NPH Honduras volunteer handbook 2007
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NPH Honduras volunteer handbook 2007
NPH Honduras Volunteer Handbook 2007 Basic Information Welcome & Introduction On behalf of the NPH family here, we extend you a warm welcome to Nuestros Pequeños Hermanos, Honduras. As a volunteer, you have taken on a great challenge with immense possibilities for reward and growth. Volunteers have long been an important part of the NPH Family. You have a tremendous opportunity to guide the growth and development of our cherished brothers and sisters. This is far from a simple task. In your time here you will probably feel everything from exhilaration to intense frustration. Although there is no clear path to success, there are a few things to keep in mind while you serve: Be Flexible: There is a great deal of unpredictability and instability that is unavoidable in our operations. We must live within the ambiguity of partial freedom, partial power, and partial knowledge. Things will not always go well or the way you think they should. Try to see things from as many perspectives as possible and always remember the BIG PICTURE, that no matter what, our children are so much better off now compared to the situation from which they came. Be Patient: working with people in general and children in particular for a period of one year, is like tending seeds but never seeing the fruit. You will never really know how much your words, actions and example have contributed to the growth of the children. Try to accept that things won’t move as quickly as you might like. Be Positive: Everything has its good and bad points. Sometimes we all forget how much good is being done in the face of all the problems, both real and perceived. Do your best to see the good parts and you will find how much happier and productive you and everyone around you can be. This also means treating yourself and others well. Be Creative: Find unconventional solutions to problems, and help create an environment in which the children’s talents are fostered. Be Cooperative: Try to be willing to help out in whatever needs to be done, whether it’s your responsibility or not. NPH Vision for its Volunteer Program The vision of Nuestros Pequeños Hermanos is to create an intercultural community based on Christian values such as the virtues of love, faith, and hope. The members of our community dedicate themselves to serve the NPH family with integrity, responsibility, humility, mutual respect, and generosity. NPH Mission The mission of NPH is to provide shelter, food, clothing, health care, and education in a Christian family environment based on unconditional love, sharing working, and responsibility. A worldwide community of donors, staff, and volunteers enables NPH to help the children become caring and productive citizens in their countries. 1 A message from NPH International Director of Family Services Welcome to NPH Honduras. I am glad you have joined us. May you find happiness and success in all you do on behalf of our wonderful children whom we entrust to you in whatever capacity you will serve them. Whether volunteering will be a satisfactory experience of growth or a frustrating experience of stagnation for you will depend largely on your desire to look for the good in what we all try to accomplish. The two key virtues that will make our volunteer program a success are a positive attitude and a deeply felt respect for all the members of our NPH community. We know from experience that volunteering with NPH is a challenge. There will be times of joy and laughter to relish, and ordeals to endure. Volunteering is a responsibility shared between you and NPH. We do want to make your volunteer experience memorable by attending to your needs. One way to help you with your needs and assist you in reflecting on your experience is through continuous communication. There will be regular volunteer meetings that will give you the opportunity to share your experience, your joys, and your frustrations. Also, look for help when you feel overwhelmed or need advice on a particular matter. It is most important to us that you understand what a powerful role model volunteers are for our children and youth. Throughout this handbook, you will find numerous references to the fact that what we do has a larger impact on the children than anything we say. Our mission to raise orphaned and abandoned children who often have suffered neglect and abuse is challenging. We need to prepare them to become productive citizens in an impoverished country with few opportunities. Many of our rules and norms are based on the fact that we need to guide our children through positive examples onto a clear path into their own future. You may or may not agree with the way we raise our children. However, while serving NPH we need your unconditional support in our way of raising the children. Adults in any family need to speak the same language if they want to be effective in raising their children. We need to be able count on you to help us fulfill our mission to help provide a family for our children who have suffered so much in the past and who have so much to give to their country in the future. God bless you in your efforts to make NPH a better place. Sincerely, Reinhart Kohler NPHI Family Services Director 2 NPH Philosophy The mission of NPH is based on the philosophy of Fr. Wasson and centers on the following principles: Unconditional love implies that the children, upon entering the family, cannot be asked to leave nor can they be adopted. This is an attempt to ensure that their time with NPH will be one of stability. As a family, we attempt to create an environment that fosters the growth of our children. Unconditional love also implies that the children are accepted for who they are. As members of a family and as Christians, we believe that every person is an individual of worth who deserves to be respected and loved for who he or she is. Unconditional love is also reflected in the way in which a person acts toward other members of our family and toward those whose beliefs or material circumstance are different from his or her own. NPH’s objective is to help the children to feel loved in a manner that restores their dignity, hope and sense of security so that they can develop trust in their new environment, in other people, and in themselves. As Christians, we believe that the individual is part of a community and that sharing moves the individual toward others. In a similar manner, the need to share helps the children to develop a sense of belonging to their NPH family. Through responsibility and work, the children learn to value themselves for contributing to the community. Furthermore, these two aspects of their lives aid them in forming habits that are necessary for their growth toward productive and independent adulthood. Academic, physical and spiritual education is essential for the children to become wellrounded adults. Because NPH is concerned with the poor and because it operates with limited funds, those who are part of NPH live simply and modestly. History of NPH In 1954, an American priest in Cuernavaca, Mexico, took a street boy home with him. The child, claiming he needed money to eat, had robbed the young priest’s church box. Instead of testifying against the boy, the Father asked the court for custody. So began the life work of Father William Wasson, and it flourished. By 1977 the Arizona native was the adoptive father of over 1000 Mexican boys and girls. Over the past years, the family of Nuestros Pequeños Hermanos has grown to include over 3,000 Pequeños in the various NPH houses. Our Honduran home was legally incorporated in 1985. In May of 1986, the first children arrived at the doors of the new home. September of 1987 and May of 1994 mark the beginning of NPH’s homes in Haiti and Nicaragua. The homes in Guatemala and El Salvador were founded in 1996 and 1999. The Dominican Republic home opened in 2003, Peru in 2004 and Bolivia in 2005. 3 On August 16, 2006 our beloved Father Wasson passed away at the age of 82. He will always be remembered in the hearts of every one of his children and all members of the NPH family. Overview of Rancho Santa Fé NPH currently cares for approximately 550 children and young adults from the ages of one to thirty. To be admitted to NPH, the children must fit the following criteria: Their mother must have passed away or abandoned them with no hope for her return and their father must be unable to care for them. All children must come from dire poverty with no relatives able to care for them. All sisters and brothers up to the age of sixteen must be admitted together. Upon their arrival at the Ranch, the NPH physician examines the children and a social worker places them in a group home with their peers according to age and level of development and maturity. The youngest enter Casa Suyapa, the only coed house, and they remain there until the age of eight or nine. As in all of the children’s homes (“hogares”), “tías” and “tíos” care for them. After Casa Suyapa, the children move into single sex houses. From there, as the years pass, the children move to the homes for older children and young adults as they grow physically, mentally, emotionally and academically. The children take on responsibilities starting from a young age. In addition to their schoolwork, they must complete their chores. The youngest children begin with little jobs such as picking up litter or sweeping. As they get older, they move to different “hogares” and their responsibilities increase. They must wash all of their own clothes, help in the upkeep of the home, manage all of the cleaning, and even take care of their younger “brothers and sisters” in the other homes. They often also have work responsibilities on the farm or in the gardens. After completing secondary school and after each subsequent program of study, NPH asks that the children serve the family for a year. The type of service depends on the individual and the needs of NPH. Finally, if the children have the aptitude and desire to continue with their studies, NPH sends them high school or university in Tegucigalpa or other parts of Honduras. Opportunities to study in Canada, Mexico, United States or other countries exist depending on the availability of scholarships. The home, Rancho Santa Fé, is NPH’s main project in Honduras. It is located thirty-six kilometers northeast of Tegucigalpa along the highway to Olancho. The children study at the school which is located right on the grounds and has a preschool, kindergarten, primary and secondary school. There are also vocational workshops in which children can learn a full time trade. These workshops have a dual function—education and production. There are two on-site clinics: one which takes care of the medical needs of the children and the other which provides medical care for people of neighboring towns and villages. A doctor, a dentist, several nurses, a laboratory technician and two psychologists take care of all aspects of the healthcare needs of the NPH community. We are currently in the process of building a surgical center to accommodate traveling surgical brigades. 4 Casa Eva (also known as Casa Abuelos, the grandparents’ house) is a home for the elderly which is located on the Ranch. It serves the needs of those who are weak or sick and who were abandoned by their families. This house was inaugurated on November 12, 1992 and currently provides care for approximately 7 abuelos. NPH also has a home in Tegucigalpa, Casa de Los Angeles, which opened on February 4, 1991. This is a home for children with very severe mental and/or physical disabilities such as cerebral palsy, encephalitis, muscular dystrophy, downs syndrome and other diseases. There are about 14-15 children who live in this home and are cared for by a small staff and several students studying at the high school level who live with the children. The students and staff provide for their basic needs and offer physical therapy, play time, and other means of general stimulation. NPH currently employs about 170 Hondurans and receives the assistance of about twenty-five to thirty volunteers that may come from anywhere in the world. Daily Schedule ::: School days Casa Suyapa The children wake up at 6:00 AM for showers and breakfast. The children ages four or five and older who are in kindergarten or first grade start school at 8:00 AM and are in Montessori classes until noon. The smallest children who are potty trained go to Montessori preschool in a classroom in Casa Suyapa where they are in classes from 8:30 to 12:00, with the smallest children taking several breaks or finishing early. At 12:00 the preschool children eat their lunch and then change into play clothes. Around 12:30 the kindergartners and first graders arrive for their lunch. The first graders eat lunch at school a few days a week where they receive special tutoring. The afternoons are spent working and going in small groups to different places on the Ranch to play. Dinner is at 5:30, then shower and play time. Lights out is between 7:00 and 7:30. Boys and Girls in 1st through 6th Grade The children wake up between 5:00 and 5:30 depending on the home (older girls get up the earliest as they tend to take a long time getting ready!). They eat breakfast, do chores, line up for attendance, and walk to school with their tías to be there for classes at 7:30. They have a half hour recess where they are provided with a snack, and are dismissed at 1:00. Upon arriving at their homes, they change into work clothes, eat lunch and do chores. The afternoon is divided into an hour for work, an hour for homework, and free time— which can be spent playing, doing homework, organizing their lockers, washing their uniforms and other clothing, or hanging out with their friends. Dinner is at 6:00 and time after dinner is for homework and relaxation. Bedtime is at 8:00 PM. 5 Boys and Girls in Middle School and Vocational Students The day starts like that of the younger children. At 1:00, however, they eat lunch in the workshop areas (middle school students eat in the workshops twice a week and the other days they spend the afternoon in their home) and continue working and studying their trade, as well as receiving math and Spanish classes, until 4 PM. They go home at 4, where they have an hour for work as well as time to do homework before dinner at 6. Their day ends the same as the days of their younger brothers and sisters. Weekends The weekend activities are planned usually on Tuesday afternoons by the tío/as, as well as the director on weekend duty. Mass is held usually on Saturdays at 5:00 PM. Other activities often planned for weekends are sports tournaments, outings to the local villages, dance parties, talent shows or karaoke contests, recreational games, and watching TV and videos. If you have any special activities planned for the weekend, please make sure that you get permission to execute them and that they are included in the weekend plans. Casa Angeles Honduran and volunteer tío/as, as well as a doctor and volunteer physical therapists care for the Children at Casa de los Angeles. Several older children from the Ranch also live at the house and help with the work while attending high school in Tegucigalpa. The tío/as wake the children up at 6:00 AM, bathe them and feed them breakfast. At noon, the children are fed their lunch and put in their beds for a nap. At 3:00 PM, they wake the children and prepare them for therapy or play. During this time, the children are also given a snack. Dinner time is at 5:00 PM. The tío/as and students then bathe the children and put them to bed for the evening. At least one tía remains in the house throughout the night to watch over the children. Visitors are always welcome during the play and meal times. Even if a visitor or volunteer is unfamiliar with the routine, the attention that she/he pays to a child is invaluable. Spiritual Life at Rancho Santa Fé Father Wasson, the founder and general director of NPH, was a Roman-Catholic priest. The Catholic faith shapes the spiritual practice of the people who live on the Ranch. Celebration of the Mass on weekends and on holy days and funerals, and the celebration of various sacraments define the community as a spiritual whole. The weekly mass marks the only regular gathering of the entire community. We hope that in choosing to participate in our work you also want to participate in all general religious celebrations. Please know that we expect volunteers to attend general religious activities at the Ranch including participation on off duty weekends if you are at the Ranch. Remember the importance of the role model that you play as a significant adult in the children’s lives. While NPH strives to help its children develop spiritually, for many of the Pequeños religion also adds organizational structure to their days. Our faith allows us to apply messages of Christian love and charity to living here on the Ranch. In this, the volunteers have a special opportunity to offer a powerful example of service to others, unselfish giving, respect and unconditional love. 6 Being away from familiar routines and support systems taxes spiritual resources as well as physical ones, so where do volunteers find their inspiration? Whatever religious practice you are used to, things will probably be different here. Volunteers may find spiritual support in individual friends on the Ranch, in forming small spiritual support groups, or from some of the reading material in the Casa Personal library. Working as a Volunteer ::: Vision & Purpose of the Volunteer Program The volunteer program at NPH is a program of opportunities. Jon Sobrini said, “To have faith does not only mean to believe in the dignity of life but to create the possibility of a life in dignity.” The NPH Honduras volunteer program invites people of all ages and from all backgrounds to participate in the endeavor to create a life in dignity for destitute, orphaned and abandoned children in Honduras. We open this invitation to people who have the desire to be of service to the NPH community and to help it in whatever way they can to achieve its mission. Our volunteer program offers a wider range of experiences from unique friendships and life enriching cross-cultural encounters to work experiences rarely available in highly industrialized countries. Volunteers have the opportunity to work in the areas of childcare and childcare support, education, health care, farming, or administration. The concept of having volunteers is to support —not replace— our Honduran staff, as well as to give more individualized attention to the children. However, the possibility also exists in some cases for volunteers to take positions of supervision or guidance if they have the qualifications and are willing to make a longer commitment to our community. Ideally, the program will bring out the best in you. You have the opportunity to develop and to share your talents while serving others. It will also challenge and expand your limits to endure stress and to cope with the unknown and the unexpected. Especially for those who work directly in childcare, the demand on your emotional giving will be very high, and you may miss the intellectual stimulation you may be used to from your home environment. The benefits of a volunteer program for the NPH community are many. Volunteers are often highly trained and skilled individuals whom NPH otherwise could not afford or find in Honduras. They bring fresh ideas and perspectives that help meet the challenges of our daily operations. However, it is equally as important to understand that volunteers need to respect NPH norms and rules and many of its way of doing things. We know what we do even though it may seem old fashioned and inadequate to you, because what we do has grown from an experience of many years in many different settings. 7 You have accepted a long-term geographical separation from your parents, brothers, sisters, and friends in order to become a part of our family. You bring with you a missionary spirit, a desire to give of yourself and to serve to the best of your abilities. Such a spirit is contagious and reemphasizes for paid staff the importance of our work. Finally, the importance of volunteering in general is that one person can make a difference. At NPH Honduras, your loving care for a child may influence him or her to change his or her attitudes and to set out on a positive path in life. As one Pequeño once told me, “Every kind act we receive will help us to turn our lives around.” The drawbacks of a volunteer are the flip side of its strengths. People who are highly educated or skilled are often very opinionated. They may believe that they have all the answers. Unaware of our limited resources, culturally different ways of doing things, or the long evolution of certain approaches to our work, volunteers may demand in an imposing way that NPH and its staff change its working approach in whichever field the volunteer serves as an aide. In addition, some volunteers tend to believe themselves superior to the local people because they have received a better education. These two situations can become difficult to handle when they are compounded by the zeal of the missionary spirit. Volunteers will certainly be accepted more readily by our local staff if they work side by side with them, try first of all to understand them, and respect NPH’s structure and regulations just as the staff has to do. Commitment & Expectations of a Volunteer NPH Honduras has between 20-30 volunteers filling a variety of different positions. Our degree of interaction with the children can vary significantly between volunteer positions. However, in whatever we do, we are all working for the benefit of the children. You may find yourself asked to fill a position that you have little to no experience with. This is more common than you might think. The work we do here is very “NPH-specific” and requires a great deal of self-training and orientation. Your new work and responsibilities will no doubt be filled with new challenges and experiences. Once we have accepted you we count on you to fulfill your time commitment. Remember that by inviting you to join our program, other applicants for the same position did not get accepted. Each position a volunteer fills is important and if you decide to leave early we will not have a replacement to carry out the tasks of your job. “Our volunteers are selected as much for their commitment to serve the children and the organization as for their individual skills and experience.” NPH values your skills, experience, and vocation very much. Our needs, coupled with your ability to learn and adapt will give rise to the position that you will eventually fill. 8 Commitment, a positive attitude and flexibility are perhaps the most valued qualities you can bring to us. As a family, NPH celebrates all holidays together with special programs and activities. As a member of this family, you are expected to spend all major holidays with the children (see VACATIONS). If you wish to extend your stay, you will need to speak with the Volunteer Coordinator and the NPH Executive Director. Your request will be reviewed and a decision will be made based on the length of extension requested, work performance, health, language ability, and NPH needs at the time. Your extension should be for at least six months, though volunteers working in the school slated to leave in July are encouraged to stay until the end of the school year in November. We encourage successful volunteers to stay with us longer because it is beneficial for our children. Typical Work Schedules Your work hours will vary according to the job you are performing. In addition to the hours listed in the following examples, all volunteers, except for the medical staff and tíos and tías, are expected to spend evenings from 6:00–8:00 with their hogar. School Teacher: School teachers are expected to be at school for the start of the school day at 7:20 am. Three days per week, teachers work until 1:15 PM, and two days per week until 4:00 PM. Those hours will vary somewhat from position to position. Afternoons are a mix of prep time for classes and free time. Medical Staff: If you are working as a nurse or doctor on the Ranch, your scheduled work hours will vary considerably. Mondays through Fridays, the External Clinic is open at 7:30 AM and closes when the last patient is seen (around noon). Volunteer staff also works at the Internal Clinic along with our staff nurses and doctor, seeing patients on a regular basis in the afternoons. Having demanding schedules, medical volunteers work from 7:00 AM until 6:00 PM with an afternoon break (descanso). Because the needs of the clinic take precedence over the volunteers work in hogar, the clinical staff has much more flexible hogar times. Since our Ranch doctor sees the children usually from 4:00 pm to 7pm or until the last one leaves, medical volunteers may not have time to participate in a regular hogar activity. Office Staff: Office workers at Rancho Santa Fé work from 7:30 AM until 4:00 PM. The office staff often has more flexibility of movement throughout the day, depending on the demands of their job. Most important is that the job gets done. Maintenance/Farm Worker/Other Labor: Most of the support staff that keeps the Ranch going start their work day at 7:30 AM and end at 4:00 PM, with an hour for lunch from 12:30–1:30 and either every other weekend or every Saturday. 9 Tío/Tía: Like the medical staff volunteers, the tío work schedule is also quite demanding. Schedules vary according to what house you will be working in. Tíos working in the Marañon and the Rancho typically work from 5:30-7:30 AM and from 12:50-8:00 PM. On their work weekend, tíos start Friday afternoon and work through Sunday with time off on Monday afternoon. Free weekends start Friday morning at 8:00 AM and go through Monday at 12:00 PM. Tíos working in Casa Suyapa have a slightly different schedule, often starting work at 6:00 AM and working until 1:00 PM, then spending the evening from 6:00 PM until bedtime. They generally follow the same weekend schedule as other tíos. you. Volunteers spend weeknights from 6:00-8:00 PM in their hogar eating, working or playing with the kids. On their work weekend, volunteers participate with Ranch activities. There are two options for spending your work weekend with your hogar. Option A includes spending Friday night and Saturday working with your hogar. Option B includes integrating with your hogar beginning at 4:00 pm on Saturday, the typical time that mass begins, and continuing to participate with hogar activities through Sunday night. Occasionally, there are special events that require volunteers to be with their hogares at other times. This schedule does not apply to a volunteer in the position of tío/tía or a member of the medical staff. Choosing and Working with an Hogar Volunteers bring with them a wonderful spirit and ability to work with our children. In fact, one of the primary reasons we believe so strongly in our volunteer program is because you can be a powerful and beneficial example to the kids. Because of that, we hope each volunteer will choose and become a special part of a hogar. Most volunteers say their most important time on the Ranch was that spent in hogar. It provides a unique opportunity to help out and develop special friendships with the children. Veteran volunteers and the Volunteer Coordinator will help you choose a hogar that’s right for Stipends All volunteers who work for 2 months or more receive a monthly stipend. We try to maintain the stipend at 2/3 of the Honduran minimum wage. Volunteers receive their stipends on the last Thursday of each month. Since this is also the day that all employees receive their paychecks, volunteers are assigned to pick the checks up between 2:15 and 3:00 PM. Those working in the school should pick up their checks at recess time (during the regular school year). The checks can be cashed at any Banco Occidente in branches across Honduras. 10 Living on the Ranch ::: Housing Most single volunteers are housed in Casa Personal, a large building consisting of rooms with their own bath rooms, dormitories, kitchen, office, and laundry area, all surrounding an open courtyard. Occasionally, there are accommodations outside Casa Personal available to volunteers. When you first arrive, you’ll probably live in the dorms for a month or so until older volunteers have completed their year of service. When space is available, you will be given a room with another volunteer. Volunteer families will be given housing in one of the available casitas on the Ranch. The casitas all have separate bedrooms, combined kitchen/dining/living areas, and bathrooms. Valuables Since many of our children come from situations with very few resources and possessions, they can become fascinated with you and your roommate’s/family’s things. Keep your room/house locked at all times and never let a child enter your room/house unattended. When you are away for an extended period of time (weekends or vacations) be sure to close your windows. Smoking/Drinking Since we teach our children on the Ranch that smoking is an unhealthy and lifethreatening habit both to the one smoking and those nearby, our hope would be that volunteers will respect this policy and will not smoke. If you are a smoker, we strongly encourage you to consider your time with us as an opportunity to kick the habit. But if you continue to smoke, here are some guidelines which you must follow: Never smoke around kids or where kids can see you or smell smoke. Never offer cigarettes or encourage/permit smoking by any kids. Many children on the Ranch have previously lived with (and suffered from) parents or family members with drinking problems. Keeping in mind the guidelines for smoking, we ask that you consume alcohol responsibly (drinking excessively is absolutely prohibited), only in your private living space, and never with kids present. Finally, clean up any cans or bottles; don’t leave evidence of your drinking where kids can see it (in your rooms, along the walkways in Casa Personal, or in trash barrels). Do not visit with the children after having consumed alcoholic beverages 11 Clothing You may wonder what to wear at times. In most cases, your common sense or the examples of the staff are all you need. Hondurans in general take pride in their appearance. Teachers, administrative assistants, and other professionals at the Ranch dress neatly in slacks or skirts, pressed shirts or blouses, and shined shoes. Children wear clean school uniforms with few if any wrinkles, along with sturdy shoes. No one is barefoot. Out of school, jeans and casual but clean shirts are common. For Mass and special events, most of the children dress up. Around the Ranch, neat shorts or jeans, clean T-shirts, and sandals or casual shoes are acceptable. If you are planning to spend time inside the school classrooms or clinics, long pants or skirts are recommended. If you head into Tegucigalpa, you will feel less conspicuous if you avoid shorts and overly casual clothing. Living in Community Living in a close community, where everyone depends on each other for their food, housing, cleanliness and companionship, is an opportunity for forming deep friendships and experiencing deep personal growth. It can also be a very challenging time. You will be surrounded by others who behave and believe differently than you. Some people’s actions will seem confusing or irresponsible. You may have a roommate or neighbor that irritates you. And at times, even when constantly surrounded by others, you may feel lonely and unwanted. Here are a few suggestions for how to have a positive experience while living in a community: Reach out to others. Try to spend a few minutes each day connecting with someone. One of the best and most surprising aspects of living with all kinds of people (including ones that you wouldn’t normally choose to be around) is that you sometimes realize that your first impressions are wrong. Good relationships take time, and an open mind. Do your share of the work. All it takes to disrupt the good intentions (and friendship) of others is for one person in a community to become lazy. When that happens, others become angry because they either have to work harder or live with the consequences. And they, too, will soon not clean up after themselves. Don’t always be right. Listen carefully to the needs of others and offer to compromise. Strive for a “win/win” solution to a problem. When the actions of someone are bothering you, talk first to that person. One of the most destructive forces in a community is to talk about someone behind his or her back. Often an honest conversation is all it takes to achieve some sort of understanding and restore a relationship. Find times, on a regular basis, to be alone. If you have enough alone time, you will probably be able to live more happily with others. Create fun times. Surprise others with a plate of cookies. Share a joke and a laugh. 12 Relationships Moral life cannot be reduced to “a series of prohibitions,” but instead “should be a loving response to God’s call to the dignity, the nobility, the ideal of a new creature in Christ.” — Oscar Andres Rodriguez, Cardinal of Honduras Part of making sure that your stay with us will be successful is that you know what we expect from you. Our expectations are solely for the benefit and well being of our children. These expectations include, among other things, that you understand that the children’s needs supersede our own needs, that you will refrain from physical punishment, speak appropriately to the children, and engage only in responsible personal relationships. The latter is unusual as a work expectation and has proved difficult for some volunteers in the past. From experience we have learned, however, that the well being of our children depends on the responsible behavior of our employees and volunteers in this regard. Over time, we have developed guidelines regarding relationships by which we expect employees and volunteers to abide. We think that the reasons for these standards will make their need clear to you. Most of our children come from horrible environments. Their experiences before coming to NPH have been dominated by relationships that are largely sexual, without commitment, and in many ways harmful. Our children and young adults often have difficulties distinguishing between maternal/paternal love, friendship, and sexual love. The adults they have seen and known often have treated sex irresponsibly. Most of our children are a living testament to this casual attitude. They have little exposure to healthy relationships or even to the responsible end of a relationship. Whoever joins NPH in whatever position assumes responsibility for the formation of our children and young adults. As their surrogate parents, we are called to ensure that their home on the Ranch is free of bad examples and painful reminders of their pasts, that they receive the paternal/maternal and friendship love that is clearly distinguishable from sexual love. We also will try to instill healthy values in them regarding sex and relationships, so that they do not continue to produce the next generation of unwanted children. The final challenge is one of the most important and difficult tasks that we face. The daily examples of staff and volunteers are some of the strongest influences on the growth of the Pequeños/as, and your behavior should constantly reflect that fact. The Pequeños/as are very perceptive and almost all activities on the Ranch will eventually become public knowledge. For this reason, we must always maintain exemplary conduct. An attitude of serious regard for relationships, love, and an abstinence from sex are difficult to nurture in our children. It is, however, a very important value that we wish to instill in our children for their future well being and for the good of their country. Unfortunately, a few bad examples will spoil the hard work and sacrifices of other people. 13 It is for these reasons and with many years of experience that we have developed the following expectations: as encouragement for Pequeños/as to explore sexual aspects of their relationships. Dating, romantic relationships, and sexual relationships with current Pequeños/as are prohibited. Pequeños/as is a common name for the children and young adults who are in NPH’s care. This rule applies even to adult Pequeños/as, some of whom are older than volunteers. Regardless of what you think the children suspect, refrain from premarital sex when on the NPH premises or around Pequeños/as on other occasions. Other romantic relationships between volunteers, staff members, and adults not associated with NPH are accepted so long as: the relationships are not a distraction from work or are responsible for the children becoming a second priority during your stay here. And that the relationships are handled appropriately. For us this means that your example should always encourage attitudes of equality, respect, understanding, and kindness. It also means that at no point should the children suspect your relationship is sexual unless you are married. Therefore, we do not allow couples to share rooms at the Ranch even though they have lived together in their home country prior to joining NPH. The point is that your example should in no way serve In addition to avoiding irresponsible relationships, you should refrain from inappropriate language, flirtatious behavior, physical threats, and other behaviors you wouldn’t want your own children to copy. It is our hope that you see the reason for our concern and for guidelines we have developed. Please feel free to discuss these issues with the Volunteer Coordinator. Giving Gifts It is natural to share what you have with others less fortunate. Please remember that the most precious and important thing you can share is your love and attention. We need to be fair to all kids, so we ask that any gifts you consider giving be ones that are intended for an entire group (like a board game or soccer ball). We also want to decrease the possibility that kids start judging volunteers for what they have (or give), rather than for what they are. 14 Basic Supplies Food/Snacks Meals are available in the kitchen (cocina) or with the children in your chosen hogar. Bring a plate or bowl, cup, and spoon with you. Here are mealtimes from Monday through Saturday: Breakfast 6:30–7:30 AM Lunch 12:30–1:30 PM (1:30–2:00 PM in the hogar) Supper 5:30–6:45 PM On weekends meals are served generally ½ hour later than on a weekday. Please note that Pequeños are not allowed to eat in the main kitchen. Every Thursday between 1:30 and 3:30, fruits, vegetables, and eggs are available from the bodega. One or two volunteers living in Casa Personal load up a wheel barrow with produce to share with the whole house. Volunteer families pick up their own food from the bodega. In addition, on the first Thursday of each month, volunteers may get other staples, including flour, sugar, salt, spaghetti, tomato paste, and oil. Volunteers are also welcome to use the kitchen in Casa Personal. To keep the kitchen as free from cucarachas as possible and pleasant for all volunteers, please store your food in containers that seal tightly, and clean up after yourself. Keeping a community kitchen clean is the responsibility of each person who uses it. Warning: Food that is not in some sort of bag or container is often assumed to be community property. If you want something to eat or drink between meals, here are a few nearby possibilities: At the main gate (portón): purified water, juices, milk, bottled sodas, sweet bread At the kitchen (cocina) (ask during meals): larger bottles of cola or other soda At the school: sodas, juices, chips, comida tipica At the workshops: sodas, juices, chips, comida tipica At a small store (pulpería) in La Venta: fruits, vegetables, chips, cookies, other staples Water All water here at the Ranch is chlorinated, though only some is filtered. The Outside faucets - which are painted blue (like the one outside Casa Personal) - as well as the kitchen faucets in most of the Ranch houses, provide potable (drinkable) water. Although many volunteers adapt to the Ranch’s potable water in a month or two, we recommend that newcomers drink purified or boiled water. Five-gallon bottles of purified water are stored in a rack inside Casa Personal and cost US$1.50 each (the equivalent in Lempiras changes depending on currency devaluation). When you need water, ask the volunteer(s) in charge of the water to unlock the rack. Pay for your water when you take it, and return your bottles as soon as they are empty. Fruit drinks provided at the kitchen are made with Ranch water. Only take these drinks if you have adapted to the Ranch water and it will no longer cause you an upset stomach. 15 Hygiene Items On the first Tuesday of every month between 7:00-3:30, you may pick up basic hygiene items at the main bodega. Each month you will receive toilet paper, toothpaste, hand soap, and laundry soap. Every 3rd month you’ll receive a bottle of liquid floor soap and bleach. Keys When you arrive, you’ll receive keys to your room/house and to the main door of Casa Personal. You will also receive sets of keys that are pertinent to your specific job. In an attempt to limit the number of lost keys we ask that all volunteers be responsible for the replacement cost for misplaced keys. We also ask that if you would like to make a copy of any key on the Ranch that you first receive authorization. Free Time: Weekends/Salida NPH is a mission based organization with the priority to serve our children. We work hard here and because of the type of work we do and the fact that there is so much to do, we do not follow a 40-hour work week. Volunteers are entitled to every Sunday off, as well as every other Saturday. Weekends in which you have both Saturday and Sunday off are called “salida” weekends. Volunteers working as tíos, tías, or in medical positions may have different schedules. You are free to spend your salida as you wish—traveling, visiting the homes of your Honduran friends and coworkers, or simply relaxing on the Ranch. If you leave the Ranch, please advise someone about your plans in case of an emergency. We ask that you try to be flexible, as very often holidays, fiestas, and meetings fall on someone’s salida, regardless of how carefully they are planned or scheduled. We cannot stress enough the importance of holidays and special events for the children. These days often involve some work and organization by the volunteers; however, the joy of the children makes it worth it. Vacation Volunteers are allowed 20 working days of vacation after their first 6 months of work (schedules vary for volunteers working in the school), all of which must be approved by the Volunteer Coordinator, your direct supervisor, and the Executive Director. We ask that you take this vacation in blocks of 1 or 2 weeks (rather than 1 or 2 days at a time) so that your work schedule is not interrupted often. If you work in the school, we ask that you take these vacations at a time that coincides with school vacations: during Holy Week (usually in April), a nationally determined week off of classes in June, a week in September which coincides with the celebration of independence in Honduras, and time during the December/January Vacation Courses. If you do not work at the school, you are expected to be with the children during Holy Week and Easter, and can take vacation time as approved by your direct supervisor and the Volunteer Coordinator. All volunteers are expected to stay on the Ranch for Christmas (a few days before Christmas until just after New Year’s), during the Olimpiadas (the Ranch’s version of the Olympics, usually held in July), and for Quinceañeros, since these are very special times for the children. If you want to see a lot of Honduras or Central America, we encourage you to travel before or after your service with NPH. 16 Visa Residency Status Renewing Your Visa/Gaining Residency Status All volunteers enter the country as tourists, but in order to function in the county as a 13–month volunteer, you must go through the process of changing your migratory status to that of a resident. All of the necessary paperwork will be handled by NPH’s administrative office. Once resident status has been approved (this can take 6 months or more and some volunteers may never receive resident status), you are given a temporary identification paper which can be used until the resident’s card is granted. While this process is underway, volunteers must request an extension of their visa regularly (every 60 days for U.S. citizens, every 90 days for most European countries) in the Ranch office or in the Padrinos office. Your passport needs to be turned in with the extension form. If you are late in turning in your form and passport, the government charges a 1300 Lempira fee that you must pay in cash. Those not getting residency may need to leave the country for at least 3 days after 6 months. The whole application for resident status can be a tedious (but necessary) process which involves gathering documents, having pictures taken, signing papers, and waiting. As with most procedures in Honduras, there are frequent delays, changes in policy, and even lost papers. Your patience and cooperation is greatly appreciated. Your resident card should be carried at all times when you are away from NPH, and can sometimes help you obtain discounts at hotels or tourist sites. Medical Health Information Staying Healthy Many people know the difference between healthy and non-healthy practices but choose to follow the latter. Volunteers often get sick when they can avoid illness. All of the volunteers’ jobs (like those of the Honduran staff) are difficult. Yet, unlike the Hondurans, you must adapt to a new culture, climate and food. These demands can be draining, both mentally and physically, making you more susceptible to illness. In addition, volunteers are exposed to more diseases in Honduras than at home. Here are some suggestions to help you maintain your health and protect against illness: Nutrition: Make an effort to eat balanced meals. Take vitamins. Drink a lot of liquids. Not drinking sufficient amounts of liquids leaves a person vulnerable to bronchitis, pneumonia, and respiratory diseases. Rest: Getting enough rest is essential for good health. Take time for yourself. Both mental and physical health is affected when a person does not sleep enough or does not take time to relax. Most volunteers not only get sick with diarrhea, but are also plagued with colds and other minor illnesses. The change in food and climate weakens defenses, so it is important to take vitamins, eat well and rest. 17 Diarrhea: Most foreigners have upset stomachs and diarrhea soon after their arrival in Latin America. Health care professionals do not completely understand the reasons for this phenomenon. They suggest that it may be a symptom of the change in the type and quantity of the bacteria that normally inhabits Europeans’ or North Americans’ gastrointestinal systems. Ways to minimize the chances of getting diarrhea: Drink only purified or boiled water. The water that comes out of the faucets in Tegucigalpa is not pure, and for drinking should be boiled for at least 20 minutes. Purified water is readily available in Tegucigalpa. All water at Rancho Santa Fé is chlorinated, but only some is filtered. Filtered water comes from the taps that are painted blue, and is safe to drink, though it may need to be boiled during the rainy season. In restaurants, ask for drinks without ice (sin hielo). Sometimes the ice comes from impure water. American fast food restaurants are safe. Do not eat fruits and vegetables that you did not peel yourself. For fruits and vegetables that cannot be peeled, soak them for a few minutes in water mixed with a few drops of bleach. Purified water alone (or with soap) does not kill the microorganisms on fruits and vegetables. Avoid eating meat or dairy products from street stands where the vendors leave the items in the open heat or sun. How to treat diarrhea: Do not use constipating agents or antibiotics. The medicine may mask a problem more serious than diarrhea. Stop eating. Give your body a rest. When you have diarrhea, your body loses a lot of water and certain salts. Drink soup, tea, water, etc. We recommend Litrosol (a package with essential electrolytes) and also Peptobismol. Stay far away from dairy products: liquids as well as solids. If you have diarrhea for more than one day, the following eating plan may help: After drinking only clear fluids for one day, eat dry, mashed potatoes, mashed bananas, apples, or similar food items on the second day You may eat boiled meats and vegetables on the third day You should try to wait until at least the 4th day to begin eating dairy products, fresh fruits, fresh vegetables and fried foods. 18 HIV & Hepatitis Kids get sick more often than adults, due to their immature immune systems, and pass their illness to others more readily due to less control of their bodily fluids. Volunteers at NPH may be especially concerned about contact with children with HIV or Hepatitis B. In general, the same precautions for preventing the spread of any other illness (mainly, frequent hand washing) are sufficient. Hepatitis B and HIV are blood-borne diseases, so contact with blood and blood-containing fluid should be avoided. Gloves are easily available in each hogar’s first-aid box, and you can ask for a pair from the clinic to carry around if you want. Hepatitis B is more easily transmitted than HIV, but Hepatitis B immunization (which is required for volunteers) is protective. HIV transmission is almost exclusively either prenatal (mother to child), sexual, or via shared needles. We can safely hug, kiss, touch, and play with all the children on the Ranch. You may have more colds or more frequent diarrhea, or you may even get head lice, but your risk for HIV or Hepatitis B infection is almost nonexistent. Medical Facilities The Ranch has two clinics. The External Clinic, located near the front gate, serves the needs of residents from outlying towns, and operates 5 days a week, Monday through Friday. It is open for Ranch employees, volunteers, and children Monday through Friday mornings. The laboratory is located in the external clinic. The Internal Clinic, infirmary, and pharmacy, located near the main office, serve the needs of the Ranch community, including the kids, staff, and volunteers. Hours are 7:00 AM–7:00 PM. If you need medical attention, go to the Internal Clinic during normal hours and talk to the volunteer medical staff. For true emergencies, 24 hours a day, find someone with a radio or call the clinic extension (729) on the phone. You can also call the gatekeeper at the portón (714 or 715), who will alert clinic staff. In the near future we will open a minor surgery center to be staffed by traveling surgical brigades. Transportation Getting To and From Tegucigalpa Buses traveling toward Tegucigalpa pass the gates of the Ranch frequently, approximately every half hour, until about 6:00 PM. They are almost always yellow or blue school buses and they are owned by private individuals. Raise your hand to indicate that you want them to stop. The current fare to Cerro Grande, a suburb just above Tegucigalpa (where you’ll get off to transfer to a colectivo taxi), is 12 Lempiras. The fare is not collected by the driver, but by another person who either walks through the bus collecting from each person or takes your money as you get off. Depending on the age and power of the bus, the daring of the driver or the amount of traffic, the ride to Cerro Grande will usually take from 30–45 minutes. Get off at the DIPPSA gas station in Cerro Grande (Zona 4). Cross the road and walk one block downhill to the first street, where you’ll find colectivo taxis, which take 4 passengers and charge a flat rate of 9.5 Lempiras per person. 19 After a 10-minute drive, they will drop you close to the center (centro). From the centro, you can ask where to find colectivo stands that send taxis to other parts of the city. If you’re going far from the center especially if you’re with 2-3 others - you may find it almost as cheap to take one regular taxi instead of two colectivos. Negotiate the price before you get in; 50 or 60 Lempiras should get you from Cerro Grande to the malls, airport, or outer areas. To return to the Ranch, find your way back to Cerro Grande (zona 4) and catch a bus which stops by the tree-shaded chicken/snack shop just north of the DIPPSA station. Warning: late afternoon buses are often packed. The last buses leave Cerro Grande around 7:00 PM, though we recommend leaving before this time since there are no guarantees. As you get on, it’s a good idea to tell the driver’s assistant that you’re going to Rancho Santa Fé. Then, watch the small white kilometer signs and be prepared to walk forward when you spy the Ranch gates, which are just before the 36 kilometer sign. Coming & Going with Ranch Vehicles Private transportation from the Ranch can be available if you can arrange to go with one of the cars, trucks or buses that travel between the Ranch and Tegucigalpa almost daily. These vehicles leave frequently, but depend on the needs of the house. To find out if it is possible to catch a ride, you need to communicate ahead of time with the person in charge of transportation in the main Ranch office. Volunteers who spend the weekend off the Ranch can usually catch a ride back to the Ranch with our NPH bus around 5pm at the Cerro Grande Zona 4 shopping center. The bus brings a group of high school and university students to town after they worked their weekend duty at the Ranch. Tt is beneficial to call and check in advance because depending on activities, the bus may be later or earlier of not run at all. Under no circumstances may a volunteer take the bus which leaves from Casa Angeles at 6:00 AM every weekday morning. Reserved for Ranch employees who live in Tegucigalpa, it is full every morning without exception. You must take public transportation and arrive on time for work Monday if you do not take the Sunday afternoon bus. Since the employee bus that goes from Rancho Santa Fé to Tegucigalpa every weekday afternoon is not as full as it is in the mornings, volunteers are allowed wait at the main gate and ride along if there is space. The bus leaves at 4:00 PM. Hitchhiking Do not hitchhike. We have good reasons for asking you not to hitchhike. Drivers (of the car you’re in or the cars coming at you) are often unskilled, erratic, and go too fast. Even a minor accident can cause riders in the backs of trucks (where hitchhikers often find themselves) to be tossed out, leading to serious injury or death. Also, former volunteers have had very negative experiences while hitchhiking. We care about you and your safety. Please know that we do not assume responsibility if you choose to go against this advice. 20 Pets and Animals Rancho Santa Fe is home to many creatures and animals as it is located in the rolling hills outside the capital of Tegucigalpa. Inherent to any natural setting they are many animals on the rancho, wild and domestic. It is prohibited for those volunteers living in Casa personal, the primary volunteer housing on the ranch, to acquire pets. There are some currently, but no more are allowed. While we cannot control the animals that happened to wonder onto the ranch, we expect volunteers living outside Casa Personal to consider certain regulations when it comes to pets. We ask that before acquiring a pet that you please consult with the community in which you live to be sure that everyone accepts the new animal. It is unfair to force others in the community to conform and live with an animal that may disturb them. One must also consider the fate of the animal after you leave. It is not fair to require current volunteers to care for your pet nor is it fair to abandon the pet when you commitment is done. If there is no one to care for the animal, it must be then put to sleep. Once animal is obtained, one must consult a medical center to obtain suggested vaccinations e.g. rabies, and recommended anti-parasite medications. This is important because these animals when sick can pass illnesses to humans on the ranch. We especially need to protect our children with HIV as a simple parasite can mean a serious illness. As an owner, you must accept responsibility for the reproduction of the animals. Spaying and neutering is the best option and is strongly encouraged. However, if the animal, male or female, reproduces, you are responsible for all offspring. As volunteers it is important that we are responsible examples to the children. We must care for the ranch as our home but understand that we will one day leave and cannot leave those on the ranch responsible for our decisions. Communicating Phone/Fax We know that communicating with others (and having them communicate with you) is important. Unfortunately, the Ranch suffers from unreliable phone service to the outside world (meaning that many calls simply don’t get through), and communication can be complicated. Unless a prior plan has been made (date, time and place), family and friends calling the Ranch will most likely need to leave a message for you and then call back in about half an hour. This allows time for someone to locate you and for you to find a phone. Some volunteers choose to purchase cell phones in Tegucigalpa. Not every carrier gets reception on the Ranch, so make sure you ask your Volunteer Coordinator before buying a phone. Though you must buy prepaid phone cards in order to make local calls, all incoming calls (both national and international) are free. 21 There is a fax machine in the Padrinos office that volunteers may use to send and/or receive faxes. You may have to plan your communication by fax for a free afternoon when you can go to the office in the city, or you can also send and receive documents through the carrier envelopes that are passed daily between the Ranch and the Padrinos office. Here are the phone and fax numbers that you can give friends and family members: Ranch Office Open Monday–Friday, 7:30 AM–4:00 PM 224-0573 Ranch Switchboard (main gate portón— staffed 24 hours a day) 798-3923 Casa Alistar/Casa Angeles 236-7300 Fax (Tegucigalpa) 224-3684 Personal Cell Phones You can purchase a cell phone for roughly $50 new and either sign up for a monthly plan or buy debit cards that give you a certain amount of usage time on the phone. Cell phones are very common among the volunteers and it is the easiest way for them to communicate with family and friends. How you can reach others by phone Most volunteers use the inexpensive phone service offered by internet cafés (currently 2-6 Lempiras per minute, depending on the country you’re calling, and remember calling cell phones is significantly more expensive). The quality of the connections, from excellent to terrible, often depends on the time of day—mornings are often best— and how many users there are. Some volunteers use calling cards that work overseas. Although they are much more expensive than the phones in an internet café, they can be used from any regular phone or public pay phone and provide an excellent connection. The only Ranch phone with an outside line is located in the main Ranch office. When it is working, you may use it for emergencies or important calls. Letters & Packages Mail service to and from Honduras is probably not as reliable as your home country. Most letters and small packages arrive within 2–3 weeks from the United States or Europe, but sometimes larger packages arrive missing some of their contents, badly beaten up, and months after they were mailed. Nevertheless, most volunteers receive packages without too many problems. We do recommend that you don’t try to send or receive valuables by mail. A good alternative is to check with the Visitor’s Coordinator or with other volunteers to see if someone from your home country can bring packages directly to you, or return with letters/packages from you. Letters sent to you are brought to the Ranch every other day, sorted, and put in your individual mailbox in the main Ranch office. When you receive a package, the office secretary will put a notice in your box. Check with her to receive an official post office package claim notice, which you will use to claim your package. Packages can be picked up in either of 2 locations: the small package department of the main post office (downtown, near the center), or the post office’s package center at the airport. Both offices charge a fee for picking up packages, typically 5 Lempiras for small packages downtown, and 10 Lempiras or more for bigger packages at the airport. 22 The following address is for receiving both letters and packages from friends and family: [YOUR NAME] Nuestros Pequeños Hermanos Apdo. Postal 3223 Tegucigalpa, Honduras Central America Email There is a small internet room at the Ranch which you can use for personal correspondence and for work purposes. It is open daily and there is a nominal fee for usage (10 lempiras the hour). Since the service is not always reliable, many volunteers prefer to use the many reliable internet cafés in Tegucigalpa. Two convenient cafés are located in Cerro Grande, less than a minute walk from the bus stop (saving you the colectivo ride into the center). The cafés charge 15–30 Lempiras for an hour of internet connect time, and some offer significant discounts for NPH volunteers. Visitors accommodations if available. Rancho Santa Fé has only a couple houses and rooms available in addition to beds in the men’s and women’s dorms (when available). Please be aware that NPH receives many visitors, especially in December, January, July, and August when many former volunteers, benefactors and volunteer family members visit because of school vacation time in their country. If you do not put in a reservation on time, NPH may not be able to provide housing for your visitors. The visitors are welcome to eat in our kitchen or with the children. Visitors who plan to be in the country for longer visits must find accommodations off of the Ranch. We also ask that the volunteers arrange these visits with the Visitor Coordinator several weeks in advance to avoid confusion. Do not invite people to stay overnight at the Ranch whom you befriend while in Honduras unless the Ranch director has given you permission to do so. We need to guarantee the children’s safety and also need to be sure that those who stay with us understand our mission and the role that adults have in the children’s lives no matter how short their stay. Guidelines for Visitors Friends and relatives are welcome on the Ranch for a maximum of 2 weeks as long as you continue to carry out your usual work responsibilities. Please advise your friends and relatives well in advance of the most convenient times for visits and notify the Volunteer Coordinator and the Visitor Coordinator of your plans. We will arrange 23 Cultural Insight Reflection on Living in Another Culture By Henri M. Nouens Going to a different culture, in which I find myself again like a child, can become a true psychotherapeutic opportunity. Not everyone is in the position or has the support to use such an opportunity. I have seen much self-righteousness, condescending, and even offensive behavior by foreigners toward the people in their host country. Remarks about the laziness, stupidity and disorganization Latin Americans usually say more about the one who makes such remarks than about the Latin Americans. Most of the labels by which we pigeonhole people are ways to cope with our own anxiety and insecurity. Many people who suddenly find themselves in a totally unfamiliar milieu decide quickly to label what is strange to them instead of confronting their own fears and vulnerabilities. But we also can use the new situation for our own healing. When we walk around in a strange milieu, speaking the language haltingly, and feeling out of control and like fools, we can come in touch with a part of ourselves that usually remains hidden behind the thick walls of our defenses. We can come to experience our basic vulnerability, our need for others, our deep-seated feelings of ignorance and inadequacy, and our fundamental dependency. Instead of running them together and learn that our true value as human beings has its seat far beyond our competence and accomplishments. One of the most rewarding aspects of living in a strange land is the experience of being loved not for what we can do, but for who we are. When we become aware that our stuttering, failing, vulnerable selves are loved even when we hardly progress, we can let go of our compulsion to prove ourselves and be free to live with others in a fellowship of the weak. That is true healing. This psychological perspective on Culture Shock can open up for us a new understanding of God’s grace and our vocation to live graceful lives. In the presence of God, we are totally naked, broken, sinful, and dependent, and we realize that we can do nothing, absolutely nothing, without him. When we are willing to confess our true condition, God will embrace us with his love, a love so deep, intimate, and strong that it enables us to make all things new. I am convinced that, for Christians, Culture Shock can be an opportunity not only for psychological healing but also for conversion. What moves me most in reflecting on these opportunities is that they lead us to the heart of ministry and mission. The more I think about the meaning of living and acting in the name of Christ, the more I realize that what I have to offer to others is not my intelligence, skill, power, influence, or connections, but my own human brokenness through which the love of God can manifest itself. The celebrant in Leonard Bernstein’s Mass says, “Glass shines brighter when it’s broken…. I never noticed that.” This, to me, is what ministry and mission are all about. 24 Ministry is entering with our human brokenness into communion with others and speaking a word of hope. This hope is not based on any power to solve the problems of those with whom we live, but on the love of God, which becomes visible when we let go of our fears of being out of control and enter into his presence in a shared confession of weakness. This is a hard vocation. It goes against the grain of our need for self-affirmation, selffulfillment, and self-realization. It is a call to true humility. I, therefore, think that for those who are pulled away from their familiar surrounding and brought into a strange land where they feel again like babies, the Lord offers a unique chance not only for personal conversion but also for authentic ministry. Responding to a new culture We face a lot of difficulties and new situations in a new culture. We get over them and move on, but sometimes it can be useful to pinpoint what went wrong. Even when the problem is one we can not do much about, just identifying it—and realizing it is not all those other things it could have been—is therapeutic. Below is a checklist of common worries or sources of frustration when living in a new culture. It might be useful to run through this checklist and put a name to your problem. What is bothering me…? No mail from home... The weather... The food... No time to yourself... No one to talk to... Too many Americans... Too many Germans... Too many Austrians... You can never be alone... Tired of being culturally sensitive... Do not get along with roommates... Worried about progress in technical training... Tired of being scheduled by other people... Feeling guilty about not liking everything and everyone... Worried about someone at home... Not feeling well... Missing a certain activity (tennis, reading, movies)... Missing feeling like an adult... Missing a private life... Not used to such a competitive environment... It is too nice here; I am not suffering enough... This is not what I expected... I am technically overqualified... I am not accepted here... This culture is too… I am not making a difference... Everything is taking too long... Once you have pinpointed some of your troubles, it may be helpful to list them and consider what you can do about them. You may see an obvious solution; you may want to talk with someone else about a solution; or you may see there is no solution. But make the list anyway and take a crack at it. Most importantly, living in a culture different from your own teaches you most about yourself. Remember that you are the one who is different here. Most things and behaviors that may seem strange to you are perfectly normal to those who call Honduras their home. 25 Appendix Partial List of Rancho Santa Fé Directors, Coordinators, Other Staff Directors NPHI Director of Family Services ::: Reinhart Koehler NPH Honduras National Director ::: Alfredo Benitez NPH Honduras House Director ::: Paty Varela Secretary ::: Glenda Director of Administration ::: Lilian Irias Director of Personnel ::: Oneyda Irias Administration office Secretary ::: Yadira Portillo Homes Coordinator of Casa Suyapa (baby house) ::: Vicky Madrid sub-coordinator ::: Susie Coordinator of Rancho (girls) ::: Belinda Bonilla sub-coordinator ::: Doris Coordinator of Marañon (boys) ::: Roger Fúnez sub-coordinator ::: Marcos Jimenez Coordinator of Casa Eva (abuelos) ::: Telma Romero Coordinator of Casa Angeles ::: Ana Gabriela Doctor—Casa Angeles Dra. Alberto Education/Formation Education Coordinator ::: Armin Spichiger Principal of Ranch School ::: Randy Cardona Special Education Coordinator ::: Vanessa Urrea Guidance Counselor/discipline of school ::: Yessia School Secretary ::: Lupita Coordinator of Vocational Workshops ::: Jorge Guardron Vocational Internship Program and Ex-pequeno Follow-up program ::: Mauricio Calles Workshop bodega ::: Victor Ramierez Coordinator of Year of Service/Period of Reflection program ::: Jose Ramon Coordinators of High School and University male students ::: Augstín Moradel Coordinators of High School and University female students ::: Lorna Urrea Social Worker ::: Silvia Reyes Social Work Secretary ::: Claudia Psychologists ::: Berta Gradiz, Coordinator Public Relations ::: Saily Sanchez 26 Medical Clinic Coordinator ::: Nora Moreno Pharmacy ::: Osiris Dentist ::: Dr. Dilcia Rodriguez Laboratory Technician ::: Sandra Physician Dra. Emma Dextre Other Departments Religion ::: Fr. Reinhold Galindo Sponsorship Coordinator ::: Jeny Garcia Human Resources ::: Claudia Cerrato Farm Coordinator ::: Gustavo Gonzalez Gardens/Hortaliza Coordinator ::: Oscar Cruz Kitchen Coordinator ::: Reina Transportation Coordinator ::: Geraldo Lopez Driver Moncho, Armando, Felix (personnel bus) Volunteer Coordinator ::: Annemarie Hansen Home Correspondent ::: Monica Gery, Tess Franzino List of Hogars Children at Rancho Santa Fé are placed in homes (hogares) based on maturity and grade level. Ages are approximate. Casa Suyapa Casa Suyapa ::: ages 0-9 Rancho (girls) Lower House: Hijas de Maria ::: ages 8-12 Estrellas de Belen ::: ages 10-12 Hermanas de Jesús ::: ages 11-16 Upper House: Inmaculada Concepción ::: ages 14-18 Hijas del Pilar ::: ages 15 and up Nuestra Sra de Guadalupe :: ages 20 and up Near basketball court: Madre Teresa ::: Aspirantes and Year of Service pequenas Santa Maria Reina ::: varied girls with special needs Buen Pastor (boys) Upper House: San Francisco de Asis ::: ages 7-9 San Pablo ::: ages 9-10 San Miguel Arcángel ::: ages 11-12 Arca de Noe ::: ages 12-13 Lower House: Discipulos de Jesús ::: ages 14-15 San Lucas ::: ages 15-16 San Pedro ::: ages 16 and up 27 Other Houses: San Eduardo Rey (blue house) ::: Aspirantes, Year of Service pequenos Casa Emmanuel ::: varied boys with special needs San Andrés ::: varied boys in need of individualized attention Calendar of Events As members of a family, the staff of NPH celebrates holidays with the children. Volunteers must spend Christmas, New Year’s, Easter (with the exception of those working at the school) and a variety of other special days at the Ranch. Volunteers should schedule vacation plans around Ranch holidays and around their work obligations. What follows is a list of days that are celebrated at the Ranch, some more intensely than others: January 01 Año Nuevo 06 Día de los Reyes Magos (Three King’s Day) 16 Orientación de Nuevos Voluntarios Last Sunday Visitors Day (when family can visit kids on the Ranch) February 03 Día de la Virgen de Suyapa, Santa Patrona de Honduras President’s weekend NPH International Board Meeting 12 Aniversario de Casa Angeles 14 Día del Amor y Amistad 15Comienzo del Año Escolar March 19 Día del Padre Holy Week/ Easter (March or April, depending on Catholic church) April 14 Día de las Americas 20 Aniversario de la Escuela 18-21 Semana del Idioma 22 Día de la Tierra ** Pentecostes ** Asención de Cristo May 01 Dia del Trabajo 05 Día de la Madre 22 Dia del Padrino 29 Aniversario NPH–Honduras 30 Día del Arbol 28 May Last Sunday Visitors Day June 11 Día del Estudiante July 01 Orientación de Nuevos Voluntarios 20 Día de Lempira ** Olimpiadas (always subject to change) August 02 Aniversario de la Fundación de NPH (1954 en México) 03 Día de la Raza 15 Asunción de la Virgen María September 01 Día de la Bandera 10 Celebración Día del Niño 15 Día de la Independencia 17 Día del Maestro 28 Día de los Pliegos de la Independencia 29 Aniversario de Tegucigalpa Last Sunday Visitors Day October 03 Día del Nacimiento de Francisco Morazán 04 Día de San Francisco de Asis 12 Día del Descubrimiento de las Americas 21 Día de las Fuerzas Armadas November 01 Día de todos los Santos 02 Día de los difuntos 2nd and 3rd week Examenes finales **Fiesta Quinceañeros (a Friday in November) ** Actos de Clausura, Talleres **Actos de Clausura, Escuela y Colegio 29 December (first Sunday) Comienzo de Adviento (first Monday) Inicio de Cursos Vacacionales 7 Día de Inmaculada Concepción 16 Inicio de las Posadas 17 Convivio de Navidad con el Personal 24 Nochebuena 25 Navidad 31 Celebración Año Nuevo ** The dates of these holidays vary annually List of Embassies & Consulates (in Tegucigalpa) Argentina—Colonia Rubén Darío, Avenida José María Medina 417, tel. 232-3376 or 232-3274 Belize—bottom floor of Hotel Honduras Maya, tel. 239- 0134 Brazil—Colonia La Reforma, Calle La Salle 1309, tel. 236-6310 or 236-5873 Canada—Edificio Los Castaños, Boulevard Morazán, tel 231-4538 or 231-4548 Colombia—Edificio Palmira, 4th floor, across from Honduras Maya, tel. 232-1709 Costa Rica—Residencia El Triángulo, 1 Calle 3451, tel. 232-1768 or 239-0787 Chile—Edificio La Interamericana, Boulevard Morazán, tel. 232-2114 or 232-4095 China—Col. Lomas de Guajiro, number 3705, tel. 232-4490 or 239-3062 Denmark—Boulevard Los Próceres, Edificio La Paz, tel. 236-6407 or 236-6645 Ecuador—Avenida Juan Lindo 122, Colonia Palmira, tel. 236-5980, fax 236-6929 El Salvador—Colonia San Carlos 2A, #219, tel. 236-7344 or 236-8045 France—Colonia Palmira, Avenida Juan Lindo 3A, tel. 236-6800 or 236-6432 Germany—Edificio Paysen, 3rd floor, Boulevard Morazán, tel. 232-3161 or 232-3162 Great Britain—Edificio Palmira, 3rd floor, across from Hotel Honduras Maya, tel. 232-3161 or 232-0618 Guatemala—Colonia Las Minitas, 4 Calle, Arturo López Rodezno 2421, tel. 232-9704 or 2325018 Holland—Rest. El Trapiche, Boulevard Suyapa, tel. 235-8090 Israel—Edificio Palmira, 5th floor, across from Honduras Maya, tel. 232-4232 or 232-5176 Italy—Colonia Reforma, Calle Principal 2602, tel. 236-6810 or 236-8027 Japan—Colonia San Carlos between 4 and 5 Calles, tel 236-6828 or 236-6829 Mexico—Colonia Palmira, Avenida República de México, tel. 232-6471 or 232-4039 Nicaragua—Colonia Lomas del Tepeyac B-M-1, tel. 232-4290 or 232-9025 Panama—Edificio Palmira, 2nd floor, across from Honduras Maya, tel.239-5508 Peru—Colonia La Reforma, Calle Principal, tel. 221-0596 or 221-0604 Portugal—Colonia Alameda, Avenida Principal, Edificio Festival, tel. 231-5007 Spain—Colonia Matamoros, Calle Santander 801, tel. 236-6875 or 236-6589 Sweden–Colonia Miramontes, Avenida Altiplano 2758, tel. 232-4935 Switzerland—Edificio Galerías, Boulevard Morazán, tel. 232-6239 or 232-9692 United States—Avenida La Paz, tel. 236-9320 to -9329 Venezuela—Colonia Rubén Dario, Calle Arturo López, tel. 232-1886 or 232-1879 30 Acta de Compromiso Como medida de prevención e información y con el firme propósito de evitar cualquier tipo de abuso en contra de los niños, niñas, jóvenes y todas las personas amparadas por la Institución, se establecen las siguientes reglas, que deben ser cumplidas por todos los miembros de Nuestros Pequeños Hermanos, Institución de Asistencia Privada, las cuales fueron discutidas y aprobadas en sesión ordinaria del Consejo de Casa, con fecha diez de diciembre del dos mil dos, las cuales se describen literalmente a continuación: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) 7) 8) 9) 10) 11) 12) 13) 14) 15) 16) Reportar casos de abuso físico, sexual, verbal y emocional a las autoridades de la Institución. Todo caso será tratado con absoluta confidencialidad. Queda terminantemente prohibido todo tipo de abuso, ya sea castigo físico, abuso verbal y emocional, o encierro por tiempo prolongado y sin supervisión. No se le puede deprivar al niño/a de la comida o merienda, al menos que haya irrespetado la misma (la tiró, le robó comida a otros etc.). Todo miembro debe ser vigilante de la conducta de los internos e internas. Estar vigilante en todo momento que los internos e internas no estén perdidos, alejados del grupo ó anden solitarios en lugares lejanos de las actividades que se están desarrollando y reportar a quién corresponda en caso de desaparecimiento. Ser buen ejemplo con su conducta dentro de la Institución y en presencia de los internos e internas. Usar vestuario apropiado. (Ejemplo: No andar con vestuario mostrando el ombligo, usar shorts, faldas o vestidos muy cortos, entre otros). Manejar relaciones entre adultos con madurez y discreción. Se prohíben las relaciones extramatrimoniales. No pueden tener relaciones sexuales entre personas no casadas en las instalaciones de la Institución o tener otras conductas inapropiadas. No hacer comentarios lascivos ni lesivos directamente y entre las personas. Respetar el matrimonio (el de otros como el propio). Disciplinar con cariño, firmeza y en forma consistente, de acuerdo a lo establecido en el Código de la Niñez y la Familia. No poner videos violentos y/o con contenidos de escenas sexuales. No invitar a ni consumir en frente de los internos bebidas alchólicas o drogas, ni dentro ni fuera de las instalaciones de NPH. Se prohíbe terminantemente llevar internos e internas a los cuartos personales. Es importante entablar una relación con los internos/as, basada en el amor paternal y maternal, no sexual, en base de actividades en conjunto, escucharlos y hacerlos sentirse apreciados. Se prohíben las relaciones amorosas con internos/as, sin importar edad de los internos/as por parte de empleados, empleadas, voluntarios, voluntarias o cualquier miembro de la Institución. Él(La) abajo firmante, declara: “Firmo libre y espontáneamente este documento como aceptación a las reglas establecidas en esta Acta de Compromiso, por lo que al no cumplirlas autorizo a las autoridades superiores de Nuestros Pequeños Hermanos, para que aplique las medidas que disponga por el incumplimiento de lo estipulado en la misma”. Para constancia, firmo la presente en las instalaciones de Nuestros Pequeños Hermanos, Institución de Asistencia Privada, Aldea La Venta, kilómetro treinta y seis de la carretera que de Tegucigalpa conduce a Olancho, municipio del Distrito Central, departamento de Francisco Morazán a los treinta días del mes de __________________ del año dos mil ______________. Nombre Firma 31