Funeral Service - Mulberry Publications
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Funeral Service - Mulberry Publications
F S ervice times uneral The independent voice of the funeral profession Established 2006 ∙ ISSN 2046-7273 APRIL 2014 www.funeralservicetimes.co.uk COFFIN SPECIAL Our selection of the most trusted and innovative suppliers Alex James: Keeping solemnity in the list of funeral options George Callander: Reflections on the importance of coffin choice Peter Wyllie: Eric Idle’s witty tribute to George Harrison American Military Funerals An exploration of the US government’s special approach 3 APRIL 2014 CONTENTS Dispatches 5 Products 8 Comment 10 Peter Wyllie 12 Rev George Callander 18 Coffin Special 23 Coffins Special: Accessory Spotlight 29 Coffin Special: Biers, Lifts & Trolleys 31 American Military Funerals 38 Comment: Alex James 46 Obituaries 50 Your Story 58 The latest news from the profession New products and services for the trade The BIFD’s president, Sally Walton, holds forth This month Peter Wyllie revisits Eric Idle’s tribute to his friend George Harrison Reverend George Callander riffs on the coffin theme with his usual humorous take We present a definitive list of the foremost manufacturers and suppliers of coffins and caskets in the UK Two firms offering the added extras for a quality coffin and quality service Not many can lift a coffin without mechanical assistance: here are the essentials Michael Northcott examines the nuances of a military honours funeral in the United States Bereavement UK’s Alex James on why traditional solemnity should not always roll over for ‘celebratory’ antics A tribute to some well-known names that have passed away recently Joanne Hutsby, The Eastwood Funeral Partnership, Nottingham Editor’s letter Dear readers, April brings my series on the funeral customs from a range of different cultures to a close. In a slight change of focus, it’s the nuances of an American military funeral that I’ve examined for this last entry. It was only in 2000 that the US government decided to pledge some funding and implement a formal procedure for the bereaved families of deceased veterans or those killed in action, including the right to request military honours at the funeral. Now it is common practice to have a bugler, honour guards carrying the deceased to their final resting place, and a priest all in attendance, the bill footed by the state. Those responsible for the policy also conceived the notion that there should be a toll-free phone number for families to call, and that the single operative who dealt with the phone call would be responsible for pursuing the request through to its final conclusion. It is a truly dignified way of honouring those who have died and sends a mature message to the people. The draped stars-and-stripes on the coffins set us thinking about what options are available in this particular purchase area, and this issue we’ve picked out some of the most innovative and interesting suppliers of coffins, caskets and all of the kit that a funeral director needs in carrying out the job. Finally, Alex James points out that whilst the chirpier ‘celebration of life’ is growing in popularity, the profession must be sure to cater for families that still want a traditional, deeply solemn affair. I hope you enjoy the issue. Michael Northcott MA Editor, Funeral Service Times michael@funeralservicetimes.co.uk DISPATCHES F uneral S ervice times A B Walker hosts 2nd annual service of remembrance Established 2006 Editor Michael Northcott michael@funeralservicetimes.co.uk Editorial Assistant Lauren Morton laurenmorton@funeralservicetimes.co.uk Production Assistant Maddi Mears copy@funeralservicetimes.co.uk Senior Account Managers Lauren Munson lauren@funeralservicetimes.co.uk Suzanne Smith suzanne@funeralservicetimes.co.uk Accounts Maureen Scrivener accounts@funeralservicetimes.co.uk Customer Services 01206 767 797 customers@mulberrypublications.co.uk Contributing writers: Peter Wyllie, Rev George Callander, Sally Walton, Alex James Funeral Service Times is published monthly by: Mulberry Publications Ltd. Colchester Office: Wellington House, Butt Road, Colchester CO3 3DA Tel: 01206 767 797 Fax: 01206 767 532 London Office: 14 Rosebery Avenue, London EC1R 4TD Tel: 020 7520 7066 www.funeralservicetimes.co.uk ISSN 2046-7273 The editor and publishers do not guarantee the accuracy of statements made by contributors or advertisers, or accept responsibility for any statement that they express in this publication. The opinion of the contributors may not necessarily be the opinion of the publishers. Articles are considered for publication on the basis that they are the author’s original work. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying or otherwise, without the permission of the publishers. Berkshire-based funeral directors A.B. Walker & Son held its second annual service of remembrance on March 2. The service saw over 500 bereaved people come together at Reading Minster of St Mary the Virgin in St Mary’s Butts to light candles in memory of loved ones. The service was officiated by the Venerable Olivia Graham, Archdeacon of Berkshire. Julian Walker, managing director of A.B. Walker, said: “It was a very moving service and we hope that those who attended found comfort from being there. It was a chance for those who had lost a loved one to be with others who had also suffered bereavement. “It was a time for them to pause and reflect. We realise there is a great need for people to collectively remember.” Having supported bereaved families for nearly 200 years, A B Walker & Son decided upon the yearly event after the first event in 2013 received such a positive response. The company has also set up a Link Bereavement Care Group alongside the charity Cruse Bereavement Care to help the bereaved in the community. Councils given keys to Rainsbrook Crematorium Construction of a new crematorium and cemetery serving residents in Daventry District and Rugby Borough has been completed. Contractor Willmott Dixon handed over the keys to Rugby and Daventry’s new crematorium and cemetery, which is located on the edge of the Rainsbrook Valley in Rugby, ready for its opening in April. The keys were given to the Rugby and Daventry Joint Committee, which will run the crematorium on behalf of Rugby Borough Council and Daventry District Council, who split the construction costs between them. It marked the end of the construction phase of the project, which began last May, and the councils are now preparing the facility, ready to open for the first services in April. Chancellor Alan Hills, community, culture and leisure portfolio holder at Daventry District Council said: “The completion of this crematorium is great news for residents of Daventry District, who currently have to travel as far as Northampton and Banbury for similar facilities. “As well as being near at hand it provides a very peaceful and tranquil setting in a modern, state-of-the-art crematorium which will benefit the residents of both Daventry and Rugby.” 5 6 DISPATCHES New ‘Guide to Coroner Services’ aimed at the bereaved The bereaved will be put “at the heart of the coroner system”, Justice Minister Simon Hughes has announced, with the launch of a new guide for people who have to become involved with inquests. The new ‘Guide to Coroner Services’ explains in simple terms to bereaved people how the inquest process works, what they should expect, what standards of service they should receive, how to find help and what to do if they were not satisfied by the service.The guide is the latest stage of government’s drive to modernise the coroner system and make sure that bereaved families can receive the same standards of service from all 96 coroners in England and Wales, bringing an end to past inconsistencies. It follows the introduction last year of new national standards and the appointment of the first ever Chief Coroner, Judge Peter Thornton QC, to oversee the new system and drive improvement. Launching the guide, Justice Minister Simon Hughes said: “I want people to know that coroners’ courts needn’t be scary places, they can be open and welcoming, and that is why we are making absolutely sure that the needs of bereaved families are put first and foremost.” The guide follows the new coroner rules implemented last year, which mean that coroners will be required to notify those who are bereaved within a week of setting the date for the inquest and provide greater access to documents and evidence, such as post-mortem reports, before the inquest takes place, to enable bereaved families to prepare for the hearing. They must also be able to speed up the release of bodies after post mortem and will be required to notify the deceased’s next-of-kin or personal representative if the body cannot be released within 28 days, and permit less invasive post-mortem examinations. Birmingham’s largest cemetery ‘full to capacity’ Photo: oosoom Birmingham’s Witton Cemetery has revealed that it is ‘full to capacity’ and cannot serve any more clients, leaving families in the north of Birmingham to find alternative burial locations. The cemetery has been unable to take on new graves since late 2013 and a Birmingham City Council spokesperson said: “Witton Cemetery became full to capacity for new adult graves in December 2013. “Burials will continue to take place in Witton Cemetery where families have an existing grave that has space for burial. There are still new graves available for the burial of babies and cremated remains.” The council has been advising local funeral directors of the impending closure, ensuring that they are kept abreast of the situation. The spokesperson added: “Space is still available for new adult graves at Sutton New Hall, Handsworth, Lodge Hill, Quinton and Kings Norton Cemeteries.” DISPATCHES Three Minute Interview CHERYL YARWOOD, owner of Secure Haven Describe yourself in three words Honest, caring, busy. What is your earliest memory? Winning fancy dress competitions at Pontins - my nan and mum were great seamstresses, even with crepe paper. When you were at school, what did you want to be and why? In primary school, a long distance lorry driver...No idea why! What was the first music album you bought? The Bay City Rollers...I was very young and impressionable. If you could have dinner with one person, who would you choose and why? Gordon Ramsey, he could cook and talk, I could sit on the other side of the granite top and have a night off. Multiple charity donations introduced by MuchLoved Increasingly, funeral directors have been finding that families want to nominate more than one charity for their funeral collection, for example both a local hospice and a large national charity. MuchLoved has announced that its online tribute service can now be used to collect donations for any number of charities on any tribute, without limit. An additional enhanced ‘Charity Search’ makes it effortless to add charities and to include instructions, such as a requirement for the donations to be used for a specific appeal or branch of the charity. What is the best advice you have been given? We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone (Ronald Reagan). What is your next goal in life? To make a success of Secure Haven, helping people deal with their grief after losing a loved one. What is your personal mantra? Don’t believe the naysayers... ‘You can’t do that!’ and I say ‘why not try?’ As a new face in the funeral sector, tell us about Secure Haven? Paul and I set up Secure Haven to help the recently bereaved cope with the emotional trauma following a cremation. We collect from funeral directors and store treasured ashes if they cannot care for them and families need more time before they fulfil any final wishes. At our barn in Margaretting we store urns of ashes in ‘Secure Niches’ – custom-build wooden storage cabinets – with Image: The Essex Chronicle respect and sensitivity, for as long as needed. Family and friends are welcome to visit. What are your plans for the rest of the year? We are spending all our time working with the Secure Haven team to get the business established. What is the most important thing your job has taught you? That nothing can be achieved without hard work. Monthly provisional figures on deaths registered by area of usual residence, 2013 Source: ONS England and Wales Dec-13 Jan-14 Feb-14 TOTAL REGISTRATIONS 42,791 49,030 41,153 ENGLAND AND WALES 42,705 48,920 41,066 ENGLAND North East North West Yorkshire and the Humber East Midlands West Midlands East London South East South West 39,973 2,154 5,837 4,372 3,588 4,415 4,426 3,958 6,577 4,646 45,931 2,557 6,612 4,820 4,089 5,243 5,194 4,548 7,685 5,183 38,518 2,192 5,722 3,974 3,482 4,267 4,439 3,830 6,261 4,351 WALES 2,732 2,989 2,548 Non-residents of England & Wales 84 109 85 7 8 PRODUCTS Cemetery Development Services Cemetery Development Services in conjunction with Bosisio Srl, one of Italy’s longest established funeral furniture manufacturers, have jointly developed the Cinerarium. The development came from the requests of a number of crematoriums and funeral directors asking for a discreet and attractive method of memorialising cremated remains. Unlike the traditional columbarium the slim design - less than 110mm in thickness - and lightweight construction materials of the cinerarium enable it to be mounted on most walls indoors or outside. The cinerarium comes in two forms, either an aluminium frame or a modular fiberglass system. Both systems provide sufficient volume for one set of ashes per niche. Information: www.cemeterydevelopmentservices.co.uk Strong’s Memorials’ Long established memorial masons, Strong’s Memorials’ new ‘Plantmems’ are the company’s answer to the current economic climate, a quality product that is cost effective. Made from agglomerate and suitable for both indoor and outdoor use, the Plantmems house the standard polycontainers without the cost of a full traditional memorial. The firm explains: “Our Plantmems are proving to be a very popular alternative to standard urns and include a granite plaque which can be inscribed giving it a very personal touch.” Information: 01922 496117, moreinfo@strongmemorials.com or www.strongsmemorials.com Redwood Collections Redwood Collections offers a comprehensive service, from a gentle written reminder to proactive collection routines (including insolvency) if required. The company’s highly experienced account managers are there to advise and offer alternatives to the often ineffective, slow and costly process of taking county court action. With its unique ‘no collection, no commission’ debt collection service, Redwood Collections prides itself on its proactive communication with the debtor, which often leads to a swift resolution without recourse to legal action. Information: 0208 288 3555 or www.redwoodcollections.com O’Brien Carriage Masters O’Brien Carriage Masters caters to England, Scotland and Wales as well as parts of Ireland, providing its fleet of white, silver and black limousines and hearses to funeral directors, normally being able to accommodate clients on short notice as well. Offering a service that can include a range of everything such as removers, suppliers and conductors, paired with its limousines and hearses, O’Brien Carriage Masters has 35 years of experience under its belt. The company looks forward to any enquiries and building lasting relationships with funeral directors in the UK. Information: 0208 311 9591 or obriencars@ntlworld.com M uf an actur ers and suppliers of quality fitting s and lining s to th e discernin g Funeral Director Celebrating 30 Years 30% off all our stock pins and staples on orders placed during April For further information see our website www.allsops.net or call us on 01903 213991 or email info@allsops.net Are you still caring for ashes dating back years? Even following a cremation, there are still difficult choices to be made by bereaved families – many funeral directors will discover relatives are simply not emotionally ready to deal with their loved one’s ashes. Secure Haven can support the bereaved by taking care of ashes, allowing more time for these difficult decisions over a permanent resting place to be made – free from anxiety. We can arrange for ashes to be collected and interred into private secure niches, storing them with dignity and respect, at our specially-adapted historic barn near Chelmsford, Essex. 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Close Brothers Limited registered in England and Wales (Company Number 00195626) and its registered office is 10 Crown Place, London, EC2A 4FT. Braemar Finance, Braemar House, Olympic Business Park, Dundonald, KA2 9BE. PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES ‘Life is somehow more important than show business’ 11 12 PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES Image: Sander Lamme George Harrison was just 27 when the Beatles broke up, meaning he had it all before he turned 30. This left him free to pursue meaning in his own life, and here, PETER WYLLIE revisits Eric Idle’s tribute to a man of real depth H e was part of the soundtrack of my teenage years. Along with John Lennon, Paul McCartney and Ringo Starr, George Harrison was part of the most famous band in history and there is no doubt that the Beatles changed the course of popular music forever. In November 2001 (can it really be almost 13 years ago?), George was the second Beatle to die after John had been shot 21 years before. It was the following year, 2002, that the Hollywood Bowl inducted George Harrison into their hall of fame. His friend Eric Idle of Monty Python fame was invited to make the induction. I suppose this is not strictly a “eulogy” but it is the perfect tribute; combining warmth and humour and showing flashes of both George’s personality and underlying beliefs. Interestingly at a time when funeral services increasingly use audio-visual elements, this tribute contained a video montage and a live performance of one of George’s songs. ERIC IDLE: “When they told me they were going to induct my friend George Harrison into the Hollywood Bowl Hall of Fame posthumously: my first thought was - I bet he won’t show up. Because, unlike some others one might mention - but won’t - he really wasn’t in to honours. He was one of those odd people who believe that life is somehow more important than show business. Which I know is a heresy here in Hollywood, and I’m sorry to bring it up here in the very Bowel of Hollywood but I can hear his voice saying: “Oh very nice, very useful, a posthumous award - where am I supposed to put it? What’s next for me then? A posthumous Grammy? An ex-Knighthood? An After-Lifetime Achievement Award?” He’s going to need a whole new shelf up there. So “posthumously inducted” - sounds rather unpleasant: sounds like some kind of after-life enema. But ‘induct’ - in case you are wondering - comes from the word induce - meaning to bring on labour by the use of drugs. And ‘posthumous’ is actually from the Latin post meaning after and hummus meaning Greek food. So I like to think that George is still out there somewhere - pregnant and breaking plates at a Greek restaurant. I think he would prefer to be inducted posthumorously because he loved comedians poor, sick, sad, deranged, lovable puppies that we are, because they, like him, had the ability to say the wrong thing at the right time which is what we call humour. He put Monty Python on here at The Hollywood Bowl, and he paid for the movie The Life of Brian, because he wanted to see it. Still the most anybody has ever paid for a cinema ticket. His life was filled with laughter and even his death was filled with laughter… In the hospital he asked the nurses to put fish and chips in his IV. The doctor - thinking he was delusional - said to his son “don’t worry; we have a medical name for this condition.” “Yes” said Dahni, “humour”. And I’m particularly sorry Dahni isn’t here tonight - because I wanted to introduce him by saying: “Here comes the son”. But sadly that opportunity for a truly bad joke has gone, as has Dahni’s Christmas present from me. George once said to me: “If we’d known we were going to be The Beatles we’d have tried harder.” What made George special - apart from his being the best guitarist in the Beatles - was what he did with his life after they achieved everything. He realized that this fame business was and I’ll use the technical philosophical term here - complete bullshit. And he turned to find beauty and truth and meaning in life - and more extraordinarily - found it. This is from his book I Me Mine: “The things that most people are struggling for are fame or fortune or wealth or position - and really none of that is important because in the end death will take it all away. So you spend your life struggling for something, which is in effect a waste of time… I mean I don’t want to be lying there as I’m dying thinking ‘oh shit I forgot to put the cat out’.” And he wasn’t. He passed away - here in LA - with beauty and dignity surrounded by people he loved. Because he had an extraordinary capacity for friendship. People loved him all over the planet. George was in fact a moral philosopher: his life was all about a search for truth, and preparing himself for death. Which is a bit weird for someone in rock and roll. They’re not supposed to be that smart. They’re supposed to be out there looking for Sharon. Not the meaning of life. Michael Palin said George’s passing was really sad but it does make the afterlife seem much more attractive. He was a gardener - he grew beauty in 14 PETER WYLLIE: EULOGIES “He realised that this fame business was - and I’ll use the technical philosophical term here - complete bullshit. And he turned to find beauty and truth and meaning in life - and more extraordinarily - found it.” everything he did - in his life, in his music, in his marriage and as a father. I was on an island somewhere when a man came up to him and said “George Harrison, oh my god, what are you doing here?” - and he said “Well everyone’s got to be somewhere.” Well alas he isn’t here. But we are. And that’s the point. This isn’t for him. This is for us, because we want to honour him. We want to remember him, we want to say Thanks George for being. And we really miss you. So let’s take a look at some of the places he got to in his life. (Video montage is shown of George Harrison’s life, from youthful Beatle to mature solo artist.) Well he’s still not here. But we do have someone very special who was very dear to him - who is here. The first man to perform with the Beatles. The one and only Billy Preston. (Billy Preston and a chorus of vocalists sing Harrison’s “My Sweet Lord.”) Thank you Billy Preston. So this is the big drag about posthumous awards: there’s no one to give ‘em to. So I’m gonna keep this and put it next to the one I got last year. No, I’m going to give it to the love of his life, his dark sweet lady, dear wonderful Olivia Harrison, who is with us here tonight. Liv, you truly know what it is to be without him. Thank you Hollywood Bowl, you do good to honour him. Goodnight.” You see? That is an almost perfect tribute and whether you were a Beatles or a Stones person, one thing is without doubt; it will be a long time before George Harrison’s influence is forgotten and his memory lost. Peter Wyllie is an independent funeral celebrant and a member of the AOIC. For more information please visit www.silverdove.org.uk or www. independentcelebrants.com CinerArium Flexible, profitable, beautiful... Slim line cremated remains storage and memorialisation system. CDS Products Ltd offers you the latest in cremated remains memorialisation and storage. Our new bespoke CinerArium for cemeteries and crematoria, is built using our revolutionary slim line design innovation that includes cremated remains within the memorial wall. The CinerArium can be installed on most existing walls and the design of plate frontage tailored to suit the environment and clients needs. They are high quality, durable and simple to install either externally or internally. • • • • • • A profitable use of unused or under-utilised space. Our in-house designs are unique to your requirements from the size to choices of stone and detailed designs making your CinerArium not just a memorial wall but beautiful design feature to admire. Durable and simple to install at a time of your convenience, week ends and evenings included. Slim line design does not obstruct passage ways and access areas, only a 10cm protrusion from the wall. Reusing of niches is clean & simple due to contained box method to store the ashes. Adaptable to diverse cultures, e.g. electricity can be installed for small lamps. Once installed to your specification we are able to offer support and maintenance to your CinerArium including inscriptions and ancillary consumables. To benefit from a no obligation appointment to further discuss your possible requirements please contact us. CDS Products Ltd Capability House, Building 31, Wrest Park, Silsoe, Bedfordshire MK45 4HR t: +44 (0) 1525 864387 e: info@cemeteryproducts.co.uk w: www.cemeterydevelopmentservices.co.uk 16 GEORGE CALLANDER Photos, wool, polished oak or stone? The coffin is a major signifier of the character of the deceased: opulence, comfort, smartness, dignity or glamour - you can conjure any of these with the right choice, says the REVEREND GEORGE CALLANDER H aving finally dragged my old carcass into the 21st Century and embraced some of the now-ubiquitous technology, I am now a devoted ‘tweeter’ and enjoy many splendid exchanges @FrDoddie. Do feel free to ‘follow’ me. In a recent tweet exchange I was sent the old saying: “It’s not the cough what carries you off; it’s the coffin they carries you off in!” Hackneyed, I know, but nevertheless true. There is much about coffins to be found throughout this month’s edition of FST and rightly so. The coffin (or coffin alternative) is the most focal feature of a funeral, so has to be appropriate. A plethora of column inches and glossy brochures tastefully present colour photographs of coffins and caskets in all shapes, sizes, colours and finishes. Many are traditional in design and construction with an increasing number of bespoke creations of great quality, style and beauty. In recent months I have seen a couple of stunning coffins of such superb craftsmanship it seemed a shame to bid them farewell at the committal! How many times have we heard folks say they want no fuss for their funeral and would prefer to be placed in a bin bag? They are most disgruntled to be told this is not possible because of (apart from anything else) cremation emissions from the bin bag. Others, too, believe a cardboard coffin to be the easiest and cheapest solution for their farewell journey. And as we know, this is not always the case. So, what then do we as consumers or professionals alike, expect from our coffin or casket? Well, setting aside its principal function to securely contain a dead body prior to burial or cremation, a coffin should be aesthetically pleasing; well designed and no matter how cheap, appropriately constructed. No one wants to see bits falling off at the crem, or the bottom fall out at the worst possible moment. Fortunately I have not (as yet) seen this happen; but on more than one occasion my heart has jumped into my mouth! The material of which the coffin is constructed is also very important. Think for a moment of the lovely woolly coffins now widely available. They convey (even to this flinty old heart) a real sense of nurturing, of protection and even comfort. They are very tactile, too, which is so important for bereaved people. Whenever I see one of these woolly coffins I instinctively stroke it and think, “awwwww, isn’t that nice!” Which it is. A solid wood coffin, beautifully carved, furnished and polished coffin gives a real sense of grandeur and opulence. An aesthetic equally achievable with some of the better models of laminate coffin. Likewise bamboo coffins, pods and wicker caskets are beautiful things, conveying a softer, more natural impression. I appreciate families can have what they want. As I say time and again, that is a very good thing: some want the all singing and all dancing solid oak sideboard-esque craftsman-built coffin, embellished with solid brass handles, crosses and so on, fully lined in beautiful oyster satin. Others want plain simplicity and dignity. Some clients want a truly unique and personalised coffin for their unique loved one’s final journey, and choose a coffin adorned with photos or images. I think there is something very special about sitting down with a family to select a special design or put together a design from a collection of photographs, texts or images which adequately sum up the life ended. Making the personalised coffin a central feature of the farewell ceremony can truly benefit the bereaved. Although they are popular, I still cannot decide whether or not I like cardboard coffins (of the plainer type). I find them rather stark and utilitarian. Why is this? I don’t know. Perhaps it’s because I’m from a generation still used to a coffin looking like a coffin. Although having said this I have seen cardboard coffins covered by batik cloth throws, and more traditional wooden coffin covers. One of my FD friends (alas, no longer trading) commissioned a textile artist to create a fantastic patchwork cover for cardboard coffins. This bright, cheerful and reusable object made from multi-coloured pieces of recycled fabric proved very popular. I christened it the ‘Coffin-Cosy’. It was tactile and cheerful, but never disguised the reality that beneath it, was the coffin of a much-loved person. The CoffinCosy was, to my mind, a contemporary take on the age-old custom of draping a coffin with a pall: the large, heavy drape completely covering the coffin. Often purple, coffin palls were decorated with religious or regimental symbols. One of the most beautiful I have seen was midnight blue velvet, decorated with lots of gold and silver applique stars. The ancient custom of draping coffins with flags and standards (think royal, state or military funerals) remains popular. Like every other aspect of funeral custom, it has evolved to include coffin drapes in football club colours and team emblems. Nothing in our profession remains unchanged for long: the wheel of custom and fashion never stops turning. Mind you, in recent weeks I have been hunched in front of the Chapel House telly, mug of coffee in hand, a plate of biccies at GEORGE CALLANDER Photo: Tom Oates my side, watching the History Channel’s current series of “Grave Trade”, featuring the work of Thomas Cribb & Sons - a firm akin to funeral directing royalty for many East London families. What I enjoy most about this series is seeing how a big and busy firm operates. For some reason each episode is interspersed with footage from a funerary archaeological dig. Last week the archaeologists were plying their trade in the grounds of a now-demolished hospital where I once plied mine. This week they had unearthed a huge mediaeval stone coffin in the grounds of Lincoln Castle. Although interesting to watch, perhaps it is just as well stone coffins are rather out of fashion these days. I hate to think what it would do to the backs of Darren, Jimmy, Chris, Colin, Jeff, Iain, Paul and the many, many other underbearers up and down the land if they had to lug about stone coffins. Not to mention the suspension on the hearse! In the past, stone coffins were de rigeur for the great and the good of society. Abbots, Kings, Princes, Nobles and Bishops were laid in their stone coffin, often sealed by an elaborately carved stone lid. Examples of these are easy to spot at many a cathedral or historical site around the land. I expect being a hessian-wearing peasant, I would have been turfed into a simple grave: there not being enough stone in the quarry to enrobe this body! The beauty and artistry of many stone coffins has survived the centuries and still tell us their story today. Visit any catacombs or mausoleum and one can see coffins stretching back the generations, telling us their story, too: allowing us to see the evolution of funeral customs and fashions down the years. Many of the modern coffins and caskets we see in the course of our work are of such a solid construction and quality, they too, will tell their story to future generations of funerary historians. Similarly, with the increase in cremation, many more coffins and caskets of all shapes, sizes and materials are transient. I am a great supporter of the wide range of coffins, caskets, pods and shrouds available to us and our clients. I agree the appearance of the coffin is very important in the grieving process. Likewise, the quality of the service we all provide our clients. However, I never forget the most important aspect of every funeral process is the dignity shown to the deceased, and the consideration and compassion given to the bereaved people who mourn. This is without question - essential. Now, all this talk of coffins hasn’t helped me. I still can’t decide in which kind of coffin I want to make my final journey. What about a stone coffin? No, too expensive and a bit over the top. What about a solid oak beauty, furnished with the finest brash handles and accoutrements? No, still too expensive. I am after all an Aberdonian! I think I have the solution: what about a stone-effect photo coffin, draped with a ‘Coffin Cosy’ made from my trademark fuschia-coloured socks? Surely, this is perfection’s own self? More than that, it will provide a conundrum for any funerary archaeologist in future centuries, busy howking up my bones. The Rev George Callander FRSA is senior minister of the liberal Christian UK Open Free Church, president of the Society of Bereavement Practitioners, and a bereavement specialist practitioner, speaker and trainer. Please visit www.gscallander.com or www.socbp.org for more information. 17 Magical memories at a time they’re needed the most You know just how important having happy memories to look back on can be to bereaved families. As well as collecting donations on your clients’ behalf, you may also like to support Make-A-Wish as a company. At Make-A-Wish Foundation® UK we give children who may never grow up magical memories they and their family can treasure forever. We work with companies of all sizes and our dedicated team of fundraisers has experience of handling many different sorts of partnership. We can help you to find the most suitable way of working together. And you can help the families you work with remember their own loved ones. Making In Memoriam donations to Make-A-Wish is a wonderful way to mark the life of a loved one. We speak to many families who have supported us in this way. They tell us that they find comfort in the thought that, at their time of sadness, they can bring some much-needed happiness to others. For more information contact Katy Pickering on 01276 40 50 53, email katy.pickering@makeawish.org.uk or visit www.make-a-wish.org.uk 22653 Funeral Directors Press Ad3-Artwork.indd 1 However you get involved with Make-A-Wish, be it on your clients’ behalf or as a company, your support will make a big difference. Help us provide memories to last a lifetime. Make-A-Wish Foundation UK • 329-331 London Road • Camberley • Surrey GU15 3HQ Charity Registration Nos. (England & Wales) 295672 / (Scotland) SC037479 26/09/2012 12:26 12:26 20 COFFIN SPECIAL Coffin Special Manufacturers & Suppliers PH COATE & SON 01823 490249, elizabeth@englishwillowbaskets.co.uk or www.englishwillowcoffins.co.uk What are your coffin/caskets made from and why? Our coffins our made from willow, a natural product which has the unique ability to regenerate repeatedly from the same crown for over 30 years, and provides an attractive and highly sustainable source of material to work with. Willow coffins are suitable for burial, cremation and green burial sites and we offer a range of shapes, colours and finishing details for customers to chose from. How long have you been trading? PH Coate & Son has been working with willow on the Somerset Levels since 1819. With great attention to detail, each one of our coffins is strongly made using skills passed down through generations of the Coate family. The Somerset levels is one of the most important wetland areas in the UK. The unique landscape provides perfect conditions for growing willow. What is interesting about your manufacturing methods? Each coffin is handcrafted to order so are made specifically for the person concerned. We use ‘randed’ weave which means they are woven one strand of willow at a time which gives a really strong weave but with a ‘fine’ look. A ‘wale’ is found around the base of the coffin to add strength and a border is made around the top of the coffin to give a good strong edge.The willow is plaited around the edge of the lid to give an artistic touch to the overall look. TRIBUTES 0845 388 8742 or www.tributes.ltd.uk What new designs can we expect this year? Following our recent launches of Tribute Heart Keepsakes and Heart Tags our customers have come to expect plenty of new ideas from Tributes and as always, we are working on a number of new products, but we don’t want to spoil any surprises, so watch this space. What are your coffin/caskets made from and why? Our coffins are woven from natural willow and bamboo, with cotton calico linings, making them 100 per cent biodegradable. They have a unique supporting structure, giving them exceptional strength and stability, setting them apart from our competitors and making them popular with customers who previously may have been reluctant to change from traditional hardwood coffins. How long have you be trading? Our company celebrates its 20th anniversary this year. We are a creative company and have been responsible for the invention of a number of innovative products for the funeral industry, including the Scatter Tube. We’re proud of our long record of supplying superior quality products at competitive prices and our excellent customer service. What is interesting about your manufacturing methods? We work from design to production, ensuring efficiency, quality and fair trade, and listen closely to feedback from customers. This helps us refine designs to reflect the needs of funeral directors and families, resulting in products that are not only beautiful and high quality, but easy and efficient to use. ©20 Honouring a life well-lived WE NEVER FORGET A FAMILY HAS JUST LOST A LOVED ONE When someone passes away, it’s not only essential to remember the life, but to ensure its meaning lights the way for those who are left behind. Helping families through this process is what you do best. NEW And while families are leaning on you, you can depend on Batesville. We understand that grief is a journey. And we’re here to provide the products and services your families need, at every step along the way. Sanborn Batesville Casket UK Ltd. The Old Vicarage, Market Street, Castle Donington, Derbyshire, DE74 2JB Tel: 01332 856372 Fax: 01332 856377 www.batesville.co.uk ©2014 Batesville Services, Inc. U N I Q U E LY PERSONAL - SENSITIVE INNOVATION BESPOKE, PERSONALISED ASH CASKETS Whether for solemn remembrance or dignified celebration, the Artiste range of uniquely personal, engraved Ash Caskets, are now available throughout the UK, from Steve Soult Limited. Our modern, elegant ash caskets are now available with a truly bespoke finish in any colour. Whatever personal statement and date is desired, we work with our customers to ensure their client’s wishes are fulfilled. 01623 721 123 www.stevesoult.com HANDMADE IN THE UK UNCOMPROMISING QUALITY £59 + £10 delivery + VAT Despatched nationwide within 48 hours Byron Avenue Lowmoor Business Park Kirkby-in-Ashfield Nottinghamshire NG17 7LA COFFIN SPECIAL THE SOMERSET WILLOW COMPANY 01278 424003, enquiries@somersetwillow.co.uk or www.wickerwillowcoffins.co.uk What new designs can we expect this year? We launched our premium interior set in January of this year; this consists of a cream frill that is hand stitched into our willow coffins, along with a matching mattress and pillow filled with natural hay. What are your coffin/caskets made from and why? Our coffin/caskets are made from willow that we grow near our workshops here in Somerset, a fact which makes our products extremely environmentally friendly and with a very low carbon footprint. How long have you been trading? The Somerset Willow Company is a fourth generation family business and has been trading for 55 years this year. What is interesting about your manufacturing methods? We pride ourselves on the fact that our products are handwoven here in Somerset, employing local people. Even the growing and processing of our willow ready for weaving, requires very little mechanical processing. FTP Half Page ADVERT 2014.qxd:Layout 1 27/3/14 16:58 Page 1 ENVIRONMENTALLY FRIENDLY COFFINS Elegantly made by skilled craftsmen Previously Fine Timber Products Limited Water Hyacinth Abaca Traditional & Oval Shaped Brown Willow Traditional & Oval Shaped White Willow Bamboo Full ran g of size e availables NEW E UNIQUN G I S DE Oval Shaped Light Oak Traditional & Oval Shaped Seagrass The Old Rectory Boraston Tenbury Wells Worcestershire WR15 8LH Te l 0 1 5 8 4 8 1 9 9 8 1 Fax 01584 819483 admin@finetimberproducts.co.uk www.ftp-eco-coffins.co.uk 23 24 COFFIN SPECIAL FTP ECOCOFFINS 01584 819981, admin@finetimberproducts.co.uk or www.ftp-eco-coffins.co.uk What new designs can we expect this year? At the end of March FTP Ecocoffins will be launching a new oval-shape oak veneer coffin with load-bearing handles, constructed from FSC certified materials, using reconstituted wood and formaldehyde-free wood adhesive. Three sizes will be available initially: 5’8”, 6’ and 6’4”. What are your coffins made from? The great majority of our coffins are woven from environmentally friendly materials such as wicker, seagrass, water hyacinth, abaca and bamboo. This means that they not only fit our company’s eco credentials but the coffins are also pleasing to the eye. How long have you been trading? FTP Ecocoffins has been trading since 2001. Our company was formerly known as Fine Timber Products but we changed the name a few years back to better reflect the nature of our business. What is interesting about your manufacturing methods? All of our woven coffins obviously have to be made by hand, which helps to provide employment in poorer parts of the world. We manufacture our new oak veneer coffin in house near Tenbury Wells, Worcs and it was an interesting challenge given the fact that it is oval shaped. LT & R VOWLES 01684 592212 or www.ltrvowles.co.uk What new designs can we expect this year? This year we are developing an exciting range of bespoke coffin showroom and display furniture. However, we are always open to suggestions for new designs from the funeral industry. What are your coffin/caskets made from and why? We carefully source a wide range of traditional materials from solid hardwoods to veneered fibre boards, as well as offering products in cardboard and natural materials such as willow, and wool. How long have you been trading? For 77 years – since 1937. What is interesting about your manufacturing methods? Manufacturing methods are evolving all the time. Why not visit us at our new showroom facility for a guided factory tour, and see for yourself? GREENFIELD PRESTIGE 01440 788 866, info@greenfieldprestige.co.uk or www.greenfieldprestige.co.uk What new designs can we expect this year? Our Prestige cardboard coffins are going from strength to strength in 2014 with a unique style and design. The coffins are aesthetically pleasing, in a range of colours and effects, such as wood grain and floral patterned. What are your coffin/caskets made from and why? All the coffins are made from cardboard ink and corn starch glue, developed with a fully biodegradable lining suite. How long have you be trading? Greenfield Prestige was unveiled at the National Funeral Exhibition in June 2013 as a modern approach to the increased demand for environmentally friendly coffins, however, Greenfield Creations has been trading since 1990, with more than 20 years of building cardboard coffins. What is interesting about your manufacturing methods? The improved graphic printing technologies means that our coffins look almost identical to a real wooden coffin. They have the look but lots more environmental benefits. painted willow coffins Tributes Ltd are delighted to announce that we now offer painted willow coffins upon request. Available in white for adult sizes and white, pastel pink or blue for child & infant sizes. TRIBUTES ... n atu ra lly Our superior quality willow coffins look lovely in white, which is beautifully set off by their natural rush-wrapped handles. Beautifully suited to simple floral tributes they can also be accented with our Tribute Heart Message Tags for individual personal messages from the family. Call our friendly customer care team or see our website for more details. Another reason to make your next woven coffin a Tributes coffin t: 0845 388 8742 ◦ f: 0845 388 8743 ◦ e: info@tributes.ltd.uk SJM_ads-2014.indd 15 3/20/2014 11:21:40 AM & atanaffordableprice Style quality Tel: 01278 588011 Fax: 01278 588 183 FST (Landscape) - NWP cane coffins.indd 1 contact@naturalwovenproducts.co.uk www.wickercoffins.co.uk 28/08/2013 12:00 M an u fa c t u re rs & su p pli ers o f qual ity fitt i ngs & l ini n gs t o t he di s c e r n i n g F u n e r a l D i re c t o r ordering from Allsops online is so easy Allsops trade-only website offers the convenience of easy online ordering and is supported by our friendly customer service team, who are there to receive your orders by phone, fax, post, email or via the website. Login and discover the ease of online ordering with Allsops. See our website for more information www.allsops.net 01903 213991 Do you want more incremental funerals? One year on from Avalon’s change of ownership and new management team, we offer • Incremental funerals • Improved pricing • Payment within 14 days of receiving your invoice with proof of death • Dedicated Funeral Directors team • No exclusivity requirements To find out more, please speak to our Funeral Directors team on 0161 486 2025 28 COFFIN SPECIAL Accessory Spotlight DJ MacNeice & Company Established in the early 1990’s, DJ MacNeice & Company has forged a reputation as a leading supplier and manufacturer in the funeral business in Ireland. DJ MacNeice management and staff endeavour to provide a deep knowledge of the funeral and embalming trade. “We dedicate ourselves to developing innovations that cater to the unique requirements within the funeral service sector. The company is a one-stop shop, offering a full range of quality products and services to funeral homes, coffin makers and mortuary technicians in Ireland and Britain. Our customer service team will advise you on all aspects of the funeral trade.” Information: 00353 1882 8731, sales@djmacneice.com or www.djmacneice.com Funeral Safe Funeral Safe’s professionally designed multicomposite shoulder protection system is a discreet fitting beneath your blazer; nobody will know that you are wearing it. The protective pad stays in place with the aid of braces with elastic loops to the underside of the pad through which the elastic brace passes. The benefit of this product means no discomfort during the carry, eliminating focal point pressure injuries and reducing the likelihood of other associated manual handling injuries. Hardy’s Funeral Service of Durham stated the Pal Pad was “brilliant”. They are in stock now. Information: 07714337472 or www.funeralsafe.com First Call Stretcher MD Now with a FREE body cover worth £62! First Call Stretcher MD The Multidirectional First Call Stretcher offers the ultimate in flexibility and manoeuvrability in tight spaces. It also folds in half for neat storage, comes complete with 2 stretcher straps and convenient fold away wheels and legs. Standard Body Cover Our standard body cover is made from a wipe clean and fully elasticated fabric for an easy to use cover. Features The Multidirectional Wheels allow easy side-ways movement when used in an upright position. All this for just £499* *includes VAT and UK mainland delivery offer ends 30th May 2014 YEAR WARRANTY Handling the future 30 FOCUS ON TROLLEYS & BIERS Focus on: Trolleys & Biers Trolleys and biers are a necessity when transporting coffins or caskets, and here LAUREN MORTON identifies the standout designs on offer in 2014 Auden Funeral Supplies PFM Design Consultancy AR Twigg & Son A funeral bier or trolley can be a funeral director’s best friend, making light work of moving a coffin or casket during a funeral, and with so many different styles and extras, it can be difficult to decide which one fits your needs best. However with current attention focused on the nation’s obesity, the impact it has had on the funeral industry has meant a change of direction.This follows reports from the Overseas Development Institute which identified that 64 per cent of the UK adult population is currently obese, meaning a body mass index (BMI) of more than 25. Naturally, as the nation’s weight increases, the typical bier or trolley no longer does the job adequately. Auden Funeral Supplies, which constantly strives to offer its clients innovative solutions to their funeral needs, has developed its XL range of trolleys to cater to the growing population. Increasing average weight is a problem that Auden believes has had funeral directors reaching more towards a larger, sturdier trolley that they may not have considered in the past. The firm makes its XL trolleys to the highest specifications, while still ensuring that they are light and flexible enough for everyday use.The company explains: “Future proof your business by investing in a multilevel XL300 and by doing so you get all the additional features as well as bariatric capability for the future.” Every XL300 trolley that Auden produces includes, multi-height functionality, multi directional wheels available, roll-inroll-out for use in tight space, extendable side arms and up to 400kg load capacity. AR Twigg & Son has continued to expand its range during a highly productive first few months of 2014. Building on the success of its ‘Electro Hydraulic Embalming Trolley’, introduced last year, the company has now launched a ‘Manual Hydraulic’ version which is capable of lifting 45 stones. With the increasing sizes of caskets and coffins, AR Twigg has introduced a new heavy-duty version of its renowned ‘Standard Lattice Bier’ which is capable of supporting 50 stones. The company says: “To meet similar needs of crematoria, we have also added a 70 stones Cremator Trolley to our portfolio, giving the industry a better choice of quality heavy-duty trolleys at affordable prices. All new products are made bespoke to individual customer specifications and this service is provided at no extra cost.” Sticking to more traditional methods, PFM Design Consultancy also creates bespoke biers to meet the needs of funeral directors. Owner Peter Moles explains: “All of my biers are built to order and as I am a one man business with engineering experience I am able to take on custom designs for any problems you may have.” Moles, along with his late wife, established PFM Design Consultancy in 2010 having retired the year before, though following an inundation of enquiries he continues to offer a variety of biers and a transport trolley to funeral directors. Catering to the growing number of woodland burials, Moles adds: “They are built to order and offer a choice of two large and two small or four large roller bearing wheels. Fancy gloss back powdercoated scroll and steel work, plus a choice of oak, beech or sappele wooden sub frame and stretcher. Side rails, roller beds and hydraulic disc brakes can also be added at extra cost.” Supplier Listing: Auden: 01924 0402080 or www.audenfs.com AR Twigg: 0113 256 1194, sales@artwigg.co.uk or www.artwigg.co.uk PFM Design Consultancy: 01476 530632/ 07711181934 peter.moles@btinternet.com or peter.moles@classicalbiers.co.uk AR Introducing Two New Twigg Products For Spring! The new 50 Stone Heavy Duty Standard Lattice made bespoke to order. The new Manual Hydraulic Embalming Trolley. See website for full product range. Call for latest brochure. 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Here, MICHAEL NORTHCOTT examines the nuances of the US military’s approach I t is reasonably common knowledge that the US takes the armed forces and their people very seriously. Spending on military functions is more than any other single portion of the federal budget. In 2013, the government spent $682 billion on it, which was 4.4 per cent of the country’s GDP, and 39 per cent of the global total that countries spent on on their armed forces. It stands to reason, then, that military bosses take the funerals put on for fallen servicemen and women very seriously, too. In 2000, Section 578 of Public Law 106-65 of the National Defense Authorization Act, decreed that if the family of an eligible veteran of the US Armed Forces requests the ‘rendering of honours in a military funeral’, then an ‘honor guard’ detail of at least two serving members of the military must be in attendance at the ceremony. 34 AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS Escort platoons marching during the military funeral of Admiral Thomas Hinman Moorer in Arlington National Cemetery, 2004. At the very least, the ceremony must include the American tradition of the folding of the national flag to be presented to the family of the deceased, and also a bugler (or sound sytem) must play Taps, the US military’s traditional bugled funereal tune. Interestingly, the military sometimes has to call on the services of the Reserve or National Guard, just to source a bugler, as there are so few people good enough at playing the instrument throughout the US. What makes a veteran eligible? According to official guidance from the US Department of Defense (or defence, to us British): • Personnel who are on active duty or ‘Selected Reserve’ throughout the Armed Forces • Those who were formally on active duty The Old Guard transports the flag-draped casket of the second Sergeant Major of the Army George W. Dunaway who was buried with full military honors at Arlington National Cemetery. but have been honourably discharged through retirement etc. • Enlisted personnel (below the rank of commission officer, generally people performing roles that match their own skills/occupation) • Anyone who was discharged from the Armed Forces because of ‘disability incurred or aggravated’, which is generally taken to mean injured or put out of action by injury. 36 AMERICAN MILITARY FUNERALS “The flag is folded in a special folding ceremony by the six honour guards who carried the casket. It always finishes with the stars point up, sometimes shells are placed in the folds of the flag” Members of the 86th Airlift Wing honor guard conduct a flag-folding ceremony at Ramstein Air Base, Germany, 2009. The types of ceremony Standard Honor: A military chaplain for the family, the coffin or casket draped with the national flag, sometimes a flyover of fighter jets in the ‘Missing Man Formation’, a rifle party tasked with firing a three-volley salute. Full Honor: All the standard honours are included, and in addition a riderless horse follows the caissons and limbers in the procession - this one is for commanding officers. For general officers, depending on the number of stars they have to their rank, there are varying numbers of guns from 11 to 17 gun salute. Furthermore, a military band will play. Armed Forces military funeral: This is a special form of the military funeral reserved solely for the President of the United States (as commander-in-chief of the Armed Forces), the Secretary of State for Defense, the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, and any officers who had been granted ‘multipleservice command’. Presidents are honoured with a 21-gun salute using artillery. In most cases, the flag is folded in a special folding ceremony by the six honour guards who carried the casket. It always finishes with the stars pointing up, sometimes shells are placed in the folds of the flag, and when the ceremony is complete, it is presented to the family of the deceased. Whoever is doing the presenting of the flag utters the following words: “On behalf of the President of the United States, the United States (Army, Marine Corps, Navy, Air Force or Coast Guard ), and a grateful nation, please accept this flag as a symbol of our appreciation for your loved one’s honorable and faithful service.” There’s no doubt that the wars of the last 15 years have provided impetus to honour veterans properly, and policies such as standardising the wording (as above), providing a free-phone number for families to request military honours, and the funding to perform the honours, are a way of celebrating the bravery of the Armed Forces as well as giving the deceased a dignified send-off. If there’s one thing the Americans do well, it is grandeur, and no less so than in these gravitas-laden events. 38 Q&A Remember a loved one with the gift of hope. Brain tumour The hope of a cure. research receives Suggesting a memorial collection in aid of Brain Tumour Research will help provide the funds to help find a cure. less than 1% (0.7%) of national cancer research spending in the UK Be part of a memorial that will last forever. CALL: 01296 733011 eMail: info@braintumourresearch.org Let’s connect GIVE: www.braintumourresearch.org/donate Please mention this advert when responding Registered charity number 1153487 (England and Wales) Company limited by guarantee number 08570737 (England and Wales) 40 COMPANY PROFILE Larger than Life BATESVILLE CASKET COMPANY, manufacturer of burial caskets, tells FST how it can benefit funeral directors here in the UK Tell us about Batesville Casket Company Batesville Casket Company is a manufacturer of burial caskets, founded at the turn of the 20th century in the Midwest of the United States in an area where high-quality hardwoods were plentiful. The business originally started manufacturing coffins, but transitioned to manufacturing wood caskets as this larger, more ornate product category became the more dominate choice of consumers in North America. Batesville Coffin Company, as it was known then, was purchased by the Hillenbrand family in 1906. The Hillenbrand family founded Hillenbrand Industries whose subsidiaries also included a world-renowned hospital bed and equipment manufacturer, Hill-Rom. Through extensive investments in world class manufacturing facilities and expansion of an advanced distribution system, the Hillenbrands grew Batesville throughout the 20th Century into the largest casket company in the world. Batesville Casket UK is the British subsidiary of Batesville and is located within the small Derbyshire market town of Castle Donington. With the help of our UK distribution partner, we have built long-term relationships with funeral directors, funeral associations and many funeral professionals throughout the United Kingdom, the Republic of Ireland and Europe. Tell us about your caskets Superior craftsmanship, the highest quality materials and constant innovation have become the hallmarks of the Batesville brand. Batesville offers two types of premium caskets: first, hardwood caskets include a variety of species: mahogany, cherry, maple, oak, poplar, and pine, all sourced in the United States. These caskets are the choice of families who appreciate and cherish the qualities of natural wood. The same warmth, beauty and personality it brings to fine furniture makes it ideally suitable for the construction of quality caskets. Second, metal caskets include those made from bronze, copper, stainless, and carbon steel. These caskets are known for their unique finishes. Bronze and copper are among the most durable and beautiful of metals; both are naturally non-rusting. Stainless and carbon steel caskets come in a variety of grades, gauges, styles, and finishes. Why should a funeral director choose you when helping families with their needs? When a loved one dies, families must choose an appropriate container to hold that loved one before, during and after the funeral. While many UK families have traditionally chosen coffins for this purpose, another unique option is a Batesville casket. Different from traditional coffins, caskets are larger, more substantial vessels made from the finest materials with unique features to help memorialise the lives of loved ones. For over 100 years, Batesville has manufactured some of the finest caskets available anywhere in the world. Batesville has always taken immense pride in fulfilling the needs of funeral directors as they serve families in their hour of greatest need, and we never forget that each of our products plays an important role in representing a precious life of a loved one. Those funeral homes who wish to offer their families the very best and include a full range of options should consider Batesville. We take great care in the manufacturing of each and every casket and are committed to ensuring those products are provided to the family with the highest standards of quality and service. To fulfil that commitment, Batesville exclusively sells and distributes its caskets through a carefully chosen network – professional funeral directors. Funeral directors have been selected for their ability to provide the right product for each family’s particular situation and explain our exclusive features. Funeral directors have enduring commitments to serving their communities and a comprehensive understanding of serving families’ needs. You offer innovative merchandising solutions and implementation strategies, how does this benefit funeral directors? With a focus on meeting everyday business challenges, Batesville draws upon its 100 years of experience with the funeral process to provide solutions that not only include the highest quality products, but also the tools needed to clearly convey the value of the products and services funeral directors provide. By taking the time to understand the specific needs of each business we serve, Batesville can help funeral directors meet the family’s expectations from the arrangement conference, to the product selection process, to the funeral service. We do this by providing funeral directors with the right product assortment and point-of-sale materials to ensure sufficient choices and communicate important features to help families express their love, devotion, values, and beliefs in ways to honour the lives of loved ones. Information: 01332 856372 or www.batesville.co.uk www.lovingtribute.co.uk BEREAVEMENT STATIONERY PRICE LIST Individual Prices (Inc VAT) • 50 x A5 4 page personalised Order of Service • 50 x A5 8 page personalised Order of Service • 50 x A6 personalised Attendance Cards • 50 x A6 personalised Thank You Cards • Personalised Memorial book • Personalised Keepsake box • Online Memorial Slideshow (Only available when ordering an Order Of Service) £60 £80 £18 £30 £18 £18 £18 FRE DEL E IV on or ERY over ders £60! If you purchase 50 x A5 Order of Service you will receive 50% discount off any other single stationery item in the range. (Discount off highest priced item, in case of multiple purchases) There is a secure Overnight Courier Delivery charge of £10 for the items above unless the combined order is £60 or over Premium Plus Package £100 (Inc VAT) The Premium Plus Package includes: • 50 x Personalised Order of Service • 50 x personalised Attendance Cards • 50 x personalised Thank You Cards • 1 x Personalised Memorial book • 1 x Personalised Keepsake box • 1 x Online Memorial Slideshow • FREE overnight courier delivery To register and get started, with no obligation to purchase www.lovingtribute.co.uk info@lovingtribute.co.uk ☎ 0117 9666123 42 ALEX JAMES Out With The Old – In With The New Celebrating the life of a loved one is a commendable approach, but, says ALEX JAMES, there is no need to hop on the bandwagon if clients would prefer a more solemn affair W hilst working in a palliative care setting as a family support, my role was to support families facing death of a loved one, and in particular children facing the death of a parent. The most beneficial relationships I formed with people were those that developed over a period of up to two years, and after death, until the remaining family were able to work towards manageability themselves. During the shared journeys I would eventually talk to the dying about their ending. This included thoughts feelings, and hopes about the future – a future in which they would not be present. Much of my work centred around how I might capture the essence of an individual so that their family might feel a bond to them even after death, and so that the children might have a way of knowing them, to grow up feeling some kind of transcendental link to their deceased parent. By involving the children in some of the pre-bereavement journey, they would have a base of understanding for when the inevitable happened, and a place from which to continue with their life. We would talk about many things whilst sitting together; early on in kitchens over cups of tea; in my office at work; later at bedsides, whilst the children drew pictures and wrote stories. There were tears and laughter too. I felt a deep sense of privilege for being trusted and allowed to share those precious times with each families. I’m telling you this because I want you to understand my work and my relationship with my clients. Talking about the future became easier as our relationships developed, and talking about final arrangements also came to feel comfortable as a topic, sad though it was for all of us. I remember once sitting in a client’s garden, a young mum with two small children. It was a beautiful sunny afternoon and as her husband made tea and the children helped to prepare a tray of cakes, we looked at a brochure together: a collection of coffins. The lady had asked me to bring it with me so that hey might choose hers together. “Pink is your colour,” her husband chuckled as he spotted the bright fuchsia pink casket on the page before us. “Oh my ALEX JAMES God this is unreal...tea Alex?” As we sat in the sunshine, the children on their climbing frame, bees buzzing around us and the smell of freshly cut grass in the air, it didn’t seem possible that such an ordinary afternoon could facilitate such an extraordinary conversation. Things seemed so normal and yet there we were planning her funeral together. The pink coffin was something she connected with - “you should all wear something pink,” she said, “and afterwards have pink champagne or something - make it a celebration of my life, not a sombre sad event. What music should I have? Any ideas Alex?” She spoke with an ease that might have been present if she were planning her 40th birthday, not her final farewell. Another client, Tim, was 30, he had four children, and I grew to know the family well over the last year of his life. One morning shortly before he died he asked me whether I thought it was mean that he didn’t like the idea of everyone going down the pub after his funeral without him. He felt angry that life was cheating him out of what he perceived would be his. “I want my parents to arrange my funeral,” he said, “and I don’t know about the children attending - they’re very young - but I’ll leave that to Helen. I just want it to be a quiet, sad affair with space for Helen and my parents to say whatever they want. Actually I don’t even mind if its only them who attend. Does this sound selfish Alex?” I can honestly say that most of my clients have been like Tim, but somehow they or their families got caught up in the new ‘celebration of life’ services that seemed to be the way. It is a growing phenomenon that families want to ‘keep things light’, apply a little humour, and make reference to how the deceased ‘wouldn’t have wanted a really sad affair’. It is as though we have recognised man’s failure to overcome mortality and decided: ‘If we can’t control it, let’s make a party out of it. Let’s provide a fun day of commemoration with bands and banners, and caskets with “I didn’t seem possible that such an ordinary afternoon could facilitate such an extraordinary conversation. Things seemed so normal and yet there we were planning her funeral together.” wonderfully painted murals, and lanterns and balloons and pink champagne. Let’s even write our own epitaphs so as to make the congregation laugh rather than cry. Let’s put the fun into funerals - out with the black car and traditional sadness, and in with the smiles.’ But stop for a moment. Whilst I believe we should have choices (and of course there’s nothing wrong with a more personal final goodbye), I also believe that most people aren’t too enthusiastic about throwing parties or tossing tradition out of the window. Many still want to feel safe in the traditional oak, carried by the men in black. They want to know their loved ones are sad to see them go. My view, therefore, is we shouldn’t race towards change too quickly. There’s room for everything, and there is no need to embrace the carnivalesque when it comes to funerals - not if clients would prefer something more solemn. We should facilitate what individuals want and guide them through it, give them time, and above all tell them that there is nothing uptight about opting out of the jazz and humour. Death is sad, after all. 43 SALLY WALTON Getting creative with coffins The general public are getting savvier about death and funerals, and the sheer amount of choice is helping to make the conversation more accessible and less frightening. We need not be as much a ‘hideaway’ profession as in the past H ow much choice can you give to families? Nowadays there seems to be an inordinate amount of choice in transport, floral tributes and of course, coffins. The market is awash with new innovations all the time, and new ranges and variations arrive in the pipeline constantly. From cardboard and animal shapes, to banana leaf and sea grass. Even if you have a set catalogue at your premises, how can each business expect to show everything that is available? At our small business, we hold catalogues and can usually offer whatever the customer demands, but even we wouldn’t have all that on show at once. I think some families do not wish to have too much choice, as it makes it harder to reach a final decision. I heard the other day that a family arrived at a funeral home and asked about coffin choices because they had a particular one in mind, and the funeral arranger told them that the company did not offer it. How is that possible in this day and age? The internet or even a phone call to a well-known manufacturer could have given them a price and delivery time, and they could have given the family exactly what was asked for. We all know the customer is right and in the funeral profession we also know that the family have to make their own choices to help them in the future with their memories of the funeral, and service we give them. We sell a few creatively designed coffins and one in particular sticks in my mind. It was a mother’s choice for her son and he had been a James Bond fan. We told the coffin company that he liked the Aston Martin car and the 007 logo with the gun, and after a few design tweaks and changes it was perfect. In fact, I hadn’t realised that after the initial design had arrived, which had a blue background, our company boss had been playing on his computer with the colour. He had printed off another one, which I thought had come from the coffin company. Well, of course, I showed this to the family, they said it was perfect and then I realised my mistake, hoping that it was possible to match it. We did manage to match it, and the boy’s mother was so impressed that she also ordered a Cremated Remains Casket to match. I am currently just ordering one with palm trees on it for another family and have also tweaked the design, adding extra palm trees. His wife had a white one with pink daisies. Each family must be given the chance to make their choices, and we must strive to offer these choices. Coffin manufacturers these days can produce them in the shape of a skate board, an aeroplane, a train or even an elephant. How do you display your coffins? Do you just have a book with pictures, or do you have actual coffins in a display area, or even miniature size replicas? The picture above is a coffin manufacturer in Kenya, but the premises are not quite up to our UK standards. I don’t think our workers would be happy out of doors in the public eye! We are still very much a hide-away profession in this country. Things are changing slowly and members of the public are beginning to ask questions and want to know what the process of dying involves. Choice in everything including the appearance of the coffin, will help to dismantle that taboo. Sally Walton is national president of the British Institute of Funeral Directors (BIFD). For further information about the organisation, please visit www.bifd.org.uk 45 46 OBITUARIES Bob Crow e Vines Image: Jarvin Jarl 11 March Bob Crow (aged 52) Born in east London, Bob Crow became interested in trade unionism in 1977 after he joined London Transport. He became a local trade union representative in 1983 and then not long after the national officer for trackworks in the National Union of Railwaymen. Crow quickly became a powerful voice in the then 80,000 strong union, and though he took a strong stance on disputes, often reached agreements before a walk out. Crow was a character rarely disliked and was always happy to negotiate but the trade unionist had his limits and would occasionally struggle to contain himself. Keen on defending the rights of low paid workers, Crow was met with opposition voices who asked why they should concern themselves with unreliable workers. Nonetheless he continued to fight for them. As the leader of the RMT, he was not unfamiliar with opposition throughout his career, often bearing the brunt of names such as ‘the most hated man in Britain’ and even physical attacks. He was a regular on BBC Question Time, and many will know Crow from this past February when ticket offices were closed across the London Underground, leaving the Underground network in chaos for two days. A second strike was called off after Transport for London agreed to talks. Crow died of a heart attack just a couple of weeks later. 14 March Tony Benn (aged 88) Tony Benn was a key figure in left-wing politics for more than 50 years, following in his father William Wedgewood Benn’s Tony Benn Image: Isujosh n Clarissa DicksoRobinson Image: Mark Rest in peace A tribute to some well-known individuals who have sadly passed away during the last month footsteps. Tony studied philosophy, politics and economics at New College, Oxford before serving in the RAF during the Second World War and then working as BBC radio producer upon his return. Benn entered parliament through a by-election for Bristol South East in 1950 and was a conventional centre-right backbencher until the death of his eldest brother meant that he would become Lord Stansgate, meaning that he had to give up his seat in the House of Commons. Benn fought for a bill which would allow people to renounce hereditary titles, although the Lords voted against, leading Benn to develop a reputation as an advocate of constitutional reform. Following his father’s death and his switch of support from Gaitskell to Wilson in 1959, Benn was able to renounce his title with support from the Conservative government, winning a by-election he returned to the Commons. Later, Benn was appointed postmaster general, a move which saw him try, and fail, to have the Queen’s head removed from stamps. Benn lived a very varied political career, championing a referendum on Britain’s membership of the European Economic Community and standing against Denis Healey for deputy leadership in 1981. He retired in 2001 famously claiming that he wanted “to devote more time to politics”, and was a well known supporter of major anti-war protests. 15 March Clarissa Dickson Wright (aged 66) Clarissa Dickson Wright is best known as one of the Two Fat Ladies, presenting along with Jennifer Paterson between 1996 and 1999. The cooking show, which highlighted the duo’s love of rich food, saw them travel around in a motorcycle and sidecar, a far cry from her days at University College London where she studied law. Having been raised as a Roman Catholic throughout her life, Dickson Wright was, at the time, the youngest woman to be called to the bar at the age of just 21, but her life growing up was not easy and she had described her childhood as an unhappy one. Later in life she battled with alcoholism after the death of her mother in 1975, ending her career as a lawyer before reinventing herself as a cook at Books for Cooks in central London. The Cooks Bookshop was her next venture after Books for Cooks came to an end, still delving into the television world with Clarissa and the Countryman between 2000 and 2003; however she declared herself bankrupt in 2004. Dickson Wright wrote her autobiography OBITUARIES L’Wren Scott Image: Solma zA in 2007 entitled Spilling the Beans and throughout her career also produced several books including Game Cookbook in 2004 and A Sunday Roast in 2002. 17 March L’Wren Scott (aged 49) Fashion designer and other half to rocker Mick Jagger, L’Wren Scott was an influential force in the high fashion industry. Throughout her career, the former model joined forces with top brands, most recently Banana Republic who she worked with to make her ranges more affordable to the masses, pulling away from her more couture pieces which would sell for thousands. Scott also recently finished a collaboration with make-up artist Bobbi Brown, with the pair creating a cosmetics range entitled Bobbi Brown X L’Wren Scott including mascara and an award winning gel eyeliner. The Utah born stylist and designer saw her creations adorn the likes of Nicole Kidman, Sarah Jessica Parker and Angelina Jolie since the birth of her company in 2006. However, she was reportedly struggling under a pile of debt at the time of her death, an issue that has been at the centre of speculations as being the reason behind her suicide at just 49 years old. 21 March James Rebhorn (Aged 65) Actor James Rebhorn was known for roles in films and television, in a career spanning more than 50 years, starring in films such as Independence Day in 1996, The Talented Mr Ripley in 1999 and Meet the Parents in 2000. He was well known on the small screen as well, having appeared in Boston Legal, The Practice, The Good Wife, James Rebhorn nkbone Image: David Ska Patrice Wymo re Law and Order and Seinfeld throughout his career. Originally starting out as a theatre actor, gaining experience following his graduation from the University of Springfield where he studied political science, Rebhorn went on to study acting at Columbia University. He appeared in daytime soaps including The Doctors, Guiding Light and As the World Turns but it wasn’t until the 80’s that Rebhorn became a well-known name. In 1983 he starred in Silkwood with Meryl Streep and in 1991 he was in drama Regarding Henry with Harrison Ford. Other notable works include Lorenzo’s Oil in 1992 and in the same year, Scent of a Woman, which went on to win awards at the Oscars. The Game in 1997 and Far From Heaven in 2002 were also films he became known for and most recently starred as the father of Claire Danes character, Carrie Mathison in the hit American series Homeland. He passed away after finally losing a long battle with skin cancer. 22 March Patrice Wymore (aged 87) Patrice Wymore was a dancer, singer and actor, however is best known as the third wife to Hollywood actor Errol Flynn. The pair starred in Rocky Mountain together in 1950 and at the time Wymore was 23 and Flynn was 41 years old. She appeared in musicals such as Hold it! in 1948 and Tea for Two in 1950, this was followed by The Big Trees and She’s Working Her Way Through College in 1952. Typecast as the girl next door and given supporting roles, Wymore starred in She’s Back on Broadway the following year but went into what is described as ‘semi-retirement’ in which she spent several years with a close eye on husband Flynn who, at the time had a drug and alcohol addiction. Following her husband’s death at just the age of 50, Wymore had a small role in Ocean’s Eleven in 1960 before retiring to a 2,000 acre ranch in Jamaica that had been left to her by Flynn. 30 March Kate O’Mara (aged 74) Best known for her role as Joan Collins’s sister on Dynasty, Kate O’Mara comes from a family committed to showbiz as five generations of her family have been involved in the business either as actors or as managers. Her career took many forms, in both theatre, television and film and, as a dedicated Shakespearean, gave performances in plays such as A Midsummer Night’s Dream and Much Ado About Nothing. O’Mara also took on other major performances such as Mrs Cheveley in Oscar Wilde’s An Ideal Husband however, though she built a promising stage career she was more known by her television roles including The Brothers in 1975, Howards’ Way in 1989 and Crossroads in 2003. Her film career wasn’t as prominent as her stage or television presence, her debut was in 1956 in Vernon Sewell’s Home and Away and she went on to appear in films such as The Horror of Frankenstein and The Tamarind Seed in the seventies. Throughout her career she wrote two novels, Game Plan: A Woman’s Survival Kit in 1990 and Vamp Until Ready in 2003. In 2008 O’Mara enjoyed success in a Lunch with Marlene at the New End in Hampstead before starring in ITV’s Benidorm, in 2012. 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We will pay top prices for good quality Hearse and Limousines - just give us a call! 50 YOUR STORY Your Story JOANNE HUTSBY, The Eastwood Funeral Partnership, Nottingham Tell us about The Eastwood Funeral Partnership We’re based on the Nottinghamshire/ Derbyshire border and have four funeral homes at Eastwood, Kimberley, Heanor and Stapleford – all within a few miles of each other. In total there are 15 of us, including the four partners, myself and my parents Barry and Elaine Hutsby, and Anthony Topley, whose father-in-law Jack Gillott founded Gillotts Funeral Service, our Heanor funeral home. My sister Alison also works in the business. We’ve embraced a lot of the options to personalise a funeral that have become available in the last few years. In the past month we’ve used a Morris Minor hearse, a vintage ambulance and also transported a coffin to the crematorium on a tractor trailer. We have quite a large coffin range – all of our veneered and solid coffins come from Steve Soult, whose factory is only eight miles away, so we can offer a wide range of options which are produced to order. We have a great relationship with the team there, and we enjoy giving them a challenge when a client is looking for something a bit different. relevant to me than what was on offer in a lot of the so-called graduate professions. So within weeks of graduating, I started work at our Stapleford funeral home. I’d already spent time in the summer holidays working in the business, either in the office or washing cars and fitting coffins, so I was already fairly familiar with what the job entailed. Why did you decide to become a funeral director? Well I tried not to! I went off to university with no intention of becoming involved with the business, but towards the end of my time there I realised that what was happening back at home was more interesting and How do you feel your 24-hour service benefits families? It is vital to families who lose someone at home and I’m always amazed when people – even professionals we work with such as doctors and ministers – say that they’ll ‘leave What do you personally do for each funeral? Our ethos is to try and ensure that the same person follows a funeral through from start to finish, so when I arrange a funeral with a family, I try and ensure that I’m their point of contact throughout the proceedings and I’m there on the day to make sure everything goes smoothly. In addition to being a funeral director, one of my many roles is head of logistics, so my first job of the day is to plan what everyone is doing that day to make sure everything and everyone is where they need to be at the right time. So while the majority of the funerals we conduct are handled by my colleagues, I have the satisfaction of knowing that I’ve helped to ensure that each one goes smoothly. a message on the answerphone’. We’ve never had an answerphone! As a fairly small firm our response time is very good – we aim to get to the house within an hour of the family contacting us and it’s often quicker than that. Sometimes it’s not the actual transfer of the deceased that’s important to the family, but the reassurance that comes from having someone arrive who can explain their next steps and give them some basic information and guidance. We also go to great lengths to ensure that our on-call staff has information to hand about all of the funerals we are dealing with, so that clients or members of the public who have a query can get an answer whenever they ring us. What advice would you give to someone entering the funeral profession? Try not to make assumptions about people or circumstances, because you’ll probably be wrong. This job teaches you a lot about the human race and how differently each of us reacts to stressful situations. You need to give yourself time to learn to read people - I’ve been doing this job for nearly 20 years and I’m still learning. Do you have any plans to expand in the future? We have plans in the pipeline for an additional funeral home and I’m looking forward to the challenges and opportunities that will bring. If you would like to appear on this page, please send an email to Lauren Morton at laurenmorton@funeralservicetimes.co.uk In Mem Remembering a baby Every year in the UK one in four parents will lose their baby during pregnancy or birth. Tommy’s exists to help bereaved parents and to give them hope for the future. We fund medical research into the causes and prevention of miscarriage, premature birth and stillbirth. 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