Here - The Rainbow Project
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Here - The Rainbow Project
The Rainbow Project is Northern Ireland’s magazine – RAINBOW. Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, we’ve reinvented ourselves, in time for the 2012 Pride celebrations. We want to be more inclusive and feel that the change of name is a forward step that will appeal to our readers both old and new. As LGBT life is this collective diversity, and we hope that all We’ve kept our regular features on coming out, religion, and our cookery column caters towards those who wish to party the day away. We also have articles on the London Gay Men’s Chorus and Belfast’s LBGT singers QUIRE; ways to stay healthy on Pride day; and the advocacy services provided by the Rainbow Project. For those who like pictures, we have some sizzling ones of Passion in Newry, and we think that you’ll like them! On a more serious note, we have some reactions to the recent and very public statement made by Lord Maginnis. Equating homosexuality with bestiality, Maginnis displays a sentiment that is both bigoted and outdated, and only serves to belittle the LGBT experience. – and has gone from strength to strength! From little acorns, such huge oaks grow. The Belfast parade is now the largest in Ireland, and it’s great to see so many people, gay, bi and straight, come out to celebrate. Try to get along to one, if not all of the parades. bisexual and transgendered people. training on behalf of LGB&T people to commu-‐ nity, voluntary and statutory agencies. Our aim is to promote the health and well-‐being of LGB&T people in Northern Ireland. The Rainbow Project also oīers a range of services Belfast Pride’s theme this time is Pride at Sea, to LGB&T people across Northern Ireland. Visit which is apt in itself, since all the nice boys and www.rainbow-‐project.org for more details. girls like a sailor! Perhaps one will cross your path during the day – I certainly hope one BELFAST comes my way! If any sailors are reading this, Belfast LGBT Centre, look out for me, and say hello! 9-‐13 Waring Street, Belfast, BT1 2DX There will be a range of events to partake in tel: (028) 9031 9030 during Belfast Pride week, including the party fax: (028) 9031 9031 in the square; the play Galatea at the Mac; email: info@rainbow-‐project.org karaoke fronted by the divine Portia; and of course, a variety of rugged men on display at John O’Doherty Director this year’s Bear party. As Pride comes around again, we hope that all Counsellor of our readers have an enjoyable and productive day, safe in the knowledge that Dean Lee they are an integral part of a larger collective. Counsellor Rainbow is always looking for new Pat Nairn contributors, and would like any budding Finance Oĸcer scribes out there to get in touch and send us This issue will also look at the forthcoming your story. Equality Oĸcer Pride celebrations in Belfast, as well as those in Gavin Boyd Foyle. While Foyle is in its third year, this is the Brendan Martin rainbowmag@rainbow-project.org the committee every success. Harriet Long Advocacy Oĸcer Harry McAnulty Physical & Sexual Health Development Oĸcer Malachai O’Hara Mental Health Development Oĸcer 3 Band of Brothers…and Sisters Our editor reviews a night of a 1000 voices 12 Bent John Mac reviews a classic movie of gay love and oppression 5 Foyle Pride Festival 2012 – Exploring Identity The Foyle Committee updates us on its third Pride extravaganza 13 Dear Divas! Our lovely ladies kick a love rat to the kerb 7 Paganism –the oldest religion? Jonathan reveals all about being gay, pagan and proud 8 Report it! Come out against crime advice on how to keep safe this Pride season 9 I’m coming out – Tales of sexual awakenings In this edition, we hear Ellen’s experiences of coming out in the country 11Pride at Sea – It’s going to be wet! The Belfast Pride festival promises to be a naughtily nautical voyage 15 Homophobic Outburst by Lord Ken Maginnis Your responses to Maginnis’ recent outlandish assertions 17 Have a healthy Pride Colin dispenses some worldy wisdom on keeping your Pride wholesome 19 A Proud Picnic Ray serves up some gastronomic Pride delights 20 Photos from Passion in Newry Aidan Donegan Administrator FOYLE 12a Queen Street, L’Derry, BT48 7EG tel: (028) 7128 3030 fax: (028) 7128 3060 email: info@rainbow-‐project.org David McCartney Foyle Centre Manager Youth Development Oĸcer Protect yourself... ...We’re worth protecting HIV infection is increasing in Ireland. Let’s value our sexual health and protect each other when having sex. You are. He is. We are worth protecting. Learn more about safer sex, HIV and our sexual health at Man2Man.ie or call The Rainbow Project Belfast/L’Derry Sexual Health Helpline, Cork Red Ribbon Project, Limerick AIDS West, Galway | T: 028 9031 9030/ 028 7128 3030 | T: 021 427 6676 | T: 061 314 354 | T: 091 566 266 A GHN & HSE Initiative © Gay Health Network 2011 | 2012 On 20 May 2012, Belfast’s Grand Opera House played host to the London Gay Men’s Chorus, whose Band of Brothers tour was brought to a resounding climax. The LGMC performed a range of crowd pleasers including The Trolley Song made famous by Judy Garland in Meet Me in St. Louis, a medley of Madonna and Lady Gaga hits, and the anti-homophobia classic that is Fuck You by Lily Allen. The finale, a combination of Mika’s Happy Ending and Phil Oakey’s Together in Electric Dreams, resulted in a standing ovation, as well as the audience dancing in the aisles. Alisdair recalls the determination that LGMC showed in the wake of the bombing of the Admiral Duncan public house in Soho on 30 April 1999, which left several dead and many injured. Two days later, LGMC performed at the Vigil in Soho Square in front of an audience of 3,000 strong. In the wake of the show, Rainbow spoke to members of LGMC to find out about the chorus, and how it felt to perform in Belfast. Michael joined the LGMC in 2003, and says that at the time, he had very The chorus sang inspiring, angry ambivalent feelings about his and reflective songs which were interspersed with speeches by sexual orientation. politicians, gay activists, police, “My gayness felt like victimhood, religious and community leaders. something unwanted but Alisdair believes that this “was an somehow unavoidable. Other gay amazing response to a terrible act men and the apparent ease with that united gay and straight, black which they accepted themselves as and white, in grief and disgust”. functioning, sexual, whole people On playing in Belfast, Martin says, were a mystery to me”. “In June 2003, we took a concert to Belfast's Waterfront Hall. A small Michael is adamant that LGMC helped him in ways that he couldn't group of Free Presbyterian possibly have anticipated: “I found fundamentalists picketed the show. my tribe here, my own Band of Despite banners telling us to ‘Go Brothers, a safe place where I could Back to Sodom’, we did get an belong, where I could be an equal, audience, but the venue was only and where I could finally begin to half full, as many people were unwilling to show their public grow as a gay man”. support for a gay choir. But, as a result of the picket and support from our audience, this was without doubt one of the most powerful performances the chorus has ever given. www.rainbow-project.org One of the end results is the existence of the Belfast gay choir”. LGMC was supported in the Opera House by GLORIA, Dublin’s LGBT choir, who belted out the camp classic I Am What I am, as well as Belfast’s very own QUIRE who sang Cold Play’s Viva la Vida and Cyndi Lauper’s True Colors. What they lacked in numbers, QUIRE certainly made up for in enthusiasm. The collective buzz of the group was made all the more special by performing in front of a home audience which included family, friends, and some new recruits who joined up the next week! QUIRE is still on the lookout for new members, and will be recruiting again on 27 September, after the summer hiatus. If you can sing and want to get involved, look out for QUIRE at Belfast Pride or check out the website – www.quire.org.uk. 3 Business Name Business Tagline or Motto G ay E thnic G roup NI An informal support network for people from black and minority ethnic backgrounds in Northern Ireland who We aim to provide a social network for people who share our ex-‐ perience of being LGBT & BME. address racism in LGBT community/gay scene. We meet once a month at Belfast’s LGBT centre or a public venue of our choice. supported by gay.ethnic.group@gmail.com or follow us on facebook Following on from the success of last year’s Foyle Pride Festival, this year’s festival will run from Wednesday 22nd – Sun 26th August. The Foyle Pride Parade takes place on Saturday 25th August, leaving from the Waterside Train Station at 2.00pm and travelling to The Guildhall. Rainbow caught up with Foyle Pride to hear about what the festival has to offer. Foyle Pride is pleased to announce that the festival will be going ahead for a third year running and this year it’s going to be bigger and better! The 2012 theme will be ‘Exploring Identity’. Last year 7,400 people attended the parade alone and the organisers predict that this year, there will be even more. Shá Gillespie, chairperson of the Foyle Pride committee said “Foyle Pride promotes understanding and respect for diversity, it provides a diverse programme of quality entertainment and creativity with mass appeal actively enhancing Derry’s reputation as an enjoyable welcoming and safe place”. “The Festival was a great success last year. It was fantastic to see so many people on the streets of Derry. Pride is a celebration of the LGBT community and an important cultural event for the city. This year we want to make Pride bigger and better and hope that all of the Derry community will come out and support us.” www.rainbow-project.org The parade itself is a colourful event with a carnival atmosphere, and a fantastic day for all the family. The festival will take place on the August bank holiday weekend and there will be many community events and workshops throughout the year. The committee has asked everyone who would like to get involved to contact Foyle Pride via Facebook www.facebook.com/foylepride . Additional information can be found on the Foyle Pride Festival Website www.foylepridefestival.com . 5 The word ‘pagan’ is often met with wary Following last edition’s article looking at Christianity and LGB&T people, Rainbow eyes, awkward smiles or a blank stare. It’s caught up with Jonathan to find out more about being a gay man and a Pagan. a word that has been used unkindly throughout the centuries, and often distorted to evoke fear and suspicion. Given its very origins (a derogatory term for villagers who hadn’t then embraced the early Christian faith), this isn’t surprising. It’s comparable to heathen and infidel – negative terms still used today by many followers of Abrahamic religions. However, recent generations of neo-pagans are reclaiming their pagan roots, and resurrecting this essentially nature-based spirituality for a new era. They therefore work interdependently, a There are some modern pagans who unison of masculine and feminine reject homosexuality, because they see Perhaps for these reasons, the pagan promoting true equality. Many pagan the union of God and Goddess in strictly and LGBT communities share an affinity, paths adopt polytheism, the notion of male-female practices. Gerald Gardner, both emerging from a long period of gods and goddesses, that may be seen founder of the pagan path Wicca, rejection, repression and infamy, where as aspects of one divine source, while expressed personal views that isolated words like ‘gay’ or ‘witch’ have gone from others believe in an all-permeating the LGBT community. implying happiness or wise-woman, to divine force (pantheism). shaming insults – and now, their However, many in our community attempted reclamation! Although, to be This great diversity in pagan beliefs can choose to follow the path of Wicca and, pagan, as to be part of the LGBT prove welcoming to the LGBT in general, most pagans support and community, is still considered a corrupt community, ostracised by conventional include people of any sexual orientation. and immoral way of life by some, this is religions and left yearning for a spiritual Paganism does not have a single largely due to indoctrination and connection. This is why I was drawn to doctrine or hierarchy. It is not organised, ignorance, or a refusal to listen and learn. paganism, in my late teens, having felt and each follower is free to choose their rejected by the homophobia present in own path. So, paganism, without the Homosexuality, or any form of sexual the teachings of my Christian shackles of judgmental deities and orientation identification, has never upbringing. I felt excited to discover the repetitive worship, appeals to a been a direct issue in paganism. all-encompassing love of the Mother community isolated by mainstream However, it must be understood that Goddess, and acceptance by a faith that religion. paganism is a blanket term for a wide didn’t view my sexual orientation as range of varying beliefs and practices, sinful or unnatural. One of the rituals in modern paganism is that date back to the very beginnings of Hand-fasting, which involves the tying of human exploration of the spiritual. Likewise, many gay and bisexual men hands of a couple with ribbons. who identify with the feminine aspect of Essentially a marriage, though not One of the fundamental differences in their psyche find solace in the reverence legally binding, it has increasingly paganism is the acknowledgement of of the Goddess, while acknowledging become a popular practice in civil the Goddess – a concept that’s still their same-sex attraction through partnership ceremonies as a declaration unfamiliar to followers of Christian faiths. honouring gods of the wildwood, of love between two committed people. Some of the earliest examples of symbolising the innate sexual energy in figurines that humans crafted depict a nature. Lesbians, too, feel an acceptance Paganism is a fast-growing form of voluptuous female figure, believed to be from pagan paths that venerate the spirituality, due mostly to its freedom for the Mother Goddess (commonly known feminine aspect of the divine through individual exploration and communion today as Gaia, the primal Greek earth goddess-worship or all-female groups, with the Divine, Great Spirit and God and goddess), who represents the divine such as modern day covens. Goddess. And its adoration of the Earth, Feminine, and Earth itself. respect for nature, the environment and The practices of many native American wildlife is an essential part of so many As paganism generally strives to tribes appeal to bisexual and pagan paths, and surely we need this establish balance and harmony, the God transgendered people, with their theory perhaps now more than ever. is typically represented by the Sun of Two-Spirit – an individual believed to (Father Sun), who is seen to provide the possess both male and female souls. Jonathan Earth, or Goddess, with the essentials of These people purportedly had natural (www.facebook.com/paganvoiceni) light and heat to allow growth of new healing abilities or clairvoyance. They life. were therefore granted special roles in their community, particularly in ritual dances, the making of regalia and storytelling . www.rainbow-project.org 7 The Pride season is a great opportunity to celebrate the diversity of freedoms and seXUAL and gender eXPression in .Orthern Ireland. We wish you a safe and happy summer of fun and craic. Here at Rainbow we are working really hard with employers, teachers, counsellors, youth workers, police and community safety workers to challenge negative attitudes to people who are gay or transgender. Unfortunately, for many reasons, %vidence is not the test – if you people are reluctant to report these 0%R#%)6% it to be homophobic or incidents because they may be: transphobic – you can report it. s Worried about not being taken seriously s 5NWILLING to be put in the position of having to come out to strangers (sometimes more than once) s Afraid their wider family/friends will find out s %Xpecting homophobia/ transphobia as a normal part of being LGB&/or Trans s .Ervous of the police response “I was headbutted LGB & Trans people can be when kissing a guy after Sometimes, victims of hate incidents and/or crimes – it could be violence, verbal abuse, Pride last year. I just harassment or damage to your didn’t want to speak to belongings – that target your seXUAL orientation or (trans)gender identity. the police because I was drunk at the time – I “I didn’t think about didn’t think they would involving anyone else – I take me seriously.“ just thought I could handle it by myself – These negative attitudes can but now I’m worried sometimes turn into potential or actual crimes against you, your family late at night and it’s or your property. affecting my health.” This summer, we are promoting your value and worth by raising awareness of the ways you can report incidents/crimes. We think that by telling your stories and sharing your eXperiences, we can help change the way homophobia and transphobia is addressed and tackled in .Orthern Ireland – and improve the support and protection you are entitled to. Look out for our pens with safety messages at local LGB&T events. You can contact our Advocacy Officer for help with reporting anything on (028)9031 9030 or emailing harriet@rainbow-project.org. We can: s Report something anonymously s Report something for you s Help you to report online s Arrange for a police officer to come to the LGB&T centre to speak to you s Arrange to meet in a safe space in your community to talk to police We work all over .Orthern Ireland supporting LGB&T people to report incidents and crimes. We hope you stay proud, happy and safe – but call us if things change. For this edition of Rainbow we hear from Ellen about her experience of coming out in a small town in Northern Ireland. If you would like to share your coming out story with MSM please email us at rainbowmag@rainbow-project.org I suppose I was around 16 when I first had a crush on a girl - nothing happened - at the time - but I guess this was the beginning of my "coming out" story. About a year later, a friend took me for a night out to Pepe's in Derry - something just clicked! It was a real eye-opener for me, but it just 'felt right'. Part of the difficulties I experienced came from living in a small rural town. Everyone knew everyone and it was very 'clicky'. I started coming up to Belfast and going to the Kremlin, and that helped a lot. Over the last couple of years I have been increasingly out and I've been much happier. I've had a few serious relationships along the way and I've matured a lot. I know being with those women helped me grow in confidence as a person, and I believe I helped them on their own "journeys" too. This was the first time I had been to At this time, I found life full of difficulties - I was a gay bar or club. Later, when I was basically living as two people - being myself among about 18 or 19, I bumped into the my gay friends, but acting 'super straight' with my girl I had fancied at 16 again, and this time we hit it off. I was hanging straight friends - pulling loads of boys and stuff. about with a gay crowd of friends at that time, and came out to them as 'bisexual', but still wasn't out to I was finding my own feet as my Last year, I moved to live in Belfast, my straight friends or anyone else. circle of friends grew wider. At 22, I which was a huge step for me and had my first 'proper' girlfriend. I it has turned out well. I found work At this time, I found life full of was a lot more open to lots of in a restaurant near where I live in difficulties - I was basically living as people, and to myself, and felt more east Belfast and I have completed two people - being myself among comfortable identifying as a my college course at Belfast Metropolitan finishing as 'Student my gay friends, but acting 'super lesbian. Chef of the Year'. I plan to do more straight' with my straight friends pulling loads of boys and stuff. I really felt a strong need to come at college to further my career as a Things started improving as I out to my mum, and I planned it chef, and of course I am out to my explored my 'gay side' more and carefully. We were on holidays at class and my workmates. more, and finally, when I stopped the time. She was fine about it and trying to be what society wanted it was no problem at all! But then I have been going out with a lovely me to be, and just started being something happened that I wish girl for a few months and she's had been handled differently - my been to meet my family. Everyone myself, I felt much better. mum and my sister got together was very accepting of her, which made me really happy. I have met By this time I was about 21 or 22. I and told my dad that I was gay. her family and friends too and it had been on a few dates with women and had become much I really would have preferred to tell has been the same with them, so more open to people about my him myself as I am very close to my it’s all looking very positive. sexual orientation, though still dad, but it was taken out of my identified as bisexual at work. hands. As it turned out, he was fine The hardest part of coming out was Around this time, I came out to my about it and said "sure, I have the in-between stage I went sister and she was fine about it and known that for years!" So, I am fully through - when I was acting gay out to my family as a lesbian, with some friends and straight with really accepted me. except for my grandparents. They others. I felt like I was living a are from a different generation and double life and being very secretive I just don't see the need to tell with my family. Now I'm fully out them - I don't think they would get things are much better. it and it would maybe upset them. Ellen www.rainbow-project.org 9 9031 9030 or visit www.rainbow-‐project.org The Belfast LGBT Centre, Wednesday 1st August, 5.00pm -‐ 9.00pm Get tested this pride! The Rainbow Project are providing a free rapid HIV and Syphilis and pick up some free condoms and lube. Saving Face The Crescent Arts Centre, Thursday 2nd August, 7.30pm -‐ 10.30pm Tickets £4 available from www.rainbow-‐project.org or at the event The Family Ties Project will be holding a screening of aĮům – Saving Face. This is the story in answer session with members of the Family Ties Group, a group for parents by parents, of lesbian, gay and bisexual and transgender people. The Q&A will centre on the themes raised family members. Galatea by Lawrence Aronovitch Upstairs Theatre at the Mac, Friday 3rd August, 7.30pm -‐ 9.00pm Tickets £8 or £5 concession The Derry Playhouse Theatre in August 2011, Galatea is back again by popular demand for this Northern Ireland. violence. If you need help and/or wish to report to the police, please contact The Rainbow Project’s LGB&T Advocacy Service by calling 028 9031 9030 or email harriet@rainbow-‐project.org We can report it for you Belfast Pride is Ireland’s largest Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans festival appealing to audiences of over 15,000 people each year. In 2011, they achieved their largest Belfast Pride Festival to date. Almost 25,000 people hit the streets to come out and show their support. With Belfast Pride 2012 fast approaching, we caught up with the pride team to find out what this year’s festival has to offer. It’s that time of year again, when the Pride Committee are rushed off their feet organising this year’s Belfast Pride Festival making it bigger and better than before! Festival 2012 kicks off on Friday 27th July in the Northern Whig with a glamorous cocktail reception and our now annual awards. For information on those and how to vote, visit our website. Sunday 29th July sees the return of our family sports day now called ‘Lark in the Park’, which this year returns to Ormeau Park. After the great success of last year, we’ve decided to ramp it up and this year is no exception. We’ve giant inflatables, barbecues and of course the return of the football tournament. During the rest of the week, we have a mix of community events, ranging from political debates through to church services and this year, there’s something for everyone. Thursday 2 August sees the return of our Ladies Night, which this year is a costume party, in the new home of The Shoe Factory. It’s for ladies (and their male friends). With pole dancers and live performances, it’s one not to miss. The Big Pride Weekend kicks off in style on Friday 3rd August with our annual Friday Pride Show. With Tina Leggs Tantrum at the helm with her usual mix of cabaret and comedy, we also have a treat in store. In a very special edition of ‘Family Fortunes’ the Kremlin will be taking on Forbidden Fruit to see who will take home a Pride bear! If that wasn’t enough, we’re also putting the community groups to the test in a spin off version of the BBC game show ‘Pointless’. www.rainbow-project.org The main day itself is Saturday 4th August, where everything is EARLIER! We’ll be opening the square at 11am but the parade this year will be moving off at MIDDAY. With a new ‘chill-out area’ decked with tables and chairs, it’s the ultimate place to go if you’re up for a party. For something more relaxed, we’ve also revamped Families in the Square taking into account public We’re expecting everyone to be in feedback on last year. place, ready to move at 12pm from Custom House Square where the Situated beside the Big Fish, it’s got parade will make its way through the all the local community groups and streets of Belfast before culminating information stalls, along with food in the biggest free LGBT party Belfast and drink vendors and even airbrush has ever seen - Party in the Square. tattoo artists. We also have entertainment lined up too! Kitty Brucknell, Tina Cousins, Ryan Jagger, Diva Dolls, Tommy Shots, Also keep an eye out for our ‘Slime Ryan John along with Tina Leggs Off’ during July - that is definitely Tantrum, Trudy Scrumptious and one thing you don not want to miss! more! This year it’s our biggest year ever, so we hope to see you at some events and of course, at the parade! 11 In these days of relative LGBT freedom, rights and anti-discrimination laws, at least in Western Europe, we should never be too blind to what took place in this part of the so-called civilised world less just 70 years ago. The play Bent (written by Martin Sherman in 1979, and transformed into a wonderfully poignant movie in 1997) brings to life the horrific period of the Nazi concentration camps in 1930s Germany, when you faced the ultimate penalty for your sexual orientation – death. The film revolves around the period after the Night of the Long Knives, when Hitler purged his army of such ‘undesirables’ as socialists, communists and gays. Of course, the title of the movie refers to the slang word "bent" used in some European countries to refer to homosexuals. When the play was first performed, there was only a small trickle of historical research or even awareness about the Nazi persecution of homosexuals, and, to some extent, the play helped increase knowledge about this terrible period in our history. Originally, Ian McKellen starred in the original 1979 West-End production, and the iconic Richard Gere in its 1980 Broadway version. Further productions followed throughout the 80s and 90s with Richard E Grant, Ian Charleson, Ralph Fiennes and Christopher Eccleston. 12 On the train, Rudy calls out to Max as he is taken away to be beaten, so Rudy is brought back and the guards force him to beat Rudy to death. In the process, Max denies he knows him. Worse yet, Max is then forced to have sexual intercourse with the body of a dead pre-teen girl to "prove" he is not gay. Max lies to the guards, denying his love for the dead Rudy, by telling them The plot he is a Jew rather than a homosexual, Max is a promiscuous gay man in as he believes his chances for survival 1930s Berlin, one very much at odds in the camp will be better if he is not with his wealthy family because of his assigned the dreaded pink triangle. homosexuality. One evening, much to the resentment of his boyfriend Rudy, In the camp, Max makes friends with he brings home a handsome Horst, an openly gay man who shows Sturmabteilung man. Unfortunately, it him the dignity that lies in is the night that Hitler orders the acknowledging what one truly is, and assassination of the upper echelon of indeed embrace one’s true beliefs. the Sturmabteilung corps, to They fall in love and become ‘lovers’ consolidate his power. The through their imagination and a Sturmabteilung man is discovered and subtle choice of words. Surely, the killed by SS men in Max and Rudy's most touching scene in the film is apartment, and the two have to flee an when the two reach that ‘point of no sexual return’ without even touching. ever intolerant Berlin. In 1997, Sean Mathias directed the movie version starring the stunning Clive Owen as the main protagonist, Max, with an incredible performance by Lothaire Bluteau as Horst. The film also featured a reprise role for Ian McKellen, with additional appearances from Mick Jagger and Jude Law. Max's uncle Freddie (played by McKellan) is also gay, but lives a more discreet life with rent boys to satisfy his desires. He has organised new papers for Max, but Max refuses to leave his naïve boyfriend behind. As a result, Max and Rudy are found and arrested by the Gestapo and put on a train headed for Dachau concentration camp. I won’t give away the ending, in case you haven’t seen the film, but needless to say, the story is not a happy one though Max does finally acknowledge his status as a gay man. Pride is a time for celebration of our diversity, our freedom of expression and a time (if only for one day) to reclaim the streets. But, if you have the time this joyful marching season, please look up Bent and remember how lucky we are. John Mac www.rainbow-project.org The Donegal Divas Lucy Lashes and Scarlett Rose take a break from their busy schedule to answer one of your burning questions. Dear Divas, I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now. We’ve had a great relationship, but for months now, I’ve been getting a feeling that he’s not into me anymore. We never go out together – he always goes out with his mates and leaves me behind. We hardly have a sex life anymore – except when he comes home at 3am reeking of vodka and kebabs and wants nookie, and even then he falls asleep. I know he’s been seeing other guys because I’ve seen texts on his phone and I’m pretty sure he still uses gaydar. I’ve confronted him about it and he just tells me I’m stupid and turns it on me. When I tell him to stop or I’ll leave him, he laughs and says no man would want me. He makes me feel so awful about myself. Why do I still love him? www.rainbow-project.org Scarlett: Kick him out! You don’t need to put up with that S@!T!! If it’s not your house....STILL KICK HIM OUT! It’s as simple as that! You don’t need these people in your life! Don’t get me wrong, I love vodka and kebabs, but not when they’re being drooled over the top of me! Lucy: He sounds like a twat! I’ve seen people in these relationships before. It’s not nice and it’s certainly not easy! Your confidence is taking a huge knock because he’s beating it out of you! I hope he’s not like Scarlett! S: I will always BEAT YOU, LUCY!!! Listen to Oprah here! She was still dribbling down her father’s leg when I was dealing with this stuff! Then again, she’s had more partners than a barn dance! L: What can I say – I’ve got a lot of love to give! Speaking of which, I don’t think you love this guy! You feel sorry for him! That’s not your problem! You should have chucked him the minute you saw those texts! S: The w@%$£r has GAYDAR!!! Is he even trying to be discreet? Unless you want three or four in the bed – Cheating Charlie has got to go! If you have a question that’s eating you up like syphilis you can e-mail us at deardivas@hotmail.com. This will be confidential and your consent will be sought first if we’d like to include it in our spread. Check out www.facebook.com/donegaldivas for updates on what our gruesome twosome are getting up to around the country! 13 I’m feeling really low and don’t know how to cope. Our counsellors are professionals and LGB&T people. WE ARE HERE TO HELP The daily pressures of homophobia, transphobia, and heterosexism impact on us all differently. If you are concerned about suicide, whether for yourself or someone else - WE CAN HELP. Contact us on 028 9031 9030 or visit www.rainbow-project.org or if you are in immediate distress or despair please call lifeline 0808 808 8000 Ulster Unionist peer Ken Maginnis has said he stands firmly behind controversial on-air comments in which he referred to gay marriage as “unnatural and deviant behaviour”. During a debate with The Rainbow Project’s John O’Doherty on the Stephen Nolan Show, Lord Maginnis described gay relationships as a “rung on the ladder” towards bestiality. We spoke to some people across Northern Ireland to see what they thought of Lord Maginnis’ comments. “I am appalled that it remains the case that a public figure from N Ireland, a politician receiving payment from the tax payer can make such utterly offensive statements with such ignorance and arrogance and there are no consequences.Why is it still OK in our society to demonise the gay community with impunity? This is just shocking racism in another guise” Vince Creelan “I think that Lord Maginnis is totally out of order with what he said. Everyone has the right to their own views, but what he said is just wrong. I feel that after this he should be made to step down from his position” Jamie Laverty www.rainbow-project.org “Substitute religious, racial or class prejudice with prejudice against sexual orientation and the very real impact of Lord Maginnis’ homophobic remarks are revealed. If any politician in Britain made these statements, they would not only have the party whip withdrawn, but would no doubt be branded backward barbarians, bubble-wrapped and blind to social and political change. Remarks like these send ripples of offence across all sides of the community in Northern Ireland”- Conor McCormick “The close mindedness, narrow and archaic views of Lord Maginnis could not have come at a worse time. In fact, there is never a good time to equate homosexuality to bestiality… excuse me, sorry, I mean compare them as a rung on the same ladder of deviance. There is no doubt that Lord Maginnis is not alone in his views of the LGBT community. The difference is that Lord Maginnis holds a position of significant influence, both positive and negative” - Andrew Hawthorne “When are NI politicians going to be reprimanded properly for homophobic comments? It’s all very well his party leader paying lip service and giving him a rap on the knuckles but an elected representative in the UK should face heavy disciplinary actions; or just would not say such things. I have the right to live my life freely without attack from religious groups/political dinosaurs” - Mikal O'Neill 15 Pride week takes a lot out of a girl; all those events to attend, drinks to be drunk and people to… “meet”! For many of us Pride week feels like all our gay birthdays rolled into one and the annual reward for Christmas spent with our terminally straight relatives. Aim to drink several bottles of water alongside any alcohol you might be drinking as just 2% dehydration can affect mental acuity and lead to mistakes in judgment and we all know where that can lead! Rice, Toast, Soup – if you can keep liquid down now is the time to try one of these simple easily-digestible foodstuffs. Finally; water – get back on the wagon and drink the good stuff! Personal Safety How to deal with a hangover? Consider the time you may spend in the run up to Pride week planning what you are going to wear and which party you are going to and remember how you used to get that excited about Santa or the Easter bunny. The difference now is that instead of feeling nauseous from too much chocolate or disappointment that your Etch-a-Sketch is, well, crap, you wake up the afternoon after the night before feeling like lightly flambéed death. Time is the best cure but here are some alternatives to a full Ulster fry and a couple of aspirins: Bananas – packed with potassium to replace what you lost while you were peeing like a racehorse Ginger Root - great for nausea and a hangover is similar to seasickness – drink ginger ale if you are desperate, but even better is some shaved ginger root steeped in hot water for ten minutes, sip and relax Kinda linked with the above but worth pointing out what for some may seem obvious. Before you leave home make sure you are prepared; condoms and lube of course but also scribble down a few important numbers in case you lose your phone – a friend or two, a local taxi company and lesbian and gay switchboard in case you really get into trouble and need advice quickly. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of Pride and leave the area feeling invincible but sadly as recent news stories have shown us there are still a lot of negative feelings about LGBT people so take care and be aware of your surroundings. So, how can you have a great but healthy Pride? Honey & Lemon – in hot water to replace natural sugars and fluids, it is Drink and Drugs fructose you need so stay away from Have a wonderful and healthy Pride! white sugar I would like to say ‘don’t do ‘em’ but we both know you will and quite likely a Apple Juice – this will raise your blood month’s worth in a weekend. Pace sugar without upsetting your stomach yourself – try to ensure you are like acidic orange juice can. hydrating yourself as it is a long day and the sun may just bless us with its presence. Just in case we actually get some good weather this summer, Rainbow’s Ray has some top recipes to help you have the perfect proud picinc! The summer days are here again, so, let’s ditch those jumpers and scarves and don the feathers and Lycra (with collapsible umbrella). While we tramp the streets to the beat of camp classics in stilettos and tutus, take a moment to chill, relax with acquaintances, old and new, and share in some gastronomic delights all while laid back on your best gingham blankets. GRILLED VEGETABLE BLOOMER s red peppers, halved and deseeded s yellow peppers, halved and deseeded s TBSP OLIve oil s AUbergine, sliced into long strips s courgettes, sliced into long strips s G BLoomer loaf s red onion, sliced Try these simple and sumptuous s TBSP Good-quality fresh recipes as part of your Pride vegetarian pesto s HANDFUL OF BASIL LEaves celebration. LIME AND CHILLI CHICKEN WINGS s kg chicken wings or thighs s ,IMEs, zested and juiced s red chillis and green chillis, seeded and finely chopped s TABLE Spoons of sugar s Sweet chilli sauce, to serve Mix all the ingredients together with 1 tsp salt and coat the chicken thoroughly - putting the lot in a polythene bag and shaking hard works well. Set aside for 1 hour in the fridge. #ook the wings for about minutes, depending on their size (thighs will take a bit longer!!), turning a few times. Serve with a bowl of sweet chilli sauce. www.rainbow-project.org 1. Heat oven to #FAN #GAS. Place the peppers, cutside down, on a baking tray, drizzle with tbsp olive oil, then roast for mins to colour the skins. Remove from the oven, place in a bowl, cover with cling film and leave to cool. Once cold, remove the skins and leave to one side. Drizzle the aubergine and courgette with the rest of the olive oil, cook in batches on a griddle pan until marked on both sides. Set aside. . Slice the bloomer loaf in half and carefully hollow out the middle, leaving two empty shells. Build up the loaf by placing the vegetables in layers and scattering each layer with sliced onion, pesto and basil leaves. Try to keep all the colours separate so you create lots of different coloured layers. Once the veg is layered up, replace the lid, wrap tightly in cling film, and put in the fridge. #ut into neat wedges to serve. HERBED POTATO SALAD s G waxy new potatoes , such as #harlotte or Nicola s TSP DIJON MUSTArd s TSP WHIte wine vinegar s TBSP OLIve oil s TBSP EACH CHOPped fresh chives, parsley and tarragon (or other herbs you like) s A bed of green salad leaves , to serve 1. Steam or boil the potatoes until tender when pierced. Remove and set aside to cool a little. . Mix the mustard and vinegar in a big serving bowl until smooth, add the oil and season to taste if you want, then mix again until blended. . Slice the potatoes and toss together with the herbs in the bowl of dressing. Serve on a bed of leaves. Enjoy the Pride season. Ray 19 Photos taken at Passion at Bellinis, Newry, on the first night at new premises. 20 www.rainbow-project.org PEP is a 1 month course of medication that may prevent HIV infection after possible exposure. Treatment only works if taken within 72 hours of exposure. PEP is not a substitute for condoms and lube. 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