May 2015 Bulletin

Adath Shalom
A Conservative Synagogue
MAY HAPPENINGS AT ADATH SHALOM
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Shabbat Shapers
Morristown Soup Kitchen Lunch
Pajama Neshama
Kabbalat Shabbat Family Service
7:38 pm Candle Lighting
Gimel Siddur Service
Shabbat Service, Parshat Acharei Mot-Kedoshim
Bat Mitzvah of Peri Manoff; Hochman baby naming
Cabaret Night of the Stars!
Religious School
Minyan, Torah Discussion and Breakfast
Writers’ Circle
Hey Hall of Fame
Youth Committee Meeting
Is It Typical Teen Angst or More Serious?
Parent Education Program, Part II
Mah Jongg
Study Group – Increasing Happiness in our Lives, Part 3
Florence Melton Mini School
Religious School
Lag B’Omer Picnic
Shabbat Shapers
Shabbat at Home
Kabbalat Shabbat Service
7:45 pm Candle Lighting
Dalet Class Service
Shabbat Service, Parshat Emor
Vov Class Service
USY Regional Event – Closing Dance (Metuchen, NJ)
Shabbat Attendance Award Recognition Event
Religious School
Minyan, Torah Discussion and Breakfast
Tikkun Olam Mothers Day Car Wash
Writers’ Circle
Religious School Zimriyah
Chazak Luncheon
Info Session: Synagogue Trip to Holocaust Sites in Europe
Florence Melton Mini School
Religious School (last midweek session)
Shabbat Shapers
Shabbat Shalom at the JSDD
Kabbalat Shabbat Service
7:52pm Candle Lighting
Shabbat Service, Parshat Behar-Bechukotai
Bat Mitzvah of Sarah White
Jr. Congregation
Shabbat Chavurah
Tot Shabbat
Last Day of Religious School
Minyan and Zayin Graduation
Youth Talent Show
Writers’ Circle
USY Beach Party
Board of Directors Meeting
Mah Jongg
Florence Melton Mini School
Women’s Rosh Chodesh Group Dinner
The Jewish Angle
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12 Iyar 5775 —13 Sivan 5775
MAY 2015
841 Mountain Way
Morris Plains, NJ 07950
Office: 973-539-8549
Fax: 973-539-4884
Web: www.adathshalom.net
Bulletin email address:
bulletin@adathshalom.net
Phone Extension
Moshe Rudin, Rabbi
rabbi@adathshalom.net
Jack Korbman, Cantor
zedeyankel@msn.com
Brian Kalver, Student Cantor
bkalver@adathshalom.net
Charlotte Frank,
Education Director
cfrank@adathshalom.net
Juan Isaza, Facilities Manager
juan@adathshalom.net
Pam Jorlett, Religious School
Administrator
pjorlett@adathshalom.net
Jayne Karten, Program Director
jkarten@adathshalom.net
Laurie Lindner,
Synagogue Administrator
laurie@adathshalom.net
Jessica Davy, Youth Advisor
jdavy@adathshalom.net
Rebecca Fish,
Teen Education Coordinator
rfish@adathshalom.net
Maxine Moses, Bulletin Editor
bulletin@adathshalom.net
Susan Solomon,
Synagogue Social Worker
ssolomon@adathshalom.net
Michael Stepak, President
president@adathshalom.net
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Synagogue Office Hours
Monday-Thursday
Friday
9:00am - 4:00pm
9:00am - 3:00pm
Rabbi’s Drop-In Hours
Tuesday
4:00pm - 6:00pm
Feel free to call anytime!
MAY HAPPENINGS AT ADATH SHALOM continued
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9:30am Shabbat Shapers
7:15pm Kabbalat Shabbat Mazal Tov Service
7:58pm Candle Lighting
9:00am Shabbat Mazal Tov Service, Parsha Bamidbar
Bat Mitzvah of Jordyn Kushel
8:30pm Tikkun Leil Shavuot
9:00am Services, Shavuot (first day)
Shavuot (second Day) and MEMORIAL DAY – OFFICE CLOSED
9:00am Services, (Yiskor)
9:30am Florence Melton Mini School
7:00pm The Jewish Angle
9:30am Shabbat Shapers
11:30am Morristown Soup Kitchen Lunch
7:15pm Kabbalat Shabbat Service
8:22pm Candle Lighting
9:00am Shabbat Service, Parsha Naso
Jacob Badian Bar Mitzvah
11:00am Donor Brunch at the Suskind home
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PRESIDENT’S MESSAGE
REMARKS FROM RABBI RUDIN
FROM OUR SOCIAL WORKER
RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS
YOUTH NEWS
BNAI MITZVAH
COMMITTEE NEWS
TRIBUTES & TZEDAKAH
COOL EVENTS
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President’s Message
We need you! We need your skills, energy, passion, enthusiasm and your gift of time. To be
successful, Adath Shalom depends on the commitment of its very dedicated volunteers.
However, we need to be mindful of the time that our volunteers spend on synagogue matters in
order to keep them from “burning out.” To help with this, we need to cultivate and nurture a
volunteer culture so more members of our congregation are motivated and interested in
volunteering and reaping the benefits from doing so.
We have started this process at the Board of Directors level under the leadership of Vice President Lisa Epstein.
Lisa created a five page Committee Needs Assessment Form distributed at our April Board meeting. The detailed
Needs Assessment Form requests that all Committee Chairs define their committee’s purpose, primary goals,
objectives and highest priorities and responsibilities. Committee Chairs are also asked to provide descriptions of the
skill sets and expertise needed, the time commitment required and the training and succession planning that currently
exist.
In the near future, we plan to survey congregants to better match talents and interests to synagogue needs. We are
also looking at ways of improving communications so that congregants have better access to information regarding
these needs. Finally, we are considering a United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism training session to help
cultivate a volunteer culture in which congregants are motivated to volunteer, enjoy what they are doing as
volunteers, and are acknowledged for their efforts. In the meanwhile, if you are interested in volunteering but not
sure how or in what capacity, contact Lisa Epstein at lisaslink@hotmail.com.
On Sunday morning, May 31, we will have our second Annual Donor Appreciation Brunch at the home of Robin
and Jay Suskind for all congregants who made a Kol Nidre Appeal or Sustaining Membership gift of $360 or more
in the last year. So far, we are fortunate to have 61 Adath Shalom families who gave at this level. If you are
interested in joining these families in supporting Adath Shalom and coming to the brunch, please contact Synagogue
Administrator Laurie Lindner regarding increasing your Kol Nidre or Sustaining Membership gift.
I want to wish a Mazel Tov to Peri Manoff (May 2), Sarah White (May 16), Jordyn Kushel (May 23) and Jacob
Badian (May 30) as they are called to the Torah this month to celebrate their B’nai Mitzvahs. Also, Mazel Tov to
Richard Hochman and Debra Bernstein on the baby naming of their granddaughter and first grandchild that will take
place on May 2.
Our Religious School students take center stage this month with several class services and graduation. Mazel Tov
to the 3rd grade (May 1), 4th grade (May 8) and 6th grade (May 9) Religious School students as they lead their class
services and Mazel Tov to all our 7th grade Religious School students as they graduate on May 17.
Finally, I want to wish all of the amazing Adath Shalom moms a Happy Mother’s Day on May 10!
Regards and Shalom,
Mike Stepak
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Remarks from Rabbi Rudin
Summer Lovin’....
For many of us, Judaism is an autumn through spring affair, starting
around Rosh HaShana and ending when Religious School lets out in
May. Some synagogues used to actually shut down and go on break
over the summer; an odd phenomenon without any precedent in Jewish
life.
But really, there ain’t no Yiddischkeit (Judaism) like summer Yiddischkeit! There are so many awesome Jewish
moments during the longer, warmer days; don’t miss the opportunity to celebrate and connect!
For our parents: It’s still not too late to sign up for Jewish summer camp. As a former camper, former counselor
and former camp director, I can attest that there is hands down no better way for a kid to spend the summer than at
one of our awesome camps; from MetroWest’s Deeny Riback to Ramah day and overnight camps to many more.
For complete information, be in touch with Tracy Levine, camping specialist for the Jewish Federation at
tracy@onehappycampernj.org.
But even beyond camp, there’s plenty going on in Judaism and at Adath Shalom over the summer. Some highlights:
Shabbat Al Fresco! Kabbalat Shabbat services on the patio are so beautiful. Watching the sun go down and the
sky darken, the stars coming out on Shabbos eve… indescribable! Especially if it’s one of our Summer Schul
Friday nights featuring live music performances and cookouts!
Lag BaOmer This year we celebrate on Thursday, May 7th after religious school with our annual volleyball game
and hot dog roast.
Shavuot This festival is the shortest of the three major holidays - a mere two days in contrast to the seven day
celebrations of Sukkot and Pesach. Shavuot celebrates the giving of the Torah on Sinai. In preparation for this
cosmic event, we stay up late studying, davening, singing and noshing. This year, Shavuot arrives the evening of
May 23rd. We’ll be exploring Torah and Bible through drama, music and more, as well as making our own blintzes and other goodies.
Tisha B’Av Okay, truth be told, this commemoration is not a joyful celebration but a day of national mourning for
the destruction of the Temple and the shadow side of Jewish history. But in a sense we need to acknowledge and
confront the shadows if we’re going to celebrate the light. Tisha B’Av, the ninth day of Av, falls on July 25th and
is marked by reading the Book of Lamentations and, for some, fasting. It marks a low point in the dog days of
summer, but in another sense begins the wind up to the dawn of a new year of hope and renewal.
Tu B’Av The very, very, very last Jewish celebration of the year… It’s the festival of love when the young men
and women of Jerusalem would hike out into the orchards dressed in their finest to mingle and meet. This year Tu
B’Av, the Jewish day of romance and love, comes on August 1st.
Rosh Chodesh Elul August 15th is the beginning of the month of Elul, the month when we prepare for the High
Holidays; as the days grow shorter and cooler, excitement builds for 5776 - sure to be the best year ever, overflowing with blessings, celebrations, Torah and renewal for the Adath Shalom family, Am Yisrael and the world!
Happy Summer! Stay tuned!
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Susan Solomon
Synagogue Social Worker
Rapid Conflict Resolution TM
As we all know, conflict is natural and almost inevitable. The challenge is successful resolution.
Conflict impacts almost every part of our lives at some time. So I decided for my article this
month to share information from a Webinar, Rapid Conflict Resolution TM (1). In my experience,
the process is one of the more straight-forward and non-threatening ones. However, it does
require personal investment of time and energy. The Webinar uses work situations as examples,
but the concept is easily generalized to all types of relationships. A counseling method, Reality
Therapy by William Glasser, also uses this method.
The process includes 8 questions to facilitate resolution. The approach is present-based and aimed at fixing
the future. It is not focused on past negative behaviors, blame, and excuses. A person outside the conflict usually
facilitates the discussion to keep things moving forward.
Questions 1 and 2 are asked privately of each individual before the parties meet.
Question #1 (a) Do you want to resolve this situation? (b) How and why is resolution important to you
and maybe to others?
In conflict resolution, there inevitably needs to be some modification of behavior by all parties. Thus, until all
participants can say YES to (a) and find significant motivation in (b), it is not possible to proceed. Sometimes
this step needs time and an examination of the negative consequences of continuing the conflict. Guidance by
the facilitator may be needed to develop commitment.
Question # 2 - Whose behavior do you control?
The answer must be MY OWN. We all know you cannot force another person to change. If the response to this
question is to blame, make excuses, or the expectation that only the other person needs to change, the conflict is
not resolvable - at least at this time. Hopefully, the person will receive some help to see his/her contribution to
the conflict.
Questions 3 to 5 are to be discussed in the meeting of the individuals.
Often, those involved in the conflict need time to think about their responses privately and write down thoughts
before the meeting. If people are in high conflict, it may be helpful for the facilitator to meet with each person
individually to help them process what they wish to communicate to the other person(s) at the meeting.
Question #3 - What’s working now or has in the past?
The purpose of this question is to build some common ground and set a more positive tone. Even if they do not
like each other, they need to find some positives about situation? For instance… In a marriage, we love our children and we need to be mindful of them. At work… we used to get the work done on time or the person works
well with some other staff.
Question #4 – How would things be if the conflict was resolved?
In this area, individuals need to address, not only specific behaviors, but also, emotions, tone of voice and even
body language.
Question #5 – What is ONE thing YOU agree to do differently for this week (or even tomorrow) that can
help reduce the conflict situation?
How can changing one thing really help? The key is for BOTH parties to START to take responsibility for their
actions. It helps to start positive shared experiences and make sure the parties are committed to resolution. The
change needs to be specific, clear to the other person and attainable. The change must be dependent ONLY on
the DOER.
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Susan Solomon continued
Synagogue Social Worker
Questions 6, 7, and 8 asked after an agreed amount of time – short, like one week or even daily for a
period of time, if this is needed. They are used to keep lines of communication open and the conflict resolution moving forward.
Question #6 - How did it go this week (or yesterday)?
Question #7 - Did each participant do what he/she said they would do?
Is there any back-sliding? Review without blaming or excuses, just note change needed.
Question #8 - Where do you want to go from here?
Parties make additional commitments to resolve conflict situation. Decide how frequently to meet to discuss
progress. Agree on how things will be handled if either party is not living up to their commitment between
meetings.
Finally, remember to celebrate and give thanks when things improve. Just don’t think that the person “should
have” done such and such anyway… no big deal. Every improvement IS a big deal, as change is difficult and
conflicts are hard on those involved and those around them.
(1) Rapid Conflict Resolution TM is a trademark of an eight question method of facilitating conflict
resolution by Doug Walker, M.S., Manager HR, Insperity and author of A-Ha! Performance: Building
and Managing a Self-Motivated Workforce, 2007. To watch his full webinar, go to http://www.hr.com/
en/webcasts_events/webcasts/archived_webcasts_podcasts/rapid-conflict-resolution_i0txj8s7.html
My Consultation services are available to discuss this concept or a specific conflict.
Susan Solomon, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW, Adath Shalom Social Worker
973-539-8549 x 108 or email me at ssolomon@adathshalom.net
Regarding challenges of parent-teen communication, make plans to attend the
program at Adath Shalom on Tuesday, May 5. Click here for more information.
For information on current and upcoming Support Groups held by
Jewish Family Services MetroWest NJ, click here.
Jewish Family Service Social Worker @ Adath Shalom
Do you have questions about aging loved ones, concerns about children, other emotional issues,
financial pressures and/or finding community resources? For guidance, information, referrals and
support, contact your Adath Shalom Social Worker, Susan Solomon, M.Ed., MSW, LCSW, at 973539-8539 ext. 108 or via email ssolomon@adathshalom.net. There is no fee and all
conversations are strictly confidential. This is a partnership of Adath Shalom, Jewish Family Services of MetroWest NJ, The Federation of Greater MetroWest, and Healthcare Foundation of NJ.
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RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS
From Charlotte Frank / Education Director
We are in the midst of counting the Omer – a measure of the harvest designated for the Temple
as a sacrifice. The counting began on the second day of Pesach and ends with Shavuot (when
we stood at Mount Sinai and received the Ten Commandments).
Shavuot is the second of the three Pilgrimage holidays when our ancestors would head to the
Temple in Jerusalem to make sacrifice. This year it is observed on Saturday night, May 23
through Monday, May 25 (Memorial Day).
This is the Torah holiday that gets the “raw deal” since we are not in Religious School when it is
celebrated. Growing up, the teachers would tie it in with Mother's Day and Father's Day because of the Fifth Commandment. There were foods attached to the holiday like blintzes, cheesecake and anything dairy to remind us of
the Land of Milk and Honey - or was it to keep us from sacrificing another golden calf!
Maybe this year is the perfect year to celebrate the holiday since it falls on Memorial Day weekend – tradition says
that our ancestors stayed up studying the night before so that they were ready to receive G-d's word at Sinai. How
about a backyard late night as a family.
Great resources for observing the holiday exist – check out:
http://www.myjewishlearning.com/holidays/Jewish_Holidays/Shavuot.shtml
http://www.joi.org/celebrate/shavuot/index.shtml
http://babaganewz.com/holidays/shavuot
http://www.uscj.org/JewishLivingandLearning/ShabbatandHolidayInformation/Holidays/JewishHolidays/
Shavuot/default.aspx
http://www.shalomsesame.org/parents-and-educators/shavuot/stories-that-shape-jewish-life
Videos online: http://www.g-dcast.com/video/#Holidays
Some great books are available as well – a personal favorite is Mountain of Blintzes by Barbara Diamond Goldin
DATES TO REMEMBER IN MAY
May 1.............................Gimel class participating in Family Service and receiving their siddurim
May 3 ............................Hey Class – Jewish Heroes Hall of Fame in lobby from 11 to 12
May 8.............................Dalet class Name Service and participating in Friday night service
May 9.............................Vov class service and lunch following
May 17...........................Graduation and Last Day of Religious School with Talent Show during school
May 23-25 .....................Shavuot holiday
Hey Class /Fifth grade making their Yads
and learning about using a Yad to read Torah
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RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS continued
From Charlotte Frank / Education Director
Gan class/Kindergarten Making challah plates for their families.
Max Klayman
Dalet/Grade 4
Yasher Koach to the following Religious
School students who have completed
their Shabbat Attendance requirements.
Aimee Wolosin
Hey/Grade 5
Ben Brandes
Vov/Grade 6
Benjamin HarterAleph/Grade 1
Josh Cohen
Zayin/Grade 7
Jared Solomon
Bet/Grade 2
Rachel Brooks
Vov/Grade 6
Eitan Leinwand
Zayin/Grade 7
Max Tiffen
Zayin/Grade 7
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RELIGIOUS SCHOOL NEWS continued
From Charlotte Frank / Education Director
The Dalet class/Grade Four created beautiful handmade artwork to reflect the completion of their
study of the Shema, which is the "watchword" of the Jewish people. The artwork was done with
the help of Marissa Carrella, a member of the Religious School Education Committee, and their
teacher Beth Rems. We hope that all the families have put the artwork up in their homes to enjoy.
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YOUTH NEWS
Tot Shabbat (Pre-K) with Morah Shari
Saturday, May 16 at 10:30am in the Kindergarten Room
For the month of May we will be doing a very cute project. We will be making banana people! Come to Tot Shabbat to see how it is done! Looking forward to seeing you!
Shabbat Chavurah (Kindergarten—Grade 2) with Morah Helaine
Saturday, May 16 at 10:30am in the “old” four-year old room
Only 2 Shabbat Chavurot remaining!!! Join us for a wedding... A what? Yes, a wedding! Of the Jewish people to
G-d as we learn more about Shavuot and receiving the Torah on Mt. Sinai. A special dairy snack will be served!!!
You may even be the bride.. Or groom.
Junior Congregation (Grades 3–6) with Morah Deb
Saturday, May 16, 9:45-11:45am in the Beit Midrash/Library
Did you know that there is a line from the Torah on the Liberty Bell? How about the fact that we are told in the
Torah to rest our fields (long before anyone ever heard of crop rotation). Come join us to find out what it says.
Shabbat Shapers (ages 5 & under with their caregivers) with Rabbi Rudin
Join this free weekly interactive program on Fridays, from 9:30-10:30am
The place to be Friday mornings is with Rabbi Rudin and the adorable participants of the Shabbat Shapers Program.
Shaping our littlest munchkins into menches, Rabbi Rudin leads the group in Jewish music, crafts and Kiddush.
Participants have a chance to stay after the program to continue the fun, playing and socializing with friends in the
preschool room. The program has been such a huge success and we are always looking for volunteers to help Rabbi
Rudin. See flyer later in the bulletin for more details.
If you are interested in helping with the Shabbat Shapers program please email Mara, mkimowitz@gmail.com.
Pajama Neshama (Pre-K) with Rabbi Rudin
Friday, May 1, 5:30pm - 7:30pm (See flyer later in the bulletin for more details)
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B’NAI MITZVAH
Peri Manoff
(Penina Liora)
will become a
Bat Mitzvah on
May 2, 2015
Peri is the daughter of Amy and Brian Manoff
and sister to Ella. She attends Brooklawn Middle
School where her favorite subject is Social Studies.
When Peri grows up, she would like to be a teacher.
To Peri, becoming a Bat Mitzvah means that she
has learned the foundation to all of the prayers so she
can participate and contribute during services and feel
like a member of her Jewish community.
Peri’s wish for the future is that there is peace
throughout the world and that life is found outside of
our Milky Way Galaxy. At her Bat Mitzvah, she would
like the Rabbi to talk about the importance of having the
love and support of family and how to be tolerant and
give back to the community. For her Mitzvah Project,
Peri worked with the Manny Reichman Feeding Progam.
Jordyn Kushel
(Chaya Yardena)
will become a
Bat Mitzvah on
May 23, 2015
Jordyn is the daughter of Randi and Rick Kushel
and sister to Zachary and Sydney. She attends Randolph
Middle School where her favorite subject is writing.
To Jordyn, becoming a Bat Mitzvah means that
she is now a Jewish adult. Her wish for the future is
have a happy and healthy family. For her Mitzvah Project, Jordyn volunteered at Youth Consultation Services.
YCS’s mission is to help at-risk and special needs children build happier, healthier and more hopeful lives.
Sarah White
(Haya Sorah)
will become a
Bat Mitzvah on
May 16, 2015
Sarah is the daughter of Stacy and Matthew
White and sister to Adam and Julia. She attends
Randolph Middle School where her favorite subject is
Art. When she grows up, she would like to be an entrepreneur and bakery owner.
To Sarah, becoming a Bat Mitzvah means
being an adult in the Jewish community. She is proud
to be a Jew because she is proud of her Jewish heritage.
She enjoys all the traditions we have and the strong
sense of community we all share.
Sarah’s wish for the future is to go to a good college, get a business degree and then continue on to open
up a bakery. At her Bat Mitzvah, she would like the
Rabbi to talk about her parsha - that we all need to find
our place in the world and think about what we can contribute. For her Mitzvah project, Sarah will be adding
baked goods to the meals prepared by Emily Kern for
congregants in need.
Jacob Badian
(Yakov)
will become a
Bar Mitzvah on
May 30, 2015
Jacob is the son of Caryn and Stephen Badian
and brother to Shayna. He attends Brooklawn Middle
School where his favorite subject is Science. When he
grows up, he would like to be a physical therapist.
To Jacob, becoming a Bar Mitzvah means
that he’s become a man in the Jewish community. He is
proud to be a Jew because it makes him unique and
proud of where his people came from.
Jacob’s wish for the future is that there will be
religious freedom all over the world. At his Bar Mitzvah, he would like the Rabbi to talk about his mitzvah
project. For his Mitzvah project, Jacob will be raising
money and collecting supplied for his uncle Alan’s
group home.
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One way to honor your son or daughter at their Bar/Bat
Mitzvah is to have family and friends read from the
Torah. This is also a meaningful way to honor loved ones
on their Yahrzeit. Cantor Jack will record a CD for you
and give you the text. Please contact the Synagogue
Office to request a Torah portion and CD.
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Truly Celebrating Our Children
Sitting in a café, waiting for my next meeting, slowly sipping coffee, playing
on my phone, while actively trying not to listen to the two women sitting next
to me.
That quickly proved impossible.
Two women, enjoying their afternoon tea on a sunny Northern California afternoon, were sharing family stories.
“She’s gotten letters from UCLA and UC Berkeley,” “She just got her certificate
yesterday and we’re turning her room into a guest room!”
And I stopped to think, these women have a lot to be proud of, and how lovely that they are sharing it
with each other. Their friendship seemed like a deep long lasting one.
But do they really share everything? Did they share that it took five tries to get accepted to UCLA? Did
they share the disappointments that helped lead to these accomplishments?
It got me thinking about how we talk about our kids, even with our closest friends.
How do we share growth, milestones and achievements? Are we honest about our kids, their struggles and successes? Can we really talk openly about what our kids are going through?
How many of us can say with pride to our friend over coffee “He took one step without his walker today!” “He didn’t bite at school!” or “She made a friend.”?
Let’s re-think how we talk about our kids:
1. Celebrate the tiny things: Getting into Berkeley is a big deal, but so is learning how to write your
name.
2. Sometimes not doing something is as big a reason to celebrate as doing something. Some days,
it’s what didn’t happen that is a momentous occasion, in light of what could have happened.
3. Share equally the achievements and the challenges. We are too achievement focused. Falling off
your bike is just as important as biking the Tour D’France.
4. Ask about the struggles, we all have them. If we don’t ask each other for honesty, then how can
we ever truly celebrate with each other?
Elana has been working at the intersection of special education and Jewish education for over
15 years. She is the founder and Executive Director of Rosh Pina, a non-profit that offers a
certification for Jewish institutions after a year-long process of reflecting and creating a more
inclusive community for people with disabilities. She was the Ruderman Fellow of the Joshua
Venture Group and a member of Upstart Bay Area. She directs the Tikvah program for kids
with disabilities at Camp Ramah in California, which includes a camper program, a vocational
program for young adults, and a camp for families that have children with disabilities. Elana has consulted with
multiple Jewish institutions to aid them in thinking about how to be more inclusive of Jews of all abilities. She has
taught professional development courses in differentiated instruction, behavior management and teaching Hebrew.
She lives in Berkeley, California with her husband and three boys, Yair, Nevo and Etai.
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Moments from Pesach, 2015
It was a great Passover here at Adath Shalom—
our Mitzvah cleaning crew went after the Chametz
and helped Juan, Godfrey and Kenneth kasher every
surface, oven and storage space…
Our Yallah Teens got into the action on a
search and destroy mission for whatever
Chametz (leaven) was left...
Our pre-school Shabbat Shapers whipped up matzah and
created their own frog puppets for their Seders...
And our Club 345 and Kadima kids got in the act with their chocolate Seder featuring…
chocolate Matzah, bittersweet chocolate maror, chocolate spread on s’mores,
4 cups of chocolate milk and yet more chocolate!
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Moments from Pesach, 2015 continued
Meanwhile, our Intergenerational Mishpocha Family Outreach and
Chesed Committee prepared Pesach care packages for homebound and
seniors in our community and beyond….
And finally… Nearly one hundred of our members, friends and family took part in our joyful and
freilach annual Community Seder featuring plenty of music, discussions, games and great food.
A true feast of freedom that embraced and connected our entire congregational family.
L’shana HaBa’ah Biyerushalayim - Next Year in Jerusalem.
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COMMITTEE NEWS
Lifelong Learning
Ellen Muraskin & Cookie Samuels, Co-Chairs
Chazak
Join us on Tuesday, May 12, 12 noon for our End-of-Year Meeting
Chazak winds up its third year of programming, schmoozing and lunch. Adath Shalom's social worker, Sue
Solomon, who's been bringing us news of community events and services, will lead us in an ice-breaking
game or two, which should be fun even if there's no ice left to break. And it never hurts to learn people's
names again … easier to make plans to get together over the summer!
Our featured speaker is Sylvia Kramer, who will speak about the relationship between parents and adult
children, and how that changes through the years. Although a parent's daily responsibility might be over, the
connection is forever. During this interactive program, we will explore methods of relating to our adult children and come away with a deeper understanding and closer bonding.
And of course, lunch! RSVP to Cookie so we know how much lunch to prepare - at challahgal@yahoo.com
or 973-366-0763.
And bring your friends!
Oldest Established Permanent Floating Book Club
All dates are Wednesdays at 7:30 pm unless indicated. RSVP to Ellen at efm2@optonline.net to find out
who is hosting in any particular month.
May 27: The Lost Wife by Alyson Richman
June 24: Indignation by Philip Roth
Summer, date TBD: Sonata for Miriam by Linda Olsson
At its April meeting, Adath Shalom's Chazak group enjoyed hearing about the
Soviet Jewry mission that congregants Sue and Meyer Rosenthal undertook in
1989, visiting and getting supplies to refuseniks - Jews who applied for and
were denied the right to emigrate - in Moscow and Vilnius. The best part getting past Soviet passport control at the Moscow airport and meeting these
Jews, and those whose names they smuggled out at Kennedy years later.
The Rosenthals' presentation was followed by a short selection of Yiddish
songs, sung by former Borsht-Belt performer (and congregant) Pauline
Hahn and would-be Borsht Belt performer (and congregant) Ellen
Muraskin. We were ably accompanied by Rabbi Rudin.
Photos taken by Joel Aronson
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Memorial Plaques
Permanently memorialize your loved ones by dedicating
plaques on the memorial alcoves in our sanctuary.
Celebrate your simcha with us
by sponsoring a Kiddush!
Buying a plaque also means that the name will be
included in our Yizkor book every year.
Cost: $360
Please contact synagogue office
The donation to our synagogue is $360.
Please call the office for more information.
Mazal Tov Shabbat Services
Share your simcha (anniversary, birthday, birth of child or grandchild,
engagement, promotion, retirement and more!) with your Adath Shalom family.
Please fill out the form on page 21 to recognize your celebration. A placard sharing your
simcha will be displayed on the Oneg or Kiddush Table and your simcha will be
announced from the bima during services.
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COMMITTEE NEWS
Holocaust Education Committee
Sam Varsano, Co-Chair
Please come to Adath Shalom on Wednesday evening, May 13th at 7:30 PM.
We will have a presentation on our planned trip to the sites of the Holocaust and also the major capitals of
Europe. The trip was created by the Holocaust Education Committee and follows a mandate of our fund
benefactor and Holocaust survivor, Mr. Ed Mosberg. The tour provider is Isramworld.
Sam Varsano will take us through an itinerary that includes Berlin, Krakow, Budapest, Vienna, Warsaw and
Prague. In addition to visiting the notorious camps where the Holocaust took place, we will take the opportunity to sight see some of the most beautiful locations in Europe. We also plan to take in some exciting
cultural events.
The trip has been priced as competitively as possible and will cover thirteen nights. In addition, the fund
will be used to subsidize a portion of each synagogue member's trip. Please join us to discuss the trip that is
set to depart on June 28th, 2016.
SISTERHOOD TRIBUTE FUND
A thru M Elaine Blafer
(973) 402-6268 or eablafer@gmail.com
To:
From:
Debra Bernstein and Rich Hochman
In honor of the birth of your granddaughter,
Juliet Calliope
Tammie and Harvey Applebaum
Elaine and Elliott Blafer
N thru Z Patti Siegel
patti.siegel31@gmail.com
To:
From:
To:
To:
From:
Dino & Valerie Cappello
In memory of your father and grandfather
Maxine, Andy & Janey Smith
From:
To:
To:
From:
To:
From:
Jennifer and Eric Cohen
In honor of Joshua’s Bar Mitzvah
Maxine and Jerry Moses
From:
Karen Mazal
In memory of your beloved father, Jerry Mann
Tammie and Harvey Applebaum
Maxine and Jerry Moses
Maxine and Jerry Moses
In honor of your generous donation to Donors Choose
Elaine Blafer
Jeannie and Scott Neufeld and family
In memory of your beloved grandfather and
Great-grandfather, Fred Mechanic
The Appel Family
Maxine and Jerry Moses
Randi and Rob Greenberg
In honor of your generous donation to Donors Choose
Elaine Blafer
Adath Shalom is a member of:
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COMMITTEE NEWS
Thank you to all those who attended Harry Ettlinger's talk on the Monuments Men! It
was sponsored by Sisterhood, Men’s Club and Lifelong Learning and was a great success!
Harry Eittlinger with Caryl
Wolosin, Cookie Samuels and
Meredith Ross. Caryl & Meredith
are two of our Sisterhood
co-presidents and Cookie is
co-chair of Lifelong Learning.
The “Monuments Men," were a group of approximately 345 men and women from thirteen nations, most of
whom volunteered for service in the newly created MFAA section during World War II. Many had expertise
as museum directors, curators, art historians, artists, architects, and educators. Harry served as an interpreter.
Their job description was simple: to protect cultural treasures so far as war allowed. From August 1945 to
July 1946, Harry Ettlinger and Lieutenant Dale Ford were assigned to supervise the underground operations at
the Nazi repository in the Heilbronn-Kochendorf salt mines. . In addition to the mining of salt, the underground mines had been utilized by the Nazis to protect German museum treasures.
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Yom Ha’atzmut
Celebrate Israel with Greater Metrowest
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BULLETIN ADS
To place an ad, please contact
the Synagogue office
973 539-8549
Full Page $150/month
Half Page $80/month
Quarter Page $45/month
Business Card $30/month
Annual ads:
Pay for 10 months and get two months free
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Giving is a part of our Jewish heritage and our Jewish way of life. Traditionally, Jews give “tzedakah” to commemorate occasions,
both happy and sad, and to acknowledge honors (aliyot), accomplishments, friends...almost anything. Giving can take many forms.
One can give of their time and effort to the Jewish community or to the synagogue. One can give books, tapes, or other necessary
and tangible items. Many, however, choose to give money, either to individual funds available through the synagogue, or to the
general fund, allowing the leadership to use the donation in whatever way it deems most necessary.
ADATH SHALOM EXTENDS CONDOLENCES TO:
The Neufeld Family
On the loss of Jeannie's grandfather and
Bethany & Benjamin's great-grandfather
ADATH SHALOM EXTENDS A MAZAL TOV TO:
The Badian Family
In honor of Jacob becoming a Bar Mitzvah
The Kushel Family
In honor of Jordyn becoming a Bat Mitzvah
The Manoff Family
In honor of Peri becoming a Bat Mitzvah
The White Family
In honor of Sarah becoming a Bat Mitzvah
The Gimel Class
In honor of their Class Service
A DONATION TO THE CANTOR’S
DISCRETIONARY FUND WAS RECEIVED FROM:
Harvey & Tammie Applebaum
In honor of Cantor Korbman’s birthday
YAHRZEIT DONATION TO THE CANTOR’S
DISCRETIONARY FUND WAS RECEIVED FROM:
Joseph & Gloria Weisberg
In memory of Eva Kobren
DONATIONS TO THE RABBI’S
DISCRETIONARY FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM:
Glenn & Barbara Davis
In thanks for your thoughtfulness and caring
when Glenn’s Aunt Rita passed away
Marc & Melanie Gimbel
The Dalet Class
In honor of their Class Service
Hal & Jeri Kimowitz
In honor of Jacob Badian becoming a Bar Mitzvah
In honor of Jason Kalver becoming a Bar Mitzvah
The Vov Class
In honor of their Class Service
DONATION TO THE HOEXTER FAMILY
CARING FUND WAS RECEIVED FROM:
MAY ONEGS AND KIDDUSHES
ARE SPONSORED BY:
Ethel Lerner
Thank you so much for the thoughtful Passover package
The Badian Family
In honor of Jacob becoming a Bar Mitzvah
YAHRZEIT DONATIONS TO THE HOEXTER FAMILY
CARING FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM:
The Bernstein-Hochman Family
In honor of the naming of their granddaughter
Mindy Beck
In memory of Yetta Brooks
The Kushel Family
In honor of Jordyn becoming a Bat Mitzvah
Inna Benin
In memory of Yury Benin
The Manoff Family
In honor of Peri becoming a Bat Mitzvah
Steve & Charlotte Frank
In memory of Erna Frank
The White Family
In honor of Sarah becoming a Bat Mitzvah
Walter & Dorothy Freidel
In memory of Irving Freidel
The Gimel Class
In honor of their Class Service
The Dalet Class
In honor of their Class Service
The Vov Class
In honor of their Class Service
ADATH SHALOM EXTENDS THANK YOUS TO:
The Becker Family
For providing the Yom Hashoah candles
The Friedel Family
For sponsoring the Passover Siyyum
YAHRZEIT DONATIONS TO THE GENERAL FUND
WERE RECEIVED FROM:
Steven & Fern Bukowiecki
In memory of Edward Bukowiecki
Keith and Rochelle Rotenberg
In memory of Harry Rotenberg
In memory of Benjamin Rubin
Sheila Schaeffer
In memory of Moishe & Sarah Raesch
In memory of Meyer Raesch
continued...
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Giving is a part of our Jewish heritage and our Jewish way of life. Traditionally, Jews give “tzedakah” to commemorate occasions,
both happy and sad, and to acknowledge honors (aliyot), accomplishments, friends...almost anything. Giving can take many forms.
One can give of their time and effort to the Jewish community or to the synagogue. One can give books, tapes, or other necessary
and tangible items. Many, however, choose to give money, either to individual funds available through the synagogue, or to the
general fund, allowing the leadership to use the donation in whatever way it deems most necessary.
DONATIONS TO THE GENERAL FUND
WERE RECEIVED FROM:
A DONATION TO THE YOUTH FUND
WAS RECEIVED FROM:
Michael & Linda Thailer
In honor of Marcy Thailer
Mindy Beck
Joseph & Gloria Weisberg
In memory of Rhoda Weisberg
DONATIONS TO THE MARK DUNN SPECIAL NEEDS
FUND WERE RECEIVED FROM:
Harvey & Tammie Applebaum
Mindy Beck
Gary & Rita Chesler
Richard Cohen
Lewis and Lynn Coopersmith
Glenn & Barbara Davis
Phil & Patty Einhorn
Marty & Nancy Fields
Howard &Marjorie Forman
Scott & Jamie Gladstein
Neal & Alison Goldner
Howie & Fran Heller
Larry & Merle Lomrantz
Michael & Rona Moroz
Steve & Barbara Nappen
Jacob & Julie Rosenberg
Meyer & Sue Rosenthal
Jim & Linda Wolk
TREES HAVE BEEN PLANTED IN ISRAEL BY:
Larry & Judy Appel
In honor of Bea Usdin
Jackie Harris
In memory of Eugene Faccuito
DONATIONS TO THE TORAH FUND
WERE RECEIVED FROM:
Glenn & Barbara Davis
In honor of Marcy Thailer’s recognition for
all that she does for Adath Shalom.
Jerry & Maxine Moses
In honor of Jason Kalver becoming a Bar Mitzvah
In honor of the birth of Rich Hochman & Debra Bernstein’s
granddaughter, Juliet Calliope
Andy & Sue Silbert
Mazal Tov to Rich Hochman and Deborah Bernstein
on the birth of their granddaughter
YAHRZEIT DONATIONS TO THE TORAH FUND
WERE RECEIVED FROM:
Deanna J. Bresky
In memory of Thelma Bresky
David & Oreen Wallach
In memory of Louis Leight
DONATIONS TO THE MOSBERG FAMILY
HOLOCAUST EDUCATION FUND
WERE RECEIVED FROM:
Granatal Construction
Robert Mortillo, Scapes Landscaping, Inc.
Neidich and Company
Marc & Amy Rosenberg
SOS Gases, Inc.
Donations gratefully accepted:
Tree in Israel
$ 18.00
Prayer Book
$ 54.00
Chumash
$ 72.00
Tree of Life
$ 180.00
Memorial Plaque*
$ 360.00
*names on memorial plaques will be included in our Yizkor book every year
Please contact synagogue office
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COOL EVENTS in MAY
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Pajama Neshama
Fridays: May 1, June 5
5:30 pm - 7:00 pm
Bring your pre-school children in their PJs for an
age-appropriate Shabbat Service, singing, a craft
and a bedtime story - all concluding with a light
child-friendly Shabbat dinner!
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Adath Shalom Beit Midrash Adult Education
Come and explore, discuss, learn, laugh, share and connect!
Great Opportunities for informal Jewish learning on Sunday mornings!
Davening and Parsha Schmooze!
Jewish prayer is most powerful when shared as a community. Join our seventh graders
and adults for a short morning service (30 minutes) to begin your week with a spiritual
blast! Then stick around for one of Rabbi Rudin’s inspiring discussions about the weekly
Torah portion over breakfast for learners of all backgrounds!
9:00 AM - 10:15 AM in the Sanctuary and Kiddush Room
Dates: May 3, 10
Writers’ Circle
Writing is one of the most powerful forms of self expression. Here’s a great opportunity for
Adath Shalom writers and those with an interest in writing. Here’s a chance to have your
material read and responded to by other writers. Any subject, any amount of writing experience - just come with a piece of writing you’re willing to share. Facilitated by Pauline Hahn.
Rabbi’s Office: 10:30 AM - 12:00 PM
Dates: May 3, 10, 17
Free for Adath Shalom Members!
RSVP to rabbi@adathshalom.net
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PERMISSION SLIP REQUIRED TO ATTEND SKY ZONE
After you RSVP to Jessica Davy please click the link below and fill out
the REQUIRED permission slip for your children to attend the SKY ZONE Party.
https://pinebrookstore.skyzone.com/waiver/
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Adath Shalom Invites you to:
Lag B’omer Picnic
Place: Adath Shalom’s Backyard
May 7th, 2015 at 6:00 PM
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Hotdogs (veggie options), watermelon, chips dinner!
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Schmooze and Blues Jewish Music
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Kid/Adult Volley Ball/Newcomb Tourney
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A fun family and adults evening for all!
$5.00 per person ($20.00 max per family)
Children 5 and under Free
RSVP to Caryn Reppen at cargarsam@aol.com
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New date!
It’s never too early to invite someone for Shabbat!
Our next Shabbat@Home is planned for
Friday, May 8th
Interested in hosting? It’s so easy to turn your dinner into Shabbat!
Just invite at least one Adath Shalom family/couple to your home.
We provide the blessings, challah, candles, and Kiddush
You provide the dinner – any way you want it!
Interested in being a guest but not yet ready to host?
Send us an email to let us know how many people in
your family and we will do our best to match you up.
For more information email Maxine Smith at
ShabbatAtHome@adathshalom.net
or call her at 973-326-8883.
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Adath Shalom presents...
Shabbat Shalom at the JSDD
18 Jeffrie Trail, Whippany
May 15, 5:15 - 6:15 PM
Rabbi Rudin and Company will bring some
Shabbat simcha to the residents of the Jewish Service
for the Developmentally Disabled in Whippany
with snacks, conversation, stories and games.
RSVP to Rabbi Rudin at rabbi@adathshalom.net
if you can join us!
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2014-2015 Saturday Morning
Monthly Youth Services Schedule
Energetic, fun, interactive services, discussions and games to help your child
connect with Judaism, develop their character and feed their spiritual selves!
Junior Congregation (grades 3-6) 9:45 am with Debbie Cirkus
Morah Debbie brings stories and prayers to life and creates a welcoming prayer environment!
Shabbat Chavurah (grades K-2) 10:30 am with Helaine Schreiber
Morah Helaine is a dynamic educator who shares her love of Judaism with her students!
Tot Shabbat (pre-Kindergarten) 10:30 am with Shari Berman
Morah Shari is an engaging educator who makes Shabbat fun for our kids!
May 16
June 20
RSVP to Pam Jorlett at pjorlett@adathshalom.net
or just come by
After Youth Services conclude, please join us in the
Main Sanctuary for the conclusion of the Shabbat Service
and then Kiddush in the Social Hall
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THE JEWISH ANGLE
Get spiritual, have a nosh, have fun!!
Short davening, discussion and dessert with Rabbi Rudin.
For Adults
Thursday evenings at 7:00 PM in the Beit Midrash
May 21, 28
RSVP to rabbi@adathshalom.net
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Tikkun Leil Shavuot- Shavuot Evening
Join us for an evening of music, drama, noshing and study
as we prepare for receiving the Torah on Shavuot!
Lobby
May 23rd
8:30 PM-10:30 PM
Session One
Welcome and Torah through Music
Rabbi Rudin
8:30-8:45 PM
Session Two
The Book of Ruth through drama
Reb Deb
8:45-9:35 PM
Session Three
The Art of the Blintz
Kitchen
9:35 PM-10:15 PM
Session Four
Text Study: The Year of Sabbatical
Rabbi Rudin, Reb Deb
Session Five
The big finish!
Spiritual renewal and fun
All Adath Shalom members and friends are welcome! Schlep a friend along!
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Adath Shalom
A Conservative Synagogue
841 Mountain Way, Morris Plains, NJ 07950-1955