Spring 2016 - Camarillo Hospice
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Spring 2016 - Camarillo Hospice
CAMARILLO HOSPICE SPRING 2016 NEWSLETTER Join us for our 20thAnnual Spring Garden Tour Sunday,May 1, 2016 Noon to 4 p.m. Is a volunteer hospice and grief counseling center dedicated to the dignity of life by providing free care, comfort, support and counseling to individuals and families facing a lifelimiting illness and/or grieving the loss of a loved one, and education on end-oflife issues to all. Every flower is a soul blossoming in nature. —Gerard De Nerval Water is a precious commodity—and we’re still in the midst of a drought, regardless of whether El Niño has finally made an appearance. Gardens remain one of earth’s divine delights, however, and we still believe there is no better place to celebrate Spring than in a garden. You can quintuple that pleasure on Sunday, May 1, 2016, between Noon and 4 PM as five generous Camarillo homeowners open their gardens for the benefit of Camarillo Hospice. You’ll also be able to pick up gardening tips and enjoy original artwork and live music. This year’s gardens belong to Adrienne and Al Reeves, Mary and Kelly Stark, Susan and Dave Stone, Theresa and Mark Toomey, and Jane Donlon Waters and Ed Waters. Each one is an outdoor masterpiece created and maintained with love, care and devotion. This year’s Garden Tour will feature original art work and demonstrations by Pastel Society of the Gold Coast members Carrie Givens, Kathi Colman, Judy Klement, Lynn Byrne Simon, and Donna Vis. Tempting opportunity prizes include a one-week stay in a Maui condominium, a one-week stay in a Mammoth Lakes condominium, a treasure chest of gift certificates to local restaurants, an assortment of gift certificates for Camarillo Certified Farmers Market vendors, a Gardener’s Dream Basket, and a large flatscreen TV. Garden Tour tickets ($25) are available online at www.camarillohospice.org, or for (continued on p. 6) Putting Things into Perspective DONORS Thanks to the following donors for their support during the period 11/3/2015 through 3/7/2016 GOLD ($5,000–$9,999) DCH Audi of Oxnard The Ferguson Foundation SILVER ($1,000–$4,999) Albert and Elaine Borchard Foundation, Inc. Anonymous Bob and Laura Brickley Richard and Sharon Brucker Burch Family Foundation Camarillo-Somis Pleasant Valley Lions Club Jonathon and Meryl Chase Shawn Collins Cops Running For Charity John and Linda Dullam Robert and Carol Goodkin Ron and Nancy Lindsay Christopher Loh, M.D. and Ingrid Loh Bill and Sandy Puchlevic C. Albert Reeves, M.D. and Adrienne Reeves Mark Schwartz Sidney Stern Memorial Trust Leonard and Lynn Byrne Simon Sherry Stearns The Channel Islands Gulls Judith Willis Sondra Wood BRONZE ($500–$999) Michael and Riitta Andonian Arthur Chirino Bill and Candice Clark Robert and Rosemary Edmeads Fredric and Robin Folino Carol Hahn Elizabeth Hartman L.Q. Jones Nels and Paula Kristofferson David M. and Patricia A. Menne Pacific Western Bank Padre Serra Parish Soroptimist International of Camarillo Tony and Kathy Trembley Unitarian Universalist Church of Ventura Verizon Communications Carole WarrenSheldon Weinstein Sarah Wilcox Roger and Betsy Willey William W. Wilson BENEFACTORS ($250–$499) Gladys Aanerud Anonymous Barbara Arner Carl “Butch” and Christina Bolton Bob and Susan Brown Shirley Carson Robert and Carol Chirhart Combined Federal Campaign of Greater So Cal Cronies Sports Grill Larry and Pam Davis Michael Derr and Christine Cohen Art and Pat Ecker Employees Charity Organization of Northrop Grumman David and Mary Fish Stephen and Janice Freeland Karin Gordon Arthur and Judy Goulet Stella Grippa Harter Glatha Hemme Hinricher, Douglas & Porter, LLP Tom Knoles Bill and Mary Little Michael W. McCarthy, D.D.S. William J. McElhinney Dave and Sandy Nirenberg Michael and Jean Parcher Philoptochos Society of St. Demetrios Val and Roger (“Ted”) Rains Paul and Michael Ann Rockenstein Patrick Ryan, M.D. and Nora Ryan Colleen Scott Jerry and Loretta Scott Clayton and Ruth Smith Sandra Souza Barbara Spandrio Mary Vanderlaan W. Thomas Veal, Jr., D.D.S. Carol Weaver Kay Wigton and Deena Wismann Katherine Wilkinson Michael Willard Wilhelmus and Johanna Zwinkels FRIENDS ($100-$249) Dale and Janet Ackerman David and Marilyn Adams Frank and Doris Allard Ron and Linda Allen David Alstot Lisa Bacerra Dona Bailey Robert and Jeanette Bassett Gail Beltramo 2 Harper Lee wrote in To Kill A Mockingbird: “You never really understand another person until you consider things from his point of view—until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” That’s Sandy Nirenberg President/CEO the heart of empathy. The modern world makes it easy for us to lose awareness of the feelings of others, but empathy is integral to the best lived lives and is the cornerstone of healthy human relationships. According to neuroscience research, human beings are naturally primed to embrace Ms. Lee’s message. The ability to empathize is an in-built capacity for stepping into the shoes of others and understanding their feelings and perspectives. The problem is that most of us do not tap into our full empathic potential in everyday life. We may be hardwired for empathy but we short circuit ourselves. We can learn empathy, however. We easily pass by someone struggling with a package or complaining about a situation as we rush somewhere we need to be. We read about a tragedy in a distant country and sympathize, but we let it slip from our minds as we go about our own busy-ness. This empathy gap appears in personal relationships, as well, such as when we shout in frustration at our children or aging parents, or fail to realize that someone else really is doing his or her best. Listening for a person’s feelings and needs (what they don’t say, as well as what they do), whether a friend just diagnosed with cancer or a spouse upset at you for working late yet again, gives that person a sense of being understood. What is vital to empathy is to be present to what’s going on within, to the unique feelings and needs another person is experiencing at any particular moment in time. We must let other people have their say, hold back from interrupting, and reflect back what they have said so they know we really were listening. (Regrettably, I often find myself finishing someone else’s sentence or thought. I immediately think, “how rude!” but that does not change the fact that at some point I stopped listening to the other person and concluded the thought for him or her.) It’s not easy to be a “radical listener,” but becoming one can have an extraordinary impact on improving communication and resolving conflicts. Empathy is intensified when we became mindful of every person connected to our routine actions. Think about all the people we take for granted, then approach everyone you encounter throughout the day with an innate curiosity. With morning coffee, think about the people who picked the coffee beans. As you button your shirt, consider the labor behind the label. Consider how even the most mundane elements in our lives connect us with people throughout society and the world. Consider your own “creature comforts” from a deeper perspective. “Who did this work?” “Where in the world are they?” “What are their lives like?” In his poem, “A Worker Reads History,” Bertolt Brecht wrote “Who built the seven gates of Thebes? / The books are filled with the names of kings / Was it the kings who hauled the craggy blocks of stone?” What a much more wonderful world this might be were we all to develop an awareness of the countless individuals hidden behind the surface of our daily lives, from the perspective that we may depend on them in some way. We do, you know. Having conversations with strangers can open up our empathic minds as well. Children have unlimited natural curiosity. Part of growing up, it seems, is to restrict that curiosity to what society and etiquette comfortably allow, however. To develop empathy we must recover our basic, insatiable interest in others. Think of people as comprising a human library. Borrow a person for conversation, and in that conversation, listen to their words, embrace their emotions and accept their feelings. Go beyond superficial talk, following the advice of oral historian Studs Terkel: “Don’t be an examiner, be the interested inquirer.” In doing so we meet fascinating people—and also challenge the assumptions and prejudices we have about others based on appearance, accent or background. Practice empathy. Open your heart and mind to a far deeper and more meaningful consciousness. In doing so, your own spirit expands—and so do those of all whom you encounter. From the Board Chair It is a privilege for me to accept the gavel as Chairman of the Board of Camarillo Hospice this year and I have big shoes to fill. Randy Churchill has been the Chairman for 3 years. I mean really big shoes! Kay Wigton Board Chair As I reflect on the responsibility of leading the board this year I am humbled by the depth of impact that our organization has on so many lives. I first joined the hospice board in 2013 because I was in awe of how important Camarillo Hospice has been to so many people. Our volunteer training was a life changing event and gave me the motivation to try to raise as much money as we can to serve our community to the fullest. Losing a loved one can be the most devastating experience we encounter and with the help of our trained counselors and the love and support of our groups it can be more than a healing process, it can be inspiring. Every day Sandy Nirenberg and our wonderful staff see people in pain, suffering great losses and it is their job to bring hope and support to everyone that walks through the door. Not only does Sandy bring guidance and experience to individuals every day she is constantly out in the community meeting with businesses and groups to bring in the resources to keep Camarillo Hospice functioning in the successful way it has for years. Our board of directors, staff, and volunteers have all been touched in a special way that only Sandy can do and we are all very grateful that she is our leader. We have elected a few new board members this year as you will read this news letter. Please take a moment to thank them for their support when you see them out in the community. We are a working board and believe me when I say that each board member contributes monetarily and with a lot of hard work. One example is Dr. Al Reeves . He has been a practicing physician in our community and has always had a heart for people. He is now the administrator for Gold Coast Health Plan. Mrs. Reeves (Adrienne) schedules volunteer workers for the farmers market, and this year they are even sharing their beautiful gardens with us on our Garden Tour. So, as you can see, Camarillo Hospice is a family commitment. Dr. Reeves heads up the Strategic Planning Committee and helped develop a grant program for individuals that can’t afford in-home care during their last days. He is the co-chair of our Tree of Life event and at the Chili Cookoff you can see him delivering ice to each station starting at 5:30 a.m. and being one of the last to leave at the end of the day. Like I said our board members work!! This kind of dedication allows us to offer all our services at no cost to the individual. With his schedule and responsibilities at work we are blessed to have such a caring mentor on our board . He also helps individuals gain access to the counseling they need to deal with end of life issues. As we begin Spring and all the beauty of new life, I am anticipating a year of growth and development from our board of directors. It is exciting to have our new board members and always a pleasure to work with the experienced members as well. Please make our garden tour a must on your calendar so that you can experience the love and caring of Camarillo Hospice while contributing to our continued success. Enjoy the gardens as you are reminded that each day is a new day and that the sun gives life to beauty. New Directors, Officers Elected At the Camarillo Hospice Annual Meeting on February 23, 2016, members of the organization in attendance elected Christine Cohen, Linda Dullam, John McCoy and Gary Schein as new Directors. Incumbent Directors Petra Lowe, Tony Trembley, Cameron Draine, Dr. Al Reeves, Jay Berger, and Theresa McConville were elected for additional terms. Ken Eastman retired from the Board, having completed the maximum number of terms allowed and contributed vast amounts of time and talent to the growth and welfare of the organization. Following the Annual Meeting, the Board of Directors elected officers for 2016. They are: Kay Wigton, Chair; Tony Trembley, Vice Chair; Kevin Sumida, CPA, Treasurer; and Gerry Olsen, Secretary. If you are interested in serving on the board, please contact Sandy Nirenberg at 805-389-6870 x11 or snirenberg@camarillohospice.org for information. Carolyn Berenson Jay and Joni Berger John (Jack) and Jill Bernick Pat Bianco Barbara Black Neal and Joanne Blaney Margaret Borchard Bob and Terri Boyer Norman and Ruth Brooks Chris Brown California Designers Choice Custom Cabinet Camarillo Amber’s Light Lions Club Camarillo United Methodist Church Mark and Pam Cardella David Carpenter Carl and Suzan Cashin Andrew Cattano, M.D. and Julia Catttano J. Anna Chen Churchill & Valencia Jay Clancy and Desmond Clancy John Clancy James Clark William Clark David and Shirley Clements Christi Clogston, Ph.D. Judith E. Cofer Robert and Sonja Conroy Bertin and Myla Cote Michael Crawford Ronald Dalzell, D.V.M. and Cathleen Dalzell Wayne and Barbara Davey Bob and Seana Dawson Lois B. Denardo Tom and Pat Dodds Sheila and S. George Dresnin John and Marilu Duarte Ken and Sue Eastman Evelyn Ellis Larry and Maria Erlichman Dwight and Sachiko Evans Grant and Mary Fairbanks Marylou Faris Jon and Joan Fiedler Kathy Fink William and Susan Frank Thomas M. Frew, IV Bruce and Janice Fuhrman Tomas Gardea David and Pat Gibson Thomas and Gale Gill Robert and Nancy Glickman Karen Goetsch Michael Gold, M.D. and Linda Gold Alan and Mary Goldberg John and Carolyn Goolsby Ken and Jenelle Gorski Nelda Gruenthal Patrice Gubricky Robert and Kristina Harrell Larry and JoAnn Harris Ronald and Kathleen Hatcher Sue Heffler Joseph and Barbara Hemmens Hiepler & Hiepler, A Professional Corporation Mebe Holmboe Lua Hooper Carolyn Houser Robert Improta, M.D. Dennis and Carol Isleib James and Nancy Jaeger Ellie James Janet Jensen Craig and Carol Johnson Janet M. Jones Robert and Dorothy Jones Kathleen Jorgensen Patsy Jorgensen Richard and Donna Keister James and Nedra Kindig Edith Klein Herb and Peggy Knecht Kathryn Kochevar Hank and Leah Lacayo Jerry and Terri Landes Steve Lattimore Deborah LeBeau Betty Lee-Myers Leisure Village Women’s Club Larry and Janet Lindgren Harriet Lit Lisa Long Jonathan and Susan Loring Joy W. Lyche Donna Martin Lee and Vincent Mason Linda Mathews Ken and Carol Mathis Leslie and Stephen Maulhardt Sharon McCarthy Peter McDermott, M.D. and Anita McDermott Robert McKenzie James McMartin, M.D. and Rory Ann McMartin Meister Family Foundation Carmen Mogg Linda Molina Montecito Bank & Trust Michael and Donna Morgan Pam Mortensen Ken and Mary Lee Myers 3 Camarillo Hospice MISSION STATEMENT Napa Auto Parts John and Erika Nash Leslie Nunley Paul Ouellette Joseph and Rebecca Palazzola Katherine Pape Paraclete Elder Care Services Parrott Aire Inc. Heating & Air Conditioning Kathleen Perry Melody Peters Norma E. Peterson Nancy and Dennis Phillips Fred Phipps and Cathy Trainer Dan and Robyn Popescu Bruno and Vickie Pozzi Betty Priest Jeff and Marijke Priest Kimberlee Priest Grace Pugliese Joyce Resnik Ken and Becky Riley Chris and Kimberly Ronneberg Mark and Mary Rose Robert and Connie Rose Margaret Roth Thomas and Karyne Roweton Dorothy Sanders Camille Schaetzel Tim and Kelly Schneider Michael and Sally Scyphers Mildred Seidman Jim and Melanie Smith Rick B. and Patricia H. Smith Louis and Janet Spasiano Thelma Spohn Donald and Carol Staton Fred and Barbara Stelzner Donald and Julia Stewart Clark Sumida Paula A. Sumida Oanh Nguyen and Michael Nguyen Ta The Groundskeeper, Inc. Don and Kathy Thielen Jeanne and L. Gene Thompson Linda and Tom Toutz Angela M. Tringali James and Dorene Tsukida Ventura County Deputy Sheriffs’ Assoc. Billie Vice Janna Visser Maureen Wachold Henry and Carole Wadsworth Ron and Launice Walker Donald and Kathleen Waunch Donna L. Weiss Phyllis G. Weiss Ron and Honey Lou Whitaker Donal and Barbara White Linda White Joe and Sarah Wigert Michael and Evelyn Williams David and Gayle Wolcott Rosalinda Yanez Carol Yung DONOR ($1- $99): Kent and Karen Allen Amazon Smile Betty Juel Andersen Helen Andrews Betty Z. Angle Kathy and John Anglin Irene Arakelian Jack M. and Lorna J. Arnot Bud and Stella Arosteguy Julianne and Robert Arthur Artistic Hair Salon Mary Lou and Roy Ash Chris N. Bacon Maya Badon Caroline C. Bailey Susanna Banuelos Alan Barber Jeanne Bartlett Melissa Beasley Michael and Karen Began Marlayne Bellenson Dick and Sharon Bellman Noella Belvedere Robert A. Benson James Bergstrom Susan Bernstein Marlynn Block Tina Sasaki Bollinger Michael and Candee Bolyog Phyllis Boothman Susan Menzie Borquez Robert and Sherrill Borrell Maurine Bouley Michael Brennan Bobbi Brewer Lewis and Debbie Brown Renee and Joseph Brum Lura Brummer Marissa Buck David and Rebecca Buettner Kevin and Karen Bulger Elise Burgett 4 Camarillo Hospice is a volunteer hospice and grief counseling center dedicated to the dignity of life by providing free care,comfort, support and counseling to individuals and families facing a life-limiting illness or grieving the loss of a loved one, and education on end-of-life issues to all. SERVICES PROVIDED Camarillo Hospice provided direct assistance to more than 8,000 community residents during 2015, all at no charge whatsoever. In addition to practical and emotional support to critically ill patients and their families and caregivers, grief counseling and support groups for those grieving the loss of a loved one and education, resources and referrals on end-of-life issues, Camarillo Hospice offers a “life story” program to the community at large. Camarillo Hospice Services Include: • Volunteer practical and emotional support in the home, including respite for caregivers and friendly visiting with patients as well as errand running, peer counseling, transportation and auxiliary programs including Oral History, Pet Therapy, Music Therapy and Supper Club • Ongoing grief support groups (average of 10 per week) and individual volunteer grief support • Individual and family grief counseling sessions by appointment • Patient care and bereavement volunteer training courses • Intern program for individuals with a Masters in Counseling who are preparing to become licensed therapists • A weekday office providing a safe haven, emotional support, practical assistance, counseling services, referrals and resources, lending library and a peaceful and loving place just to “be,” if only for a short while MAJOR ACCOMPLISHMENTS IN 2015 • Provided ongoing volunteer hospice care to 513 unduplicated patients and respite and support to 663 unduplicated family members and caregivers, delivering care, comfort, support, counseling and education to individuals and families dealing with a life-limiting illness • Facilitated 498 grief support group meetings for 500 unduplicated clients (and a total support group enrollment of 4,763), offering groups for adults and children focused on specific types of grievers, including young widows and widowers, suicide loss, loss of a child, adult loss of a parent, teen-age loss, young adult loss and loss of a pet, as well as Spanish language groups in Oxnard • Provided 4,287 hours of individual and family counseling support to 306 unduplicated clients • Brought education on end-of-life issues to approximately 2,026 people, through 21 presentations and reached countless others via 371 broadcast, print and social media exposures • Fielded 2,750 phone calls regarding end-of-life, home care, hospice and palliative care issues and resources and 1,577 phone calls regarding loss and grief and the availability of emotional and practical support • Coordinated 226 Supper Club deliveries • Provided 247 Music Therapy sessions • Delivered 21 Pet Therapy visits and approximately 750 pet visits between Bella, our resident canine comforter, and counseling clients and support group attendees (an average of 3 visits per day during the week) • Conducted 87 Life Story visits and completed 15 Life Stories • Conducted two 24-hour/eight-week patient care volunteer training courses, graduating 37, and one nine-hour bereavement training course, graduating 16 and provided ongoing training, in-services and professional supervision to 84 patient care volunteers, 45 bereavement volunteers and nine counseling interns • Served a clientele encompassing all ages, ethnicities, income levels and geographic areas within Ventura County • Brightened Camarillo Community life with a Certified Farmers Market every Saturday morning, the 19th Annual Spring Garden Tour, the31st Annual Community Memorial Service, the 7th Annual Camarillo Hospice Chili Cook-off & Music Festival, the 30th Annual Tree of Life campaign, and delivery of a reported 12,446 hours of volunteer service to the residents of Ventura County by well-trained, professionally supervised, caring, generous Camarillo Hospice volunteers 2015 Annual Report ER STATEMENT OF ASSETS December 31, 2015 Operating Funds.........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................$419,565 Fixed Assets........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................111,801 Restricted Funds.............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................805,066 Total Assets..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................$1,336,432 All services of Camarillo Hospice are provided free of charge. Camarillo Hospice receives no County, State or Federal funds and no reimbursement from insurance companies, Medicare, health management companies or any other thirdparty payers. Fiscally, Camarillo Hospice relies on contributions from individuals, corporations and service groups, private grants, endowment fund earnings and various fundraising activities, including the weekly Camarillo Certified Farmers Market and the annual Spring Garden Tour, Chili Cook-off & Music Festival and Tree of Life. Camarillo Hospice is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, Taxpayer ID No. 95-3347061. 2015 FUNDING SOURCES Grants....................................................................................$194,950 Amgen Foundation Archstone Foundation Burch Family Foundation Channel Islands Gulls Camarillo Council on Aging Camarillo Rotary Foundation City of Oxnard: Senior Services Gene Haas Foundation Goodall Family Charitable Foundation Harriet H.NUMBER Samuelsson Foundation PERCENTAGE Livingston Memorial 1,010 Foundation 36.9 Martin V. and Martha 1,729 K. Smith Foundation 63.1 May and Stanley Smith Charitable 100.0 Trust 2,739 Meadowlark Service League Sherwood Country Club Charitable Fund Sidney Stern Memorial Trust 232 8.5 Slover Memorial Fund 226 8.3 Stone Family Foundation 743 27.1 Swift Memorial Health Care Foundation 1,538 56.1 The Ferguson Foundation 2,739 100.0 TOLD Foundation Union Pacific Foundation Bill Wilson Charitable Foundation Wood-Claeyssens Foundation General Contributions and Memorials....$ 80,706 Memorial Donations................................................$ 13,955 Membership Dues......................................................$ 11,244 Fundraising Activities.............................................. $ 256,029 Certified Farmers’ Market..................................$ 84,428 Chili Cook-off & Music Festival.....................$ 82,019 Garden Tour.................................................................. $ 33,633 Tree of Life........................................................................$ 53,595 Miscellaneous................................................................$ 2,354 Interest on endowment.........................................$ 1,254 Bequests..............................................................................$ 229,118 EXPENSES: Programs .......................................................................$ 449,441 Fundraising.......................................................................$ 82,745 Management...................................................................$ 63,100 WHO WE SERVED IN 2015 (Excluding phone, email and walk-in contacts) GENDER NUMBER 1,010 1,729 2,739 PERCENTAGE 36.9 63.1 100.0 AGE Child (0-18) Young Adult (19-29) Adult (30-54) Senior (55+) Total 232 226 743 1,538 2,739 8.5 8.3 27.1 56.1 100.0 RESIDENCE Camarillo Oxnard/Port Hueneme Thousand Oaks/Newbury Park Ventura Moorpark Other Total 1,403 603 219 337 9 166 2,737 51.3 22.0 8.0 12.3 0.3 6.1 100.0 Male Female Total ETHNICITY African American Asian Caucasian Hispanic Native American Multi-Ethnic Total INCOME RANGE 0 -43,050 43,051 - 68,880 68,881 - 103,320 103,321 + Total NUMBER 116 327 1,560 624 9 103 2,739 PERCENTAGE 4.2 12.0 57.0 22.8 0.3 3.7 100.0 61.7 17.4 7.4 13.6 100.0 Reported volunteer hours.....................................................................................12,446 Additional support hours......................................................................................10,374 Cathy Burow David and Barbara Burrows Catherine Busch Amy Bustard John R. and Mary J. Buzzell Norm Caligagan Camarillo Newcomers Club Rebecca Carasco Paul and Ann Carter Steven Carter Suzanne Chadwick Dorothy Challinor Fran Clausen Terry and Rosemary Clites Donald and Margery Coler Catherine Collins David and Leona Comer Laura Conger Janine Coronado Jim Cox David and Kathy Cramer Sue Cronk Judy L. Crouther Ruth Mary Crowell Aurora Cuellar Eleanor S. Cunningham Janet Danielsen Carmen Davenport Cookie Davidson Laurie Davis Claire Day Walter and Lauren De La Torre Thomas and Connie Deardorff Diana Debring H. F. Deffenbaugh Lynn Dempsey Eleanor V. Deraney RESIDENCE Terry and Gail Deschamps Charles DeSimone Camarillo Robert and Candace Diehl Kim Dilallo Oxnard/Port Joseph and Elizabeth Dilibert Hueneme Kim Dishman Oaks/Newbur Patricia AnnThousand Doring Gertie Dorward Ventura Jeff and Patty Douglas Carole Dunlop Marie DuranMoorpark Mike and Cindy Dutter David and Teri Edsall Other Lina Lee Edwards Karl and Scharden TotalEggertsen Megan Emery Eduardo S. and Candis Enriquez Arline Erickson Don and Andrea Ethell Handel and Carol Evans Kirsten Falsey Connie Farris Marilyn Farwell Warren and Kathy Felger Pauline Fernandez Paul Fickenscher Mark and Bridget Fischer Dedra Fischer-Dobson Alice Fisher Carl D. and Jeanne Fisher Frances Flynn John and Vicki Flynn Paula Levi Fodrea William Fontana Edie Fowkes Lisa G. Fox Sandra Fox Bob and Ruth Fraser Lori Fulmer Lenore Fusano Frances Gagola Thomas and Sharon Gamache Donna Garcia Roberto and Carol Garcia Richard and Karen Gatchel Jan Gerk Lois Gibson Jane Gifford Gail Ginnetti Lois Glab Karen Goetz Michele Gonser Mary Goodenough Linda Grant Willa Greeley Deborah Greene Marie Griffin Ira and Lois Grooms James and Diana Gross Nancy Guirell Deanna Hackman Diana Hagen Bonny Hall John Hallisey, M.D. and Julia Hallisey Shannon Harris Joy Hart Suzanne Hartwich Kenneth Haugrud Lorissa Hays Debbie Hebert Maureen Hefelfinger Betty Y. Herrmann 5 Marie Griffin Ira and Lois Grooms James and Diana Gross Nancy Guirell Deanna Hackman Diana Hagen Bonny Hall John Hallisey, M.D. and Julia Hallisey Shannon Harris Joy Hart Suzanne Hartwich Kenneth Haugrud Lorissa Hays Debbie Hebert Maureen Hefelfinger Betty Y. Herrmann Darren and Angela Hicks Ann Hills Patricia Hilton Donald Hobson Arnold and Poldi Hockenmaier Richard Hogan Amanda Holdsworth Donna Holland Marilyn Holthouse Colleen House Brian and Juliann Howell Daniel and Carol Hubbard Albert and Cherry Huen Susan Hughes Craig and Cecilia Husband Barbara R. Hyatt Ken and Carol Imhoof Daniel J. and Christina Inloes Roberta Jefferson Bill and Jill Jenkins Matthew Johnson Christian Jordan Helen and Dennis Juell Walt and Do Kainz Brad Kane Jim and Carol Karas K. Victor Kato, D.D.S. Robert and Anne Kehoe Marj Kempner John and Beverly Kerwien Martin and Winniefred Kimbrell Shirley A. Kindig Randy and Sue Kinsling Steven and Cheryl Kitagawa David and Susan Kittinger Rhonda Kjorlien Thomas and Madeline Kline Walter Knaebel David and Laurie Knapp Adam and Holly Koch Maureen and Gopal K. Kohli Mary C. Kramer, Ph.D. Ken and Patti Kruse Steven W. and Holly Kunkle Miriam Laatz Jeanne Lackey Tiffany and Raphael Lansden Judy Lautenschleger Linda Layman Melissa Layne-Maitland Ward and Shirley Leslie William Lewis Roger Lininger Rebecca and Tom Lowe Margarete Luesebrink Bob and Donna Lutz Julia C. and Mac Macasieb Macy’s Foundation Jan Maez Malachi and Jacob Mahan John H. Mainzer Lyle E. and Doris Ann Maley Phyllis Mandel Eloise Mansfield Linda Mansfield Joyce Mansnerus Suzanne Maraboto Ronald and Lois Marcus Paul and Grace Martinez Gary and Mary Marwick Nobuko McClure John and Leatha McCoy Susan McDonald Joan McDonough Rosemary McIntyre, M.D. Nancy Mecozzi Bill and Nikki Melhorn Bob and Pearl Mench Joan and Joe Mendez Joe and Janice Mendoza Suzanne Menne and Donovan Nebreklievski James and Theresa Merrin Valeri Mervyn Craig and Patti Messi Betty Metzger Judy Miller Laurissa and Eric Miller Marion A. Milne David and Carole Minkin Janet Mitchell Lynnea C. Mitchell Jeanne Money Bill and Camella Moore 6 (Garden Tour, cont.) those who prefer to purchase in person, at the Camarillo Hospice office and Certified Farmers Market, Baron Brothers Nursery, B&B Do-It Center, Growing Grounds Nursery & Tree Outlet, Las Posas Emporium, and Petropolis in Camarillo, at Modern Oasis Garden & Patio in Ventura and at Armstrong Garden Centers in Thousand Oaks. The 2016 Garden Tour committee is chaired by Camarillo Hospice volunteers Carol Weaver and Betty Bright-Martinez and includes additional vol- unteers Jay Berger, Patti Distad, Cameron Draine, Ken Eastman, Karen Knight, Komali Nunna, Linda Ramelli, Ruff Smith, Kay Wigton and Susan Yaberg. All proceeds of the Garden Tour directly fund the volunteer hospice, grief support and education programs and services of Camarillo Hospice, which are free to the community. For Garden Tour sponsorship and advertising opportunities, please contact Belinda Brown at 805389-6870 x 15 or bbrown@camarillohospice.org 32nd Annual Community Memorial Service Set The 2016 Camarillo Hospice Community Memorial Service has been set for Thursday, June 2, 2016, beginning at 5:30 p.m., in the East Garden at Camarillo Ranch, 201 Camarillo Ranch Road in Camarillo. This year’s guest speaker is Rabbi Michael Lotker. The program also will include live music, the “memorial quilt ritual,” which allows those in attendance to remember and honor departed loved ones by speaking their names and placing a personalized butterfly on the quilt, and a traditional dove release. Come join us in remembrance on Thursday, June 2, 2016, at 5:30 p.m. Shop Amazon, Support Camarillo Hospice Giving to Camarillo Hospice has never been easier! When you shop Amazon (and we KNOW you do!), you can make an automatic donation to Camarillo Hospice just by choosing to smile! Best of all, you don’t pay for the donation—it comes from Amazon! • AmazonSmile is the same Amazon you know and love. Same products, same prices, same service. • Log on to smile.amazon.com and choose Camarillo Hospice as your charity of choice. • Amazon will donate 0.5% of the price of your eligible AmazonSmile purchases to Camarillo Hospice. Support Camarillo Hospice today—just SMILE! ELEGY The invisible conversation you held while you were alive can still be heard in every shadowed wall, in the birdsong of morning, and in the last light of evening; the final rays above the river drawing the shape you make in the air by your absence. So that even in the warmth of the southern night I hear your laughter singing from the same familiar sunlit nowhere you always inhabited even before you left and that still flows with me, morning or evening, invisibly close to where I go. Even in narrow streets, surrounded by stone, I listen through those walls in parallels now, and at times inhabit an intimacy where I seem to hear your unseen heart beating close to mine, counting the seconds of my life, as if telling me to live fully in this parallel until I come, some fateful day and meet you, standing at the threshold of yours. When I speak, the words are no longer mine to give away, even though I begin alone, we seem to finish every sentence together and often in ways I needed but could not imagine, so that now I cannot tell where I begin a theme and you join in, and I wander among my friends, wondering if they know to whom they speak. I know now the essence of our friendship because the impetus of your death continually leads me to places where I feel you just about to appear again, your hands lifted toward me, your laughter reminding me of what we both wanted while you lived and breathed, your body strangely reborn in mine, and yet continually coming and going from me, at times the familiar line of your back suddenly turning to that shouted wave at the corner before you disappear; off to some imaginative otherness where others wait, but always returning after an hour, a day a month, a year, the beckoning stranger come to meet me, shaking hands for the first time, the light in your eyes alive again to our future, with no shadow of parting. —Avignon Elegy: June 2013 © David Whyte Heart Work Meets Art Work Again in 2016 Those of you who visit the Camarillo Hospice office are well-acquainted with the incredible talent of Gold Coast Pastel Society artists. We proudly feature 18 original works of art throughout our offices. Camarillo Hospice also is delighted to have been named the charity of choice of the Pastel Society of the Gold Coast (PSGC) for its 2016 annual “Passion for Pastels” art show. This collaboration has become a successful fund- and friend-raising adventure for both organizations. Since 2014, Camarillo Hospice has received $3,333 from PSGC. PSGC’s month-long free art exhibit will be on display in the spacious Thousand Oaks Community Gallery July 5 through July 30, 2016 from 11:00 AM to 5:00 PM Mondays through Saturdays. The Gallery is located at 2331-A Borchard Road in Newbury Park. PSGC artists will staff the exhibit and explain pastel painting. 10% of each art sale during the exhibit will be contributed by the PSGC artist to Camarillo Hospice, so please start “sizing up” your walls, then make those original artwork purchases you’ve been dreaming about between July 5 and 30th! On Sunday, July 10, from 1 to 3:30 p.m., the PSGC will host an afternoon reception in honor of Camarillo Hospice at the Gallery. There will be art demonstrations, food and drinks, gift drawings and fun. All (100%) of the drawing proceeds at the reception will be given to Camarillo Hospice. The Pastel Society of the Gold Coast is a non- profit organization whose purpose is to provide public exhibitions for its members; to educate the community through collaboration with environmental and other non-profit organizations; and to promote the arts in general. Membership consists of approximately 30 Southern California artists who “utilize the dynamic and diverse application of soft pastels to express the nature and beauty of our Gold Coast region.“ Visit the PSGC website at www.pastelsocietyofthegoldcoast.org to learn about the incredibly talented artists of the Society and preview their work. AND plan to attend the reception, enjoy the exhibit, and help support local artists and Camarillo Hospice. Capturing nature in a work of art delights PSGC artist Lynn Byrne Simon. National Healthcare Decisions Day is April 16 Celebrate National Healthcare Decisions Day by completing Five Wishes. National Healthcare Decision Day was established several years ago to encourage all adults to discuss their preferences and plan ahead for their preferred care in the case of a serious illness. Five Wishes makes advance care planning easy because it is written in everyday language and deals with the things people care about most: being kept comfortable, maintaining their dignity and address- ing various personal, spiritual and family matters. Five Wishes specifically mentions hospice care and prompts people to think about what good care at the end of life is all about. In the end, most people want to be able to exit this world with as much dignity and love as possible, however they visualize that. Not only does Five Wishes offer an excellent starting point for a frank conversation with your loved ones, it also allows you to memorialize your end-of-life care preferences. To further review Five Wishes or obtain a copy of it, please contact Camarillo Hospice at 805-389-6870 or info@camarillohospice.org WANT TO HELP WITH OUR 8TH ANNUAL COOK-OFF? It’s set for Sunday, September 4, 2016, and we’re looking for new/additional volunteers to help plan the event. You’re invited to join the committee! Previous experience not required—just enthusiasm, energy and ideas! Contact Sandy Nirenberg at 805-389-6870 x11 or snirenberg@camarillohospice. Karen, Yvonne and Selena Moraga Cheryl Morgan Dagmar Morgan Jim and June Morrison Bob Mucica Donna Mullennix Rudy and Pat Muro Gary and Judith Murphy Sarah J. Needham Carol Neel Jo Ann Neff Jeanne Nelson Trisha Newhoff Emanuel (Mickey) and Josephine Newman Robin Nixon Lynn Norman Doreen Odehnal Booffard David and Karen Oliver Carolyn Ostrander Barbara Owens John and Linda Packham Neil Parker, M.D. Darren Patnoe Nanci Paulson Daniel J. Perata Darlene Pickering Karen S. Proffitt Robert and Sheila Rakestraw Patty Ramirez Richard and Shook Reese Bruce and Catherine Reeve Rodney and Annie Resnik Darlene Responte Dan and Sandra Rickard Lynnette Robertson Patricia Rodriguez Anita Roll Jean M. Rom Linda Romano Barbara Ross Steve Roth Janet N. Rowe Sandra Kay Rowe Carol Rundgren Christine Rutter Timothy and Lynn Ryan Diane Salisbury Ed and Sheryl Sandell John and Karen Savaya Rochelle Savren Karl Heinz Schober Maxine Schreul Richard and Cynthia Seaberg Diane Severtson Claire Shanley Prithvi R. Sharma, M.D. David and Donna Shepard Joan Shively Paul and Marilyn Sills Zita Simmons Marianne Slaughter Sharon and Ken Slaughter Carolyn Smith Rhoda Smithkin Capt. Dennis Solomon Claire Sortomme Susan Spangler Bill and Sue Spies Barbara St. Amand Nancy Stehle James and Laurie Stirone Charley and Nancy Stoll Yu-Fang and Ko-Shun Sun Ruth Suszko Joe C. and Joan I. Swindle Catherine Tabor Katherine Taylor Nellie Throneberry Michael and Miriam Timrott Argene Tisdale Kathie Tobias Carmen and Anthony Trerotola Dorothy Trotter United Way California Capital Region –PCFD Account United Way of Santa Barbara County Judy Van Dyke Margaret Van Huss Nancy Vancott T.L. and L.I. Vesey Robert and Sue Walker Blaine and Diana Wanke Debbie Weiss Richard Wells Sandy Wepplo Jeanne Whalen Dale White Jerry and Galena White Rick and Sandy Wiegman Judith Wilcoxson Fred and Carole Winter Ellen Winters Pat Wise Rosemary Wisuri Stefan and Mary Jo Wolowicz Bobbin and Steve Yarbrough Mary and Herb Yee Russell and Paula Yermasek Wayne and June Younger Deloria Zabriskie 7 comfort & counseling for life’s journey Camarillo Hospice Corporation 400 Rosewood Ave., #102 Camarillo, CA 93010 805.389.6870 • Fax 805.389.0296 www.camarillohospice.org Hours: Monday–Friday 8:30 AM–4:30 PM CAMARILLO HOSPICE BOARD OF DIRECTORS Kay Wigton Chair of the Board Tony Trembley Vice Chair of the Board Gerald “Gerry” Olsen Secretary Kevin Sumida, CPA Treasurer Randy Churchill Immediate Past Chair Jay Berger Christine Cohen Cameron Draine Linda Dullam Dennis Gaiser Petra Lowe Theresa McConville, Esq. John McCoy Roger “Ted” Rains C. Albert Reeves, M.D. Gary Schein Keith Sciarillo CAMARILLO HOSPICE STAFF Sandy Nirenberg President/CEO Laurie Davis, MSW Director of Volunteer Services Carole Wadsworth, MA, MFT Director of Counseling Services Stacia Sickle, LCSW Associate Director of Counseling Services Sally McSweeney Administrative Assistant Belinda Brown Event Coordinator COUNSELORS Gail Barrish, MA Christina Burke, MS Marilu Duarte, MS, MFT Brenda Estrada, MS Laura Gallardo, MA Scott Loorz, MA Yash Mirji, MS Sarah Nare, MFT Carrie Phillips, MA Carol Robrecht, MFT Stacia Sickle, LCSW Michelle Williams, MS Rosalinda Yanez, MS, MFT NEWSLETTER STAFF Sandy Nirenberg, Editor Ken Eastman, Graphi Designer ONGOING SUPPORT GROUPS Please contact Stacia Sickle, LCSW, at 805389-6870 x 25 for meeting dates/times or to enroll, or visit www.camarillohospice.org Adult Loss of a Parent Bereaved Parents General Bereavement Good Grief Club (Children 6 to 14) Healing Through Creative Writing Newly Bereaved Pet Loss Survivors of Suicide Loss Teen Age Grief The Masculine Side of Healing Young Widows and Widowers Spanish Language Grief Groups (Oxnard) 2016 CAMARILLO HOSPICE ANNUAL SPONSORS (TO DATE) PLATINUM • Cameron & Summer Draine • Dennis & Joan Gaiser GOLD • County Commerce Bank • Al and Petra Lowe • William and Joanne Miller • Leonard and Lynn Simon Union Bank SILVER • Churchill & Valencia • Michael Ragen, M.D. and Ann Ragen BRONZE • Anonymous • Buena Vista Hospice, Palliative & Home Health Care • Coastal Eye Specialists • Dignity Health/St. John’s Hospitals • Gold Coast Health Plan • Richard and Nancy Ney • Gerald (“Gerry”) and Joan Olsen • Ed and Diana Paul • Radiation Oncology Centers of Ventura County • Val and Roger (“Ted”) Rains • C. Albert Reeves, M.D. and Adrienne Reeves • Maureen Wachold • Kay Wigton and Deena Wismann DATES TO REMEMBER u March 2016—Membership Month. Mail your annual dues today to be a member of Camarillo Hospice in 2016 u Sunday, May 1, 2016, Noon to 4:00 PM—20th Annual Spring Garden Tour u Thursday, June 2, 2016, 5:30 to 7:00 PM—Annual Camarillo Hospice Community Memorial Service, Camarillo Ranch u Sunday, September 4, 2016, 11 AM to 4:00 PM—8th Annual Camarillo Chili Cook-off & Music Festival, Camarillo Ranch u September-October, Wednesdays, 9 AM to 12 PM—Patient Care Volunteer Training, Camarillo Hospice Office u Saturday, December 3, 2016, 4:30 PM—Camarillo Hospice Tree of Life Lighting Ceremony, Constitution Park, Camarillo u Every Saturday, 8 AM to Noon, (rain or shine)—Camarillo Hospice Certified Farmers Market, 2220 Ventura Blvd., Old Town Camarillo