abc`s of attraction - ABCs Of Attraction
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abc`s of attraction - ABCs Of Attraction
ENTERTHEPUA BY JT AKA ‘THE ASIAN PLAYBOY’ N O I T C A R T T A F O ABC’S SNEAK PREVIEW! EBOOK the soon of w ie ev pr k ea sn e iv us cl ex e th to Welcome n coach JT tio ac tr At Of s C’ AB om fr k oo eb ed as to be rele ‘The Asian Playboy.’ ABC’S OF ATTRACTION CONTENTS 3. Introduction 4. The ABC Model 6. Creating Basic Attraction 10. Kino Compliance Tests 14. Creating Sexual Interest 16. Kiss Closing 18. Interracial Dating Tips Disclaimer: You acknowledge by reading further that the views expressed throughout are solely for entertainment purposes and that APB Publishing Inc. is not responsible for your use of information expressed. You are responsible for your own use or misuse of said practices. Now lets move on. www.ABCattraction.com 2 INTRODUCTION Whether you’ve downloaded this eBook at rock bottom with selfloathing acting as a cancer on your happiness, or simply because you want to take your game to a truly unstoppable level; you’ve come to the right place. So let me proudly introduce you to a sneak preview of The ABC’s Of Attraction’s soon to be released eBook. This work represents several years of practice, resulting in new pick-up methods that I have meticulously broken down every step of the way to ensure that you are successful. After all I am an aerospace engineer...but one with a difference. Having started my training with Mystery I went on to become what Asian Week called: “the world’s greatest Asian pick-up artist.” Having trained hundreds of men who were almost exact shadows the anti-socilite I once was, I decided that it was time to put pen to paper and pass this information on so that you too can change your life in almost un-imaginable ways. I hope that you enjoy absorbing these snippets of game, which are only a preview of things to come. Be sure to sign up to our newsletter when you finish. WHY BOTHER? Why are you sat reading this? It’s a hugely important question to ask, because many men come to me confused as to why they are even taking the time and the emotional journey to emerse themselves in ‘the game.’ Do you want to have as much wild, rapant sex as possible? Sure. Do you want to be with as many beautiful women as God and Government will allow? Of course. But for many men, it’s even more than that, it’s about finding the woman that you dream about every night and winning her over as if you are in the midst of the most perfect movie scene ever made. I’ve had guys come to me with no ambition to have one night stands because they are looking for more than that and there’s no shame in that whatsoever. Because the game is not one of numbers or bragging rights, it’s about having the ability to seduce whichever woman you want to. From this very moment, you will never again need to settle for second best ever again. You will have the confidence to try the relationship thing and know that if things go wrong, you can fall back on ‘the game’ to find someone else to fall in love with. Because, in truth, your confidence levels will dictate your success rate, which is probably the perfect point for me to start at. www.ABCattraction.com 3 OVERVIEW THE ABC MODEL - Foreword UNDERSTANDING THE BASIC CONCEPTS JT, The Asian Playboy’s ABC’s Of Attraction model is a completely unique PUA concept that is especially effective amongst those interested in inter-racial dating, though not limited to them. These concepts truly are as easy as ABC though, in truth, this tiny, twenty page ebook is not long enough to give you an in depth knowledge of the newest techniques brought to light by the twice voted ‘worlds greatest Asian pick-up artist. Watch out for the full ebook coming soon, for now, here’s a preview and to kick off this freebie treat, here’s an overview of exactly what the ABC Model is all about. A = ATTRACT AND APPROACH The ABC model will teach you, vitally, to start creating attraction before approaching, which makes opening simple and effective. This is done through Body Language Positioning (BLP), which is a technique that I will teach you in the full eBook, following this with direct and indirect openers. www.ABCattraction.com 4 OVERVIEW B = BUYING TEMPERATURE As you should know, buying temperature is the woman’s emotional receptivity and her level of general attraction to a PUA she is in set with at a given time. To build up buying temperature you can use magic, humour, annecdotes, dancing, thumb wrestling, cavemanning or fake-fighting etc. The idea is to keep giving her more and more reasons to become attracted to you. C = COMFORT This does what is says on the tin, and I’ll teach you exactly how to make your target feel comfortable with talking to you, touching you, dancing with you, kissing you and everything that will happen as a result of that. D = DIRECT INTEREST Many PUA’s teach men not to show any form of direct interest, but I think it’s important. You must let the target know that you are interested in her as many women are apprehensive to make the first move. E = EXTRACT / ESCALATION The importance of escalating from being someone who is interesting and that the target is attracted to on a friendship basis, to being her partner for the night is a difference you must understand. You can do all the clever little tricks and games in the world but unless you can sexual escalate her and make her hot under the collar, then you are simply going to sit and become an entertainer. F = FUCK This is about more than just the obvious. When most men get into the Game, they’re looking for a relationship and if you can coax your target into your bed for the night, you still don’t have foundations to base any further relationships on, especially if you live in your parents basements. This method is about changing your life to live it exactly how you wish to. www.ABCattraction.com 5 BASIC ATTRACTION CREATING ATTRACTION THE ASIAN PLAYBOY METHOD Almost every technique that you will learn in this preview to my ebook will ultimately, in one way or another, aim to flick the multiple attraction switches that women base their choice of sexual partner on. In the attraction stages men are generally focused on exterior beauty. But women find power, personality, charm, your sense of humor, sexuality, dominance and everything else that isn’t determined by your genetics or your wallet size to be an aphrodisiac. So whilst many women cannot possibly compete with more beautiful counterparts, un-attractive men can compete with rich, better looking people. So let’s start by going over a few of these switches. Safety: You must show her you are safe to be with. This isn't intuitive to most guys, but for women it's always a concern either consciously or unconsciously. Rape, mugging and assault are all real dangers that women face. The nice thing about being Asian, however, is that we are almost always considered safe. Many times I've pulled girls to my car or the hotel and they simply felt safe with me because they knew nothing bad would happen. No roofies, no rape, just a whole lot of fooling around that may or may not turn into something else. www.ABCattraction.com 6 BASIC ATTRACTION Ambition or Security: You must show ambition, motivation and/or job/financial security. This goes back to my previous statement that there are three main attraction switches and job security falls under the money/power switch while ambition is more of an overriding emotion of passion and drive. That’s Game. You should be passionate about what you do or what you’re striving for. That’s what makes a struggling artist/musician so attractive to women. They’re passionate about what they do and their artistic expression. It’s something that’s also infectious and adds an element of adventure, energy and intrigue to a woman’s life. OK, that’s it for now. Each main attraction switch: Looks, Money/Power, and Game have multiple sub-switches that can be triggered in order to warm a woman up to you. Before I go any further, I should also mention that there is a massive difference between basic attraction and sexual attraction. We’ll move onto sexual attraction later on in the book, so for now concentrate on building sets that are interested in conversation and then add some of the material on building sexual interest later. www.ABCattraction.com 7 BASIC ATTRACTION Being Different: This switch falls under the heading of pure Game. This is where your DHVs (Demonstrations of High Value) come in (remember, you can’t simply be unique, you have to CONVEY it). You must demonstrate and communicate the uniqueness of your life experiences. I convey this by being the “Adventurer”, the world-traveling playboy. I talk about all the places I’ve been to, the people I’ve met, and so forth. I pull them into MY reality because they’re intrigued by it. They want to know what my reality and frame is like because, like the majority of females, their frames are weak or they’re not satisfied with their lives. Your life is different, unique, fun, crazy, or whatever, but pull them into your life. Being The Prize: This is part social proof and part Game. It’s about showing confidence, leadership, authority and popularity. Girls want someone that other girls will envy and who men will admire, she wants to brag about you, dream about you and at times challenge you (to see if you’re congruent with that frame). There are some sub-switches within this that you should remember. A) Leader Of Men: Lead your entourage. Show that you can befriend an entire group of strangers. Like Mystery says, “Lead the men, and the women will follow.” One tactic that I will do with a wingman is that if we’re both in set with different girls, I’ll roll by and say, “Hey man, you cool? You need a drink?” The pre-selection switch is thrown simultaneously in two sets. His set thinks he’s cool because he’s got someone with him and my set thinks I’m cool because I’m taking care of my boys. www.ABCattraction.com 8 BASIC ATTRACTION B) Dominance: This is actually part of sexual attraction. It’s about leading, taking control of both conversation and physicality. It’s cavemanning, leading around by the hand, and so forth. You can dominante with kino and you can dominate verbally. It’s also being very knowledgeable about a subject that you can educate her on. Now you’re in the student/teacher frame. And guess who’s the naughty student? C) Social Proof (Authority): This is basically knowing someone who can get you in. It’s knowing the bouncers, promoters, and so forth. It’s being an enabler and making everything go smooth. Your drinks come first, people part before you and so on. We’ll talk in more detail in the full eBook about befriending bouncers/promoters. D) Social Proof (Women and Jealousy): This is knowing women and having plenty of female friends or befriending a girl that night and upgrading. With female social proof, almost EVERY single attraction & pre-selection switch is thrown. You’re safe, you’re popular and you’re sexual. Work on this skill because it can make life and women soooo much easier. It’s walking around with a girl playing FUCK/MARRY/KILL. www.ABCattraction.com 9 KINO COMPLIANCE WE HAVE CONTACT - KINO COMPLIANCE Your Verbal Game can be the best in the world, but, as I found out in my early days as a pick-up artist, if you are unable to improve your paralinguistic (non-verbal) game then you will become stuck. This is exactly what happened me and it was my biggest sticking point for months on end, which meant that my verbal game was going to waste. Because without good kino you cannot escalate sexually, so you can wave goodbye to a one night stand, bathroom fuck or even a moment of raunchy kissing in a quiet corner. General Attraction is different from Sexual Attraction and you must work out the difference between the two by testing whether your target is attracted to you as a person, or as a sexual partner. I’m quite simply going to give you ten, pre-field tested kino compliance techniques, which have transformed the game of so many students who were stuck in that same verbal rut as I was all those years ago. One of the most amazing things that I noticed in the testing stages, is that testing for Sexual Attraction itself actually flipped the right switches and turned up her emotional buying temperature. www.ABCattraction.com 10 KINO COMPLIANCE 1. POINT AND CLICK: This one is really easy even for the novice amongst us. When in set for more than five minutes, start thinking where to maneuver or sit. Touch her shoulder, smile, point a short distance away, and smoothly glide over there. Maintain eye contact, your smile and a steady flow of conversation. If she changes her body language and moves with you, it’s a sign that you’re at least on the right track and that she is willing to distance herself from her home, base or friends and be isolated with you. 2. KISS AND KINO LADDER: Style’s Evolution Phase Shift is probably the most infamous of our PUA Kino Escalation tactics. You can also do the “Kiss me here, kiss me there, now kiss me riiiiight here…” to go from cheek kisses to full on makeout. Whatever the tactic, the kino/kiss ladder starts small and ends up big while maintaining a sexualized conversation. 3. SENSUAL SHAKE AND GLIDE: When you’re introduced to a girl after some time, you’ll more than likely shake hands. Feel free to do so but then hold your palms upwards without releasing her hand, but also without holding her hand in place. The idea is to see if she’ll maintain the kino and hold hands with you or pull back. If it lasts a while, you can start holding hands. 4. GENTLEMANS GRACE: This is similar to the above except you flourish your hand out and kiss her hand while smiling at her. Yes, it’s archaic and seemingly “anti-PUA”, but think about it. One, you’ve initiated sexual kino and two, just gaze into her face, lift her lips, smile and observe her reaction. Is she turned on? Attracted? Embarrassed? Freaked out? Remember, you use compliance tests to figure out where you are in the sarge and then to progress to larger ones like isolation, venue changing, and F-Closing. 5. CAVEMANNING: Women love to have their picture taken. They even practice their poses in the mirror and come up with photogenic tactics. So the next time you get a picture taken with a www.ABCattraction.com 11 KINO COMPLIANCE girl, pick her up! Literally off of the ground. I’m 5”6 and slim, don’t get me wrong I won’t pick up a “big boned” girl, but I’ve lifted my fair share of tanorexics, spinners, and flyers. 6. PAPA’S KNEE: I should invent a PUA name for this one, but it’s essentially a play off of the very simple Hi-5 test. This is best done when seated and semi-isolated. When you Hi-5, casually bring her hand down to your knee, place it there, and let go while still maintaining constant eye contact and conversation. Don’t force her to maintain kino, you’re simply trying to see if she is physically and sexually compliant towards touching you. If she takes her hand away like a shamefaced monkey then you simply consider it a sign post for you to escalate more. But if the latter happens... 7. BOOTY BUMP AND GRIND: Booty bump her playfully with your ass to her ass. See if she reciprocates. Hell, take her to the dance floor and ascertain her level of “grindability.” In either case, don’t push it, simple see if she responds positively. Of course, it helps to have rhythm. 8. LAP TEST: Make her sit on your lap by motioning, patting your knee, or verbally conveying it. Again, this isn’t necessarily an escalation move though it could turn into one. The primary goal is to see where she’s at on the Sexual Attraction thermometer. Cold means more work. Hot lap grinding means it’s time to think logistics and extraction. For the more timid amongst you, simply motion for her to sit next to you while you press your thigh against her thigh and knee. Again, judge her reaction if she stays in constant kino with you or not. 9. PROMENADE: This is a fairly old technique but is so widely used for a very good reason! When you walk with her, simply put out your elbow and see if she holds onto it.Advanced versions could include both hands, palm squeezing, tickling, booty bumps and so on, just have fun with it. www.ABCattraction.com 12 KINO COMPLIANCE 10. THE TRUST TEST: This is a fairly old technique but is so widely used for a very good reason! When you walk with her, simply put out your elbow and see if she holds onto it.Advanced versions could include both hands, palm squeezing, tickling, booty bumps and so on, just have fun with it. A FEW TIPS: Alone, these techniques will get you un-thinkably good results, but I’ve also got a few tips to share with you that should help you to improve this area of your game. Firstly you want to enter her ‘intimacy bubble’ when you deliver your compliance test, not that you should come across as weird or creepy, but if you’re in this space then she is going to be much more willing to comply, just don’t get too close to her. Always try to deliver a compliance test with a small touch on the shoulder or form of kino, again not in a creepy manor, but it helps to physically stimulate her. Throughout the whole routine you should be smiling. And finally, you must remember that this is a test. Many newbie PUA’s try too hard to get the target to jump through their hoops, simply give her the option to and if she doesn’t don’t panic, you just need to put in more work. www.ABCattraction.com 13 SEXUAL INTEREST BUILDING SEXUAL INTEREST - MAKE HER WANT YOUR COCK, NOT YOUR CONVERSATION There will come a point in your journey into the seduction community whereby you can number-close almost every set that you open, yet your sticking point is that you can’t seem to convert any of these number closes to sex. So what’s the point? Our techniques teach you how to be an entertaining, funny conversationalist that people want to be around, but you’re not a stand up comedien and being a good social character is only one part of getting laid. After a year in the community I’d get consistent number-closes, the occassinal make-out or blow job, but I couldn’t seem to get to the rockstar level of having the ability to lay waste to entire female social circles by sleeping with every one of them. In truth, you have to step well beyond your comfort zone and take your game to the next level to get over this hurdle. This means that when you reach the point of comfort with the target, you must start to build sexual interest very quickly. www.ABCattraction.com 14 SEXUAL INTEREST “Talk to the pussy, LOOK AT THE FACE!” As one pick-up artist once put it, you must “talk to the pussy, look at the face.” You need to build material into your routine which is ultra-flirty and try your absolute best to make her horny, if you can achieve that, then she is yours. Some months ago now I got propositioned by a tall, really attractive blonde to swing with her husband. It wasn’t the first time this had happened and I’m sure it won’t be the last to be honest. I had to ask myself what it was about my character that made her think I must be so good in bed that she would happily fuck me whilst her husband watched. Well this is simple, as a PUA you must demonstrate higher-value (DHV) but if you want to get really good, you must display higher sexual-value and sub-communicate the fact that you are good in bed. HOW TO DISPLAY HIGHER SEXUAL VALUE: Social proof - use other beautiful women and sets to show your true value Body language - remain calm and relaxed even when she gets sexual with you The look - dress as confidently as you act and look like a care-free person Being non-needy - do what you want to do, not what she wants to do I freely admit to being a man-whore, while my 2.5 and 3 some were great experiences, I won’t do the cross swords action (just my own issue) so I demurred the offer. Does this happen all the time? Hell no. But by putting it out there, women will pick it up and some will take you up on it. Sexual experience and the ability to convey it trumps any kind of opener, tactic, story or technique. Pushing for sex, slamming her in the evalator to makeout with her, having her rub your cock in the middle of the dance floor, phone-sex and good dance game is what will get you laid...bottom line. www.ABCattraction.com 15 KISS CLOSING 3 WAYS TO KISS CLOSE A TARGET Kissing is comfort, not sexual - You should realize that kissing- a simple kiss on the lips- is actually a comfort move that conveys direct interest, without escalating too fast. So you can use a simple kiss first so you know she’s comfortable and willing to be intimate. When the situation is right, then go for full makeout, which is sexual. Don’t be a chump, remember that kissing your target is a matter of ‘if’ not ‘when’. Should she turn you down, please don’t run away, just persist. Don’t get angry. It just means “not yet” or “try harder.” You’re simply going to talk, have fun, do your thing and then try again later on. So here are just a few ways to get kissing... GET DANCING: First of all, kissing in a dance club is socially acceptable and at times an expectation. When on the dance floor, a girl’s Anti-Slut Defense (ASD) is significantly lowered and at this time you also have her isolated. The disadvantage, of course, is that you can’t do too much verbal game on her like a soft, slow, sensuous tonality. So that’s why I like to engage the girl first, have her hooked, and then take her to the dance floor in order to escalate. When you’re dancing, completely change the speed so that you’re slow dancing. Yes this is odd because www.ABCattraction.com 16 KISS CLOSING everyone else will be moving quickly to the beat and by being different you have just created your own little world, the two of you against everyone else. Always maintain eye contact with a slight smile and try not to look anywhere else but directly into her eyes. Then go for it, don’t think about it too much, just go for it and don’t back down. Evolution Phase Shift: This is from Neil Strauss (aka Style) that’s typically performed when isolated where the two of you can talk and where you can more effectively deploy your verbal game. The Evolution Phase Shift also has the added advantage of putting you in the role of educator and her the student. You can look it up on Neil’s site, but it’s a great technique which I use alongside a lot of my material. On a Scale of One to Ten - This one I’ve been experimenting with that’s even more low tech than the Evolution Phase Shift. I’ve used Mystery’s “Do you want to kiss me?” and just didn’t like it. Even though you have a ready response if rejected “I didn’t say you could, you just looked like you had something on your mind” the question sets the frame of a Yes/No question and sometimes a maybe. What I’ve been using and field testing is when isolated, I’ll ask, “So on a scale of 1 to 10... how incredibly sensual and electric would it be if we kissed?” WHAT TO EXPECT: For much more detail about k-closing get my full ebook. I’ll even teach you how to build Neutro Linguistic Programming (NLP) into these kissing routines. These concepts work around implanting an affirmative image in her mind about the two of you kissing. By priming her in this way, you’ve just increased your chances of her complying and wanting to kiss you back. www.ABCattraction.com 17 INTERRACIAL TIPS INTERRACIAL DATING TIPS - The Common Misconceptions FOR ASIAN MEN The more I teach, the more of a pattern I start to see emerging in my Asian clientele, namely race limiting beliefs that stop them from hooking up with certain women. Let me clear something up, in this world there are women whose racial preference is not Asian men, but I see forums full of people debating why this is and who’s to blame. It’s time to get over it, accept that this does happen and work out what you’re going to do to break down these boundaries. In my full ebook I’m going to show you exact techniques that are perfectly adapted to break your race limiting beliefs and get you any woman you want, regardless of their ethnicity. For now, just understanding why these beliefs exist will begin to help you overcome the problems that you face and grow your confidence levels. So absorb this information and understand every single point so that you can stop making excuses as to why certain women may or may not be un-attracted to you. www.ABCattraction.com 18 INTERRACIAL TIPS “I only want white women (or whatever)!” Yes, people have certain preferences (I like big breasts for example) but here the attraction is based purely on person’s skin coloration. Similar to Asian women who only like white guys, or white men who like Asian girls, there’s a certain amount of reverse racism going on here where the assumption is that white is better. I’m not going to lie, I went through that phase myself hooking up with as many blonde, blue eyed, big boobied women as I could, but I’m over that now having traveled all over the world and dipped my wick in the veritable rainbow. “I don’t deserve white women (or whatever)!” This one crops up quite a bit as well where the assumption is that “I’m Asian, I don’t deserve a beautiful (insert type here) woman.” Whatever the cause, this is a very damaging belief system that can effectively undermine any man in his quest for tail. Killer Instinct: I wrote about this trait as an essential characteristic to have in order to be successful at the Game of pick up. It’s essentially that fire in your belly, that competitive edge in you that says, “Yeah, I want her and I’m going to win!” It’s that desire to win and succeed and overcome any obstacle that you face that gets the adrenaline pumping when you enter a venue and realize how wonderfully hostile the bar is that’s overflowing with AMOGs and hot sorority chicks. With places like that, see them as a target rich environment full of opportunity to test myself and have a lot of fun. Direct interest or sexuality: This one’s borderline Inner Game or Outer Game. Whether it’s due to cultural conservatism or whatever, there’s a fear of rejection when you make a SOI (Statement of Interest), go direct, go for the kiss or just conveying sensuality to a woman you’re interested in. Nice Guy Syndrome: This is pretty much universal, but it needs to be said nonetheless. My view of “Nice Guys” are that they are the male equivalent of female sluts. One gives sex freely in order gain validation from men while “Nice Guys” give niceness (in the form of time, money, etc) freely in order to gain validation from women. They want people to like them at their own expense which can translate into numerous Outer Game phenomena (like body language, expensive dates, etc.). www.ABCattraction.com 19 INTERRACIAL TIPS Shyness: Here we have a true anathema to Asian men. The inability to have confidence around people (especially women) and thusly convey confidence as well as personality. You could be the coolest, funniest dude around, but if you’re too shy around women to convey those attractive aspects of yourself, then you’re just another quiet Asian guy. Nerdiness/Follower: Another Asian phenomena that has to do with the way the family structure and priorities work. Get good grades, go to school, get a degree, get a good job, and THEN get the girl. In other words, become a non-thinking cog of a greater machine and join the rat race. And once you HAVE money/status, THEN you can get the girl. Which preassumes that said collegiate Asian is only worthy to have women once he has money. Not a good belief system in my mind. Fresh Off the Boat (or FOBs): This translates directly into cultural understanding like fashion, hair style, sense of humor as well as accents. Can’t really blame the guys since they moved here recently, but it does hold them back if they don’t understand the social nuances as well as coming from a background that’s even more steeped in some of the detrimental Inner Game aspects mentioned previously. However, one thing I’ve noticed about FOB students is that while they’re coming from a different cultural background that’s alien to the women that they are gaming, they themselves truly have a determination to succeed and step outside of their comfort zone (I mean, they are living in a foreign or newly adopted country after all). These aren’t applicable to all Asian men, far from it, but it is a noticeable tendency and one that will hopefully change in time as more and more Asian PUAs (Pick Up Artists) gain the limelight and start coming into our own. WHAT TO EXPECT: Quite honestly we’ll expand so much on this area in the full eBook. Although this only gives a brief understanding of what race-limiting beliefs men have, I want to show you the more important aspects of how to actually overcome these feelings. I use a whole host of techniques to get Asian men approaching all kinds of women regardless of their race and they almost always get success! www.ABCattraction.com 20