Mayor Mike Rawlings
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Mayor Mike Rawlings
Serving Dallas, Denton, Collin & Rockwall Counties a paper with a purpose Mayor Mike Rawlings ...a young man from humble beginnings in a tiny town climbs up to sit in the highest seat of a very large metropolis. www.theseniorvoice.com • Like us on Facebook.com/SeniorVoiceDFW • January/February 2016 features COVER> Mayor Mike Rawlings. He could be the subject of a Horatio Alger story: with meager means but ample work ethic, he earned the top job at Pizza Hut which in turn led to the top job at Dallas City Hall. As Mayor, Mike Rawlings is not afraid to tackle the tough issues from the homeless to domestic violence. Meet Mike Rawlings originally from Borger, an oil patch dot on the Texas map, he is now in his second term as Mayor of Big D. By Harriet P. Gross 7> Bob Jones: The name Bob Jones is well-known in Southlake. The man whose name is memorialized on a road, a sprawling park, a resplendent nature center and preserve was a freed slave who became one of the area’s largest landowners. 16> Gary Patterson: By Marice Richter By Bo Carter On the surface, TCU head football coach Gary Patterson is one of the most intense football mentors and minds in the collegiate game. Yet on the interior, Patterson has a kind heart and a wife Kelsey who shares his love for people and causes. S P E C I A L E X H I B I T February 3 – March 10, 2016 Reserve tickets online at jfk.org Exhibit included with Museum admission. 411 Elm St | Dallas, TX 75202 | 214.747.6660 Sign of the Times is a Program of ExhibitsUSA, a national division of Mid-America Arts Alliance with The Texas Commission on the Arts and The National Endowment for the Arts; Roy Lichtenstein, 1992 Democratic Party candidates Bill Clinton and Al Gore, Offset lithography, 22 x 15 x 1 1/2, Courtesy Hal Wert 4 | www.theseniorvoice.com January / February 2016 Publisher & Founder> Carol Butler cbutler@theseniorvoice.com President / CEO> Bob Bowsher bobbowsher@theseniorvoice.com Copy Editor> Harriet Blake Marketing & Business Development — Eastern Region> Heidi Frankel heidi@theseniorvoice.com Marketing & Business Development — Western Region> Kathryn Miller kathryn@theseniorvoice.com Production & Graphic Design> Leigh Ellis www.EllisGS.com Website Editor> Andra Dunn andra@convertible-communications. com Cover Photo> Allison V. Smith www.allisonvsmith.com Contributing Writers Harriet Blake Durhl Caussey Barbara Glass Dianne Hackett Mary Jacobs Debra Jones Mike McGee Trilla Pando Maurice Richter Contact Us!> We value your feedback. CButler@theseniorvoice.com 972-862-2668 The Senior Voice is published monthly and single copies are available free in Tarrant, Johnson, Parker and Hood counties. Our sister edition serves Collin, Dallas, Denton and Rockwall counties. Entire contents of The Senior Voice, unless noted, all rights reserved. Material may not be reproduced without written permission. Opinions expressed in articles appearing in this magazine do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher. Publisher is not responsible for errors in advertising. Dearest Community, contents Editor, Carol Butler COLUMNS 9> The Aging Hippie We trust the holidays were good to you and your great expectations for the new year come to pass. Here at The Senior Voice, we are so excited to expand to Tarrant County with a separate edition beginning with this first issue of 2016. Our January–February edition brings you covers on our local mayors: Dallas Mayor Mike Rawlings is featured on the Dallas County edition; Fort Worth Mayor Betsy Price graces the cover of our Tarrant County edition. Mike Rawlings is in his second term as Dallas mayor and as writer Harriet Gross says, he is a big believer in Dallas as the “City of Opportunity.” After coming to town with $200 in his pocket, he worked his way up to become CEO of Pizza Hut. He is a vocal opponent of domestic violence and sees seniors as a vital resource in town. Betsy Price also is in her third term in Fort Worth and is not only working hard for FW, but as writer P.A. Humphrey says, is keeping Fort Worth on its toes, encouraging residents to ride their bikes and be “Fit Worth.” She is proud of Fort Worth’s position as the 16th largest city in the United States and at the same time, proud of it’s small-town feel. As we honor the birthday of Martin Luther King this month and celebrate Black History month in February, we recognize Bob Jones. Mr. Jones was a freed slave who not only became a landowner but one of the area’s most successful farmers and ranchers. Writer Marice Richter reports on the man whose name is well-known in Southlake, home to the Bob Jones Nature Center and Preserve. Columnist Mary Jacobs covers aging and spirituality. In this issue she discusses the subject with Rev. Dr. Christy Thomas, who is a retired United Methodist pastor and author of the new book, “An Ordinary Death.” Caring for the aging parent, especially long distance, is a subject that many can relate to. Author Harriet Blake discusses the difficulties that ensue based on personal experience as well as the experiences of others. Professionals weigh in with advice on the best ways to manage. by Amy Martin 11> Soul of Aging by Mary Jacobs 16> Bo Knows Sports by Bo Carter 20> Between the Covers by Harriet P. Gross 20> Getting Reel by Larry Ratliff OUT AND ABOUT 22> Grand Times: Activities to Enjoy with Your Grandkids by Heidi Frankel Don’t let the cold weather keep you inside. Check out The Taste of The Bishop Arts District’s Food and Walking tours. The tours are presented by Dallas Bites and run from Jan. 2 to March 30 starting at Dude, Sweet Chocolate, 408 W. Eighth St., Dallas. 23> Grand Times: Reading with Your Grandkids Valentine’s Day is not far off and Love is ON the air — Learn how Barbara Eden still loves being Genie and reminisce with Betty Lynn, Barney Fife’s girlfriend on The Andy Griffith Show, as she shares her role at the Andy Griffin Museum in Mount Airy, NC. 25> Events in February What a better way to celebrate Valentines Day than with a healthy aphrodisiac, chocolate. Dark chocolate especially is good for your heart — emotionally and physically. Respectfully and in JOY, Carol by Heidi Frankel 23> Grand Times Foodie by Chef Travis Wick 24> Events in January Get the most out of the senior voice! Website> Visit our website at www.theseniorvoice.com to read the newspaper online, find events, connect with resources, dig into past issues and more! E-Newsletter> Our weekly newsletter tells you what is happening in and around North Texas with lectures, seminars, freebies and more! Sign up on our website. Social Media> Follow us on Facebook and Twitter in the news Longtime San Antonio and (Senior Voice!) film critic Larry Ratliff finally ‘writes it out loud’ Eisemann Center Presents An Evening with Garrison Keillor Thursday, January 28, 2016 at 8:00 PM Eisemann Center Presents, An Evening with Garrison Keillor at the Eisemann Center, 2351 Performance Drive in Richardson, Texas on Thursday, January 28, 2015 at 8pm. Garrison Keillor is America’s favorite storyteller. The charming, witty, and always entertaining writer will have you wrapped around his finger with his touching anecdotes, comic monologues, and thought-provoking observations. You’ll never forget his tales of Lake Wobegon and so much more. Master storyteller and host of Public Radio’s “A Prairie Home Companion,” Garrison Keillor is one of the most beloved raconteurs and commentators of our times. For more than 40 years, he has been drawing pictures with his words and nudging us with his gentle, sardonic humor. Over 17 million listeners on more than 900 public radio stations still hear him every week. In addition to his radio roles and playing himself in the movie adaptation of “A Prairie Home Companion,” he is also a prolific author and poet. Tickets are $48–$75 and are available for purchase online at www.eisemanncenter.com or by calling the Eisemann Center Ticket Office at 972-744-4650 and group discounts are available for 10 or more persons. Dear Editor, Thank you for featuring Catherine Barr and The Texas Winds Musical Outreach. As a resident of Forest Dale Senior Apartments for almost 18 years, I’ve enjoyed many hours of music from that source, thanks to their Program Director Laura Irvin and the generous professional musicians. There are not enough great words to describe what this free music means to the likes of my building, and Laura manages to send us great performers even during our Christmas Week Coffees and Cider every morning of Christmas Week. Not easy to find entertainment that week, but Texas Winds can do it! I should add that I really enjoy the column by Barbara Glass every month. We seniors do very much appreciate The Senior Voice. Thanks again, E.H. — Dallas 6 | www.theseniorvoice.com January / February 2016 Award-winning film critic, public speaker and humorist Larry Ratliff is adding published author to his credits. “Did I Write That Out Loud? — We Might As Well Laugh, It’s Only Life,” available at Amazon.com in paperback or the Kindle format, is a collection of entertaining essays about the raucous roller coaster ride of the veteran humorist, public speaker, film critic and stand-up comedian. “Did I Write That Out Loud?” covers topics such as why Ratliff’s family doctor broke up with him and what happens when pants begin to have minds of their own. Ratliff writes from his heart and his funny bone, so even subjects such as a late-night encounter with paramedics and job loss are skewed with truth softened with humor. Or as Ratliff puts it, “We might as well laugh. It’s only life.” “My wife Suellen has been after me for years to write a book,” said Larry Ratliff. “Now she can get after me about something else.” Ratliff, known as The Jalapeño Guy, established his website LarryRatliff. com in 2009 after serving 13 years as film critic for the San Antonio ExpressNews newspaper and several years as film critic at the San Antonio Light. His reviews and interviews also appeared on various San Antonio TV and radio stations, as well as being syndicated nationwide and to 15 foreign countries via the NBC News Channel. in the news Bob Jones and His Legacy: A freed slave became one the area’s largest landowners PHOTO: Southlake Historical Society By Marice Richter The name Bob Jones is well-known in Southlake. The man whose name is memorialized on a road, a sprawling park, a resplendent nature center and preserve was a freed slave who became one of the area’s largest landowners. The Jones family built a log house that was eventually expanded to an impressive two-story structure with a balcony and wraparound porches. John Dolford “Bob” Jones was born a slave in 1850, the son of white slaveholder Leazer Alvis Jones and his slave Elizabeth. Leazer Jones left his wife and four children in Arkansas before the Civil War and traveled with Elizabeth and their mixed-race children to Texas, where he bought land in northern Tarrant County. A successful farmer and rancher, Jones hired black and white sharecroppers and workers for his operation. He built a family church and the one-room Walnut Grove School for his children and other nearby black children, who were banned from attending white schools. The Carroll school district’s Walnut Grove Elementary School, its newest school built in 2012, was named as a tribute to the Jones schoolhouse. A slave himself, Bob worked as a sheepherder on his father’s farm. At the end of the Civil War, Bob, his brother and mother were set free and they bought the 60acre farm Leazer Jones left behind to return to his white family in Arkansas. “He hired teachers from Dallas during the summer to come teach at the school,” recalled his grandson, Bobby Jones, who grew up on the farm and grew up to become an epidemiologist for Tarrant County. In 1874, Bob Jones married Almeady Chisum, the mixed-race daughter of legendary Texas cattleman John Chisum and his slave, Jensie. The couple and their 10 children expanded the farm to nearly 2,000 acres, one of the largest holdings in present day Southlake, according to the Southlake Historical Society. After his death in 1936, his children planned to carry on the legacy of farming and ranching the Jones family land. But misfortune fell upon Mount Carmel Baptist Church and homestead, which burned down. Eventually, the school closed and the building deteriorated and crumbled. The Jones land was located near a tributary of the Elm Fork of the Trinity River that was selected by the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers as the site of Grapevine Lake. Most of the Jones family land was acquired by the federal government in the 1940s for the lake. Some Jones family descendants held onto small plots until the 1990s, but most of the heirs moved away to find work. Bobby Jones said his father, Emory Jones, and uncle, Jinks Jones, opened an auction barn. Frequent auctions took place at the dusty site at White’s Chapel Road and State Highway 114 from 1947 until 1984. The brothers’ wives — Lula and Elnora — ran a café to feed the auction-goers, travelers and truckers who hauled rocks from Bridgeport to Grapevine for the lake’s dam. It is regarded as the first integrated café in Texas. A Jones family tradition that began in the 1800s and continued at the auction barn site was an annual harvest picnic and barbecue. By the 1960s, it lasted three days and included baseball games, music and dancing and a carnival, which drew up to 1,000 people per day, according to a Southlake Historical Society. Bob Jones was so well known and respected that his funeral drew a crowd of “500, which jammed the white people’s church” and was attended by as many whites as blacks, according to the historical society account based on a newspaper report. “Bob Jones was truly an American success story,” said Debra Edmondson, president of the board of the Bob Jones Nature Center and Preserve. “And I’m proud to say that we continue to tell that story.” January / February 2016 www.theseniorvoice.com | 7 Jingle Maker’s Career Has Been “Finger Lickin’ Good” By Debra Goldie Jones Bill Jones tells a funny story. “I’m outside my recording studio in Salt Lake City getting some fresh air when I see this white-haired, bearded fellow in a white silk suit. He’s looking for a restaurant to serve his special chicken. It was Colonel Sanders. We wrote his first jingle ‘Kentucky Fried Chicken. Finger lickin’ good. Take it from the Colonel’.” It was the beginning of a relationship that would span twenty years and earn Bill one of many CLIOs and other awards. At 84, Bill Jones is still a hip cat and that oxymoron, a working musician. His studio overlooking a golf course epitomizes workfrom-home bliss. Growing up on his grandmother’s ancestral Wooster, Ohio farm, the great grandson of a Congressman, Bill’s parents were members of the Oxford Group, precursor to Alcoholics Anonymous. Doctor Bob, co-founder of AA, was a frequent visitor. Music was in his blood. In 1919, his father’s orchestra beat out Hoagy Carmichael’s for a recording contract. One day a traveling rural music teacher offered Bill a bass repaired with thick plywood. With all his effort, he conquered the instrument. Enlisting in the Air Force, stationed in Ogden, Utah, Bill was assigned to the band with players from across the country. The Utah Symphony made overtures, but he earned more playing private clubs. And, he had married a great Irish gal. Charlie Freed, brother of famed DJ Alan Freed, asked Bill if he could play bass and sing jingles. Discovering this aptitude, Notable Ads was formed. An original weather break series sold to 400 radio stations featuring a cappella singers (think Andrews Sisters) predicting the weather. “Don’t wear a plain coat, wear a raincoat. Big storms toooooo-night.” Bill also did the voice and recording for a 40-hour Book of Mormon LP record. Dave Frishberg (My Attorney Bernie, Peel Me A Grape) came onboard to write for a while. In 1960 a doctor diagnosed Bill with MS and suggested he give up Notable Ads. A year later, he moved his family to Dallas to work for legendary radio ID producer, Tom Merriman. Bill excelled within the community during what has been called the “shining, golden years of creativity.” Eventually he partnered with Don Zimmers and the rest is Texas jingle history. Bill started our interview by playing a very scratchy recording of his father at the piano mimicking a 1910 radio program. As we wrap up he plays something he’s found on YouTube: his own jingle for Viv fertilizer on station KOS now circulating on the Internet as iconic 1950s radio advertising. Sound in memorium. The Aging Hippie Becoming a Crazy Aunt Dallas Theater Center By Amy Martin Hippiedom is superb training for being the crazy aunt. A good hippie embraces each day as a unique gift overflowing with creative potential and opportunities to connect and serve. We are the keepers of the carpe diem. My heart melts each time my grandnieces greet me at family gatherings with the expectation of “What is our adventure today?” My play with this trio of bright souls ages 4 to 10 started with make believe, enacting characters and scenes from movies and plays they’d seen. The conflations were great. Minions from Despicable Me invaded Frozen scenes, with random ceramic bulldogs off the bookshelves joining with My Little Ponies to save the day. I am in awe of their creativity. Our great girl science period began when I showed up with kinetic sand, the new generation of Play-Doh: sand with just enough plastic resin to stick together under pressure. With tools, molds and tints we could build just about anything. And make a glorious mess. Beach scenes and castles with moats quickly ramped up to contests for making the most elaborate cupcake ala The Great British Bakeoff. But you have to keep up your cool quotient or risk losing the weird aunt title. So I introduced them to the glories of InstaMorph, plastic granules that soften in hot water to create gooey blobs. Through trial and error, we discovered how hot the water had to be to soften the InstaMorph and for how long. Much discussion of boogers arose at this point. We determined how to mix the tint pellets into the soft plastic. Roles naturally arose among the sisters, each taking the task that best suited them. I found my niche among them and we transformed into an InstaMorphing machine. We stretched, twisted, and shaped the soft plastic into bracelets, bunnies, and magic rings. I stretched the InstaMorph to saranwrap thinness and made a cast of my nose and a macabre ghost finger that I teased them with, assuring my weird aunt title for quite some time. SHAKESPEARE’S For Christmas, we went to Lone Star Circus, a local Cirque du Soliel outfit with clowns, acrobats, and jugglers, even professional hula hoopers and trained cats. Ideas were spinning out of their little blond heads afterward. The family gathering at Easter this year will be very interesting. Fortunate me, I am the one they’ll tell stories about to their friends when they’re older, the one who made their life a little more colorful, who showed them they could be forever young. To paraphrase Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr., “Girls do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing.” LIKE US ON FACEBOOK www.facebook.com/SeniorVoiceDFW directed by JOel Ferrell JAN 27 - FEB 28 kalita humphreys theater Tickets as low as $18 buy early before prices go up! Dallas Theater Center’s production is part of Shakespeare in American Communities, a program of the National Endowment for the Arts in partnership with Arts Midwest. DallasTheaterCenter.org (214) 880-0202 January / February 2016 www.theseniorvoice.com | 9 LIVING BRAIN HEALTHY Improve Overall Health and Sharpen Memory Dr. Diana Kerwin As Chief of of Geriatric Medicine at Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital Dallas, my goal for the aging population is to promote a brain-healthy diet and increase exercise. And as a specialist in cognitive disorders and brain health, much of my career has been spent researching about how the brain changes as we age and what steps we can take to keep it healthy. I am also the medical director of Texas Alzheimer’s and Memory Disorders, a Texas Health Physicians Group practice in Dallas, and I serve on the board of the Alzheimer’s Association. Brain Healthy Diet n Dark leafy greens— every day nCold water fish for protein and Omega 3 source — two or more times a week — sardines, anchovies and Atlantic salmon nNuts — walnuts, almonds and peanuts n Legumes — three to four times a week nVitamin E and C rich foods — almonds, kale, pumpkin seeds parsley, papaya My practice is dedicated to promoting the health of my patients through education on how to improve their brain health through food choices — a nutrient-dense diet is a big part of the prescription for my patients. nHealthy fats, olive oil two tablespoons a day, no butter. Brain-Healthy Food Choices and Exercise As a treat add a bit of dark chocolate for a sweet indulgence and to up your antioxidants. I advocate for maintaining an ideal body weight by making brainhealthy food choices with a simple plan: choose fresh ingredients; avoid simple sugars; consume lots of whole foods (nothing processed); and avoid fast food. These steps are nothing new — but it can be challenging at first to adopt this new approach to a brainhealthy diet. Like the heart, the brain also needs the right balance of nutrients — including protein and sugar — to function well. A brain-healthy diet is most effective when combined with physical and mental activity and social interaction. Regular exercise throughout all stages of life is healthy, and it’s never too late to start. The brain benefits are immediate. Begin by adding 30 minutes of exercises three times a week. Be sure to consult with your doctor about how to safely increase your exercise. Healthy Diet, Healthy You Sure, it takes more effort to eat healthy. But a poor diet, eaten over many years, increases our risk of cardiovascular disease, obesity, type 2 diabetes and even Alzheimer’s disease. Research shows that a healthy diet can diminish these risks and enhance our longevity. But we need to know what to eat, how much to eat, and why it’s important that we make these decisions now. Diet and nutrition are two of the first treatments I discuss with patients who have been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. And to their family members without memory loss, I offer the same advice. All of the healthy-eating recommendations I make are based on vitamins and minerals that support our minds and bodies in countless ways. 10 | www.theseniorvoice.com January / February 2016 nTurmeric — as often as possible nStay hydrated Food as Ultimate Protector, B Vitamins for Added Brain Health Think of food as the ultimate protector and as your medicine. Choose foods that serve your individual needs and improve your brain health and overall health as you age. Think of B vitamins as brain food. Our bodies use B vitamins to keep the nerves and the brain healthy, when B levels start to decline around age 55, mental performance may suffer. n For a good source of Vitamin B12 eat turkey, chicken, and seafood (clams, mussels and mackerel) nTo boost your B6 levels, choose potatoes, bananas, prunes, greens and pinto and kidney beans n Look for Vitamin E in your food sources (wheat germ, olive oil, nuts and seeds). With the growing knowledge around food choices, we now can make good decisions and balance our scales to live the longest, healthiest lives possible. Texas Alzheimer’s and Memory Disorders is part of Texas Health Physicians Group. Physicians employed by Texas Health Physicians Group practice independently and are not employees of the hospital or Texas Health Resources. For more information, all 214-345-4449 or visit TexasAlzheimersandMemoryDisorders.com The Soul of Aging By Mary Jacobs In this new ongoing series, Mary Jacobs talks with local faith leaders about the spiritual side of aging. This month she interviewed the Rev. Dr. Christy Thomas, a retired United Methodist pastor in Frisco and author of a new book, An Ordinary Death. Here are excerpts. What does it mean to “age gracefully”? In old age, we lose our filters. The public part of us disappears and the private part surfaces. If it’s cynicism, anger, or jealousy, that’s what comes out. If it’s gratefulness, kindness, patience, and a gentle spirit, that’s what comes out. Spirituality is about taking our interior to the point where it matches our exterior. I don’t have to pretend to be good; it is habitual to me. Kindness and courtesy become so much a part of me that they are natural. Getting older often involves loss — losing physical abilities, losing friends. As a Christian, how do you handle that spiritually? I think the answer is holding life with open hands. When you do that, things can spill out. When my fists are closed, I’m less able to receive. Many of us try to hold onto our youth rather than recognizing that Dr. Christy Thomas growing old is such a privilege. In the Bible, God tells Abraham, “I’m going to give you more descendants than the stars, so that you might be a blessing.” Blessings are always given so that you can give them away. What are some ways that older people can be a blessing? Some of it is financial generosity. Also, as we get older, we’re not so afraid of human emotion, human tragedy. We can be a stable force when those things happen. What are some of the spiritual tasks involved in nearing the end of life? As a pastor, I’ve been at the bedside of dying people. So often, at the moment of death, a hand will raise. I believe the person is welcoming Jesus, saying, “I’m here, come get me.” It becomes this holy moment – this sense of the angels surrounding the person to take him or her home. There is something so peaceful about being ready for that. Anyone who ever feels the need to justify consumption of chocolate should consider these facts: n Stearic acid, which is the main saturated fat in chocolate, does not raise blood cholesterol levels. A study where subjects ate a 1.4-ounce chocolate bar instead of a high-carbohydrate snack found that the chocolate bar did not raise low-density lipoprotein levels (LDL or “bad cholesterol”), but did increase high-density lipoprotein levels (HDL or “good cholesterol”). n Solid chocolate is a major source of copper and magnesium. Copper helps the body use iron and aids in the development of connective tissue, blood vessels, and skin. Magnesium is part of the bone structure. It also has a role in the nervous system and in the break down of protein. n Chocolate is not high in caffeine. The amount of caffeine in a typical 1.4-ounce bar or an 8-ounce glass of chocolate milk is equivalent to a cup of decaffeinated coffee with 6 mg caffeine. An ounce of bittersweet chocolate has more, from 5 to 35 mg caffeine; one ounce of unsweetened baking chocolate has 35 mg – all well below the 140 mg in a cup of brewed coffee. n Candy alone does not cause cavities. Susceptible teeth, dental plaque, and food cause cavities. Cocoa and chocolate actually have the ability to offset the acid-producing potential of the sugar they contain. Milk chocolate is high in protein, calcium, phosphate and other minerals, which have protective effects on tooth enamel. Although research and information on health benefits of chocolate is surfacing, it’s important to remember that chocolate is at the tip of the food guide pyramid along with fats, oils, and sweets. Eating a chocolate bar will not necessarily make you fat, but chocolate treats should be balanced with other food choices throughout the day. January / February 2016 www.theseniorvoice.com | 11 Love is ON the Air Barbara Eden Still Loves Being the Genie “I have the real bottle,” announced Barbara Eden, 84, about the unique prop that served as the home for her supernatural character “Jeannie” from the 1960s television show I Dream Of Jeannie. The iconic actress revealed another fact about the decanter during her visit with enthusiastic fans at the Dallas Comic Con Fan Days event. “[It was] a Jim Beam bottle,” she stated. “It was a Christmas bottle for Jim Beam, and most of those in-the-know go find them and have them painted...” Eden also shared how she won the most famous role of her career. “I had been reading about it in Variety…” she began. “They were testing actresses for the part and they were all very tall brunettes. “And they were all like, Miss Greece, Miss Israel, Miss Italy, you know — all these beauty contest winners. And I said, ‘Okay, not for me,’” she remembered. Still, Eden’s agent sent her a script to read and she met with producer Sidney Sheldon over an iced tea. “….And that’s how I got it.” In addition, the actress revealed some sentimental thoughts on Larry Hagman (Tony Nelson), who hailed from the Ft. Worth area. “I miss Larry,” she said of her costar who later gained fame on Dallas as J.R. Ewing. “Over 500 people come through,” says Betty of a typical day when sits throughout the afternoon once a month at the museum greeting fans. They come from all over the world to meet a former cast member of the popular show and to see the large collection of Andy Griffith memorabilia, assembled by Griffith’s life-long friend Emmett 12 | www.theseniorvoice.com there would ever be a remake of Jeannie. Eden mentioned that she might enjoy being a part of a rebooted series. “I would. I would like to play her grandmother,” said Eden, drawing laughter from the crowd. Part of what made Jeannie a popular character was her personality; “She really loved life and she loved people,” the actress explained. Along with her Jeannie work (including two television movie sequels), Eden did extensive USO service in the 1980s with Bob Hope. She also appeared in the t.v. series Burke’s Law and had roles in such films as The 7 Faces of Dr. Lao and Ride The Wild Surf. The actress mentioned the films Harper Valley P.T.A. and The Wonderful World Of The Brothers Grimm as some of her favorite roles. “He was wonderful. For me in particular his timing was so good and so wonderful,” she asserted. The actress worked with Hagman throughout her career — a connection which included a role on Dallas. “At the end of his life we did Love Letters together — completely different characters — and he just fell right into it,” she remarked upon their theatrical pairing. “He was a delight to work with.” “I think I had an angel on my shoulder,” Eden said as she looked back on the positive experiences in her career. “I loved being a genie,” Eden exclaimed. “I still do — look out!” At one point an audience member wondered if Betty Lynn Keeping Mayberry Alive It’s just after noon on the third Friday of the month, and 89-year-old Betty Lynn is preparing to take her seat behind a small brown table in the main room of the Andy Griffith Museum in Mount Airy, NC. Visitors are already beginning to flood into the 2,500-square-feet building to meet the actress best known to 60s TV fans as Barney Fife’s girlfriend, Thelma Lou, from “The Andy Griffith Show” set in the fictional town of Mayberry. By Mike McGee By Nick Thomas Forrest (see www.andygriffithmuseum.com). In 2007, after being twice robbed in her Los Angeles home, Lynn left Hollywood for the quiet, secure life in Mount Airy, which was also Andy Griffith’s hometown. “I’d been coming here for the Mayberry Days festival for ages, so it seemed like the perfect place to settle,” she said. “Everyone has been so kind since I moved here. It didn’t take long for me to feel like a local rather than a visitor.” “The Andy Griffith Show” ran for 8 seasons, throughout most of the 1960s. It won six Emmys, including five for Don Knotts. “Andy was fun and a bit of a tease off camera, while Don was sweet but very quiet and nothing like his Barney Fife character. But that just illustrates what a good actor he was.” Lynn also appeared in some 20 films and over 40 other TV shows, including many westerns. January / February 2016 “My first film, ‘Sitting Pretty,’ and then later ‘Cheaper by the Dozen,’ were with Clifton Webb, a sweet man with a good sense of humor,” she recalled. “I also did two films with Bette Davis who got everyone to call me Boo, after one of my characters, so it wouldn’t be confusing when they called ‘Betty on the set!’ As she does on each of her visits to the museum, Betty braces for a long afternoon as enthusiastic fans are already forming the meet-and-greet line. “It’s a little tiring by the end of the day, but it’s the least I can do since people may stand for hours to take a picture, get an autograph and a hug,” she says. “There’s a lot of love coming my way.” Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University at Montgomery, Ala., and has written features, columns, and interviews for over 600 magazines and newspapers. Stirring Up Memories A Sweet, Steamy Romance By Trilla Pando Hijacking cars, robbing banks and capturing imaginations of Americans dragged down by the Great Depression, Bonnie Parker and Clyde Barrow spent years scaring many folks and killing more than a few. But before they started terrorizing the nation, they were just two tumble-down almost-kids who’d never known many good times between them and thought they’d found heaven when they found each other. Bonnie, born in Rowena, ‘way out in West Texas, lost her dad when she was only four. Her mom gathered up the brood and took them all to her mom in West Dallas’s Cement City. Bonnie shone as a good little girl, loving to read and write poetry; in 1922 she was the junior spelling champ of Dallas. The literary life of her dreams never materialized. his exact recipe but here’s one a tough guy like Clyde might concoct. No measuring, just crumbling, pouring and pinching. Clyde Barrow’s “Tough Guy’s Hot Chocolate” • 1 milk chocolate candy bar, crumbled up (A standard Hershey works fine) •About a cup of whole milk — either 2% or skim, makes it a little less wicked, but not nearly as good • 1 pinch pumpkin pie spice, or ground cinnamon Place chocolate pieces in a saucepan over medium-low heat; add milk and stir constantly until the chocolate is melted and well blended. Whisk in spices or cinnamon. Remove from heat; put in a cup and hand to your honey with a kiss. Learn more about the romance of Bonnie and Clyde at my blog, Culinary Anthropology at http://culinaryanthropology.blogspot.com. You can e-mail me at culinaryant@gmail.com. By the time she turned 16, tiny Bonnie — she never reached five feet — was a married lady. Didn’t last long. Two years later, she was on her own. Until one day in January, 1930, she was at a friend’s house when out in the kitchen she found a dapper guy with a dimple in his chin, and she knew she’d found her heaven. If Bonnie knew hard times, Clyde Barrow knew harder. He knew how to land on his feet — usually running! Growing up in a squatters’ camp tent a under the Oak Cliff Viaduct in Dallas, clever Clyde knew he’d get out, didn’t much matter how. Fellow gangster Floyd Hamilton commented, “Life was desperate enough in West Dallas before the Great Depression, but after 1929, it was almost impossible to stay honest.” Certainly, that was true for Clyde. At seventeen he rented a car, but he “forgot” to return it. The beginning. Three years later Clyde was on the lam when Bonnie found him in that kitchen. Soon after their meeting, he’d come a-courting at Bonnie’s mom’s house when the cops nabbed him. Did Bonnie drop that bad boy? No way. On Valentine’s Day, she penned a long letter to Clyde, who was now in the Waco jail. Honey, I sure wish I was with you tonight. Sugar, I never knew I really cared for you until you got in jail. Chaotic and tragic years followed for the couple, but we’ll leave them finding heaven in the kitchen. What do you think Clyde was making out there? Why, his lifelong specialty — hot chocolate. We don’t know Do you have a house to sell that needs work? John D’Angelo is the name, the face and reputation to seek out if you are looking to sell your house that may need a little or a lot of work. We will personally meet and talk with you and share with you our experience gained from pricing, remodeling and selling 100’s of houses ourselves. We will answer your questions and there is No obligation what so ever. Experienced and professional. Helpful information for you just a phone call away. or visit us on our web site at johndangeloinc.com 214-320-8816 Mayor Mike Rawlings He could be the subject of a Horatio Alger story: a young man from humble beginnings in a tiny town climbs up to sit in the highest seat of a very large metropolis. Meet Mike Rawlings, who has done just that. Originally from Borger, an oil patch dot on the Texas map, he is now in his second term as Mayor of Big D. This may be the stuff of legend, but it didn’t just happen. Our city’s leader labored tirelessly to create his own success. Born in 1954, he “invaded” Dallas 22 years later — with just $200 in his pocket. Elected Mayor in 2011, Southern Methodist University praised him the following year with this introduction as a conference speaker: “Through hard work and determination, he proved that Dallas truly is The City of Opportunity.” Certainly, education helped. Mike first went from Borger to Boston College, where he earned a letter in football as well as his Bachelor’s degree, magna cum laude, in philosophy and communications. These two subjects helped launch Mike’s ambitious plans for making this city even bigger and better. He truly believes in improving the lives of Dallas residents – including himself, his wife, and two grown children -- and he’s proved himself able to convince his constituents how they can do just that. 14 | www.theseniorvoice.com January / February 2016 It was hard work in the Dallas business world that gave Mayor Rawlings his personal boost. He began his climb from an entry level position in a major advertising agency to eventually becoming its CEO. Then, following two decades of unquestioned success, he moved his marketing know-how into the top position at Pizza Hut. After making another positive mark there, he went on to CIC Partners, a successful business dedicated to helping other businesses find their own successes. Mike was elected mayor in 2011 following a proven record in public service that paralleled his achievements in private business. He had already chaired the Dallas Convention and Visitors Bureau, served as Park Board president, and was widely known as the city’s “Homeless Czar” for his advocacy of the Dallas Bridge shelter. The top priority on his platform was to highlight southern Dallas as the city’s greatest untapped resource. Almost immediately after election came the launch of GrowSouth, an ambitious plan of action to revitalize those sectors of the city. “We have a vibrant business community that is succeeding and growing,” he wrote in a public “Dear Friends — Message from the Mayor” “before the opening of Dallas’ now-signature bridge in early 2012. “Our downtown is coming alive with increased convention and visitors’ business, and the excitement of a world-class arts district. Perot Museum and the Margaret Hunt Hill Bridge will redefine our city. We must develop southern Dallas.” His early efforts prompted The Dallas Morning News to comment that:“After only six months, Rawlings has accomplished more for southern Dallas than many of his predecessors managed in their entire terms.” He is presently continuing the effort, and just last November, the city unveiled its comprehensive plan for the revitalization of Fair Park. “We’re already spending more money in our recreation centers and providing more for seniors in those centers,” he said. “We have to dial that up, using capital resources to create even more.” Many surrounding municipalities now have full-service centers for seniors. Dallas has only a single designated senior center, and the push is on for a second, more modern one. Mayor Rawlings is cautiously in favor: “We’ll look at the 2017 bond election for capital products. Should that be one? All things being equal, I’d be in favor,” he told us. Rawlings is, at 61, already a well-qualified senior himself. The Senior Source in Dallas, the non-profit that has provided a half-century of assistance to aging locals, recently mounted a campaign to make more and better recreation facilities available to its clientele. The Mayor understands both the needs, and the very real problems in meeting them. “Our population is going to be made up of more and more seniors in the future,” he said. “Do the basic math: 300,000 now, and growing. So we’ve got to make sure our city resources are customized and delivered effectively.” Substantial progress was made when the Dallas City Council set its budget priorities for 2016. As chief elected officer who presides over city government, the Mayor is on board with adding a Senior Division to the Parks and Recreation Department. The Mayor also has some additional ideas about service not only for seniors, but by them as well. “There’s a lot of passion about building a senior resource center,” he said. “Where would it be? We don’t want this to be divisive. Our senior citizens must concentrate on details for the whole city to get behind. Could the community figure out how to use a new center to increase senior volunteerism? In a central location, seniors could be trained, assigned, and sent out to go and do. There are so many needs out there to connect with seniors’ passions, like being reading partners for children, or working with other seniors. My mother did that,” he recalled. But there may be some exciting opportunities for seniors even before any new center is built, because Mike Rawlings is issuing a call for their participation. “We need more senior voices around Dallas City Hall,” he said, “more seniors to volunteer from a leadership standpoint, to serve on Boards and Commissions.” He’s encouraging them to “Meet with your City Council representatives; they’ll get to know you and your expertise.” The Mayor sees Dallas’ senior citizens as a human resource, just as he saw high school juniors and seniors and college students when he created summer internship programs for them in business settings, or to learn more about politics and government. All residents are part of his long-range dream for the city he loves, and loves to serve: The mayor’s other areas of concentration have included the Dallas Men Against Abuse campaign to combat domestic violence, furthering the arts, and the city’s economic growth across the board. He’s now in his second term following reelection in May 2015, and city statistics for that year show a drop in unemployment paired with rises in both sales tax revenues and property tax values. “As citizens of the fastest growing metropolitan area in the country,” he said, “we have a duty to develop and foster our cultural identity, ensuring that Dallas continues to be a great place to live, work, and play.” But The Senior Voice was most eager to learn the mayor’s views on what matters most to us, and maybe to him as well — after all, Mike January / February 2016 www.theseniorvoice.com | 15 Bo Knows Sports Gary Patterson Football Intensity Belies Unseen Kindnesses By Bo Carter On the surface, TCU head football coach Gary Patterson is one of the most intense football minds and mentors in the collegiate game. Inside, Patterson has a kind heart and a wife Kelsey who shares his love for people and causes as diverse as student scholarships and shelters for underserved women. In the past 14 years, the Gary Patterson Foundation (GPF) has assisted numerous groups such as the Giving Back Team. The team is comprised of children from Presbyterian Night Shelter, which has raised area awareness about abused and neglected animals in East Fort Worth and the downtown area. The GPF also has worked with George C. Clarke Elementary School to help support an anti-gang campaign, a campus beautification project and a pajama drive for Safe Haven House. Twenty-two other area organizations have benefitted from the work of the foundation and its generosity. Patterson acknowledges his desire to help youngsters and the disadvantaged, especially in the Tarrant County and metro DFW areas. While modest, he realizes the impact it has made on thousands of lives. “We want to reinforce that it takes a team effort to make a difference,” Patterson said. “The team of volunteers and everyone who attends our annual fundraising event are part of the Foundation family.” As for the intense Patterson, it’s hard to ignore the driving and football-savvy force that has helped the Horned Frogs win a schoolrecord (for 15 years) 142 games since 2001 and prior to the post-2015 bowl season while also capturing 89 of 122 games in three different conferences – Conference USA, Mountain West and Big 12 – over that same era: all school records. The TCU taskmaster came through this year with possibly his best coaching season (though he has 10-plus victories in five of the last seven years at the helm) as he guided the squad to a 10-2 prebowl mark and 7-2 mark in the Big 12 to tie for second place. There were 23 players on the ’15 squad who missed at least one game with injuries in an almost-surreal rash of physical maladies. Still, Gary Patterson relies on that will to win and motivation of players (as well as his coaching/teaching skills) to roll to the best individual coaching record in TCU football annals. His penchant for calling sideline defensive signals and getting the most out of players are almost unmatched nationally. Siblings And The Aging Parent Sharing Care Across the Miles First in a two-part series By Harriet Blake The cellphone beeps. It’s my sister, again. “Mom is having a bad day. She lost one of her hearing aids and thinks the nurse took it.” A few days earlier: “Mom’s checking account has been hacked. We need to close her account and open a new one.” And the week before that: “Mom is hallucinating. She told me she saw Dad in her room but he wouldn’t speak to her.” What can I say to alleviate the situation? I’m in Texas, my sister lives in New York — about half a mile away from our mother’s assisted living facility. All I can do is text, email and call back to let my sister vent. My next trip to see them is later this month. I will try to spend a few days smoothing things over. But it’s never enough. How do you care for an aging parent from a distance? And how do you share the burden with the sibling who has become the designated caregiver? A friend who’s been in the same position says, it is tough to weigh in on decisions from a distance — whether they are medical, financial or emotional. “Once my father reached the point of needing nursing home care, my siblings and I met in person (the four of us live in three different cities) to discuss how we could help. We made an agenda, appointed a leader and made a plan. It was messy, and, in many ways, unpleasant, but far better than trying to do by phone.” Teresa Whittington, Vice President of Community Services at CC Young Senior Living/Senior Care, says she has observed many families struggle with this dilemma. “Most of the time,” she says, “one child ends up with the majority of the responsibility.” She recommends the following for siblings caring for aging parents. 1. Proactively have a family meeting — if possible while both parents are cognitively intact, to discuss medical and financial power of attorney and their specific wishes regarding end-of-life treatments. When families are in crisis, it is difficult to have these discussions. A lot of emotions can lead to poor conversations and outcomes. 2. If one sibling is going to be the primary caregiver, the other siblings need to plan to give them a break (3-5 days) on a quarterly basis if not more. Siblings should call their parent and siblings weekly. Send thank-you notes and/or small gifts to the primary caregiver to make them feel appreciated. SleepHero App Baby Sleep Aid SleepHero is the worlds first App that helps lull babies and toddlers to sleep, then keep them asleep throughout the night. The App was developed after a Dad experienced what most new parents endure, crying babies and sleepless nights. He tried many techniques, but realized ten minutes of Daddy singing did the trick. What he needed, he thought, was a robot to step in at night to handle all singing requests. The SleepHero App was born! This unique App allows parents (and grandparents) to record their own voices into their iPhone, iPad or iPod and record talking, singing and cooing. SleepHero automatically activates when the child begins to stir or make noise at night and gently soothes them back to sleep Here are a few features of SleepHero: n Sound recorder to record your own voice, lullabies and bedtime stories. n Autopilot monitor: listens for crying and automatically plays calming sounds to settle your child back to sleep. n Connected to a smartphone projector, the app will play a looped video on the ceiling to help lull your baby to sleep n White noise audio library including 35 calming sounds. n Gentle fade in/fade out. Please note: SleepHero is not a substitute for caring parenting and grand parenting. SleepHero is available for iPhone, iPod and iPad and can be downloaded from the app store for $2.99. Visit www.sleepheroapp.com for more information and additional features of the app. 3. Find out what resources are available in the community to assist the primary caregiver. 4.Other siblings should educate themselves on the disease process so they understand what the caregiver is dealing with. 5.If the family has not had any prior discussions and is in crisis mode, they should contact a social worker who can facilitate the family conversation. January / February 2016 www.theseniorvoice.com | 17 Improving on Home Care By Harriet P. Gross With so many more people now living so much longer, senior care is one of today’s major growth industries. Growing within it is the number and variety of choices for care at home as an alternative to assisted living within a residential facility. behaviors that are within personal control, such as healthy nutrition, physical exercise, mental stimulation and meaningful social ties. It holds the promise of making seniors’ lives more purposeful and much happier as well as longer. One of the newest local entries into this field is Home Care Assistance of Dallas. Its trademarked Balanced Care program and Cognitive Therapeutics methods already have a proven record of making the live-at-home option a viable, productive decision Jennifer Satery, local HCA administrator and client care manager, says “The most important aspects of caring for elderly seniors are to identify ways of assuring the best possible outcomes, and then establishing a plan to achieve them. Home Care Assistance has been able to do this for many families.” HCA developed its unique approach through research that included observation of the Japanese on Okinawa, among the world’s healthiest, longest-lived individuals. “Balanced Care” promotes the unity of health in body, mind, and spirit. “Cognitive Therapeutics” is a stimulation program that addresses mental decline through targeted interventions. Memory is usually the first — and often the only — symptom of decline to get attention in the usual provision of senior care, but HCA routinely also deals with four additional areas: Attention, Language, Visual-Spatial Perception, and Executive Functioning (this latter encompassing judgment, reasoning, and problem-solving abilities). Individual evaluation assures a fully personalized program designed in advance specifically for each senior, after which a reliable, trained caregiver provides its benefits. HCA defines its Balanced Care as “an evidence-based program built on studies demonstrating that only one-third of healthy longevity is based on genetics; two-thirds depend on lifestyle factors within our control.” This approach promotes longevity by working with those specific lifestyle All HCA’s care services are delivered by carefully chosen Interventionists who undergo extensive training for certification in the Cognitive Therapeutics Method before beginning their work. As it expands, Home Care Assistance is also welcoming applicants for these positions, people who are already degreed in health or a health-related field, and who feel comfortable working in clients’ homes on a regular part-time schedule. If you are considering Balanced Care for a senior loved one, or are interested in delivering such care yourself, Jennifer Satery will be happy to hear from you. For additional information, contact her by phone at 214-363-3400, or email: jsatery@homecareassistance.com. HCA of Dallas has offices at 6029 Berkshire Lane, Preston Center; its local website is www.dallashomecareassistance.com. Culture Change in Aging By Barbara Glass Better than discovering the solution to a problem is to at last see clearly what the problem really is. n It used to be common for an elder to die younger and suddenly; now the norm is more old age with slow decline The attitude toward aging and mortality have dramatically changed since World War II. The signs have been evident for years: upon reading Atul Gawande’s book “Being Mortal”, they are expressed with great clarity. n Whereas we used to highly value an elder’s knowledge and experience; now we Google the topic and get answers instantly The crux of this paradigm shift is that we have transformed from a society that used to dignify age to one that values the ‘independent self’. It used to be that the elder would choose how they wanted to live and it was the family’s responsibility to make this happen. Now, families generally operate independent of one another — even the elder is traveling or working at a second career. The children pursue their own path, and often the parents aren’t sorry to see them leave the nest. Even in emerging societies, the way forward for the youth is to function independently of their traditional family unit. Certain scientific changes have greatly contributed to the cultural shift: n Elders used to represent 2% of the population — now it’s 14% and rising. Old age isn’t as rare as it once was 18 | www.theseniorvoice.com January / February 2016 n It’s easier to be youthful longer with supplements, nutrition and surgeries. Now we’re working on the genetic possibilities of extending age n Information processing moves at the speed of light and grandpa just can’t keep up with the technology As doctors have moved from generalists to specialists, they have become adept at fixing one broken part at a time. Older patients baffle most doctors because there are often multiple conditions present. Not enough care is given to the impact of one treatment on another health condition which further complicates a problem. Dr. Gawande’s story is poignant and revealing as he confronts the complicity of the medical community in not properly caring for the aged. Death is not a failure to cure, but an inevitability for all of us. Sometimes the best quality of life is found in managing a condition rather than curing it. It is important to decide what is truly important to us and to embrace it fully. RING IN THE NEW YEAR WITH SECURITY By Lori A. Leu The New Year is a time for fresh starts and optimistic outlooks. Your holiday to-do lists are complete; why not welcome 2016 with a checklist that will provide peace of mind throughout this year, and the years to come? Ensuring that the following items are in place and updated on a regular basis will help protect you and your loved ones, no matter what the future holds. n Will — The primary purpose of a Will is to declare your intentions regarding the distribution of your property after your death. The type of Will that you need and the way in which your property should be distributed depends upon your particular circumstances and desires. n Durable Power of Attorney – A statutory durable power of attorney is used to appoint an agent to act in your place regarding financial and legal transactions and is arguably the most important document in your planning portfolio. n Medical Power of Attorney — A medical power of attorney enables another person to make health care decisions that you would otherwise make, if you were able. A doctor must declare you to be incapacitated before this authority becomes effective. n Directive to Physicians and Family or Surrogates (Living Will) — A living will provides direction regarding your desires to administer, withhold, or withdraw life-sustaining treatment if you have an irreversible or terminal condition. n Authorization to Release Medical Information — In 2003, the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPAA) took effect. HIPAA contains medical privacy rules that restrict disclosure of health information by health care providers and plans. A HIPAA Authorization allows the individuals that you specify to have access to your health information so they can assist in decisions regarding your care. n Declaration of Guardian — Further protect your interests by declaring the individuals that you would like to be appointed as guardian over you and your estate (as well as individuals who should not be appointed). n Long-term Care Insurance — Americans are living longer than ever, and the cost of care in the final years of life has risen dramatically. A long-term care insurance plan can help ensure that you have good options for quality care, when the time comes. This year, resolve to plan for your future, today. Check these items off your New Year’s List and alleviate the stress that can occur when care issues turn into a crisis, so that you can enjoy a fresh and optimistic start to your New Year. Lori Leu, Erin Peirce, Lauren Olson, and Laura Chavero are Elder Law attorneys with Leu & Peirce, located in Plano, Texas. They can be reached at 972-996-2540 January / February 2016 www.theseniorvoice.com | 19 Getting Reel Between The Covers By Larry Ratliff By Harriet P. Gross Joy Watching Joy, the mesmerizing dysfunctional family drama-with-comedy starring Jennifer Lawrence, Robert De Niro and Bradley Cooper, this thought kept running through my mind: “Is there anything Jennifer Lawrence can’t do?” The answer is apparently not, at least on a movie screen. Lawrence is already a three-time Academy Award nominee and a best actress winner for her performance as a troubled young woman in Silver Linings Playbook in 2012. The 25-year-old actress takes center stage in this based-on-real-life saga of Miracle Mop inventor Joy Mangano. Lawrence returns to the Oscar hunt with the same grim determination she displayed so well in Winter’s Bone, her gritty breakout film of 2010. Much of the movie-going world knows Lawrence as Katniss Everdeen, the steely eyed champion of the common people in the Hunger Games fantasy action franchise. It is Lawrence’s ability to alternate between mass appeal projects and meaty acting challenges like Joy that could keep Lawrence on top for the long run; a la Sandra Bullock or even Meryl Streep. At first I was slightly thrown off by the way director/co-screenwriter David O. Russell opens this film with a darkly comic spoof of a TV soap opera that serves as the bizarre Greek Chorus in this riveting four-generational biography. Joy is a 1980s young single New York mom so blitzed by the loser cards life has dealt her that she barely reacts when her divorced dad (De Niro) moves into her basement after yet another failed relationship. Joy’s ex Tony (Edgar Ramirez), a lounge singer with dreams of becoming the next Tom Jones, is already living down there. His words of welcome to his former father-in-law: “You touch my microphone and I will kill you.” Even though Joy appears stunned by her struggles, Lawrence is skilled enough to show through her eyes that no matter how tough life gets, she will eventually take charge. De Niro is also magnificent as Rudy, a father with anger issues and no rudder to navigate his own stormy life waters. Bradley plays it low-key as the QVC television exec who sees the value in Joy’s revolutionary mop, taking a backseat to his leading lady. That was not the case with Silver Linings Playbook, also directed by Russell. Joy (Rated PG-13), though a tough emotional ride, is 126 minutes well spent. On my scale of 1-to-4 jalapeños, it earns an outstanding 3½. 20 | www.theseniorvoice.com January / February 2016 Eugene Burdick and William Lederer were very smart when they wrote “The Ugly American.” They first penned it as a real-time expose of our country’s inept official representatives to foreign countries. But when they realized that no one would want to believe this, they rewrote their book as fiction. After it was published in 1951, everyone took it seriously. Plano gastroenterologist Michael Weisberg has shown the same wisdom with his novel, “The Hospitalist.” It’s a fictionalized expose of what’s become a trend in American medicine today: specialists see patients until they need more than office visits can provide, but upon admission to hospitals, they’re turned over to the new breed of doctors now responsible for follow-up. The problem: these “hospitalists” have never seen their new patients before and don’t know them as the referring doctor does…but that doctor is no longer the caregiver. Dr. Weisberg first introduces three characters who would seem to have nothing in common: an incredibly racist Klan member from backwater Florida; an incredibly bright little boy from the slums of Mumbai, India; and an incredibly dedicated medical student at Nashville’s Vanderbilt University. Over the course of some 300 fastreading pages, these lives converge and interact. The results — given today’s hospitalist system, which affects them all — are not pretty. The inevitabilities include loss of moral compass, valuation of money above humanity, and even death. This book’s characters are not highly nuanced; the reader has little difficulty telling the bad guys from the good ones, although there are a few surprises. There are also forays into events and situations that allow Dr. Weisberg to include a fair amount of sex and blue language, along with a more-than-equal sprinkling of medical terminology; he invokes lots of procedures without explanation, but you can make sense of them from context and won’t have to look them up unless you’re extra-curious. And he’s not above inserting a few bits of sly humor; for example, one of his main characters is an Indian doctor whose last name, “Givagushrai,” bears a striking — and certainly intended! — si milarity to a Yiddish word loosely translated as “let out a big scream”! The author’s own medical credentials are beyond reproach; the book’s back cover proudly proclaims that he’s been named to D Magazine’s “best doctor” list eight times, and has also achieved recognition as one of Texas Monthly’s “Super Doctors.” And he is serious about his concern for how the hospitalist system reflects a change in U.S. medicine’s emphasis from healing to business. Michael Weisberg’s “ugly Americans” are not overseas, however; they are very much with us here at home! The Hospitalist by Michael Weisberg, M.D., from Lulu Publishing Services, is available on Amazon in paperback at $17.99 or for your Kindle at $1.99, or as a Barnes and Noble Nook book, also at $1.99. New Year New YOU! Hello 2016! By Mimi Conner Here we are closing down 2015. As I look back over this past year, I am reminded that Life is only as good as You make it. My personal one is “go out and make it a great day, you are the only one who can make that happen.” So many times we blame someone else for our unhappiness, yet it is we who make the choices and decisions. We can choose to be happy or not. 2016 is going to be a great year! Great because I am choosing to be happy and healthy and I am going to find the best way to make this happen. I often get distracted and lose focus. I am going to come up with a plan to tackle tasks and to help keep my sanity. I will set short term goals, write them down, check them off when completed and reward myself for a job well done. Tips to stay focused: 1. Set a Timer. You’ve probably heard of a power hour. It’s a great productivity tool, and you can apply the same concept to any amount of time. Just set aside the time and give yourself the pressure of a deadline. It will help you focus on the task at hand. 2. Turn Off the Internet. Pull the plug. Turn off your Wi-Fi. Work on — gasp! — actual paper. Do whatever it takes to remove the distraction of the Internet 3. Make a List. Lists are great for a few reasons. You’re writing something down, which is like making a commitment to yourself. Lists force you to prioritize and help you focus your effort on what really needs to get done. Most importantly, you get to cross things off. Sometimes, I’ll make a list of things I’ve already done just so I can cross stuff off. 4. Remember Your Goals. Goals don’t accomplish themselves. There are a lot of tasks that need to be completed along the way. But having that goal — remembering why you’re putting in the work — will help you focus on the tasks at hand. 5. Start with Something Physical. Our minds and bodies work together pretty well. So get some blood flowing. Take a walk. Exercise. Stretch or do yoga. Getting your body involved and burning off some nervous energy can help your mind focus. If you made it this far without succumbing to the temptations of the web, congratulations! You’re already ahead of the game and you should be proud. So what other tips do you have for staying focused and on task? I would love to hear from you. Send me your ideas to mimi@aquafitplano.com Wishing you a Happy New Year, New You! Helping North Texans Age With Dignity Since 1934 VNA Private Care VNA Private Care empowers you to age where you are most comfortable – at home. VNA Private Care is an affordable alternative to nursing homes and extended hospital stays. To schedule your free in-home informational visit contact: Elaine Harrison, RN at (972) 533-4676, harrisone@vnatexas.org or visit vnatexas.org January / February 2016 www.theseniorvoice.com | 21 GRAND TIMES Activities To Enjoy With Your GrandKids By Heidi Frankel Nature Connect Video Game Museum Calling all video game enthusiasts—Visit the ONLY museum dedicated to the history of the video game industry. Share your memories with your grandkids of such classics as Asteroids, Centipede, Donkey Kong, Space Invaders and more — Play the timeless game Pong on the worlds largest home pong console in a giant 15-foot TV replica from the 1970’s. Your eyes will widen as you experience a hall full of gaming stations; learn the stories behind the games and see rare artifacts. You may even notice a few systems you have never seen before! Where: The National Videogame Museum 8004 N. Dallas Parkway, Frisco (inside the Frisco Discovery Center) When: Permanent Exhibit Cost: $12 Adult | ages 13–65 | $10 Children 12 and under, military, educators and seniors. Valid ID required for military, educators and seniors ticket. Phone: 972.668.8400 Website: www.nvmusa.com Is an exciting new exhibit opening at the Dallas Zoo! An incredible sculpture show created by artist Sean Kenney, each design is built with thousands of LEGO® bricks. The exhibit features 16 displays created from 24 sculptures depicting scenes from the natural world. Marvel at how one small LEGO® brick, when thoughtfully placed with thousands of others, becomes a polar bear family a snow leopard, and a peacock displaying his colorful feathers. Your grandkids will be able to play, build, experiment, and create in the Stay and Play Brick Yard. Your whole family can collaborate, problem solve, and connect with science, technology, engineering, and math through the interactive activities. Where: Dallas Zoo 650 R.L. Thornton Freeway, Dallas When: Jan 15 – April 10, 2016 Cost: Adults (12-64) $15 | Youth (3-11) and Senior (65+) $12 Exhibit included with admission Phone: 469.554.7500 Website: info@dallaszoo.com Where: The Heard Museum and Wildlife Sanctuary 1 Nature Place, McKinney When: Tues–Sat 9am – 5pm; Sun 1–5pm Cost: Adults $11 | Children (3-12) $8 | Seniors (60+) $8 Members & Children 2 and Under — FREE Phone: 972.562.5566 Website: www.heardmuseum.org 22 | www.theseniorvoice.com If you haven’t seen the traveling exhibition, Creatures of Light: Nature’s Bioluminescence, this is a perfect time. Discovery Days lets you explore the world of light and investigate creatures and habitats, the solar system, how plants grow, and how electricity works; build circuits, travel near the sun and beyond in a portable planetarium; learn how to grow your own plant and so much more. You and your family will discover the fun of science together. And while you are at the Perot say hello to “Ellie May,” the nearly intact and pristine Columbian mammoth discovered in an Ellis County gravel pit in May 2014. Dinosaur’s Live! at The Heard Visit The Heard Museum with your grandkids and look up at the 46-foot T-Rex and nine new life-size animatronic dinosaurs along the Heard Natural Science Museum & Wildlife Sanctuary’s nature trails at the 9th annual Dinosaurs Live! The Perot Museum Discovery Days Curious George: The Golden Meatball Laugh with abandon as you and your grandkids watch Curious George swing and flip, through a fun-filled adventure where he learns the more about Rome…and meatballs…and the “secret ingredient” to cooking, than he’d ever imagined! Join that inquisitive monkey, star of books, movies and the award winning PBS television show in this delightful new musical, CURIOUS GEORGE: THE GOLDEN MEATBALL.. Where: The Eisemann Center 2351 Performance Drive, Richardson When: Sunday, January 24, 2:30pm Cost: Ticket prices ranges from $13 – $23 Phone: 972.744.4650 Website: www.eisemanncenter.com for more information January / February 2016 Where: The Perot Museum of Nature and Science 2201 N. Field Street, Dallas When: Saturday, January 9 Time: 10am – 4pm Cost: Please visit the website for admission packages. Discovery Days are included in the cost of general admission Phone: 214.428.5555 Website: www.perotmuseum.org If you have any fun family activities for grandparents and their grandkids send them to heidi@theseniovoice.com. GRAND TIMES Reading With Your GrandKids By Heidi Frankel The weather outside is getting colder; make a cuppa hot chocolate and spend time with your grandkids. Find out about a Yeti, what’s that? Learn of Buzz Aldrin’s vision of the planet Mars and all about our fabulous 50 states, then cuddle up and teach your grandkids how to crochet a Star Wars character. My Heritage Book Angelina Ballerina Written by: Deanna Bufo Novak Age: 5 years and up My Heritage Book is truly a one-of-a-kind keepsake that the whole family will enjoy reading together. It is a personalized children’s book that takes families on a wonderful journey into their past while exploring their own special origins. Children can find out who they are and where they come from. It is a special book to bond with your grandkids. See more at: www.myheritagebook.com. A Dance of Friendship Age 3-5 years Angelina is excited when her friend Anya comes to stay with her from another country. But when Anya begins to get all of the attention Angelina feels a little unhappy and resentful. Will Angelina overcome her feelings of jealousy and save her friendship? This is a great story to help your grandkids learn about friendship and life lessons. Smithsonian Sticker Creations: Edible Science UNDER the SEA Written by: Jodi Wheeler-Toppin Age: 8-12 years Grab a beaker, pick up your whisk, and get ready to cook up some solid science with your grandkids. Using food as your tools (or ingredients!) curious kids become spicy scientists that measure, weigh, combine, and craft their way through the kitchen. Discover dozens of thoroughly tested, fun, edible and educational experiments, like purple cookies (yum) where you test pH indicators or mix up salad dressing and learn about emulsifiers. Edible Science is sprinkled with helpful photos, diagrams, scientific facts and more. The best news is, when you and your grandkids are done with your mad-science cooking; you can grab a spoon and eat all that you have learned! Age: 6 and up Engage young readers with an innovative, hands-on approach to learning. You and your grandkids will embark on a fun underwater adventure to learn about life beneath the waves. Each book presents kid-friendly facts and lets your grandkids explore the amazing diversity of the sea with more than 175 reusable stickers and 5 oversized deluxe stickers, creating their own underwater scene by placing stickers in the removable framed ocean scene. The beautifully illustrated activity book gives young ocean explorers a creative opportunity to learn about all types of incredible sea creatures! As a special treat here are a few games your grandkids will enjoy with YOU! Monkeys Up™ Ages: 6 to adult Players: 1-6 Monkeys Up™ will have you going bananas! Players compete to get the best score by flipping, switching, and stealing monkeys. Each monkey has a value hidden under its feet that is only revealed when flipped. Victory will come to the player who switches, steals, and flips the best. This is a great game to enhance memory and strategy. GRAND TIMES Chef Travis Wick Cooking With Your GrandKids Crazy Legs Board Game Ages: 8 to adult CRAZY LEGS gets players up and moving. Each space on the game board represents a new physical challenge for you, your grandkids and the whole family to jump, twist, shake and exercise their way to victory! What a great way to get your exercise in a fun way with your family. Lemon (or Lime) Kissed Broiled Asparagus Spears Purchase fresh asparagus (or broccoli) from your local grocer. I like the medium sized kind, about the width of a pencil. Once home, set your broiler to low. Remove the band that holds the veggies together. Wash asparagus in cold water then remove the bottom 25% of the stalk. You can do this one of two ways—By grabbing the bottom of the stalk with both hands and bending the stalk till it snaps, which is my preferred method, or by taking a sharp knife and cutting off the bottom half of the stalk. The New Year is here and one of my goals is to eat more vegetables. We all should, and hopefully our example will influence our kiddos and grandkids. How we prepare our vegetables can reduce how healthy they are for us. The minute a vegetable is picked it starts losing its vitamins. And then depending on how we cook them they could lose some or most of their healthy qualities. Frozen vegetables can sometimes be better than fresh. Frozen vegetables are usually processed within 18 hours of being picked, allowing them to retain their nutritional value. But fresh is always best if they are truly fresh and have not been lying around for a week. The more water used to cook a vegetable, such as boiling, the more of the “good” nutrients will be washed away. Try grilling, sautéing or broiling in an oven for best results to keep them the healthiest for your family. Ingredients: 1 pound asparagus, fresh 1 lemon, fresh 1 tablespoon lemon zest ¼ cup olive oil As needed—cracked pepper As needed—sea salt Next, line a baking sheet with aluminum foil and fan the asparagus in a neat row on the pan. Take each half of the lemon and squeeze the juice onto the asparagus. Drizzle olive oil over the asparagus. Season as desired with the fresh cracked pepper and sea salt. Broil asparagus for 7-10 minutes to reach preferred doneness. When done sprinkle with lemon zest and serve. E vents of C alendar January DALLAS: Winspear Opera House presents Shen Yun Through the universal language of music and dance Shen Yun weaves a wondrous tapestry of heavenly realms, ancient legends and modern heroic tales. Where: AT &T Performing Arts Center 2403 Flora Street, Dallas When: January 1 – 10 Time: Jan. 1 – 6pm; Jan. 2 – 2pm & 7pm; Jan. 3 – 2pm; Jan. 6–8 — 7:30pm; Jan. 9 – 2pm & 7pm; Jan.10 — 2pm Cost: $66 – $165 Phone: 214.880.0202 Web. www.winspear.eventticketcenter.com DALLAS: Deep Ellum Outdoor Market The market features local artists, live music and food trucks in Dallas’ most unique neighborhood and includes a walking tour. Where: 2800 Block of Main Street, Dallas When: January 1 through March 1 3rd Saturday of each month Time: 11am to 5pm Cost:Free Web. www.deepellumtexas.com DALLAS: Taste of The Bishop Arts District food and Walking Tour presented by Dallas Bites Where: Dude, Sweet Chocolate 408 W. Eighth St., Dallas When: January 2 – March 30 Time: 1pm to 4pm Cost:$40 Phone:972.814.5997 Web: www.dudesweetchocolate.com DALLAS: Cirque de la Symphonie presented by the Dallas Symphony Orchestra Start your New Year with this symphony hit. Contortionists, jugglers, aerialists and strongmen perform alongside the DSO. Where: Meyerson Symphony Center 2301 Flora Street, Dallas When: January 2 — 7:30pm January 3 — 2:30pm Phone:214.692.0203 Web: www.mydso.com 24 | www.theseniorvoice.com DALLAS: Dallas Safari Club For nearly three decades, Dallas Safari Club’s annual convention has set the standard for sporting enthusiasts from around the world. This year’s convention promises to be the most successful yet. Where: When: Cost: Web: Kay Bailey Hutchison Convention Center, 650 Griffin Street, Dallas January 7–9 — 9am to 5:30pm January 10 — 9am to 3pm Contact 972.980.9800 Children under 12 are free www.biggame.org DENTON: Star Stories People from around the world have seen the same stars but they have seen different pictures in the sky. Each culture has made up stories to explain the star patterns they saw in the night sky. Let the Sky Theater take you on an adventure through space and time to discover some of these “ Star Stories.” Where: University of North Texas 1704 West Mulberry Street Denton When: January 10 Cost: $5 for adults, $4 for seniors, $3 for students and children Phone:940.369.8213. Web: www.skytheater.unt.edu PLANO: DFW Train Show With 75 tables of vendors, the event is geared toward model train enthusiasts and families for a fun day’s outing. The show will have many operating train layouts and will include door prizes, contests, and learning workshops. Where: Plano Centre, 2000 E. Spring Creek Parkway, Plano When: January 16 – 17 Cost: $8 per person, children under 12 Free Phone:972.941.5940 Web: www.dfwtrainshows.com DALLAS: “Twelfth Night” — The Complete Work of William Shakespeare This comedy of gender confusion in which a girl disguises herself as a man to be near the count she adores is a masterpiece and remains one of Shakespeare’s most popular and most performed comedies. January / February 2016 Where: Winspear Opera House—Hamon Hall 2403 Flora Street, Dallas When: January 17–18 Phone:214.880.0202 Web: www.attpac.org COLLEYVILLE: Awards Luncheon The 40th Annual Awards Luncheon, presented by the Colleyville Chamber of Commerce, will celebrate the work that the chamber and its members have done in the Colleyville community since 1976. Where: When: Phone: Web: Piazza in the Village 77 Piazza Lane, Colleyville January 21 — 11am to 1 pm Erin Pederson at 817.488.7148 www.colleyvillechamber.org or erin@colleyvillechamber.org DALLAS: Ann Veronica Janssens Exhibition This Brussels-based artist will be featured in her first one person museum exhibition in the United States. at the Nasher Sculpture Center. They will install several sculptural works that will allow viewers to encounter shifts in surface, depth and color, challenging perception and destabilizing their sense of sight and space. Cost: Web: $10 for adults; $7 for military; $7 for seniors; $5 for students and children are free. www.nashersculpturecenter.org DALLAS: Time and Eternity: Landscape Paintings by Bireswar Sen Compact and sparkling like a diamond, is how the small, almost playing card sized, landscapes of Bireswar Sen might be described in this exhibition. One will see what the artist himself had always aimed at doing: “to limn unerringly, lives of beauty with a light that never was on land or sea.” Where: Crow Collection of Asian Art 2010 Flora Street, Dallas When: January 23 through April 24 Cost:Free Phone:214.979.6430 Web: www.crowcollection.org Where: Nasher Sculpture Center 2001 Flora Street, Dallas When: January 23 to April 17 Valentine Lovers Delight — Specialties for that Special Someone Chocolate Secrets 3926 Oak Lawn Ave. | Dallas 214-252-9801 Kate Weiser Chocolates 3011 Gulden Lane | Dallas 469-619-4929 CocoAndré Chocolatier 508 W 7th St. | Dallas 214-941-3030 Sublime Chocolate 908 Market St. | Allen 214-383-6776 Dude, Sweet Chocolate 408 W. 8th St., Ste. 102 | Dallas 214-943-5943 Dr. Sue’s Chocolate & Gourmet Candy 417 S Main St. | Grapevine 817-527-4424 DALLAS: 2016 Mardi Gras Parade & Festival Come out and enjoy great food, great fun, great festivities and a parade. Mardi Gras food and merchandise will be available for purchase. Serving “ Nawlins” favorites including Gumbo, Po-Boys, Jambalaya and Beignets. Where: Dallas City Hall 1500 Marilla Street, Dallas When: February 9 Time: 10am to 6pm Cost: Parade is free Phone:972.679.2671 Web: www.visitdallas.com Texas Discovery Gardens, speak on how home gardeners can landscape with plants that attract butterflies, including plants which meet the particular needs of monarch butterflies on their spring migration through North Texas from Mexico to Canada. Where: When: Time: Cost: Phone: Web: Lakewood Branch of the Dallas Public Library 6121 Worth, Dallas February 17 Doors open at 1:30pm for the 2pm program Free 214.670.1376 www.lakewoodlibraryfriendsdallas.org DALLAS: TACA 2016 Silver Cup Award Luncheon The luncheon will honor Rebecca Fletcher and James E. Wiley for their visionary contributions to the arts community. Where: Hilton Anatole 2201 N. Stemmons Freeway, Dallas When: February 19 Cost: $150 and up Phone:214.520.3930 Web: www.taca-arts.org DALLAS: Gardening For Butterflies The public is invited to hear Roseann Ferguson, master gardener and longtime volunteer with of two tickets to see the great Elvis Poultry in concert. Where: Eisemann Center’s Hill Performance Hall, 2351 Performance Drive Richardson When: February 28 2:30 p.m. Phone:972.744.4600 Web: www.eisemanncenter.com RICHARDSON: Jeffrey Siegel’s Keyboard Conversations — The Golden Age of the Piano Jeffrey Siegel’s conversations are piano concerts with broad, popular appeal and lively commentary, making the music more accessible and meaningful for all. Where: When: Phone: Web: Eisemann Center 2351 Performance Drive, Richardson February 22 972.744.4650 — Amy Taylor www.eisemanncenter.com Where: Highland Park High School 4220 Emerson Ave., Dallas When: February 25 7:00 p.m. Cost:Free Phone:214.746.4222 Web: www.hplitfest.com Where: The Grand Pavilion of the Dallas Trade Mart 2100 N. Stemmons Freeway Dallas When: February 26 11:30 a.m. Cost: $125 and up Phone:214.631.1117 Web: www.attitudesandattire.org RICHARDSON: Chicken Dance — The Musical ArtsPower’s newest musical portrays the colorful story of Marge and Lola, two barnyard chickens on a mission to win the barnyard talent contest first prize January / February 2016 DALLAS: Birding Basics Bird watching is the fastest growing and currently the fastest growing and currently the most popular spectator in America. Join us to learn more about birding, binoculars, field guides, keeping a life-list, and the basics of bird identification. Where: Trinity River Audubon Center 6500 Great Trinity Forest Way, Dallas When: Ongoing — please check website for details Cost: $15 for non-members; free to members Phone:214.398.8722 Web: www.trinityriver.audubon.org GRAPEVINE: Food Truck & Live Music in the GCB Beer Garden Make your way to the Taproom & Beer Garden at Grapevine Craft Brewery for great beers, food trucks and live music from great local artists on Friday and Saturday nights. Where: Grapevine Craft Brewery 906 Jean Street, Grapevine When: Ongoing Time: Food Trucks from 5pm to 8pm Live music from 7pm to 9pm Phone:817.488.2337 Web: www.grapevinetexasusa.com www.theseniorvoice.com E vents DALLAS: Attitudes & Attire Annual Luncheon and Fashion Show This non-profit is dedicated to promoting personal growth for women seeking selfsufficiency. Where: Frisco Heritage Museum 6455 Page Street, Frisco When:Ongoing Cost: $8for a family; $4 for adults; $3 for seniors; $2 children 5–11; children under 4 are free Phone:972.292.5665 Web: www.friscomuseum.org of HIGHLAND PARK: Highland Park Literary Festival Highland Park Literary Festival featuring awardwinning author David Eggers. Books by Dave Eggers, as well as books by other HP Literary Festival workshop presenters, will be for sale beginning at 6 p.m. on Thursday, February 25th, before and after the Keynote address. Mr. Eggers will be available for book signing following his lecture. FRISCO: Frisco Heritage Museum The Frisco Heritage Museum tells the rich stories of the development of the city of Frisco, Texas from the turn of the century to the present day. Museum exhibits feature dozens of artifacts and photographs depicting Frisco’s past. The museum chronicles their growth from the small farming town of Lebanon to one of the fastest growing cities in the country. C alendar February | 25 EnGROSSing Experiences Three new things for the New Year Resolutions By Harriet P. Gross By Durhl Caussey My sole resolution for this New Year is to concentrate on coincidences. During a recent discussion with a few friends, someone said that a coincidence is when God blinks. I agreed with crediting God, but the blink — which sounds like a moment of inattention — is wrong. What I believe is that any coincidence is when God has engineered something, but chosen to remain anonymous. That conversation got me thinking backward to several memorable incidents of coincidence in my own life. And when I did, I decided that these weren’t just random happenings, or fate – there had to be some force behind them. I’ll share three significant ones with you. #1. The Play. I was in Ontario, Canada, for the annual Shakespeare Festival. On a beautiful summer day, during a play’s intermission, I want outside the theater, and noticed a young man eyeing me. Soon he walked over and said, rather apologetically, “You look so familiar, I just have to ask. Where are you from?” I laughed as I replied, “Well, I know this couldn’t be a pickup; I’m old enough to be your mother! So: Pittsburgh — where I was born; Chicago — where I lived for many years; Dallas — where I live now. Choose one!” Turns out, he played cello in the Dallas Symphony; the area where my seat was located was in his line of vision when the lights were up, and that’s why he recognized me! Random? #2. The Outback. I was in Australia, attending a tourist treat: an evening with dinner under the stars, enhanced by an astronomer explaining the southern sky. Another man, another apologetic approach, and another surprise: he looked familiar to me, too. What are the chances that two Dallasites who had never met before would turn up at the same event, halfway across the world? We just recognized each other at the same time because we often pushed our carts in the same Tom Thumb! Fate? #3: The Cemetery. I had just arrived on vacation in Montego Bay, Jamaica. From my room, I looked down on the beach — and on an old cemetery abutting the resort property. I’m not much of a water person, so exploring the latter seemed more intriguing than lounging on the former. I was totally alone in that quiet place, taking notes about its very old headstones, when an English-accented voice startled me: “Why are you here, when everyone else in the local world is out there sunning and swimming?” That began an enduring two-continent friendship with a woman from Leeds who just happened to be walking past. Coincidence? Your call, but I thought I could hear God laughing each time. Many happy coincidences to you in 2016! 26 | www.theseniorvoice.com January / February 2016 Get up and move! Before you go to sleep and before you get up, do some low energy exercise while still in bed. Takes only about five minutes. Then as you go through your day, when sitting, take a few minutes and repeat. Start with your toes and wiggle and crunch. Wag your feet from side to side. Do some leg raises and hold a few seconds. Raise your arms above your head and swing them over your head back and forth, stretching your fingers. Turn your neck slowly from side to side as you do this. Conclude with 5-10 sit-ups. Sit only when necessary; a body in motion is good for the body. However, this should not hinder a short afternoon nap. Learn to say “No!” Most of my life has been spent trying to please others. Sometimes at my own expense. It is a shame I had to get old before discovering it is okay to say “No.” My answer now is predicated on what is best for me. That includes my friends, kids and spouse. Even my grandchildren. And when I do say “No” I have no regrets, without even a tiny teaspoon of guilt. I have to protect myself, even if it means disappointing someone I care deeply about. I’m not going to agree to something that compromises my values, requires undue physical or financial burden, or eats up my precious time unnecessarily. Only agree to do what you feel you can do comfortably, without undue loss. Ask yourself before you say “Yes,” is this good for me, leaving me stress free? Sometimes telling someone “No” is best for both of us. Don’t let pity drip into your free will. Find a quiet place or time for quiet. Below my house is an isolated, quiet, small lake. Sometimes around sunup or near darkness I journey down to the lake called Emerald. I sit on a bench near the water listening to it ripple against the shore. No one is ever around. As the wind walks through the tall cottonwoods nearby, restless birds make friendly noises. Beavers splash as they prepare their meal. My soul becomes quiet. My mouth is shut, and mind at rest. I dream the dreams of a child. I pray to my Heavenly Father. Heart becomes open to suggestions helping to enrich my being. All is forgiven, mistakes are erased, and pardon is granted. I invite you to find such a place. Your Emerald Lake can be in your bedroom, office, car, on an afternoon walk. Fill your bucket, excite your mind, and open your heart. Durhl Caussey is a syndicated columnist who writes for papers across America. He may be reached at this publication or dcaussey@sbcglobal.net.