a planet-friendly period
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a planet-friendly period
| by Jamie Lynn Dunston | photos by Melyssa Holik ap p erio la r i e f n d t ly e n d Why add to the landfill when menstrual protection comes in a variety of comfy, fashionable, earth-friendly styles? 50 mothering | March–April 2010 If you diaper your baby’s bottom with soft, natural cotton, you already know the advantages of cloth for babies: It’s less expensive, it produces less landfill waste, and it provides a chemical-free alternative to highly processed disposables. Like many moms, I used cloth on my children mainly for their comfort. Spending days and nights surrounded by plastic, paper, and absorbent gels didn’t sound comfortable to me. In fact, I’d decided to use cloth on my children even before we conceived—I’d already discovered the wonders of cloth for myself. In my early twenties, I spent as much time in maxi pads as most babies spend in diapers. I bled almost constantly, often heavily, and had to wear some kind of menstrual protection day and night for almost a full year. Because the flow was sporadic—sometimes so light I thought it might actually stop, though it never did—I didn’t feel safe wearing tampons; I’d read the dire warnings on the packages about over-absorbency and toxic shock syndrome. So I relied on pads, which shifted, bunched, leaked, and gave me an adult form of diaper rash. Everywhere I went, I had to carry an enormous purse with backup protection. I must have tried every kind of disposable pad available; as a broke newlywed, I tried to save money by clipping coupons and buying whatever was on sale that week. But all of the brands I tried were uncomfortable— when I sat down, every one of them shifted, bunched, and rustled. About three months into my yearlong menstrual period, an old friend visited from out of state. We got to talking about our cycles, and she told me she’d recently switched from tampons to a menstrual cup called the Keeper. She showed it to me: a small rubber cup with a flared mouth and a thin, tubular handle on the bottom, like an inverted bell. A little research on the Web led me to a mother lode of websites selling reusable menstrual products, cups like the Keeper, and washable, reusable cloth pads. I decided to give it a shot. I felt I’d at least get my money’s worth—after all, I’d already been spending hundreds of dollars on pads every few months. So to get me started, I ordered a Keeper and a small supply of cloth pads. And boy, did that get me started. Cloth was so much more comfortable, and the K the eeper pads were . . . well, cute. Disposable pads didn’t coordinate with my underpants, and they never featured leopard print. And cloth pads didn’t rustle or bunch up into a soggy wad of paper and chemical gels. Cloth pads also didn’t shift out of place or leak, as my disposables had—not even at night. They didn’t give me a rash. I was in love. As I began to talk with friends about my new favorite products, I was a little surprised at some of the reasons they gave for not wanting to try reusables. Friends who cloth-diapered their babies somehow thought that cloth pads were “too much work.” But how much work is it to throw a few pads in the washing machine along with the dirty towels? Friends who preferred tampons erroneously thought that menstrual cups wouldn’t be as reliable. But how reliable are tampons, especially when they’re full? And some friends were intensely uncomfortable with the idea of putting their fingers “in there” to insert or retrieve cups and sponges. When, exactly, did we women become strangers to our own bodies? Women have been trained and conditioned to hide all evidence of our fertility and our womanhood each month, and to live in fear of dire embarrassment should someone discover that we menstruate, for Pete’s sake. Madeleine Shaw, founder and co-owner of Lunapads International Products Ltd., told me in an e-mail that she believes that our culture of menstrual paranoia is Cloth was so much more comfortable, and the pads were . . . well, . cute Friends who cloth-diapered their babies somehow thought that cloth pads were “too much work.” But how much work is it to throw a few pads into the washing machine along with the dirty towels? Opposite page: Go With The Flo maxi pad, by Lilia Designs Clockwise from top: A sampling of the designs available from Lunapads; a lively pad design from Party In My Pants; and the Keeper March–April 2010 | mothering.com 51 Lunapads Moon Pad Bag with two separate waterproofed compartments for clean and used pads Organic Lunablanket (no more stained sheets) Organic Bikini-style Lunapanties and maxi liner Thong pantyliner Sckoon Heavy pad Decent Exposures Happy Heinys Organic pad Pink Daisy Organic pads, assorted sizes (right: the underside of a Sckoon insertable pad with liners) Postpartum/ night and regular pads Imsevimse Knickernappies Small and medium pads Stackable Mama pads (3-in-1 system of stackable liners) Party in my Pants mothering Glad Rags Teen Kit (includes pads, liners, oilcloth carry bag, bath salts, and informative booklet) Assorted sizes and styles of pads 52 Organic assortment and bag from the Sanitary Pads Kit | March–April 2010 “very much on the continuum of pathologization of birth, breastfeeding, sexuality, menopause, or any of the basic elements of female development.” She cited the current trend in advertisements for hormonal birth-control products that promise to limit menstruation to just four cycles a year as a continuation of the kinds of ads for pads and tampons that portray menstruation as “a messy inconvenience that is best handled by minimizing it as much as possible.” But menstruation is a critical part of fertility that we ought to celebrate. The ability to conceive and bear a child is a confirmation of our womanhood. Why do we seek to deny or eliminate an important part of that cycle? As Shaw wrote to me, “In many cases it isn’t until we decide that we’re ready to become mothers that we kind of wake up and go ‘OK, I actually need this to work for me now.’” But fertility is not something you can put on a shelf until it becomes convenient—as I learned while struggling with infertility at the age of 23. After a year of constant menstruation, I finally found a doctor who could help me stop the bleeding and, I hoped, conceive a child. He told me that I suffered from anovulatory periods, which in my case meant that my ovaries weren’t releasing eggs at all, and that my whole cycle was out of whack. Within a week, with the help of hormone therapy, the bleeding had stopped; within a month, I was pregnant. But my love of cloth didn’t go on hiatus while I was pregnant—not by a long shot. I used cotton panty liners throughout my pregnancy, and cotton breast pads while nurs- D ivaC up M ing. And right after my son was born, I found comfort in triple-layered overnight pads of cotton flannel, doused in a home brew of witch hazel and essential oil, encased in foil, and stashed in the freezer (see sidebar for recipe). Every time I put one on, it was a little slice of heaven on Earth. Cloth pads don’t immediately appeal to everyone. Many of my friends couldn’t get past the “ick” factor of handling the soiled pads. But to me, tossing pads in the washing machine is far less unsettling than throwing them in the trash, where they must be handled and transported by many hands besides my own before reaching their final destination, where they’ll take hundreds of years to decompose. The average woman will use enough pads and tampons in her life to generate 300 pounds of landfill waste. Which option has the highest “ick” factor, again? Tampons have somewhat less environmental impact than pads, but the bleaching process that makes them white produces dioxin, a harmful chemical known to cause cancer in animals. (Tampons made of unbleached organic cotton or that are bleached with hydrogen peroxide most likely do not have the dioxin drawback.) Many women find tampon alternatives like the Keeper (rubber) and the DivaCup (silicone) far more comfortable than tampons. You can wear them even on days of light flow—in my case, I was able to resume activities such as swimming and yoga while still struggling with my year-long period. All varieties of the menstrual cup collect liquid instead of absorbing it. The cup is inserted oon Cup When I had a day job, I could pop in a cup during my morning shower, go to work, not think about my period again and until I got home that evening. Clockwise from top: Most cloth pads attach to panties by wrapping around the panty and fastening on the outside via snap or Velcro. Panty shown here is by Lunapads; pad is by Sckoon. The Moon Cup and DivaCup are menstrual cups made of silicone. March–April 2010 | mothering.com 53 Just fold and go—quick and easy! from the ocean Above: Most pads, like this one from Party in My Pants, fold up into a neat, tidy square. Top center: Perineal irrigation bottles Opposite page: Pads by Sckoon MAGICAL POSTPARTUM PADS The natural ingredients in these soothing pads will help reduce swelling and ease discomfort after childbirth. You can use cloth or disposable pads, per your preference. Here’s what you’ll need: • overnight maxi pads of your choice • witch hazel (distilled extract, available at drug stores) • lavender essential oil (not perfume) 54 mothering | March–April 2010 had to empty my cup in public restrooms only a handful of times, usually when traveling. Yes, you have to put your fingers in your vagina to get it in and out, and yes, it can be messy. Some women stash a perineal irrigation bottle, or peri-bottle, full of water in their purses for use in public restrooms. I carry a small stash of baby wipes, which does the job nicely. If you have a tilted uterus or are particularly petite, you may find that menstrual cups aren’t for you. [For information on how to realign a tilted uterus, see “Mayan Womb Massage,” on page 56.—Ed.] Only four months after my daughter was born, my period returned, despite exclusive breastfeeding. I hadn’t yet fully recovered from delivering this chubby cherub of nine pounds, two ounces, and when I tried to use my cup the first time, I found it didn’t fit. I switched to natural sea-sponge tampons, which contain no synthetic fibers or dioxin. They’re simply natural sponges from the ocean that can be sustainably harvested and cut to a size and shape that holds 6 to 9 grams of fluid (about the same as a tampon). To reuse, simply remove, rinse, and reinsert. You can even sew a short length of dental floss to one end for easy retrieval. Sponges can be disinfected and deodorized with natural products such as tea-tree oil or hydrogen peroxide. They last six cycles or more, and because they’re biodegradable and chemical-free, they’re a perfect addition to your compost bin. But the greenest product is the one you don’t buy. Although many companies and mompreneurs produce cloth pads, the cheapest, simplest, most ecologically sound option is to make your own. Having neither an interest in nor enough aptitude for sewing to craft my own, I’m thrilled that I can purchase ready-made pads online. et g n po seas Natural sea-sponge tampons contain no synthetic fibers or dioxin. They’re simply natural sponges that can be sustainably harvested and cut to a size and shape that holds 6 to 9 grams of fluid (about the same as a tampon). into the vagina and held in place by the vaginal muscles. When it’s full, you simply remove it, empty its contents into the toilet, give it a quick rinse, and reinsert—no need to carry a day’s supply of disposable products in your purse. It can require some practice before you can easily insert and remove a cup, but when cups are properly situated, many women find them more comfortable and more reliable than tampons. If you’ve ever been comfortable using a diaphragm for birth control, you should have no problem using a cup. Because cups hold a bit more liquid than the average tampon, most women find they don’t have to empty them as often as they had to change tampons. And because a cup is nonabsorbent, it can be worn longer—up to 12 hours. When I had a day job, I could pop in a cup during my morning shower, go to work, and not think about my period again until I got home that evening. Some women who might be tempted to try a cup hesitate because of the problem of getting their hands messy in a public restroom. But I’ve • aloe vera (the edible liquid, not the topical ointment; look for it at natural-food stores) • aluminum foil On each pad, pour 1 tablespoon of witch hazel, a dime-sized dollop of aloe-vera liquid, and 3–4 drops of lavender oil. Wrap each pad in aluminum foil and store in freezer. Use as needed. — J a m i e Ly n n D u n s t o n am p o n s However, if you’re more of a do-it-yourselfer, dozens of patterns are available free online, ranging from absolute-beginner and hand-sewn patterns to elaborate designs for pads with rolled seams and removable liners (see Web Resources, at right). The most economical and environmentally conscious option is to reclaim old cotton T-shirts, bedsheets, and flannel pajamas that are otherwise headed for the landfill or the ragbag, and recycle them into comfortable, soft, reusable pads. Whether you buy them or make your own, cloth pads—like cloth diapers—are good for the Earth and good for your wallet. If you use cloth on your children, you already know that it can also provide significant benefits for their health, comfort, and well-being. So what are you waiting for? It’s time we moms experienced these benefits for ourselves. D E LTA In the next room my daughter’s alarm goes off like a truck in reverse the stranger my daughter’s body has become shuffles to the bathroom shower to shower we’re just a stud’s width apart water from the same tank drips off us in different slopes I can only imagine her wedge of black hair circles of firm bottom breasts mature enough to take a lover think of her curled over those long legs shaving around ankles think of how recently I bent over the tub edge pushing yellow ducks her way soaping her flat, hairless body in the sink even before that and first of all the break of my water splashing her out into the world and how I keep drowning in the pool of her WEB RESOURCES To buy: GladRags All-cotton pocket-style pads and liners, in bold patterns or undyed organic cloth. GladRags also sells the Keeper and its silicone sister, the Moon Cup, as well as sea-sponge tampons and the DivaCup. www.gladrags.com Lunapads are made of cotton fleece in a pad-and-liner construction. You can stack multiple liners for heavy days, or wear the pad alone for lighter flow. They also make underwear with a built-in panty liner, and carry the DivaCup and other accessories: peri-bottles, carry bags, and that premenstrual essential, chocolate. www.lunapads.com Party In My Pants Is there a party in your pants? These all-in-one–style pads are cut from flannelette or cotton in cute prints. Try a panty liner for the cost of shipping ($2.99). http://partypantspads.com The average woman will use enough pads and tampons in her life to generate Additional companies: Cute Caboose www.cutecaboose.com Decent Exposures www.decentexposures.com Happy Heinys www.happyheinystore.com Hyena Cart http://hyenacart.com ImseVimse www.imsevimse.us Jack’s Magic Beanstalk www.jacksmagicbeanstalk.com Jade and Pearl www.jadeandpearl.com/catalog/ index.php Kelly’s Closet www.kellyscloset.com Knickernappies www.knickernappies.com Lilia Designs http://liliadesigns.com Maine Cloth Diaper www.maineclothdiaper.com Mamaclothonline www.mamaclothonline.com Mother of Eden/Fuzzi Bunz www.fuzzibunzstore.com Pandora Pads www.pandorapads.com Puddle’s Place www.puddlesplace.com Sckoon www.sckoon.com Snap-Ez www.snap-ez.com Swaddlebees www.swaddlebees.com Thanks Mama www.thanksmama.com 300 pounds of landfill waste. To make: If you’re more of a Adahy’s Cloth Pad Patterns This site features four patterns ranging from simple circular pads to a waterproof, multilayer pad-and-liner design similar to the Lunapad. It also includes advice on choosing fabrics and fasteners, as well as instructions for washing and care. http://shewhorunsintheforest. googlepages.com Tiny Birds Organic Baby & Family Cloth Pads Detailed, step-by-step instructions, with photos, for making your own pads with a sewing machine. These pocket-style pads (similar to GladRags) can be used with extra liners if necessary. http:// www.tinybirdsorganics.com/organiccotton/clothpads.html do-ityourselfer, dozens of patterns are available free online. To see a video of Peggy O’Mara talking to Lunapads’ Madeleine Shaw, go to www. mothering.com/links. Jamie Lynn Dunston writes while her children are sleeping in Cary, North Carolina. —MARTHA CLARKSON March–April 2010 | mothering.com 55