Trinity Episcopal Church, Swarthmore Summer 2014 Trinity
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Trinity Episcopal Church, Swarthmore Summer 2014 Trinity
Trinity Episcopal Church, Swarthmore Summer 2014 A letter from The Office of the Bishop Episcopal Diocese of Pennsylvania Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Dear Friends in Christ, As of May 20, the marriage of same sex couples is now allowable in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania, and I rejoice in this development.The understandings of what constitutes marriage and family have evolved significantly over time and especially the last few generations. The shape of marriage has changed vastly over the centuries and the change continues. It is clear that the definition of what and who constitutes a family is under examination and open to modification and new understandings of the nature of human relationships. It is the work and ministry of the Church to bring people to unity with God and one another; it is the very nature of marriage to show forth through intimate human relationships “…the mystery of the union between Christ and his Church.” (Paul’s Letter to the Church in Ephesus/The Book of Common Prayer, page 423) For several decades, The Episcopal Church has been faithful in seeking understanding in what God is calling us to in relation to matters of sexuality and marriage. I have come to believe that marriage is the union of two people to live together in fidelity, love and unity until death parts them whether the partners in the marriage are of the same or different genders. I pray that all married persons become ever more signs to a broken world of the unity God intends for all people and that they become channels of God’s love into the lives of those around them. As Bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Pennsylvania, I give my permission to the Priests of this Diocese to marry persons of the same gender, though in accord with our Canons, no Priest is required to do so. In addition to following the legal requirements of the State, the Canonical policies and procedures that apply to heterosexual couples desiring to be married are now extended to include persons of the same gender who wish to be married. Thankfully, The Episcopal Church is part of a broad catholic and reformed Christian tradition that allows for unity even in the midst of disagreement. Not all members of this Church will agree with this decision. In The Episcopal Church, there is room for all people of good conscience and good will toward their neighbor to gather as one around God’s altar. Only liturgical form approved by the General Convention of The Episcopal Church will be used (attached: The Witnessing and Blessing of a Lifelong Covenant). The rubrics of the rite state that the bishop may authorize modifications of the Pronouncement, and I authorize the following modification: "Now that N. and N. have given themselves to each other by solemn vows, with the joining of hands and the giving and receiving of rings, I pronounce that they are married, in the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Those whom God has joined together let no one put asunder." May God bless us all, and God “…grant that all married persons find their lives strengthened and their loyalties confirmed.” (The Book of Common Prayer, page 430) Faithfully, Bishop Daniel Full Signature Clifton Daniel, 3rd Bishop, Episcopal Diocese of Pennsylvania Trinity Episcopal Church * 301 North Chester Road * Swarthmore, PA 19081 * 610.544.2297 PARISH OFFICE HOURS: Monday-Thursday. 9:30 to 3:30 pm, Friday 9:30 to 2:30 Telephone. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .610-544-2297 Office E-Mail: nancy.holstein@verizon.net Website: www.trinity-swarthmore.org The Reverend Thomas Cook, Rector The Reverend Joyce Tompkins, Associate Nancy K. Holstein..........….Office Manager Denise Finney…. Financial Manager Greg Piscorik…………………………………..…Sexton James Smith.............…………………..Director of Music Suzanne Ortoleva.................................................... Editor John Ogden …. ……………………..……….Webmaster VESTRY Term Expires 2015 Rebecca Clemmer Tom Izbicki John Ogden Mary Pipan Term Expires 2016 Susan LaShomb RW Ann Marie Stanton Joe German PW Mike Donoghue Interim Treasurer Mike Donoghue Term Expires 2017 Agnes Wozniak Rosemary Fox Secretary Suzanne West ***************************************************************************** TRINITY’S MISSION To be a vital Christian community called by God to support each other in our faith, as we pray, worship, proclaim the Gospel, and promote justice, peace, and love. By these means we seek to restore all to unity with God and each other in Christ. HAVE YOU REMEMBERED TRINITY CHURCH IN YOUR WILL? In keeping both with the need for sustainable use of resources and the desire to ensure that all members of Trinity Church have access to news and highlights of our parish life, THE CHRONICLE will be published three times a year and made available both electronically and also in print version to those who prefer it. Let us know that you want to receive future editions of the print version of THE CHRONICLE by calling the church office at 610-544-2297. Let us know that you want to receive future editions via an email link by sending an email to nancy.holstein@verizon.net. Trinity Thrift Shop thanks you for your generous donations and support! Gently used kitchenware, clothing, small appliances, linens, books, “treasures”, etc. may be dropped off anytime on the tables outside the Thrift Shop. Want to be a part of the Thrift Shop? Join us Thursday mornings from 9:00 – 11:30 AM. Opening Sale: Friday, Sept. 5th 8:30 – 1:30 p.m. The Rt Rev Clifton Daniell ordained Martha Dixon Tucker to the Sacred Order of Deacons on Saturday June 14, 2014 at African Episcopal Church of St Thomas , Philadelphia, Pa. Trinity Church is Martha’s sponsoring church. The sacred Order of Deacons is one of three ordained ministries within the Episcopal Church. The other two being priest and bishop. Historically the liturgical role of deacon has been reading the Gospel and assisting at the Eucharist table. The word deacon comes from the Greek diakonos meaning servant. Deacons serve in a variety of pastoral ministries in their communities. Many people within the church are “vocational” deacons. Trinity Church sponsored Denise Leo as a vocational deacon some years ago. Martha will be a transitional deacon serving in a parish for a period of time before being ordained a priest and taking additional priestly duties. Most recently Trinity Church saw Nora Johnson in this role. – Carol Williamson Reading Discussion Group First Wednesday of the month, 10:30-noon, Cleaves Room. All are welcome; just read the book and come to discuss. Recommend a book you yourself have read. July 2 Maisie Dobbs by Jacqueline Winspear Mystery set in post WWI England Aug 6 The Red Garden by Alice Hoffman Multi-generational saga Sept 3 Time to be in Earnest by PD James Famed mystery Writer’s memoir Congratulations to Our Rite 13 Noah Atsaves Sabrina Caputo Candy Cook John Crawford Andrew Manwaring Ana Mashek Thank you to our teachers June Clifford Dianne Hull Megan Slootmaker Mary & Brian Deppen Deborah Amato Kane Laura Methany John Seaman Jodi Caputo History of Trinity An Excerpt from “A Hundred Years Journeying” By Harry Toland, December, 1994. “If ever a church’s refugee sponsorship turned out well, it was Trinity’s of the Oliver family. The church may have reached out initially, but it won a family of lasting loyalty and support, a family of friends. Trinity church originally thought it was sponsoring two families, the Olivers and an uncle and nephew of another family. The uncle however, went to New York and the nephew followed him there. In October, 1962, Women of Trinity hosted a lunch for Ofelia Oliver attended by more than 100 women. It was described as “a most happy occasion.” Angel’s job at Wanamaker’s Wynnewood store did not pay well, and the Vestry appropriated funds from time to time to help the Olivers get started. The June 1963 Vestry minutes report that “Wanamaker’s finally has given Mr. Oliver a raise of $3 a week which is totally inadequate. Therefore he is free to find another job.” That may have jogged the store. The following month, the minutes relate that he received “a substantial raise… and his future now looks good.”Trinity also helped to bring Angel Oliver Sr., Angel’s father, and Manuel Escoto, Ofelia’s father, to the United States from Spain, where they had gone from Cuba. The senior Oliver had a dramatic arrival at the church. The account of the February 3, 1964 annual meeting tells of Rector Layton Zimmer reporting on efforts to get more members of the Oliver family out of Cuba. “Then he announced that three hours earlier the father of Angel Oliver had landed in New York. At this point the door opened and Angel Oliver entered with his father. The latter spoke a few words of greeting and thanks to the gathering.” The senior Oliver stayed with the family for a few months and worked briefly for the Paulson rug company, then left to work and live in Union City, NJ. Manuel Escoto lived with the Olivers until his death in 1968. In 1965 the Rector read a letter to the Vestry from the Oliver family “expressing their gratitude and love for all the help extended to them by many members of the parish.” Two years later voted funds to bring four members of the Escoto family to this country from Spain. the Vestry “ St. Mary’s Food Cupboard has a website and Newsletter. The photo and excerpt appeared in the first newsletter. “We dedicate our first issue to our wonderful volunteers. The 30 year success of St. Mary’s is due to the dedication of our volunteers from members of the Chester City community and churches from around the Diocese of Pennsylvania. Without their dedication we can’t do what we do best -feed families and individuals in need. To all of our volunteers and following Churches below we thank you and may God bless your heart for your compassion and donation of time. Trinity Episcopal Church, Swarthmore St. Davids Episcopal Church, Wayne Christ’s Church Episcopal, Media St. John’s Episcopal Church, Concord St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church, Clifton Heights” Some of Trinity’s youth participated in "Boxed Out" at Wallingford Presbyterian.A Box-Out is an event where students come together to raise awareness for issues surrounding homelessness. The youth met to bake cookies which were taken to The Seamen's Church Institute for delivery to seamen. Mission Trip Candy Cook, Jesse Clemmer, Leah Graham, Andrew Manwaring, John Crawford, Britton Cook and Joyce Tompkins joined Youth works in McDowell County, West Virginia. Once a thriving community, McDowell County spiraled downhill from 1950 to 2000. In that time the population decreased by nearly 75%. By the year 2000 the community had little hope, schools were failing both physically and academically and intervention was needed to avoid a complete collapse of the community. It came in the form of state aid which brought needed repairs and resources to the crippled school system. Out of that intervention, hope began to grow. Less than a year later those hopes were dashed with two back-to-back devastating flood seasons that wiped out many of the small towns in the county. Several people died or disappeared altogether in the floods and entire towns were demolished. McDowell County residents are working their way out of these challenges with a new resolve to repair their community. “Come Grow with Us” was the motto adopted in 2005 to demonstrate the county’s desire for growth and rebirth after significantly challenging times. In this area of approximately 27,000 residents, the unemployment rate hovers around 11% and the median household income is nearly $25,000 less per year than the national average. The poverty rate remains around 32% of the population. The community has seen some growth and success, particularly with the opening of many new businesses in the area, creating employment opportunities for residents. Growth happens slowly but this community is seeing change and experiencing hope. The group had the opportunity to serve through facilitating a Kids Club program and through work projects. Congratulations to Ann Marie Stanton for picking the Golden Halo winner! About Lent Madness Trinity participated for the first time this year. Lent Madness began in 2010 as the brainchild of the Rev. Tim Schenck. In seeking a fun, engaging way for people to learn about the men and women comprising the Church’s Calendar of Saints, Tim came up with this unique Lenten devotion. Combining his love of sports with his passion for the lives of the saints, Lent Madness was born on his blog “Clergy Family Confidential.” The format is straightforward: 32 saints are placed into a tournament-like single elimination bracket. Each pairing remains open for a set period of time and people vote for their favorite saint. 16 saints make it to the Round of the Saintly Sixteen; eight advance to the Round of the Elate Eight; four make it to the Faithful Four; two to the Championship; and the winner is awarded the coveted Golden Halo. The first round consists of basic biographical information about each of the 32 saints. Things get a bit more interesting in the subsequent rounds as we offer quotes and quirks, explore legends, and even move into the area of saintly kitsch. Palm Sunday was a beautiful day (top Left) Agape supper before the Maundy Thursday service(top right) The Liturgical Breakfast had over 100 people attend (bottom, left) The Moveable feast was enjoyed by many. (bottom right) 10 Reasons Why People Leave Church By Benjamin L. Corey Originally published in “Formerly Fundie” Blog.As I thought about my own opinion as to why people leave the church, it struck me that the actual reasons why people leave aren’t necessarily reasons that apply to one generation or the other. The issues that wound and tear a person down to the point that they walk out the door are typically issues that affect people from all generations and all walks of life. In fact, the reasons I have compiled are issues that led me to walk way from church as twenty-year-old, and still tempt me to walk out again some days– even though I’m not 20 anymore.Whether you’ve always known what e-mail was, rode your big-wheel in the street without a helmet, can remember seeing ET in the theater, or did time in ‘Nam, here are the 10 reasons why people from all generations leave church: 10. People leave church when they can’t find community. This is one of those reasons where it can serve as a reason why people come to church in the first place, and also becomes a reason why they leave– people want community. So many of us are tired of doing life on our own, tired of plastic American relationships, and are looking for deep, loyal, and authentic communal relationships. This should be a central goal of churches– building community. Why? Christianity was never meant to be lived out in the context of isolation, but rather in the context of community. When people can’t find community, can’t plug-in or access meaningful relationships, they split in hopes they’ll find it somewhere else. When a church learns to do community well, it is a life-giving experience. When churches fail to build community, church just becomes another item on your list that sucks the life out of you. I have experienced church both ways and can honestly say that I’m finished investing emotional energy into churches that don’t build a culture that values authentic community. 9. People leave church because they need less drama in their lives. I don’t know about you, but my life always seems to have enough drama in it– I certainly don’t need anything that is going to add to the drama factor. So often, people seek out church because they need a reprieve, a refuge from the emotional drama of day to day living. However, far too often church relationships find a way to add to your drama. Now, I get that we’re all imperfect and that any group will have their own conflict, but some churches seem to do drama more than others. Our jobs, family dynamics and friendships provide us with enough opportunity to be gossiped about, backstabbed, and pushed to the margins- we don’t need to add to that. Church needs to be a safe place where one can escape the typical relational drama we all face and instead experience loving support and acceptance. When church just becomes another area that is going to add drama to my life, I need to cut the cord and move on for my own sanity. Which leads me too… 8. People leave church because of unresolved conflict. As mentioned above, any community is going to have conflict. However, a healthy and life-giving community is one that practices healthy conflict resolution in order to keep relationships safe and whole. Some churches do a fantastic job at helping individuals reconcile their differences in loving ways which deescalate and restore, while others have skewed ideas of what reconciliation looks like. Too often, wounded people are told, or are caused to feel, as if their emotional response to being wounded is somehow wrong or sinful. We can be encouraged to “forgive and forget”, “get over it”, or even told we have “no right to feel that way”. We fail to realize that wounded people need to have their feelings validated, and need to have a place to air their hurts in a way that causes them to feel heard. If we want people to stop leaving church, we need to develop radical humility and become the peacemakers that Jesus claimed would be blessed. 7. People leave church because of controlling leaders and unskilled teachers. Leaders make or break an organization, and church is no different. When the pastor or church leader(s) come across as controlling (whether it is real or perceived) it creates an environment that doesn’t feel safe to people. No one wants to be controlled or dominated in church– not even the people who assimilate and eventually tolerate such environments. Instead, people want to feel heard and included in issues of decision making and long-term vision. Too often, it seems like the kids who are picked on in high school either become cops or pastors so that they can control other people- and they become increasingly intoxicated with their own perceived power. When people like me smell this, we bolt. Likewise, you can have a church with a great community and a loving pastor– but a pastor who happens to be differently gifted outside the realm of preaching, and lose people. The longest 45 minute blocks in my life have been when I have been forced to sit and listen to a person fly the plane around the pulpit ten times, without ever landing. Bad preaching is miserable. If people feel like the preaching sucks, they’ll leave in search of something else. We need to make sure we place people in positions to serve in accordance with their abilities AND passions, not just their passions. 6. People leave church because they get turned off by social climbing, cliques, and nepotism. Social climbing is simply how I would describe the phenomena where people have to acquire a certain amount of “social credit” with the people of influence before they can serve and be included. As a result, the popular folks at church amass followers, and power. Such a system requires you to play the “game” with people of influence if you want to be a fully included member of the group (leading to the formation of cliques). Some people, like me, refuse to do this in silent protest… instead believing that all people should be able to come together to experience God, equally. Nepotism goes along the same lines– we don’t want to see people elevated to their positions because they were of the right bloodline, or played the game with the right people– we want to see people elevated to positions simply on the basis of their skills, abilities, and calling. 5. People leave church when they feel like they need to become a carbon copy of an individual or ideal in order to be fully included and appreciated. During the times when I have found myself church shopping online, one of the first things I look at is the church’s statement of faith. This isn’t so much because I care about what they believe (although, I obviously do) but because I want to know if I’m going to be required to be a detailed copy of everyone else to be accepted. When I see a ten-page statement of faith the spells out everything from “Who is God” to “Why we believe the rapture will happen next Tuesday”, it tells me that there will be no room for me to live, breathe, or be my own person– my acceptance will depend on whether or not I am a carbon copy of everyone else. People want to be who God made them– they don’t want to be a carbon copy of who God made you. When we feel forced to fit into a predetermined mold as to what a member of this community must look like, we leave (or in my case, I don’t ever go to begin with). Most people don’t want to be like everyone else, and when a certain culture tells them they must become a clone as a condition of acceptance, many will leave instead of submitting to such a dehumanizing experience. 4. People leave church because they are tired of being told how a “good Christian” will vote. One of the most frustrating aspects of Evangelical Christianity is that it’s not so much of a faith tradition anymore, as it is a political movement. When I was in seminary I wrote frequently on this issue calling it the “deification of western values”, because Christian culture has picked a few hot-button political issues and married one’s political opinion on these issues to their faith. We are tired of this. All of us. It is possible to sincerely love Jesus and still not vote for the Republican candidate. PLEASE stop making people feel like voting differently is somehow akin to apostasy. Jesus followers hold a wide array of political beliefs, and that’s okay– they’re just political beliefs… it’s not theology not matter how hard others want to make it theology. The sooner we can embrace our political diversity, and end this unholy marriage with conservative politics, the sooner we can all start trying to follow Jesus, together. 3. People leave church because they’re looking for something authentic. The word authentic means: “not false, but real… therefore reliable and trustworthy”. Ironically, I can think of no more authentic message than the loving and very real message of Jesus. However, the way we often live that out is far from authentic. In scripture we see authenticity being something God loves; my favorite characters in the Bible are the people who were raw and who told God exactly what was on their mind, minus a filter. These are the people, such as David, whom God calls “friend”. Yet, church often becomes a place where you want to be anything but real. It’s just not safe to do so- especially with people who are busy pretending they have it all together but still seem to have enough time to be your worst critic. People want to do church with people who are real, people who aren’t afraid to be vulnerable in relationship, and who are willing to sit beside you in the messiness of life. When church feels fake and like it’s not a safe place to be vulnerable, people leave in hopes they’ll find someplace that is. 2. People leave church because they feel lonely. As you look through items 10-3, imagine how it feels to experience the losing end of one of these issues (sadly, I don’t think many of you will have to imagine that). The feeling of being excluded, by definition, creates an intense loneliness. Being one of the only people living raw and authentically in a quest for community, is a lonely feeling. Being the one person who can’t, in good conscience, sign onto the same statement of faith that the group has, is a lonely feeling. Watching cliques form as an outsider, and watching people who rise to esteemed positions by way of church politics, is a lonely feeling. People leave church because they start to feel like an outsider, and that makes them lonely. It is an emotion that is painful, powerful, and given enough time, unbearable. If leaving church is what’s needed to stop feeling so lonely and to stop feeling like an outsider– they’ll do it (and it would be the right decision). 1. People leave church when they don’t find Jesus. This sounds silly on the surface, but it’s not. Church of all places should look like Jesus! Church should be a place where people are busy loving the unlovable, embracing the outcast, serving the widow, immigrant and fatherless. It should be a place where power is rejected, gender and race is irrelevant, and where the most coveted position is the position of servant. I think we need to just start being honest with ourselves and admit that a lot of people reject our churches because they’re too interested in Jesus to accept a counterfeit version. When I look at the story of Jesus, I am consistently moved by the way people were attracted to his personality. With the exception of religious conservatives, everyone longed to be around Jesus and went to great lengths and great risk to spend time with him. I am convinced that if we built loving communities of faith that were raw and authentic, that embraced the excluded, and were known by how well they loved others, there wouldn’t be an empty chair in the sanctuary. Because if a church were really to look like Jesus, people wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. Baptisms: Jensen McLeod Englebach, 03-02-2014 Oliver Thomas Bross, 04-20-2014 Marriages: Rachel Williamson to Justin Ridgeway 06-15-14 Deaths: Ofelia Oliver 03-10-14 Norma Corey Tower 12-11-13 Ray Condren 12-11-13 Youth Center Celebrates Success How does a Philly teen who’s in foster care, homeless or otherwise at risk beat the odds and stay on track with career training? Some would answer, “it takes a village.” True enough. But ECS would add, “it takes a new approach.” On April 12, the shape, progress and success of that approach — built around re-framing the past and re-thinking the future — were showcased as the Saturday youth group unveiled their marketing projects. Seeing Youth Succeed, their new name, was chalked in bright, bold lettering on the blackboard that dominates their space and was graphically represented in their new logo. Homelessness, an issue they know well, was the focus of their just-completed, hard-hitting documentary. “It’s projectbased learning,” explains Arley Styer, who is directing the program. “Even though they have thought partners, the kids drive the process, and it’s very effective. The goal is to build critical thinking, teamwork and leadership.” Some of the city’s top creative agencies provided advice and encouragement for this year’s projects. Said Ryan Overhiser, a copywriter at Allen & Gerristen and one of the first guest speakers, “They seemed refreshed after we talked, like they were ready to dive headfirst and practice some of the thinking we shared with them.” Similarly positive, Robby Fernandez, CEO of Moxie Pictures and a speaker near the end of the projects, said, “You could easily see how enthusiastic and passionate they were about film. I was quite impressed by their desire to get as much information and knowledge as possible.” Other speakers were “Que” Gaskins from Que-in, Leticia Whitsett from Tierney Agency, Ben Harrison from 160 over 90 and Caitlin Vivian from Allen & Gerristen. Rick Boyko, who was director and professor at the VCU Brandcenter and spent many years with top ad agencies, Leo Burnett, Chiat/Day and Ogilvy & Mather, provided ongoing and inspiring consultation. A second $100,000 grant from the Caroline Alexander Buck Foundation is helping to fuel success of SYS and, in fact, the Youth Center as a whole. Just last year the foundation awarded its first $100,000 grant to ECS for expansion of a pilot program then known as Teens Takin’ Over. It started as a workshop series for about 40 teens, ages 14 to 18, in other ECS programs. However, now the Youth Center offers individualized employment preparation to about 100 youth, up to age 23. What’s perhaps most notable is that the Youth Center is supporting kids over 18 just when other programs stop. Research shows that older at-risk kids often get discouraged and drop out of college or career training. So they require an intensive assessment and training program to develop the necessary skills and resources for sustainable employment and financial stability. “We’ve hit a niche,” says Dave Griffith. “We don’t know of another city agency using our experiential, cognitive therapy approach, and the older youth are coming in droves.” To benchmark success, the University of Pennsylvania, Temple University and Drexel University have partnered with ECS to determine clear goals and outcomes. That accomplished, ECS is now quantifying the concrete, positive effects of the program. There with proud smiles were (from left), Saliah Sisco, Aniysa Henderson, John Perry and Shaniqua Abrams - See more at: http://www.ecsphilly.org/news/youthcenter-celebrates-success#sthash.BtcidNGM.dpuf Talented Trinitarians: Heart strings is a group dedicated to knitting, crochet, and any other fiber arts for worthy causes. Their current focus project is caps for the nurseries at Crozer Hospital. Other ideas include hats and scarves for seamen, hats, sweaters, mittens and scarves for the Knit for Kids project, or a charity of the crafter's choice. The group has already completed about 39 caps to deliver to Crozer. Heart Strings meets the second Saturday of the month, after the Womens' breakfast - about 9:30, for an hour or an hour and a half. If you are unable to end you can still participate by working on- your-own. Please contact Susan Lawson 484-472-6688 with any questions. Alicia Millspaugh - a four year veteran of the Trinity Episcopal Choir had her Senior recital at Trinity Church on June 14th. Alicia sang some of her very favorite pieces in French, German, English and Italian. An afternoon of song was held this Spring to benefit Dessaix-Baptiste Music School in Jacmel, Haiti which is a non-denominational institution whose purpose is the moral, intellectual and spiritual development of young people through music education.Thanks Jim, Ricardo, Tracy, Matt, and Janet. Thanks to David Clemmer painted the door on Chester road side. Beautiful job! Changing tables were installed in both men’s and women’s restrooms. Thank you Ed West for allowing Dad’s to take diaper duty with ease! To The Chronicle Sponsors, Thank you ! TRINITY CHURCH 301 N. Chester Road Swarthmore, PA 19081-1496 The Chronicle Summer 2014