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Half the Sky
Half the Sky Volume IX, Issue 1 Spring 2008 www.halfthesky.org PROGRESS REPORT - 2008 - SPECIAL EDITION TEN YEARS — THOUSANDS OF HUGS.... By Jenny Bowen Executive Director / Half the Sky Nine years ago, I composed a note while sitting in the Tokyo airport, waiting to take my first flight to Beijing on behalf of Half the Sky. For the past year, my husband, I, and a small group of friends, all adoptive parents, had been reaching out and bringing together whatever, whomever it would take to dare to approach the Chinese government with a plan to transform the lives of institutionalized children. It was an idea that plenty of people called impossible. Now, on behalf of our determined little team, I was about to present that plan to officials at the Ministry of Civil Affairs, asking for their permission to launch a pilot project inside government welfare institutions. And I was reaching out to you, our Half the Sky community – there weren’t many of you then – asking for you to go with me as we began our ‘impossible’ journey. That government permission did not come easily...but it came. As they say, the rest is history. Today, as I write this, I sit in another airport – this time in Wuhan, China. I’ve just attended our very first Half the Sky / Blue Sky Orientation. Officials from the Ministry of Civil Affairs came from Beijing to preside with me over the opening ceremony. In attendance were the directors of every single children’s welfare institution in Hubei Province, as well as officials from five other provinces. All had come to learn about Half the Sky programs. Each of them would now begin the process making their own all we have learned in the past 10 INSIDE: Continued on next page 3 - Give Me Wings! 12 - YuFeng at Home 4 - Baby Sisters 13 - YuFeng at School 6 - Blue Sky 14 - Our Volunteers 7 - XiaoLei 15 - Letters from the Sky 8 - Little Sisters 16 - Looking Back 10 - Family Village 20 - Kids4Kids 11 - Village Album 22- Blue Sky Sponsorship 1 Ten years — Continued from Page 1 years about enriching the lives of orphaned children. From now on, the Hubei directors will be sending their caregiving staff to the new HTS Wuhan Blue Sky Model Children’s Center. The Wuhan Center will eventually offer training in HTS methods to every institution in the province. Incredibly, with the full permission and assistance of the Chinese government, over the next five years, this process will be repeated 30 times in every other province in China. Again, in a way, I feel the journey is just beginning. Our anniversary year got off to a classic Half the Sky start. As the chaotic days China’s Spring Festival Storms consumed us with the Little Mouse relief effort, we got news that our work was going to be recognized internationally, at the highest levels, with the tremendous honor of the Skoll Award. Within a few weeks we went from reassuring worried orphanage directors in rural corners of China we’d never heard of to receiving official government thanks on behalf of thousands of generous donors and laying the groundwork of an emergency preparedness plan with the Vice-Minister in Beijing to shaking the hand of former US President Jimmy Carter in Oxford. What we – you and I and Half the Sky – have accomplished during these ten action-packed years and where we are going suddenly was undeniable. Half the Sky is making a real difference and, at least some of the world is watching. We are changing the face of orphan care in China. Yesterday I met perhaps twenty orphanage directors whose institutions averted a disaster through the Little Mouse Emergency Fund. Like it may have been for you, the emergency was their first introduction to Half the Sky. We were all so happy to be coming together in this new effort to bring Half the Sky programs to their province. We have gone from becoming new friends to becoming colleagues. So how has come to this? Here’s history in a snapshot: 1998 – Half the Sky was born; a caring network of supporters and professionals began to take shape 1999 – Half the Sky received government permission to launch 2 pilot programs 2000 – Pilot programs launched in Hefei, Anhui and Changzhou, Jiangsu 2001 – New programs in Changzhou and in Chuzhou, Anhui 2002 – New programs in Chongqing; Chengdu, Sichuan; Shanghai; and Chenzhou, Hunan 2003 – New programs in Shaoyang, Xiangtan, and Yueyang, Hunan; and in Guilin, Beihai, and Wuzhou, Guanxi 2004 – New programs in Nanchang, Jiujiang and Fuzhou, Jiangxi; and in Luoyang and Xingyang, Henan 2005 – New programs in Gaoyou and Lianyungang, Jiangsu; in Haikou and Sanya, Hainan; in Yiyang, Hunan and in Guangzhou, Guangdong; First Family Village; New programs for children orphaned by AIDS in Henan; Government invites Half the Sky to help develop national guidelines for orphan care 2006 – New programs in Yibin, Sichuan; in Shenzhen, Guangdong; in Nanning, Guangxi, in Nanjing, Jiangsu; and in Tianjin; Four new Family Villages; China’s President Hu JinTao proclaims importance of nurturing orphan care; Blue Sky Plan is announced 2007 – Chinese Government invites Half the Sky to introduce its programs throughout China via Blue Sky Plan; New programs in Maoming, Maonan, Qingyuan and Shaoguan, Guangdong; in Wuhan and Huangshi, Hubei; Four new Family Villages; Blue Sky cooperation is launched in Wuhan – first Blue Sky Model Center And this year, assuming we can meet the goals of our annual Children’s Day Challenge (coming to a mailbox to you soon!) there will be five new Half the Sky/Blue Sky model centers in five new provinces; 2-3 upgraded centers; two Blue Sky provincial trainings. Also, this year we celebrate! At the end of May we kick off with a gala in Hong Kong on Children’s Day weekend. In June we launch a new website for the thousands of kids who help Half the Sky called Give Me Wings! (see facing page) and on June 14, I’ll be running for China’s orphaned children with the Olympic Torch in Wanzhou, Chongqing with a troop of HTS preschoolers from the Chongqing institution cheering me on. Stay tuned - there’s lots more to come! When I read the stories and look at the pictures in this special 10th Anniversary Progress Report, I remember what sad places most orphanages used to be in China. To know that is changing – that we are making the change happen – is simply exhilarating. As I board my flight home and think about all that’s happened in these ten years, I’m sure of one thing: No doubt about it, Half the Sky has Wings! Half the Sky Volume IX, Issue 1 Spring, 2008 740 Gilman Street Berkeley, CA 94710 USA (1-510) 525-3377 Fax: (1-510)525-3611 4-2-142 Jianguomenwai Diplomatic Cmpd. Chaoyang District, Beijing PR CHINA 100600 (86-10) 8532-3043 Fax: (86-10) 8532-1920 Room 2703 27/F Shun Feng International Centre 182 Queen’s Road East, Wanchai, Hong Kong (852) 2520-5266 Fax: (852) 2520-5168 www.halfthesky.org E-mail: info@halfthesky.org 2 The mission of Half the Sky Foundation is to enrich the lives and enhance the prospects for orphaned children in China. We establish and operate infant nurture and preschool programs, provide personalized learning for older children and establish loving permanent family care and guidance for children with disabilities. It is our goal to ensure that every orphaned child has a caring adult in her life and a chance at a bright future. Half the Sky was incorporated in California in 1998. The foundation is a nonprofit, tax-exempt corporation under Section 501(c)3 of the US Internal Revenue Code. Half the Sky Foundation (Asia) Ltd. received charitable registration status in 2006. HTS Foundation of Canada. an independent affiliate organization, received charitable registration status in 2004. Donations to all three organizations are tax-deductible. BOARD OF DIRECTORS Lou DeMattei . Dana Johnson, MD, PhD . Carolyn Pope Edwards, EdD Carlos Cordeiro . Emily Kwong . Peter Lighte . Katherine Shen . Nancy Spelman, PhD . Vivian Wong Zaloom . Jenny Bowen, Executive Director Edited by Patricia King, Communications Director Give Me Wings!..and I Will Fly An Invitation For Our Younger Supporters: This June, Half the Sky would like to invite you to join a fun and important online community by kids for kids — Give Me Wings! Give Me Wings Arts Contest!! The theme of our new website community is: Give Me Wings!..and I Will Fly. The inspirations for the Give Me Wings community are: Kids like you all over the world who have helped Give Wings to kids in China by foregoing birthday presents, running lemonade stands, and reaching into your piggy banks. And kids like you who’ve come up with all kinds of creative and fun ways to help others. and Kids living in orphanages in China, or kids who need help somewhere in the world, who started to fly once they were given wings. Please become part or our online community of kids all over the world, who know that they don’t have to meet each other in person to help each other fly! Please talk to your parents about our new website (or parents talk to your children!) and email us at wings@halfthesky.org with your name (first name only...we want to protect your privacy if we should decide to post what you send), a favorite photo of you with family or friends, and a short note about where you live and how you like to have fun? And tell us about any efforts you have made to Give Wings to kids in China or anywhere in the world. We hope to hear from you soon! And watch for the announcement of the launch of the Give Me Wings! website in June. Soon you’ll be meeting kids like you all over the world! Please enter the 20008 Give Me Wings Multimedia Arts Contest! Let your imagination run wild and use whatever medium you like—artwork, music, videos, essays, etc. All kids 18 and under are eligible. Just email a copy of your entry (up to 10 mb) to wings@ halfthesky.org. If you’re sending a video or a very large file, please mail DVD/CD to: Half the Sky Foundation, 740 Gilman Street, Berkeley, CA 94710 USA or Half the Sky Foundation (Asia) Limited, Room 2703, 27/F, Shun Feng International Centre, 182 Queen’s Road East, Wanchai, Hong Kong. The deadline for entries is July 1 and please keep your original artwork, in case you win. We’ll be displaying some of the entries in Beijing during the Olympics! Give Me Wings! artwork by Hu Yongyi © 2008 3 Progress Report — Baby Sisters three or four centers; now I oversee 38 centers. The way I think of my new and old job is that as a field supervisor I was a piece of the puzzle; now I have to make sure that the pieces of the puzzle work nicely together. One of Half the Sky’s challenges is making sure those pieces work as nicely at our new centers as they do at our long established centers. We are always excited when funding permits us to bring our programs to more waiting children. But there are, of course, bumps on the road. By Jeronia Muntaner Director, Infant Nurture Program / Half the Sky It is a great honor for me to write this column and introduce myself as the new director of Half the Sky’s Infant Nurture Program. First I would like to explain how I came to Half the Sky. When my husband and I adopted my youngest daughter YuanYuan at 10 months old, I thought I knew what to expect. I had studied early childhood education and was working as the lead teacher in a preschool in Beijing. International adoption in China has an excellent reputation around the world and I knew my daughter would be fine, but I also knew that children who are abandoned and live in an institution without a family often face attachment and emotional issues. I was surprised that my daughter didn’t have any of those issues and I soon learned why. YuanYuan had been a Baby Sister in Half the Sky’s pilot Infant Nurture Program at the Hefei Children’s Welfare Institution launched in 2000. The focus of the Infant Nurture Program then and now is the promotion of deep emotional bonds between nannies and the children, the bonds of love that are crucial for healthy development. YuanYuan had developed those bonds with her Half the Sky nanny--she knew how to love and be loved, and she transferred that love to us in a few weeks. My daughter brings joy to my life every day, and though I will never be able to pay back what Half the Sky did for YuanYuan, I want to make my small contribution by doing this work. Because I worked as a Field Supervisor in the Infant Nurture Program for three years before I moved on to my current job, I cannot say that my new responsibilities have brought lots of surprises, but they have brought many new challenges. As a field supervisor, I oversaw All babies adore their Half the Sky Nannies 4 In Maoming, for example, one of our new nannies considered resigning because she was having such a difficult time documenting her work with the children. Though she was not a comfortable writer, she is so kind and patient with the children that no one wanted to lose her. In a great show of teamwork, all of the Maoming nannies agreed that if she wanted to stay they would help her improve her written reports. Six months later when the field supervisor for Maoming visited, she was thrilled to report that the nanny’s documentation had improved tremendously; her observations about the children are now detailed and objective and the language is smooth. It is that kind of teamwork that we work hard to promote when we train our nannies. It is that kind of teamwork that I work to promote among our field supervisors. And it is that kind of teamwork that we promote among the children once their bonds with their nannies are established. Children like FuZheng, who was an isolated girl who never looked at or showed interest in others when she arrived in Huangshi. After three months, FuZheng became attached to her nanny. She grew plumper, her skin looked healthier, and for the first time she also started enjoying her peers, playing hide and seek, building blocks, and joining other outdoor activities with them. On our field supervisor’s latest trip to Huangshi, she was thrilled to learn that FuZheng has been adopted by a local family. I am sure FuZheng’s family is overjoyed--just as my family was six years ago--that their daughter learned how to receive and how to give love before she found her forever home. Our Newest Baby Sisters — now life looks brighter.... Maoming Baby Sister QiMin Qingyuan Baby Sister QiPing QiMin is ten months old and can sit down and crawl on her own. She can sit very steadily. QiPing is more than ten months. Two baby teeth have erupted from her lower jaw. In the activity room, she likes to crawl on the cushion and move forward on her stomach to fetch toys. Sometimes, she will put her legs back and imitate a frog’s movements. She likes me to hold her hands and clap hands with her. In the activity room, she likes to look for her favorite toys. Sometimes she will crawl in front of the mirror and clap at her image in the mirror while babbling to herself. She can stand up by holding the railing of crib and move forward along the railing. MinMin likes to show her affection to me. Every time she sees me she will open her mouth wide and smile at me. If I sing when I play with her she gets very excited and smiles a big smile. When I hold her in my arms, she likes to touch my face. When I lower my head and put my face in her face, she becomes very happy and gives me a big smile. Maonan Baby Sister YuRan Huangshi Baby Sister FuYin Every day I helped YuRan walk. When she was in a good mood, she would cooperate with me very well. I held her hands and assisted her in walking. When she was in a bad mood, she would throw my hands away and sit crying loudly. At that time, I would hold her in my arms and take her to the rocking horse. She is not interested in any other toys except the rocking horse. With my help and because she was so interested, she learned to shake the rocking horse. FuYin was one and a half years old when she joined the program. She couldn’t walk steadily. She was quiet and not interested in anything. Now whenever FuYin hears we will go outdoors, she stands in the first place of the line. When we stand under a tree, she points at it and I tell her it’s a tree. She follows me to say the word “tree.” In the garden, she can point at the flowers and say “flower.” 5 Progress Report — Blue Sky this work possible), we will train staff in 300 Institutions across China in the next five years! Of course it would be physically impossible for our program directors to provide all the training, so we knew when we decided to take on the Blue Sky challenge that it would be necessary to hire and train more field supervisors to conduct nanny, teachers and foster parents’ trainings all over the country. By JANICE COTTON Director of Programs / Half the Sky Greetings! In October 2007, I made a transition in my work life – instead of heading one HTS program, the Infant Nurture program, I have the great privilege of working cooperatively with and overseeing the directors of all four of Half the Sky’s programs. As many of you know, the move from one job to the next is exhilarating, challenging, teaches new lessons on a daily basis, provides the wonderful opportunity to learn more about your working organization, and also provides the opportunity to rethink what you thought you already knew. My transition to Director of Programs has been that and more because it coincides with the incredible opportunity Half the Sky has been given to impact the care of every child living in a Chinese institution by offering training at Blue Sky model centers all over China. If all goes well with our fundraising efforts (thank you to all of our supporters who make And we also knew that it was imperative to create a written curriculum to guide our field supervisors and to maintain the integrity of the programs we have so carefully developed over the last ten years. Putting together the curriculum has been a most challenging and a rewarding experience. We already knew that we convey a great deal of important information in our training sessions, but Wow! Putting all this down in writing has been an amazing process. We have spent many hours in front of our computers writing what we orally share, plus more! We edit, write more, edit again! Our team has experienced exhilaration, feelings of incompetence as we learn technical writing skills, lots of extra working hours, and the great delight in seeing our spoken words transformed into a beautiful written format that will change the lives of thousands of children. With the help of technical writers extraordinaire based in Australia, Rod and Jessica Ward, we have learned how to use special templates that beautifully display our training materials. When the project is completed our materials will include a trainee workbook, activity sheets, homework assignments, guides for the classroom, and visual aids like PowerPoint slides, wall charts, and videotapes. Working through the curriculum for our programs has also helped us articulate the guiding principles of all four of our programs, including the most basic ones: A consistent, loving, nanny, teacher, mentor or parent works with each child from day to day. Adults focus on the development of the whole child to so that each child develops the social/emotional, cognitive and language development skills needed to become responsible members of society. In the end, working through these guiding principles made me realize that though there are new challenges for the Blue Sky Model Centers, the essence of our work remains the same as it has been for the last decade. As you’ll read in the following story about XiaoLei, a boy who shrank in terror from our staff and the other children on his first day at our new Little Sisters Preschool in Wuhan, our work focuses on helping each individual child learn to embrace the world all the while supported by loving arms. XiaoLei finds his smile On the next page, you’ll read excerpts from Little Sisters preschool teacher Lan Wu’s journals that chronicle XiaoLei’s heartwarming transformation from a scared, isolated child afraid to make eye contact with adults or children into a loving, smiling, joyful boy. It took only a week before XiaoLei felt secure enough to show a “little smile” that, as you see in the photos, has grown bigger and bigger as the bonds of love have grown stronger. 6 child, LinYi, played the finger game with one of the teachers, XiaoLei started to imitate them and he did it several times! October 14, 2007 The children played in the crawling tunnel. XiaoLei joined with his friends, crawling in and out, giggling and laughing. Then he took a marker from the marker basket on the toy shelf and started to draw. He then went back to the tunnel with his drawing book and marker and drew on the top of the tunnel. September 3, 2007 I met XiaoLei for the first time. He was scared when he saw me. When I extended my hand to him and smiled, he quickly put his hand behind his back. When I took him outdoors, he stood without emotion watching the other children play. When I tried to talk to him or play with him, he didn’t move at all and he never made eye contact with me. October 15, 2007 During a drawing activity, the teacher handed an oval shape to XiaoLei. He took the shape and put it onto the paper and began to trace it. I held my hand to his and helped him to trace the shape. When he saw the traced oval shape, he smiled. A child named ZhuShui saw XiaoLei’s work and followed what he had done. XiaoLei saw that ZhuShui had followed him and smiled and laughed with pleasure. October 16, 2007 The children were doing morning exercises in September 10, 2007 Today I took XiaoLei to the activity room. He looked around, but did not seem able to decide where he wanted to play. I said to him: XiaoLei, look at the slide. Let’s play on the slide, ok?” He didn’t respond, but his eyes were looking in the direction of the slide. I held him in my arms and put him on the slide and he slid down and he even showed a little smile. September 28, 2007 The children played with various toys they chose during their free choice time. XiaoLei held a toy car and watched other children playing. A child name Ji from another class came toward him. XiaoLei stood up and gave his toy car to Ji and they played with the car together. October 8, 2007 XiaoLei played with a puzzle and had difficulty putting it together. I said to him: “Look XiaoLei, these are apples. If you put apples together, you will put the pieces together.” He followed my directions and became happy that he was able to put them together. When another the hallway. XiaoLei was standing in the middle of the children imitating other children’s body movements. One of the teachers came to XiaoLei and suggested: “XiaoLei, let’s dance together shall we?” XiaoLei held the teacher’s hands and started to dance to the beat of the music. He looked back to his friends and gave them big smiles. April 14, 2008 The children played with ash branches and made a circle with them with help from the teachers. XiaoLei helped the teachers by collecting the branches. He viewed the ash circles hanging in the classroom with a smile on his face. He then put one of the circles on his head and was so happy that he laughed, his mouth wide open with joy. 7 Progress Report — Little Sisters Wen Zhao and friends we provided was only double-sided tape. We put tape on the children’s hands and faces and very quickly the children lost interest. We teachers learned that our material was probably too boring and we should try to prepare materials with the children’s point of view in mind. By Wen Zhao Director, Preschool Program / Half the Sky Zigzag Progress All of our new teachers keep journals, which is one way we track the progress of the children and one way we track the effectiveness of our training. I am thrilled when our teachers refer to what they learned during their training even on their most exhausting first days. For example, on the first day our preschool opened in Wuhan one teacher wrote: “I am so tired and it is so chaotic, but we were all prepared for this during the training. We know it is like this at the beginning. The important thing is to trust that the children will become better and we as a team will get better.” I know from long experience providing care for children living in institutions that our Little Sisters and Brothers and their teachers do get better. But I also know that their progress is not linear. As one of our new teachers wrote: “Progress is in a zigzag pattern. It is not straight.” It is so gratifying to read that our teachers understand the zigzag nature of their work and embrace it by constantly adjusting to the needs of the children. For example, Qingyuan teacher YiNi Luo wrote about an activity involving sticky tape that was for her an eye-opening lesson about how to reach the children: The main activity in our class today was to give the children the experience of feeling something sticky. At first, the material So we added feathers and we let the children stick feathers on their hands, but that also lasted only for awhile. The children started walking all around -- they don’t like to stay in one place while sticking the tape. We decided to stick the tape on the children’s tummies, legs, backsides, and the children were happily running around showing the teachers and their classmates what they had on their bodies. This is something that I would have never thought of before, that children could so happily play with tape this way. I know I have to keep trying different things and think of myself as one of the children and learn to feel how they feel. As you can see from the apparently simple tape-sticking activity, there is nothing easy about working with children! But YiNi Luo also explains how rewarding the work can be: When I feel frustrated I come to the living area and look at the children’s innocent, smiley faces and I forget my frustrations. When I am happy I bring them candies. From the first time I met the children they have called me JieJie (big sister), which makes me feel very close to them. When I see them with their mouths full of candies circling me and calling me JieJie, I feel so very happy. We are now seeing more smiles on the children’s faces and less crying. The children’s language ability has improved and they 8 have learned to share and interact with their classmates -- we see confidence and happiness on their faces. I love how the children use my knees as pillows and how they lie down when I hold them just like children lie down in their mother’s arms. They enjoy hugging so much. I hope they can stay this happy and I hope I can bring them beautiful memories of their childhoods. I have studied early childhood development for many years, so I know about pedagogical theories and how they can help train teachers and provide a framework in the classroom. But I also know that for good teachers their work is an affair of the heart inspired by their love for the children, the love that motivates YiNi Luo to want to give the children “beautiful memories” of their childhoods. For teachers motivated by love for the children, the difficulty of the work pales in comparison to the privilege they feel to be able to work with the children, a privilege many of our teachers, including Maoming Little Sisters Teacher ChunHong Zhong, express in their journals: Though we are tired both physically and mentally, we are really happy. We do face many challenges, including learning to implement new ways of teaching, documenting at least a dozen observations of the children every week, and reviewing and readjusting ourselves...But for me, this work is a gift. The work here provides me a platform to develop my talents and make my life more fulfilling. It is the best gift I have ever received. Like ChunHong Zhong, I believe that working with children living in institutions is a special gift for which I am very grateful. And I believe that the gift is a bittersweet one for teachers who bond so deeply with the children in their care. I’d like to end my column with a journal entry from Qingyuan teacher MeiJing Wang because she captures the bittersweet nature of bonding and then saying good-bye in her journal entry about ZuYi, a child she loves and misses and a child she prepared so well to live happily in a loving family: ZuYi was adopted last week. She left before we could say goodbye to her. We miss her a lot. ZuYi loved to smile. When I called her name she would smile, open up her arms, and run quickly to embrace me and kiss me. ZuYi liked to call me mama. She liked it when I held her hand to take a walk. Her tiny hand would hold my hand tightly and she would tell me lots of things while we walked. Today ZuYi visited us with her dad and mom. When ZuYi saw me she walked right over and held out her arms, wanting me to hold her. At that moment I felt so touched. ZuYi used her little hand to hold my hand. I felt the warmth coming from her. When I saw ZuYi’s smile and how her mother loves her so much, I felt very happy for her. ZuYi, I hope you will grow up a happy and healthy child. As teachers, this is all we wish for. Where is Half the Sky Right Now? Anhui Province Chuzhou Hefei Chongqing Municipality Chongqing Guangdong Province Guangzhou Maoming / Maonan Qingyuan Shaoguan Shenzhen Guangxi Province Beihai Guilin Nanning Wuzhou Hainan Province Haikou Sanya Henan Province Luoyang Xinyang Hubei Province Huangshi Wuhan Hunan Province Chenzhou Shaoyang Xiangtan Yiyang (2 centers) Yueyang Jiangsu Province Changzhou Gaoyou Lianyungang Nanjing Jiangxi Province Fuzhou Jiujiang Nanchang Shanghai Municipality Shanghai Sichuan Province Chengdu Yibin Tianjin Municipality Tianjin 9 Progress Report — Family Villages The Half the Sky Family Village of Nanjing, Jiangsu Thanks to generous donors, Half the Sky has been able to open eleven Family Villages. These unique homes are so successful that we hope to open six more Villages in 2008 alone! Designed to serve children whose special needs preclude them from ever being adopted, our Family Villages offer the love of a permanent family for children who would otherwise experience only institutional care throughout their childhoods. If you are interested in helping establish these wondrous new families by becoming a Family Village sponsor, please contact development@halfthesky.org. Half the Sky’s fourth Family Village in Nanjing opened on what HTS Local Family Village Supervisor DanPing Ling called an “ordinary winter day” in 2006 with Mt. Zhongshan looming above. But there was nothing ordinary about the six new families created on that day. From the beginning, the growing bonds of love between the parents and the 24 children who had finally found permanent homes were obvious. But because the children had known only life in an orphanage and their parents had experience only in raising their biological children from birth, there was a learning curve for the parents, the children, and DanPing as she makes clear in this report: At the beginning, we met with some unexpected problems. Our foster mothers were all very enthusiastic and started to teach the children to read, count numbers, draw pictures etc, but after some time realized the children weren’t making much progress. I led discussions with the mothers, and we finally figured out the reason: we realized that many of the children had not yet mastered even basic skills. Some children ate directly from their hands instead of using spoons or chopsticks. The children didn’t know the names of common food, and had no idea how to eat fruit with cores. In addition, most of the children didn’t know how to brush their teeth or wash themselves. They didn’t know how to use a tissue to blow their noses and 96% were not potty trained. Most couldn’t get themselves dressed because they had difficulty telling the front of 10 a shirt or pants from the back. They couldn’t button themselves up properly, handle a zipper, lace their shoes, and didn’t know that they should wear socks Because the children did not have these basic skills, we realized that it was unreasonable for us to expect they could meet the goals that we had set at the beginning. So we decided to approach these issues step by step and the first step was to help the children improve their ability to take care of themselves, always taking into account the age and the special medical condition of each child. Working very hard, we saw great progress after six months. And now a year later, 75% of the children are potty-trained and no longer need to wear diapers. All of the children have learned how to brush their teeth, wash their face, button their clothes, make their beds, etc. The parents are so proud of the progress their children are making! Family Village Album - Nanjing Ordinary life for extraordinary families.... Whether they’re helping mom shop or cook or arrange flowers - whether they’re learning how to put on their socks or fold their clothes or tidy up or make their beds - the sheer “ordinariness” of these children’s lives is what is extraordinary. These children, all of whom have medical, physical, emotional or developmental challenges that keeps them from traditional adoption, will grow up knowing that somebody loves them. For a young child who’s had nothing but bad luck, life is suddenly sweet! 11 Nanjing’s YuFeng - at home in Family Village When YuFeng joined her family she was malnourished and had serious psychological issues. She was timid and lonely. She couldn’t speak and was not potty trained. She walked slowly and was unable to go up and down stairs. To better take care of YuFeng and her siblings, her father Wang Yahe quit his old job so he and his wife Xu Shuangqiu could devote more time and all his love to their children. To improve YuFeng’s physical condition, the parents prepared dishes both rich in flavor and nutrition, and always made sure she received the physical training prescribed for her. With the great power of parental love and the help of the teachers at Half the Sky’s Little Sisters preschool, Yufeng finally opened up to the outside world. YuFeng’s teachers noted in her spring 2007 progress report: “Since YuFeng started living with her foster family, she has become very happy.” The teachers also noted that YuFeng, like children everywhere, had quickly learned the universal meaning of the word “mama”: “Gradually, YuFeng learned to say ‘mama.’ She says the word when she needs help.” Now YuFeng has totally changed. YuFeng is able to go to the bathroom by herself. When she sees guests she will run happily to the stairs to greet them, holding on to the handrail and laughing. When she sees her mom, she runs into her arms and greets her with a big smile. And when she hears music, YuFeng runs to her dad and grabs his hands for another rite of a happy family, a joyous, father-daughter dance. 12 Nanjing’s YuFeng - at Little Sisters Preschool While her parents nurtured YuFeng at home in the Nanjing Family Village, her Little Sisters preschool teachers were also working hard to support her as you’ll read in their reports below. Winter 2006 When YuFeng joined our Little Sisters program, she was very lonely and did not speak. She needed help from others to walk. When I handed her snacks, she did not eat. She never stood up from the chair. She seldom talked to other people. I paid great attention to her. When I walked into the classroom, I would call her gently, “YuFeng!” When the monitor called her name, I would raise her hand and say with her “here.” During free time, I pulled her up from the chair and accompanied her to play. I encouraged the other children to communicate with her. YuFeng changed greatly with our efforts. When the monitor calls her name, she can raise her hand. She can finish her snacks. She can imitate the others in the activities. She can walk stably and confidently now. She often smiles happily. Spring 2007 YuFeng has made a lot of progress. First, her language ability has improved. In the past, YuFeng could only say “en, ah.” When the teacher called the roll, she said “en” to show her presence. Since she started living with her foster family, she has become very happy. Every day when she arrives at school, she holds my hands and babbles to me. I communicate with her and help her say what she wants to say. I also asked her to watch the movements of my lips and repeat my words. Gradually, YuFeng learned to say “mama.” She says the word when she needs help. pulled my hand and talked to me. I asked her to imitate my words. Gradually she learned to say “mom,” “dad” and “want.” During activities, she can sit on her chair. After playing with toys, she can put the toys back to their original places. She is potty-trained. She can put on her clothes by herself. Winter 2007 Summer 2007 YuFeng has been in the program for nearly 9 months. She has improved a lot. She has become very close to the teachers. She has rich expressions. I can understand her ideas. She can control her emotions. She never bites the others anymore. In activities, she can participate actively. She can cooperate with others. YuFeng has also progressed in speaking. After she started living in her foster family, she became very happy. When she came to the class, she During these three months, YuFeng and I have established a deep emotional attachment. When she has any problem, she looks at me and asks me for help. Though she can’t always express herself in words, she can make use of body language. During activities, she sometimes looks confident. She often watches other children drawing or writing and has the intention to attend group activities. Even if she doesn’t completely understand how she can get involved, she at least is willing to do it, which makes me feel quite gratified. 13 Volunteer Efforts Everywhere A Green Way to Give Instead of using traditional holiday cards last December, David Shotlander, owner of a Canadian translation company, decided to go “electronic.” He then took the money that would have been spent on printing and mailing the paper cards and donated it to HTS. A Calendar for HTS For the fourth year, Shanghai’s Bund Fund created a calendar to raise money for HTS’s programs. Avid photographers Georgie David and Andrea Soares again donated their gorgeous photographs, CREO – China Real Estate Opportunities Limited – sponsored the project, and the calendar sold out again! HTS Rings NASDAQ’s Opening Bell A group of HTS supporters were on hand when HTS’ director emeritus, Linda Filardi and her daughter Lily rang NASDAQ’s Opening Bell on Feb. 25th. Bethany Sherman, senior VP corporate communications at NASDAQ, helped arrange the ceremony and brought her two daughters, Olivia and Lucy. A big thanks to Linda and Bethany and ev- eryone else who attended or watched the bellringing ceremony webcast, which brought welcome attention to HTS’ work in China. Portland FCC CNY Celebration Ryan Dyson created two Little Mouse Emergency Fund posters and collected donations at Portland FCC’s Chinese New Year celebration at the Oregon Convention Center. More Chinese New Year Fundraisers Cuilian Wang organized a children’s music performance/fundraiser with her friends and families. Special thanks to Shanghai Xi Jiao Hotel for providing the venue for the event; The Winegar family organized a Chinese New Year party/dragon parade in Puerto Rico and collected donations for the Little Mouse Emergency Fund. Gifts for Good Fernanda Fisher and her daughter Roberta participated in Gifts for Good--an alternative gift fair at her daughter’s school in Washington, D.C. to raise funds for HTS. To kick off Half the Sky’s 10th anniversary celebration, the Board of HTS and acclaimed author Amy Tan, are hosting a Gala dinner in Hong Kong on May 30th, 2008 Many Thanks to Our Platinum Sponsors: For more information, please contact Julia Wong (julia@halfthesky.org) 14 Other Ways to Give Nicole Ripken ran the Philadelphia Distance Run to raise fund for HTS; U.S. Asian Affairs Group 66 & 67 marked the 5th anniversary of their children’s adoptions with a celebration and a donation to HTS in honor of their “beautiful children”; Denise Burke made a presentation at her daughter’s preschool, the Children’s Enrichment Center in Texas. The preschool and Oak Hills Presbyterian Church, CEC’s host church, decided to give a portion of their fundraisers’ charitable proceeds to HTS. HTS Kite Festival HTS will hold its first annual Give Me Wings Kite Festival and family picnic in the Bay Area this fall. Join us Sept. 21 & 22 for fun, food and flying. Stay tuned for more information at our website, www.halfthesky.org, and start thinking about how you can run a Give Me Wings Kite Festival in your home town next year! Dreadlocks off for HTS! Steve Harris of the UK raised funds for HTS by having a hair cut for the first time in 8 years! Steve and his wife Karen are halfway through a 12-month honeymoon and are working as volunteers in a school in Hainan province. ‘I’d been saying since Guatemala that I should cut my dreadlocks off for charity. I wanted to make sure it was in a country where we really felt a connection.’ Letters from the Sky... We would like to extend our sincere thanks to everyone who donated to the Little Mouse Emergency Fund during what was such a bleak winter in the orphanages of southern and central China until you helped the children stay warm. The snow has melted and the sun is shining, but there is still much to be done to bring the warmth of love to these children, every day. The love of a caring adult is as important for orphaned children as was the warmth of blankets and coal during the storms. Chenzhou SWI Director Shi said it best, below: “Love can melt the ice.” We have seen love melt the hearts of so many children – children who have blossomed under the loving care of our trained nannies, teachers, mentors, and foster parents. Old friends of Half the Sky and new ones, thank-you one and all – your response to this emergency was truly stunning. With such generosity of spirit we hope you will all pull with us over the long haul too, so that we can continue to bring the everyday warmth of love to every child living in a Chinese institution. The storms are over, but many children are still waiting to receive love in their lives … with your help, we will reach them all. ...Though he faced a long journey and cold weather, Richard Bowen purchased disaster-relief goods in Guangdong and headed to Chenzhou, which is 400 km away, in a Jeep. He arrived at our institution at 9 pm on Feb. 5, 2008. Because there was no electricity, he and the institution’s staff unloaded the goods by the faint light of candles. His arrival really meant a lot to us and the disaster-relief goods met our urgent needs... Yes, when faced with a natural disaster, there is no nationality difference in terms of love. True love can melt ice and snow and all difficulties can be overcome. ~Director Shi, Xiangqun, Chenzhou SWI This is the first time in my life I have witnessed anything that resembled the Chinese proverb, “Sending Coals in Snow” so intimately... Half the Sky’s dedication to the children will be known to the heavens and rattle the earth. This moment in time will forever be carved into my memory and I am for sure going to tell the stories to my children and their children. Please thank Mr. Bowen on my behalf and give him my utmost sincere wish that health and safety may be with such a generous soul at all times. ~Zhou Dan, HTS Infant Nurture Field Supervisor, Hi Jenny, …I am sitting in Shanghai and listening to the fireworks that mark the beginning of Chinese New Year...I have sent your emails to some friends back home in the states and have been floored by the response. My mother, my sister, my mothers friends have all quietly responded to my emails with simple notes that they understood the message and have quietly and without melodrama contributed money, and asked how they can do more. Thank you so much for letting me start the Rat year on such a positive and optimistic note. Best from fireworks-clouded Shanghai. ~PT I am reminded of a line translated from Suma Qian’s The Biography of Bo Yi and Shu Qi, “Only in the cold of the year can you know that pine and cypress are the last to turn brown.” Not only do I think this is a fitting passage about the response of the donors, but about Half the Sky itself. You appear to be the lonely tree in the middle of the deepest darkest winter that stands steadfastly refusing to lose its leaves. Our thoughts are with all the children, and all the HTS people supporting them. ~Ashley Howard,Washington, DC I know much of the crisis has passed, but I’m sure there is always need for more money. I do hope you receive the letter and donation-- my daughter especially wanted to send some of her lucky Chinese New Year money to keep the babies and little children warm in China. ~Patricia & Amy Ruorong Hoyle, Australia We would like to make sure that all the workers at the Chenzhou SWI who are using personal funds to help keep the orphanage going get reimbursed. We would like to pledge that we will make up the difference if the emergency fund does not have enough to reimburse these workers. Could you please let us know after everything has settled down if there is a discrepancy and we will give you the rest of the funds? We want to make sure that the heroic efforts of those workers are rewarded. ~Laura Callahan, New Jersey When I told our 14-year-old and 11-year-old daughters about the blizzards and natural disaster-related problems in China I also shared with them about what HTS is doing... We read your emails together, and prayed for help and hope for the orphans and everyone else involved. And then both girls disappeared, reappearing later with their entire savings to donate to the Little Mouse Emergency fund. I asked both girls if they were OK with giving up all their money, and they both replied “the orphans in China need it more than I do.” We feel privileged to be able to be a small part of the support effort. ~Bonnie Straka, Virginia 15 Looking Back — Looking Forward Inspiration from the early years of Half the Sky When Half the Sky turned five in 2003, we celebrated by hosting a national conference on nurture and education in China’s welfare institutions. That conference helped spread the word that nurture is as important as food and shelter for a child’s healthy development. The best evidence we had to support that message (with all due respect to the academics present!) were the first graduates of our Little Sisters Preschool in Hefei, five “delightful” girls who performed a story with music, pictures and dance. The narrator (photo below) was 8-year-old YuanYuan, a “timid, insensitive and closed child” when she entered our Preschool, who charmed everyone by performing with “precocious confidence and poise.” In this our 10th Anniversary year we are proud that thousands of children like YuanYuan have blossomed in our programs. We are also proud that our message about the importance of nurture has been heard so clearly by the Chinese government. So clearly that Half the Sky has been invited to introduce its programs at new Blue Sky Model Centers in every province and municipality in China in the next five years! Needless to say, the fiscal and logistical challenges of bringing our programs to so many more children so quickly are daunting. But whenever we wonder how we can possibly meet the Blue Sky challenge, we look back and remember all the children who have blossomed in our programs for inspiration. And we look forward to the children who are still waiting for the nurturing that should be their birthright. And it is then that we resolve that failure is not an option. . Now – Mae / Then – YuanYuan (center), 2003 ply an exceptional child and an outstanding student. mother, Diane Wright sent these updates from Pennsylvania, USA: 2008 – We brought Mae home on Easter when she was just turning 10. We have lots of animals--goats, a donkey and chickens to name a few -- and at first she was very frightened of them. Now she just loves them. She has her own horse (Tammy), two guinea pigs, and a rabbit (Mr. Beefy). She’s won two 4-H championships for showing rabbits. Mae is 14 and still an outstanding student. She also plays the flute very well. She is cautious and sometimes quiet, but she can be really funny. She loves hanging out with her friends and loves being on the swim team. It is amazing to think that she spent her first 10 years in an orphanage! 2004 – I attribute a lot of Jenna’s eagerness to learn to HTS. Within two months home, she had learned the alphabet, counted to 12, knew her colors and shapes and enough English words that we had no problems communicating. She went into kindergarten right on target for her age, and is now in first grade, doing great. She is strong in math and has become quite a good reader. Thank you, Hefei and thank you, Half the Sky! By the time we got Jenna she was Miss Personality and she still is — she is happy and outgoing. She makes us laugh, talks her head off, is interested in everything and always has something to tell you. She is like a lot of the children adopted from China--they have that spunk in them. They survive and they thrive. Hefei Little Sister YuanYuan (Mae) YuanYuan’s teachers and foster parents provided an update in 2004 just before Mae was adopted. Her mom Barbara Bytwerk provided the 2008 update from Michigan, USA: 2004 – YuanYuan grew up in the HTS preschool. She was transformed from a timid, insensitive and closed child into an active, outgoing, lovely girl with great curiosity. Among her peers, YuanYuan stands out for her patience, her concentration, and her meticulous nature. She is an avid learner, always asking questions and then trying to tackle the answers herself. She is a leader who inspires the other children. And she never fails to offer her opinions to friends and visitors alike. Now YuanYuan has graduated from our preschool and gone on to primary school. In this first year, her instructors tell us that she is sim- 16 2008 – Jenna is 11, is in fifth grade and is still very strong in math—(she recently placed third in a “Math 24” 5th grade contest). She is in Girl Scouts takes piano, sings in a chorus, and loves school. Now – Jenna (above) Then – HanRui (left), 2000 Hefei Little Sister HanRui (Jenna) Jenna entered our first, pilot Little Sister Preschool in Hefei in August, 2000 and was adopted a little more than a year later at almost 5 years-old. Her Now – Joy Qin (above)) Then – XiangQin (next page w/HTS Nanny), 2002 In Yiyang one of the dads went out in the early mornings to run. It seemed to me in the early light he was seeking the spirit of his daughter’s home. I found myself holding, chatting and encouraging the babies when ever I got the chance while working. I just felt we couldn’t do enough. Hefei Baby Sister Xiang Qin (Joy Qin) Joy Qin’s Mom Wendy Cideciyan sent us these updates from Zurich, Switzerland: 2004 – In March of 2002 we received our second daughter from the Hefei Children’s Welfare Institute. She was 11 months old. We brought 3 1/2 year old Rose Lan along on the trip because we were returning to her former home as well. The referral paperwork we’d received said our baby, whom we named Joy Qin, was lively, talkative and happy, but the baby we received was quiet, frightened, and sullen... Two days later, we were allowed to visit the orphanage. There, I was introduced to a woman they said was Joy’s Half the Sky Nanny. Joy, upon seeing her, went to pieces. For the first time, we saw her laugh and smile, and bounce up and down wildly. The nanny, with a big smile, kept pointing at me and saying, “Mama, Mama.” She chatted with Joy, hugged her and finally said, “Bye-bye” and she handed her to me. From that moment on Joy was a baby transformed. 2008 – Joy is 7 and has grown up to become an amazing little person. She is so many things all at once. She is charmingly sweet, intelligent, pretty, physically strong, mentally tough, verbal and very stubborn. When I talk with Joy, I often feel as if I am arguing my case with a clever lawyer. She simply does not accept “No” for an answer. Joy goes to Swiss public school where she is in the first grade. She loves to read and draw pictures. She also takes classes in English and Chinese. We went to China for five weeks in 2005. Our daughters spent three weeks in a Chinese kindergarten in Chengdu. The teachers were very loving. Our daughters heard mostly Chinese for three weeks. We experienced the exuberant joy of Children’s Day in China. We then went on to have the special experience of being part of the Yiyang HTS build crew. I have dream-like memories of Yiyang. Joy proved herself to be a good painter and had a great time hanging out with the nannies and the other children in our group. We loved going out in the hot steamy nights with the kids to play in the fountains of the park. There was loud music playing and a light show. It was very touching to watch these former orphans – now kids with their families – wildly splashy around with the local kids. China can be a magical place for children. Moonlight (my name for the 3-year-old albino child), walking like an old woman, is the boldest. She brings the ball and drops it at our feet. We pick it up and start teaching her to play. Soon Moonlight is awkwardly catching the ball when it’s fed into her hands from an inch away. She tilts her head, her pinkish eyes sliding around in their sockets as she tries to focus. She giggles when she holds the ball, proudly displaying it to our applause. Her smile is huge, greater than the distance to the other side of the world. I think of her with a family of her own. Why couldn’t she be happy, successful? She is so beautiful. Eventually, beautiful “Moonlight” joined her forever family and became Amelia. Her parents, Jay and Sharon Lillie sent these updates from Kentucky USA: 2004 – Amelia is doing very well! She has a healthy appetite, great confidence when meeting strangers, a definite sense of mischief and a good grasp of the English language. Thanks to all who worked on her behalf! Now – Amelia / Then – YuanMao (“Moonlight”), 2001 2008 – We adopted Amelia when she was four and she is now eight. Amelia likes drawing dogs and horses and flowers and likes doing cartwheels and handstands. Amelia still has fond memories of her Half the Sky preschool teacher, XiuRong Du (now a HTS Field Supervisor-Trainer), who used to let her play with her cell phone. Amelia still has a Blues Clues dog that XiuRong gave her with Chinese writing on it and wants to go to China visit XiuRong. Amelia has lots of friends and she still loves to eat. She is a joy to cook for. She will try all kind of foods, including vegetables. Chuzhou Little Sister YuanMao (Amelia) Half the Sky opened its third center in Chuzhou, Anhui in the summer of 2001 with the help of a volunteer workcrew that included Lynn Woods. She fell in love with a beautiful 3-year-old girl with a huge smile she nicknamed “Moonlight” and wrote about her in our newsletter: 2001 – In the late afternoon, four of us sit on children’s chairs gathered in a half circle at the entrance to the toddlers’ room. The two caregivers smilingly oversee as the children venture toward us with three small rubber balls. They are wearing loose split shorts, bare bottoms mooning us as they waddle and shuffle. Now – Lucy (above right with sister, Grace) Then – XinKe (on page 19), 2001 Continued on Page 19 17 Progress Report — Big Sisters & Brothers In Wuhan — A Room of Their Own One feature of all the Blue Sky Model Centers we establish will be a brightly painted Activity Room that our Big Sisters can call their own. As you can see in this first Half the Sky Blue Sky Model Center in Wuhan, the Activity Room has become a popular hangout for our Big Sisters and Brothers. The room is stocked with magazines, books, and a computer for surfing the net or learning to type. Our Big Sisters and Brothers will now also have the support of a mentor in addition to the tutors and teachers who help them make up for lost time. As every parent knows, peers become all important to children as they get older. Our mentors will help the children navigate emotional ups and downs and provide additional support just like Wuhan Big Sister Qin’s mentor (see story below), who helped her enjoy her piano lessons without putting too much pressure on herself to play perfectly. Both Qin and Lianyungang Big Sister JingJing (story next page) love the image of wings helping them fly, the theme of our new Give Me Wings website for kids. We hope Qin and JingJing’s stories will inspire you to help our Big Sisters soar. Please consider a sponsorship that will help provide tutors, mentors, and a room of their own for our Big Sisters, the tools that help them fly. For more information please check our website, www.halfthesky.org or call 1/510/525-3377. Qin — Music Has Given Her Wings cused on the mechanics of moving her fingers across the keyboard that she played without emotion. To compensate, Qin felt she had to completely memorize all the pieces she played. Because Qin put so much pressure on herself, learning was laborious. Qin’s piano teacher Xiao Ni kept helping her patiently and her Big Sisters mentor Hu Ping often talked with her, calming her down, encouraging her, and giving her suggestions. Gradually, Qin was able to relax and enjoy the music, which meant she became more motivated to study. At the time she was a student at the Hubei Shiyan Preschool Institute and she hoped learning piano would help her get a teaching job when she graduated. Six months after Qin entered the Big Sisters Program there were dramatic changes. Qin had clear learning goals and she worked hard to achieve them. Whenever she had time, she practiced and she also downloaded musical masterpieces and listened to them again and again and then thought carefully about them. At first Qin did not seem to have any rhythm, her fingers seemed stiff, and she was so fo- This spring Qin started an internship in the kindergarten at Wuhan University. Though When Qin entered our program last fall, she was thrilled to have the opportunity to study piano for the first time. 18 the work was very tiring, she insisted on practicing the songs assigned by her piano teacher no matter how late she came back to the institute. Qin realizes how much progress she’s made: “When I was interviewed by Xiaowen Music School [a prestigious school with branches all over China], I passed the interview successfully because I played the piano better than other candidates, which is why I was able to get a job there.” This May, Qin started a three-month internship. When she completes it, she will realize her dream of becoming a teacher! Qin, who is 19, loves to sing “Invisible Wings,” a popular song with the refrain: “I know I’ve always had a pair of invisible wings that take me flying and give me hope.” As she prepares to leave the institution for a career, the Wuhan staff cited those lyrics to wish her well: “Now music has given her wings, and we sincerely wish that she will fly higher and have a better future.” Lianyungang Big Sister JingJing “Wings that make me fly in the blue sky” I am a girl fond of dreaming. Since I was a child, I have dreamed of being a teacher, especially an art teacher. I am an ordinary girl, without a father or a mother or a warm family like average children. There was always a sense of loneliness in me and sometimes even an inferiority complex. Every time people chatted about their parents or family, I could see the happiness in their face. I would go away quietly and hide in the corner that belonged to me. I was only a spectator and an outsider. One afternoon last summer, the director told me that the institute had applied to be part of Half the Sky’s Big Sisters Program. As a result, I had the chance to take remedial classes and also learn whatever interests me. With the teacher’s help, I am now learning to sketch. I now know the basics of sketching because of guidance from the teacher. It is all because of the chance given by Half the Sky that I can walk out of inferiority, loneliness, helplessness, and can progress. I can only repay your love for me with my efforts. When I grow up and have a job, I will extend my love to children in welfare institutions, because I have grown up in such a place. In others’ eyes, I am without parents, but they don’t know I am actually the luckiest girl in the world. I grew up happily in this special family. There are so many people who love me. The road ahead is full of flowers. Half the Sky Foundation has offered me wings that make me fly in the blue sky. Looking Back - Looking Forward Continued from Page 17 Chuzhou Baby Sister XinKe (Lucy) Lucy’s Mom, Patti Waldmeir filed these updates: 2004 – My daughter, Lucy, had an HTS nanny-what a lucky girl! When I picked her up at 14 months she was fat, sassy and a tribute to her HTS nanny. Lucy is now 3 years old, and she is my sunshine child, bouncy and happy. She has a sister, age 4, and they are a dynamic duo, devoted to one another, even managing to share occasionally! A red thread definitely connected these girls--I can’t imagine how they could have lived without each other. And of course I don’t know how I could have lived without them. We have managed to persuade family to donate to HTS rather than giving us so many gifts! Now we have our own ‘little sister’ at Chuzhou, a baby we are sponsoring through the HTS Infant Nurture Program. This is but small thanks for the big gift Lucy received: a nanny to love her before I could get there to do that myself. 2008 – Lucy Helen Xinke Waldmeir, a 2002 graduate of the HTS infant nurture program at Chuzhou, is heading back to China! In June 2008, our family – Lucy, 7, from Chuzhou, Grace, 8, from Yangzhou, and single Mom Patti – will move to Shanghai to live for 3-5 years. Lucy, now a 1st grader in Maryland, will attend bilingual ChineseEnglish school – and hopefully learn to speak Mandarin finally! (Despite four years at Chinese school in the US, her Mandarin is only rudimentary!) L u c y ’s n e w Chinese adventure will obviously be hugely exciting and challenging for the whole family, but returning to visit the orphanage at Chuzhou could well turn out to be the most meaningful part of the whole trip. Perhaps, if we are lucky, we will even meet the HTS “granny” who took such good care of my darling daughter at Chuzhou. What a joy it will be to show her how little Lucy has grown! 19 kids4kids Little Mouse Emergency Fund Here are some very generous kids who reached out to help children stay warm and snug during the severe winter weather in southern & central China: Vivian & Peter Li took it upon themselves to write to Procter & Gamble, urging them to donate diapers. P&G responded by sending 30,000 diapers to help 664 children in 30 orphanages in southwest China where the cold weather was making it almost impossible to wash cloth diapers! Piggy Bank Money & Love This money is a gift of love for the children from our family. It consists of: $100 of haircuts, $175 of scrapbooking and photo supplies, $200 of birthday gifts received but not spent and $50 from three of my six children’s piggy banks. Amanda, Jordan, Austin, Julia, Alissa and Noah Fischer. 7-year-old Michaela Phelps (adopted from Chenzhou in 2001) gave up her allowance for two weeks to help the children there: “The people in Chenzhou are my ancestors and I need to help them.” 20 Girl Scout Troop 42, which is made of up girls adopted from China (and two from Vietnam) raised money for the Little Mouse Emergency Fund because, says troop leader Charlotte Ottinger: “The situation in China pulled at all of our heartstrings.” After her mom read the story, “Sam and the Lucky Money,” to the children at their Chinese New Year’s party, 7-year-old Halle NingXiang from Long Island, NY asked if the children would like to donate any money from their red envelopes to the Little Mouse Emergency Fund to help the children in China and collected $13.46. Math teacher Peggy Kump’s students at PS 120 sponsored a girl from Guilin by collecting pennies through the Common Cents Penny Harvest...7-year-old Ella McClain placed a bucket on the curb of her street with a sign that read “Save China” and collected $9.97. Catherine Lu (right in photo) started a “Reach for the Sky” club at Mission San Jose High School in Fremont, CA. Club members, including Cynthia Kang (left in photo) hosted a HTS table during “Giving Back Days” at the San Jose Children’s Discovery Museum and helped visitors make paper lanterns. Happy Birthday to the generous kids who collected HTS Donations instead of gifts! Becky Dubner, 12 (the sixth year in a row!); Tia Furness, 9; Emily Evans, 10;Tessa Burns, 7; Brianna Xinying Warren, 8; Paris Wenjuan Wilson, 7; Emma (9) & Julia (5) Hoffman; Lucy Roesch, 10; Grace Rotolo, 6; Lea Wenting, 8; Nolan Dolaher, 10; Rosie Detweiler, 7; Loral Hess & Jorgie Hampilos, 4; Eleanor (9). And more generous kids: Georgia Strigen (5) celebrated Valentine’s Day by sending money for the children impacted by the cold weather; 5-year-old Alyssa McPhillips withdrew money from her savings account to contribute to the Little Mouse Fund for Nanchang, Jiangxi where she is from. Mazel Tov to Millicent, Amelia & Erica! Millicent Jade Kasten The whole experience of becoming a Bat-Mitzvah is really exciting and spiritual to me. It has also got me to see some of the things in this world that I must do to help others, so I have become increasingly interested in the Half the Sky Foundation. This foundation helps children in China who are in orphanages, by providing money and volunteers, to help build nurturing and learning centers within the orphanages, to give children a better education, and more. Amelia Lachter My Bat Mitzvah was Saturday, November 17. I was adopted from Ningbo, Zhejiang Province in 1995 when I was 6 months old. When I was six years old, my mom and three of her friends (moms of my friends, also adopted from China) were on one of the original builds for Half the Sky at the orphanage in Hefei. Since that time, we have supported the efforts of Half the Sky. For that reason, I have asked that family and friends make donations to Half the Sky instead of giving me gifts...I have been studying Chinese for the past five years and I hope to return to China in a few years, with my mom, to participate in one of Half the Sky’s building projects. My name is Cara. I am 6 and a half. I was born in China. My Mom and Dad came to bring me to the USA. I want to give money to help the kids in China. My Chinese name is RuiPin. Love, Cara Fried. More kudos for generous kids! Ryan Travitz and other National Honor Society Students from Panther Creek High School in Cary, North Carolina held a fundraiser with help from the Red Bowl Asian Bistro & Constant Creative... Kristi & Lin Gable, Adrienne Roddy-Bale, Zoey Kapusinski, Christie Boyd and Fiona Kuipers organized a booth at the Bellevue Festival of Arts, made over 250 cards, and spent 11 hours at the booth. Erica Wei Laskin My Bat Mitzvah was December 1, 2007 at the Baltimore Hebrew Congregation. With some Bat Mitzvah gift money, I would like to sponsor a child at the Hefei Children’s Welfare Institute for a 2 year period and to sponsor a Big Sisters at the Hefei Children’s Welfare Institute for a month. On December 16, 1994, I was found at the Hefei train station. I was taken to the Hefei Children’s Welfare Institute and later adopted on May 28, 1995. My Chinese name is Wei Wanjun. 21 Now You Can Help Bring Nurturing Care To Every Orphanage in China! A HTS Blue Sky Sponsorhip Offers Training that Transforms Caregivers & Children Alike “I had no idea what happens in the early years is so important. No one ever taught me this. I only learned to bathe and feed my baby.” —A Half the Sky Nanny during her training in Shenzhen in 2007 Developing emotional bonds with one, special caregiver is as important to a child’s healthy development as food and shelter. But the staff at China’s social welfare institutions receives traditional training that emphasizes shelter, safety and order, not children’s equally important need to be cherished and to explore the world around them. For the last decade Half the Sky has been training caregivers in social welfare institutions across China about how important nurture is for healthy development and also teaching caregivers how to provide that nurture to institutionalized children, who have lost the love of family. These trainings have transformed caregivers and children alike: “Before, I expected the children to sit still and listen to me, but most of the time I found it was very hard for me to keep them focused on what I wanted them to learn. The children remained unresponsive and didn’t say much. “Now that I am using the new teaching approach with my special child, I have seen the improvement in her language use, as well as in her emotional development and social skills within such a short period. Within a few days, she began to smile at me when I came to see her. She began to talk with me about the pictures she and her friends had made. She even invited her friends to play with us. “It made me realize it was the environment, including the way the adults behaved, that had caused the developmental delays in our children. This came as a real shock to me.” —A Half the Sky preschool teacher during her training in 2001 Now for the first time Half the Sky has the opportunity to bring its training to caregivers at every orphanage in China! The trainings will take place at Blue Sky Model Centers to be established in every prov- 22 ince and municipality in China. So every time a new Blue Sky Model Center opens, Half the Sky faces the challenge and the wonderful opportunity of transporting caregivers to that Center for specialized training that emphasizes the importance of nurture for children’s healthy development. Our challenge is to raise enough funds to establish our four programs at every Blue Sky Model Center AND to raise enough funds to train staff at every orphanage in the province. The first trainings will take place in Hubei Province at the Blue Sky Model Center in Wuhan this June. If we meet our fundraising goals, we will soon have the opportunity to train caregivers at new Blue Sky Model Centers in Guizhou, Zhejiang, Heilongjiang, Sha’anxi and Liaoning provinces and in Chongqing! That means hundreds of caregivers who will soon be able to learn about how to provide child-centered care if we can raise the funds to provide that training. Please help us reach more children by becoming a Blue Sky Training Sponsor. When we first started our work, we faced skepticism, but now institutions are clamoring for our training because administrators have seen so many remarkable transformations: Blue Sky Training Sponsorships Can you help us bring the essential and lifechanging message about the importance of nurturing care to caregivers at every orphanage in China by giving the gift of one or more Blue Sky Training Sponsorships? You will receive a beautiful certificate in honor of your gift and the knowledge that you are helping to bring nurturing care to so many more children. Proceeds from each Blue Sky Training Sponsorship will help: •Cover transportation and living expenses for one caregiver’s journey to the Blue Sky Model Center in her province/municipality •Cover the cost of training one caregiver over several weeks •Cover the cost of developing a support network to help each trainer caregiver make the transition to child-centered, nurturing care at the institution where she works We need your help now! “Since we started cooperating with Half the Sky Foundation, great changes have happened in our children. Little babies do not only lie on the bed, but have nannies to cherish them; older children do not play with no aim, but have teachers to teach them—the children are not lonely anymore.” —Director Feng of the Xinyang Social Welfare Institute in 2007 There are so many lonely children waiting for the loving touch of a special caregiver. The children should not have to wait longer. Please help us bring the love of family to children who have lost theirs by giving the gift of a Blue Sky Training Sponsorship. Can you donate an item for Half the Sky’s online auction? Quilts, gourmet dinners, a week at a beach house, artwork, an autographed copy of your book, a special birthday party (we already have a science-themed party!), hand-made dolls, etc. These are items that spark lots of bids during our annual eBay auction. Can you help us make this year’s auction the most successful ever by donating an item? If you can help, please email us at volunteer@halfthesky.org. Donation Form for Mail and Fax Yes! $50 $100 $300 I want to celebrate Half the Sky’s 10th Anniversary and Give More Kids Wings! $600 $900 I want to be a HTS Child Sponsor. I pledge Other $____________ $25 per month or I want to be a HTS Exclusive Child Sponsor. I pledge $300 per year. $50 per month or $600 per year. I prefer that the Baby Sister/Little Sister I sponsor be from (orphanage) __________________________ ________________ I want to be a Big Sisters Sponsor. I commit to a pledge of $75 per month or $900 per year I want my Big Sisters sponsorship donation to be used for the Big Sisters General Fund University Fund I want to be a Blue Sky Training Sponsor. I commit to a pledge of $420 per year $35 per month or I want to be a HTS Guardian to support an endowment fund for ongoing support for all HTS programs. I commit $3,000 with a monthly pledge of $83 per month, or $1,000 per year for 3 years. I want to be a HTS Angel. My unrestricted gift of $5,000 or more is enclosed. Please contact me about including HTS in my estate plan or current financial planning. I want my donation of any amount to help support (orphanage)____________________________ _____________________ I have special instructions for my donation that I am giving as a gift or giving in honor of a friend/family member. Please Specify: __________________________________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________________________ To double/triple the amount of my donation, I have enclosed my company’s matching gift application. 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