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- Block Island Family Vacation
Wedding )''/Æ)''0 A Block Island A Publication of Block Island Wedding 1 g{x fâÄÄ|ätÇ [Éâáx The Sullivan House is renowned for spectacular views and seaside elegance. We welcome you for... Vacations & Romantic Getaways Weddings, Rehearsals & Private Parties Corporate Dinner Parties and Retreats Oceanside Rental Houses on Location Featured in _t UxÄÄt BRIDE & Conde Nast's BRIDES Local Magazine (401) 466-5020 www.TheSullivanHouse.com Table of Contents 4 Getting the Biggest Bang for Your Wedding Bucks: How to plan an inexpensive Block Island wedding By Chris Barrett 10 Tips for Island Brides 12 Block Island Brides and Grooms: A Pictorial 16 In 1892 a New Family Formed on a Cold Winter Night By Robert Downie 18 A Wedding Story: Dan and Rosemary Millea By Fran Migliaccio 19 Your Wedding Hair: Sound advice from island stylists By Fran Migliaccio 20 Selecting a Shutterbug: Choosing the right photographer for your wedding By Ian Lang 22 A Wedding Story: That year a summer girl met an island boy By Fran Migliaccio 24 The Many Flavors of Block Island Wedding Gifts and Favors By Ian Lang 26 Champagne Tastes on a Beer Budget By George M. Taber 30 Picking the Petals: Selecting the right flowers for your wedding By Ian Lang 32 From This Day Forward By Gloria Redlich 35 Advertiser Index Front cover photo courtesy John Fuller Photography. Photo at left courtesy Rose Schaller Photography. Block Island Wedding 1 A Dream Come True An island wedding could be in your future O ur family knows all about Block Island weddings. We’ve had three of them. In 1965 - long before Block Island became a place for a destination wedding - my brother Neil, and his fiancée Marja were married at the Old Harbor Baptist Church. There were about 30 guests. In 1989 my brother Duncan - in full military uniform - and his fiancée Donna were married at the West Side Baptist Church and drove to their reception in a horse- drawn carriage. There were 60 guests. In June of 2006, Neil and Marja’s daughter Kari married John Morra on a bluff overlooking Dorry’s Cove, under an arbor made of driftwood. There were more than 100 people. All of these weddings were relatively informal affairs. However, one thing we learned over the years is that no matter how simple or small, weddings on Block Island require an extra measure of planning and a bit more coordination than a ceremony on the mainland. But then, as my family and hundreds of others have learned, there is simply nothing like a Block Island wedding. It’s worth all the effort. In 1965, you were on your own if you scheduled a ceremony here. Now there are many businesses and services to make the job easier. This issue of A Block Island Wedding is full of practical information. The advertisers provide everything you need: wedding gifts, favors, flowers, music and entertainment, photographers, catering, transportation, accommodations and finally, the honeymoon suite. All the essentials to plan the perfect day. You’ll also find news about past island weddings: in the winter of 1892, in the 1970s and within the last few years. Does a wedding on Block Island seem like an impossible dream – beyond your budget? It need not be. In this issue of A Block Island Wedding we explore ways to control costs and interview experts who conclude that an island wedding need not be any more expensive than a mainland ceremony. So read this issue of A Block Island Wedding and think again. Your dream could come true. Photo courtesy Neil Lang A Block Island Wedding is an annual publication of The Block Island Times, which was founded in 1970. The Publisher is Manisses, Inc. and the publications include The Block Island Times (52 issues per year), The Block Island Summer Times (4 issues per year), Block Dining (annual) and the House and Garden (two issues). Block Island Wedding 2008 Publishers ...............................................................Fraser Lang/ Betty Rawls Lang Editor ....................................................................................................................Ian Lang Production Manager .................................................................................John Barry Contributors ...........................................Ian Lang, Fraser Lang, Fran Migliaccio, Chris Barrett, Gloria Redlich, Robert Downie, George Taber P.O. Box 278. One Ocean Avenue, Block Island, Rhode Island 02807 www.blockislandtimes.comsmail@blockislandtimes.com sFAX This publication does not assume any responsibility for an error in an advertisement. We will correct any errors in reporting. Copy Editor .....................................................Ian Lang, Jean Taber, Chris Barrett Advertising ................................................... Betty Rawls Lang, Shane Howrigan Advertising Design .............George Donnelly, Christopher Izzo, John Barry Copyright 2008 by Manisses, Inc. 2 Block Island Wedding ©2007 JOHN FULLER Your very special day… Our very special place. YOUR “SPECIAL OCCASION” DESTINATION Weddings, rehearsal dinners, Sunday breakfasts. We’ll make sure your special occasion is truly special. Wedding Planning, Reservations & Information 800-626-4773 s 401-466-2421 Block Island Wedding 3 Getting the biggest for your wedding Bang Bucks How to plan an inexpensive Block Island wedding By Chris Barrett ontrary to popular belief you don’t need to be a millionaire to hold a wedding on Block Island. With ocean-view hotels and classy restaurants it’s easy to falsely conclude that one needs to travel with wads of cash to wed on the island. “That’s a big misconception, Block Island weddings are really no more expensive than mainland weddings,” says Elizabeth Connor, operations manager at the Hotel Manissses and 1661 Inn. Connor says that meal and facilities prices are comparable to the mainland. It’s the peripherals like ferry tickets and hotel rooms that can pinch the pocketbook here. Still, taking a few simple steps can save the happy couple and their guests hundreds or even thousands of dollars. C Planning ahead Your mother always told you that doing your homework would pay off in the end. Planning a wedding is no different. Deciding the budget and number of guests beforehand can narrow the options quickly and put everyone on the same page. “One of the best bets to save money is if you have a daytime wedding,” says Danielle Dziok, catering manager for the Spring House. On the island there are only a handful of locations that can hold more than 170 people and they tend to book quickly. Connor recommends booking a wedding at least six to 12 months in advance to secure the desired date and provide plenty of time to iron out the details. The planning stage is also a great time to pick the brains of locals. Jared and Jessica Brown learned that asking their photogra4 Photo courtesy John Fuller Photography pher for advice helped them find locals that could do the job for less than someone from the mainland. “Everybody always knows somebody who knows somebody,” said Jess, who married on the island last year. Kathy Baptista, innkeeper of the Narragansett Inn agrees. “Listen to people that perform ceremonies here,” she said. “They have done weddings on the island many times and they have a lot of good ideas about how to save money.” While planning ahead is key if you want your wedding on a certain date, waiting can also help reduce the cost if you are willing to be flexible. According to Sean Kivlehan, owner of The Sullivan House, if you wait until closer to the date of your wedding “something might pop, and you can get a location for a lower rate if a particular day is not taken.” Schedule Most people think Block Island is only open in the summer. While most businesses close between Columbus Day and Memorial Day, nothing requires couples to wed during the height of summer. Holding a wedding on the edges of the summer or even during the spring or fall can save significant money as hotels lower their rates Block Island Wedding dramatically. Knowing this the Browns held their wedding on October 20 on Crescent Beach. At first the groom was skeptical but the chance to stay within the couple’s $15,000 budget was too good to pass up. Jessica researched historical weather patterns and picked up the phone. She found a caterer offering lobster dinner for $70 a head and the photographer, the hairdresser and a house rental agency all offering steep discounts. “I would say it definitely works to pull on the heartstrings of people in the area,” Jessica said. “Since it is the off-season a lot of people are happy to just have something to pay the utilities.” And although it rained in the morning, the skies cleared up by the 3:30 p.m. wedding and the couple wed on a picture-perfect beach right on budget. As an added bonus, guests left touting bags of goods from local shops that were hosting end-of-the-season sales. “Everybody came back saying, ‘Look at all I got for $50!,’” Jared said. Getting here Ferries leave from Point Judith, R.I., New London, Conn. and Montauk, Long Island. One-way ferry tickets run about $14 from Point Judith, $22 from New London and $40 from Montauk. Only the New London ferry offers group rates for parties of 25 or more. Also know that the Point Judith Ferry is the only ferry that continued on next page Block Island Wedding 5 America. Short of a chartered boat or plane, guests here after the last ferry leaves are here to stay. “One of the best bets to save money is if you have a daytime wedding,” says Danielle Dziok, catering manager for the Spring House Hotel. A daytime wedding allows guests to come and go without the expense of staying in a hotel room that can start at more than $250 a night. And as an added bonus it means less time for the aunts to continue that fight that started more than a decade ago. Photo courtesy Jessica and Chris Willi takes vehicles and it can cost more than $100 to bring one over. Better to park the car at home and take a taxi. (You’ll also find most hotels are in easy walking distance of downtown.) Flying is also an option. New England Airlines runs regular flights from Westerly, R.I. with a one-way ride costing about $50. One could also ask a friend with a boat for a ride, but with the rising cost of fuel it might be cheaper to let someone else do the sailing or flying. Wedding in a day? # . # . 0 0 There are no bridges that connect Block Island to the rest of Location, location, location Renting a hotel to hold the ceremony could cost a pretty penny. Hold it in one of the island’s public parks, beaches or on the breath-taking Mohegan Bluffs and it won’t cost you a dime. The town allows weddings in public areas without a permit or fee as long as wedding guests do not block public access to the space or consume alcohol. If you’re looking for an outdoor wedding on one of the many expansive lawns of a private residence or hotel, be aware tents are not as inexpensive as they seem, costing as much as $5,000. “It’s not just a tent when you talk about having a tent wedding,” Dziok says. Accommodations for your special event ranging from inns, cottages, suites and apartments Everything but the Wedding... Harborside Inn ...Rehearsal dinners, cocktail parties, brunches, small receptions and room blocks for guests. ! "# ! $%%&'%()*+((,+')&%')$ ! "# ! For all your wedding events, come to the - .- ./- $%%&'%()*+((,+')&%')$ - .- ./- 6 www.blockislandhotels.com 401-466-2901/800-225-2449 Block Island Wedding Along with the tent comes the dance floor, lights, a stage for the band and possibly a generator to power it all. The Browns learned there are different types of tents and it’s best to ask around for quotes. If you choose a more traditional hotel, know that their packages might be different but their prices come out similar. “I think that at the end of the day it’s all relatively similar,” Connor says. “It’s usually just about making a connection with the bride or the groom.” Kivlehan stresses that if you are looking to host an affordable wedding the most important thing is to ask, and to be flexible. “If you want to have a wedding on Block Island we can make it happen as long as you are willing to work with us,” he said. “You just need to be realistic about what you are looking for and be willing to talk about it.” Food & Drink The bills for a wedding reception start adding up long before dinner. An open bar and cocktail hour runs up the tab almost as fast as that troublesome uncle drinks. One option is to simply shorten the time of cocktail hour while ensuring enough time for wedding photographs and an opportunity for the couple to mingle with the guests. Dziok suggests couples looking to trim bar costs skip the open bar and serve just wine, beer and soft drinks that still keep guests spirited with a lower cost. Either way, most facilities on the island charge per consumption, not by head, so consider how much the family drinks when forming the budget. Brad Marthens, owner of the Atlantic Inn, says that one way to reduce the cost of the wedding is to change the type of champagne you use for the toast. “Many people just take a sip and put it down so consider a less expensive variety or have just the bride and groom drink champagne,” Marthens says. “By just doing this your savings on a 200-guest wedding could be $1,500 or more.” Holding the cocktail hour during the day can also help. Connor says guests tend to drink less between noon and six than six and midnight. In fact, nothing says the whole meal cannot be done during the day as a delicious – and less expensive – brunch. “You can really stretch your dollar by doing something during the day,” Connor says. But if you have your heart set on a sunset dinner Steve Filippi, president of Ballard’s Inn, said couples should know their budget and their guests’ expectations before they meet with management. “They need to know exactly what they want. Do they want lobster dinner? Do they want steak?” Filippi said. “Then they have to look at their clientele and if they want a more causal setting or an elegant one and obviously the more causal one will be less expensive.” Filippi also cautioned couples to look for hidden facility or service fees that could add up in the end. While Ballard’s factors in those costs into the per-person charge that can range from $15 to $75, many island businesses do not.. continued on next page Block Island Wedding Block Island Wedding Flowers by Claire McQueeny (401) 466-2921 www.blockislandweddingflowers.com Remember The Day With Block Island Blue Pottery Non-lead Glazes Bridal Registry Wedding & Anniversary Gifts! Block Island Blue Pottery Dodge Street ❖ Block Island 466-2945 ❖ arrow2clay@aol.com 7 If you’re looking to hold your reception at a hotel, read the details carefully. Some hotels require the booking of rooms along with the reception, otherwise they will charge a facilities fee. Of course nothing says a wedding reception must take place at a restaurant or hotel. Block Island provides plenty of caterers. “The main cost in our catering is labor. So if you have buffet dinner that probably will be less expensive than if you have a sitdown served dinner,” says Linda Spak, co-owner of Celebrations Catering. “It can be just as elegant and just as special as you want it to be but you’re saving money.” But the devil’s in the details. All caterers need access to running water and most need electricity and would prefer an oven to heat up those tasty appetizers. There’s even the issue of lighting. Remember that once the dinner is over the caterer still needs to clean up, and it’s preferable if they can see. Spak recalled one of her first events where the staff served a lobster dinner and by the end night fell. With no lights in the tent, the caterers needed to improvise. “We were cleaning up a full lobster dinner from eight tables in the dark with flashlights in our mouths,” she said with a laugh. Now Spak is happy to help couples find a place to rent lighting and put them in touch with businesses that can help with other aspects of the wedding. And after the wedding is all over, Spak and her company will happily provide a catered post-wedding brunch. She can even arrange for a drop off of food that requires no serving staff “and people can really save money with that.” Flowers ISLAND INNS The Inns That Let You Be With Your Friends The Barrington Inn at New Harbor The Inn at Block Island at Old Harbor The cost of flowers is based primarily on quantity and the size of the floral arrangement. Not surprisingly, larger arrangements with more flowers than foliage cost more. Couples can lower the cost by choosing local, in-season flowers and trading fancy vases for more causal mason jars. “If a couple is flexible on the types of flowers or the exact colors then it’s possible to do things in a much more economical way,” says Suzanne Nolter, owner of Blazing Star Farm on the island. Baptista, said that when having your wedding outdoors you can reduce the number of flowers. “The guests will be focused on the view,” Baptista said. “Any flowers you do have should be understated.” Claire McQueeny of Block Island Wedding Flowers agrees. “You don’t need to guild the lilly,” she said, noting that given the natural beauty of the island sometimes less is really more. Do-it-yourself DJ Two charming Inns at distinct and convenient locations. Both Inns have private baths, TV, and A/C; some with private decks and views. Accommodations for children & pets available. Ask about our discounts for multiple room reservations. 877-324-4667 • 401-466-5524 info@theinnatblockisland.com • www.theinnatblockisland.com Innkeepers: Caren and John Kempf 8 There are just a handful of DJs on the island. Hiring one from off-island will rack up a transportation, meal and lodging bill. It’s best to stay local or scrap the DJ altogether in favor of an iPod. The Browns couldn’t find a DJ within their budget so they spent the weeks prior to the wedding creating a custom playlist. They hooked up the iPod to their friend’s speakers and created an instant DJ with no cost. “It worked great,” Jared said. “By the end of the night people were just plugging in their own iPods.” Block Island Wedding WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW! U Marriage license To legally wed in the state of Rhode Island couples must obtain a marriage license. Rhode Island residents can go to their hometown to receive a license. (If both the groom and bride are residents the state asks that the license be secured in the bride’s hometown.) Out of state residents must secure the license from the town they plan to marry in. On Block Island the couples should contact the town clerk at New Shoreham Town Hall (401) 466-3200. The fee is $24 and bride and groom must present a certified copy of their birth certificate as well as proof that any previous marriages have ended. The license is good for three months after the issue date. !" ◆ Outdoor Music Town ordinances require outdoor music at reasonable levels and generally limit it to before 9 p.m. The town requests that an individual be designated to monitor the noise level of the music being played. ◆ Large event If you plan to celebrate your event with more than 100 people, you may need a special event license. Contact the town clerk at New Shoreham Town Hall (401) 466-3200 well ahead of the date. ◆ Elected officials to perform civil ceremonies: Second Warden Ray Torrey (401) 466-5691 ◆ Local officiants to perform religious ceremonies: American Baptist: Harbor Baptist Church, Rev. Lynne Holden (401) 466-5940 The original BLOCK ISLAND Hook Bracelet is here! TM Episcopalian: St. Ann’s by the Sea, Father Daniel Barker (401) 466-2269 Jewish: Cantor Elliot Taubman, Sons and Daughters of Ruth (401) 466-2861 Roman Catholic: St. Andrew’s Church, Rev. Joseph Protano (401) 466-5519 Christian Non-denominational: Barbara MacDougall (401) 466-2929 Johno Sisto (401) 466-8986 ◆ Other officiants to perform civil ceremonies: Richard Kyte (401) 568-6875 or rkyte1@cox.net Michael Lenihan (401) 596-4794 ◆ Block Island Chamber of Commerce For information call (800) 383-2474 or (401) 466-2982 or www.blockislandchamber.com ◆ Block Island Tourism Council (401) 466-5200 or www.blockislandinfo.com Block Island Wedding www.blockislandgolddiggers.com 9 Tips for IslandBrides Getting married on Block Island is a truly unique experience, but it does require some extra planning. Not only do plans need to take into account plane and ferry schedules, but the lack of certain services mean that you must be prepared in advance to make sure your wedding goes off without a hitch. Here are a few pieces of advice you might want to heed to make sure your wedding is a success. Get out the word “Save the date” notices are a must for island weddings, because your guests will need more time to plan than the time between the ceremony and sending out invitations. Go a step forward and set up a website ahead of time to help guests plan their trips. Include info on hotels, travel and recreational activities. This is a good place to let people know dress codes and other things they may need to know, such as what type of weather to expect since, as any Islander knows, it’s often different than the mainland. To church or not to church? For some people, of course, there’s no question about whether they will marry in a church. But keep in mind that Block Island has one Episcopal, one Catholic and one Baptist church – so couples of each faith have only one option, and may find dates are therefore limited. Getting from Here to There Remember it is likely that most of your wedding guests won’t have cars on the island and car rentals are extremely limited. So if your ceremony and reception are in different places, hire a bus or fleet of taxis to ferry your guests around. A couple of possibilities, McAloon’s Taxi or Mig’s Rigs, since both have plenty of experience ferrying wedding parties around the island. Daytrippers han, Sullivan sy Sean Kivle Photo courte 10 House If you’d like your guests to be able to come to your wedding without having to book a hotel room, an evening ceremony is out. Daytime ceremonies allow you to time the reception so that people can catch the last ferry back to Point Judith, R.I., New London, Conn. or Montauk, N.Y., without feeling like they’re missing out on all the fun. tesy Sean Photo cour Kivlehan, use Sullivan Ho Funky sites for the rehearsal dinner – or other Wedding Activities A Block Island wedding is different, and what better way to highlight that difference than a rehearsal dinner in an unusual location. Maybe a clambake on the beach, or just a simple meal of burgers or hot dogs on the grill at a location overlooking the water fits your style. Or maybe instead you would like to book some time on the Ruling Passion, a 45-foot trimaran sailing boat, on which your guests can enjoy wine and cheese with a view as the boat sails around the island. Looking for a do-it-yourself option instead? How about a cookout on the beach – just don’t forget to get a permit. The bottom line It may be the last thing you want to think about as you’re planning your wedding, but portable toilets are a must for private reception sites, since most island homes are on septic systems that will be overloaded by a large party. To avoid being stuck with a huge bill for pumping out your angry landlord’s septic tank, hire toilets from Block Island Party Rental. Block Island Wedding Clothes Make sure the groom and his men try on their rental tuxedoes before getting on the boat with them, because once they’re on the island, swapping out too-short pants or finding a tie that fits will no longer be a simple matter. Come Home To Block Island Tenting it There is a saying on Block Island “that if you don’t like the weather, wait a minute.” While this can be a great thing if you are hoping that an overcast day turns into a perfect beach-day it can get a little trickier when it comes to holding outdoor events on the island. As a result a lot of couples decide to rent a tent since, as another famous saying goes, “it is better to be safe than sorry.” Tent rental services are available on the island, at competitive prices through Block Island Party Rental and Antonio’s Tents, both of which also offer tables, chairs and floors for rent, or off-island at Newport Tent, a family-owned and operated business which has been providing tents, dance floors, and other rental services to brides and grooms both on the island and throughout the state for more than 30 years. Stress Relief Planning a wedding can be a stressful experience. But to help you – and the bridal party – deal with stress caused by the upcoming nuptials you might want to think about visiting the talented professionals at Koru Eco Spa, Indigo Hair Studio and Day Spa or Pelle Nuda. Whether it is a facial, a manicure, or a massage they can help relieve your anxiety before the big day. Block Island Wedding When it comes to a Block Island house rental choose from over 100 homes, cottages and condos ranging from one to seven bedrooms. Make your selection at our new website featuring interior photos, pricing and weekly availability. Call for reservations. Gail P. Ballard Hall, Principal Broker 401-466-8883 www.blockislandproperty.com 11 Photo courtesy Rose Schaller Photography Block Island Brides & Grooms We put out a call for your Block Island wedding pictures, your treasured memories. You answered with photos of weddings from all over the island – on our beaches, in our churches, on our docks, overlooking our vistas. We thank you for all your submissions and proudly present them over the next four pages. Photo courtesy Sean Kivlehan (Sullivan House) John Fuller Photography Photo courtesy Alice Jacobs Photography 12 Photo courtesy Alicia and Paul Miro Photo courtesy John and Bridget Capobianco Photo courtesy John Fuller Photography Photo courtesy John Fuller Photography Photo courtesy New England Wedding Images Block Island Wedding Photo courtesy Kris and Greg Petersen Photo courtesy John Fuller Photography Photo courtesy Block Island Wedding Flowers Photo courtesy New England Wedding Images Photo courtesy Jessica and Chris Willi Photo courtesy New England Wedding Images BlockIslandGourmet.com Weddings ¤ Rehearsals Private Parties ¤ Rentals Featured in _t UxÄÄt BRIDE & Conde Nast's BRIDES Local Magazine Preparing for your special day should be fun and exciting. With Block Island Gourmet as your partner, every detail of your event will be carefully planned and beautifully executed...so you can enjoy the experience. Dear Block Island Gourmet, We have heard, multiple times, that ours was the best wedding people had ever been to. Our guests could not stop raving about the food, from the rehearsal dinner, wedding and brunch, everything was delicious, and the service was impeccable! Meghan & Brian Five Star Catering & Event Planning Tent and Party Rentals & Wedding Cake Design Block Island Wedding www.BlockIslandGourmet.com ¤ (401) 466-5672 13 Eylandt Antiques Photo courtesy New England Wedding Images 466-9888 Open Wed. - Sun., 11am – 3pm, or by appointment Inside Payne’s Harbor View Inn Ocean Avenue at Beach Avenue East Greenwich Bridals 264 Main St. East Greenwich, RI 866.361.1865 www.eastgreenwichbridal.com Photo courtesy Cindy Wilson Photography Mon. 12pm-5pm Tues,Weds,Thurs. 11am-8pm Fri, Sat. 11am-5pm Sun. by appoinment only Alice Jacob PHOTOGRAPHER Weddings Gala Occasions Fine Art Portfolio Photo courtesy Alice Jacobs Photography (201) 281-1944 PO Box 992 Block Island, RI 02807 info@alicejacob.com www.alicejacob.com 14 Photo courtesy New England Wedding Images Block Island Wedding Photo courtesy Sean Kivlehan, Sullivan House (Linda Berg) Photo courtesy Alice Jacobs Photography Photo courtesy New England Wedding Images Photo courtesy John Fuller Photography Photo courtesy Rose Schaller Photography The Perfect Gift For Your Bridesmaids available on island at M’ C Block Island Wedding Dodge St., 10-6 (Next to Red Bird Liquor) 401 466-2882 Water St. 10-8 Under Harborside, 401 466-7944 15 In 1892 A New Family Formed “Another magnificent and fashionable wedding came off on Tuesday evening of last week. The happy participants were Miss Nellie Smith, daughter of Mrs. Elizabeth Smith, and Jeremiah M. Littlefield, Jr., both of this town. The happy event took place at the home of the bride, and a large concourse of invited friends and relatives were present to witness on a cold Winter night L. photo courtesy Robert Downie; R. photo courtesy Edith Littlefield Blane by Robert Downie On December 20, 1892, a new family was created on the island when 21-yearold Nellie Smith married 25-year-old Jerry Littlefield during a cold evening with a “twisting northwest wind.” A reporter for Cooley’s Weekly of Norwich, Conn. that attended the wedding 116 years ago described it this way: The home where 21-year-old Nellie Smith married 25-year-old Jerry Littlefield on December 20, 1892. the happy ceremony and take part in the festivities which followed. The home of Mrs. Smith had been elegantly decorated, and when the curtain of night closed about the handsome cottage the many lamps made the interior the wonder and admiration of all who beheld it. La Bella Rose Wedding Flowers Professional and creative floral designs for your wedding or special event. Jamie Rose PO Box E Block Island, RI 02807 Ph. 401-499-2035 Fax 401-466-2053 labellarose@gmail.com labellarose.com Nellie Smith Littlefield in 1892 at the time of her wedding. The lights sent forth from every window sparkling rays on the snow clad hills of Block Island, and the stars too shed their brilliant December lustre o’er this gay and festive assembly. !"#$% & '(() "# %* +)$,)( - - & ")# ./ 16 Block Island Wedding Photo courtesy Robert Downie the afternoon, and the evening, though cold an imported suit of electric blue silk, trimmed with plush, same shade, and steel passemenand breezy, was clear. No one thought of cold, snow or the terie, with white satin front and white chiffon twisting northwest wind which was blow- lace at the neck and sleeves. Her floral decoing. Some no doubt would have braved rations were wondrous, composed of white the storms of Siberia rather than miss this pinks, white rose buds and smilax. The presents were numerous, costly and gorgeous display of matrimonial splendor. All seemed to keenly realize that this was an useful. There was tableware, chamber furnishing, handsome pictures and knick- knacks, in event not liable to soon occur again. Early in the evening the cottage was both silver and gold. A magnificent wedding thronged with guests dressed expressly for supper was served ... May this worthy pair this special event. The gentlemen were in have many years of joy and happiness.” evening dress and ladies elegantly attired for the occasion ... At F W W for t un 8 o’clock sharp the ed h h din ol e nuptial party entered gP e ar the northwest parlor ty ! Sail away aboard our and took their sta45-foot trimaran tion on a chenille Wine & Cheese sunset cruises rug in the centre Private charters available of the room, Miss Clarissa A. Mott the Celebrating 10 Years while playing a wedof Sailing Fun! ding march ... The bride was Reservations: 401/741-1926 or 401/ 741-1290 www.rulingpassion.com elegantly attired in Ruling Passion Sailing Charters Jeremiah Littlefield in 1907, as pictured in a newspaper photo after becoming a hero saving lives when the passenger steamer Larchmont sank. During the night of December 19, and the day following a furious north wind had been blowing, accompanied by a blinding storm of snow, which, however, cleared off in Wedding & Party Dates Available Inn Restaurant Sunset Lounge on Great Salt Pond Breakfast Buffet and Dinner Served Daily The view is perfect for your perfect day. Block Island Wedding 17 A Wedding Story Dan & Rosemary Millea by Fran Migliaccio Dan and Rosemary Millea married on November 10, 1973 at the site of the former Ocean View Hotel, which burned to the ground in July 1966. Dan worked at the grand hotel as a teenager and secured permission from the owners to hold his wedding there. About 50 people attended the sunrise wedding with some guests pitching tents onsite so as not to miss the sunrise. in 1973. llea at their wedding Dan and Rosemary Mi er and Millea family; The cov Photo courtesy of the their wedfor n tio wedding invita inside of the Milleas’ w Hotel. Vie of the former Ocean ding on the grounds Photos courtesy Dan The wedding invitation was hand drawn and lettered by Bo Sweeney of Block Island. and Rosemary Millea Musi c from a Golden Flute John Curran, flutist U Flute and classical }ÕÌ>ÀÊÊU Flute/violin/cello U Flute ÉÛÉÛ>ÉViÊÊÊU Trumpet available Music for Prelude, Ceremony, Cocktail Hour, Dinner. 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Photo courtesy John and Bridget Capobianco BLOCK ISLAND EMBROIDERY & FLAG >Ê{ä£{ÈÈÓ£ÎÇÊUÊÃ>`iÀJ6iÀâ°iÌ YOUR WEDDING HAIR: SOUND ADVICE FROM ISLAND STYLISTS Styling Because of the island wind, wear your hair up. Look through magazines and on the Internet ahead of time to get a sense of straight or curly, up or down, and bring your suggestions to your “run-through” appointment before the wedding. In fact, you might even want to try out a few options beforehand to see what you like. Remember that thanks to the powers of photography your wedding hairstyle is forever so choose a classic look that won’t embarrass you when you pull out your photo album years from now. C ery detail for your specia v e r l da ove y Planning advice Book your hair appointment months in advance, since the hair stylists often start taking reservations for the summer in January. Decide whether you want just your hair done, or the hair of all your bridesmaids as well. The amount of money you spend hinges on this central question. If you book the hair appointments for all your bridesmaids, be prepared to pay for all of them. Nail advice Get your nails done a day or two before the wedding, not the day of. Everything takes longer to dry on a moist island, including your nails. The most common nails for a wedding? French manicures. Makeup advice Be willing to wear a little more makeup than you usually do so that your face won’t look washed-out in pictures. But keep the makeup simple and mainly around your eyes, lips and cheeks. Use a very sheer foundation, or no foundation at all. Don’t get a facial just before your wedding, or else your skin might break out. Attitude Remember this is a celebration and no matter what the weather is on your special day a Block Island wedding is always beautiful. The tips on hairstyling were compiled from interviews with Jaymie Hazard of Indigo Hair Salon, Mark Koch of Mark’s Beachcomber and Hair Design and Jean Waggoner of Guys and Gals Hair Salon. Block Island Wedding Hand Made Bath and Body Products www.islandmistnaturalproducts.com • 466-5563 ’s M a rk Beach Comber Hair Design Where you become the view! Let the staff at Mark’s celebrate the beauty in you! Custom Hair Cutting/Styling,Coloring, Permanent Waving, Manicures, Pedicures 20 years of Celebrating Brides on Block Island. Weddings are our specialty! Appointments • (401) 466-5100 19 Selecting A Shutterbug Choosing the right photographer for your wedding Photo courtesy New England Wedding Images by Ian Lang egardless of whether your wedding is a formal affair at one of the island’s churches or a more casual ceremony on the beach, your wedding will be over before you know it. But if you hire the right photographer to capture your special day you can be sure that the memories of your wedding will be preserved in a way that both you, and perhaps future children and grandchildren, will enjoy for years to come. Hiring the “right” person for this important role takes a tremendous amount of legwork. While your overall budget should always be considered when choosing your photographer, this is not an area where you want to let cost be the only factor in your decision. Instead look at references, interview prospective photographers, and always look at their previous work to ensure that their style fits your vision for your wedding day. Perhaps most important, you need to make sure that you and your photographer get along. Think about it. You are going to be spending a lot of time with him or her throughout the course of the day. The photographer will be there when you get ready for the ceremony; when you walk down the aisle; when you exchange your rings; and when you share that first kiss! So spend some time with prospective photographers and make sure you choose somebody who will add to the enjoyment of your special day, and not somebody you find difficult or hard to get along with. They say that past performance is an indicator of future success and nowhere is this more true than when hiring a wedding photographer. Ask friends who have recently married who they used and whether they were pleased. Ask potential photographers to show you their past work to see if you are comfortable with their style and the quality of their prints. The feedback you get from your friends as well as your own feelings about the quality of work can, when taken together, help you choose the perfect person to capture your wedding. Having your wedding on Block Island also adds another layer of challenges to finding the right person. Not only does the individual have to be available on the island for your wedding, but he or she should also be familiar with the island and know the best places for the perfect shot. You might even want to ask them if they have examples of previous weddings they have shot at the site of your ceremony. Once you have found somebody you are comfortable with you need to decide what photographs you want the photographer to take. 20 Photo courtesy Cindy Wilson Photography Photo courtesy Ros R Photo courtesy Robin Langsdorf Photography e Schaller Photogr aphy Block Island Wedding The first group is the formal shots. These include posed pictures of both the bride and groom as well as pictures of the wedding party. Oftentimes these will be the pictures you use for your formal wedding portrait as well as the photograph you send to the local newspaper for your wedding announcement. The second group of photographs is taken during the ceremony and the reception. Here careful planning and communication with your photographer are essential. You need to tell the photographer whom Photo courtesy John Fuller Photography you want captured on film. Many couples want pictures of their parents, siblings, a favorite uncle or aunt and friends. You also want to make sure you get photographs of particular moments in the ceremony and reception including the ring exchange, your first kiss, the procession and recession, cutting the cake and many others. The final piece of the puzzle is making sure that you know exactly what is included in the wedding package. Does the price include albums or enlargements or is the Photo courtesy Alice Jacobs Photography quote just for the photographer’s time? If you make sure you know what is included beforehand you will eliminate a potential problem after the wedding. The photographs you get of your wedding day will serve as a permanent reminder of that momentous occasion. By doing your legwork early, looking at a variety of different photographers, and then making your decision you can ensure that your photographer will enhance your memories of your wedding. Photo courtesy Ken Missbrenner Photography Block Island Wedding 21 A Wedding Story That year a summer girl met an island boy by Fran Migliaccio The Block Island wedding, 37 years ago, of a longtime summer island resident and a young island man, was “very casual, very laid back,” said Debbie Howarth, who was the happy bride of Frederick John Howarth on October 2, 1971. “It was all very ordinary,” she said. “I put on my jeans and went to meet the people who were arriving on the boat that morning. Of course, we timed the wedding with an eye to the boat schedule.” As often happens, the island weather had its vagaries. The weather started out dark and stormy but just five minutes before the 1 p.m. ceremony the sun came out and stayed out most of the afternoon. The happy couple headed to St. Andrew Church on Chapel Street and wed before a crowd of 200 guests, including the groom’s seven brothers and sisters and extensive network Photos courtesy Fred erick and Debbie How arth of island friends. Unlike today where weddings are common at the grand hotels and many beaches, in 1971 WEDDINGS. weddings were rare. REUNIONS. “Back then nobody got married FAMILY VACATIONS. here unless they had a connection with the island,” Debbie said. “There EVENTS. WEDDINGS. REUNIONS. FAMILY VACATIONS. EVENTS were no destination weddings on Block Island. Fred and I got married here because we were going to make our home on the island.” With little open during October the couple held the reception at Yellow Kittens, a local pub. “I can’t remember everything we had, but it was a buffet, and we had wine, beer, champagne,” Debbie recalled. “Tables were set up around the perimeter on the inside, and some people sat outside and ate on the grass. It was relaxing, low-key and WWW.LYNNSWAY.COM fun.” Block Island’s most romantic B&B… Sands Pond Road, BI, RI The couple did need to hustle Sands Pond Road Boston Best Guide to the airport earlier than antici401.487.2298 Block Island, RI pated after weather threatened to ground the planes and the couple. 401.487.2298 For reservations call (800) 992-7290 But Debbie said she heard guests parwww.lynnsway.com (401) 466-5891 We’ve Perfected The Art of Romance 22 Block Island Wedding tied long into the night before heading home the next day on boats charting rough waters as a nor’easter approached. But the quirks of holding a wedding on the island were nothing new to Debbie, who came to the island at age 13 with her parents. Debbie served as a waitress at the Spring House Hotel before becoming a cocktail waitress at The Oar restaurant in 1969. In 1970, Debbie took a job at Smuggler’s Cove, where she met Fred. “He was a bar customer,” she said, “and we just started talking.” In 1971 the two were engaged and moved to Milford, N.H. where Debbie was working at the time. The two returned to Block Island in early 1972 after Debbie’s company found a replacement for her. The rest is island history. In 1977, Debbie and Fred opened Finn’s restaurant, in the downstairs portion of the building where Fred’s parents, Rita and Ernie Sherman, had started Ernie’s restaurant in the late 1950s. The Howarths’ two children, Jason and Jessy, worked in the restaurant from an early age, washing dishes and doing prep work. The family lived for 10 years in an apartment above the restaurant, which is now the restaurant office. Eventually, the Howarths built their current home off Spring Street. Finn’s, an Old Harbor landmark restaurant noted for the quality of its fresh fish, celebrated its 30th anniversary last year. It is now operated by third-generation restaurateur Jason Howarth. Photos, clockwise from top: The Howarth wedding party; Frederick and Debbie Howarth cut their wedding cake on October 2, 1971; Bride Debbie Boas walks up the aisle at St. Andrew Church on the arm of her father, Norman Boas. Pampered ... Naturally The products and services you need for a pampered lifestyle Seaside Marketplace Block Island Wedding ● Water Street ● 466-5252 23 The Many Flavors of Block Island wedding gifts&Favors By Ian Lang Having a wedding on Block Island is a unique experience. And what better way to demonstrate that uniqueness than buying your wedding favors – or purchasing a gift for the bride and groom – at one of Block Island’s many stores. Eyelandt Antiques, located in the lobby of Payne’s Harborview Inn, offers a wide variety of sterling silver items that would make a perfect gift, including a shell covered in sterling silver that features a map of Block Island on it. If jewelry is what you had in mind then look no further than the two on-island jewelers, both of whom have many rings, pendants and bracelets to choose from. At Jennifer’s Jewelry, located on Water Street under the National Hotel and on Dodge Street, you might want to pick up one of her classic Block Island bracelets, which come in either sterling silver or two-tone 14kt yellow gold and feature a pendant of Block Island. For men Jennifer’s carries the new “in-look” in men’s jewelry the Rev Line, or you could opt for a money clip with an image of Block Island on it. Ila MannerSchulman, owner of Golddiggers (located on Chapel Street), can custom design jewelry for you and even offers engravings while you wait. A couple of her Island-themed works include the original Block Island Hook Bracelet, which features the distinctive shape of the island as well as 10 wraps of 14 karat gold signifying the 10 square miles the island offers, and her Beach in the Bottle charms, which allow you to take a little bit of the ocean, sand and island air encased in glass with you when you leave. For Block Islandthemed clothing stop in at Mahoney’s Clothier on Water Street for its collection of T-shirts, polo shirts, fleeces, hats and sweatshirts featur- 24 ing the Block Island logo. And if you are worried that you are underdressed for the big day you could always pick up one of Mahoney’s famous Block Island ties which are the perfect addition to any wedding outfit. Block Island Blue Pottery, located on Dodge Street, has a wide selection of dishes, bowls and other pottery items that will serve as a perfect reminder of your special day, and even offers a bridal-gift registry. As a special wedding favor you might want to think about purchasing Block Island Blue Pottery’s own Block Island Tile that comes in the shape of the island. If a visual record of the island is what you had in mind then a visit to Malcolm Greenaway’s Photo Gallery should be in your future. In addition to many outstanding photographs, Greenaway has published “Block Island, Rhode Island’s Jewel,” a book highlighting the natural beauty of the island, and a perfect wedding favor. As those in the know say, “you can’t go home without it.” Spring Street Gallery is a great place to stop if you are looking for artwork to decorate the couple’s home. Artwork is done by island artists and will serve as a permanent reminder of the special times the couple has shared on Block Island. For those looking to take home a taste of the island, Littlefield Bee Farm might do the trick. Selling either online at www.blockislandhoney.com or at the Farmers Market, Littlefield Bee Farm offers a variety of homemade honey, beeswax candles, and, a personal favorite, jars of honey mustard. Also selling its wares at the Block Island Farmers Market is Island Mist Natural Bath and Body which is the island’s only make of handmade, all-natural bath and body products including lotions, salt scrubs, and face masks. With so many options, you’re sure to find the perfect gift. Block Island Wedding Photo courtesy Rose Schaller Photography Block Island Party Rentals On Island Full Service Party Rentals - No Delivery Fees - 24/7 Support www.BlockIslandPartyRentals.com ¤ (401) 466-5672 Block Island Wedding 25 Champagne tastes on aBeer Budget By George M. Taber A wedding is the one time in your life when you’ll probably want to serve champagne. Whether you’re toasting a World Series championship or a job promotion or a wedding, champagne makes the moment that much more festive and special. There is nothing like the sparkle of it to celebrate the beginning of a wonderful new life together. But there is one problem: the cost. Technically real champagne has to be made in the Champagne region of northern France. Only producers in that region have the right to call their product Champagne. Winemakers around the world may be using exactly the same grapes and working them in exactly the same way, bubbles and all, but they have to call their product by another name, sparkling wine. Now the true wine snobs will tell you that nothing is a substitute for real Champagne, but these days the real stuff can easily run you $50 a bottle and more, plus you’ll need a lot of bottles to celebrate the wedding. So it’s a cost that you can’t easily ignore. Daily Deliveries To Block Island via New England Airlines THE WINE STORE 401-596-6160 www.thewinestoreri.com Photo courtesy John and Bridget Capobianco You’re probably going to have several events around a wedding, and you may want to consider having real Champagne at some events such as the toasts before the wedding cake is cut. But then you could have less expensive alternatives for other events like the wedding rehearsal dinner. That way you can have your bubbles without breaking the budget and putting the newlyweds into debt from the beginning of their life together. Fortunately for all of those like me who like to have sparkling wine for even the most routine events such as the end of a perfect day at the beach, sparkling wine producers have gotten a lot better at their craft in just the past few years. There are now sparkling wines on the market selling for a fraction of the cost of Champagne that even a wine expert would be able to tell the difference. Satisfying your Champagne Taste on a Beer Budget Novice or Wine Expert ... You will be comfortable shopping with us! LOOK FOR THE GIANT WINE BOTTLE WAREHOUSE BEER-WINE LIQUOR INC. 86 Franklin St. Rte. 1, Westerly, RI 02891 We choose to be “Closed Sunday” – Our family and employees are worth it. 26 The best alternative for the real thing is sparkling wine made in California by the same French companies making the high-priced stuff. All the big champagne houses have now been producing sparkling wine in California for two or three decades. This is made in exactly the same way as they do in Champagne, but it sells for less than half the price of the same product imported from France. Take your pick from among some very famous Champagne houses: Chandon, Mumm, Taitinger, Roederer. All of those companies now make products in California that sell at about $20 a bottle. You’ll find them easily in wine stores. If you don’t believe me about how good they are, just buy a bottle and try it out one night. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised. A second less expensive alternative is Crémant from France. Since other French areas outside of Champagne wanted to make Block Island Wedding bubbly wine, the French came up with a new name for the same product made in other regions. It’s called Crémant. Again these sparkling wines are made from the same grapes and use the same process as real Champagne. Some of the most popular ones come from Alsace and will probably run you about $15. They also come from Burgundy, the Loire, and Bordeaux, and they are an attractive alternative to expensive Champagne. A third possibility is Italian Prosecco. Again similar grapes, similar process, but the price is only a fraction of what you’d pay for real Champagne. Prosecco has been one of the hottest products on the Italian wine scene in recent years because these wines are so good and they have made sparkling wines something you can drink routinely. There are several on the market selling for about $15. A fourth possibility is Spanish Cava. This is made by a slightly different process, although I won’t bore you with the explanation of the difference between this and real Champagne or the other sparkling wines. Freixenet, pronounced “fresh-eh-net,” has enjoyed a huge success with its distinctive black bottles of this bubbly. But there are many other brands, usually selling for about $10 a bottle. Picking the Right Style Now a few words about the style of sparkling wine to serve. Don’t be intimidated by the names on the bottle that are designed to help you select one that suits your tastes based on the amount of sugar. 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The color comes simply from how long the winemaker left the juice in contact with the red grape skins. You can have dry rosé or sweet rosé. Mig’s Rig Taxi (401) 480-0493 www.migsrigtaxi.com Prompt taxi service Weddings, tours, and special events. R h od e Is la n d MIGS RIG O ce an St at e 20 07 Try Before you Buy My final recommendation is that the prospective bride and groom try some of the alternatives to true Champagne that I’ve recommended to see which, if any, they like. You may have a real Champagne taste, and you should stick with it. But at the same time you might discover that a French bubbly from California tastes just as good to you. Or maybe you’ll like a Spanish Cava. So before you make the final decision, try out some of the alternatives. If nothing else, you’ll have a fun evening together. If it’s of any interest, when my wife and I were married I asked my future father-in-law to serve California sparkling wine at the wedding because I had grown up in California and felt some loyalty to the state. The wedding was a great success, and the marriage has held together. So I guess a California sparkling wine will fit the bill. George M. Taber, a Block Island resident, has written two books on wine: Judgment of Paris and To Cork or Not to Cork. He is currently working on a third one. This column is sponsored by the Wine Store. www.thewinestoreri. com. 28 Specializing in Weddings and Rehearsal Dinners Free Site Surveys Century Tents - Party Tents - Frame Tents Dance Floors - Tables - Chairs - Lighting 27 Highpoint Avenue, Portsmouth, RI 02871 Phone 401-683-9160 Fax 401-683-6730 www.newporttent.com Email info@newporttent.com Block Island Wedding Surfing Block Island? 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(4624) (401) 466-2212 www.goblockisland.com Block Island Wedding Photos courtesy Cindy Horovitz Wilson and Michael Melford 29 Picking the Petals Selecting the right flowers for your wedding Photo courtesy Block Island Wedding Flowers By Ian Lang Choosing the right flowers is one of the most important aspects of your wedding. The color, style, and smell of the flowers you pick will go a long way toward creating the atmosphere for your ceremony and reception. Whether you are thinking about a bridal bouquet, a centerpiece at the reception, or a display that will frame the altar, here are some things to keep in mind as you make your decisions. Selecting a florist and setup fees included. Choosing the right flowers By deciding to get married on Block Island you have already chosen a unique place to have your wedding, so we recommend not being tied down by other people’s tradition when choosing the right flowers for your special occasion. While your florist will have some ideas of her own, you should come to the table with an idea of what you want. One place to get ideas is to look through magazines like this one, other wedding magazines or even on the Internet. There you will see what others have done and can start to gain a feel for what you want. In terms of choosing the bridal bouquet, as well as any other flowers that might go in the bride’s hair or in her hairpiece, it is important to first choose your wedPhoto courtesy New While some couples will forgo a florist, instead relying on their own thoughts and the advice of friends, many will retain the services of a professional when it comes to this aspect of the wedding planning. This is especially true on Block Island, where getting flowers to the ceremony often requires a trip on the ferry or a flight from Westerly, R.I. When looking for the right florist there are a number of things that you should remember. First you need to know whether the florists overall philosophy matches your own. Does a particular florist like a minimal look, a more traditional feel, or something that is more modern? Ask to see examples of the florist’s past work, whether it is the arrangements themselves or pictures of past weddings they have done. This will give you an idea of how his or her effort will look at your wedding and will help confirm whether it is the right fit for you. Another thing to consider is whether the florist has ever done a wedding at the site of your reception or ceremony. In addition to the design aspects of the florist’s work make sure you ask what flower packages are offered and exactly what is included in the price. For example is the price just for the flowers or are the delivery England Wedding Images 30 Photo courtesy Block Island Wedding Flowers Block Island Wedding Block Island Weddings F *ÀÌÀ>ÌÃÊÉÊ>Þ Special Events John Fuller Photography (401) 855-9555 *"ÊÝÊ£{än]ÊVÊÃ>`]Ê,ÊäÓnäÇÊUÊÜÜÜ°vÕiÀ« Ì}À>« Þ°V Both photos courtesy La Bella Rose ding dress. Your florist should also see the dress itself, or at least a picture of it, so she can determine whether the bouquet matches the color and style of the dress. In addition to the color of flower you choose you might also wish to consider the meaning of the flower. For example, red roses stand for true love, calla lilies represent beauty and red tulips often signify an avowal of love. Of course you might also want to think about flowers that mean something to you. Maybe you choose flowers that represent the place where you met, or flowers that grow in a place that is special to the two of you. Consider what flowers you will need. At most ceremonies you will need personal flowers for the bride and groom as well as the wedding party and certain family members. You will also need to select flowers for the ceremony itself such as arrangements for the arches, aisles and altar. Of course flowers for the reception site are also needed, with your centerpieces being the most obvious example of this type of flower arrangement. While this seems like a lot to consider, at the end of the day the most important advice we can give is to just trust your gut. If the florist feels right, if you like his or her past work, and if the flowers look the way you want them to then just go with it. Block Island Wedding VÊÃ>`ÊUÊ iÜ«ÀÌÊUÊ, `iÊÃ>` , Ê- ",/ " ÊUÊ*>ÃÌÉ6V>ÃÌÊUÊ}Ê}iÌ Block Island’s only on-island, one-stop wedding entertainment service {£Î®ÊÎÇ{n£äÓÊUÊÜÜÜ°Ã>`Üi``}`°V http://kenmissbrenner.com/weddings 31 From this day Forward... You’ll be in my heart, You’ll be in my heart, From this day on — now and forever more. - Phil Collins by Gloria Redlich It is a moment that seems to eclipse every other one that has gone before it — it is marriage — when two people move toward each other in a gesture of trust that alters everything that comes after it. Is it any wonder then that individuals so drawn to each other seek to cast their own magical spell upon that moment and on that day which is so invested with their shared faith in the future? Though tradition plays a large role in most wedding services, contemporary couples often wish to add their own distinct touch and flavor to their marriage ceremonies, particularly with the introduction of readings, lyrics and symbols. To assist them, and supplement a vast library of books and pamphlets on the subject, is an extensive electronic industry through which those interested may 32 Photo courtesy La Bella Rose tap everything from religious traditions and ancient folklore to extemporaneous verses and modern day lyrics. Found under such titles as WeddingsWeddings.Com and the Wedding Ceremonies eBook are guides and indexes to a personalized wedding. According to “The Everything Wedding Vows Book,” planning a wedding “can be a hard and thankless task, but writing your vows shouldn’t have to be … Forget about seating arrangements, bridesmaids dresses and color schemes. No need to worry about the caterer, photographer and all the money you’ll have to spend. As one of the best things in life, wedding vows are absolutely free!” Most wedding manuals begin with the advice, as illustrated in the first step of www.theknot.com’s list of “20 tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows,” “Make sure your officiant will accept personalized vows.” Traditional vows The site notes that usually in Catholic and Episcopal congregations the emphasis is on traditional vows. Typically, in these and many Protestant denominations the basic vows include a statement of the couple’s commitment to each other within the parameters of their faith. Cited as basic to Protestant wedding vows is a familiar pledge made by each of the partners to “take” the other “to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to Photo cour tesy John an d Bridget Ca pobianco God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith/ or pledge my self to you/ or plight thee my troth.” In the Catholic version, a variation of the above avowal is expressed in questions that the priest puts to the couple. The couple then gives consent before God and the Church, pledging, “I take you to be my wife/ husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and bad, in sickness and health. I will love and honor you all the days of my life.” In accepting a ring, the respondent might say, “I take this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness, in the name of the Father, of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.” However, much is left to the priest or minister’s discretion, and today clergy of most faiths will work with couples wishing to tailor their vows. Is there room for whimsical? So, if you do decide to write your own vows, where do you begin? According to the knot.com it is important to make a plan, create an outline, find your voice, and establish Block Island Wedding a tone. The latter may be anywhere from formal and serious to whimsical and tongue-in-cheek or any combination of the above. Children’s author Shel Silverstein casts his vote for whimsy in the following rhyme: I will not play at tug o’ war, I’d rather play at hug o’ war, Where everyone hugs instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles and rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses and everyone grins, And everyone cuddles and everyone wins. In order to find out what to say — the substance of the vows — theknot.com tells each partner to answer 20 questions. Among these are the following: What were your reactions to each other on first meeting? Identify the moment you realized you were first in love. How has life changed since you came together? Which part of the “traditional vows” resonate with you? It is in the answers to the questions that couples begin to see how they may weave their individual experiences and emotions into their wedding service. And many bridal couples inevitably look to poetry and song for the words with which to do so. Just ‘I love you’ When asked recently about his wedding vows, Lenny was unsure. Four years ago he and his bride Naomi stood on a New Hampshire mountain top in the fullness of autumn’s splendor and vowed to become husband and wife. “I don’t know, he said, “Perhaps I was the kind of person who didn’t know the right words, didn’t know more than just ‘I love you.’ I didn’t have the ability to find the fancy words in poetry and stuff.” Unaware of the elegance of his simple statement, he added that he and his bride and her son Ethan incorporated a unique and moving symbol into their marriage ceremony. They brought with them three jars of different colored sands, which each of them held. First they separately poured a bit of their sand into a large container. Next they simultaneously poured the sands together, symbolizing the inextricable linking of their lives from that moment on — a moment in which they became a family. A common thread What then is the common thread, the theme knitting all the rituals, songs and “poetry and stuff” together? In response, theknot.com points out that though traditions vary around the world, the message is unsurprisingly the same: love. But how to express this all-consuming emotion in ways that inspire? In one of his love poems, 13th century Persian poet Rumi addresses the beloved directly, “From the beginning of my life I have been looking for your face … Today I have found you … You have breathed new life into me.” And 19th century poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning enumerates the ways one can love in the very familiar “How do I love thee?” The speaker in her poem says, “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. … I love thee to the level of every day’s most quiet need, by sun and candlelight … I love thee with a passion put to use. In my old continued on next page Block Island Wedding Block Island’s air service for 37 years. Enjoy unlimited free parking when you fly to Block Island with New England Airlines from Westerly Airport. l l ll ll l 33 griefs, and with my childhood’s faith. … I love thee with the breath, smiles tears, of all my life!” The centuries have apparently not altered the power of love to transform the ordinary nor the intensity of feeling, as we hear in Elton John’s lyrics, “An enchanted moment and it sees me through / It’s enough for this restless warrior just to be with you. / And can you feel the love tonight? / It is where we are.” In speaking of that self-same love, Shakespeare writes, “But love is blind and lovers cannot see the pretty follies that themselves commit.” Such blindness may come indeed from the unwillingness of the smitten two to allow anyone else into the magic circle they draw around themselves. This romantic isolationism is reflected in the 1934 ballad “I Only Have Eyes for You.” Among the many artists recording the piece, Frank Sinatra makes that point emphatically as he belts out: “Are the stars out tonight? / I don’t know if it’s cloudy or bright / Cause I only have eyes for you, dear / And the moon may be high / But I can’t see a thing in the sky cause I only have eyes for you.” Toward a definition of love Author and poet Diane Ackerman, expresses astonishment at our repeated efforts to contain and define love. She says, “Love. What a small word we use for an idea so immense and powerful. It has altered the flow of history … kindled works of art, cheered the forlorn … fuelled national scandals … and made mincemeat of kings.” She adds, “How can love’s spaciousness be conveyed in the narrow confines of one syllable? Love is an ancient delirium, a desire 34 older than civilization, with taproots spreading into deep and mysterious days. The heart is a living museum. In each of its galleries … preserved forever … are our moments of loving and being loved.” Though customs vary from nation to nation and faith to faith, there seem to emerge certain underlying themes: the couple not only unites with a spouse but with the family of the spouse as well. And the ceremony takes place in the presence of family and friends, who stand as witnesses to the promises made. In Japan, it is the families who face each other, as the bride and groom exchange their vows. At Pakistani weddings, vows are not spoken until the third day of the celebrations. Within several branches of Russian Orthodoxy, “a couple’s vows take the form of silent prayer, in which they promise to be loyal and loving.” In the quiet simplicity of a Quaker marriage ceremony, the vows may read as follows: “In the presence of God and these our friends, I take thee to be my husband/wife, promising with Divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful wife/husband so long as we both shall live.” Traditionally the Islamic bride and groom do not speak vows but rather listen to their imam, who speaks to them about their responsibilities to each other and Allah. Three times they are asked whether they accept each other in marriage, in accord with their wedding contract, which they then sign sealing their marriage. An Apache wedding blessing reads: “Now you will feel no rain / For each of you will be shelter to the other. / Now you will feel no cold / For each of you will be the warmth to the other.” The couple are enjoined to “Go now to your dwelling-place / To enter into the days of your togetherness. / And may your days be good and long upon the Earth.” In traditional Jewish wedding ceremonies, there is generally no exchange of vows, with “the covenant … said to be implicit in the ritual.” The actual structure of the ceremony varies to some degree within Orthodox, Conservative and Reform synagogues, and the marriage is “customarily sealed when the groom places a ring on his bride’s finger and says, ‘Behold, you are consecrated to me with this ring according to the laws of Moses and Israel.’” Today, many Jewish couples decide on a double-ring ceremony and exchange spoken vows. In making the decision to customize their own wedding ceremonies then, couples today will find they have a series of nearly endless resources — from traditional religious liturgy and classic poetry to popular lyrics and movie themes. For those of you fortunate enough to live through the two heartstopping moments— falling in love and then solemnizing the occasion with wedding rites — the hardest part may be finding the right words with which to transform your love story into your vows. Take heart then for in the words of Disney’s Beauty and the Beast, “it is a tale as old as time, a song as old as rhyme.” Many people have gone before you — lived and laughed and loved — and written it all down. You have only to pore through volumes of poetry and reams of musical scores, listen to CD’s of your favorite love songs, hold hands and dance around the kitchen, and it will all just come to you. 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