pride: Disability, Queerness, and Liberation
(South End Press, 1999) and a collection of poetry The Marrow’s
Telling: Words in Motion (Homofactus Press, 2007) and has been
published in many periodicals and
anthologies.
On Wednesday, November 18 at
6PM at the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center, 315 W Court
Street, the Lesbian Alliance,
FORGE, and Milwaukee LGBT Community Center
will co-sponsor an Art Show, Reception, and Community Art Project facilitated by Jacquie Lindo.
Openly gay singer-songwriter Eric Himan will
talk about being out in the music industry during
a workshop presentation on Thursday, November
19 from 4 - 5 PM in the Multicultural Student
Lounge (Union 198) in the UW-M Union. Himan
has produced six albums since 2003 and appeared
on Sirius Radio’s OutQ channel along with multiple tours around the United States.
Himan will also perform music from his newest
album “Resonate” as part of the Gasthaus Entertainment Series
on Thursday, November 19 at 9 PM at the
Gasthaus in the lower level of the UW-M union.
A meet & greet will follow in the UW-M LGBT
Resource Center (Union WG-89). Himan’s
events are sponsored by UW-M.
On Friday, November 20, there will be a special
showing of “Priscilla, Queen Of The Desert,” at
6PM at the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center,
315 W Court Street. Following the film there will
be a discussion facilitated by Michael and Loree
from FORGE, and Jacquie from Anti-Violence Project at the Center. The event is co-sponsored by
Metropolitan Community Church, FORGE, and
the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center.
The week will conclude on Saturday, November
21, with a 5:30 PM Candlelight Vigil and Potluck
at the Metropolitan Community Church, 1239
W Mineral Street.
In 2009 thus far more than 434 transgender people have been killed around the world, according to
the website www.transgenderdor.org, which keeps
track of such statistics. All those people will be
memorialized at the Transgender Day of Remembrance which is celebrated in local communities
world wide on or about November 20.
The November date was originally chosen to memorialize Rita Hester, whose November 28, 1998,
murder in Boston sparked the “Remembering Our
Dead” web project and a San Francisco candlelight
vigil, the forerunners of the currently observed International Transgender Day Of Remembrance. Because of the violent nature of Hester’s death - her
assailant stabbed her in the chest twenty times yet
failed to steal jewelry or anything else of value in her
apartment- transgender persons came to see her
death as a hate crime.
MILWAUKEE COUNTY BOARD
VOTES TO DEVELOP DP
HEALTH CARE BENEFITS
M i l w a u ke e - The Milwaukee County Board voted
13-6 on November 5 to draft a revision of the
county’s employee health plan to permit domestic partners of county workers to obtain coverage.
Both same-sex and opposite-sex couples could access the new insurance benefit as outlined in the
proposal.
According to the proposal, the revised plan must
be drafted by July 2010 and will require a second
vote before formal implementation.
Discussion about the proposal brought up concerns about the potential cost and the need for
the county to show fairness toward the families
of all employees regardless of marital status.
Lead sponsor of the proposal Supervisor Christopher Larson framed his proposal as a historical
move. “The time is always right to do what’s
right,” he said. “There is no question of where history is headed on this. We should not put off history for one more month.”
Supervisor Marina Dimitrijevic was frustrated with
the county being “behind the curve” in dealing with
the domestic partner benefits. “I’m sick of being behind the curve on some of these things that are just
about fairness and equality,” she said. The benefit is
offered by many larger corporations and government, including the State of Wisconsin.
Opponents of the measure saw the extension of
health care benefits as unaffordable, especially in
the current economic recession. Supervisor Joe
Sanfelippo said the proposal was “almost a slap in
the face to our employees” at a time when is considering pay cuts and staff furloughs. “We have to
draw the line somewhere,” he said.
According to County Personnel Director David
Arena, the cost for offering domestic partner
health care benefits could be as high as $3.9 million annually if 3% of county employees took advantage of the benefit. Larson countered with
statistics that showed utilization of such a benefit was closer to 1% in other counties and cities
that provided coverage.
Larson’s statistics appear to be borne out by the
experience of the county’s largest entity, the City
of Milwaukee. About half of the city’s employees
have had access to heath insurance benefits for
their domestic partners since 2001 as a result of a
benefit package negotiated by the city’s largest
union, one that was later extended to other nonunion employees and managers.
According to city employee benefits manager
Mike Brady, just thirty employees accessed the
benefit. The cost to the city will be $216,000 for
2010, just 0.3% of Milwaukee’s $75 million in employee health care costs in total.
The final vote for the proposal included Supervisors Gerry Broderick, Toni Clark, Elizabeth M.
Coggs, Lynne De Bruin, Dimitrijevic, Lee Holloway,
Willie Johnson Jr., Patricia Jursik, Larson, Theo Lipscomb, Johnny Thomas, John Weishan Jr. and
Peggy West in favor of the measure. Supervisors
Mark Borkowski, Paul Cesarz, Michael Mayo Sr.,
Joseph Rice, Sanfelippo and Jim “Luigi” Schmitt
opposed the motion.
County Executive and Republican gubernatorial
candidate Scott Walker is on record as vetoing the
domestic partner benefit measure if it crosses his
desk. The votes of all 13 of the supervisors who favored the action November 5 would be needed to
override Walker’s veto.
waukee Foundation (GMF). For more information
about applying for a grant from the Eldon E Murray
Foundation, contact Rafael Acevedo vy email at the
GMF at: racevedo@greatermilwaukeefoundation.org or by phone at: 414-336-7067.
ARCW’S JOLLY HOLLY
FOLLY TO RING IN THE
HOLIDAYS
8TH ANNUAL
THANKSGIVING POTLUCK
M i l w a u ke e – The Cream City’s 8th Annual LGBT
Thanksgiving Potluck Dinner will be held Saturday,
November 28 at Plymouth Church, 2717 East
Hampshire on city’s East Side. The holiday tradition cosponsored by Black & White Men Together,
the Brew City Bears, the Lesbian Alliance of Metro
Milwaukee, the Milwaukee Metropolitan Community Church, Project Q, PFLAG, and SAGE/Milwaukee. Doors will open at 4:30 PM, and with
dinner following at 5:30.
Attendees are asked to bring dishes based on
where their last name falls in the alphabet. This
year, if your last name begins with A-E, please
bring a dessert. Those whose names start with FK are asked to bring an appetizer. Last names with
L-S should provide a side dish and the T-Zs are
asked to toss up a salad. Dishes should serve 6 to
8 people.
RSVPs are also requested. Call the SAGE/Milwaukee office at 414-224-0517 by November 25
to confirm. Volunteers for set up and clean up will
be both much appreciated and welcomed.
ELDON MURRAY FOUNDATION
ACCEPTING GRANT APPLICATIONS
M i l w a u ke e - The Eldon E Murray Foundation is
accepting applications from southeast Wisconsin
and outstate LGBT organizations who are in need
of grant funding to support their activities and
programming.
Eldon Murray was a long-time Milwaukee LGBT
activist. He was co-founder of the Milwaukee’s
Gay People’s Union in 1968 and edited GPU
News, one of the nation’s first LGBT publications.
He co-founded the GPU Men’s Health Clinic (now
the BESTD Clinic) and helped gain initial grants for
the Milwaukee AIDS Project (now ARCW). Murray
was recognized by ONE Institute and the International Gay and Lesbian Archives as one of the pioneers of the gay rights movement in the United
States. Upon his death in 2007, a Foundation was
formed to enable his estate to further efforts to improve the lives and gain equality for LGBT people.
Preference in awarding grants will be given first to
local LGBT support groups in the greater Milwaukee area, followed by organizations located elsewhere in the state of Wisconsin, and then to
national organizations. To be considered, grantees
will be required to submit a written proposal and
agree to provide a post-project report.
The Foundation is administered by the Greater Mil-
M i l w a u ke e - When there’s an extra crisp nip in
the air and the first snow flakes of Winter are nigh,
it’s time to ring in the Holiday season with
ARCW’s annual Jolly Holly Folly.
Billed as “celebrating the best things in life - food,
fun, friends and giving back to others,” this year’s
mix of cocktails, cuisine and theater will be held on
Sunday, November 22 in the rotunda of the Milwaukee Center, 108 East Wells Street.
Complimentary cocktails and cuisine from nearly
thirty of Milwaukee’s finest restaurants begins at
5:30 PM, followed by a performance of “The Lady
With All The Answers” in the Quadracci Powerhouse Theater at 8 PM.
At Quest’s deadline the following Milwaukee area
restaurants were participating in this year’s Jolly
Holly Folly: Bella Caffe, Bistro 333, Byron’s Beer
Garden & Bistro, Cempuzachi Comida Brava, Coa,
Coquette Cafe
Crawdaddy’s Cajun Creole Restaurant, Cubanitas,
Eat Cake, Indulge, Kilawat, Maggiano’s, Maxie’s,
Mia Famiglia Ristorante, Mitchell’s Fish Market,
Molly Cool’s, Motor, Osteria del Mondo, Palermo
Villa, Riverfront Pizzeria, Ru Yi (Potawatomi Catering), Simma’s, Soup Market and Tenuta’s Italian
Restaurant.
“The Lady With All The Answers”is funny and
nostalgic play, based on real events and actual letters of Eppy Friedman, aka Ann Landers. For
decades, Landers answered countless letters in a
newspaper column that made her a legend. No
topic was off-limits, from lovelorn teens to nude
housekeeping, to the proper way to hang a roll of
toilet paper. In 1975, an ironic twist of events confronts her. With a print deadline looming, she
counsels her own broken marriage and heart.
“The Lady With All The Answers” features resident Acting Company member Laura Gordon as
the famous no-nonsense “advice giver” whose
daily dialogue helped to shape the social landscapes of the last half century. Laura Gordon has
been a member of Milwaukee Repertory Theater’s
Resident Acting Company since 1993, performing in over 60 productions among which are: Pride
And Prejudice, Enchanted April, Doubt, The Beauty
Queen Of Leenane, Mary Stuart, Copenhagen,
Twelfth Night, A Doll’s House, The Seagull, The
Memory Of Water and Molly Sweeny.
Following the play Jolly Holly Folly attendees are
also invited to a “Go Red Party” until midnight at
the InterContinental Milwaukee Hotel’s Clear, 139
E Kilbourn Avenue.
Attendance at Jolly Holly Folly will benefit the
ARCW Medical Center, the largest provider of HIV
medical, dental and mental health care and treatment in Wisconsin.
Participants are also being encouraged to bring a
gift for the agency’s Holiday Gift program. Every
holiday season the AIDS Resource Center of Wisconsin relies on the giving spirit of hundreds of
donors who give gifts to people with HIV who are
alone or otherwise would not receive a holiday
gift.. Popular gift items include adult winter clothing, bath products and retail gift cards (suggested
amount: $20) to places like Wal-Mart, Target,
Sears, Kohl’s, grocery stores and gas stations. Attendees arriving at Jolly Holly Folly are asked to
bring any gift donations to the registration area.
Tickets for Jolly Holly Folly are $60 each for standard theater seating or $85 for preferred seating.
Groups of four are available at a discounted rate of
$200 standard and $300 preferred. Tickets may be
ordered online at: www.arcw.org. For more information or group sales, contact Christine Sweeney
by phone at: 414-225-1615 or by email at: christine.sweeney@arcw.org.
PERFECT HARMONY MEN’S
CHORUS OFFERS “SOLSTICE
CELEBRATION”
M a d i s o n - Perfect Harmony Men’s Chorus is
happy has announced a two performance run for
“A Solstice Celebration,” the chorale’s thirteenth
annual winter concert. “A Solstice Celebration”will
offer a wonderfully eclectic mix of music in honor
of one of the oldest and longest celebrated festivals of the world, appearing in many cultures in
similar forms.
“A Solstice Celebration” will feature the world
premiere of a new work by Arthur Durkee, entitled “Weavers of Light.” “The piece is actually
about the return of the Light in the midst of darkness, which is a common theme that unites all
winter solstice celebrations in almost all of the
world’s spiritual cultures,” he said. “For me, completing it symbolizes my own reawakening and return to life, after the last several years of personal
struggle and continuous family crises.”
Perfect Harmony will also be singing the Madison
premiere of “Solstice” by Tim Sarsany, a 2006 set
of four songs based on Native American chant.
Other works include a moving Emily Dickinson
poem set in song “The Moon Is Distant from the
Sea,” and a Holly Near text in “Song Of The Solstice.” “Deck the Hall,” “Masters of the Hall,”
“Non, Nobis Domine,” “Thirteen Days of Christmas,” and Edward Elgar’s “The Snow” will bring
some classic and familiar work into the concert.
“Not In Our Town” returns as an audience favorite, about a Hanukkah in Billings, Montana.
Perfect Harmony strives to introduce new and
unfamiliar works to their Dane County and south
central Wisconsin audiences. Many of these introductions become new audience favorites.
“A Solstice Celebration” can be heard in full at
one of two concert events: Saturday, December 5
at 7:30 PM at the Middleton Community UCC,
645 Schewe Rd.; or Sunday, December 6 at 3:30
PM at St Stephen’s Lutheran Church, 5700 Pheasant Hill Rd. in Monona. The Middleton Community UCC is a new building with gorgeous
acoustics for choral music, and is located two
miles west of the Beltline off of Old Sauk Road.
Tickets for “A Solstice Celebration”are $12 student and senior, and $15 adult. Tickets are available from chorus members, through the Brown
Paper tickets link at: www.perfectharmonychorus.org and at the door of both halls.
For additional information regarding the concert
please phone Ken Forney at: 608-445-6767 go to
the Perfect Harmony webpage listed above or
check our Facebook page .
COMEDY DRAG SHOW
BENEFITS ARCW
A p p l e t o n - Comic female impersonator Jarica
Jordan will present her two hour comedy show at
Lawrence University (LU) at the Music Drama
Center on Friday November 13. Jordan, who refers
to herself as “an over-sized glamazon Barbie, will
perform her twisted takes on many of the 1980’s
and 90’s most classic songs, along with live comedy banter beginning at 7PM.
Tickets for this adults-only show are on sale the the
Music Drama Center ticket office, but will also be
available at the door. Cost is $2 for LU students and
staff and $5 for everyone else. All proceeds will benefit ARCW (AIDS Resource Center of Wisconsin).
Following the show there will be an informal “meet
and greet” with Jarica at Ravens on College Ave. from
9 until Midnight. You must be 21 to enter the club.
GAY SKI WEEKEND AT ON TAP
WAUSAU’S RIB MOUNTAIN
Wa u s a u - SkiBudz the Midwest’s Gay Ski Club
announces its 4th Annual Granite Peak Trip will
be held January 8-10, 2010 in Wausau.
There will be great skiing or snowboarding, bar
nights, Welcome reception and meal, Saturday
Night Group Dinner, Sunday Morning Brunch. This
event is a great way to meet great guys from all
over the Midwest.
SkiBudz will be returning to The Jefferson Street
Inn, a unique boutique style hotel located in
Downtown Wausau. The hotel is walking distance
to a mall, great restaurants, shopping, cultural
sites and Oz, Wausau’s gay bar. All rooms must
be booked by December 5. For more information or
to make reservations for the weekend, visit the
SkiBudz website at: www.skibudz.org or the
SkiBudz Facebook Site.
wide that focus on women’s perspectives on sexuality, and the only company that offers a unique
combination of expertise in sexual health and
pleasure for everyone. A Woman’s Touch offers
education, information and products to enhance
romance and pleasure through its stores and online at www.awomanstouchonline.com. For more
information about Uplifting Art or A Woman’s
Touch, contact us at 414-221-0400.
6TH ANNUAL ROW DINNER
SET FOR NOVEMBER 21
UPLIFTING ART: BRAS FOR A CAUSE
M i l w a u k e e - A Woman’s Touch has launched
Uplifting Art: Bras for a Cause, a decorative art bra
contest and charity auction benefiting ABCD:
After Breast Cancer Diagnosis. Community artists
and creative folks are invited to take part in the
project by submitting a decorated “art bra” to A
Woman’s Touch.
Participants may decorate and embellish fabric
bras, or design original art bras in almost any nonperishable media. Milwaukee-area guest judges
will choose winning bras in various categories,
based on submissions received.
Uplifting Art: Bras for a Cause selections will be
featured at A Woman’s Touch on January 15,
2010, during Gallery Night in the Historic Third
Ward, and will remain on display from January 15
– 24, for People’s Choice voting. Donated bras
will be available for silent auction during that time.
A reception for People’s Choice winners,
Judges Award winners, and Silent Auction
donors will be held on February 2, 2010, to
present the proceeds from the Uplifting Art:
Bras for A Cause auction to ABCD.
Submissions must be accompanied by an entry
form and are due by 8 PM on January 9, 2010.
Early submissions are encouraged. Entry forms
may be picked up in person at A Woman’s Touch,
or online at: www.awomanstouchonline.com
ABCD: After Breast Cancer Diagnosis provides
free personalized information and support to people affected by breast cancer. Created to complement the work of health care providers, ABCD
offers breast cancer support through its signature
One-to-One mentoring support service, and provides a variety of resources for breast cancer patients and their loved ones. To learn more about
ABCD and their current programs, call
414.918.9222, or visit them online at:
www.abcdbreastcancersupport.org.
A Woman’s Touch is Milwaukee’s premier
woman-owned sexuality resource center. With
stores in Madison and Milwaukee, A Woman’s
Touch is one of a small number of stores nation-
G r e e n B a y - Tickets for the 6th Annual “An
Evening With Rainbow Over Wisconsin” will be
on sale throughout northeast Wisconsin until
November 18. The November 21 event will be
held at the Liberty Hall Banquet and Convention
Center in Kimberly, with cocktails and silent auction opening at 6 PM.
Popular entertainers from northeast Wisconsin
will perform during cabaret concerts before and
after dinner. The lilting sounds of harpist Cheryl
Murphy will serenade both dinner attendees during the meal and those bidding on the silent auction. Among the showgirls and singers performing
in the lounge area will be Venus Love, Sapphire
Jewel, Dean Styles, Pedie Burgandy and Jeff Jennings, whose return performance was most requested by attendees following last year’s event.
Menu items for this year’s dinner include Breast
of Chicken Marsala, Medallions of Roasted Tenderloin, Baby Red Potatoes, Traditional Stuffing
and Gravy, Roasted Fresh Vegetables, Caesar Salad,
Pasta Salad, Tropical Fresh Fruit, Croissants, New
York Cheesecake and Tropical Carrot Cake plus
beverages. The meal will served family style, allowing those wishing to enjoy only vegetarian
items the opportunity to do so.
According to President Dean Dayton, the annual
ROW dinner is the foundation’s signature fundraising event. “It’s an opportunity for old friends to
make new friends at a fun event that also advances
the northeast Wisconsin community’s ‘gay
agenda’ by donating to Rainbow’s Community
Enrichment Fund,” he said.
Tickets for the “An Evening With Rainbow Over
Wisconsin” are available from ROW members and
businesses, or can be ordered by calling 920-4370994. Tickets may also be ordered by emailing
ROW at: rainbowoverwi@aol.com.
CREAM CITY CHORUS TO OFFER
“THE TREE OF LIFE:
REFLECTIONS OF FAMILY”
B r o o kf i e l d - The Wisconsin Cream City Chorus will open its
2009-2010 season with a unique choral theatre performance
entitled “The Tree of Life: Reflections of Family.” Concert goers
will step into the world of an old show-business family trying
to keep Milwaukee’s longest running, all-inclusive holiday show
going. Attendees can expect equal parts family, holiday traditions and fun.
This year’s production includes musical selections from various traditions, including Christmas, Chanukah, Kwanzaa and
Solstice, as well as popular seasonal and holiday tunes from
several eras. And, as a special treat, Pride Idol winner (and former WCCC member) Corky Morgan will also join the chorus
as a special guest for this performance.
“The Tree of Life: Reflections of Family” will be performed Saturday, December 5 at 7:30 PM., and Sunday, December 6 at 3
PM. Both performances will be held at the Unitarian Universalist Church West, 13001 W. North Avenue in Brookfield.
Tickets for the concert are $15 for adult, $12 for youth (ages
11-18) and seniors (ages 60 and up), with children 10 and
under admitted free. Tickets are available through chorus
members and the chorus office. Tickets may also be ordered by
email at: info@creamcitychorus.org or by phone at: 414-2768787.
For more information about the Wisconsin Cream City Chorus and the concert, visit creamcitychorus.org.
“DIXIE’S TUPPERWARE PARTY”
OPENS NOVEMBER 17
G r e e n B a y - There’s a Tupperware party coming to the Weidner
Center that’s unlike any plastic product promotion party ever
thrown. “Dixie’s Tupperware Party” opens here November 17 for a
six-day engagement. Dixie Longate, the fast-talking Tupperware
Lady, packed up her catalogues, left her children in an Alabama trailer
park and took Off-Broadway by storm. Now, join Dixie as she travels the country throwing good ol’fashioned Tupperware Parties filled
with outrageously funny tales, heartfelt accounts, free giveaways,
audience participation and the most fabulous assortment of Tupperware ever sold on a theater stage.
Loaded with the most up-to-date products available for purchase, audiences will see for themselves how Ms. Longate became the #1 Tupperware seller in the U.S. & Canada as she
educates her guests on the many alternative uses she has discovered for her plastic products!
NBC’s Today Show Made it very clear: “This is not your grandmother’s Tupperware party!” The Orange County Register noted that
the drag-a-licious play has “nearly non-stop X-rated humor, with
occasional restraint back to R.”
According to Dixie (writer-creator Kris Andersson), she started
selling the “fantastic Plastic crap in 2001 and I have never had so
much fun drinking for free in my life.”
Dixie claims has 3 kids: Wynona, Dwayne, and Absorbine, Jr. and 3
ex-husbands. “All of ‘em have somehow died, but I ain’t crying about
it,” she said. “I’m way too busy traveling all over the place bringing
creative food storage solutions to your town.”
Dixie’s Tupperware Party caught the eye of some New York Theatre
producers and in 2007 and got a Drama Desk Award nomination for
Outstanding Solo Performance. The show is now on a national tour
in theatres far and wide.
Tickets for “Dixie’s Tupperware Party” are $30 each available online at:
www.wcpresents.com or by calling 920-465-2217 or 1-800-328-TKTS.
NEW LGBT FILMS ON DVD Eating Out 3: All You Can Eat
Can it be five years since Q. Allan Brocka’s
rollicking gay comedy, “EE a t i n g O u t , ” proved
such an audience favorite at the always fabulous Milwaukee LGBT Film Festival? Five years?
Really?!
A me r i c a n
“EE a t i n g O u t” starred former “A
I d o l ” finalist Jim Verraros plus hot-bodied Ryan
D e s p e r a t e H o u s e w i v e s ” Carnes and be“D
came wildly popular upon the DVD release. Even
Glenn could (almost) forgive the film’s obsessive fetishizing of straight male flesh – all very
1990s – thanks to a genuinely engaging cast as
well as a savvy screenplay which delighted in
putting a gay spin on the popular heterosexual
teen sex comedies then dominating screen time
at multiplexes across mainstream America.
To no one’s surprise – certainly not to Glenn’s
– a sequel soon followed, amusingly tagged,
“SS l o p p y S e c o n d s .” Carnes exited but Marco
Dapper’s sexually ambiguous yet oh-so studly
Iowa farm boy emerged as a more than suitable
stand-in. Yes, “SS l o p p y S e c o n d s ” mined familiar comic territory but the film also possessed
a charming, almost childlike wonder in its
shameless glorification of the naked (chiseled)
male torso.
Now jump another couple of years and with
it comes another sequel: “EE a t i n g O u t 3 : A l l
Yo u C a n E a t .” This time around, Glenn pleads:
“People, please, step away from the buffet
table.”
A l l Yo u C a n E a t ” seems a
At first glance, “A
worthy entry in this popular franchise. Let’s
work our way down the checklist, shall we, ticking off the boxes as we go along.
Box one: an abundance of chiseled abs? Check.
Box two: plenty of quotable bitchy one-liners?
You bet.
Box three: moments of gratuitous full-frontal
male nudity? That’s an affirmative.
Box four: how about a fairy-tale romance with
equal emphasis on both fairy & tail?
Absolutely.
Box five: a hot straight guy taking on the role
of gay relationship advisor? Err… what?
Now, just for good measure, throw in cult
faves like Mink Stole and Leslie Jordan and you
really can’t lose, can you?
Okay, so what went wrong?
The answer, sadly, is pretty much everything.
Gone is Jim Verraros’s likable Kyle, crudely
dispatched during the film’s opening, an interminable, morbidly unfunny funeral-parlor sequence which also serves to introduce his
replacement, Casey (Daniel Skelton). Something
of a wide-eyed innocent, Casey immediately be-
Buy it, rent it or forget it...
Glenn is both astonished and disappointed at just
how cheap and tired this “threequel” proved to be.
Paul Bartell’s screenplay simply cries out for a fresh
idea, even the one. Newcomer Casey is little more
than a twink cipher; Daniel Skelton’s performance
primarily consists of his constant lopsided grin
which merely suggests to Glenn a gay newbie who
is far too medicated. Despite Casey’s miraculous,
final reel altruistic transformation, Glenn can’t help
but think Chris Salvatore’s criminally adorable Zack
– yes, Glenn is repeating himself – deserves better.
The bigger mistake was the decision to focus on
Rebekah Kochan’s Tiffani, “the slut with the
mouth of shit.” She is both unbearably stupid and
mind-numbingly crass. And she is not funny. Not
funny at all. She made Glenn reach for the remote.
Still, in its defense, “EEa t i n g O u t 3 : A l l Yo u C a n
Ea t ” never plumbs the depths of awfulness which
A n o th e r G a y Se q u e l .
so characterized last fall’s “A
Just the facts…
comes devoted to his new BFF Tiffani (Rebekah
Kochan), the last remaining holdover from the
earlier films.
Tiffani takes young Casey by the hand, gives
him a job sweeping floors in her salon, amusingly dubbed, “Nail Me,” and then drags him to
the “Larry Craig LGBT Center.” Casey is reluctant volunteer, whinging about the gay community and making remarks like “I’m
disappointed about how sex-centric the gay
community is.” and “That’s why I hate places
like this, there’re full of old horndogs looking to
get laid.”
Enter volunteer coordinator and local sex god,
Zack (Chris Salvatore). Casey’s jaw drops and
eyes glaze over at the sight of the criminally
adorable brunet; Casey giving every indication
he’s merely a young horndog just looking to get
laid. Wiping the drool from his chin, Casey
makes plans to meet with Zach to discuss volunteer opportunities the very next afternoon.
That phrase: “volunteer opportunities” really
is quite deliciously euphemistic.
Naturally there’s a conflict or two lurking in
the background threatening to keep the scrawny
but perpetually smiling Casey out of Zack’s
strong, manly arms. First, there’s Lionel (John
Stallings), Zack’s sexy heathen of a boyfriend
who fully intends to keep the orally adept Zack
where he belongs – on his knees. Then, all too
foolishly, Casey takes Tiffani’s dating advice. Disaster ensures when Casey begins cyber-stalking
Zack using a fake profile, that of Tiffani’s straight
ex Ryan (Michael E.R. Walker), a stripper with a
heart of gold.
“ E a t i n g O u t 3 : A l l Yo u C a n Ea t ” clocks in
at 80 minutes
“ E a t i n g O u t 3 : A l l Yo u C a n E a t ” is available on DVD on 11/10 with an SRP of $24.95
All about sexy Chris Salvatore @
http://www.chris-salvatore.com
Is there any other kind of stripper, muses
Glenn.
Of course the real Ryan shows up, invariably
shirtless, his perfectly chiseled torso enough to
make even the straightest of straight men
swoon. After briefly teasing the gay boys, he
plots with Tiffani to get them together as they
surely are meant to be. Of course it goes go
without saying that gay lips will end up on
“Rigid Ryan” but the course of true love is rather
less certain in Paul Bartell’s only fitfully funny
screenplay.
HOT DANCE HITS NOW
PLAYING IN THE CLUBS
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Here I Am
Eric Kupper Featuring Peyton
Million Dollar Bill
Whitney Houston
F*ck You
Lily Allen
I Want To Know What Love Is Mariah Carey
She Wolf
Shakira
Body Language
Jesse McCartney Featuring T-Pain
I Didn’t Know My Own Strength Whitney Houston
Celebration
Madonna
The Real Thing
Vanessa Williams
Miss You
Ron Perkov
I Can’t Live Without Music
The Transatlatins F/ La India
Nothing’s Impossible
Kim English
F*ckin Bitch
Samy K Featuring Auari
Skin 2009
Charlotte
I Will Be Here
Tiesto & Sneaky Sound System
S.O.S. (Let The Music Play)
Jordin Sparks
Smoke
Jus Jack With Phil Garant F/ Matina Parisi
On The Floor (Oh Baby Please) Kaylah Marin
Right Here
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We Are Golden
MIKA
DJ Carl - XS Niteclub, Green Bay
Bad Romance
Lady Gaga - Bad Romance
Perfect
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Million Dollar Bill
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S.O.S. (Let The Music Play)
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Did You See Me Coming
Pet Shop Boys
Fame 2009
Naturi Naughton
Don’t Upset the Rhythem
Noisettes
Paparazzi
Lady Gaga
Dollhouse
Priscilla Renea
Body Language
Jesse McCartney Featuring T-Pain
Fuck You
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You Belong with Me
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Sexy Bitch
David Guetta feat. Akon
Hotel Room Service
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Make Me
Janet
The Dating Diet by Anthony Paull
As a friend, Jake says I should know better than
to let him drink with a cell phone in hand. Side by
side, we’re driving in the heavy rain to an equality
benefit, and once we’re escorted inside, under the
safety of black umbrellas, I tell him that we don’t have
to go out afterward; it’s not as if I like country linedancing anyway, especially when I know Jake is already drunk and his ex is going to be present.
Talk about a 5-minute recipe for gay, country-fried
drama. You see, Jake’s not officially over the fact that
his ex screwed him hard enough to hit oil. So here,
now, when he says he’s over it, I simply flutter my
eyes and take a deep whiff of the sugary designer
cologne covering the scent of his heartache: the underlying, sweaty odor of up, down and sleepless
nights of spiraling ‘round and ‘round.
Still, Jake’s going to rise above it; this is what he
declares as we mindlessly listen to a local, selfless,
gay politician explain to us that we really should donate $100 to the good cause of equality because the
liquor bill, at least for Jake, should double that.
“But I’m just a poor, underpaid writer,” I apologetically confess to the red-suited politico wearing a
yellow hearing-aid. “So how about $25 bucks and a
blow job from Jake. That’s got to be worth $100.
Well, maybe $50.”
The commissioner, blindingly bald, nods as if
that’s an option. But I’m not sure if he technically
hears me so I say it again, LOUDER, before Jake
pushes me toward the bar. “You shouldn’t talk to
politicians like that. They’re not used to it,” he says.
“Not used to what? Hearing it or paying for it?”
Downing his vodka and cranberry, Jake’s face is
flushing red as around us, high-society members
Ex and the City
feast on spiced meatballs and spinach and brie quesadillas. “Ugh, we don’t belong here,” he moans.
“Let’s go line-dancing!”
“But your ex is going to be there. Are you going
to be ok with that?”
“Of course!” Jake assures me, minutes later in the
car. Still, he wants more to drink before we arrive. So
we make a fast, pit-stop at my house, where he raids
the wooden liquor cabinet, feasting on vodka and
diet-mixers. “Don’t worry. Just be hot. That’s all you
need to do,” I inform Jake, who is desperately trying
to calm his anxiety with each swallow.
“I’m FINE,” he says, growing agitated. “I don’t
need to BE anything. I don’t need to validate myself
to him! I don’t need fresh clothes or some new boy
on my arm! I don’t have to lose weight! Why do I
care what he thinks?!! Why should I?”
“You’re right,” I calmly agree, in hope that he’ll settle down.
“Ha! Why do I need revenge?” he questions, as we
battle bumper traffic on the dark, slippery road to the
country bar. Still, I hear it in, under, and around his
voice: something sinister, something we’ve all felt
before. But where does it come from, this malicious
intent? And why is it that we always need to be the
last to say ‘I love you’ and the first to say ‘goodbye’
for life to be ok?
At the bar, there’s a big-haired bridal party filling
the dance floor, jamming to a live band, consisting
of a fiddle, a drum, and an electric guitar. Throughout,
I spy a mad mix of gays, cowboys, and girls wearing
80’s bleached denim. I don’t know whether to run
or begin interviewing people for my next column.
Each song is about a broken heart, a broken dog, or
a broken fender. Belligerent and boozed to
the rim, Jake is fast friends with the bridal
party, performing the electric slide. So what if it’s the
wrong dance? “Every line dance is the electric slide!”
he calls to me. “Except hillbillies, they add in a curse
and a calculated fall once in a while!”
At this point, I know we’re going to get our gay
asses beat, but this is at the bottom of my worry list.
Jake’s cheating ex-boyfriend, he’s my top concern.
Now, he’s approaching me in black and white
plaid with a hug, a hello, and a “how is Jake?”
Instead of an answer, I simply frown and nod in
Jake’s direction. Instantly, he looks, and then begins
typing on his cell phone.
“You look incredible. I wish things were different,”
Jake sarcastically says, later reading his ex’s text. On
the ride home, he’s seems content with the message,
even though I can tell it’s not quite enough. I wonder,
is there every truly equality at the finale of a relationship or does somebody always have to pay? Can our
egos afford anything less than a mindless retaliation?
“I’m so SICK of this bitch!” Jake suddenly exclaims, replying to the message. At least, I think it’s a reply. But
you see, Jake’s more forward than that.
“What are you doing?” I ask.
“Forwarding his message to his new boyfriend,”
Jake sneers. “Along with a message for him to keep
his man away from me….”
“You think that’s smart?” I ask. “You think it’ll
make it better?”
Shrugging, he turns up the radio, tosses his cell
phone, and closes his teary eyes. “No, but it will help
me sleep,” he sighs, resting his head. And I think finally, he’s on to something. Because maybe a good
night’s sleep is the best revenge that any of us can
ask for when ending a relationship anyway.
Community Events Calendar
Friday, November 13
DIVERSION OF THE DAY
Jack (Milw) Switchback at Jack Reunion Party 930 til cl Hot male dancers & the Switch Crew
LaCage (Milw) GRAND OPENING of new lounge & unveiling of the name. Show of Shows 10pm
Shelter (Green Bay) Ronnie Nyles Band 9:30pm
Saturday, November 14
Boom (Milwaukee) Jagermeister Party 10:30-12:30 $3 shots, $5 bombs, give-aways
ICON (Kenosha) Leather Night with Hot male & Female exotic dancers
KRUZ (Milwaukee) Castaways MC of Milwaukee 30th Anniversary Beer/Soda Bust
“Cowboys, Uniforms, Military, oh my! $7 9pm-1am
Positive Voice (Appleton) Paper Valley Roller Girls @ Skater’s Edge, Appleton
Shelter Club (Green Bay) Go-Go Dancers 10pm
Tuesday, November 17
Harmony Cafe (Appleton) BEAR Club 4 Men host the Bear Coffee. 7pm
Wednesday, November 18
Phoenix room @ UWGB campus (Green Bay) A special female impersonator show
hosted by SAGA groups on both FVTC & UWGB campuses. Jarica Jordan & others performing. This is a benefit show and more performers needed. 7pm
Thursday, November 19
Cricket’s Fox River Lounge Reunion Party (Green Bay) Held at JD’s which used to be
Cricket’s Fox River Lounge. 5pm Glamarama performs at 8:30 pm.
Friday, November 20
Boom (Milwaukee) MANHUNT Road Trip. Gift bags and Manhunt goodies. Special invitation to Manhunt members. Stop in & get your invitiation.
Positive Voice (Green Bay) Dixie’s Tupperware Party, showing at the Weidner Center
Saturday, November 21
ICON (Kenosha) Benefit show for MR ICON Gerald Cummings
Madison Gay Video Club "Eating Out: All You Can Eat” (Ariztical Enter., dir. Glenn Gaylord, 2009) “Muscleheads” (Colt Studio, dir. John Rutherford, 2009)
8:00 PM, http://www.mgvc.org, 608-244-8690 (evenings)
Rainbow Club Thanksgiving Potluck Dinner. Turkey, potatoes and stuffing provided.
1pm at N16731 Sandhill, Dorchester, WI Call Terry 715-654-5044 fmi
Shelter Club (Green Bay) "Give Thanks" Show 10:30pm - please bring a non-perishable
food item for ARCW food pantry
XS (Green Bay) Turnabout Show 2009
Wednesday, November 25
KRUZ (Milwaukee) Third Anniversary Party for Kruz
ICON (Kenosha) Pre-Thanksgiving Dance Party, drink specials
LaCage (Milwaukee) Turkey Bowling
Thanksgiving Day, Thursday, November 26
KRUZ (Milwaukee) Open today at 7pm
LaCage (Milwaukee) HIT Bowlers Opening Party 9pm show hosted by Karen Valentine
Shelter Club (Green Bay) Open 11am Thanksgiving Day. Thanksgiving dinner halftime of
Packer game. Karaoke 9pm Thanksgiving night.
Saturday, November 28
ICON (Kenosha) Chantal celebrates Sweet 16 (years of performing) 10pm $5
Tuesday, December 1
Preble Park Presbyterian Church (Green Bay) World AIDS Day Red Ribbon
Community Event 607 Ravenswood. Song, dance, speakers, snacks & bevs.
Thursday, December 3
Triangle (Milwaukee) Sailor Jerry & Stoli Party with Retro Games.
Saturday, December 5
Positive Voice (Green Bay) Holiday Dinner Party & White Elephant Gift Exchange. held
at the Sierra Hotel
Sunday, December 6
Triangle (Milwaukee) Retro Games featuring Sailor Jerry & Stoli.
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while at the same time providing a protective barrier to guard against sexually
(An effervescently gay advice columnist)
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Seminary Position: an “Oral” Report
just take any ordinary condom, unroll it,
Dear Auntie Barbie,
and cut it open along the full length of
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entation on the Ten Commandments for my class. The 6th and the 9th com- of latex which, of course, is the same
mandments are both about sex (#6: Thou shalt not commit adultery, and damn thing as a dental dam. Just make
#9: Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife). What are those two words sure you do not use the type of condom
concerning the 69 sex acts? Number 6 was felictia I think, but I probable have that has spermicidal lube on it--it tastes
Using his sexuality the way
the spelling wrong. What was number 9 again?
icky poo! I recommend using flavored
some folks wave a flyswatter.
Signed, Buss IN and Buss OUT
condoms; or better yet, use your own
favorite ice cream toppings to drizzle onto the prophylactic square. (Unless
Hello Buzzy Bee,
you have the IQ of cool-whip, you don't want to put the flavored syrup on
The sexual position called 69 is simply where two people perform oral sex the side that touches the other person's privates. Just put it on the side that
on each other at the same time (also known as a double header). It can be your tongue touches--duh!) It's a nice way to please your sex partner and still
done by two people of any sex (a man and womyn, two womyn, or two men). be safe from all the nasties. I think of it as a tasteful way to respect each
You mentioned fellatio (performed on a man) and asked about the other term other’s health.
for oral sex. I think the word you are searching for is cunnilingus (performed
On a side note, oral sex is so sinfully delicious that many religions have
on a woman).
declared it to be immoral and an abomination to God because it does not reJust to be socially responsible, you should use a dental dam whenever you sult in procreation. Many years ago in this country, lawmakers passed legisperform oral sex on a man or woman. If you have never heard of a dental dam lation making oral sex illegal and punishable under the sodomy laws. Some
and want to know what it is...it’s a 4'' by 4'' piece of latex/prophylactic. Before states have overturned these laws, but there are still plenty of states (usually
you perform oral sex, you stretch the dental dam across your mouth (not along the Bible belt) that still have sodomy laws on the books. So make sure
your nose--you need to breathe). If applied correctly, you should look like a you draw your bedroom blinds before indulging in this type of horizontal rephysician wearing a rubber surgical mask. (Anyone want to play doctor? No? freshment. Good luck to you on your "oral” presentation. I am sure that you
Just thought I’d ask.) The dental dam material is stretchy enough to allow will hold the class’ attention--all 69 of them!
your tongue to stick out and maneuver around (in a pleasurable fashion), Always One Step Away from Being Criminal, Uncle Barbie
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My Place 3201 South Ave La Crosse (608)788-9073
Players 300 4th St, La Crosse (608)784-4200
Chances R 417 Jay St, La Crosse (608)782-5105
Impulse 132 W. Grand Ave Beloit, (608)361-0000
Club 5 Bar/Restaurant 5 Applegate Ct
Madison, (608)277-9700
Plan B 924 Williamson Street, Madison
Shamrock 117 W Main Madison (608)255-5029
WOOF’S 114 King Street, Madison
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Captain Dix (Rainbow Valley Resort)
4124 River Road WI Dells, WI (866) 553-1818
N O RT H E R N W I S C O N S I N (7 1 5 )
Scooters 411 Galloway Street,
Eau Claire (715)835-9959
JT’s Bar and Grill 1506 N. 3rd
Superior (715)-394-2580
The Flame 1612 Tower Ave
Superior, WI (715)395-0101
The Main 1217 Tower Ave
Superior, WI (715)392-1756
OZ 320 Washington St, Wausau
www.totheoz.com (715)842-3225
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Rascals Bar & Grill 702 E. Wis.,
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Ravens (NEW) 215 E. College Ave
Appleton (920)364-9599
Napalese 1351 Cedar Street,
Green Bay (920)432-9646
SASS 840 S. Broadway,Green Bay
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THE SHELTER 730 N. Quincy St.Green Bay
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XS Niteclub 1106 Main Street, Green Bay
Club 1226 1226 Oshkosh Ave Oshkosh,
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Debs Spare Time 1303 Harrison St
Oshkosh (920)235-6577
Blue Lite 1029 N 8th, Sheboygan
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JoDee’s 2139 Racine St Racine (262)634-9804
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Art Bar 722 Burleigh, (414)372-7880
1 Ballgame 196 S 2nd (414)273-7474
3 Boom (& The ROOM) 625 S. 2nd St
(414)277-5040
4 Boot Camp 209 E National (414)643-6900
City Lights Chill 111 W. Howard Ave
(414)481-1441
5 ETC (Basement level of LaCage)
801S 2nd, (414)383-8330
6 Fluid 819 South 2nd (414)643-5843
7 Harbor Room 117 E Greenfield (414)672-7988
8 JACK 200 E Washington (414)389-3596
9 KRUZ
354 E.National (414)272-KRUZ
6 LaCage 801S 2nd, (414)383-8330
10 Midtowne Spa (this is not a bar)
315 S Water (414)278-8989
11 Mona’s 1407 S.First St (414)643-0377
12 M’s 1101 S.2nd St (414)383-8900
13 Nut Hut 1500 W Scott (414)647-2673
PUMP @ Decibel (Sundays only)
1905 E North Ave 414-272-3337
PURR 3945 N. 35TH Milwaukee
14 This Is It 418 E Wells (414)278-9192
15 Triangle 135 E National (414)383-9412
Tropical Gay Latino NiteClub 626 S. 5th
Two 718 E. Burleigh St.
16 Walker’s Pint 818 S 2nd St (414)643-7468
17 Wherehouse (certain nights only)
818 S. Water St. 414-383-7593
18 Woody’s 1579 S 2nd (414) 672-0806
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