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Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction T A B L E O F C O N T E N T S Special Section: LGBT Carolinas Newcomer Guide www.q-notes.com Volume 24 Number 06 PO Box 221841 • Charlotte, NC 28222 • 704.531.9988 . 704.531.1361 July 25, 2009 FAX To find a copy, go to www.q-notes.com/distribution-points/ Publisher: Jim Yarbrough Editor/New Media: Matt Comer editor@q-notes.com Associate Editor: David Stout Special Assignments: Lainey Millen Graphic Design/Production: Lainey Millen production@q-notes.com Ad Sales: Marketing Jim Yarbrough, Manager adsales@q-notes.com Ad Sales . National: Rivendell Media 704.531.9988 704.531.9988 212.242.6863 Material in Q-Notes is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © 2009 and may not be reproduced in any manner without written consent of the editor. 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Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity. advertising space deadlines 2 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Community AIDS Service Organizations Faith Nightlife North Carolina South Carolina Charlotte Columbia Coastal Eastern Triad Triangle Upstate S.C. Western NC Features: 01 Crape Myrtle takes it back Columns: 04 04 04 04 06 07 08 09 10 11 Articles: Audiophile 23 Editor’s Note 05 General Gayety 26 Out and About 30 Out in the Stars 29 Q-Poll 05 T-Notes 24 Tell Trinity 28 Editorial Contributors: Robbi Cohn, Matt Comer, Charlene Lichtenstein, Lainey Millen, Leslie Robinson, David Stout, Trinity County gifts $12K to SC Pride 21 Eastern rising 15 Groups receive non-profit honors 12 Front Cover: Man attacked in Greensboro 21 Seen: Charlotte Black Gay Pride 19 Art by Jimmy Cobb Design by Lainey Millen issue: 08-08 deadline: 07-29 issue: 09-05 deadline: 08-26 IN OUR NEXT ISSUE: Taboo-Touchy Subjects Talkabout issue: 08-22 deadline: 08-12 issue: 09-19 deadline: 09-09 To advertise, call 704.531.9988 or email adsales@q-notes.com. JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction 20 Not For Reproduction 3 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction P E R S P E C T I V E Editor’s Note by Matt Comer . Q-Notes staff Newcomer Guide and QGuide team up to serve you North Carolina Population: 9,222,414 LGB Pop.: 212,104 Statewide resources ACLU of North Carolina PO Box 28004 Raleigh, NC 27611-8004 919-834-3466 www.acluofnorthcarolina.org Carolina Bear Lodge www.carolinabears.com Equality North Carolina PO Box 28768 Raleigh, NC 27611 919-829-0343 www.equalitync.org N.C. Gay Advocacy Legal Alliance PO Box 13152 Research Triangle Park, NC 27709-3152 919-680-6758 info@ncgala.org www.ncgala.org NC Pride Fest and Parade PO Box 466 Durham, NC 27702 info@ncpride.org www.ncpride.org Media Q-Notes 704-531-9988 www.q-notes.com Stereotypd 828-505-2870 www.stereotypd.com South Carolina Population: 4,479,800 LGB Pop.: 117,003 Statewide resources ACLU of South Carolina PO Box 20998 Charleston, SC 29413-0998 843-720-1423 info@aclusouthcarolina.org Carolina Bear Lodge www.carolinabears.com SC Equality 803-414-5417 craydrew@scequality.org www.scequality.org S.C Gay + Lesbian Business Guild PO Box 7913 Columbia, SC 29202-7913 803-771-0411 info@scglbg.org www.scglbg.org SC Pride PO Box 12648 Columbia, SC 29211 803-771-7713 www.scpride.org Charlotte Population (metro): 1,700,000 Charlotte: 630,478 Gastonia: 68,541 Rock Hill: 64,858 Salisbury: 26,463 Community Lesbian & Gay Community Center 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11 Charlotte, NC 28206 704-333-0144 www.gaycharlotte.com Charlotte NC Black Gay Pride PO Box 240572 Charlotte, NC 28224-0572 cncbgp@charlotteblackgaypride.com www.charlotteblackgaypride.com Charlotte Business Guild PO Box 222131 Charlotte, NC 28222 businessguild@yahoo.com www.charlottebusinessguild.com Charlotte Gender Alliance www.charlottegenderalliance.info Charlotte Rainbow Action Network for Equality (CRANE) www.rainbowaction.org Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte PO Box 560661 Charlotte, NC 28256-0661 704-549-9202 www.gmccharlotte.org Human Rights Campaign Carolinas www.hrccarolinas.org MeckPAC PO Box 9807 Charlotte, NC 28299 meckpac@bellsouth.net www.meckpac.org One Voice Chorus PO Box 9241 Charlotte, NC 28299 704-716-1129 www.onevoicechorus.com PFLAG Charlotte PO Box 472532 Charlotte, NC 28247 704-542-2019 pflagcharlotte@yahoo.com www.pflagcharlotte.org PFLAG Salisbury/Rowan PO Box 5207 Salisbury, NC 28147 704-213-0181 salisburypflag@bellsouth.net Columbia Population (metro): 716,030 Columbia: 127,029 Lexington: 14,329 West Columbia: 13,064 Cayce: 12,150 Irmo: 11,039 Media Community Q-Notes 704-531-9988 www.q-notes.com Stereotypd 828-505-2870 www.stereotypd.com Harriet Hancock Community Center 1108 Woodrow St. Columbia, SC 29205 803-771-7713 (resource hotline) www.scpride.org PFLAG Columbia PO Box 1838 4 www.salisbury-pflag.org Pride Charlotte 704-333-0144 info@pridecharlotte.com White Rabbit 920 Central Ave. Charlotte, NC 28204 704-377-4067 www.whiterabbitbooks.com AIDS Service Organizations House of Mercy 701 Mercy Dr. Belmont, NC 28012 704-825-4711 www.thehouseofmercy.org Metrolina AIDS Project PO Box 32662 Charlotte, NC 28232-2662 704-333-1435 www.metrolinaaidsproject.org Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) PO Box 37190 Charlotte, NC 28237-7190 704-372-7246 info@carolinarain.org www.carolinarain.org Faith MCC Charlotte 1825 Eastway Dr. Charlotte NC 28205 704-563-5810 office@mcccharlotte.com www.mcccharlotte.com New Life MCC 1900 The Plaza Charlotte, NC 28205 704-334-0350 newlifemcc@bellsouth.net www.newlifemccnc.org Unity Fellowship Church 2127 Eastway Dr. Charlotte, NC 28205 704-567-5007 www.ufccharlottenc.org Nightlife Central Station 2131 Central Ave. Charlotte, NC 28205 704-313-4430 www.centralstationcharlotte.com Charlotte Eagle 4544-H South Blvd. Charlotte, NC 28209 704-679-9901 www.charlotteeagle.com Columbia, SC 29202-1838 pridemomsc@aol.com Rainbow Radio Sundays, 10 a.m., Air America, WOIC-AM 1230 PO Box 12648 Columbia, SC 29211 www.rainbowradiosc.com AIDS Service Organizations Palmetto AIDS Life Support Services (PALSS) 2638 Two Notch Rd., Suite 108 Columbia, SC 29204 803-779-7257 www.palss.org The Q-Notes staff is so excited about this special issue and our first ever LGBT Carolinas Newcomer Guide. We hope you’re excited, too. Last fall, when we were mulling over ideas for our 2009 editorial calendar, we were inspired to do some sort of special issue for newcomers and those newly out of the closet. Each fall, The Charlotte Observer publishes a great annual resource,“Living Here,” which lists a great set of resources and information for Charlotte citizens and newcomers. We thought,“Hey, why can’t the Carolinas LGBT community have the same thing?” So, we did it. This keepsake issue’s Newcomer Guide includes listings for community resources, AIDS service organizations, primarily LGBT faith congregations and nightlife establishments. Like “Living Here,” the Guide is designed to be an annual resource and welcoming tool for folks who’ve just moved into the Carolinas, people who have just come out of the closet or folks who’ve been here for years but don’t yet know where or who to go to if they need help, a place to have some fun or want some social time. But, the Newcomer Guide is just the beginning. Our Guide is just one small part of our Chasers 3217 The Plaza Charlotte, NC 28205 704-339-0500 www.scorpios.com/chasers.html Dammit Janet! 3746 N. Davidson St. Charlotte, NC 28205 www.dammitjanetclub.com/djclub.html Fierce at Buckwild (Thursday nights) 10008 University City Blvd. Charlotte, NC 28213 704-595-0193 fierce@carolina.rr.com www.myspace.com/fiercebuckwild Halo 820 Hamilton St., Suite A2 Charlotte, NC 28206 704-246-1752 www.haloclt.com The Hide-A-Way 405 Baskins Rd. Rock Hill, SC 29730 803-328-6630 Liaisons South End 316 Rensselaer Ave. Charlotte, NC 28203 704-376-1617 www.pinkhousenc.com Night Owls 420 E. Main Ave. Gastonia, NC 28054 704-866-7333 www.nightowlsofgastonia.com Petra’s Piano Bar and Cabaret 1919 Commonwealth Ave. Charlotte, NC 28205 704-332-6608 www.petraspianobar.com Scorpio 2301 Freedom Dr. Charlotte, NC 28208 704-373-9124 www.scorpios.com Sidelines 4544-C South Blvd. Charlotte, NC 28209 704-525-2608 www.thesidelinesbar.com The Woodshed 3935 Queen City Dr. Charlotte, NC 28208 704-394-1712 www.woodshedlounge.com Carolinas. Except, there was one glaring absence: Judge John Arrowood.We realized we’d had a horrible lapse of memory a few days after the piece hit the streets, when it was way too late to do anything about it. So, I gathered up the courage, sent a message to Judge Arrowood, apologized for leaving him out and promised we’d get something in our July 25 issue. I’ve kept my promise: John S. Arrowood — Judge Arrowood received his law degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 1982, after which he worked for the Court of Appeals and practiced law in Charlotte. In August 2007, Gov. Mike Easley appointed Arrowood to the North Carolina Court of Appeals, to fulfill an unexpired term vacated by Judge Eric Levinson. The appointment made him the first openly gay or lesbian official to ever hold a statewide office in Tar Heel history. Arrowood ran for election to the post in 2008 but was defeated by Judge Robert Hunter. Q ••••••••••••••••• Is President Obama doing enough to fulfill his promises on LGBT equality? See the options and vote at www.q-notes.com/qpoll Faith Garden of Grace UCC 1020 Atlas Rd. Columbia, SC 29209 803-695-9664 www.gogucc.com Nightlife Art Bar 1211 Park St. Columbia, SC 29201 803-929-0198 www.artbarsc.com see Guide on 6 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction revamped QGuide, our larger, more extensive online listing of LGBT and LGBTfriendly resources, faith groups, bars and clubs, restaurants, cafés and other businesses, as well as local and regional events. Unfortunately, we just couldn’t fit everything into this one print issue. But, no need to worry. Surf over to www.q-notes.com/qguide and check our database of listings there. If you see something we’ve missed or something that needs correction, please submit a new listing or updates at www.q-notes.com/qguide/submit/ or email it to qguide@q-notes.com. Because of our special issue this time around, you’ll also notice that many of our regular columns are missing.Again, no need to worry — we’ve covered all bases. International, National and North Carolina News Notes, along with other great news pieces, are published online and ready for consumption at www.q-notes.com. Take a look at the Newcomer Guide, tuck away a copy somewhere safe in your house. If you’re a community organization, keep a dozen copies stashed away for folks you meet throughout the year and who might be interested in having a copy. Take a browse through our online QGuide, and after all that, let us know what you think.We’re always looking for feedback and for ideas tot help us serve you better. How embarrassing In our June 27 print issue, Q-Notes published a pretty extensive piece on openly gay and lesbian elected officials across the Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 5 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Nightlife Columbia continued from page 4 Capital Club 1002 Gervais St. Columbia, SC 29201 803-256-6464 Fusion 920 Lady St. Columbia, SC 29201 www.myspace.com/theclubfusion H2O 220 State St. West Columbia, SC 29169 803-794-8443 myspace.com/444555747 The Chart 1078 E. Montague Ave. N. Charleston, SC 29405 843-225-9949 www.charlestonchart.com Club Pantheon 28 Ann St. Charleston, SC 29401 843-577-2582 www.myspace.com/clubpantheon De’Ja Vu II 4628 Spruill Ave. N. Charleston, SC 29405 843-554-5959 info@dejavuii.com www.dejavuii.com L Word 625 Fink St. Cayce, SC 29169 803-794-2111 www.myspace.com/sclword Cabaret 1101 Hardin St. Columbia, SC 29205 803-758-6090 www.pts1109.com PT’s 1109 1109 Assembly St. Columbia, SC 29201 803-253-8900 www.pts1109.com Eastern N.C. Coastal S.C. Charleston (metro): 644,000 Charleston population: 126,567 North Charleston: 87,600 Myrtle Beach (metro): 299,353 Myrtle Beach population: 25,410 Community The Center Project 736 8th Ave. N. Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 843-626-4953 info@thecenterproject.com www.thecenterproject.com Alliance for Full Acceptance 29 Leinbach Dr., Suite D-3 Charleston, SC 29407 843-883-0343 info@affa-sc.org www.affa-sc.org Charleston Social Club lynndugan@hotmail.com charlestonsocialclub.webs.com CLAWS (Coastal Leather Allegiance to Wisdom & Service) info@clawsllc.com www.clawsllc.com PFLAG Charleston morrisf@cofc.edu 843-559-2996 PFLAG Myrtle Beach The Center Project 736 8th Ave. N. Myrtle Beach, SC 29588 pflagmb@aol.com 843-626-4953 Southern Boys www.southernboys.org We Are Family Youth support PO Box 21806 6 Fayetteville population: 122,435 Wilmington population: 99,623 Greenville population: 75,482 Jacksonville population: 69,688 Rocky Mount population: 55,519 New Bern population: 23,131 Charleston, SC 29413 843-637-7379 info@waf.org www.waf.org Young Professional Gay-Straight Alliance Social, networking ypgaystraight@gmail.com charlestongaystraight.webs.com Community OutWilmington Online Community & Resource Center Sponsors several social groups, events, youth group, Pride and more info@outwilmington.com www.outwilmington.com PFLAG Carteret & Craven Counties PO Box 2134 Morehead City, NC 28557 pflagccnc@yahoo.com 252-727-2888 PFLAG Rocky Mount PO Box 4885 Rocky Mount, NC 27803 pflagrm@aol.com 252-443-0345 (helpline) 252-210-2433 PFLAG Sandhills 895 Linden Rd. Pinehurst, NC 28374 pflagsandhills@yahoo.com PFLAG Wilmington/Cape Fear 1402-6 Willoughby Park Rd. Wilmington, NC 28412 ebpryan@aol.com 910-452-9162 www.outwilmington.com AIDS Service Organizations Careteam 3926 Wesley St., #104 Myrtle Beach, SC 29579 843-236-9000 (Myrtle Beach) 843-546-8696 (Georgetown) www.careteamsc.org Lowcountry AIDS Services 3547 Meeting Street Rd. Charleston, SC 29405 843-747-2273 www.aids-services.com Faith MCC of Charleston 7860-A Dorchester Rd. N. Charleston, SC 29418 843-760-6114 www.mcccharleston.com Open Door Christian Church 874 Orleans Rd., #3 Charleston, SC 29407 843-225-4642 www.opendoorchristianchurch.org Rock Church The Center Project 736 8th Ave. N. Myrtle Beach, SC 29588 843-283-0918 RockChurchMB@aol.com www.rockchurchmyrtlebeach.com AIDS Service Organizations see next page > Coastal Carolina HIV Care Consortium (CCHCC) 805-F N. 4th St. Wilmington, NC 28401 910-763-4800 coastaladmin@hotmail.com Dudley’s 42 Ann St. Charleston, SC 29403 843-577-6779 Patrick’s Pub 1377 Ashley River Rd. Charleston, SC 29407 843-571-3435 www.patrickspubonline.com Rainbow House 815 N. Kings Hwy. Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 843-626-7298 www.rainbowhousemyrtlebeach.com Time Out! 520 8th Ave. N. Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 843-448-1180 www.timeoutmbsc.com Community Alternative Housing, Inc. PO Box 1721 Fayetteville, NC 28302 910-486-4491 Down East HIV/AIDS Consortium 198 NC Highway 45 North Plymouth, NC 27962 252-791-3125 billiehs@yahoo.com Eastern NC HIV/AIDS Consortium PO Box 30705 Greenville, NC 27833 252-353-7919 kristi@gsiwave.com Humans United Giving Greater Service (HUGGS) 201 Moore St. Fayetteville, NC 28301 910-483-0734 Pitt County AIDS Service Organization (PICASO) 609-D Country Club Dr. Greenville, NC 27835 252-830-1660 www.picaso.org Faith St. Jude’s MCC 19 N. 26th St. Wilmington, NC 28405 Phone: 910-762-5833 stjudes@bellsouth.net www.stjudesmcc.org Nightlife Alexander’s of Jacksonville 165 Blue Creek School Rd. Jacksonville, NC 28546 910-938-0013 www.alexandersofjacksonville.com see Guide on 8 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 7 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Eastern N.C. continued from page 7 Club Alias 984 Old McPherson Church Rd. Fayetteville, NC 28303 910-484-7994 www.clubalias.com Club Emages 107 Swain St. Fayetteville, NC 28303 910-797-4494 www.myspace.com/clubemages Costello’s Piano Bar 211 Princess St. Wilmington, NC 28401 910-362-9666 www.costellospianobar.com Triad Population (metro): 1,552,495 Greensboro: 255,000 Winston-Salem: 222,655 High Point: 100,342 Community Adam Foundation PO Box 21113 Winston-Salem, NC 27120-1113 info@adamfoundation.org Alternative Resources of the Triad www.outtriad.org Gay-Straight Advocates for Education (GSAFE) PO Box 41044 Greensboro, NC 27404 336-271-8428 contact@gsafe.org www.gsafe.org Guilford Green Foundation 301 S. Elm St., Suite 21 Greensboro NC 27401 336-790-8419 info@ggfnc.org www.ggfnc.org PFLAG Alamance PO Box 623 Elon, NC 27244 336-584-3366 info@pflagalamance.org www.pflagalamance.org PFLAG Greensboro PO Box 4153 Greensboro, NC 27404 336-852-8489 info@pflaggreensboro.org www.pflaggreensboro.org PFLAG Mt. Airy 1601 Cadle Ford Rd. 8 Great American Mining Company 1008 Dickinson Ave. Greenville, NC 27834 www.greatamericanminingcompany.com Ibiza 118 Market St. Wilmington, NC 28401 910-251-1301 www.ibizawilmington.com Tool Box Bar 2325 Burnett Blvd. Wilmington, NC 28401 910-343-6988 www.toolboxnc.com Winston-Salem, NC 27104 336-774-7071 www.clubodyssey.info Club Tips 2519 High Point Rd. Greensboro, NC 27403 336-547-6286 www.myspace.com/clubtips Heaven 113 Elm St. Greensboro, NC 27401 336-370-1311 www.muchbar.com Q Lounge 708 W. Market St. Greensboro, NC 27401 336-272-2587 www.theqlounge.com Time Out Saloon 330 Bellemeade Ave. Greensboro, NC 27405 (336) 272-8108 Warehouse 29 1011 Arnold St. Greensboro, NC 27405 336-333-9333 www.w29.com Triangle N.C. Gay and Lesbian Film Festival The Carolina Theatre 309 W. Morgan St. Durham, NC 27701 919-560-3040 festivals.carolinatheatre.org/ncglff PFLAG Raleigh-Durham/Triangle PO Box 51776 Durham, NC 27717 919-929-0192 (Durham) 919-434-3080 (Raleigh) info@pflagtriangle.org www.pflagtriangle.org Raleigh Business & Professional Network PO Box 18844 Raleigh, NC 27619 www.raleighnetwork.org Triangle Community Works Referrals, education, advocacy 410 N. Boylan Ave. Raleigh, NC 27603 919-256-3749 tcw@tcworks.org www.tcworks.org Triangle Gay Men’s Chorus PO Box 14452 Research Triangle Park, NC 27709-4452 info@tgmchorus.org www.tgmchorus.org Population (metro): 1,690,557 Raleigh: 356,321 Durham: 209,009 Chapel Hill: 51,478 Community Mount Airy, NC 27030 sdnichols@surry.net PFLAG Winston-Salem PO Box 15477 Winston-Salem, NC 27113 336-765-2886 info@pflagwinstonsalem.org www.pflagwinstonsalem.org Triad Business & Professional Guild www.triadguild.com Triad Pride Men’s Chorus PO Box 39566 Greensboro NC 27438 336-589-6267 contact@triadpridemenschorus.org www.triadpridemenschorus.org AIDS Service Organizations Triad Health Project 801 Summit Ave. Greensboro, NC 27405 336-275-1654 www.triadhealthproject.com Faith Church of the Holy Spirit Fellowship 1005-B Burke St. Winston Salem, NC 27101 336-631-1331 www.churchoftheholyspiritfellowshipnc.com MCC Winston-Salem 4105 Patsy Dr. Winston-Salem NC 27107 336-784-8009 mccws@lycos.com www.mccws.org Nightlife Club Odyssey 4019-A Country Club Dr. A Safer Place Youth Network (ASPYN) 410 N. Boylan Ave. Raleigh, NC 27603 919-256-3749 www.tcworks.org/aspyn/default.htm Center for LGBT Life Duke University 02 West Union Bldg. Box 90958 Durham, NC 27708 919-684-6607 lgbtcenter@duke.edu lgbt.studentaffairs.duke.edu Common Woman Chorus PO Box 51731 Durham, NC 27717 919-788-8492 www.commonwomanchorus.net Crape Myrtle Festival PO Box 12201 Raleigh, NC 27605 info@crapemyrtlefest.org www.crapemyrtlefest.org GLBT Center N.C. State University 3101 Talley Student Center Raleigh, NC 27695 919.513.9742 GLBTcenter@ncsu.edu glbtcenter@gmail.com www.ncsu.edu/student_affairs/glbt LGBT Center of Raleigh PO Box 152 Raleigh, NC 27605 www.raleighiscomingout.com The LGBTQ Center UNC-Chapel Hill 919-843-5376 lgbtq@unc.edu lgbt.unc.edu see next page > AIDS Service Organizations Alliance of AIDS Services - Carolina 324 S. Harrington St. Raleigh, NC 27603 919-834-2437 info@aas-c.org www.aas-c.org For more information on client services locations visit: www.aas-c.org/aasc/contact.html Faith Imani MCC 1419A Broad St. Durham, NC 27705 919-403-6881 www.imanimcc.org see Guide on10 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 9 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Western N.C. Asheville population: 72,789 Hickory population: 37,251 Boone popuation: 13,464 Triangle continued from page 9 St. John’s MCC 805 Glenwood Ave. Raleigh, NC 27605 919-834-2611 www.stjohnsmcc.org Nightlife The CC 313 W. Hargett St. Raleigh, NC 27601 919-755-9599 www.cc-raleigh.com East End Martini Bar 201 E. Franklin St. Chapel Hill, NC 27514 919-929-0024 www.myspace.com/stirateastend East End hosts an LGBT dance party, Stir, on Sunday nights. Flex 2 S. West St. Raleigh, NC 27603 919-832-8855 www.flex-club.com Legends 330 W. Hargett St. Community Raleigh, NC 27601 919-831-8888 www.legends-club.com Sirens Lounge 1803 W. Markham Ave. Durham, NC 27705 919-416-6684 www.sirenslounge.com Steel Blue 1426 S. Miami Blvd. Durham, NC 27703 919-596-5876 www.clubsteelblue.com Visions 711 Rigsbee Ave. Durham, NC 27701 919-688-3002 White Rabbit 309 W. Martin St. Raleigh, NC 27601 919-856-1429 www.whiterabbitbooks.com Association of Lesbian Professionals in Asheville (ALPS) www.alpsofasheville.org Blue Ridge Pride (Asheville, NC) www.blueridgepride.com C.L.O.S.E.R. CLOSERmail@aol.com NLM_55@yahoo.com High Country Pride (Boone, NC) www.highcountrypride.org PFLAG Asheville 121 Aurora Dr. Asheville, NC 28805 828-335-0787 ashevillepflag@hotmail.com PFLAG Boone 146 Mallard Ln. Boone, NC 28607 828-264-4109 PFLAG Flat Rock/Hendersonville 206 Lois Ln. Flat Rock, NC 28731 828-696-8250 alnderry@brinet.com Media TriangleLocalEvents.com trianglelocalevents@yahoo.com AIDS Service Organizations ALFA 1120 Fairgrove Church Rd. SE, Suite 28 Hickory, NC 28602 828-322-1447 www.alfainfo.org Western NC AIDS Project (WNCAP) PO Box 2411 Asheville, NC 28802-2411 828-252-7489 www.wncap.org Find more resources, nightlife establishments, cafés and coffee shops, restaurants, bookstores and other LGBT-friendly establishments online: www.q-notes.com/qguide Not For Reproduction Faith MCC Asheville Church Plant 135 Sugarloaf Rd., 2nd Floor Hendersonville, NC 28792 804-307-5524 mccacp@yahoo.com Nighlife Club Cabaret 101 N. Center St. Hickory, NC 28601 828-322-8103 www.clubcabaret.net Club Hairspray 38 N. French Broad Ave. Asheville, NC 28801 828-258-2027 www.clubhairspray.com The Grove House (Eleven on Grove, Scandals, Getaways, Boiler Room, Penthouse Suite) 11 Grove St. Asheville, NC 828-505-1612 www.thegrovehouse.com www.clubscandals.net LaRue’s Backdoor 237 Haywood St. Asheville, NC 28801 828-252-1014 www.myspace.com/laruesbackdoor O’Henry’s, Straps 239 Haywood St. Asheville, NC 28801 828-254-1891 Smokey’s After Dark 15 Broadway St. Asheville, NC 28801 828-253-2155 Tressa’s Downtown Jazz & Blues 28 Broadway St., Asheville, NC 28801 828-254-7072 www.tressasdowntownjazzandblues.com Did we miss something? Check our QGuide online for your listing. If it isn’t there, submit a new listing. If you see something that needs correction, submit it, too. www.q-notes.com/qguide/submit Upstate S.C. Greenville-Spartanburg (metro): 1,203,795 Greenville: 56,002 Spartanburg: 39,673 Community PFLAG Greenville 202 High Meadow Ct. Greer, SC 29650 864-232-2988 lcandler@charter.net www.pflagupstatesc.org PFLAG Spartanburg 332 St. James Dr. Spartanburg, SC 29301 864-574-1253 jharrison1253@charter.net www.upstatepflagsc.org/spartanburg Sean’s Last Wish PO Box 5697 Greenville, SC 29606 888-224-9832 elke@seanslastwish.org Upstate Pride upstatepride.homestead.com AIDS Service Organizations AID Upstate PO Box 105 Greenville, SC 29602 864.250.0607 info@aidupstate.org www.aidupstate.org 10 Faith New Day Christian Community Church 101 S. Line St. Greer, SC 29651 www.newdayccc.org 864-879-3097 The Upstate Church (MCC) 1925 Pelham Rd. Greenville, SC 29615 revrandy@theupstatechurch.org www.theupstatechurch.org Nightlife The Castle 8-B Legrand Blvd. Greenville, SC 29607 864-235-9949 Club 621 621 Airport Rd. Greenville, SC 29607 864-281-1234 www.club621.com Sugar Shack 424 Laurens Rd. Greenville, SC 29607 864-242-0294 www.sugarshackclub.com see next page > JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 11 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction R E G I O N A L Carolinas groups receive non-profit honors Websites rank top LGBT charities Two Carolinas-based religious organizations earned top ratings in the GreatNonprofits 2009 Pride Choice Awards. Across the country, local LGBT non-profits focusing on education, service, and advocacy received more positive ratings than large national nonprofits. Religious organizations, surprisingly, also made a strong showing in the list of winners. Raleigh’s Gay Christian Network and Columbia’s Whosoever magazine were among the winners. 12 The contest, held during Gay and Lesbian Pride Month in June, asked people to submit reviews and ratings about nonprofits serving the LGBT community. The contest was sponsored by GreatNonprofits, GuideStar and Queerty. The results provide surprising insights into the diversity of organizations that are considered effective and important by volunteers, donors and stakeholders of the gay and lesbian population. Over the course of Pride Month, more than 32,000 people visited the GreatNonprofits website and 736 reviews were posted about more than 60 organizations. “The Awards gave voice to many of our constituents that we don’t hear from,” Charles Robbins, executive director of The Trevor Project, said in a press release. The Project won best LGBT organization with an annual budget over $1 million. “It was incredibly meaningful for our staff to hear youth saying ‘I was saved because of the work of The Trevor Project.’ It’s monumental.” While big organizations such as Human Rights Campaign and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force were available for review, those groups didn’t see the kinds of results that their smaller counterparts did. Gay Christian Network was among the top three non-profits. One other gay religious group made it into the top three ratings. The success of religious organizations in the 2009 Pride Choice Awards shows the large impact these groups have on the LGBTQ people they serve. It suggests that today’s gay and lesbian population wants a connection with religions that have spurned them in the past. “There are so many great non-profits that don’t have an advertising budget and are not household names. Similar to what Yelp has done for small restaurants, we enable grassroots non-profits to gain recognition,” Perla Ni, CEO and founder of GreatNonprofits, said in a release.“Now there’s an even playing field through the genuine testimonials and reviews of people who have seen the work of a nonprofit first-hand. Donors and volunteers now have a source of information for which nonprofits are accountable and effective.” Q — Compiled by Q-Notes staff from a GreatNonprofits news release JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 13 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction A C T I V I S M Eastern rising Calls for organization, center in Eastern North Carolina by Matt Comer . Q-Notes staff During the “Join the Impact” series of protests in November 2008, following the passage of California’s Prop. 8, community members across the Carolinas joined together to take a stand and speak out against discrimination. On that day more than two dozen Eastern North Carolina residents joined together in protest in downtown Greenville. Although small in number, the LGBT community of Eastern North Carolina is growing more vocal by the day. One call has been made for an organization to serve LGBT youth and another for an LGBT community center. Citizens are also joining together to challenge anti-gay actions by elected officials. On July 13, nine community members protested again in Greenville, challenging the Pitt County Board of Commissioners on their consideration of an anti-gay, same-sex marriage resolution. Protest organizer Randy Toler told Q-Notes that the nine individuals gathered to protest at the corner of a downtown intersection.Asked to leave by a business owner, the group moved to the Pitt County government building, where some spoke against the resolution during the Commission’s public comment period. The controversy began at a Pitt County Commissioners’ meeting on June 29, when 14 lack of better words, to man up and make it happen,” he said.“It is a completely realistic goal for an area that can be well-served for gay youth to turn to for counseling, medical refer- lution at the July 13 meeting. Community member James Smith has called for the creation of a community center. He is holding a community interest and plan- Community members protested in Greenville on July 13. Photo Credit: James Smith rals. It can happen but people are going to have to wake up and make it happen.” Kevin Boyette, a recent East Carolina graduate, told the campus’ East Carolinian newspaper that he was working to establish a LGBT youth center. Boyette was one of just a few speaking against the idea of the anti-gay reso- ning meeting on Aug. 29 at 2 p.m. at the Tipsy Teapot, 409 S. Evans St., in Greenville. Smith says he wants to also consider creating a Pride event for the area. Those interesting in attending the meeting or those with questions, comments or ideas can email Smith at jamestsmith72@gmail.com. Q JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Commissioner David Hammond asked his fellow board members to consider the resolution putting the county on record as opposing same-sex marriage. He said he wants to send a letter to the North Carolina Association of County Commissioners, to see if other counties will join the effort as well. Dozens of other county and municipal governments have already adopted resolutions calling for an amendment to be placed before voters. Although Hammond says he is opposed to same-sex marriage, he also said he’d oppose a resolution calling specifically for a referendum by the citizens of the state. While the issue has been discussed, the board took no immediate action on the item on June 29 or at the July 13 meeting. Toler, a junior at East Carolina University, said he hopes the community can continue to rally together in order to stop a resolution from being passed.Although disappointed with the turn out for the protest Monday, he said he understood why some people couldn’t make it. “A lot of it had to do with scheduling,” Toler said.“Several people on Facebook told me that they would be there but they had to be at work.” In the past several weeks, Eastern North Carolina community members have called for establishing an organization for LGBT youth and a community center. Toler is optimistic both will come to fruition. “I think it is completely possible as long as the people of the community are willing, for Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 15 Not For Reproduction 16 Not For Reproduction JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 17 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction P R I D E Seen > 0 9 Charlotte Black Gay Pride Community Expo, July 18, 2009 More photos at www.q-notes.com/photos 18 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 19 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Q - L I V I N G County gifts $12K to SC Pride Pride receives Richland County tax grant Audiophile COLUMBIA,S.C.— SC Pride,the annual LGBT Pride festival in South Carolina,has announced its receipt of a more than $12,000 tax grant from the Richland County government. In June, the Richland County Council voted to sponsor SC Pride through an Accommodations Tax (A-Tax) Grant. The organization will receive a one-time grant of $12,692 to offset the costs of marketing and promotions for SC Pride 2009 as a statewide tourism-related project. In 2008, the City of Columbia Council voted unanimously to award SC Pride a similar grant of $10,000 toward marketing & promotion of Columbia as a tourist destination. That same year, Gov. Mark Sanford and other officials objected to state funds being spent on promoting South Carolina as a gay tourist destination, through the now infamous Singing in the night page 23 CRAPE MYRTLE TAKES IT BACK Annual event chair excited to incorporate past, present S ince 1981, Raleigh’s Crape Myrtle Festival has worked to support and give back to the community and those affected by and living with HIV/AIDS. In almost 30 years of service, the organization has raised over $1 million dollars for area charitable organizations. Despite the tough economic climate, this year’s organizers say they’ll be working hard to see that the festival is a success. With the help of featured entertainer Leslie Jordan, organizers will likely meet their goals. Leslie Jordan in the Triangle Drag Bingo Benefiting the Alliance of AIDS Services-Carolina When: July 31, 6 p.m. Where: Durham Armory 220 Foster St. Durham, NC 27701 Tickets: $17 Tickets can be purchased at several locations around the Triangle. Check www.dragbingo.com for ticket outlets, or call 919-834-2437, ext. 21 to reserve your seats. Crape Myrtle Festival Gala Benefiting area HIV/AIDS service organizations When: Aug. 1, 7 p.m.-11 p.m. Where: All Saints Chapel 110 S. East St. Raleigh, NC 27601 Tickets: $35 in advance; $45, at the door Tickets can be purchased at www.crapemyrtlefest.org and at Raleigh stores White Rabbit and Passage Consignment (cash only). This year’s chair, Ron Stephenson, says he first got involved when his friend, Kevin Colgan, signed up to be chair of the 2008 event. At the end of last year’s festival, he was asked to chair the operations for the next year. Stephenson says he’s excited to be able to honor the past of the festival while moving into the future. “The festival started off outside and it was moved inside many years ago,” Stephenson says. “I’ve heard so many different people say they wished it was still outside and that they had more time to socialize.” Stephenson is helping to make those wishes a reality. In a departure from recent events, the Crape Myrtle Gala will be split between entertainment and food inside Raleigh’s All Saints’ Chapel and a silent auction outside. “I was going to try to incorporate all that into one gala,” he says. “If you want to be outside, you can be outside. If you want to attend the performances inside, you have time to do that, too.” Stephenson says the economy hasn’t had too much of a negative impact on fundraising or planning, although individual donations have been down. “Our host party this year, which is one of our larger events, did not have as many hosts this year, even though we actually lowered the host levels,” he says. “We did not see as many hosts as we have in the past.” by Matt Comer . Q-Notes staff Corporate sponsorships, Stephenson says, have helped to make up for the difference. “We’ve been fortunate that we have had a lot of great companies donating products and services for us, like the caterers, the flowers, stages,” he says. “More companies have really done things that I thought wouldn’t be possible. Going into this, I was afraid that we’d get no donations.” Skyy Vodka, Fleurtations Weddings & Events, The Mint, BlueCross BlueShield of North Carolina, Food Lion, The Independent Weekly and QNotes are among several sponsors, also including nightlife venues Legends, Steel Blue and The CC. Recent events held to support the upcoming Crape Myrtle Gala included two June events at Flex and a July fundraising night at The CC, both in downtown Raleigh. The group has also held several parties, including a “CMF Idol” at Durham’s Steel Blue. Q About Leslie Jordan In 1982, Leslie Jordan stepped off a Greyhound bus from the hills of Tennessee, said “hello” to Hollywood and has never looked back. With hundreds of television shows, films and commercials to his credit, he has become a familiar face on the entertainment scene. Jordan is the 2006 Emmy Award Winner for Outstanding Guest Actor in a Comedy Series for his delicious portrayal of “Beverley Leslie” on “Will and Grace.” Television audiences will also remember him for his recurring roles on “Privileged,” “Ugly Betty,” “Boston Legal,” and “Reba.” Feature film audiences will recognize Jordan from his performance as “Brother Boy” in Del Shores’ adaptation of his play “Sordid Lives’” with Olivia Newton-John, Delta Burke and Beau Bridges. He is reprising the role in the television series based on the play and film for the cable network Logo. Other upcoming feature film appearances include “Love Ranch” in a wonderful scene with Helen Mirren directed by Taylor Hackford. On stage, Jordan won the Ovation Award, The Garland Award and The Los Angeles Drama Critics Circle Award for his portrayal of “Preston Leroy,” the aging, sodden barfly in Del Shores hit play “Southern Baptist Sissies.” Jordan has enjoyed considerable success as a writer. His book “My Trip Down the Pink Carpet” for Simon and Schuster is currently in bookstores. Material from the book formed the basis of a 90-minute oneman show, which had a successful 45 city book-signing/performance tour in 2008. Q — Biography adapted from Jordan’s official website, www.thelesliejordan.com. Man attacked in downtown Greensboro Witnesses heard assailants make anti-gay slurs by Matt Comer . Q-Notes staff During the early morning hours of July 4, a 25-year-old Pilot Mountain, N.C., man was attacked by a group of men witnesses say were making anti-gay slurs before and during the attack. According to friend Ricky Scott, the victim, who is not gay, was leaving a popular downtown Greensboro nightspot with two gay friends when he was struck in the back of the head and knocked to the ground. His two www.q-notes.com/qliving • QNotes Not For Reproduction ads which read “South Carolina is SO Gay.” AMRO Worldwide which placed the ads in London’s metro stations during London Pride week is also a sponsor of SC Pride 2009. 2009 marks the 20th year of organizing LGBT Pride events in the state of South Carolina. Last year’s festival had approximately 7,000-8,000 attendees according to police estimates and over 75 vendors. The Pride festival draws attendees from South Carolina, Georgia, North Carolina, Tennessee and beyond. SC Pride 2009 will be held Sept. 12 in Columbia’s Finlay Park. Admission to the park & parade is free. Q — Compiled by Q-Notes staff. Originally published July 16 at Q-Notes Online. Not For Reproduction friends ran to get help. Scott was not present during the incident. Calls made to the victim and one of the witnesses have not been returned. Greensboro Police arrested 25-year-old Tyren Hassan McNeil. He is charged with felony aggravated assault inflicting serious bodily injury. His first court date is set for July 30. He also faces a misdemeanor charge of marijuana possession. According to Greensboro Police public information officer Lt. Hope Newkirk, the victim did not recall hearing anti-gay remarks from the assailants. Witnesses described hearing the remarks in later police interviews. Q For up-to-date coverage visit: www.q-notes.com the carolinas’ multimedia lgbt news source JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction 21 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Q - L I V I N G Audiophile by David Stout . Q-Notes staff Maxwell returns in the night The conventional wisdom is that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and in many settings it’s true. Popular music, however, is generally guided by another, more cynical line of thought: Out of sight, out of time. Artists are either consistently releasing new material, performing on awards shows, guesting on talk shows or crisscrossing the nation on tour or they simply don’t exist for much of the short-attention-span general public. This scenario has played out again and again through the failed comebacks of once white-hot acts who have been greeted by icy indifference following breaks that were ill-timed or simply lasted too long. The most likely to beat these odds are the legacy artists — the stars who have been in the game for years and have produced a deep, hits-laden catalog. They can rely on the fact that they’re being played by some outlet somewhere in the world at any hour of the day or night. While he looked to be on his way straight out of the gate with the stunning “Urban Hang 22 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Suite,” soul singer Maxwell certainly hadn’t yet achieved legacy status when he went into self-imposed exile at the beginning of the decade. In fact, he’d only released three studio albums. Critics and fans alike spent the ensuing eight years wondering when — and eventually if — the talented singer/songwriter/producer would return...and whether anyone would still care either way. Now that Maxwell’s long-delayed fourth album, “BLACKsummers’night” (Columbia), has been issued and made its debut atop the “Billboard” chart, those questions have been answered emphatically. So what then of the quality of the record — was it worth the wait? My opinion is a solid “yeah, pretty much.” The album was recorded live with a crack 10-piece band and hit lead single “Pretty Wings” is a good marker for the full nine-track set. This is raw, soulful music about grown folks dealing with grown folks’ issues: love, relationships, sex. No poppin’ bottles, duets with flavor-of-the-minute rappers or droppin’ it like it’s hot to be found. Reportedly,“BLACKsummers’night” is the first act of a musical trilogy to be released in consecutive years. I hope this is true for my sake as well as Maxwell’s. I don’t want to go without another album from him for such a long time, and he ought not tempt fate with another vanishing act. Sound byte Erika Jayne’s first two singles (“Stars,” “Roller Coaster”) topped the “Billboard” Club Play chart, now her third release,“Give You Everything,” has climbed into the top 10. It’s a fantastic out-of-the-gate start for an artist hoping to establish herself with her first album. Jayne’s beat-heavy, 14-cut collection “Pretty Mess” (E1 Music) will be released Aug. 11 and promises to continue spinning off hit singles well into the winter. My advice is to jump on the Erika Jayne train early; it’s undoubtedly going somewhere you’ll want to be. Q info: audiophile@q-notes.com JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 23 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Q - L I V I N G T-Notes States have made national news for their bigotry and vitriol. In 2004, they were by Robbi Cohn . Contributing Writer cited by the FCC for “a graphic and detailed discussion of various methods that men may employ to disgrace, The bad degrade and humiliate women before, during, In May, Sacramento’s KRXQ radio staand after sexual intercourse.” tion was caught in a maelstrom of its own This latest attack upon Katie in Omaha making. Two of the three morning “shock was not only grievous and malicious, but jocks” spewed a tirade of transphobic vitriindicative of a level of hate that warrants ol, not only hateful, but also tantamount to attention. It is not a coincidence that both the incitement toward violence and directed at Department of Human Services and the children who express gender diversity. Rob Southern Poverty Law Center have noted and Williams and Arnie States went so far cautioned against escalating hate speech and above the pale of rational human behavior violence in the United States. that the show was forced to take a short I’m not inferring that either Williams or hiatus, sponsors withdrew advertising dolStates represent any specific group espouslars and both LGBT and straight press took ing a hateful agenda, but their blatant ignothe two to task for their careless and danrance and intolerance begs the question as gerous diatribe. to how many other persons hold similar [Ed. Note — Be sure to read this article online views. These people are “ripe for the for a link to the audio of the morning show.] pickin’” for hate preaching groups such as Amongst other inane statements made by Focus on the Family, the Traditional Values this duo are the following: Coaltion, American Family Association and • The transgender movement is phony. others of their ilk. As more legislative and • Trans persons all “get a free pass.” judicial victories are achieved, we can • Trans children, and adults, are only looking expect to see a ramping up from these for attention. organizations. And, expect them to get • Being trans is evil. down and dirty. • There’s no historical evidence for being There even appears to be some sort of transgender; its all made up — “transgencoalition of hateful/neo-Christian/neo-conders did not exist four decades ago.” servative/family values organizations form• The next thing will be falling in love with ing. Their short-term mission is to prevent animals. impending hate crime and discrimination These statements were nothing short of legislation from being enacted. They have incendiary: been quoted many times, insisting that pas• If my son put on high heels, I would probasage of hate crime legislation will mean the bly throw a shoe at him. I would hit him with end of free speech. Their long-term goal is a shoe. Because he’s a boy and boys don’t wear to stem the tide of those who try to foist a girls clothes. “homosexual agenda” upon the rest of the • Four decades ago, they’d tell ya to change, or world. No sense trying to explain to the we’ll put a spear though your head. likes of Rob and his sidekick Arnie the dif• You got a boy saying,“I wanna wear dressference between being trans and gay. es.” I’m going to look at him and go,“You The good know what? You’re a little idiot! You little Okay, it’s only kind of good.We take what dumbass! Look, you are a boy! Boys don’t we can get. wear dresses.” The aftermath of the KRXQ incident All this was in response to a recent story brought a public discussion of some of about Katie, an eight-year-old Omaha, Neb., the issues facing trans persons. Will we see girl. Based on Katie’s persistent female genanything permanent in attitude change at der expression since the age of four, her this juncture? Probably not. But, it is just parents allowed her to dress as a girl at one more small step in the effort to transhome. They finally decided it was in the form society, where individuality and child’s best interest for her to live full-time diversity do not fall victim to bigotry and as the girl Katie knew she was. They further thoughtless hate spewers like Williams and decided to let Katie attend school as a girl at States. Both hate crimes legislation and the private Catholic school she had previENDA are moving through Congress. The ously attended. Sadly, the administration President actually helped to commemorate refused to allow her to attend as a trans the 40th anniversary of Stonewall and youth. Instead, Katie will attend a public Jerrold Nadler, a congressman from New school next term. York, is attempting to amend the 1964 In their broadcast, Williams and States Civil Rights Act to include gender-identity accused Katie of manipulating her parents and sexual orientation. Where 10 years because she was the middle child and wantago, most of our press came from tabloids ed attention. Rob asserted that were it his and Jerry Springer, we are now seeing child, he’d have called him/her an idiot and a media attention from bona fide reporters. dumbass, and that parents who were not When miscreants like Williams and States harsh to these children were just enablers. bloviate their misguided ignorance, reaKids that persist will be punished. sonably minded persons speak up and Responding to one caller who compared take them to task. being trans to being obese, or to being a All the while, too many trans people are thief, Rob added kleptomania as an analostill living in poverty, starving and dying. Q gous behavior. She was repetitively referred — Comments and corrections can be to as “he…she…it.” sent to editor@q-notes.com. The ugly To contact Robbi Cohn, email This is not the first time Williams and robbi_cohn108@yahoo.com. The good, the bad and the ugly 24 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 25 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Q - L I V I N G General Gayety a headlock and showing a remarkable independence from self-control. by Leslie Robinson . Contributing Writer Martina Navratilova grabbed independence from her relationship Today [as I write this] is the Fourth of July. over a year ago, but now As fireworks boom outside in celebration of the icky details are coming to light, thanks to Independence Day, I’ve decided that a number the lawsuit filed by her former partner Toni of people have displayed various forms of Layton, who told Britain’s Daily Mail that the independence lately. tennis legend threw her out faster than you Take William Crilly, whose actions at the can say “Judy Nelson.” Omaha, Neb., Pride parade displayed a total Layton claimed that Navratilova ambushed freedom from common sense. her, suddenly ejecting her from their Sarasota, The Pitch reported that Crilly attended Fla., home in a scene that included aggressive Omaha’s Pride with a rainbow-colored wagon. security guards, changed locks and lawyers Atop the wagon, which judging by the photos waving a $10,000 settlement document at her. was meant to look like a coffin, a sign read,“For “I was thrown out, left homeless, penniless the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is and with only the clothes on my back.” eternal life through Jesus Christ Our Lord.” Martina was kinder to Wimbledon Obviously Crilly hadn’t come to ogle the felopponents. las. Or, maybe he had — you just never know. Layton has filed a domestic partnership Kansas City resident Kendra Konrady also lawsuit against Navratilova, claiming she sufcame to Omaha with a purpose. As a Human fered “emotional, mental and physical trauRights Campaign volunteer she handed out ma.” The lawsuit maintains the two agreed to HRC stickers along the parade route. She saw split “all funds and assets earned and Crilly’s mini-float and heard the men with it obtained by either while together.” Which spouting Bible verses. She tossed a few stickers means Layton is due a pretty Czech penny. onto the wagon. Layton said,“The greatest irony is that all A voice said,“You better not do that.” Crilly this is happening in Florida, a state that doesn’t pushed Konrady away from the wagon and recognize gay rights. Marti makes out she’s a put her in a headlock. champion of gay rights, yet here she is, hiding Whiplash is not your average Pride soubehind Florida’s antiquated same-sex laws.” venir. I usually wind up with just stickers, This battle is shaping up to be both perbeads and candy. sonally and politically ugly. Meanwhile, The crowd responded and Crilly let her go. Martina reportedly has a new girlfriend. She found a cop, who arrested him for assault. Despite her throwdowns with Judy Nelson and It might come as a shock, but I feel some now Toni Layton, Martina shows no inclinasympathy for Crilly, who’s described as 66 and tion to be independent of women. wearing two hearing aids. Here’s an older, deeply Gay and lesbian Mennonites hope to be religious man from the heartland who is seeing free of discrimination from their church.While his world turned upside down by gay freedom. the Mennonite Church USA conference was Or, he could be a hate-filled bastard with going on in Columbus, Ohio, some 100 ministiny nuts. I don’t know. ters and church members prayed and sang Either way, Crilly did a stupid thing. outside. They were dressed in bright pink. Making the affair worse yet for him, news of The “pink Menno” protest was all about what happened spread through the Pride independence from spiritual pain.And, indecrowd and HRC signed up 159 new members. pendence from good fashion sense. Q Oh, the wages of putting a Pride marcher in info: LesRobinsn@aol.com . www.GeneralGayety.com Not For Reproduction Triangle Area Flashing their independence Around The Carolinas only online • Global, National & North Carolina News Notes • Additional Newcomer Guide listings more at q-notes.com! 26 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 27 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Q - L I V I N G Tell Trinity by Trinity . Contributing Writer Foreskin: Is it making or breaking your sex life? Dear Trinity, After three months together my boyfriend suddenly revealed that he’s uncomfortable with me being uncut. In fact, he has “cut” out oral sex completely. How do I keep from feeling selfconscious? Cut To The Chase, Minneapolis, Minn. Dear Cut To The Chase, According to Madison Avenue marketing giants,“Men’s sexual desires change with the right marketing strategy.” Thus,like any male “American,” he can be marketed towards appreciating “European”features.So, first,buy some adult magazines that feature “European”men and leave them around for him to get acquainted with. Second,rent some XXX videos that, coincidentally,also feature hot “European”men and see if he starts a new fetish.Lastly,darling, make sure you are always clean down there, which can often be a problem that your lover avoids discussing! I learned my lesson living in Montreal for five years.Now keep your head high! Dearest Trinity, I’m thinking about joining the gym, but I’m very intimidated by all those,“beautiful” people. How can I get past that? Gym Crunch, Raleigh, N.C. Dearest Crunched, Start with a trainer who will make you focus on them. Find a sexy one. It helps! And, honey, remember this phrase,“Fake it till you make it!” (My cartoon has some clues on how to handle this dilemma.) Hi Trinity, My boyfriend and I have been dating for five years. But, he still lives with his parents who keep him financially secure. He’s also closeted and still hasn’t met my family. I’m tired of sleeping alone and going home alone for the holidays. Is that awful? Five-Year Itch, New York City, N.Y. Hi Itchy, Five years? In the closet? Still living at home? And, you’re now getting tired.You must be the illegitimate son of Mother Theresa. Pumpkin, you finally want a “real” life and you’re asking if that’s awful! On the contrary, it’s wonderful. Take off your holy robe, sit his butt down and have the “talk.” Tell him your needs and come out of the closet with some new agreements. If he won’t come out and play like a grown up, then take a break with a new healthy, romantic adventure.You deserve it all! Hey Trinity, My lover is turning 40 in a month. What is the best gift? Forty Thoughts, Ft. Lauderdale Fla. Hey Forty Thoughts, I don’t know your brother, but I do know about turning 30 — I mean 40. So, sweetie, buy him a gift card and stick in it: Trinity’s Timely Tips For Things You Should Have By Your 40th Birthday 1.You should have something invested in an 28 Q - L I V I N G IRA, the stock market or some sort of property, (besides an old car). 2. If you don’t have health or life insurance now, put this list down and start searching the internet. 3. If you’re still fighting with your siblings, parents or childhood sweetheart, move on and foregive everyone in your past, today. 4. By now you should have or have had a lover, a mistress, a best friend or a longterm pet (fish not included). 5. Hair-color, teeth whitening and nose clippers better be products you respect, not reject. 6. If you still can’t cook, clean or keep good financial records, then you better be great in bed. 7. If the terms: exercise, health food, a good night sleep or positive thoughts make no sense to you, then they better start to. 8.According to Joan Rivers,“the key to looking youthful is staying in style,” so an updated wardrobe is paramount. 9. If you’re dating a 20 year old and your friends get jealous, remember, 20 goes into 40 a hell of lot more than 40 goes into itself. 10. Lastly, half of your life may be over, so live, love, laugh, do everything at least once and say yes as often as you can! Q — With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama, and now performs globally. info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com Tell Trinity, P.O. Box 23861 . Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33307 Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild 800-637-8696 . www.ptown.org Out in the Stars by Charlene Lichtenstein July 25 - August 7 The Sun enters robust Leo, heralding in a time of bold initiative.We feel our oats, as well as the oats of a few select others. Get a bowl of yours today and have lunch. LEO (07.24-08.23) This is your time to shine and to spread your personal sunshine into various dark corners.Proud Lions are thrust into center stage where they meet, greet, rub elbows and create heat. How great is that? But, don’t waste your time hobnobbing with folks who don’t have your best interests at heart. You need partners in social crime. Stir up a frenzy among certain pals. VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Pull back the curtains and see who is lurking in the background of your life.Queer Virgins make some interesting discoveries. What you see now has always been there, but you did not notice it before.Make use of your newly gleaned information. Will it be for purely personal gain? Let’s hope not — you should be building up those karma points for future redemption. LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Get involved in new organizations or new platonic social circles. Like cream, you will rise to the top. Proud Libras can attract anyone they choose, so choose wisely. It would be a shame to waste this charisma on just any old group of admirers. The circles you dance in today will send you into full social orbit later in the fall. Plan accordingly and begin your launch. SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) What is it about your current career path that charges you up and makes you proud? This is the time to assess and reassess your professional path to see if it is taking you where you want to go. If you find yourself at a dead end,back up and try another route.Or,you can just park a while and cash the paychecks.When in doubt,try to take a few “mental health”days. SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Get out of town as often as possible over the next few weeks. Gay Archers are primed for rest and relaxation in foreign locales. Even short spurts can generate beneficial results. But, if money and time are tight, head to the park with a blanket and tanning oil. You never know who will stop by to bake with you in the sun. Swimsuit optional. CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) There is something very sexy about you.What is it that attracts everyone and anyone? Don’t ask too many questions — just enjoy your blast of charisma to the hilt. Pink Caps might want to take a closer look at their finances with an eye to making some drastic changes. Dig deep and see what can be done to make you deeply wealthy before your sex appeal drains. AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19)Your activities should JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction center around relationships — . Contributing Writer both making them and keeping them. Aqueerians like to think of themselves as free spirits, but it is more fun to be a free spirit when you have a comrade in arms — or arm in arm. If you are in the market, make yourself available to others. If you are in a relationship, treat your partner like royalty without all the bowing. PISCES (02.20-03.20) Guppies will find that work projects go more smoothly right now. Tasks can be accomplished easily and coworkers pitch in to help. The spotlight is on you and everything you do is appraised and reviewed. This is good news. You will finally receive credit for all the hard work that you have done. Err…you have been working hard, haven’t you? ARIES (03.21-.4.20) Ramp up your quota of fun and frolic. Gay Rams find unique and impressive ways of making their entrance upon the social stage. You are sound and fury and the life of the party. Plan to fill up your calendar. Somehow, somewhere, you meet the one person who can make your summer last through the winter. Is it hot in here or is it you? Whew! TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Queer Bulls have a few line items to check off on their domestic agenda. Will you spend your time tackling long postponed home projects? Or, will you find ways of reaching out to long lost relatives to reconnect? Whatever you choose to do, be sure that you save some rest time for lounging by the pool or beach. Life is not all one big obligation, though it seems to be now. GEMINI (05.22-06.21) No stray thought can keep contained during this time period. Suddenly anything and everything from your mind is on your lips and into the general melee. Pink Twins with a great idea or three can make their opinions known. But, choose your words wisely. Bon mots that you disperse today will ice your cake later in the year. How frosty and sugar free do you want it? CANCER (06.22-07.23) Gay Crabs with a yearn to spoil themselves will start to stink. How much do you need to spend to feel complete and happy? Surprisingly, not as much as you think. And, not as much as you are apt to spend. Strive for quality and not just for quantity. There is time to go overboard and splurge later this year. For now, find some cheap thrills and get giddy on plonk. Q © 2008 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights Reserved. Entertainment. info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available at bookstores and major booksites. JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 29 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Q - L I V I N G Out and About . compiled by Q-Notes staff Events and happenings across the Carolinas Community Centers & Switchboards Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Community Center www.queencitytheatre.com. Aug. 13 • Durham A Sordid Comedy Affair 704-333-0144 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11 Charlotte, NC 28206 www.gaycharlotte.com Kick-off the N.C. Gay and Lesbian Film Festival with a stand-up comedy all-star spectacular featuring Carolina Rhea, Rue McClanahan and “Sordid Lives” creator Del Shores. Carolina Theatre, 309 W. Morgan St. 8 p.m.Various prices. www.carolinatheatre.org/ncglff. Harriet Hancock Center Aug. 13-16 • Durham 803-771-7713 1108 Woodrow St. Columbia, SC 29205 www.scpride.org Film Fest Join queer film festival lovers from across the Carolinas and the nation as they descend on the Carolina Theatre for three full days of brilliant, starworthy LGBT films at the N.C. Gay and Lesbian Film Festival. The Carolina Theatre, 3009 Morgan St. 919-560-3030. www.carolinatheatre.org/ncglff. OutWilmington 910-762-4717 Wilmington, NC 28401 www.outwilmington.com Aug. 15 • Carrboro Amy Ray The Center Project Amy Ray of the Indigo Girls performs live. Cat’s Cradle, 300 E. Main St. $8 advance/$10 day of show. www.catscradle.com. 843-626-4953 736 8th Ave. N. Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 www.thecenterproject.com Aug. 29 • Durham Runway: Revolution Triangle Community Works Gay and Lesbian Helpline Raleigh, NC helpline@tcworks.org 919-821-0055 Alternative Resources of the Triad Community resources and referrals AwakeningCHANGE presents this special presentation of change pioneers throughout history with dance, music, poetic spoken word and creative art. Steel Blue, 1426-A S. Miami Blvd. $7-$10. www.awakeningchange.org. Aug. 29 • Greenville, N.C. Community meeting Upcoming Events: A meeting will be held to discuss Eastern North Carolina LGBT community needs and affairs, and to explore the creation of a local LGBT community center and Pride festival. Tipsy Teapot, 409 S. Evans St. 2 p.m. For more information email jamestsmith72@gmail.com. July 26 • Charlotte Aug. 29 • Clemmons Greensboro, Winston-Salem & High Point, NC OutTriad.org . OutGreensboro.com Whitewater Pride Day Unity Celebration Join Pride Charlotte for a day of fun in the sun at the U.S. National Whitewater Center. Get a special discount for $5 off a one-day pass at pridecharlotte.com/calendar.html. U.S. National Whitewater Center, 5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy. info: Announce your community event in Out & About. July 30 • Concord The House of Minavanichi holds its first annual Unity Celebration with food, vendors, live entertainment and games at Tanglewood Park. 4061 Clemmons Rd. Noon. 336-587-8789. www.minavanichi.webs.com. Q email: outandabout@q-notes.com. Outspoken open mic Diversity Den Café presents an open mic poetry night. A portion of proceeds will benefit Artists and Angels Against AIDS. 160 Concord Commons D1. www.diversityden.com. July 30 • Raleigh Women and finances Ameriprise Financial offers “Strong Women, Powerful Financial Strategies” workshop hosted at Fleming’s at Crabtree Valley Mall.Appetizers and beverages will be served at this educational seminar. RSVP via email to bobby.l.hillburn@ampf.com. Crabtree Valley Mall, 4325 Glenwood Ave. 11:30 a.m. 919-227-3176. Aug. 6-22 • Charlotte Don’t forget the Don King Awards! There are only a few days left before nominations close for the annual Charlotte Business Guild Don King Awards. To make a nomination or request a form before July 31, email businessguild@yahoo. com or call 704-565-5075.A special ceremony will be held Sept. 15 to honor 2009 awardees in the Carolina Ballroom of the Crowne Plaza Hotel in Charlotte. www.charlottebusinessguild.org. Altar Boyz Submit your events online The Altar Boyz are coming to Charlotte! Full of sharp parody, sinfully spectacular dancing, and irreverent humor, this spoof about a heavenly guy-group is adored by audiences and critics alike. Queen City Theatre Company, Duke Energy Theatre, 345 N. College St.Various times.Various prices. You can submit your event listings online.Visit www.q-notes.com/qguide/events/submit/ and fill out the form and your event will appear in our event listings online and in print! It really is that easy! Don’t Miss This Aug. 1 • Raleigh Crape Myrtle Gala The 29th Annual Crape Myrtle Festival Gala features acclaimed actor and comedian Leslie Jordan.All Saints Chapel, 110 S. East St. 7 p.m. $35, advance/$45, at the door. www.crapemyrtlefest.org. 30 JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction 31 Not For Reproduction 32 Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction Not For Reproduction JULY 25 . 2009 • QNotes Not For Reproduction