30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege
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30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege
8/6/13 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege — Everyday Feminism LOGIN | JOIN MAGAZINE Self-Worth COURSES TALK RADIO SPEAKERS Sex Health & Body Violence Love POSTERS Work SHOP Parenting GET INVOLVED Gender LGBTQIA ABOUT Race CONTACT Class Politics And More! Join Our Community of 60,000+ Feminists! 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege September 20, 2012 | by Sam Killermann You'll get our free articles plus a 20% off coupon for our Feminist Pride Shop! Originally published on It’s Pronounced Metrosexual and cross-posted here with their permission. Your Email Subscribe Now FOLLOW & SUBSCRIBE ABOUT EVERYDAY FEMINISM Following is a list of cisgender identity privileges. If you’re not familiar with the term, “cisgender” means having a biological sex that matches your gender identity and expression, resulting in other people accurately perceiving your gender. If you are cisgender, listed below are benefits that result from your alignment of identity and perceived identity. If you identify as cisgender, there’s a good chance you’ve never thought about these things. Try and be more cognizant and you’ll start to realize how much work we have to do in order to make things better for the transgender folks who don’t have access to these privileges. Everyday Feminism supports you in applying feminism to your real life through our online magazine, courses, forum, talk radio, and more. . Learn how to work through issues, stand up for yourself, live your truth, and take collective action. Read more. FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK If you’re unsure of what it means to be “transgender” you can read about it in our gender identity guide. Please comment below if you have any additions or revisions to make! 1. Use public restrooms without fear of verbal abuse, physical intimidation, or arrest 2. Use public facilities such as gym locker rooms and store changing rooms without stares, fear, or anxiety. 3. Strangers don’t assume they can ask you what your genitals look like and how everydayfeminism.com/2012/09/30-examples-of-cisgender-privilege/ 1/8 8/6/13 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege — Everyday Feminism you have sex. 4. Your validity as a man/woman/human is not based on how much surgery you’ve had or how well you “pass” as non-transgender. 5. You have the ability to walk through the world and generally blend-in, not Everyday Feminism Like 62,304 people like Everyday Feminism. being constantly stared or gawked at, whispered about, pointed at, or laughed at because of your gender expression. 6. You can access gender exclusive spaces such as the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival, Greek Life, or Take Back the Night and not be excluded due to your trans status. 7. Strangers call you by the name you provide, and don’t ask what your “real name” [birth name] is and then assume that they have a right to call you by that name. Facebook social plugin 8. You can reasonably assume that your ability to acquire a job, rent an apartment, or secure a loan will not be denied on the basis of your gender identity/expression. 9. You have the ability to flirt, engage in courtship, or form a relationship and not fear that your biological status may be cause for rejection or attack, nor will it cause your partner to question their sexual orientation. 10. If you end up in the emergency room, you do not have to worry that your gender will keep you from receiving appropriate treatment, or that all of your medical issues will be seen as a result of your gender. 11. Your identity is not considered a mental pathology (“gender identity disorder” in the DSM IV) by the psychological and medical establishments. 12. You have the ability to not worry about being placed in a sex-segregated detention center, holding facility, jail or prison that is incongruent with your identity. 13. You have the ability to not be profiled on the street as a sex worker because of your gender expression. 14. You are not required to undergo an extensive psychological evaluation in order to receive basic medical care. 15. You do not have to defend you right to be a part of “Queer,” and gays and SEARCH FOR ARTICLES Search this website… Search WHAT'S MOST POPULAR NOW The Feminist Guide To Non-Creepy Flirting 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege 10 Things We Need to Make Sure American Women Can Do by 2040 Hands Off: Tattoo Etiquette How To Talk To Someone About Privilege Who Doesn't Know What That Is lesbians will not try to exclude you from “their” equal rights movement because of your gender identity (or any equality movement, including feminist rights). 16. If you are murdered (or have any crime committed against you), your gender expression will not be used as a justification for your murder (“gay panic”) nor as a reason to coddle the perpetrators. 17. You can easily find role models and mentors to emulate who share your identity. 18. Hollywood accurately depicts people of your gender in films and television, GET YOUR FEMINIST GOODIES! and does not solely make your identity the focus of a dramatic storyline, or the punchline for a joke. 19. Be able to assume that everyone you encounter will understand your identity, and not think you’re confused, misled, or hell-bound when you reveal it to them. 20. Being able to purchase clothes that match your gender identity without being refused service/mocked by staff or questioned on your genitals. 21. Being able to purchase shoes that fit your gender expression without having to order them in special sizes or asking someone to custom-make them. 22. No stranger checking your identification or drivers license will ever insult or glare at you because your name or sex does not match the sex they believed you to be based on your gender expression. 23. You can reasonably assume that you will not be denied services at a hospital, bank, or other institution because the staff does not believe the gender everydayfeminism.com/2012/09/30-examples-of-cisgender-privilege/ 2/8 8/6/13 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege — Everyday Feminism marker on your ID card to match your gender identity. 24. Having your gender as an option on a form. 25. Being able to tick a box on a form without someone disagreeing, and telling you not to lie. Yes, this happens. 26. Not fearing interactions with police officers due to your gender identity. 27. Being able to go to places with friends on a whim knowing there will be bathrooms there you can use. 28. You don’t have to convince your parents of your true gender and/or have to earn your parents’ and siblings’ love and respect all over again. 29. You don’t have to remind your extended family over and over to use proper gender pronouns (e.g., after transitioning). 30. You don’t have to deal with old photographs that did not reflect who you truly are. 31. Knowing that if you’re dating someone they aren’t just looking to satisfy a curiosity or kink pertaining to your gender identity (e.g., the “novelty” of having sex with a trans- person). 32. Being able to pretend that anatomy and gender are irrevocably entwined when having the “boy parts and girl parts” talk with children, instead of explaining the actual complexity of the issue (one “how-to” in the comments below). 33. [leave a comment below with another example!] After reading this list, please read and share our article about making a more trans-friendly world and be part of the solution. Thanks to BGSU’s Safe Zone Program for the beginnings of this list. Sam Killermann is a Staff Writer for Everyday Feminism and the person behind It’s Pronounced Metrosexual, a comedy show and blog focused on issues of identity, stereotypes, and oppression. 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Email: Subscribe Now Comments 133 comments Add a comment Stephanie Edd · Top Commenter · Berkeley One possible way to explain sex and gender identity to a six year old: http://rangerbagel.com/2012/11/08/aunty-ranger-what-am-i-and-where-did-i-comefrom/ Reply · 13 · Like · November 18, 2012 at 8:18pm Jacqueline Brown · Cunning Linguistics then again the person who wrote it is apparently friends with Riley Kilo, so that kinda figures Reply · Like · February 4 at 6:03am Katrina Payne · subscribers Top Commenter · Grand Wazoo at NIMH Labs · 124 Can we have a version without anatomical depictions of genitals? This is a six year old here we are talking about explaining this to, not a thirteen year old. Reply · 1 · Like · July 21 at 1:59pm Holly Blunden · Australian National Katrina Payne I don't understand how anatomy is inappropriate for a six-year old? None of the images are by any means psychologically harmful for a child, whereas teaching them that particular parts of their body are too shameful and inappropriate to even see diagrams of is pretty bad for kids developing a healthy attitude towards sex and their bodies. You wouldn't balk at 'heads, shoulders, knees and toes', so hiding the existence of genitals from a child sets a pretty obvious hypocrisy; they know they have genitals. They have seen their own, letting them know everyone has them takes away both the mystery and the shame... Reply · 63 · Like · July 21 at 3:11pm View 14 more Jennell Jaquays · Owner-Operator at Dragongirl Studio · 121 subscribers Not having to explain your entire recent history every time you encounter someone from your past. Reply · 28 · Like · November 18, 2012 at 10:43pm Kathy Connors · University of Wisconsin–Whitewater So, follow Mary Poppins lead she says "Let me make one point perfectly clear! I never explain anything." You dont owe anyone your private bussiness. Reply · 29 · Like · November 19, 2012 at 7:22am Anne Marie Tobias · Technical Support Engineer at Rent One Online The "Jerry Springerizatoin" of transpeople has classed us as "Nonpesons" in some social contexts and with certain classes of people. The same way a lot of people would intrude into a popular actor's personal space and behave completely inappropriately, because that person has developed a relationship through their television. Some actors are very gracious with the socially inept. Others guard their privacy jealously. Personally, I see every interaction as the possibility of a becoming a learning experience for both of us. Reply · 5 · Like · March 29 at 10:56am Katrina Payne · subscribers Top Commenter · Grand Wazoo at NIMH Labs · 124 Anne Marie Tobias eh... not really the case on Jerry Springer anymore. Transgender people on Jerry Springer are pretty much on par with the other people on the show. Being shown as the decent person (or victim) going right down to being the villain. My only issue is the crowd shouts at somebody having a heterosexual relationship with a tranny "you is gay" as their main response. Even if the girl passes really well. But no... they are people... about as much as anybody else on Jerry Springer is everydayfeminism.com/2012/09/30-examples-of-cisgender-privilege/ 4/8 8/6/13 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege — Everyday Feminism But no... they are people... about as much as anybody else on Jerry Springer is people. Now... once we start having Transgender people showing up on Maury... you have more of a point here. Reply · Like · July 21 at 2:12pm Katherine Mackenzie Bradford · 368 subscribers Not having to worry that friends and/or family will reject you for your because of your gender expression and how it makes them feel uncomfortable. Not having to worry that you will be make homeless by your own parents because of your gender expression. Not having to explain to every single person you encounter about how misgendering or using a wrong name can be very hurtful and insensitive. Not having to worry that the wrong name, gender, or photograph will appear on legal documents, such as a driver's license, birth certificate, or college degree. Not having to worry that social services will remove your children from your custody because of your gender expression and how that supposedly could impact their upbringing in a negative way. Reply · 19 · Like · November 19, 2012 at 2:04am Christina Nicole Lang These things are not "cisgender privileges." Labeling them is provocative, not illuminating. The author probably thinks he's clever, but things like this are not helpful. There's no good to come from telling nearly everyone in the world that they are lording their privileges over a minority with gender issues. Reply · 17 · Like · November 19, 2012 at 6:42am Jeremy Remy Morrison · Top Commenter · BC Not sure if the author thinks cisgender people are "lording" these privileges over the minority, just acknowledging them as privileges as compared to someone living transgender. They're just examples of things the majority of us take for granted, probably not realizing that some people out there need to uncomfortably navigate on a daily basis. Reply · 52 · Like · November 19, 2012 at 8:55am Christina Nicole Lang That may be true. However, it's more than likely that cisgender readers might feel 'accused'. Pointing out someone's privilege over another isn't kindly. Therefore, it's not the best way to build allies. Reply · 8 · Like · November 19, 2012 at 9:06am Jeremy Remy Morrison · Top Commenter · BC Yeah, my experience shows that typical reactions to first learning about things like white privilege or male privilege are hostility or denial on the part of the privilegee - no surprise. But "they're not going to like hearing this" isn't exactly a good reason to not explain the truth of a situation to someone, especially if the unrecognized truth is what allows discrimination to continue. Again, the author isn't saying this is how you should introduce transgender discrimination to someone, nor does the article seem to be directed to "making allies." Instead its aim seems to be awareness ("try and be more cognizant"), and I don't think the author is being unkind about it in any way. It's just another important aspect of a much larger subject, laid out in a fairly objective manner. No reason to feel 'accused' - they're not blaming you or any cisgendered person for these privileges or trying to make you feel bad for having them. It's just hard to change things if people aren't aware of some of the basics that contribute to the inertia against change. Reply · 116 · Like · November 19, 2012 at 9:39am View 16 more Griffin Boyce Filling out a form, only to have it "corrected" by a receptionist. The best part about this is having to fill out a second form because it was tampered with by an idiot. So far this has happened at a college and a doctor's office. Ugh. Reply · 9 · Like · November 20, 2012 at 4:24am Kyle McLenaghan This article is counter-productive and just makes those who are transgender seem like they have a big chip on their shoulder-- complainers. The author should realize that anyone reading this is probably already on the side of increasing rights and protection for transgender people. "Cisgender" is NOT a word that should be used, unless you're in a clinic setting-- Like saying "gestation period" instead of "pregnant" -- it's redundant and not helping the movement- definitely working against it, especially with those not already in favor of civil liberties. The things listed here are NOT 'privileges' that I enjoy nor are they things that anyone who is not trangender will EVER work at to change. Ever. Complaints about check-boxes, shoes and perceptions of others mask the real issues here that we really can make a everydayfeminism.com/2012/09/30-examples-of-cisgender-privilege/ 5/8 8/6/13 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege — Everyday Feminism difference in, like being respected as people and protection from harm. This whole thing seems accusatory and whiny. Sorry guys, gals, and everyone in between, I'm on your side but this kind of article is working against your interests. Reply · 12 · Like · November 26, 2012 at 9:27am Alex Van Rossum · Hostess/Waitress at Country Cafe Would you say the same thing about an article written about white privilege? These are privileges whether you think they are are not. You don't have to ENJOY privileges to have them. I don't enjoy that because I'm white, I'm more likely to be hired than someone who is not, but that doesn't negate the fact that it's a privilege. If trans* people have chips on their shoulders (and really, they don't), it's because they have every right to because there are people who will stand here and tell them to stop complaining because their problems are not "real" problems. As a cis female, I don't find this article accusatory or whiny. I find it completely valid and true. What I do find whiny is when other cis people complain about being "victimized" by trans* people. Reply · 81 · Like · November 26, 2012 at 12:50pm Felix Fagulous · Free University of Berlin I think it's really gross that cis people think they can police the language that trans* people use to talk about their own stuggles and also to say what will and won't help 'the movement' that we are apparently in. You are not on 'our side' when you post crap like this. Reply · 34 · Like · December 8, 2012 at 2:50am Jennifer Hughes · Top Commenter · Port Chester, New York "Cisgender" is the opposite of transgender. That's it. It's not clinical and it's certainly not "redundant." Reply · 19 · Like · February 3 at 11:07pm View 8 more Cyd Charisse Smith Actually cisgender women can still encounter #10. Just sayin' Reply · 17 · Like · January 2 at 7:07am Jenson V'Tar · Fort Walton Beach, Florida Really? Are you sure? I'm not denying or arguing, I'm actually asking. Cis women really have this kind of problem in 2013? Reply · 1 · Like · February 3 at 2:38pm Stephanie Zierenberg Yup. Try being treated for ectopic pregnancy or miscarriage in many states. Reply · 8 · Like · February 5 at 3:30pm Nicole Fall · Baltimore, Maryland Yes Jenson they do, as do people of color. Reply · 5 · Like · February 9 at 1:06pm View 1 more Ricki Liff · Top Commenter · Nogales, Arizona I don't have the computer skills to debunk any of this stuff point by point, but women do not have "cisgender privilege". That is a dumb phrase or word to start with kinda like "a lot on my plate" or "at the end of the day". Anybody care to show why women do not has "cisgender" privlege? I'll give you one to start. The pearl about never being being in a relationship without ever fearing attack. Really? Reply · 6 · Like · January 2 at 7:17am Ricki Liff · Top Commenter · Nogales, Arizona Should be The pearl about being in a relationship without ever fearing attack Reply · Like · January 2 at 7:21am Ricki Liff · Top Commenter · Nogales, Arizona @ Bess. Exactly. Articles like this imply to the general public that women have achieved full equality with men and that is total disinformation Reply · 9 · Like · January 2 at 9:03am Elizabeth Hungerford · Top Commenter I mean, "#30:You don’t have to deal with old photographs that did not reflect who you truly are." WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?? A picture does not "reflect who you truly everydayfeminism.com/2012/09/30-examples-of-cisgender-privilege/ 6/8 8/6/13 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege — Everyday Feminism are"? Who are you, truly? And how does one become ENTITLED to an accurate representation in every photo ever taken of them? Are bad pictures of me, or pictures of my goth phase (for example), not REALLY "ME"? No. They different incarnations of the SAME person. It's part of my history, part of my life, it is not something I am ashamed of. The compulsion to hide your past is unhealthy. If you change the way you look over time, THAT'S OK. Stop the shame; **stop justifying and normalizing shame as part of the trans experience.** Reply · 5 · Like · January 2 at 9:14am View 7 more Christina Nicole Lang Interesting. People are still commenting. I'm going to try and restate the problem with defining these things as "privileges." Picking one at random, I'll choose the second since today is January second. I'll address specifically, "Use public facilities such as gym locker rooms and store changing rooms without stares, fear, or anxiety." Using locker rooms and changing rooms without consequence is not a privilege. It's normative. It's why the rooms were created in the first place. A natal woman who walks into a woman's changing room or a natal man who walks into a men's locker room is doing precisely and exactly what is expected. The sign says "women" or "men" and most people go in accordance with their birth gender. It's normal. It's expected. Negative behaviors in response to a transgender person using one of those rooms is ... See More Reply · 10 · Like · January 2 at 8:05am Heather Louise Mackie Very well said!!! Reply · 2 · Like · January 2 at 8:40am Ruben Nicholas Castillo think bout it if you identify as cisgender though how mny times do you have to stop before just walking into a locker room or bathroom and think which one is it safer for me to go in? i got jumped for going into the girls bathroom and jumped for trying to go into the males, its privilege because you dont have to think bout that because you dont haveto worry about it being the last time you go into a bathroom or lockerroom, its a privilege and its normative to you because you have never had to think about it, thats why its important to have articles like this so people realize what they have never had to experience and hopefully try and do something to help those who are stuck outside a bathroom or lockerroom cause they are overwhelmed with fear of what will happen to them if they justwalk into their "designated" facilty. Reply · 10 · Like · February 3 at 11:45pm Bet Cecill seems to me that discrimination is wrong-on that we agree..also seems to me that not being discriminated against is a privilege...I am not discriminated against on the basis of my skin colour..to me that is a privilege not shared by people of colour...nobody looks at me wierd when I take my clothes off in the womens change room becaouse I'm very (apparently )obviously born female..to me that is a privalege to not be discriminated against...and yes, it is vital deal with discrimation Reply · 5 · Like · February 24 at 3:00pm View 1 more Rebecca Gelineau · Las Vegas, Nevada I am cisgendered, so I know my experiences are significantly different to those of a trans* individual, but I have really big feet. I wear the same size shoes as my brother, who is about four inches taller than me. It is nearly impossible to find shoes in my size at most stores, and most of the women's shoes that DO fit me are not good looking at all or are poorly made or are very expensive. I've noticed for a very long time that my shoes are usually located directly in front of men's work boots. I have never understood this and I refuse to shop at any store that does this. Reply · 2 · Like · January 7 at 12:23am Sarah Zatkovich · University of Central Florida what? Reply · 4 · Like · February 3 at 12:09am Anne Marie Tobias · Technical Support Engineer at Rent One Online And I'm a transwoman with relatively small feet. You just want to notice that by accident of birth you experience what almost all transwomen experience... you are the living proof that the shoe industry makes life for people outside a very narrow range, very difficult. Taking us right back to expensive mail order catalogs. I do however, have great sympathy for your inconvenience. Reply · 7 · Like · March 29 at 10:42am Lucy Anacleto everydayfeminism.com/2012/09/30-examples-of-cisgender-privilege/ 7/8 8/6/13 30+ Examples of Cisgender Privilege — Everyday Feminism Anne Marie Tobias - you rock! Really! You show so much patience with the process of learning for cis folk. Thanks for being awesome. xoxo Reply · 1 · Like · July 21 at 2:04pm View 33 more Facebook social plugin RETURN TO TOP OF PAGE everydayfeminism.com/2012/09/30-examples-of-cisgender-privilege/ COPYRIGHT © 2013 · EVERYDAY FEMINISM · PRIVACY POLICY 8/8