O New Year. L`shana tova tikatveihvu v`teihateimu—may God truly
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O New Year. L`shana tova tikatveihvu v`teihateimu—may God truly
2100 Westmoreland Street Falls Church Virginia 22043 703/532 2217 September 2003 - Elul -Tishri Dear Friends, As the New Year 5764 approaches, we want to extend our best wishes for hana Tova U'metukah - a sweet Od good New Year - a year full of new possibilities, of dreams fulfilled and hearts gladdened. As the wonderful imagery of our tradition suggests, the New Year signals us to begin a new chapter in our lives. The Book of Life is open before us. On the first pages of our individual chapters, our hopes and dreams are written. In our spiritual chapters, too, we are presented with a clean page to create anew, rethink old approaches and make new commitments to our Judaism and our God. The Temple also begins a new chapter in its history this year. It is with great excitement that we, all of you and all of us, start writing in the new pages of the life of this holy place. With many beautiful and rich chapters written over the past 40 years, we hope to add new colors, textures and ideas to those wonderful pages. Together, we hope to create new chapters filled with love and joy, with ethics and learning, a deep sense of spiritual fulfillment and an even greater commitment to our Jewish tradition. Please consider this an invitation from your clergy - your rabbis and cantors - to take up a pen, a crayon, a piece of chalk or even (of Reached Our GoalThanks to You! Please join us for our* " Ambulance Dedication See the actual ambulance we have purchased that will be shipped to Israel: Sunday, November 16 : 2:00 pm Number 8 course) a keyboard to write these ne chapters with us. All of us, together with our families, join in wishing each of you a most meaningful, spiritual and joyous New Year. L'shana tova tikatveihvu v'teihateimu—may God truly hear our prayers, inscribe and seal us in the Book of Life and Blessing for this most promising year, a year of new beginnings, new promises and new dreams. L'shalom, Rabbi Amy Schwartzman, Cantor Michael Shochet, Rabbi Marcus Burstein, Rabbi Laszlo Berkowits, and Student Cantor Leigh Korn Please join us for Selichot and a Dessert Reception Saturday, September 20 9:00 pm dessert 10:00 pm service This special service consists of prayers of self-examination and reflection ... . . in anticipation of the High Holy Days. A dessert reception sponsored by our TRS Sisterhood will follow. I :1 M+ /J " ^ J)A ,? + RsINI^_ 4 September Shabbatot & Special Services Tuesday, September 2 6:45 pm Service of Strength, Comfort and Healing Did you know that there are seven different types of services at Temple Rodef Shalom? Each one has a different perspective and every one offers the chance to learn, pray, and connect with other members congregation. Although you may not think that you "fit each service possibility, why don't you try them all? Each one is special in its own way. We hope that you will join us. Shabbat Ki Tetze - September 5 & 6 Shabbat and other Worship Opportunities at Temple Rodef Shalom Friday, September 5 6:45 pm Bo'i Shabbat Service 7:30 pm Family Shabbat Service Saturday, September 6 9:00 am Torah Study 10:30 am Shabbat Morning Worship Bat Mitzvah of Laura Barone - Friday evenings 8:15 pm - Shabbat evening worship in the sanctuary. This warm and welcoming service includes prayer, music, and usually a presentation of sorts - either a sermon or d'var torah, speaker, and/or a torah reading. This service is not held the first Friday of the month. Deuteronomy 21:10 - 25:19 Shabbat Ki Tavo - September 12 & 13 Deuteronomy 26:1 - 29:8 Friday, September 12 8:15 pm Erev Shabbat Worship Saturday, September 13 9:00 am Torah Study 10:30 am Shabbat Morning Worship B'not Mitzvah of Isabel Keliman & Laura Miller Shabbat Nitzavim!Vayelech September 19 & 20 Deuteronomy 29:9 - 31:30 Friday, September 19 6:30 pm Tot Shabbat 8:15 pm Erev Shabbat Worship Saturday, September 20 9:00 am Torah Study 10:30 am Shabbat Morning Worship B'nai Mitzvah of Alexander Korobkin & Elyse Krachman 10:30 am Parallel Shabbat Morning Minyan Rosh Hashanah - September 26 & 27 Genesis 22:1 - 19 Friday, September 26 Erev Rosh Hashanah See Page 5 for Service Schedule Saturday, September 27 Rosh HashanahSee Page 5 for Service Schedule - Saturday mornings 10:30 am - Shabbat morning worship in the sanctuar y. This service is led by the TRS clergy and by young men and women who are becoming Bar or Bat Mitzvah. All are welcome. - First Friday of Month 7:30 pm - Thi s Kabbalat Shabbat family service is designed for chil aged 5-12 and their parents, siblings, and friends. rabbis or cantor tell a story in place of a sermon or other presentation. Israeli dancing and instruction follows the service. - First Friday of Month 6:45 pm - This service is called Bo'i Shabbat, or come Shabbat. This newly designed service, led by student Cantor Leigh Korn is an adult alternative to the later family service. It is a traditional Friday night service with an emphasis on music. - Third Friday of Month 6:30 pm Our Tot Shabbat service last about 30 minutes and is designed for children under 5 years old accompanied by parents. The service consists of age-appropriate Shabbat music, a story and prayer. - Third Saturday of Month 10:30 am The Parallel Shabbat Morning Minyan is led by members of the congregation and includes a torah reading, d'var torah, and other personalized shared thoughts. A potluck vegetarian luncheon follows the service and all are encouraged to celebrate Shabbat in an intimate and informal way. - First Tuesday of Month 6:30 pm—9 Service of Comfort and Healing. This intimate service is designed to provide respite and comfort to all those who need strength and support during times of need. Searching Searching for old and new Confirmation Programs and photos. We will copy and return them to you in the same condition. Call Linda 703/538-5745, fax them to 703/533-0558 or even e-mail with the names of confirmands. Thank You! Linda Marshall, Chair, Archives Committee SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 14, 2003 Come browse, chat, enjoy refreshments Take old librarybooks to new homes Selection of new books for a minimal charge Table of Contents o8 - Adult Education 14 - B'nai Mitzvah - Calendar 35 20 - Caring Committee 04 - Clergy 10 - Cultural/Music 27 - Donations 22 - Israel Solidarity 25 - Library o6 Membership 18Men's Club 1 5Outreach 11 Religious School 24 Scrapbook 16Sisterhood 15Social Action 12 Youth Temple Rodef Shalom Senior RabbiAmy M. Schwartzman Cantor Michael A. Shochet Associate Rabbi Marcus L. Burstein Founding RabbiLaszlo Berkowits Student Cantor Leigh Korn OFFICERS Prospective Member Coffee to be Held Thursday, September 11 7:30 pm Do you know someone who is thinking about joining the temple? If so, please let them know about our Prospective Members Coffee. It's a great way to meet our clergy, staff, and members, take a tour of the building, ask questions and get to know more about us! You are welcome to accompany your friends! Please call Laura at the temple office 703/532-227 to let her know how many will attend by Friday September 5 so that we may plan accordingly. President Cal Kiausner Vice President Fred Freedman Vice President Hannah Moore Vice President Susan Steinmetz Vice President Robin Strongin Treasurer Beth Silver Assistant TreasurerElliot Gruber Financial SecretaryGregg Skall Recording SecretaryJulie White Corresponding SecretaryMaria Schnall TRUSTEES Susan Simon, Gerry Kadonoff, Peter Elinsky STAFF Administrator, Judy Seiff - 703/532-2240 Program Director, Anita Thornton - 703/532-2217 Religious School Principal, Dina Burt, RJE - 703/532-2207 Nursery School Principal, Karen Simpson - 703/532-2227 Choir Director, Frank Conlon Temple Office 703/532-2217 www.TempleRodefShalom.org Email: info@TempleRodcfShalom.org The TRS Bulletin is published 12 times a year on the is: of each month. '1 "Some thoughts on Forgiveness" s we approach the Yamim Nora'im, the Days of Awe, our tradition directs us to many significant themes. Perhaps paramount amongst them is the theme of forgiveness. A Both Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are times of introspection, change and moving ahead to a better, more righteous, healthier future. There is no question that forgiveness, both of ourselves and others, must be a part of this transition into a new year. As we, here in the clergy suite, discuss this theme, we are aware that we need to ask forgiveness from you, our Temple family. Cantor Shochet, Rabbi Burstein and I are sure that there have been times when we have inadvertently offended or hurt a member of our congregation. Did we pass you by in a store, absorbed in our own world? Did we forget the name of someone in your family - especially when you were hoping to feel more connected to us? Did we mispronounce the name of a loved one during kaddish or forget to mention the ill family member you told us about in the hallway before services? Perhaps you discovered that your Cantor doesn't actually share the same views on an important matter as you do; or your Rabbi has a different goal for the program you have been working on with him or her. On behalf of all of us here in the Temple office, I ask your forgiveness for all that we might have done hopefully only unintentionally. With all due respect for our relationship with you, our community, there are also times when ri we feel hurt. We are, after all, only human. Like everyone else, we feel offended by comments or silences; we are hurt when left out or pushed too far in. It is painful to realize that we don't always share the same priorities with the people whom we serve. But, it is, of course, in our best interest to work on being forgiving. As clergy, friends and co-workers, we too want to let go of anger or pain in order to move toward a healthier, more peaceful and productive relationship with all of you. We all forgive in different ways. Some of us need process, some can let go alone, and others look to friends or professionals for help. Forgiveness is a critical experience that our tradition expects us to struggle with this season. May all of us accept this responsibility with a full and open heart. Doing so will surely strengthen us as individuals as well as our entire Temple family. Most sincerely, Rabbi Amy Schwartzman Student Cantor Leigh Korn Brings a Fresh New Look to Shabbat Worship is Bo'i Shabbat - An Adult Alternative to Family Shabbat This Rosh Hashanah will not only mark the beginning of the New Year, but also the beginning of my second year as student cantor at TRS. As we begin each new year, we can expect some things to stay constant, and at the same time look forward to exciting new changes. I am so looking forward to continuing my work at Rodef Shalom. I will continue to lead services, work with B'nai Mitzvah students, and coordinate and rehearse Kol Machar, our teen choir. All of these opportunities allow me to be part of this wonderful Temple family, as well as provide me with great practical experience. I am also excited about my new responsibilities for the coming year. While last year I visited Falls Church once a month, my visits will be twice as often in the coming year. This will enhance my work with B'nai Mitzvah students and will also allow me to rehearse more regularly with Kol Macbar. I will begin to work regularly with Chai Notes, our volunteer band, and I will also be leading a fresh new Bo'i Shabbat service. _______ The new Bo'i Shabbat service, which will take place at 6:45 pm on the first Friday of every month is geared toward an adult congregation and will be largely musical. This will be a great opportunity for those who would not ordinarily come to the family service. Bo'i Shabbat will include a traditional Kabbalat (or welcoming) Shabbat service, the collection of psalms and poetry that precede the evening service. You can look forward to a wonderful tapestry of familiar and new melodies capturing a warm and uplifting spiritual welcome to Shabbat. I look forward to seeing you at the first service on Friday, September 5. I am excited for another wonderful year singing, praying, and learning together. May the New Year bring comfort in its sameness and excitement in its newness. Shana Tova, Student Cantor Leigh Korn JSSA IS HERETO HELP Thanks to a partnership between TRS and The Jewish Social Service Agency of Northern Virginia, we are pleased to have Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC available to provide services to our congregants in the coming year. Rona is available to help our members with family issues including questions about parenting, aging, dealing with challenging relationships and children's issues. She can provide referrals to JSSA and other community resources. She will also be at TRS the second Thursday of each month from 6-7:30 pm. Please contact her to set up an appointment. Rona can be contacted at 703/204-9100 ext 15 or rhitlin-mason@jssa.org . King David Memorial Gardens will hold its annual High Holy Days Memorial Service Sunday, September 21, 2003 11:00am High Holy Days Schedule at a Glance Saturday, September 20 • Selichot 9:00 pm.\ Dessert Reception 10:00 pn'I Se1iqhot 1S ervice (see box below) 26 • 5:45 pnrEarl)\Adul Service 5:45 pm' Old e ! Fani .y Service 5:45 pm \Youiiger F Service 8:30 pm La4 Adult ;ervices From The Administrator Thanks to all for your patience in working with our new on line High Holy Day registration site. While not perfect yet, the overwhelming number of folks registering on line gives us great encouragement that the system will be an effective, efficient and paper-saving method of helping congregants to access our many options for worship and celebration for themselves, family bers and special guests. Special thanks to TRS volunm Chris Gardner and Robin Fried who worked tirelessly behind the scenes to get this new endeavor up and running. It is, so far as we know, the first of its kind! Please remember that tickets will be mailed out during the first week in September (just after Labor Day). Check the packet which comes to your home in the mail to be sure that you have tickets for all the services you requested. Call the Temple Office with errors or omissions (703/532-2217). If you registered, but did not receive tickets, it could be because you are delinquent in your financial obligations to the Temple. If special financial arrangements are necessary, please contact me, (Temple Administrator, Judy Seiff) immediately (703/532-2240). Finally, if you have not yet registered, please go on line to the Temple website to begin the process, or come in to the Temple Office during regular business hours immediately. Please spare everyone the hassles that develop when requests are made last minute. Tickets will not available after Wednesday, September 24, nor are they available at the door during the holidays. enks and best wishes for a Happy and Healthy New Year! Judy Seiff— Temple Administrator Saturday, September Erev Rosh Hashanah sh ashanah Day 8:30 am Earl 7Adult Sj'ic 8:30 am E y YoJh 13rogn 11:30 am te Adu1Se¼i 11:30 a La Youthrogra: 4:00 pm Tot ervice '4:30 pm Taschich Service Sunday, October Erev ppu /KoI Nidre 5:45 pm Early Adult S 5:45 pm Older Family 5:45 pm Younger Fair 8:30 pm Late Adult S Monday, October 6 ppur 8:30 am Early Adult Sevi 8:30 am Early Youthpi 11:30 am Late AduServi 11:30 am LateY9xfth Progi 2:00 pm Ms& Meai 2:00 pm Disi5n Hour 3:15 pm Tot Service / 4:00 pm Service of 1;cofgiv es(and Healing 4:00 pm Afternoo Famul Service 5:30 pm Yizkorice 6:00 pm N'ilah Service Please join us for Selichot and a Dessert Reception Saturday, September 20 • 9:00 pm This special service consists of prayers of self-examination and reflection in anticipation of the High Holy Days. A dessert reception sponsored by our TRS Sisterhood will follow. U!' Find a Family Within our Family at TRS! Feel like you'd like to get to know more TRS members with similar interests? Want to feel more connected to our Temple? In addition to joining a committee and volunteering for special projects, TRS offers many Affinity Groups within our Membership Committee. One of these groups is the place for you! Please read descriptions below and feel free to contact meforfurther information and to share ideas. Judy Sue TRS YOUNG PROFESSIONALS z First Event: TRS Young Professionals "Meet 'n Greet" Thursday, September 11 • 7:00 pm at TRS 0 LL CL 0 w z Kallah 20's & 30's is getting a facelift. It is becoming the TRS Young Professionals. Not only is it a new name but also a different format. If you want to have fun, come join us for dessert on Thursday, September 11, to discuss possible upcoming events such as "Torah on Tap", Potluck Shabbat dinners, concert and theater events, a Picnic and biking trip along the Potomac and much more. If you are unable to attend the meeting or are too enthusiastic to wait and share your ideas, drop us a line to let us know your interest. For more information please contact Karen Marcus - kmarcus@law.gwu.edu or Tara Miller - TNMiller@hotmail.com VATJ Ki M (our senior members ages 70+) Stimulating activities including lunch gatherings, ( guest speakers holiday meals, trips to the theater and museums provide wonderful day time opportunities for our seniors. Transportation is provided for all out of temple events. Information on upcoming events will be included in the October bulletin. For further information, please contact Anita Thornton, Program Director at 703/532-2217 ext.30 1, or athornton@templerodefshalom.org Membership Chair: Judy Sue . 703/864-1854 • Judy@judySue.com — , . i I .l iN CHAVERIM * * (Single Parent Family Group) This very active group plans plenty of fun-filled activities throughout the year, For further information, or to get involved, please contact Laurie Solomon 703/812-8256, and I224@prodigy.net , or Lee Berner at 703/827-8332, leberner@hhlaw.com . Chaverim will be decorating our Sanctuary Sukkah on Thursday, October 11. Keshet Club 4A (Our new Affinity Group for Gays and Lesbians) Planning is in process for a number of KESHET activities this year. If you would like further information, please contact Mike Rankin, 703/536-5698, NavDocSF@aol.com, or Marsha Mann 703/307-6280, Marshall30@cox.net . You may also contact Anita Thornton, Program Director at 703/532-2217 Ext 301 or athornton@templerodefshalom.org . A meeting to plan future activities is scheduled for Tuesday, September 23 at 7:30 pm. RENAISSANCE 0 ROUND ROBIN SHABBAT—Celebrate Shabbat wit] other Renaissance TRS members. The next Round Robin Shabbat is November 7 at 7 pm. RSVP by October 24 to Joan Kadonoff at 703/893-2604 or via email to jkadonoff@jps.com . Additional Round Robin Shabbat dinners: December 5, March 5, and May 7. To sign up for your turn as a host, call Jeanne Ormsby at 703/534-8051 or email to jeanne.ormsby@verizon.net LUCK BBQ—Sunday, September 7 at 5 •Oj/ pm.POT Call Jeanne or Steve at 703/534-8051 if you have any questions. /( BOOK CLUB—Check the notices on the email list for the next meeting. BALTIMORE JEWISH MUSEUM--On November 9, we are planning a trip tothe New Friends Wine & Cheese September 12 at 7:45 p.m. Don't come to Friday night services alone! Instead, join us at the Friday night wine and cheese held the second Friday of each month. We'll enjoy light refreshments and' _/V'\ head into services together. We look forward to seeing any unaccompanied adults and new members that evening. Jewish Museum of Maryland in Baltimore to see the exhibit "Entertaining America," the story of Jewish entertainers in America. If you do not have email, contact Harriet Epstein at 703/560-4137 for information. WHO WE ARE—Renaissance is a social group for TRS members in their 50's and 60's. There are no other membership requi Activities for 200312004 include theater, dining out, hikes, d .. by bus to museums and Jewish cultural events. For more information or to be added to our email list (to stay up to date on Renaissance), contact Jeanne Ormsby or Steve Taub at 7031534-8051 or email jeanne.ormsby@verizon.net . For Families with Y Tappers (Temple Activities for Parents and Pre-Schoolers) Temple members with little ones are invited to participate in the numerous activities we have available for those with young children. Our year will kick off with SUKKA1-I DECORATING and DINNER on Thursday, October 9 at 5:30 pm. Checks should be made out to TRS with memo: "TAPPERS Sukkot." Deadline to register is 2 pm Friday, October 3. Look for more information on future TAPPERS activities in our October bulletin. If you would like to volunteer to help organize a TAPPERS event, please contact Anita Thornton, Program Director. P1aroup Ei SVP An informal gathering o parents with children ages newborn-2 meets each Monday at 10:00 am at the Temple. RSVP's are not necessary. It's a great way for new moms and dads to get to know other Temple members with children of similar age. You are encouraged to bring your own snacks for your child. Toys are available but please feel free to bring your little one's favorites! For further information, please contact Carol Cohen at 703/ 241 - 5405 or e-mail ccohen22213@yahoo.com . You may also contact Anita Thornton, Program Director for further information. TOT SIIi\J?PkT Storjtime for TOTS Our monthly volunteer reading program will continue later this fall, if you are interested in volunteering to read stories, please contact Martha Hill, Librarian or Anita Thornton, Program Director. Children 6-.30 pm the third Fidaj of each month September through June This fun filled thirty minute service features candle lighting, singing, a story and prayer-giving little ones exposure to Jewish services and a chance to learn appropriate sanctuary behavior. Please bring a nut- free dessert to share at the Pot Luck Oneg in the School Lobby after the service. 14" Tappers Sukkot Activi ly kt ) coratin the Sukkah & Potluck Dinner Thursday, October 9 5:00 pm 5:00-6: opm Decorating 6:30 pm Dinner J $5.00 per family - Includes Hot Dogs & Lemonade Last Name A-K please bring a salad or side dish to share Last Name L-Z please bring dessert to share RSVP to Melissa Sporn, Tappers Coordinator by Monday, October 6 Yes! We'll be at the Tappers Sukkah Event! Adult Na Adult Name Child's Full Name and Age Daytime Phone _____ Please return this form with $5.00 payment made payable to TRS by October 6 Mail to: Melissa Sporn Questions only: 703/893-3883 1507 Linden Hurst Ave or McLean, VA 22101 melsprn@aol.com E Temple Member R Non-member I can help with : ( please check one) [1 Set up 0 Crafts Clean up 'I Adult Bar/Bat Mitzvah Class Forming This Fall Temple Rodef Shalom's very successful Rodcf Chochma Program is open to all adults who never became Bar or Bat Mitzvah. It's an intensive class focusing on Jewish ritual, liturgy, history, philosophy and texts. During this program there will be a Hebrew learning program to prepare students for leading a service and reading from the Torah in the late fall of 2004. The class will meet twice a month on Sundays beginning in November, plus additional days for special programs and projects throughout the year. The class will be taught by all our clergy and guest instructors. If you are interested, come to an organizational meeting (question/ answer session) with Cantor Shochet on Tuesday, September 9, 7:45 pm. Please call Stel in the clergy suite if you are interested in attending 703/532-2217 or email her at SLitwack@TempleRodetShalom.org . For questions, please email Cantor Shochet at Cantor@TempleRodefShalom.org . Beginner's Biblical Hebrew One Tuesday/Month 8:15-9:30 pm Because of the success of the original Biblical Hebrew class (which is still continuing!), Rabbi Burstein will again offer a Beginner's Biblical Hebrew class this year. The class will meet one time each month and students will have to meet at least once with their study partner between classes. PLEASE NOTE: Rabbi Burstein will only offer the class if there are enough participants please contact Stel (Clergy secretary) by September 15 to sign up or to ask for more information. Specific dates will be determined based on responses. ADULT HEBREW CLASSES BEGIN THIS FALL! Hebrew Marathon! • Adult Beginner's Hebrew! • Advanced Adult Beginners HebrS Hebrew Marathon— Beginner's Adult Hebrew! Advanced Beginners Learn to Read Hebrew in a Single Day! (absolutely no prior knowledge required) Adult Hebrew This day-long intensive workshop is for Tuesdays 7:30-9:00 pm Wednesdays, 7:30-9:00 pm those "true" beginners who want a jump 10 Classes: 10 Classes: Oct 8,15, 22, 29, start to the Beginner Adult Hebrew Class! Oct 21, 28, Nov 5,12,19, Nov 4,11,18, 25, Sunday, October 19 • 9am-3:30pm Dec 3,10, Jan 7 Dec 2, 9, Jan 6, 13 Fee: $54 members, $118 non-members and includes lunch, text book and snacksFee: $75 members, $125 non-membersFee: $75 members, $125 non-members Instructor: Naomi McNally Instructor: Na'ava Feder Instructor: Na'ava Feder All Classes Must Have a Minimum of 10 Participants. Reserve Your Space in the Class of your Choice Today!!! I ] Yes! Please enroll me/us in the following class(es) Student i Name Phone_____________________ (please choose from the following:) ]Hebrew Marathon/Member @ $54.00 [ ] Hebrew Marathon/Nonmember@$1 18.00 ]Adult Beginner Hebrew/Member @ $75.00 I I Adult Beginner Hebrew/Nonmember @ $125.00 ]Advanced Adult Beginner Hebrew Member @ $75.00 [ ) Advanced Adult Beginner Hebrew/Nonmember@ $125.00 I Student 2 Name Phone______________________ (please choose from the following:) I ]Hebrew Marathon/Member @ $54.00 I I Hebrew Marathon/Nonmember@$l 18.00 ]Adult Beginner Hebrew/Member @ $75.00 [ } Adult Beginner Hebrew/Nonmember @ $125.00 ]Advanced Adult Beginner Hebrew Member @ $75.00 I [ I Advanced Adult Beginner Hebrew/Nonmember@ $125.00 Total Payment Enclosed: $_______________ Check should be made payable to Temple Rodef Shalom with "Adult Hebrew" on memo line Please mail this registration with full payment to: Temple Rodef Shalom - Adult Hebrew Class 2100 Westmoreland Street Falls Church, VA 22043 Start the New Year off Right... Get the Most out of the High Holy Day Experience... Join in the High Holy Day Limud Sunday, September 7 Join us for up to four classes. Please pick the sessionls that interest you and work for your schedule. Adult #1 Name Phone() - E- Please choose you class/es and time/s below: 8:45-9:30 am 9:45-10:30 am 11:30-12:15 pm 12:30-1:15 pm Class I Class 2 Class 3 Class 4 Adult #2 Name CLASSES OFFERED 1. "High Holy Day Music" Cantor Shochet Phone( ) E-mail________________________ (Utilizing the High Holy Day CD to become more comfortable with the music of services.) Please choose you class/es and time/s below: 2. "The Special Liturgy of the Days of Awe" Student 8:45-9:30 am 9:45-10:30 am 11:30-12:15 pm 12:30-1:15 pm Cantor Korn Class 1 3. "The Ideas of Forgiveness and Repentance in Jewish Class 2 Texts" Rabbi Schwartzman Class 3 "Importance of the Shofar" Rabbi Burstein (Bring your own shofar if you'd like to practice.)Class 4 Please return to the Temple Clergy office, do Anne Duncan, by Thursday, September 4. V Ll The Jewish Federation of Greater Washington wishes you and your loved ones a Happy New Year! L'Shanah Tovah Tikatevu V'Techatemu May you be inscribed for a sweet year of health and happiness, prosperity and peace. The Jewish Federation of Greater Washirloon WE ARE ALL ONE PEOPLE A (301) 230-7200 A www.ShalomDC.org ri The Cultural Committee has an exciting year of events planned from a Yiddish play (Chaim's Love Song) to a Jewish musical (Milk and Honey); from a very talented singer/songwriter, Pen Sniilow, to a Cantorial Extravaganza Concert: "From Bimah to Broadway," featuring guest cantors from the Reform Movement. Yes, we have performances sure to please everyone! New this year will be a Jewish Film Festival and a Jewish Arts & Music Festival at the end of Religious School. Watch future bulletins for complete details. Attention students entering grades 3-51 -Join Shir Harmony Do you like to sing? Want to join TRS's incredible Shir Harmony Choir? We meet about 2 Sundays per month between religious school sessions, beginning in September. If you are interested in joining, email your name, address and grade to Cantor Shochet at Cantor@TempleRodefShalom.org . The first rehearsal will be Sunday, September 14, between early and late session Religious School. Our first performance will be at the ceremony to welcome our new Torah scroll on November 15! Students entering grades 6 - 9. ..How about joining.. our fabulous teen choir, Kol Machar? Student Cantor Kom leads this advanced choral group two Sundays per month between early and late religious school sessions, beginning in September. If you are interested in joining, email your name, address and grade to Student Cantor Kom at LKom@TempleRodefShalom.org .. The first rehearsal will be Sunday, September 7, the first day of religious school. Our first performance will be at the ceremony to welcome our new Torah scroll on November 15. Nancy E. Kane, Traditional and Accredited Buyers 'Agent Top 5% Sales Nationwide NVAR Residential Top Producer TRS Member 703-938-6070, ext. 137 Email me: nkane@erols.com See me: www.homesbynancykane.com q4ee c,40nge Wa44arn4 1(04 all Ia.4saaio.,s/ We are looking for volunteers to be on the Cultural Comm and to help make these exciting events happen. If you are inte ested, please email Larry Zimmerman at LZimmerman@WBBINC.COM and come to our next Cultural Committee meeting: Thursday, September 18 at 7:00 pm. Larry Zimmerman Jessie Marshall Cultural Committee Co-Chairs IE(oleinu kicks off it's 6th season with a great program of Jewish music performances - in the synagogue and in the community. This is a great time for new members to join the volunteer choir. It's a navuran as weii as a periormance group. Come check us out! For more information, email Cantor Shochet at Cantor@TempleRodefShalom.org Be Part of TRS Players! he IRS Player's want to put the BUG in T your head now, while it's still summer! Please watch for your October Bulletin where ') we will be announcing the audition date for our winter production. It will be sometime in midOctober and we will be auditioning for two plays; Chaim's Love Song and What's Wrong With This Picture. Performance dates will be 1/22, 1/24 and 1/25/2004. We will start rehearsals twice a week in early November and schedule time off for the holidays. Whether you're an actor or a techie, we encourage you to come out and be part of The TRS Players. Questions? Contact Janice Zucker @ jzeej@Yahoo.com BERKOWITZ ZEGLER PARTNERS Architects Design of New Homes,Additions Playgrounds, Kitchens and Baths 703-917-4345 Ella BerkowitzThomas Zegler I Rehg_i__ous____S_cho01 From the Educator eginnings and endings are the punctuation of , our lives. Despite the cyclical nature of our existance, we do in fact have clear beginnings and clear endings. Last September we opened school, last May we ended a fabulous school year and in June, 31 students marked the end of their formal education by participating in a beautiful Confirmation service during Shavuot. The TRS camp has seen one more beginning and one more end this summer. Someone once remarked that it is all the same - day in and day out.. .and I spent a fair amount of time disagreeing. The events may begin and end over and over again - but never in exactly the same way. No two opening days are the same and no two closing days are identical. Each ceremony, each meeting, each opportunity has its own special characteristics. Now, we begin again. This time of year is marked with first days and the promise of adventures throughout the year. As school opens this year, I want you to know how excited we are in the Religious School office about the learning that will happen in our community this year. Our staff is a wonderful group of talented, enthusiastic individuals, each of whom is passionate about Judaism and about being a part of the TRS family. Some faces you will recognize, some are new. I hope that you will embrace both equally as we start this year's journey together. Over the summer, the curriculum has been tweaked, and I am grateful for the teachers who spent time helping us. There will be, as always, some nderful learning opportunities for your children - as well as for you. ongly believe in all of the anecdotal evidence that suggests that the children of involved and connected parents gain the most from their education and have strong Jewish identities in the end. Learning is a family business, and I hope that you will take advantage of all that there will be for you. As the front doors open for class, please remember that our office doors are always open to you. Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are right around the corner and thoughts of T'shuva and renewal are on everyone's mind. As the year begins anew, I hope that it will be fulfilling for everyone and overflowing with opportunites that are rewarding and enriching. Shana Tova! Dina Burt, RJE-Principal Mark Your Calendar Friday September 5 Friday September 5Saturday, September 6 Sunday, September 7 Family Shabbat Worship 7:30 pm Aliyah (gr 7) Overnight @TRS Opening day of Jewish Studies for Yisodot (k-3) and Madregot (4-6) Tuesday, September 9 Opening day of Mad regot Hebrew Classes. Wednesday, September 10 Opening day of Madregot Hebrew Classes Friday September 12-6th Grade Retreat Saturday September 13 Sunday September 14Yisodot (k-3) PARENT BACK TO SCHOOL DAY Book Fair Tuesday September 16 Haskalah family night Opening night for Aliyah Hebrew classes Sunday, September 21 Madregot (4-6) PARENT BACK TO SCHOOL DAY Book Fair Sunday, September 28 ROSH HASHANAH WEEKEND NO REGULAR RS CLASSES LOOKING AHEAD: Friday, October 3 Family Shabbat worship • 7:30 PM Grade 6 Shabbat Dinner (reservations required) Grade 6 Sings Sunday, October 5 KOL NIDRE NO REGULAR RS CLASSES Parent Back to School Days Join us for a morning of learning and information: meet your children's teachers, hear about curriculum and this year's exciting program and visit our annual Book Fair. It's a day not to miss!! Yisodot (gr k-3) Sunday September 14 E: 8:30-10:45 am L: 11:15-1:30 pm Madregot (gr 4-6) Sunday, September 21 E: 8:30-10:45 amL: 11:15-1:30 pm JEWISH BOOKS ARE EVERYWHERE!!!! AND NOW - WE WILL BRING THEM TO YOU.. ..ALL IN ONE PLACE!! THE ANNUAL TRS RELIGIOUS SCHOOL BOOK FAIR Fabulous books for children and adults... from story books to history to novels to cook books to celebrating Jewish holidays Book Fair Times: SUNDAY, SEPT 14 • 8:30 am-1:30 pm Grades k-3 will visit with their parents during back to school day. ents and congregants are invited to browse at any time during 0e morning. TUESDAY SEPT 16 • 6:45-7:45 pm The Book fair will be open during the Haskalah and Aliyah breaks ria SUNDAY,SEPT21 8:30am-1:30pm Grades 4-6 will visit with their parents during back to school day. Parents and congregants are invited to browse at any time during the morning! NEW THIS YEAR.....the computer corner..., view and purchase some of the newest Jewish Material for your home computer! For Youth Group Info, please call Michelle or Mark Sandler at 703/ 448-3532 or email michelle@sandler.org P YOUTHAL ,,ssss,,s JP TRTY 8TH 7TH YOUTH GROUP FOR _____ For Religious School information call 703/532- _____ AND GRADERS DC United Soccer Game Saturday, September 13 6:00 pm We are going to have a BLAST at our first event of the year and our first ever trip to see a DC United Soccer Game! This will be a big game - DC is playing San Jose! Don't miss this one! Tickets will be $27. Send a check made out to TRS to the Temple to reserve your spot today. 2207. zxzz, RELIGOUS& SaCHOOL Welcome Back to School! Our new school year and Jewish year begin this month. Did you know Rosh Hashanah has 3 other names? This holiday is also called Yom Teruah (Day of Sounding the Shofar), Yom Hazikaron (Day of Remembering), and Yom Hadin (Day of Judgement). We celebrate the New Year as we listen to the shofar and eat our apples, honey and round challah. At the Tashlich ceremony at the TRS pond, we have the opportunity to throw breadcrumbs to symbolically "cast away our sins" from the past year and prepare ourselves for Yom Kippur. Yom Kippur begins with the Kol Nidre (all our vows) service in which we ask for God's forgiveness and understanding of the vows we made that we can not keep. On the day of Yom Kippur we say the Al Het prayer as a congregation and "confess... and accept responsibility not only for our own misdeeds but for those of our family and community as well" and also Shul-In Avinu Malkeinu asking God's forgiveness. At the • Friday & Saturday, October 3 & 4 closing Ne'ilah service of Yom Kippur, there is one long shofar blast and the Book of Life is sealed. We can go NOTICE DATE CHANGE from last month's bulletin. home and break our fast and prepare ourselves for the Don't plan anything on the P because we're having our New Year. most popular event of the year - our annual shul-in! It doesn't matter if this is your first event or if you're a youth group veteran, it's a great opportunity to meet others and have a GREAT time! Come for some great food,' movies, programs, games.. . and, as always, friends! YOUTH GROUP FOP 5]H AND 0 GRADERS 000000000 TPTY 56 ' 3rd Annual Sukkot Maze Trip ? V Sunday, Oct. 1 2' Look for a flyer with details about this l event soon! 0 TRS Fy Youth qoup For 9- 12 crades Contact Michelle Sandier with any Questions at 703/448-3732 or michelle@sandler.orq Iii I L Z Frldaxj,, Sept 12 @ 7:00 pm cx^ Join us for a special evening of great food and friends! The Progressive Shabbat Dinner last gear was such a success that we wanted it to be our FIRST event of what Is going to be our BEST gear jet! What a perfect wag to spend Shabbat! Well travel to 4 houses with 4 courses along the wag. Please meet at the Krachman famIl,j home at 412 U. Columbia Street, Falls Church. It Is verij Important to RSVP to Michelle Sandler for this event because we need to make sure we have enough drivers from house to house. Don't miss this event - It'll be one to remember! for a flyer In the mail with more details.4 Lo Wf eb€st on AnVPl." fall Sh0hi" 6* When:Friday, October 17 Time:6:00 pm Place:Youth lounge @TRS Cost:$10 TRSTY dues paying members $13 Non dues paying members Why:Great food Great friends fun •Great Plus, great programs & movies... T-T1VitJJLJiL). AflTTT TQUI llLii WE NEED YOU!!! We're going on our first ever Weekend Ski Trip (Presidents Day Weekend Feb. 13-16) and we need adults to chaperone our trip. Call Michelle if you're interested in having a fun ski weekend with some fun TRSTY'ites! upcornitl Irsty events I other I I friday, oct 17 (note date change from last bulletin) shut—in sunday, nov q rock climbing look for flyers in the mail U U U FTI I SeDtember B'nai Mitzvah September 6, 2003 • Laura Barone Laura is the daughter of Tony & Debbie Barone. This fall she'll enter the 7th Grade at Franklin Middle School where she is a flautist in the school band. Laura also plays the piano, basketball and travel soccer. She likes to bowl, go to the movies, and work with young children- to that end she has been volunteering as an aide with children in a Reston Day Care Center. September 13, F1 2003 • Isabel Keliman Isabel is the daughter of Gary & Cyd Kellman. She'll be entering the 7th Grade at Cooper Middle School. School activities include chorus, gymnastics, volleyball, guitar, and golf. For several years Isabel has volunteered as a fundraiser for the American Heart Association. She is interested in a career as an actress or perhaps a singer. September 13, 2003 • Laura Miller The daughter of Dennis Miller and Rosemary Ciotti, Laura will be an 8th Grade student at Swanson Middle School where she plays the trumpet in the Marching and Symphonic Bands. Laura is in the Teen Club; "Arlington in Motion' and started her very own Pet & Plant Svc. to save towards college. Laura enjoys skiing, hockey, basketball, baseball rollerbiading, photography, and filmmaking. She volunteers in area creek clean-ups, bake sales, and Mitzvah Days, and when asked, likes to assist the disabled. College Addresses If your chlld(ren) is/are headed for or returning to college this fall, and you would like him/her/them to receive "care package" and other correspondence from the Temple during the year, please provide the following information to Michelle Sandier, Youth Advisor, Michelle@sandler.org , or 703/532-2217 ext 308: Name of StudentName of School AddressPhoneE-mail ae ring b W?NI1DW C For over 16 years, Catering by Windows has been providing exceptional full-service catering, party planning and event management services. Pairing renown culinary expertise with professional, experienced service, Catering by Windows can make your next celebration a spectacular simcha! Kosher and Kosher-style available. Bar/Bat Mitzvahs • Weddings • Social Entertaining U Holiday Celebrations • www.catering.com Ask for Andrew Gerstel North Royal Street, Alexandria, VA 22314 703-519-3500 1125 September 20, 2003 • Alexander Korobkin 0 Alex is the son of Alan and Connie Korobkin. He will be entering the 7th Grade this fall at the Maret School. Alex plays electric guitar and trumpet. An avid baseball player, Alex was a District Title finalist- with the McLean All Star team, as well as in an August tournament in New York's Cooperstown Dreams Park. He also enjoys basketball, skiing, and playing sports with his younger brother Jonathan. Volunteer activities include working with S.O.M.E., helping senior citizens, and raising money for the Israel Solidarity Ambulance Fund. Alex hopes to attend Stanford Univ. and play baseball. L September 20, 2003. Elyse Krachman Elyse is the daughter of Al & Julie Krachman, and will be in the 7th Grade at George Mason Middle School this Fall. Elyse acted in the GMHS Extravaganza this past year, plays piano, likes to write, sing, and dance. As an adult, she would like to teach, sing or be an actress. Succeed on Standardized Tests Individual and Small-Group Tutoring SAT I (Verbal)SAT II Writing Thomas Jefferson High School Admissions Test (Verbal) Classes for TJHSST Admissions Test Now Forming Proven Results! Karen Selwyn 703-538-5558 [Iiiiir.jiI1ITSIMWAtSII[S11 AS The Outreach Committee is looking forward to another exciting year of programming. We offer a variety of programs for our members who are part of interfaith families, or for recent Jews by Choice who want to feel more comfortable within our community. Co-chair, Outreach: Mindy Facenda . 703/255-3941 (mindyfacenda@hotmail.com ) l—I The Social Action Committee is looking for volunteers. We have openings for both single-project as well as longterm volunteer opportunities. Make a difference in our community, help those in need, reach out to other Temple members, organize events - all of this and more is available to Social Action volunteers. We have on-going projects and are open to new ones as well. Here is a "Save the Date" listing of programs for the 20032004 year. Check your bulletins monthly for more details. COMING UP THIS FALL: SUPPER IN THE SUKKAH: October 12 We'll kick off the year with a family potluck supper to celebrate & learn about the holiday of Sukkot. Please contact Susan Weinstock 703/536-8988, L-sweinstock@mindspring.com or Dan Blalock 703/938-2554, the.blalocks@verizon.net if you want to help out and make a difference. Make tikkun olam your new year's resolution - join Social Action! r1p; FALL INTERMARRIED DISCUSSION SERIES: October 26, November 16 and December 7 lis facilitated series is an opportunity for couples to exchange ideas, share experiences and explore choices related to interfaith issues. The final session will be with clergy. O INTERFAITH B'NAI MITZVAH CELEBRATIONS: November 23 A discussion of the joys and anxieties that may accompany this event as it relates to interfaith families. LOOKING AHEAD: YOU'RE INVITEP' The Social Action Committe host a brunch at Susan Weinstock's home on Sundc morning September 28th at 9:00am for all congregants interested in participating in social action projects in the coming year. For further information, or to RSVP, please call Susan at the numbers listed above. • Exploring Conversion: January 11 • Winter Shabbat Dinner Matching & Potluck: January March • Interfaith Marriage: A workshop for those preparing for interfaith marriage of a child: February (Date TBA) A+ College Counseling Services Helping to Find the Perfect College Match Joan E. Levin College Counselor Consultant 2026 Rhode Island Avenue Mclean, VA. 22101 • Jewish Film Festival and Food (of course!): March 21 • Passover Seder Matching: April (Date TBA) • Spring Intermarried Couples Discussion Series: March 28, April 18 and May 16 703-359-0202 Fax: 703-533-7229 E-mail: joanendow@hotmail.com • Learner's Shabbat Service: June 25 Or questions, or if you are interested in joining our committee, please contact Mindy Facenda, Outreach Chair: mindyfacenda@hotmail.com U U I Presidents' Corner We wish all of you a Happy and Healthy New Year, and hope you all enjoyed the summer and have prepared for another successful year with many interesting activities. We are looking Eliy Kempler Cohen 6- Julie Krachman forward to seeing you at our Membership Luncheon in October, and hoping to meet many more of you throughout the year. Finally, we offer thanks to all of our Board Members for working so hard to prepare our 2003-2004 program year. B 'Shalom, Sisterhood Co-Presidents Elly Kempler Cohen and Julie Krach man Contact information: Elly Kempler Cohen703/241-5471 eIIykceroIs.com or Julie Krachman . 703/241-7574 juleskrac@aol.com Sisterhood By-Laws Under Revision In accordance with the Sisterhood by-laws, the documents are currently under review for possible revision. The By-Laws Committee has completed a draft proposal, which will be presented to the general membership for approval at a meeting in September. Any Sisterhood member who would like a copy of the by-laws, with the proposed changes, should contact Su Hale, 703/560-7712, or Andrea Weckstein, kbweck@erols.com . Brand new 2004 Entertainment© Books are available now! Still priced at just $35, the Entertainment© book makes a great investment and a wonderful gift! Entertainment© 2004 (which is effective for savings immediately upon registration) offer savings until November 2004, so the sooner you buy the longer your discounts are effective. The books for Northern Virginia/DC and Maryland/DC are on sale now in the Sisterhood Treasures Judaica Shop. They still include 50%-off and two-for-one offers at the best places in town for dining, shopping, movies, and even travel. The Entertainment© books also make great gifts for your out-of-town friends and family. Order an Entertainment© book at www.entertainment.com for almost any major city coast to coast (more than 160 editions now available). They can be shipped to you or directly to the recipient, and shipping is included! When you buy online, be sure to enter the Sisterhood's account number 128431 so that we can get credit for the sale. 20% of your purchase will be donated to Temple Rodef Shalom Sisterhood. TRS Sisterhood Book Club . 3rd Wednesdays at 10 AM September 17 Austerlitz by W.G. Sebald Helen Glick 1016 Shipman Lane McLean,VA Please call hostess if you're coming. For further information call Harriet Beckman at 703/356-3586. Bagel Bar Volunteers Needed Sisterhood's Sunday Morning Bagel Bar continues to be a huge success. We have been able to contribute a significant amount of money to Sisterhood's many worthy charities - look for the list of these charities posted in the Judaica Shop. We have now become the place to hang out on Sunday mornings. Many thanks to all the women who offer their time and support with a smile. However we could use more volunteers! The more people we have, the m we can spread out the commitment. Please consider giving one Sunday morning several times next year. Call Su Hale, 703/5607712 to be added to our volunteer roster. O/storhvd r'asurcs Tuesday and Wediesday 11am to 2:30pm and 5:30pm to 730pm Sunday 8:30am to 1:30pm Appointments: Toni Sandier 734-9533 Janet Roseman 356-2573 Eleanor Linde 821-3767 KING DAVID MEMORIAL GARDENS FAILS CHURCH, VIRGINIA MARVIN BURSTEIN FAMILY COUNSELOR () OFFICE (703) 289-4043 HOME (703) 821-2717 Making Life's Toughest Choices A Little Easier PLcfseJouvi. i..&s For the Avt&iL terhoocA MevtbersliIp Lic.lieo I Rest&tr&vtt 2941 Weesc, Oc.tober 15, 2003 ..n t 11:30 &LV,t. P&rF. trIve 241 FCI FcLLs eLiitrc.i, vI.rSI.v22042 Prorc'i&: 11:30-12:00 fors c'oet.vres 12:00-1:30 1:30 - 2:00 Lieov KItc4iev cc( recw McIzL14g Yovr Cost:430/.S'Lcter1OOc members, 435/ests tecc1Lvte for reservcftovt,s Ls octhber C4tt N Ii,it: Avovt here PIioie# of C4iec4:__________ c4iec4.s s .io4&1 be vtt6104e ovt to TRS S'sterliooc cIIi41 vcI,1ec to: Av4rec We ste't.v, ioyi Fc4LLs PoI,vte tr've, cret FULLS, VA 220' . A vtevu.t wELL be vLcbLe at the L nc1.ieovt a not wELLLce & cio' ce of three etrees. U.StLOIkS: CcLL or eii&L: Ai'41rea wecste'w O3-59-2&O2, bwe@verLzovet or ELLeo. Asi 03-75-300, eL1es.1@c.o)cet I Men's Club.LSenior News Men's Club activities are open to all adult TRS members. For more info, or to RSVP, please contact Randy Heitman at fleitmanrh@state.gov, or Harvey Litvin at litvinh@erols.com . Thursday, October 16 8:30 am to 1:00 pm "Aging. . .A Crisis in Mental Health" We are still working on plans to attend an Orioles game in September, and will announce the time/place of our monthly dinner. Watch for a notice! TRS Men's Club members also helped organize the softball game at TRS Sunday In The Park on August 24 at Nottoway Park. Everyone had a great time! Men's Club members are encouraged to volunteer for ushering at High Holiday Services, where we can wear our special ushers badges proclaiming our proud membership in the Men's Club! Save the Date: Tuesday, October 7—Men's Club will construct the outside Sukkah, followed by a pot luck dinner. For fi4rther information, please contact either co-chair: Randy Fleitman@FleitmanRH@state.gov, or Harvey Litvin at litvinh@erols.com. nil HOS U.S. CONCH www.andyrosenbergforcongress.com L'Shana Tovah from Andy Rosenberg and Staff Keynote Speaker: Dr. Trey Sunderland Chief of the Geriatric Psychiatry Branch of the National Institute of Mental Health —with special guests, panelists, and audience input— Fairfax County Government Center Open to all Mental Health and Aging Service Providers, Consumers of Services for the Elderly & Their Families and Caregivers, Activists and All Interested Members of the Community. CONFERENCE GOALS: • Raise community awareness about the current crisis in service provision to mentally ill elderly in Virginia. • The current network of public and private services has many gaps. Fragmentation of programs, lack of coordination between service providers, funding stream barriers, and absence of adequate mental health supports in community placement settings, has resulted in many Senior Citizens being "bounced" from provider to provider without getting the help they need. • Update mental health consumers and their families, local civic and political leaders, mental health service providers, and the community at large about the advances that have been made in understanding and treating mental health problems of the elderly. Special attention will be paid to the important role of Mental Health in treating dementia. • Evidenced based treatment models, and the networks required to provide services in the most effective and efficient ways will be highlighted. • Discuss constructive proposals to address the crisis and identify practical solutions. Presented by the Northern Virginia CSB Coordinators of Mental Health Programs for the Elderly and Their Families A decision you make toaay... can change your child's future. VN ER Grades K-8 8900 Little River Turnpike Fairfax, VA 22031 Located in the JCC of NoVA 703-978-9789 www.gesher-jds.org Bryce Jacobs, Admissions Director bjacobsgesher-jds.org Temple Rodef Shalom Celebrates - Join us for theSUKKOTY following activities, or feel free to bring your lunch or dinner and eat in our sukkah when it is available. Please contact Anita Thornton, Program Director to check availability. Men's Club Sukkah Construction & Dinner Tuesday, October 7 6:00 pm Tappers Sukkah Decorating & Pot-luck Dinner Thursday, October 9 5:00 pm Chaverim Sanctuary Sukkah Decorating & Dinner Thursday, October 9 (see page 7 for details) New Member Dinner in the Sukkah (by invitation only) Friday, October 10 6:30 pm 6:00 pm Outreach Sukkah Pot-Luck Dinner Decorating & Dinner Sunday, October 12 (see page 15 for details) Come Along on the Sukkah Tour! Sunda y, October 115:00 pm Join us for Sukkah Tour 2003! We'll hop on a bus and visit sukkahs of our members where we will enjoy appetizers and dinner! The tour will end with Havdalah and dessert in the sukkah of Rabbi Schwartzman and her family. (bus leaves TRS at 5 pm and returns approximately 8:30 pm) Limited to 40 participants. $5.00 per household. Send payment to Anita Thornton, Program Director at Temple Rodef Shalom - 2100 Westmoreland Street Falls Church, VA 22043 Sukkab Hosts Needed! Do you Live within 5 miles of TRS? Build a sukkah every year or want to build one this year? Enjoy hosting/providing a little nosh for congregants to come visit and enjoy your sukkah? Then we need you for our Sukkah Tour 2003! Details on activities will be published in the Temple e-letter and the October Bulletin, or contact the co-chair of the group or Anita Thornton, Program Director at 703/532-2217 ext 301 or athornton@templerodefshalom.org . F 97 View the latest Caring Committee information on our Temple Website, www.templerodefshalom.org. ince Jews are commanded to perform g'milut chasadim - deeds of loving kindness - every Temple member automatically is a member S of the Caring Committee, which helps members deal with the difficult transitions and crises that life presents. Caring Committee services are described below. If you want to volunteer - and we hope all Temple members will participate - call the subcommittee coordinator. If you know of someone in need - and we all need help from time to time - call the contact number. The Temple must assign some services; others can be arranged through the coordinator. BEREAVEMENT It's hard to know what to do when someone dies. Our Bereavement Committee helps Temple members Sort through the process of burying a family member by providing funeral and cemetery resources and support. If you need bereavement support, call Anne Duncan, clergy secretary: 703/532-2217. If you want to be a bereavement volunteer, call coordinator Stu Weiss: 703/522-2524, or e-mail sweiss@hrsa.gov . VISITING THE SICK (Bikkur Cholim) Torah commands us to visit the sick. When a Temple member returns from the hospital, it is our tradition to pay a visit, deliver a challah and determine if other help is needed. If you have returned from the hospital, call Anne Duncan, clergy secretary: 703/532-2217. If you want to volunteer to pay a visit, call coordinator Michael Raizen: 703/841-5421, or e-mail raizen@tidalwave.net . - OUTREACH TO THE ELDERLY The Outreach to the Elderly Committee exists to meet the needs of elderly or senior members of the Temple, such as rides to Temple services and social events, visits to home-bound elderly members, visits to members in long-term care facilities, outreach calls to members over 85 years old. The Outreach Coordinator also serves as liason to the Jewish Council for the Aging. If you need assistance or would like to volunteer, call coordinator Joanne Muir: 703/442-4911, or e-mail joamuir@mindspring.com. -MEALS When a Temple member faces a crisis, cooking is often the last thing on their mind. The Meals Committee helps by cooking and delivering meals as often and for as long as needed. If you need a meal, call Anne Duncan, clergy secretary: 703/532-2217. If you want to volunteer to cook a meal, call coordinator Ronnie O'Connor: 703/642-0289, or e-mail ronnie.oconnor@verizon.net . 120 Joan Levin . 703/533.1368 Joanendow@hotmail.com - TRS SHALOM BABY TRS Shalom Baby provides support for Temple members celebrating the arrival of a new baby. At this joyous, but sometimes stressful time, volunteers lend a hand. They offer experience, a set of arms to hold the baby while Mom takes a shower, meal assistance, referrals for other Jewish resources and an introduction to the many family services and programs that TRS offers. If you've recently had a baby or would like to volunteer, call coordinator Nancy Chajet: 703/761-1234, or e-mail nchajet@cox.net . - SUPPORT FOR WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS NEXT STEP Next Step supports temple members who have recently lost a spouse by providing resources and a group that can help a widow or widower work through their grief and move on. If you need support, call coordinator Debbie Massey: 703/264-0297, or e-mail Debmassey@erols.com - BREAST CANCER NETWORK The network provides support and resources for breast cancer patients and survivors. The network meets monthly for a casual dinner and conversation. If you need support, call coordinator Beth Stroul: 703/7427525, or e-mail BethStroul@aol.com or Anita Thornton, Program Director: 703/532-2217 ext. 301 or athornton@templerodefshalom.org . - THE CRISIS COMMITTEE Its purpose is to serve the needs of our TRS community when an urgent crisis arises. The coordinator of the committee is Claudia Zucker-Morrell and she is looking for volunteers to assist on an as needed basis. She will be happy to explain the needs if you call her at 703/288-3015. Thanks to all of our Caring Committee volunteers who are there when a Temple member needs extra helpwhether it's a meal, a ride to the hospital or a visit. Referrals to the crisis committee come through our Clergy. Please call them if you feel you have such a need, or know of a member in need. Temple Beth El of Alexandria, VA, is hosting a JACS group, Wednesday evenings at 7:30PM. This group is for Jewish Alcohol- and Chemically-Dependent individuals and their significant others. Please call (703) 370-9400. d I Caring Committee NEW SUPPORT GROUP FORMING TO REACH OUT TO TEMPLE MEMBERS WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED OR ARE EXPERIENCING DIVORCE. Thursday, September 11, 7:30 pm: the Caring Committee will help launch a new group for anyone who has had personal experiences with divorce. The group will gather for an organizational meeting in the beginning of the month. Those present will have a chance to help shape the goals and objectives of the group. Rona HitlinMason, a social worker from the Jewish Social Service Agency, will facilitate the group for the first six months. It is our hope that a group for children might eventually evolve from this group. Please come if you have an interest. For more information, contact Rabbi Schwartzman. BEREAVEMENT COMMITTEE WELCOMING NEW MEMBERS. - The Clergy and Caring Committee are looking for a number of compassionate people to help fellow Temple members during times of bereavement. So many of us have experienced the kindness of loving friends after the loss of a family member but not all Temple members have this type of support. Could you offer a supporting phone call to a member who has lost a parent? Might you be willing to join a service to ensure that a minyan is present for recitation of Kaddish? Would you be willing to give advice about putting a mourners meal together? If you are willing to do this extremely honorable mitzvah, please let Rabbi Schwartzman know by phone (703/532-2217) or e-mail (Senior.Rabbi@TempleRodefShalom.org ) We hope to strengthen our sacred community through your help. Thank you. Strategies for Successful Stepfamilies Provided by the Jewish Social Service Success in a stepfamily depends very much on having good information on what to expect and how to deal with difficulties that may presnt themselves. The following strategies aree eful for couples who are beginning to or are i the process of building a stepfamily. These tips are from the book "Making Healthy Stepfamilies' by Gayle Peterson, PHi). If you would like additional information or support, please contact Stephanie Cole, LCSW at Jewish Social Service Agency at 703/204-9100 x18. Strengthen the couple's bond: The key to any healthy family system is the mutual love, caring and respect that the partners share. Working through the predictable stresses of becoming a stepfamily secures your relationship. Take time to be alone and develop your bond independent of the children and parent ing roles in the family. Just remember to be patient with the desire for change. Remember this is your choice, not the children's: It is important to remember that as a stepparent, you had a choice in the situation while the children did not. As the adult your responsibility must encompass an understanding that you will be expected to be concerned and involved in caring for these children and ensuring their sense of security in traveling diroueh this transition. Don't expect instant love: Very often stepparents suffer from unrealistic expectations regarding the transition of blending families, resulting in feelings of helplessness and victimization. Often biological parents share fantasies of the perfect family union, pressuring spouses to love children they do not even really know yet. Relationships take time. Realistic expectations between stepparents and children must include a gradual period of getting to know one another. There is no such thing as instant intimacy. Let the relationship build security and caring on its own merit, without pressure to fill the fantasy of loving one another before a solid "like" has been established. On the average, two to three years is the time period for developing these bonds and stabilizing the new family. Allow losses to be mourned: By the time of a second marriage, it is often a child's third family unit. The first being the biological parents' marriage, the second being a separate or single family unit and the third being the new relationship which involves a stepparent. Children need parental permission and understanding to grieve these losses, before embracing the new family system. Remember that every child is unique: A small child will tend towards accepting the stepparent in a parental role differently than a teenager. Coming into a teenager's life may involve more of a friendship, depending on the individuals and needs involved, while coming into a family with a one-year-old will require parental nurturance and attachment similar to that of a primary parent. Respect boundaries and what has come before as well as being open to a different form of relating than your idealized interpretation of what family "should" be. Create family rituals: Every family develops it's own culture. This gives members a sense of belonging to an intimate group. Holiday rituals can be developed that are unique to the present constellation. Other elements, like specific kinds of jokes or well-intentioned humor can also go a long way in weaving a family together. Finding ways to laugh together will go a long way towards establishing a sense of belonging. Support children's relationship with the other biological parent: Supporting chil- dren's relationship to their biological parent who does not live in the stepfamily is important to healthy development. Keeping these situations separate will decrease chances for conflict with children being caught in the crossfire. Understand that children come first: Our children deserve our superior effort at understanding what is in their best interest, especially when feelings and struggles are intense, as they often are in the transition to a remarried family constellation. And it is a parent's job to be able to consider the needs of the child and expect to put them first when appropriate. Israel Solidari "To walk in the land of Israelis a holy thing to do." A Book Review of Bruce Feiler's New York Times Bestseller, Walking The Bible uring the Passover Seder we read that there are four kinds of children. The Rabbis seemed to also know that not D ail children learned the same way. For some, words were enough. For others, like Bruce Feiler, words would only come to life in the context of real life experience. It may be for this reason that our tradition relies both on reading and action. It is only through this duality that we might better connect to our ancestors and their experiences during the Exodus. For some Jews the cycle of readings, prayers and services is enough to make us feel connected and spiritually engaged. For Bruce Feiler, this form of religious observance left him feeling empty. In his book, Walking The Bible, he writes "I woke up one morning and realized I had no connection to the Bible. It was a book to me.. .one that sat on the shelf above my TV, gathering dust.. .The Bible was part of the past - an old way of learning, a crutch." Feiler's identity was as an American and as a Jew. He is a proud fifth-generation Southerner with a Jewish identity. His Jewish identity was one "based on family, community, ethics, public service" but not one that included an attachment to the Promised Land. His religious beliefs were neither spiritual nor did they afford him a personal connection with his ancestors or with G_d. Feiler had described himself and his generation this way - "Our bibles are day-timers. Our god was self-reliance." Then something changed. In the United States, religious participation and Bible study seemed to increase and one's identity became more and more celebrated. Feiler writes "I sensed there was a conversation going on in the world around me that I wasn't participating in.. .Words (that) had no meaning to me. No context. They were not part of me in any way... Suddenly, almost overnight as I recall, I wanted these words to have meaning again. I wanted to understand them." While Feiler was motivated enough to read the Bible and do years of research, he was no closer to reconnecting in the manner he had hoped. Then, he went to Jerusalem and met a friend who began to point out places of interest. "Over there' pointing to the Dome of The Rock (site of the Temple Mount) "is the cliff where Abraham went to sacrifice Isaac." Feiler recounts, "that piece of information hit me like a bolt of Cecil B. DeMille lightning. It had never occurred to me that the story - so timeless, so abstract might have happened in a place that was identifiable, no less one I could visit. It had never occurred to me that the story was so concrete, so connected to the ground. To here. To now." Feiler was moved to go on a journey by land through the five books of Moses. To embark on a process he cleverly refered to "as (a) topographical midrash, a geographical exegesis of the Bible." Feiler was not "an irreverent child" after all. He simply needed to feel the Bible. Was this book just a crystal- lization of many oral traditions or was it the formative part of Jewish history? Feiler had a need to see, to touch and to experience things so he might be more comfortable with his faith and more connected to his Torah. After engaging a number of top Israeli biblical archeologists, he goes on to literally walk the Bible. The Bible starts with Genesis and so does Feiler's journey. To be precise, he starts with Mount Ararat in a predominantly Kurdish area of Turkey. Genesis chapter 8, does identify with some degree of certainty the landing place of Noah's Ark. Then onto chapter 11, some ten generations later, Feiler transitions from Noah to Abram (Abraham). According to Genesis Abraham was born in Ur of the Chaldea which is in historical Mesopotamia or mo ern day Iraq. According to his research there was no evidence that Abraham or any other major character in the Five Books existed in the time when scholars most frequently place him (1900 B.C.E.) While this may be true, one could never tell from the legions of believers in these areas. Feiler then travels to Harran where G_d first speaks to Abraham saying "Go forth from your native land and from your father's house, to the land that I will show you." Feiler feels some connection this time by simply remembering them from his Bar Mitzvah portion. He recalls that this was the start of the relationship between G_d and the Patriarchs that would later become a covenant with the people of Israel. A covenant of territory that would forever bind the Jewish people to the Promised Land. Next stop Israel, or if you will, the land of Canaan. Feiler starts at the northern most border crossing between Israel and Jordan. He tries to take a path that would come close to one that Abraham might have taken on way to Shechem. In Shechem, Feiler was introduced to his second biblical location of significance. Shechem to Israelis is located in central Samaria but to Palestinians it is in the occupied West Bank. In fact, Palestinians refer to Shechem of the Bible by its Roman given name Nablus or "New City." Feiler visits ancient Shechem, which we know is the first place in the Promised Land that Abraham settles. It is at this location that G-_d renews G_d's promise "I will give this land to your offspring" and it is this place where Abraham builds G_d and altar. As for Shechem the archeological site, Feiler finds it to be fairly run-down and he does not find the "wise oak tree" where Abraham is supposed to have rested. Feiler then heads next to where the Bible says Abraham goes - to Beth El (Hebrew for the "House Of G_d."). Traveling south he eventually comes to a gate marking the entry point to the modern Jewish community of Beth El. Arabic road signs are replaced by Hebrew and Arab headdresses are replaced by kippot. Like Shechem, Beth s located in Samaria and is approximate• 20 minute drive north of Jerusalem. It is here, among other biblical events, that Abraham and later Jacob builds an altar to G_d, where Jacob has dreams of a ladder with angels ascending to and descending from heaven. [Other then Jerusalem, Beth El is the place mentioned most in the Bible.] Feiler finds an English speaker, an immigrant from the United States, and asks many questions: "Do you feel living here has brought you closer to G_d? Tell me about the land (and your) relationship to it. Doesn't (terrorism - personal tragedy) make you want to stay less?" The woman, a mother of three children responded as follows: "I see purpose in living here.. .connection to G_d. I stay here because Jews belong in the Land of Israel. G_d gave us this land, and it's not up to us to give it back. (On terrorism and her personal tragedy:) It makes me want to stay more. It strengthens my pride for this place. Not only was Abraham here and Jacob, but now I've been here, and my children, too. Not only did they make fices. We made sacrifices, too. And we for the same reason. We believe in G d." Feiler was struck by how an unscheduled meeting had produced a connection to the Ot Bible that was both profound and personal. He related most to her physical experience. Longing for her biblical roots translated to aliyah and later she shared her feeling that she had become part of the very narrative itself.'Faking actual steps in the Promised Land, in Beth El, had taken her closer to GA. Feiler began to wonder if there wasn't something "inevitable about that process?" In both Shechem and Beth El, Feiler came looking for stones and historical fact only to find people and faith. He didn't see that piece of archeological evidence that would support the Biblical text, but what he did unearth was people who believed and believed passionately. Later, however, Feiler would find some of the "things" he was looking for: in BeerSheva he finds Abraham's well and outside of Sodom he finds a pillar of salt (thought to be Lot's wife). And, after all, earlier in Jerusalem he did see archeological evidence of Solomon's Temple. Feiler then follows Abraham's path to Dan (Laish in the Bible) and on the way is escorted by Israeli Professor Avram Biran who is leading an excavation in that area. Biran recounts the story of Abraham and puts it in human terms so that Feiler might relate to this dimension. But Feiler still feels he hasn't seen enough to connect him personally to the heroes of the Biblical narrative stories to something real. To something that would he of undeniable historical fact. Feiler writes "embracing those words is a matter of faith. For me that task was difficult. Perhaps it was my concrete nature, or my obeisance to science, reason or skepticism. Maybe it was a fear of entering realm that I couldn't control or see." As there was a beginning, there too would be an end for Abraham. That end would be in Judea at Kiryat Arba (Hebron), the location of the Machpelah Cave (Tomb of the Patriachs). Feiler visits that site where tradition says Abraham and all of the Patriarchs are buried. In this location he is refreshed by a small victory, that both Jews and Moslems agree on - Abraham's final resting place. Feiler, for his part, continues to interview the locals to ask them about their attachment to the land. After fully understanding the biblical and historical significance of this place he asks "is (your) spiritual connection to the place or to the patriarchs?" The response, "the connection is with G_d. He's the one who brought us here. Abraham didn't come here because he wanted to. He came here because G_d told him to come... It's a history that runs from Abraham to David ... Moses sent the spies, and they came to Hebron. Just the other day I held this jug in my hand. It was four thousand years old. And it was mine. There is a chain that goes from four thousand years ago to today. ...We are preserving it for my children, and grandchildren and great-grandchildren. They should have access to it. It shouldn't be a place that once existed. It should be a place that always exists." Feiler goes on to follow the footsteps from Abraham to Moses. He travels from Turkey to Israel to Egypt to the Sinai to Jordan and then back to Israel. He's consistent with his approach throughout. He looks for stones, he turns them over, he compares the biblical narrative to what he understands about archeology and history. Then he interviews Jews, Christians and Moslems, scholars, shepherds, Bedouin, Monks and travelers and he asks questions about the meaning of the land's relationship to their attachment with G_d. So to answer the question, does Bruce Feiler's journey through the Five Books of Moses make him feel more connected to the Bible? Does this experience help him believe in G_d? I will not answer that question for Feiler but I can tell you that some 420 easyto-read pages later you'll have more than a clue. I will tell you his journey does make him more human. Bruce Feiler's Walking The Bible is a "must read," not because it unlocks the answers to his deepest and most personal questions, but because it ignites a process of internal reflection for us, too. Reading this book may lead to a better understanding of one's faith: a discovery, if you will, of your personal relationship and connection to the Land which G_d promised all of us. 23 tWelchert Reaftors 6257 Old Dominion Dr. McLean, VA 22101 HIT HOME RUN IN THE REAL ESTATE WORLD SERIES Cantor Shochet spent two weeks at the UAHCs Camp Harlam this summer, with 12 TRS kids as campers and staff. scoREBIG BUYING OR SELLING YOUR HOME F&VIF C00E1 REALTOR/ATTORNEY TOP 5% SALES NATIONWIDE Member TRS NVAR Multi-Million $ Club Email: davidcooper©weichert.com Off. 703.821-8300 Cell 703.447-2905 We had a great summer at Camp Rodef Shalom! Thanks to everyone who made it great! Check the library for our new camp photo album. We'll see you next summer. events trcorvt4th-e '. offerixg v.tique 6vekst Plaktnixg Sen/Icec is. the AC. metro Area .ar/atMizvahs Wedd4tc .Special vets Specia1t Sefr-vIes is't1de: Vei4t P?'u'un. 1-i,-ectorServioes fstvitattots Ipth AtceI'i€ktts Favors, Accessories aktd nore... 5 5 5 5 U. Located Ikt. FaUs Ch-ch- 5ii'4tos from the S,fpiagogue MesI,ov this ad to receive apt aa'di4on1 dIscow.øt-' .5 Cr Loi&C03-533-5 El S 'if* C'ST4,CrCrCrCr(7. Garden of Remembrance GAN ZIKARON MEMORIAL PARK Live in memory. Reserve burial space in the serenely beautiful Garden of Remembrance Memorial Park. The Garden of Remembrance is the regions most inclusive Jewish cemetery, committed to maintaining the integrity of Jewish burial practices. It is also the area's only not-for-profit cemetery operated by a board of Jewish community leaders. Orthodox, Reform, Reconstruction ist and Conservative congregations, as well as many individuals unaffiliated with congregations, have reserved areas at the cemetery. Give your loved ones a priceless legacy: peace of mind and memories that live from generation to generation To learn more, call our Help Line, (301) 428-3000, or visit www.gardenofremembrance.org. SAVE THE DATE We will be hosting the annual Library Open House on Sunday, September 14, 2003 from 9AM-IPM. Lots of duplicate and deaccessioned books will be available at no cost and newer books at a minimal charge. Come chat with other lovers of books, browse, enjoy refreshments and give a book or two a new home. NEW, EXCITING EXHIBIT Please see the ad for "Creations par Janine On Display" on this page. You'll love her beautiful work which will be featured in the Library Exhibit Case from September 8-October 7. Join Janine for wine and cheese on Tuesday, September 9 from 6:30-8:30 PM. NEW BOOKS-REFERENCE • Adele Berlin, comm. The JPS Bible Commentary: Esther. • Michael Fishbane, comm. The JPS Bible Commentary Haftarot. • Emily Taitz, Sondra Henry & Cheryl Tallar. The JPS Guide To Jewish Women.. .hundreds of biographical entries beginning with "Babatha of Mahoza," property owner (2nd century C.E.) ... a fascinating resource book RELIGIOUS JPS Hebrew-English Tanakh. 2nd ed. • Ari Elon, Naomi Mara Hyman and Arthur Waskow, ed. Trees, Earth and ah: a Tu B'Shvat Anthology.. .comprehensive; includes examples of a er Tu B'Shvat" and helpful programs • David Hays. today i am a boy.. .At 66, David Hays joined a synagogue, borrowed his grandson's Hebrew primer and found a Bar Mitzvah class of 12 year olds... a unique and humorous journey ADULT BOOKS OF INTEREST • Shelley Kapnek Rosenberg. Raising a Mensch:How lb Bring Up Ethical Children In Today's World... practical and thought provoking in a time of shifting moral values • Marsha Bryan Edelman. Discovering Jewish Music... Edelman brings many forms of Jewish music together in a context of history, philosophy and sociology. . . An enclosed CD enhances the text • James Atlas. Bellow: a Biography... "As fascinating a portrait as any of Bellow's arresting fictional characters"-Joyce Carol Oates • Bernard Lewis. What Went Wrong? The Clash Between Islam and Modernity in the Middle East.. .an informed look at what history means to Muslims from a recognized authority on Islamic affairs THANKS to Anne Duncan and Barb Coleman for help with the "Temple Treasures" Exhibit featuring handsome religious objects and medals that are owned by TRS but are not normally displayed. I am in the Library Monday and Thursday mornings and Wednesday afternoons and early evenings. You can reach me at x402 or at home (202)363-6172. Creations par Janine On Display at the TRS Library September 8 thru October 7 "Meet the Artist" Wine & Cheese Tuesday, September 9 • 6:30 - 8:30 pm JANINE BERNHEIM BLAND designs and makes her own line of jewelry incorporating diverse cultural traditions from around the world and using fine and semi-precious stones. A selftaught artist, Janine was able to collect and study unusual jewelry during her work with the US Foreign Service. She continues to travel extensively and has collected unique stones from scores of countries, among them Madagascar, Congo, Ghana, Thailand, China, Malaysia, Vietnam, India, Korea, Australia, Morocco, Kenya and even her native France. She often couples these stones with antique and traditional pendants and mountings. Janine has exhibited her work at the National Museum of Women in the Arts, the World Bank, The French Embassy, Nordstrom and at many private shows in the Washington, DC area as well as in California and France. Some of her creations were selected to be worn at the Oscar Award Ceremony of 2000. FICTION • A Purim book for young readers... Queen Esther and the Morning Star by Mordicai Gerstein • Editions of The Big Book of Jewish Humor and The Kids' Cartoon Bible have been added to the Young Adult collection • For adults: Faye Kellerman. Milk and Honey Michael Pye. The Pieces From Berlin which is new on the Holocaust Shelf Obs • Eighteen. Kol Ha Shabbat and Life • Rachelle Nelson and Terry Bookman. Bless Our Days • Dan Nichols. The Day After Tomorrow • Zamir Chorale of Boston. The Songs Live On. (Centenary Tour) parg __ $pcdaq afrnwwfthc wor{â. 1wdesinantginaVorihar peas. 5549 N. 14 thQoad .,4rLington.VA 22205 (703) 5339478 Janine Bland, TRS Member 15% of all Temple sales will be donated to TRS Sisterhood Connecting With Our Temple Family e all know that belonging to Temple Rodcf Shalom should mean more than W just being able to attend High Holy Day services. But how can each of us truly belong to RodefShalon? Where can we begin? One way is to see how others have done it. To that end, each month, our Bulletin will feature a member of the Temple who has recently found a way to truly belong here. As they share their stories with us, perhaps each of us will be inspired to find our own ways to belong to our sacred community in the fullest sense of the word. This month we feature Joan Silverlieb, a member of TRS for the past four years. Joan lives in Falls Church, almost across from TRS. She is semi-retired from a government job that had her living abroad for most of 35 years. She lived in Mexico 3 different times, in Argentina, in Brazil twice (moving between 3 cities), in Chile, Madrid and Rome. After her first overseas tour in Merida, Mexico, where there were no synagogues, Joan drifted away from any temple affiliation until after her retirement when she decided to investigate her neighborhood temple - TRS. What first brought you to the Temple? "BESHERT" is the only way to describe my connection to TRS. After spending the high holidays with my family in Massachusetts several years back, and realizing how much I had forgotten of the prayers and the service, I felt a need to study Judaism once again. I first came to the Saturday morning Torah study class and - literally - fell in love with the study and the group of regulars who attend. Add to that the treasure of from one to four Rabbis and sometimes a student Rabbi to boot! Okay, okay - so the bagels are nice too! Above all, the discussion never fails to stimulate. 'What a marvelous way to begin a Saturday! Shortly after I began going to Torah study, another of the TRS enthusiasts, Judy Sue, encouraged me to join the adult B'nai Mitzvah class as well. It's hard to describe what an incredible journey this was. Learning to chant Hebrew was a thrill, but only a small part of the sense of connecting to our ancient tradition. I had a tremendous sense of reaching out to my Orthodox grandparents. I felt they were there with me during our beautiful ceremony. And for anyone who has never attended an adult B'nai Mitzvah, I urge you to do so. It is a tremendously emotional journey, whether you know those on the bema or not. Take a box of Kleenex. You'll need it. Once I resolved to join the B'nai Mitzvah class, I decided "enough with the freebies? It's time to become a member! Then a whole new world opened - something entirely unexpected. When my name appeared in the TRS bulletin as a new member, coincidentally, the 91-year-old father of another member, Elinor Light, was visiting from Minneapolis. He read my surname, and was convinced that we must be related. He called, and it took about 2 minutes for us to realize that his mother was my paternal grandfather's sister. It would take pages to share all the pieces of the family history that then fell into place. Suffice it to say that it led to the "discovery" that two of my grandfather's siblings remained in the Ukraine when the other five came to the U.S. None of the 17 cousins or our only surviving uncle (one of 7 siblings) ever heard that anyone stayed behind! How could this be? But with unbelievable luck, I was able to track down descendents of the two brothers. They spell their name Zilberleib - apparently the original spelling. Family from Israel heard about it all and contacted me, just prior to the fabulous TRS trip to Israel in 1999. I met them in the northern city of Ma'alot and they have all since visited me here. This past July, all the new relatives came to a big family reunion in Connecticut. What an emotional day that was! Some of the Russian relatives had not seen each other in 32 years, and the rest of the Silverlieb tribe was meeting all the Russians for the first time. Huge family trees had been charted, old pictures finally identified, and a family was reunited. For the first time, I found out the name, and saw a photo, of my great, great grandfather. By modest count, the descendents of my (and Elinor Light's) great grandfather number well over 500 descendents, with only a few of the lines counted. Can anyone doubt that with this kind of flowering, we really did all descend from those few biblical tribes? This has convinced me that we really are ALL distantly related. It hasJoan Silverlieb been just marvelous for me to have found my cousin Elinor via TRS. As I often say, had I joined TRS any other time, when Elinor's father was not visiting, we may never have connected nor pieced together the information that led to finding the missing branches of the Silverlieb family, nor filled in the many blanks about life in the old country. I have absolutely no doubt at all that coming to TRS when I did was BESHERT! I joined TRS to find community, and I ended up finding family on many different levels. What drew you in closer? Weekly Torah study and the B'nai Mitzvah were only the beginning. I began coming to Friday night services and this, together with Torah study, have become the anchors of my week. I try to have friends over for Shabbat dinners every now and then to add to the special peace of the Sabbath. For me, having Hebrew in the service is a big plus. Again, it gives me that sense of connection to my own ancestors, and to very warm memories of attending an Orthodox shul with my grandfather. Then the incredible trip to Israel - my first. I met wonderful new friends on that trip, and in each and every activity I've joined since. With a dozen other members, we formed our own bi-monthly study group which too has led to new friendships. I attend all the adult ed and general lectures I can fit in - I can't seem to get enough! Right now, I'm struggling with Biblical Hebrew, to understand it as well as just read it. And the terrific cultural events - what can I say? I also joined Sisterhood and the Renaissance group. I joined different Committees, and help where I can. Although I'm not able to go to all the activities all the I find that there is such a wide range of interesting choices, that my Ocaf endar has TRS-associated dates all over it. How often I've heard some of the long-time members remember with fondness the days when TRS was small and everyone knew everyone else. I didn't know it then - but by joining the smaller groups, I've come to know so many terrific, loving, caring, talented and inspiring people. I'm grateful that we have a welcoming and diverse membership. Another very important point: As a single person, for many years I did not really feel that I had a place in any temple, where the emphasis is on family. At TRS, single, smingle. Who cares! Not only did I find many other single, divorced and widowed friends, but many married friends as well. I was lucky to literally find my own family via TRS, but at TRS, you can make a wonderful family of your choice. How can all this not be BESHERT? What would you tell someone who wants to get more involved? First of all - don't be shy. No one knows you want to get involved, so invitations to join any particular group are not usually forthcoming. But ALL groups are so very welcoming. Let people know if you are new, introduce yourself. Do come to the new members' dinners and wine and cheese events. Join the drama club, or the choir. CONNECT, CONNECT, CONNECT. And the best way is via the many smaller groups. Sukkot in April lets you work along with other TRS members on a wide range of community projects. There is no end to the Social Action Committee's incredible programs. And if the first activity you try or event you attend does not turn you on - keep trying! There is a place for you at TRS, and by trial and error you will find it. And if not - call me my number is in the book! "But no one wants to read about me" is almost everyone's first reaction to featured in this series. That first reaction inevitably leads to a feature story, tot is engaging funny, touching or instructive - and sometimes all of the above. Please tell us your story. Call Barbara Sarshik at 7031448-7453. 4S OCIATE RABBI'S DISCRETIONARY FUND • The Geralnick family in appreciation of Rabbi Burstein's guidance in preparing Alex for his Bar Mitzvah • Ann Gutkin in appreciation for the Rabbi's support of the Social Action Committee • The Pollins family with appreciation for preparing Adam for his Bar Mitzvah • The Winters/Broff family in appreciation for helping prepare Maggie for her Bat Mitzvah and for the lovely Friday evening service UDY BERKOWITS MEMORIAL FUND • The Winters/Broff family in appreciation for Rabbi Berkowits performing the cantorial role so beautifully at Maggie's Bat Mitzvah service BUILDING CAMPAIGN FUND • Sam & Susan Simon in memory of Harvey Levin • Betty Nan & Obe Obermayer in honor of Use Bernstein's 90th birthday am & Susan Simon in memory of Alexander Yudow, father of Fern Bekenstein • Bill & Judi Hooker in honor of Marion Jacknow's "coming of age" CANTOR'S DISCRETIONARY FUND • The Kazman family in appreciation for his efforts in preparing Rachel for her Bat Mitzvah • The Geralnick family in appreciation of Cantor Shochet who made Alex's Bar Mitzvah an occasion we will always treasure • Steven & Susan Zimmet in memory of Harvey Levin • Gerald & Dianna Godshaw in appreciation for making Jason's bar mitzvah moving & inspirational for us, our family & friends • Sam & Susan Simon in appreciation for Emily Faith Simon's Hebrew naming ceremony • The Pollins family in appreciation for preparing Adam for his Bar Mitzvah • Gabriella Schlesinger in appreciation for the beautiful service for my late Aunt Della Berl • The Winters/Broff family in appreciation for helping Maggie to prepare to chant her Torah and Haftarah portions so beautifully and confidently arcus & Rachel Simon with thanks for performing Emily's baby naming * CARING COMMITTEE • Joan & Brian Ochs in memory of Martin Horowitz, beloved father of Lisa Horowitz CHOIR FUND • Henry & Harriet Epstein in memory of Al Sherman, uncle of Cantor Shochet MARTY KESTENBAUM COMFORT FUND • Hank & Judy Seiff with best wishes to Judi Hooker for continued good health ENDOWMENT FUND • Dave & Inez Goldstein in memory of Eleanora Goldstein, mother of Dave, and Saul Caplan and Lou Dittler, uncles of Inez • The Winters/Broff family in appreciation to Janet Kahn for her assistance in preparing Maggie for her bat mitzvah GENERAL FUND • Lori Nierenberg • Jesse & Amy Abraham in honor of Naomi Bekenstein • The Winters/Broff family with out best wishes to Mara Tekach-Ball, David Ball, Jourdan & Helena on their sojourn in Haiti and with thanks for helping to make Maggie's bat mitzvah truly special • Iry & Beth Katz in memory of David Hindin's father, Myron Hindin ISRAEL SUPPORT FUND • Doris Katz in memory of Harvey Levin • Doris Katz wishing Na'ava Feder a speedy recovery • Rebecca Smith & Keith Mendelson • Sunny Greene in appreciation of Na'ava Feder's efforts • Na'ava & Gershon Feder to wish a complete recovery to their little grandniece, Naom Raiter • Martin Lichtenstein • Amanda Zellman as part of her mitzvah project • Nancy Reder & David Rapoport • Charlotte & Paul Chandler in memory of Irvine Melvin Kramer • Na'ava & Gershon Feder in loving memory of Jennifer Blalock on her tenth yahrzcit • Stephen Parker & Andrea Bridgeman • Morton & Belle Flax • Na'ava & Gershon Feder to congratulate Judi Hooker for receiving a clean bill of health • Burton & Babette Jacowitz • Leonard & Ann Kusnitz in honor of David Mark Kusnitz • Estelle & David Strassler • The Schlossberg family in honor of Na'ava Feder's recovery & energy and in honor of Dina Burt's engagement • David Sussman • John Lynn • Susan & Jack Cowart in memory of Phyllis Sidell's father, Saul Cela • Beth Jacowitz in memory of Irving Haber • The Pollins family in appreciation of Na'ava Feder's help in preparing Adam for his bar mitzvah • Ed, Fran, Katie & Alison Klein in memory of Richard Grossman, father of Bob Grossman • Jenna Milstein in honor of her brother, David Milstein's, bar mitzvah • Robert Fleshner & Phyllis Aaronson • Irving & Sally Korobkin • Yashar & Gail Shirazi • Pauline Calomiris • Gary Serota • Merton & Janine Bland • Jerry & Sandy Moore in memory of Joan Friedman's father, Mel Kramer • Maxine & Barry Elliot in memory of Irvine Kramer, father of Joan Friedman • Rabbi Amy Schwartzman • Rabbi Marcus Burstein in honor of my friend & teacher, Na'ava Feder • I larlene & Roger Bass • David Jacobs & Lynne Dreyer • Rob & Ronnie Schulman in memory of Sondra Friedner • Julie Strauss & Jeff Milstein in honor the bar mitzvah of their son, David Milstein IN MEMORY OF JILL HEISLER JACKS • Alan & Esther Beckoff • Lelia Ruckenstin & James O'Malley • Morris & Vivian Churgin • Karen Klugman with fond memories of Jill's humor and wonderful photographs • Elaine & Alex Weiss • Diane & Joel Lahn • Alison & Loy Maingon • Hannabelle White • Faith & Samuel Krinsky with fond memories from her 9th grade teacher • Phil Beckoff • Ruth & Anthony Julianelle • Beatrice Lahn • Barbara Kagan & Mike Jones • Kim Hartswick & Maria Ann Conelli • Sigrid & Morris Klein • The Ben-Horin family • Barbara R. Jacks • Tern & David Zavada • Shirley Rosenthal • Morton & Marcia Camac • Belinda Dublin • Amy & Curtis Peck • Joseph Weinstein • Steven & Susan Smith • Jeffrey & Barbara Stephanic BARBARA & HARVEY LEVIN MEMORIAL FUND • Edward & Jospehine Zillian • Linda & Bob Schiffer • Betty Nan & Obe Obermayer • Charles & Barbara Stein • Gene & Carol Davidson • Clarine & Sid Schmukler • William McLaughlin • Jonathan Hardis • Henry & Harriet Epstein • Henry & Martha Lowenstern • Eleanor & Richard Linde • George & Phyllis Cohen LIBRARY FUND • Natalie Gutkin with thanks to Kathy Seidel, Lily and Dory for the use of all the wonderful costurmes NURSERY SCHOOL FUND • Bobbie & Burt Jacowitz in honor of Judy Seiff • Sandra & David Sellers in honor of the birth of Max Steinbaum PRAYER BOOK FUND SENIOR RABBI'S DISCRETIONARY FUND • David Hindin & Sally Bloomberg in appreciation of her support and for leading the shiva minyan for David's father • Sam & Susan Simon in appreciation for Emily Faith Simon's Hebrew naming ceremony • The Geralnick family in appreciation of Rabbi Schwartzman who made Alex's bar mitzvah a memorable occasion that we will always treasure • Karen Kaplan & Marshall Berman in memory of Alexander Yudow, Fern Bekenstein's father • Susan & Scott Sirlin with sincere appreciation to Rabbi Schwartzman on the occasion of Alexander Sirlin becoming a bar mitzvah • Elisa & Steve Anders in memory of Mike Hindin, father of David Hindin • The Pollins family in appreciation for preparing Adam for his bar mitzvah • The Winters/Broff family in appreciation for helping prepare Maggie for her bat mitzvah and for the beautiful and moving service • Marcus & Rachel Simon in appreciation of Emily's baby naming SOCIAL ACTION FUND • Ann Gutkin with thanks to Ellen Ginsberg during our tenure as Social Action co-chairs • Marge Kestenbaum in honor of Emily Faith Simon, daughter of Marcus & Rachel Simon and granddaughter of Sam & Susan Simon • Peter Ehrenhaft in memory of Jack Shapiro • Doug Sanderson & Audrey Goldstein in memory of Martin Horowitz, father of Lisa • Kate Atkinson in memory of Jack Shapiro, father of Hal Shapiro • Steve & Heidi Schooner in memory of Jack Shapiro, father of Hal Shapiro • Esther Gleicher in memory of Bessie Gleicher, Louis Raskin and Barnett Raskin • Jane Mullen & family in memory of our beloved mother & grandmother, Martha Davidson TZEDAKAH FUND RELIGIOUS SCHOOL FUND • Bob & Su Hale in memory of Joan Friedman's father, Irvine Melvin Kramer • The Thrasher family in honor of the engagement of Dina Burt • Sidney & Bettye Anna Louick in honor of Dina Burt's engagement and in honor of Na'ava Feder with wishes for a return to renewed good health • Robert & Betty Schwartzman in honor of the engagement of Dina Burt to Stuart Baker • The Gutkin family in honor of the engagement of Dina Burt • The Winters/Broff family in appreciation for preparing Maggie so well to become bat mitzvah MAZELTOVTO Nancy Limprecht on the marriage of her daughter, Eleanor, to Simon Sweetapplc on June 29 Gershon Feder on receiving an award from the American Agricultural Economic Association for a "Publication of Enduring Quality" Gert Scar who was featured with thanks in the summer edition of "Donor Data" a pub lication of Inova Blood Donor Services for her role as TRS blood drive coordinator She was also recognized for the donatio the Scar family "team" which have touched the lives of at least 1,276 patients Karen & Jerry Simpson of the birth of their new grandson, Ethan Robert Kamen, son of Amy & Ari Kamen Jared Rubin and Meredith Rubin, who competed in the 2003 JCC Maccabi Games, August 10-15 in St Louis, MO. 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