A Beautiful Change
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A Beautiful Change
C O N N E C T I O N VOLUME MMXIV, ISSUE 2 2014 A Beautiful Change Vivian came to Christ’s Home about a year ago, a scared and pregnant teenager (see separate article). Today she and the father of her child are working together to care for and provide for their son. They are renting a onebedroom apartment, own a car, and are both working as Vivian considers options for further education. While this may seem “normal” to you and me, this has been a long and sometimes difficult road for Vivian. The girls in our Teen Mother and Baby Program come to us through county placement or sign themselves in once they recognize that they need help. They range in age from 15-18 and must either be pregnant or have a young child. According to Program Coordinator Janell Derstine, Janell the counties remain involved with the girls through Tabor Services, that offers life skills classes where they address many areas such as finding an apartment, budgeting, and how to keep a checking account. Assistance also includes a grant program that matches money the girls save to buy a vehicle. Once the girls complete the courses, a social worker assists them finding an apartment and arranges help with rent and groceries. The counties will continue to support the girls up to age 21, provided they are attending school or are working a minimum number of hours. Although adoption is discussed as an option when they enter the program, all of our girls to date have shown the desire to raise their own child. Since the opening of the Teen Mother cottage in 2012, three girls have successfully completed the program and we expect two others to graduate this year. Upon completion, some of the girls have moved back home after giving birth to their child, while others remain in the program moving towards greater independence. The program contains basic goals for the girls in terms of providing nurturing care for their children and learning to live independently, however, the outcomes vary for each individual family. Some girls arrive at Christ’s Home knowing what they want, and they are very willing and able to take the steps necessary to achieve those goals. Others need to develop basic skills such as a readiness to seek and accept help and the ability to trust others. Most of these girls have experienced some sort of abuse during their lifetime and have learned at a young age to mistrust people. “It’s been exciting This was evidenced the first to see restored time some of the senior residents from our Retirement Community family relationships.” hosted a baby shower for the pregnant girls. These girls did not understand what a shower was or why someone would do that for them. They did not even want to come out of their rooms when the ladies arrived. On another occasion, a church group came to paint the basement of the cottage to make it nicer for the girls and their children to use, and again the girls had difficulty Debbie and Rick grasping the idea of serving others without strings attached. However, they are slowly learning that people love them for who they are and desire to provide support and encouragement for their journey. House parents Rick and Debbie Reed have been at Christ’s Home for three years and have been serving in the Teen Mom program the past eighteen months. According to Debbie, our house parent team has established expectations that are “usually higher than these girls anticipate, but we also ask the girls about their own goals.” Continued on page 3 A Generous Thought GOOD THINGS HAPPEN WITH AN UPDATED WILL When was the last time you reviewed your Will? It is recommended that you review your Will every three years or after any significant life event. 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You can help sustain the essential services provided by Christ’s Home to children and senior adults by exchanging these investments for a Charitable Gift Annuity (CGA) with Christ’s Home. The chart below shows a sampling of the current fixed payment rates for one life gift annuities. Two life rates are also available and are a bit lower. Age Rate Age Rate You can receive a complimentary illustration by contacting 79 6.6 71 5.3 Colleen Augustin at 215.956.1885, caugustin@christshome.org. 81 7.0 73 5.5 As always, consultation with your accountant or financial advisor 83 7.4 75 5.8 is recommended. 85 7.8 77 6.2 Note: Christ’s Home CGAs are not available in all states. Please consider adding Christ’s Home to your will with a specific gift amount or the remainders after other designations have been fulfilled. Thank you. For further information, contact Vernon Wright at 717-687-9424 (ext 11). www.christshome.org 2 A Beautiful Change continued Specific guidelines exist regarding nutrition, hygiene, responsibility, and attitude; however, because of the wide range in physical ages, emotional levels and motherhood status (whether pregnant or having already given birth), the expectations vary. Our desire is to “encourage growth in all areas – body, mind, and spirit.” “We understand that coming into our program is a big transition for these young moms. Therefore, we give them 30 days to get comfortable with our rules and routines and meet our Level 1 expectations. Levels 2, 3, and 4 carry additional expectations as well as added privileges. These levels of expectations allow us to customize the goals for each girl’s journey. “ All of the teen moms are pursuing their high school diploma through public or cyber school education. All of these variables are taken into consideration when establishing goals. Vivian was the only one to date who reached Level 4. She completed her high school education, got her driver’s license, and bought a car. In Vivian’s case, her boyfriend remained very involved with the child, often bringing supplies and food for the baby during his visits. The nature of this cottage program finds five separate families living together under one roof, and with that, the house parents spend much of their time monitoring schedules and shuttling the girls to many appointments. According to Rick, it is during those times traveling about that they are able to take advantage of some undistracted one-on-one time with the girls and have meaningful conversations about their hopes and concerns which helps us to customize their program goals. Those are also the times when the girls are most receptive to hearing about God and understanding how the scriptures apply to everyday life. Continued on page 4 Vivian’s Story Vivian was eight months pregnant when she arrived at Christ’s Home last spring. It was hard, “because I did not know anyone,” but she knew it was her one shot at having the life she desired for herself and her child. Once her son, Xavier, was born, she was thankful “to have the chance to get things together with no worries of what I am going to do, like finishing school, and also having the time to find a job without undue stress because of having a place to live at the Teen Mom Program.” Vivian noticed that the house parents of the Teen Mom Cottage followed Christ’s Home’s policies and rules very closely, so the home is very organized and everyone had a schedule to follow. “They [house parents] helped me “thankful to have become a new mom and were always happy to help by answering questions the chance to get and teaching me things about a healthy lifestyle.” One of the lessons she learned things together” was how to deal with other people who have different backgrounds and experiences. “Since I come from a different country I learned that Americans handle things differently.” Vivian came to the United States from Honduras in 2010, and she is proud to be a legal citizen due to the help of her social worker. In February Vivian moved into her first apartment with her son and bought a car with the help of Tabor Services. She is currently employed part-time at the Christ’s Home Retirement Community in the housekeeping department. Although she is still getting used to living on her own, maintaining a schedule, and caring for her son, she is enjoying the independence and putting into practice the many lessons learned from her former house parents. Vivian expressed a desire to go to college in the future, but she does not know which field interests her the most. Under consideration are beauty school and pursuing an LPN license. She hopes to have the chance to return to Honduras someday to visit her family and friends. Vivian remains a highly motivated teen who took advantage of the opportunity to live at Christ’s Home and is using the teaching and guidance she received to help her reach her goals. www.christshome.org 3 A Beautiful Change continued Board of Trustees Weekday schedules are hectic with school, work, doctor’s appointments, family visits, and various life skills classes. However, Sundays are a special time when the girls all go to church together where they are welcomed with open arms and “loved on”. After church they all make sure to eat together before the weekly house meeting. This is a time for everything from reflecting on the sermon they heard to discussing household business and airing grievances. Christ’s Home is unique in that we have two programs that serve the needs of children and senior adults. The connection between these two populations has Joyce Gehring and Betty Doty been fostered through a group of eight ladies from the Christ’s Home Retirement Community who have developed a heart for the innocent babies and girls needing help. Volunteer Betty Doty said "God loves these girls and so should we." In addition to hosting six baby showers and one graduation party for the girls, their signature service has been to provide diapers and wipes for the babies. Many in the community contribute by providing supplies, money, and coupons. To date this wonderful group of residents at the Retirement Community have donated over 5,000 diapers and thousands of baby wipes. In addition, to show their appreciation for the hard work and dedication of the staff these ladies arranged a night to cook and serve a full course meal to the house parents and girls. For Rick and Debbie, “it’s been exciting to see restored family relationships.” Many of these girls arrive at Christ’s Home burdened by the condemnation they feel from their parents. But what they are noticing is that the time apart from their parents provides both parties some space to process their emotions. Oftentimes the girls are more understanding towards their own mothers once they become mothers themselves. These new grandmothers, in turn, are able to show more love and sensitivity to their daughters once they have time to sort through their own disappointment and sorrow. Debbie remarked that, “the change that takes place in these girls once they have their children is beautiful to see as they transition to selflessly meeting another’s needs before their own.” Christ’s Home is grateful to God for this opportunity He has given for us to impact the lives of young mothers and their children. We thank our supporters for their prayers and contributions toward the Children’s Program and all the services we provide. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 www.christshome.org 4 Donald P. Worthington - Chairman June Maurer - Vice Chairwoman David A. Shoemaker - Treasurer George Zauflik - Secretary Robert D. Feller Peter J. Gilbert Bernard J. Lajeunesse Michael J. Kane CEO: John Bryant CFO: Dee Bartolanzo COO: Jim McGovern CDO: Vernon Wright Mission Statement The heart of Christ’s Home is to serve the Lord by providing services to senior adults and disadvantaged children in an atmosphere graced with love, dignity, compassion and respect. Corporate Offices 800 North York Road Warminster, PA 18974 215-956-2260 Paradise Campus 717-687-6072 Retirement Community 215-956-2270 www.christshome.org Photos and names may or may not depict the children of the home. The Connection is a publication of the Development Department Vernon Wright, CDO Colleen Augustin, Donor Relations Coordinator Donor Choice Program Christ’s Home is a qualified member of and participant in the United Way Donor Choice Program. You may contribute to United Way through payroll deduction or by giving an outright gift. Please be sure to ask for a Donor Choice Form. For the Southeastern PA region (Delaware Valley only) our number is: 00981. All other regions must use our national number: 007689 Christ’s Home is a 501 (c)(3) organization. Gifts are deductible as charitable contributions for federal income tax purposes. The official registration and financial information of Christ’s Home, Inc. may be obtained from the Pennsylvania Department of State by calling toll-free within Pennsylvania, 1-800-732-0999. (Certificate of Registration No. 13865) Registration does not imply endorsement. 2014 Christ’s Home Legacy Banquet October 23, 2014 ● 6:00PM Mark your calendar for this annual event to raise funds to help our senior adults in financial need. Entertainment for the evening will feature Taylor Mason’s funny, clean, world class entertainment for all ages! Taylor Mason’s quick wit, flawless comedy delivery, unparalleled ventriloquism skills and clever material make him a hit with audiences of all ages. In 1990 he won Star Search (predecessor to America’s Got Talent), beating out some of the best known comics in the country. Taylor’s experience as a comedy writer and performer has taken him from The Second City Theater in Chicago to headlining shows at every major comedy club across the country. He’s as comfortable providing humor for corporate clients, like Microsoft and Wal-Mart, as he is doing a show for teens or children on a Disney Cruise ship. Taylor has performed for countless church functions and is genuinely interested in his audience. The evening will also feature the presentation of two annual awards: The Legacy Service Award and the The Legacy Volunteer Award ) Ventriloquist, musician and stand-up comedian (Taylor is on the right ) Championship for Children We had the opportunity to put the FUN in FUNdraising to work on March 7, 2014. Seven businesses helped Christ’s Home net $7,700 in contributions to the children’s program by sponsoring race teams in a corporate challenge event. Each company entered four drivers in this unique team building opportunity. The qualifying races, semi-finals and championship race had everyone hanging along the rails throughout the three hour event. In the final race, the top three drivers were separated by less than one second! We congratulate the winners and thank all the businesses for their generous financial contribution, and their investment of time to make the Championship for Children an exciting and successful event. We thank Phil Clemens of the Clemens Family Corporation for his interesting presentation on leading a business family. If your company would be interested in participating in next year’s event, contact Colleen Augustin in the Development Office at 215.956.1885. Team Sponsors Lawn Equipment Parts Company, Overhead Door of Lancaster, Trail Electric, Shivery Funeral Home, Excel Communications, Christ’s Home 1 (DavCo Advertising, Scatton’s Heating & Cooling), Christ’s Home 2 (Alpha Systems) We also thank Kitchen Kettle Village for providing event prizes. Left to Right: Daryl Wolf – 2nd place; Bo Perez, 1st place; Ben Scheffel, 3rd place Phil Clemens and racing teams www.christshome.org 5 Mark your calendar! 2014 Alumni Annual Meeting The Alumni Association annual meeting will be held on June 21, 2014 at the Clubhouse on the retirement community campus (120 Shepherd’s Way, Warminster, PA 18974). The gathering will begin at 12:00 PM and conclude at 3:00 PM. The afternoon of fellowship will begin with a picnic lunch and end with the annual business meeting. The cost for the picnic lunch is $6 per person. Please make checks payable to Christ's Home Alumni Association and mail your registration by June 6, 2014 to: October 23 at 6PM 2014 Legacy Banquet Featuring comedian and ventriloquist Taylor Mason (see inside for more information) ADDRESS SERVICE REQUESTED 800 N. YORK ROAD, WARMINSTER, PA 18974-2006 Chuck McDowell 36 E. Moreland Ave. Unit 509 Hatboro, PA 19040-3208 A Beautiful Change .................... 1 A Generous Thought ................. 2 Vivian’s Story .............................. 3 Legacy Banquet .......................... 5 Championship for Children ..... 5 INSIDE THIS ISSUE: