SIDS and Kids Queensland December 2012 Edition

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enigma
SIDS and Kids Queensland
December 2012 Edition
We would like to say a huge thank you to
Tiina Cook from Strategy and Action
who has generously donated
her time to design this edition
of our magazine.
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Enigma | SIDS and Kids Queensland
SIDS and Kids Queensland publishes
Enigma twice a year in support of individuals
and families who have lost a baby or child
regardless of the cause
Our Mission Statement
To reduce the rate of stillbirths, neonatal
deaths and SIDS and to provide ongoing
bereavement support to families who have
experienced the death of a child, including
sudden and unexpected deaths
Management Committee
President
Michael Ward
Vice President Michele Freemantle
(Inaugural Life Member)
Treasurer
Mark Jones
Secretary
Carly Ashwood
Member
Professor Paul Colditz
Member
Michelle Pollitt
Contact Details
The Todd Freemantle Centre
68 Creek Road, Mt Gravatt QLD 4122
PO Box 241 Mt Gravatt QLD 4122
Ph
Fax
07 3849 7122
07 3849 7121
After Hours Bereavement Support Line
1800 628 648
Email
Web
queensland@sidsandkids.org
www.sidsandkids.org/qld
www.rednoseday.com.au
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medium for communication between members and
friends of SIDS and Kids Queensland. Opinions
and views expressed in Enigma are not necessarily
the opinion or view of SIDS and Kids Queensland,
unless otherwise stated.
Original Articles are welcomed.
Editorial rights are reserved.
No part of Enigma may be reproduced without
appropriate prior permission. Acknowledgement
of SIDS and Kids Queensland and/or the author is
required.
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Letters from Editors
International Pregnancy and
Infant Loss Day Event
Feature Article
Feature Article
Support Groups
Precious Memories
Your Story
Christmas Article
Donations in Loving Memory
Celebrations
Remembrance Dates
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letters from the editors
Welcome to our second 2012 edition
of Enigma. To the new families reading
this magazine for the first time, I am
deeply sorry you have experienced the
loss of your precious child and my heart
goes out to you all. With the holiday
season fast approaching, it may be an
especially difficult time for some of you.
Thoughtout the chaos and rushing about, may you find
moments be still and unwind. I hope the Bereavement
Service, along with this edition of Enigma will provide you
some comfort and healing in the near future. It is my hope that
this magazine will be as special to you all as it is to us.
Dear families
I cannot express with words just how privileged I feel to be
involved in such a wonderful bereavement resource and
to be invited into your lives. Myself and Kim are committed
to continually improving both the bereavement service and
Enigma so we welcome you to send us your feedback at any
time. We are here to support you all.
You will notice that we have started incorporating more articles
and poems into Enigma. As well as being a place to share
your stories, we would also like the magazine to be a place
in which you can find hope, inspiration and practical advice.
If you have any ideas on the type of articles you would like to
see in upcoming editions please let us know.
There are some other very special people that work tirelessly
behind the scenes to assist us in creating Enigma and I
would like to say a huge thank you to them all. Tiina Cook,
a beautiful soul and our magazine designer along with her
team at Strategy and Action Springwood, play a fundamental
part. Tiina donates hours of her time and skill to ensure
Enigma looks attractive and professional and the Strategy and
Action team kindly donated all the lovely images you can see
throughout the magazine. Enigma holds a special place in
their hearts too. Without their support, Enigma may not exist
as we know it today. To Tiina and her team - this magazine
is a special part of the Bereavement Service and we cannot
say a big enough thank you to you all for assisting us in both
safeguarding and enhancing it!
As Christmas is obviously a very difficult time for you all, our
hope is that you are able to surround yourself in a peaceful,
loving environment and to be gentle on yourself. Allow yourself
to remember and celebrate your child in whatever way you
feel is right for you and your family and to have hope for the
future.
Thank you to those of you would have joined our many 2012
bereavement events, groups, workshops and the Butterfly
Kisses online group. It has been wonderful getting to know
those of you in upper and regional Queensland. We look
forward to seeing or ‘messaging’ you all in 2013. Remember
our 1800 phone line runs over the holidays, so please do not
hesitate to contact us anytime you need to you (ph; 1800 628
648).
Welcome to our new edition of Enigma.
The year is almost over and it has been
an extremely busy one here at the SIDS
and Kids office. We have been so blessed
this year to have gotten to know some
wonderful families through our events
and support groups which has been very special to us.
We have had some wonderful Bereavement events this year
which you can read about in this issue and Esther and I are
already thinking ahead to events for 2013.
We would like to introduce our new Fundraising and
Partnerships Manager Bec. Bec has only been with us for six
months but her impact on SIDS and Kids has already been
huge and she brings so much experience, enthusiasm and
dogged determination to her role (as well as her kooky, fun
personality). Welcome Bec!
Much love
Kim xx
our team
Have a safe and happy holidays.
Wishing you peace, love and healing.
Esther Elliott
EDITORS: Kim Bell and Esther Elliott.
DESIGNER: Tiina Cook.
Esther Elliott
Bec Byrnes
Kim Bell
COUNSELLOR,
BEREAVEMENT
SUPPORT
SERVICES
MANAGER
FUNDRAISING AND
PARTNERSHIPS
MANAGER
ADMINISTRATION
COORDINATOR,
CO-EDITOR
OF ENIGMA
MAGAZINE
BSc (applied),
PGradDipMLSc,
GradDipGenCouns
M.AC.A (2)
A Life t
oo Short
With the birth of My first child
A beautiful baby boy
It was said that the gods had smiled
My life now filled with joy
A life that was so innocent
A soul that was so pure
An unconditional love
Was ready to endure
A life time of memories
Were about to start
Now all that is left
An empty and crushed heart
When my baby died
My whole world fell apart
For a long time I cried
Emptiness still fills my heart.
I’ll never see him smile,
I’ll never see him walk,
I’ll never hear him laugh,
I’ll never hear him talk.
Two unanswerable questions
What if ? And Why ?
What if I had done this ?
Why did he die ?
Sorrow and emptiness
In my heart I now keep
With no end in sight
The pain is still too deep
Time is said to heal the pain
How much time is yet to be seen
My baby boy who I cannot hold
I’ll forever wonder what could have been ?
Forever in my thoughts
Forever in my heart
Till we meet again
Never again will we be apart
Love Dad
OO XX
In Loving Memory Of My Son
Corey William Anthony
26th April 1990 – 9th August 1990
Taken By SIDS
15 Weeks
Rest In Peace
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international pregnancy
and infant loss
remembrance day
REMEMBERING OUR CHILDREN -
OCTOBER 15th 2012
In October 1988 US President Ronald Regan proclaimed
October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness
month. From there this special day has evolved into an
internationally celebrated month, marking the importance of
remembering and celebrating the children who have passed
too soon. Their goal is to break the silence around child loss
to bring families together to support one another to and openly
remember their children. October awareness month means
a great deal to the Sids and Kids QLD Bereavement Service
and we felt privilege to be able to host a special ceremony and
to make take home gifts, to mark this day for our families (big
thanks to Kim for her crafty work!)
It was a beautiful sunny day out in the Memorial garden, the
perfect day to remember everyone’s special Angels. Thank
you to the families that came on the day or who welcomed us
to include their precious child on their behalf. The release was
a very beautiful and moving moment.
The balloons sparkled in the sun as they travelled into the
clouds and as some may say, all the way to heaven. We
released a balloon in memory of all our families who couldn’t
make it, so please know we were thinking of you all. We know
the children felt our love and light that day and we hope to see
many of you at next years Remembrance Day.
We would like to thank Ally and the Mt Gravatt Spotlight for
their generous donation of helium balloons. They looked
stunning and meant so much to us and to our families this
Remembrance Day
- Counsellor Esther
prayers for our babies,
carried on the wind
ROBYNA MAY MOTHER TO XAVIER, BORN
INTO THE WORLD ON 24TH JUNE 2012, LEFT
IT ON THE 7TH JULY 2012, PROBABLY SIDS.
In Tibet, the tradition of hanging flags began more than 2000
years ago. At that time the country was ruled by war lords
who carried their banners into battles. The native people,
however, made their own flags to honour the nature gods
of Bon, their shamanistic religion. They used colors of the
five elements: blue for sky or space; white for air or clouds;
red for fire; green for water and yellow for earth. They hung
the flags over mountain passes and rivers to benefit all who
would pass underneath. Today, prayer flags are still stamped
with prayers and hung to let the wind carry their messages
in Tibetan refugee villages. People around the world have
adopted the custom of hanging prayer flags to commemorate
special events and to transmit their blessings. The flags are
intended to be strung up outside where the wind will disperse
their messages. After some time the prayer flags will fade and
fray symbolising the natural passing of all things. When that
happens, the flags are to be burned to release the last of their
prayers and then replaced by new flags that contain renewed
wishes. Or new prayer flags are simply placed on to the top.
Prayer flags used to be things that I saw outside Tibetan
restaurants and never paid much mind to. I wasn’t particularly
interested in their history and it was a little “new-age” for me.
But like so many things, my perspective shifted about four
months ago.
Four months ago I didn’t know that babies could die. Not
really. I’d heard tragedy on the news, and heard of a friend of
a friend of a friend whose baby was born still thirty years ago.
It was distant and unreal. I didn’t think it could touch anyone
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I was close to. I certainly didn’t think it could touch me. And
then it did. Our darling Xavier was taken from us at 2 weeks
old. He fell asleep and did not wake up.
My innocence has been shattered and my eyes have been
opened. My heart has been broken and yet its capacity to
love has increased. I have been introduced to the world of
baby loss and been amazed at how many of us live here. How
many carry their precious children in their hearts rather than
their arms.
I learned of Carly Marie Dudley and her amazing projects
and I saw that there was a way to channel this immense grief
into something of beauty, something that spoke of healing.
This October, as part of pregnancy and infant loss awareness
month, Carly asked those touched by baby loss to create a
prayer flag in their baby’s honour. These flags, from bereaved
parents around the world, were strung alongside one another
during a ceremony on the 15th October.
I made a flag for Xavier. Inspired by his innocence, the
white lace I associate with babies and a gentler time and
the butterflies that hold so much meaning for us as loss
parents. As I stitched, a peace settled and I felt that I was
doing something real. Something for him, Something for us.
I couldn’t stop. I made six more flags. Each with words that
speak to me - that remind me of what lies ahead and bring
to him closer to my heart. Now those prayer flags are strung
up on our verandah. They carry our whispered prayers to the
wind, their tails flying. And in the morning, as I open the doors
to greet the day, the ribbons gently wave to me and I know its
Xavier’s new way to say “good morning”. Other mums within
the SIDS & Kids community have made similarly healing flags.
healing through
prayer flags
MELANIE CALKIN, MOTHER TO ARIELLE
I recently had the pleasure of attending the 3rd annual
Luminous Light memorial ceremony. I have been trying to find
the appropriate words to describe the event. Let me start with
overwhelming, breathtaking, inspiring... I could go on.
The event is organised and hosted my Carly Dudley and her
amazing team of girls from Luminous Light. I feel blessed to
have first met Carly at last years ceremony after a friend told
me about it. She welcomed me with open arms into this new
world of baby loss mummas. It had only been 3 mths since I
lost my daughter Arielle and I was still deep in my grief. I found
the event incredibly emotional and heartfelt. I knew instantly
that I had found a safe place with this group of women.
Over the past year I have formed some wonderful friendships
with these ladies. They supported me through my grief, and
encouraged me through my following pregnancy with my
rainbow baby boy. Most of them I had not yet met in person
as i had moved from WA to QLD. I was thrilled to be able to
attend the 2012 ceremony to honour our babies and to meet
my new found friends in person. I was instantly overwhelmed
by the love I could feel in that room. The love of all the families
present, and from all those who sent in prayer flags from near
and far to honour their much loved and missed babies. All
4 walls were lined with the most incredible flags i have ever
seen. The time and detail and love in each flag was inspiring.
The ceremony began with some beautiful words spoken by
Carly, and a stunning slide show she had created with images
she had captured on Christian's Beach. We then proceeded
outside for a magical balloon release. The next few hours
were spent sharing stories of our babies with all the brave
mums and dads that attended. Standing in that room it felt so
important to take the time to look at every flag and read each
babies name. It was hard, and there were lots of tears, but I
am so grateful for the opportunity to be there and share the
evening with so many incredible people.
My heartfelt thanks go to Carly and Sam Dudley, their
families and the ladies from Luminous Light for creating such
a memorable evening. Thank you for all you do to support
families around the world grieving the loss of their precious
babies and children.
gifts and memories
Cherished Children’s
Corner
The Bereavement Services is very happy to
announce our new CHERISHED CHILDRENS
CORNER. This tribute has been lovingly created in
memory of all our children.
Every Friday we will light the candles and remember the
precious ones we hold in our heart. Thank you for sharing
your children with us, we are truly humbled. Beautiful Carly
Marie Dudley and Sue Jordan have sent us sand from
Christians Beach for our vial. We believe it brings the corner
positive energy and love.
Treasured Babies Boxes
Our counsellor Esther has the pleasure of
delivering donated gifts items to hospitals across
Brisbane, Ipswich and the Gold Coast.
The Treasured Babies Boxes are filled with beautiful knitted
clothing and blankets, washers, naming certificates and
teddies, all of which have been lovingly made and donated
by our supporters. We also regularly donate knitted items to
the coroner and funeral parlours. By offering these items, we
hope to bring a little comfort and support to newly bereaved
parents. Thank you again for your generous donations.
Gift From the
Bereavement Service
The Bereavement Service is pleased to now be able to send
a l gift out to each newly bereaved family. It is only a small gift
but it is our way of saying “We are thinking of you”.
We hope it brings comfort in some small way.
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afternoon delight
CARLY MARIE DUDLEY AND SUE JORDAN
AFTERNOON TEA IN THE GARDEN
Two beautiful and amazing ladies came to visit us on the first
of November for afternoon tea. What warm, inspirational and
special people they are.
There was much laugher, a lot of hugs as well as some tears
that day but I think everyone came away feeling enriched by
meeting Carly and Sue. Many of our SIDS and Kids families
will already be familiar with Carly and Sue’s wonderful work
but for those of you who aren’t...
About 18 months after losing her angel baby Christian, Carly
had a dream about Christian playing with his friends on the
beach.
The next day she went to the beach and drew a butterfly in the
sand with Christians name underneath and photographed it.
From that first butterfly she decided that she wanted to do the
same for other bereaved families and that is exactly what she
did and continues to do. From that dream Carly has gone on
to do many other amazing things.
To learn more about Carly and to see her beautiful
photographs go to http://carlymarieprojectheal.com/. We
consider Carly a special friend and a part of our SIDS and
Kids family.
Sue is a dear friend of Carly’s and also a very talented (and
very funny), lovely lady. She makes amazing, beautiful jewelry
for all occasions but is very well know for her bereavement
jewelry. Sue has suffered the loss of her own angels and as
such is very in tune to what other bereaved parents need.
Sue has been a long time friend and supporter and we
feel very lucky to also have her as part of our SIDS and
Kids family. To see her wonderful work, go to http://
sueellasignatures.com.au/
Carly gave a beautiful gift to everyone who attended as well
as giving SIDS and Kids a gorgeous framed print. We feel
so honored that both ladies took the time out of their busy
schedules to come and visit us and have promised to come
again.
KIM BELL
In 2007 our little boy died. He was a baby. Our second child. Our first son. He never took a breath of air from this earth.
He lived only inside my womb. On the day of his birth we named him, we held him, we Bathed him, we sang to him, we
whispered all our love to him and we said goodbye to him. One week later his little body was burned down to ashes and the
hospital chaplain gave him back to his in a tiny box to take home forever.
His name is Christian.
Living without a piece of your heart is at times almost impossible. I had to find an outlet for my grief.
And so I was called to the sea…
Carly Marie Dudley
the fine art
of ‘balancing’
Balance. This is probably a word I use the
most when speaking to bereaved families.
When you think about it, the whole world
revolves around all things being balanced. It
is especially important to find balance in your
grief and journey through life, after loss.
We know it is important to allow yourself to express the
emotions you feel inside, because they are all part and parcel
of the ‘rollercoaster of grief and loss’ The trick however is
identifying when you need to balance all those things with
the demands of everyday life. This may include time out from
sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety and denial, to name a few.
Sometimes there is even a need to balance positive moments
with acknowledging the sadness that sits your heart.
The art of balancing your emotional and physical needs may
sound complicated but it doesn’t have to be. Often it just
requires slowing down, having time out and asking your self
‘how am I going right now”? You are the expert when it comes
to finding the missing pieces you need to stabilise yourself
again….you just need to listen to yourself carefully.
Remember you are a person who deserves to have your
needs, interests and dreams fulfilled. Expertise can take time
to craft, so sharing how you’re going with others who care,
can help the process along.
Hope
Hope is the bright shining light which
keeps darkness at the bay
Hope is the gentle cold breeze on
a hot summer day
Hope is to remain positive when
it gets tough
Hope is seeking more when others
think of having enough
Hope is dreaming of tomorrow
Hope is simmering under sorrow
Hope is sparkles when tears in our eyes
Hope is a beautiful thing &
beautiful things never dies
Hope is as light as a feather
Hope keeps all of us together
Hope is ubiquitous and free of cost
Hope is the last thing ever lost...
POEM HUNTER.COM
COUNSELLOR ESTHER
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support groups
SIDS and Kids Queensland hold groups at our office in Mt Gravatt, and we also have
groups at other locations including Gold Coast, Brisbane Northside and Sunshine
Coast. For any enquiries please contact our office or the group facilitator listed.
Remember everyone is welcome and we hope you can join us at any of our groups.
GOLD COAST GROUP
IPSWICH SUPPORT GROUP
WHEN:
WHERE:
1st Friday of the Month 10am-12 noon
12/10 Enterprise St, Molendinar
WHEN:
WHERE:
Feb 1st
May 3rd
March 1st
June 7th
RSVP to Jan Bond Ph: 5568 0924
Held in a private room within the library. This group offers
a safe and comfortable environment to share your story.
Facilitate by a qualified counselor. Please contact us for more
information or to RSVP by Tuesday prior. Phone: 3849 7122
NORTHSIDE SUPPORT GROUP
Feb 7th
May 14th
Facilitator Jan Bond
Facilitator Esther Elliott
April 5th
1st Thursday of the Month 9.30am – 11.30pm
Ipswich Library – 40 South Street Ipswich
March 7th
June 18th
April 4th
Facilitator Francis Borg
497122
RSVP to Esther Elliott Ph: 38497122
WHEN:
WHERE:
3rd Tuesday of the Month 10am-12 noon
2/75 Dunsford Street, ZILLMERE
RE
Feb 12th
May 14th
March 12th April 16th
June 18th
RSVP to Francis Borg Ph: 3263 8586
CHERISHED
MEMORIES
CRAFT GROUP
please
keep an eye on
facebook and
our website for
new workshops!
Facilitator Esther Elliott & Kylie Darby
WHEN:
WHERE:
3rd Friday of the Month
10am-12 noon
SIDS & Kids Office, 68 Creek Road, Mt Gravatt
All materials provided free of charge and you create a
beautiful scrapbooking page which is yours to keep. No
experience necessary and children most welcome. Come
along and be a part of this therapeutic and supportive group.
Feb 15th
May 17th
March 15th April 19th
June 21st
For further information or to register your interest in attending,
please contact us Please RSVP to Esther Ph: 38497122
butterfly kisses
support group
Our new online support group Butterfly Kisses has
been a huge Success and we now have over 50
members from throughout Queensland. The group
has enabled people who live in remote areas or are
not in an area that has a support group to engage
with other families who have lost their precious
children. They are able to share their feelings and
experiences as well as to support others in the group.
If you would like to be part of this warm, supportive
environment, please contact Kim or Esther 3849 7122
or queensland@sidsqld.com.au
Butterf ly KIsses Support Group
- bringing Queensland families
together.
assisting grief
Thank you to the following individuals and companies who can offer exclusive services to our
parents and families to remember their baby and child, and help them along their journey of grief.
close to the heart
names in the sand
Sue Jordan specialises in personalised
memorial jewellery. She helps to create
a memory that is both a cathartic and
therapeutic experience.
A dream inspired me to visit the beach and write
Christian’s name in the sand. Since that day in the
winter of 2008 I have written over 10,400 children’s
names in the sand.
Capture poems, images, flowers,
fingerprints or ashes in fine silver
lockets, memory balls, keepsakes, or
bracelets to keep close to the heart.
It is a simple act that recognises a life. Christian’s
sunset photograph has brought us much peace. It
is framed next to photos of our beautiful girls and
reminds anybody that we did have a son and that he is
just as loved as our girls are.
5% of sales is donated to SIDS and
Kids Queensland to assist in a range of
bereavement support services.
www.sueellasignatures.com.au
Visit my online seashore memorial on my website:
www.namesinthesand.blogspot.com
yasminah’s gift of hope
the Natural Candle Shop
The Natural candle shop finds peace and fulfilment in
delivering luxurious all natural and all made by hand
candles & products that enhance the wellbeing and
comfort of our customer's lives.
All of our candles are hand produced, using only the
best natural essential oils for fragrance, natural colours,
pure cotton (Australian made) wicks and recycled glass
for our container candles.
Yasminah’s Journals are a very special keepsake that
allows families to keep ultrasound images, photos,
cot cards, arm bands, and foot and hand prints as a
cherished keepsake of a precious life.
We encourage families to write about their journey.
Families can write
down details and
memories about their
child to treasure
forever.
A Gift Of Hope.
Brooke Taylor is an
amazing, talented artist
who has offered to provide
a complimentary A4 size
drawing for bereaved
families of their child.
Live butterfly’s for release
Weddings and Funeral’s
Anniversaries and romantic occasions
Birthdays and parties
All special occasions and events
www.butterflyreleases.com.au
If you have lost a child (or
grandchild etc) and you
are interested in having a
drawing done or would like
to find out about Brookes
other artwork, please contact
Brooke at brookietaylor@
hotmail.com.
www.facebook.com/drawing.from.the.heart
My wish list
I wish that you would not be afraid to speak my loved ones name. They lived and are important
and I need to hear their name.
If I cry or get emotional when we talk about my loved one, I wish you knew it isn’t because you
have hurt me, the fact that they died has caused my tears. If you allow me to cry, I thank you.
Crying and emotional outpouring is healthy.
I wish you wouldn’t let my loved one die again by removing their pictures, artwork or other
remembrances from your home.
I will have emotional highs and lows, ups and downs. I wish that you wouldn’t think that if I have
a good day my grief is over, or that if I have a bad day that I need psychiatric counselling.
I wish you knew that the death of a child is different from other losses and must be viewed
differently. It is the ultimate tragedy and I wish you wouldn’t compare it to other losses.
Being a bereaved parent isn’t contagious, so I wish you wouldn’t stay away from me.
I wish you knew all these ‘crazy ‘grief reactions that I am having are in fact very normal.
Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness and the questioning of values and beliefs are to
be expected following a death.
I wish you could understand the physical reaction to grief. I may gain weight or loss weight,
sleep all the time or not at all, develop a host of illnesses or be accident prone, all of which are
related to my grief.
Our loved ones birthday, the anniversary of their death and the holidays are terrible times for
us. I wish you could tell us that you are thinking of them on these days. And if we get quiet and
withdrawn, just know that we are thinking of them and don’t try to coerce us into being cheerful.
I wish you wouldn’t offer to take me for out for a drink or to a party, this is just a temporary
crutch and the only way I can get through this grief is to experience it. I have hurt before and I
can heal.
I wish you understood that grief changes people. I am not the same person I was before my
loved one died and I never will be that person again. If you are waiting for me to ‘get back to my
old self ‘you will stay frustrated. I am a new creature with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations,
values and beliefs.
Please get to know the new me... maybe you’ll
still like me.
AUTHOR UNKNOWN
support groups
work
There are many misconceptions about what really goes on
in a bereavement support group and given the fact that they
may be conducted so differently, it is fair to say no group may
be alike. What we do know however, is support groups can be
very therapeutic tools for healing after the loss of a child.
So why do they work you may ask. Well the truth is they bring
people together who have a reciprocal need for acceptance,
support and common understanding. It fits with our natural
instincts to relate to others and seek knowledge from those
more experienced. The key is to find a support group that you
feel comfortable in. Coupling a professional Counsellor with
open minded and caring peers in a facilitated group, provides
the members with a safe and comfortable environment to let
down their defenses and explore their grief.
hopelessness… you may find the strength and friendship you
gain from others and motivate you to press on each day.
Sometimes the best way to work through your concerns is
to say them out loud-share them with others and gain ideas
about approaches that have worked for them. You may even
find sharing your emotions and concerns with a group of
people is more rewarding and comforting then you imagined.
The Bereavement Service holds four groups across South
East QLD, so please refer to the support groups time table if
you are interested in attending a group. Whatever tools work
for you, we hope you find something that brings you healing.
COUNSELLOR ESTHER
Being in a room with others who share your understanding of
tragedy and loss, can combat the feeling of loneness, guilt and
OUR PARENTS COMMENTS
The grief of losing a child feels so lonely - we don't even have
a word to describe our situation - to meet with others, and
see your own pain mirrored in their experience, relieves that
terrible loneliness. Sometimes a "me too" is the only thing you
need to hear.
"Being able to remember our precious Child & keep their
memory alive & at the same time being in the company of
other Mum's that truly understand what we are all going
through."
"Grief is a terribly lonely thing. Being part of a support group
helps the loneliness to ease a bit and enables us to find a
small amount of comfort despite our overwhelming grief.
Losing a child is something that no one can truly understand
unless they have been in the same situation. This can be
a big problem when all your friends and family don't really
understand your grief or what you are currently going through.
That is why support groups are such an invaluable resource
for grieving parents. Being able to talk about those awful and
little known things that happen to you in grief is so important,
it helps you know that you are normal and you aren't actually
going crazy."
KYLIE DARBEY
KIRSTIE SHAW
If you don't feel like talking, you still know you are not alone in
this journey
At a time when nobody can do or say anything to make life
seem fair, nobody can turn back the clock and nobody can
bring my precious son back to me; the comfort of the company
and arms of the bereaved mums and counsellors from the
Cherished Memories group have kept me going. Having
people who listen with a knowing heart is so powerful. These
women; strangers, now friends in grief and life will always
have a special place in my heart and my life. I can not do
justice with words the benefits that this very special group
brings to me.
ROBYNA MAY
KAREN RIVERS
“You may have your good days and you may have your bad
days but remember you little Angel is there saying its going to
be ok.. That is what keeps me going.”
BEC KELEHER
JULIANNE ESLER
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what cherished
memories support group
means to me...
I have attended the cherished memories group almost every month for the
past 5 ½ years, after my 1st child, my Beautiful Baby Girl Hayley passed away
in hospital at just 13 days. To put into words how much this group has helped
me is so incredibly hard. When I lost Hayley it felt like my whole world had
ended & in a sense it had. I just wanted to talk to other parents that had
been through what we were going through. In coming to the group, I have
made some beautiful friends…friends that truly understand what you are
going through. Friends that you don’t have to explain to if you’re having a
bad day or your burst into tears for no reason. We just get it!!!
Each month we alternate our group slightly. The first month we all Scrapbook
a beautiful page for our Child’s photo’s & the second month is a therapeutic talking group. For me my
favourite part about Scrapbooking is being able to create a beautiful page for her precious photos. It helps me to feel closer to
her & keep her memory alive & it will always be my ‘Mother & Daughter’ time with her. This has been without a doubt the best
therapy for me, since losing her. I had never been a crafty person before attending this group, but I very soon became addicted
to it. If I was having a bad day I could just sit & make her something… sometimes it would take me all day, but it didn’t matter
because the feeling that I got at the end, once I put her photos on the finished page was so heart warming. I miss her so very
much & wish with all my heart that things had been different. She changed my life forever!
This year I have not only attended the group as Hayley’s Mum, but I have also had the honour of helping coordinate the group
as a peer supporter, together with Kylie J & Esther. I have loved designing the pages & look forward to many more beautiful
pages next year. Remembering all our precious children gone to soon
♥ KYLIE
D
Cherished Memories
Support Group
“The group has been bringing comfort and support to its
members for around 6 years. Kylie D and Kylie J produce
beautiful scrapbooking page designs, which are brought to
life over therapeutic discussion and morning tea. The group
alternates from scrapbooking one month to morning tea
discussions the next. My role is to ensure the environment
is relaxed, supportive and safe for all our parents and their
children. This is a very special group which is built on common
understanding, laughter , tears and friendship.
New members are always welcome and the materials are
offered free of charge from the generous support from the
Lord Mayor’s Fund.”
- COUNSELLOR ESTHER
PLEASE RSVP ON PH: 3849 7122.
support groups
and why i go...
I have been attending Support Groups at SIDS and Kids
since 2006. It was around 15 months after my 1st son Jack
passed away that I began coming to the monthly Coffee
Morning Support Group. I had read a book over the Christmas
break called “Life After Loss” by Bob Deits and it talked about
support groups and their benefits. I remember reading it and
thinking that it was something I wanted to do when I returned
from the break.
For me the group was about connecting with other families
who had also experienced a loss and just to talk to them,
touch them, sit with them, look at them, listen to them, and
just be with them. With people like me… I had spent every
day of that 15 months feeling like I did not fit with my some of
my friends and family anymore, as they did not understand.
They did not know what it was like. I knew they were sad too,
but not like me… The only person who really understood was
my husband… And after around 12 months, the differences
between men and women eventually came through and our
need to talk about Jack was on different levels. I still wanted,
and needed to talk about him daily, but my husband did not.
I had relied heavily him to talk about Jack until this time,
but it became clear to me I had to get support and ‘air-time’
elsewhere…
I will never forget the first group I went to… I drove to the
building on Creek Road and my hands were shaking, and
my palms sweaty. I did not know what I’d find inside and I
was very anxious and nervous. I walked in and was greeted
by other Mums who were very friendly and gentle with me. I
think I had something written all over my face which told them
it was my first time! I found myself sitting beside a Mum who
had a premature baby and then he’d passed away (just like
me). I couldn’t believe how similar our situations were and
I was so very grateful to have sat beside her. The photos
of her premature baby were just like mine – confronting,
gorgeous, heartbreaking, alarming and precious all at the
same time. She did not judge my pictures or even flinch when
I showed them to her... She understood and offered me total
acceptance - and that was just what I needed! At the time she
was around 5 or 6 years down the track in her grief journey
and I couldn’t believe how ‘normal’ she was. I sat there in two
minds… Feeling like I was still in such a different place to her
emotionally, and at the same time, I longed to be in a ‘space’
like she was and be able to conduct myself in a ‘normal’ way
again. There were around 10 Mums there that day and they
each had a different story, all incredibly sad, but I found great
comfort in hearing their stories, and being with them. I think to
a non-bereaved parent, it would sound absurd that you’d take
comfort in someone else’s loss, but when you are bereaved
yourself, you do take comfort and support from each other.
Attending Support Groups gives me the ability to remember
Jack, talk about him, say his name, acknowledge his
existence, and ultimately keep his memory alive. The comfort
I get from other Mums is endless, and I’d like to think they
get it from me too! Just knowing they have experienced a
similar loss enables you to take comfort in them, and them in
you… It is reciprocal – they get as much from you as you do
from them… In the early days the Support Groups were very
emotionally draining for me, but still worth it and many a group
continued on the footpath as we had so much to share with
each other. The opportunity to talk about Jack was, and still is
precious and one I do not pass up easily!
- KYLIE JONES (JACKS MUM)
memory plaques
For families who do not yet know about our wall plaques, we
are happy to offer to have a plaque made for your child to put
on our Memorial Wall free of charge.
If you would like us to order you a plaque please contact Kim
at queensland@sidsqld.com.au or on
3849 7122
You are also able to purchase a plaque for your home for your
angel child at a cost of $11.50. They would also be lovely for
your other children for their rooms or anywhere you would like
to have it.
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precious
memories
and your stories
SIDS and Kids Queensland welcomes your contributions to be included in our Enigma
Publication. This can be in memory of your child’s birthday or anniversary. It can be a poem, your
child’s story or any other piece you may like to include.
The next Edition of Enigma will be published in April 2013. If you would like to have your Precious Memories or
Your Story included in the next issue please complete the details below. Alternatively please email your submission to
queensland@sidsandkids.org. You can include photos or pictures so please send them with your Precious Memories by no later
than 13 March 2013. If contributions are received after the closing date we cannot guarantee your story will be published.
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precious
memories
The Ment
ion of My Child’s Name
The mention of my child’s name may bring tears to my eyes,
but it never fails to bring music to my ears.
If you are really my friend, let me hear the beautiful music of his name.
It soothes my broken heart and sings to my soul.
AUTHOR UNKNOWN.
THE FOLLOWING PAGES ARE DEDICATIONS TO THE
PRECIOUS BABIES AND CHILDREN
WHO HAVE PASSED AWAY.
richard james west &
kacee michelle price
in memory of 2 precious grandchildren,
Richard James West, & Kacee Michelle
Price...
I didn't have the pleasure of knowing Richard
& only had Kacee for a short time, but I will
love you both with all of my heart for all of my
life...
FROM NANNY PRICE
………………………………………………………………………
A butterf ly lights beside us like a sunbeam, and for a
brief moment its glory and beauty belong to our world:
but then It flies again. And thought we wish it could have
stayed, we feel so lucky to have seen it.
AUTHOR UNKNOWN
hayley alana darbey
19TH MAY 2007 - 1ST JUNE 2007
I can’t believe it has almost been 5 ½ years since we had to
say goodbye to you. It breaks my heart when I realise it has
been that long since we last held you in our arms & gave
you kisses & cuddles. I miss you so much it hurts. I wish that
things had been different & that you could have stayed with
us. You changed our lives forever baby girl & I am so grateful
for the 13 precious days that we had with you.
You are about to be a big sister again too!!! Mummy is having
your new baby brother on the 5th of November if he doesn’t
decide to come earlier. I wish that you were here to meet
him, but I know that you will be watching down from heaven.
I know that you & your 3 brothers would get up to so much
mischief together.
We love you so much Hayley & will forever. You will always be
my baby girl & I will never forget every precious moment that I
shared with you.
Love you always,
MUMMY, DADDY, HAYDEN, HAMISH & YOUR
NEW BABY BROTHER LINCOLN
Xoxoxoxoxox
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keegan rhys hardy
28TH NOVEMBER 2002 - 9TH MARCH 2003
Our precious son, soon you would be ten
Ten long years we’ve had you, ten long years we’ve missed you
Your brother is a constant reminder of how precious you are
And how we miss you so
Some days are longer as milestones are met
And triggers remind us of events you won’t get
Nippers, rugby, school and more
Not a day goes by that we don’t wish for more….
I feel,
ne.
Our precious Keegan Rhys
Always in our hearts
Loving you always
MUMMY, DADDY, LINCOLN,
YOUR TWIN BAYDEN AND
EMERSEN XOX
One can never forget the hearts you touched,
One can never forget your beautiful eyes
One can never forget your were so different to your twin brother Bayden in
every way
We can only imagine what you would be like now!
Would you strive to do your best then have days where you would be a pest!!
Or a torment!
Would you be like Lincoln your big brother and be able to fix anything and
make it see like a breeze!
Where others wouldn’t touch it, just freeze!
Would you like Rugby, Nippers, Swimming and School
And always play by the rules?
Would you adore your little sister Emerson and play with her like Bayden
does?
None of this we will ever know as you weren’t left here to grow
We just imagine what you would be like and think of our beautiful baby
grandson whom we could never
forget as you are impacted in our hearts for eternity.
LOVED AND ADORED NANNY AND GRANDAD
MCDONNELL
A million times I’ve missed you, a million times I’ve cried.
If love alone could have saved you, you never would have died.
To some you are forgotten, to others just part of the past;
but to me who loved and lost you, your love will always last.
It broke my heart to lose you, you didn’t go alone,
for my life went with you -sweetheart- the day angels called you home.
For things on earth didn’t matter, but now I feel so alone,
My heart will always be broken, my life will never be whole.
We might be parted for a while, our hearts will always be together
for one day soon we will hold hands again forever.
UNKNOWN
I thought of you and closed my eyes,
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a Mother,
And I know I heard him say:
A mother has a baby,
This we know is true.
But, God, can you be a mother,
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can he replied,
With confidence in his voice.
I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there’s no need to stay.
I just don't understand this God,
I want my baby here.
He took a breath and cleared his throat,
And then I saw a tear.
I wish that I could show you,
What your child is doing today,
If you could see your child smile,
With other children who say:
We go to earth and learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My mommy set me free.
I miss my mommy oh so much,
But I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay.
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
"Mommy don't be sad today, I'm your baby
and I'm here."
So you see my dear sweet one,
Your children are Ok.
Your babies are here in My home,
They'll be at heaven’s gate for you.
So now you see what makes a mother.
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of,
Right from the very start.
Though some on earth may not realize you
are a mother,
until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day,
And you'll know that you're the best one!
AUTHOR UNKNOWN
yasminah ann aziz
19TH MAY 2007 - 1ST JUNE 2007
To my dear daughter Yasminah,
Today I feel your love all around me. The heavens are even
sending their love to earth. It has been pouring with rain for 2
whole days. You know how much I love the rain as it always
reminds me of you. It was raining when you were born and
when your service begun the day we said goodbye. I like to
think its your way of letting me know that you are proud of
everything I do in your memory and you are showering us with
your love. You always manage to bring a smile to my face,
when just the mention of visiting you at the cemetery brings
tears from the skies.
anything in my life as they are brought us sunshine, happiness
and joy after so much heartache. It still pains me that Aisha
and Aaliyah don't have their big sister here, but I am glad they
have each other and thankful we had twins. Daddy always
says that God took you away but gave us back two. Definitely
double the love and joy. It is amazing we even conceived
another baby after everything daddy and I have been through,
let alone twins! They are our miracle. Thank you beautiful girl
for watching over your sisters and keeping them safe despite
their early entrance to the world.
How I miss you and wish every day that we could have you
here with us. I wonder what it would be like for Zach to have
his special little baby butterfly. I watched him play with a child
your age and they had so much fun! He talks about you and
mentions you when he spots a butterfly. He is always getting
me to open my locket with your photo, footprints and lock of
your beautiful dark curly hair and he likes me to keep it open,
he even gets angry with me if I close it. You are very much a
part of our family even though you are not physically with us.
We speak your name everyday. You will forever be his Minah.
I knew right from the start that you were special, but I never
knew how much you would change my life and make me grow
as a person. I wonder what it is like in heaven. I believe in it, I
have to, I have to believe that there is a place where you are
happy and that we did not lose you, that we will meet again...
one day
YASMINAH I LOVE YOU, ALWAYS AND
FOREVER MUMMY X X X X X X
Your little sisters Aisha and Aaliyah are an amazing gift of love
and hope. I often think how they might not be here if we had
not lost you. As much as I want you here I wouldn't change
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lachlan shaw
To my dear darling son,
Where can I begin to tell you how much I miss you? How can
I possibly tell you how much I love you? I am desperately
holding on the hope that you know how much I love you and
miss you. To think otherwise is just unbearable to me. This
past year has been the hardest year of my life. Learning to live
without you is one of the hardest things your mummy & daddy
have ever done. This is not the life I wanted for us my darling,
I would give anything to hold you in my arms again. I try so
hard to see you look up at me with eyes filled with love and to
see you smile in my head.
In my head I have held you so many times, I have lovingly
taken off your little suit and given you a bath and cared for
you the way I so desperately wish I could. In my dreams I
have watched you playing with your friends in Heaven. In my
dreams I have seen you grow and do all the milestones I wish
I could watch you do here on earth. In my dreams I see you
play with your big brother.
Sometimes I wonder if you are here, I feel you watching us,
I felt you give me a kiss on the cheek the other night. In that
place, just before I fall into a slumber, when I am not quite
awake but not quite asleep, I see you and feel you.
Not a single day has gone by in the last year that I have not
thought about you. I think about you all the time my little boy.
My little boy who I miss so much. I wonder if you would have
been walking by now? I wonder if you would look like your
brother? I wonder what you would look like and I wonder what
eye colour you would have, would you have brown eyes like
your brother? Or would they have stayed blue like mummy's? I
know your hands and feet were exactly like mine, you had my
nose, my eyes and my chin. You had daddy's little ears. You
were the image of your big brother when you were born, but
I always wonder if you would have stayed that way or turned
out to look more like your daddy?
I wonder if you and your brother would have been the best
of friends, I know that you hang around him a lot, I can see
it when he knows you are there. It gives me great comfort to
know that you are such a wonderful little brother who looks
out for his big brother, but I still wish that you were here and
KJ was looking out for you, that is the way I always wanted it
to be my darling. I wanted to look after you, but instead I find
myself having to cope with the fact that you will be looking
over us and looking after us.
I desperately wish you were celebrating your birthday with
us. I wish we could have a party full of laughter and fun and
presents. I wish we could have a big happy cake and lots of
balloons and love. We will still have a cake for you my darling,
but it will be an angel cake. Instead of presents, we will send
you up some butterflies to play with.
I'm sure you will be having a big celebration in Heaven with
all of our friends and family who are no longer with us. I really
hope that you have found the angels of the friends who I have
met here on earth. You have bought me so many wonderful
new friends with angel babies, thank you for sending them to
me to help me get through this life without you and to help me
find my way. It's just another way that I know you are always
looking out for me. I still wish that I could look after you though
my darling, it is always a mother's wish to look after and care
for her children. It is a primal need that is engraved on every
mother’s heart. It goes against my whole being to fight that
urge of needing to care for you. I try to find other ways to care
for you instead, as I can't have you here with me.
I spend a lot of time scrapbooking, I am sure you have seen
me at my table for many a night after everyone has gone to
bed, madly trying to create pages of memories for you. Either
that or you have seen me making angel frames for my friend’s
angel babies. These are the ways that I spend time with
you, for every second I am doing them I am thinking of you.
Although a year has passed, the pain hasn't eased; I think I
have just learnt to live around it.
Although you aren't here with us and your life was so short,
you have left a legacy that could never be taught my darling
son. You have taught me so much about myself, about others
and about life. Some things have been hard to learn but others
a pleasure to discover. It’s been lovely to witness the other
people whose lives you have touched so deeply, you have left
your footprints on this world baby, even though you only had
tiny little feet.
It’s so hard to believe it's been a year, it seems to have gone
by so quickly and yet also seems like a lifetime ago. We will
never stop missing you and we will love you to our dying day
and beyond. As long as we are alive, your memory will live
too, we will never forget you my special little boy.
Wishing you a Happy 1st Heavenly Birthday and Angelversary
Lachlan, sending you lots of love and kisses.
WE WILL NEVER EVER FORGET YOU
DARLING BOY XXOO
rorrie william
forrester bailey
To our dear baby bubba, still missing you heaps and holding
on to each and every memory. Christmas is coming and it
would have been your 3rd. We’ll put up the angel and your
special ornaments and wish you were here with us. So much
has happened since last Christmas, some things never
change and some stay the same and I wish and hope and
pray that things were different. I want you here with us and
every where we go. I picture you nicely bathed and in your
jammies watching cartoons with us and showing you the
beach in your little swimmers and the excitement of the water
on our feet, the look of happiness and wonderment on your
face, to watch you go to sleep at night after reading you a fairy
tale. But life isn’t a fairy tale and there aren’t always happy
endings – we know. We will still talk and think about you as
always and hold you in our hearts.
Love you Rorrie always and forever. Xoxoxox
Hi Baby boy
I guess you know who this is from. It’s coming up to Christmas
and we think of you and miss you lots.
MEGAN FORRESTER
Rorrie was so cute, if you looked at him you knew he would be
the only one, his hair was cool and the way he was dressed.
Everyone liked and loved him but for some reason he died.
It was very said for everyone he loved and he will be dearly
missed. Hopefully he will be looked after in the new place
he lives. At his funeral everyone had to say goodbye to little
Rorrie. I hope you know that Rorrie will be very happy in the
new place he lives.
Dearly loved xoxoxoxo
FROM YOUR COUSIN ZOE
Your time on earth was far too short. You arrived the weekend
of my birthday, surely the best present I could ever get. I had
started to dream of the day we’d meet and future meetings
and outings as uncle and nephew, but sadly this will never
happen. So much hope and so many expectations on such
small shoulders, now gone so tragically! You taught me to
make the most of every precious moment as things can
change so suddenly.
Farewell little man
MUCH LOVE, UNCLE JASON XX
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Loving you always and forever
YOUR DADDY XXXXXXX
Rorrie, our grandson, our nephew, our cousin
Rorrie left us too soon, for a reason no one will ever really
know. Rorrie holds a special place in our hearts and we talk
about him all the time. His three year old triplet cousins can’t
really understand why Rorrie is no longer with us bit it is heartwarming listening to them discuss their thoughts about him.
From the mouths of babes – “Rorrie lives in the garden with all
of his best friends”, “I’m going to take my toys to the garden
for Rorrie to play with, he will love my baby puppy toy”, “There
are two Rorrie’s, one is Rorrie the racing car and one is our
Rorrie”.
Rorrie’s flame will forever shine brightly in our hearts and in
our home.
R–
O–
R–
R–
I–
is for always remembering you
is for our love for you
is for the rainbow that appears when we think of you
is for the little rascal we know you would have been
is for imagining what you would have been like when
you were older
E – is for embracing everything we love and never letting go!
Including you ...RORRIE
maddison suzanne
erwin
25TH NOVEMBER 2004
BEAM ME UP - PINK - TRUTH
ABOUT LOVE
There's a whole 'nother conversation
going on
In a parallel universe.
Where nothing breaks and nothing hurts.
There's a waltz playing frozen in time
Blades of grass on tiny bare feet
I look at you and you're looking at me.
Could you beam me up,
Give me a minute, I don't know what I'd
say in it
I'd probably just stare, happy just to be
there, holding your face
Beam me up,
Let me be lighter, I'm tired of being a
fighter,
I think, a minute's enough,
Just beam me up.
Some black birds soaring in the sky,
Barely a breath I caught one last sight
Tell me that was you, saying goodbye,
There are times I feel the shiver and cold,
It only happens when I'm on my own,
That's how you tell me, I'm not alone
Could you beam me up,
(Chorus)
In my head, I see your baby blues
I hear your voice and I, I break in two and
now there's
One of me, with you
Only a few weeks till your 8th birthday. The years just keep
rolling by seemingly faster and faster, further and further away
from the time I held you in my arms.
We purchased Pink's new album the other day and on it is this
song Beam Me Up. It instantly made me think of you, how I
would love to see you one more time, even if it was only for a
minute. Another minute of memories would be something to
cherish.
Happy 8th birthday my forever baby girl.
Lots of love
MUMMY, DADDY, HAMISH AND MATILDA
XOXOX
So when I need you can I send you a sign
I'll burn a candle and turn off the lights
I'll pick a star and watch you shine
Just beam me up,
Give me a minute, I don't know what I'd
say in it
(Chorus)
Could you beam me up.
alexander john turner
18TH OCTOBER 2010 - 16TH FEBRUARY 2011
To Our Darling Boy,
Happy 2nd Birthday
We can’t believe its already your second birthday. We often
wonder what you would look like, sound like and how cheeky
you would be running around with you brother, sister and
cousins.
For your birthday we sent blue and white balloons for you
to catch with messages from Mummy, Daddy, Ruby, Poppy,
Nanny, and Aunty Holly. I also made you a chocolate cake with
Thomas the tank engine on it. It was a quiet day spent mostly
thinking about you. Mummy and Daddy
also celebrated being married for one year but it was so hard
to celebrate without you there.
As you know mummy has a little Rainbow baby growing inside
her tummy. We know you are watching over your new little
baby brother or sister and we feel you with us often. The day
we found out we were expecting was also the day we went
and saw Charmaine Wilson and mummy and daddy
knew it was a sign. It was so good to hear from you and know
you are still as cheeky as the day you left.
We miss you with every breath we take and someday still cant
believe your not here to spend it with us.
FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS ALWAYS
ON OUR MINDS
He was so very, very special
And was so from the start
We held you in our arms
but mainly in our hearts
And like a single drop of rain
That on still water falls,
His life did ripples make
and touched the lives of all.
He's gone to play with angels
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In Heaven up above
So we keep our special memories
And treasure them with love
Although our darling son,
was with us just awhile
He'll live on in our hearts
with a sweet remembered smile....
LOVE MUMMY AND DADDY XX
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The Ment
ion
of My Child’s Name
The mention of my child’s name may bring tears to my eyes,
But it never fails to bring music to my ears.
If you are really my friend, let me hear the beautiful music
of his name.
It soothes my broken heart, and sings to my soul.
UNKNOWN
your
story
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noah’s story
Where to begin...
I am 35 and have wanted to be a mum since i can remember.
After being in a relationship with Noahs father for 5 years
we decided to 'try'. It took about 6 months before Noah was
conceived.
My pregnancy was great and seemed so very normal!
Everyone was so excited and looking forward to his arrival!
At 27 weeks I was having a relatively average day - a little
tired and swollen feet - but nothing unusual... Then at approx
9pm I developed sudden and severe abdominal pain. I
immediately rang the hospital and was told to come in.
I was rushed from Caboolture Hospital to RBWH 5 hours later
in an ambulance.... Noah Craig was delivered via emergency
c-section at 0537hrs weighing 1030grams and 40.3 cm long!
His apgar was 0 at birth as my placenta had completely torn
away by this stage... very rare (only about o.1% of the world’s
population have a complete abruption).
I lay on the operating table and watched as the very efficient
staff resuscitated my little guy then he was whisked off to
NICU. I was on the operating table for another 2 hours as i
continued to bleed out and came close to death myself.
Noah spent six days in NICU and each and every day was a
blessing as he struggled to fight for his life - such a brave and
strong little man! And all the time he received the very best of
care!
His brain damage from the lack of oxygen at birth was so
severe that on the 6th day he began to have 'rolling seizures'.
It was very hard to sit and watch him suffer. The specialist
explained that they were doing everything possible but we
were losing the fight...
Noah's life support was stopped and his tubes removed as i
held him close. His heart continued to beat for 45 minutes! He
was still trying...
I took him home with me for the night as I wanted him to at
least spend a night in his real home. This was the best night of
my life... I showed him his nursery and toys. I danced with him
and read to him. We cuddled all night in our bed.
The next day the funeral home man came and took him away.
The numbness set in...
Since then I have been through the most difficult year of my
life... As any parent who has lost a child would know.
The grief journey has been hard but it has also come with
a lot of positives. I have learnt a lot about myself thanks to
Noah. Now I appreciate each & every day of my life, despite
Noah not being here with me physically. And I am more
compassionate and understanding.
I have and will continue to dedicate much of my time raising
funds for the NICU at RBWH as the work they do there is the
very best! And the bubs deserve the best chance they can get
– and I believe this is the place where miracles can and will
happen!
ANGELA PERRY (NOAH’S MUMMY)
arielle emma calkin
23 JULY 2011
Words from a Dad….
On the 23rd of July 2011 we got to meet our baby girl who
was born still, that day will always remain in my memory as
a very special day. Though I may not speak of that day or
our daughter as much as my wife I still have my own way to
honour my daughter. She will always be missed and my love
for her will always be strong.
Arielle was 36weeks when the realisation set in that she
hadn’t moved in some time, this was confirmed by an
ultrasound. This moment still remains quite clear even though
it was such a mix of emotions and thoughts. I think the
shock is such a state that as a male you feel hopeless that
something is out of your control.
Arielle was born 1 day after my wife’s 31st Birthday and 2
days after we got that life changing news. In some ways we
consider ourselves thankful that we had these 2 days to grieve
and make some of the harder descisions before we met her.
From the beginning we had decided that we owed it to Arielle
to give her the best we could in her honour and that is excatly
what we did. My wife was amazing and we made sure that
as a family we included our children Addison (boy) 6 and
Arabella (girl) 5 who were also amazing despite what we had
happened.
At just over a year, 14 months, since this happened we still
talk about Arielle and all deal with our greif in our own way. I
found that I tend to think most about her when I have time to
myself, driving and listening to music like Coldplay or Adele.
Since losing Arielle we have had a liitle Rainbow baby Boy,
Blake Riley who was due to be born on Arielles birthday
however we brought him into the world on the 16th of July
2012. When he is old enough we will share our story with him
and tell him about the precious girl that is now a shining star.
We deal with grief and loss in our own way and time, even
though as a male I may look ok I haven’t forgotten our Baby
girl.
In time choose to laugh,enjoy life and family…by no means
does this mean that you have forgotten your journey and the
precious child that is here in memory. XX
IN MEMORY OF ARIELLE EMMA CALKIN
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nicole’s story
Hi my name is Nicole, I'm not sure where to start or even if
my story will finish. Baby Marnie was born on the 24th of May
and passed away on the 25th May. This is the start of my
story, Marnie was due on the 1st of June. My husband was
booked in for major back surgery on the 28th of May. As we
have no family where we live, I asked my doctor if I would be
able to get indued before the Friday so i didn't have to worry
about going into labour without my husband. The doctor said
because she was a healthy size and I was carring extra fluid
their would be no problems. My mother said that she would be
here on Sunday the 27th of May and would be able to help me
with the baby and my 4 other children.
The hospital told my to come in on Thurday the 24th of May
to start the induction, I arrive to the hospital about 7.30am
the doctor said sorry that the birth suite were all full, so they
said they would strip my cervix and to ring again on Friday
morning.
By midday I started to have regular contractions about 10
minutes apart, I rang them and they start to come in to get
checked. My husband and I arrive and by then the pain was
pretty painfully felling alot of pain in my hips. A nurse entered
in and said would you like anything for the pain I said yes that
I would. Next thing 2 nurses walked in and asked me what
I was allergic to I said that I was allergic to Morphine and
Maxalon (sorry for the spelling). They handed my 2 tablets
and said take this and go home(they were called Endone). By
the time that we walked down to the car I started to fell unwell
and really cold my husband asked me if I wanted to go back
up I said no as I felt that they were just trying to get me out of
there.
My husband took me around to his brothers house so I could
have a hot bath. I can remember being so cold like I was in
the snow, my sister in-law keept coming in to check on me,
she noticed that my face was red and called my husband in.
My husband said that my face and upper torso was red and
but I was still feeling cold, also that I was having trouble
seeing.
I managed to get out of the bath and put my pj on and sat
on the couch, my sister in-law said that she would time my
contractions they started at 7 minutes apart and all of a
sudden they were 2 minutes apart. My sister in-law rang the
hospital to say that I was on my way in. It took my husband,
brother in-law and sister in-law to get me in the car I was in
that much pain.
We arrived in birth suites and I said to my husband that I was
going to pass out and as I said that I fell to the floor, because
my husband had a back injury he couldn't pick me up, he was
yelling out for help and couldn't find anyone. Finally 2 nurses
came running and helped me in to a room I was sceaming out
in pain and just wanted pain relief.
When they assess me my pulse was 122bpm and a temp of
40, they gave me pethidine for pain relief. I can not remember
alot from then on. Marnie was born at 8.35pm on Thursday
24th of May. Marnie had a heart beat but was unable to breath
she was transferred to the resus table they placed her on the
ventilation machine. The doctors and nurse said that Marnie
had no brain function and that she was no going to make it.
In the meanwhile I was taken into the OT to remove the
placenta not to sure what happened in the OT but in ended up
in ICU fighting for my life. On Friday morning after I was stuble
my husband said the Marnie was not going to make it and
they said that we should take her off the ventilation machine
and let her go. The Nurses moved me into a small room so
they would be able to bring Marnie into me so I could see her
and be able to hold her.
When they brought Marnie into me she looked so beautiful
I was just waiting for her to open her eyes but that never
happened, they removed her tubes and she passed away in
my hands. The police said that they have to do a complete
inquest into her death. My husband and I are sure that Marnie
died because of the medication I was given before her birth.
This is just the start of my story.
MARNIE’S MUMMY
xavier’s story for isaac
My name is Isaac. I have a little brother called Xavier.
Xavier grew inside my mummy for 8 months and then he was
born. He was supposed to inside for 9 months. That’s okay,
when I was a baby I came one month early too.
When Xavier was born everyone was very happy. We had lots
of visitors and Xavier got lots of presents. I got lots of presents
too.
But the best present was Xavier – my little brother.
Xavier didn’t do much – he slept a lot, cried a little and was
held by Mummy and Daddy most of the time.
But I liked to hold him, and touch his forehead and kiss his soft
head.
When Xavier was just 13 days old he stopped breathing.
Mummy, Daddy and the doctors tried to help Xavier breathe
again but they couldn’t. Sometimes very little babies forget to
breathe. This is what happened to Xavier. It doesn’t happen
to big boys like me.
Xavier is in heaven now. Xavier is an angel and he is looking
after me, my Mummy and Daddy and all of my family.
We have some special things to remember Xavier by.
Mummy has some charms on a bracelet and a necklace. I
have a special necklace with a puzzle piece – Xavier has the
other piece of the puzzle. We have lots of photos of Xavier. I
have a family of toy owls – a Mummy one, a Daddy one, an
Isaac super-hero one and an Xavier one with wings. When
we see the sunshine, we think of Xavier.
Xavier is my little brother and he will always be my little
brother. I miss him but it helps to kknow
he
now that h
no
e is still
stitlll here
her
ee–
just in a different way to before.
WE ALL LOVE YOU,
BABY XAVIER.
We had a special celebration to remember Xavier. I let some
balloons go up into the sky. I think the balloons went all the
way up to heaven for Xavier to play with.
Mummy and Daddy say it’s okay to feel sad or angry or happy
or upset when I think about Xavier. I can’t touch and play with
Xavier but I can talk to him and think about him.
When Xavier died at just two weeks old, I found myself struggling with
i what to
tell my three year old. Isaac was just as excited about meeting Xavier as we were.
He is such a proud big brother. People tell you in you grief “at least you have your
other son”. But we didnt gain Isaac in this tragedy, and a part of his life has also
been ripped away. I wanted to help him understand what happened.
I wrote this for him, for our family and to honour Xavier as Isaac’s little brother.
Forever.
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oliver’s story
Oliver died at exactly eight weeks old. He was my second
born child out of now seven pregnancies. He was an amazing
little boy, my dream come true. In eight weeks, he hardly left
my chest; he died listening to my heartbeat. He was the only
one out of four I successfully breastfed. I always wanted a
boy; we were so in love with each other. When he was born,
for the first time in my life I finally let myself believe that
everything was finally going to be OK.
I was wrong.
I grew up in a world of poverty, alcohol abuse and violence
until the age of 13. I worked very hard to get out of my
situation and grow a career for myself so I could stand on
my own two feet if I ever had to look after my future children
on my own. After years in the fitness industry I went into the
corporate world doing Business Development and Account
Management. I moved on to selling cars for Mercedes Benz,
hoping to fall pregnant. I had Lucy, an amazing little girl that
inspires me to be a better person everyday.
When Oliver was born, I finally got my little boy. I had a
wonderful life, rich in all the ways that should matter.
When Oliver died, our world was forever crushed.
My heart broke to see my husband so devastated and my
daughter so confused. Dave also had to find a way to get up in
the morning to keep his professional life together for his family.
Dave purged his emotions into exercise. Within months he
completed the Noosa Triathlon, something very personal he
now does every year in memory of our "Little Buddy". I have
a great love and respect for my husband and one of the big
things we do for each other is understand how important it is
to respect each others grief process and support each others
needs, every day forward.
My grief process was completely different. I was treated by
the police as a murderer the moment Oliver was pronounced.
My baby had just passed and they were ripping me to shreds.
The interrogation made it very clear I was "going away". Police
through my house, crime scene photo's and CPS. I had just
lost my son and I was about to loose everything else I had
worked so very hard to achieve.
My case wasn't closed for nine months, until all autopsy
results came through. I spent most of this time with the
shakes, often not able to drive and function effectively in
society from what the shock had done to my nervous system.
Fortunately, I have been able to put one step in front of the
other. I have had two more beautiful children Alice and Rosie.
Rosie has just turned one. However, there is always someone
very special missing during our family time and in photos.
I have an amazing family and great circle of friends. Some
very, very beautiful friends and sisters who have never judged
or wavered in support over these years. These women have
travelled this journey with us. We will be forever thankful.
I still cry every single day. Everyday with our babies is a
blessing and the fact they don't get sick of my constant kisses,
cuddles and tickles is pretty cool!
KAREN – OLIVER’S MUM
thinking of you
this christmas
We know the holiday season may bring mixed emotions for you and your family. We hope you find moments of peace and
happiness this Christmas day. Spending some time to quietly remember and celebrate your child may assist you to feel their
closeness. Including your child in the festivities may bring comfort to your family and especially to other siblings. You could hang
a decoration out on the tree, get the children to draw a special card or buy a gift for child.
Remember if you do shed tears on the day, don’t feel bad for doing so, it’s purely a reflection of how much you love and miss
your child. It will not ‘ruin’ Christmas for others. Don’t feel afraid to plan the day your way and to take time out to be alone if you
need too. A helpful way to end the day is to reflect on the lovely events that took place that day and to cherish the moments you
felt close with your child.
THINKING OF YOU ALL - COUNSELLOR ESTHER
Please cut out and keep
TO OUR PRECIOUS
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Merry Christmas little angel
You will be in our thoughts and hearts
Not a moment goes by that we dont miss you
and remember you’re perfect
________________________________________
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We will place a special decoration out for you
and this year it will be a
________________________________________
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We are all sending you our love, hugs and kisses
Lot of love from
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christmas decoration
ideas!
Christmas is almost here and for any of you who like making things, here are some decorations
you, your children or grandchildren might like to do...
REINDEER ORNAMENTS
1. Trace around hand onto thin cork board or thick cardboard and cut with
scissors or Stanley knife for cork board.
2. Put a hole in the top for hanging ribbon
3. Let your creative juices flow and decorate as above or however you like.
You could also write your child’s name in puff paint or use a paint pen.
HAND SANTA’S
1. Cut Santa-hat shapes (minus the pom-poms and white trim) from the craft
paper, then glue one onto each card. Glue a pair of googly eyes a
fingertip’s width below each hat.
2. Pour white paint onto one paper plate, and a dollop each of red, black, and
pink (mix some red and white) onto another. Stamp white handprint beards,
then use fingertips to stamp the trim on the hats, and a nose, mouth, and
cheeks on each face.
STAR ORNAMENTS
1. Draw a star (or use s template) onto two pieces of felt or other material..
2. Sew small beads onto the front. In between the two layers add a starshaped piece of card stock for stability.
3. Glue pieces onto card front and back and then do a blanket stich around
the shapes
BUTTON WREATHS
1. Using pliers, make a small loop at one end of the wire.
2. Thread buttons onto the wire until you have enough to form the size of the
wreath you want. Our wreaths are 2 1/2 inches in diameter.
3. Using pliers, bend the plain end of the wire around the looped end. This will
form the wreath.
4. Use the satin ribbon to make a loop for hanging the wreath; tie the ribbon in
a knot about 3 inches above the wreath. Tie a bow of seam binding to
decorate the wreath.
To Daddy
I’ll always be your angel,
And now your shining star,
I love you with all my heart,
Even from afar.
I’ll never forget the way it felt,
Snuggling in your arms,
I may only have been 31 days,
But I knew you’d protect me from harm.
I studied you like you studied me,
Each and every day,
I know your voice, your smell and touch,
You’re special in every way.
I love you daddy and always will,
Forever I’m in your heart,
I’ll share each Father’s Day with you,
Even though we are apart.
FOR ANDY, WITH LOVE,
KALI TUNKS
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donations
in
loving
memory
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ones. As many of our donations are anonymous we are unable to list them here but we wish to sincerely thank
those who have given so generously. Please let us know at the time of donation if you would like it to appear in our
Donations In Loving Memory page.
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celebrations
join in the
conversation
online!
Remember, there are so
many ways we can keep in
contact!
Butterfly Kisses Online
Support Group
Zayne Kertesz born 29th October 2012
Baby brother to Jett and Angel Baby Scarlett
Butterfly Kisses is an online support group
within a closed trusted network. Our aim is to
united families across Queensland and give
them a place to express their grief and loss
while getting support and understanding from
other members.
If you have suffered loss and would like to join
this network, please contact 07 3849 7122 or
queensland@sidsqld.com.au
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For Bereavement Services information please
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Lincoln Jai Darbey born 5th November 2012
Baby brother to Angel Hayley, Hayden and Hamish
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If you would like to start receiving this
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Nathan Austin Mayo born 6th August 2012
Darling little brother to our angel in the stars, Hamish
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remembrance dates
NAME
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Adam Blake Sparksman
Adam James Chatten Hewitt
Alana Maree Talbot
Alexander Charles Lewis
Alexander John Coggins
Alexander John Turner
Alicia Norval
Alyssa Kaye Bradford
Amber Louise Whitelock
Andrew Scott Gaughan
Angel Kayser
Anja Christie Cook
Annalise May Houldsworth
Annazina Cassimatis
Arielle Emma Calkin
Ashleigh Janet Penrose
Ashley Rose Patricia Thomas
Austin Wayne Smith
Ava Mavis Wooster
Ava May Corbally
Aymie-Leigh Jade Eveans
B
Belinda Jo-Anne Muller
Ben Sebastian Wright
Bethanie Kym Crowhurst
Bethany Kae Bowden
Blake Greame Murphy
Blake John Caruana
Braydon Reece Oliphant
Brendan Terry Garland
Brennah Aisling Paterson
Brianna Monique Gibson
Britney May Brown
Brock and Dejay Bowden
Brodie James Cowe
Brodie Jason Kyle Cheung
Brodie Luke Douglas
Bryson Hilton Barry Shepard
C
Caitlin Emma Ryan
Caitlyn Bo Kei Yan
Callen Patrick John Novotny
Callum Luke Ronnfeldt
Callum Thomas Danger
Eastham-Prest
Campbell James Voll
Casey Brice
Casey Lachlan Price
Charli Elise Turnbull
Charli-Zeta Hayes
Charlie Geering
Chelsey Ellen Rowe
Chloe Maree Irvine
Chloe-Jade Gilligan
Christian Dudley
Claire Laura Celeste Spencer
Clay John Grant
Coltyn Michael Driscoll
Cooper Herbert Walter Tumeth
Cooper Charles Sutton
Courtney Lee Ryan
D
Damien James Lyel Hallewell
Darcy Vincent Schroder
David Robert Kirkwood
David William Allan Koplick
Dean Michael Phillips
Dexter William Rasmussen
Dillian Ryan Walker
Dominic John Jackson
Dominic Patrick Lyons
Drew John Sullivan
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NAME
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Dylan James Kearns-Whiting
Dylan James Landers
Dylan Ray Kevin Murphy
Dylan Rex Harvey
Dylan Tyrone Cochrane
E
Edward Thomas Burton
Elijah Salvati
Eliot Dafydd Adams
Elizabeth Ruth Thomson
Ella Grace Bourke
Ella Louise Longmire
Elliot Foster Brown
Eloise Jane Chipman
Emerson Leece
Erin Madeline McMaster
Ethan Paul Rehberg-Edgar
Evan Riley Davies
Evie Grace Ewart
G
Gage Mana Christensen
Georgia Abbott
Grace Catherine Brook-McVey
H
Hamish Isaiah O’Sullivan
Hannah Isabelle Dillon
Harrison James Boundy
Harry Arthur Parker
Humphrey
Harrison Collins McIntosh
Harrison Thomas Daniel
Harry Thomas Strickland
Hayden Marc Riddell
Hayley Alana Darbey
Holly Rose Naumann
Hunter William Ian Andrew
McInnes-Duke
I
Imogen Grace Freemantle
Isabella Michelle Tredrea
Iszaac James Taylor
Izaak John Bin Barba
J
Jacinta Gail Melita Orcher
Jack Anthony Ingram Purton
Jack Richard Jones
Jacob Daniel Taylor-Humphries
Jacob Mitchell Houweling
Jacob Dariusz Wieczorek
Jaidann Gordon Lampard
Jak Anthony Butler Raleigh
James Andrew Donohue
James Michael Scott Edwards
Jarrod Michael Rayner Hurren
Jasmine Robyn Atterwell
Jayden Phillip Bell
Jayden Zachary Michael Kline
Jeremy Glen Dempsey
Jeromee Ross Sippel
Jesse Norval
Jessica Jordon Whitford
Jessica Joy Jones
Jessica Leigh Megson
Jessica Marie Peace
Jessica Sarah Wuttke
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Joe Alford-Leeder
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Jonathon Roy Spencer
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Joshua Charles Bradbury
Joshua Damian Leigh Haines
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9th July
9th April
24th August
30th June
22 June
24th December
28th August
28th August
29th October
29th October
24th September 21st September
11th May
28th August
15th July
3rd June
1 November
13th December
28th May
26th August
17th August
1st May
19th May
12th December
24 March
19th December
7th August
30th January
31st January
18th August
1st June
15th February
13th August
2nd December
5th June
11th August
9 October
1st March
5th June
16th October
9 October
15th July
8th October
27th May
9th September
6th December
31st August
6th February
11th March
26th June
9th March
20th February
23rd February
26th August
19th January
17th March
18th July
15th June
26 December
15th July
2nd December
29th December
3rd March
7th November
5th January
15th December
11th October
13th June
2nd December
8th January
16th May
27th December
15th November
14th March
30th December
1st September
9th May
9th August
18th September
1st November
10th February
22nd March
15th March
19th January
19th May
25th October
5th September
12 August
9th August
8th December
18th April
4th May
14th July
10th March
15th December
11th April
30th September
8th November
14th March
4th September
NAME
BIRTHDATE
J
Joshua Graehlert
2nd June
Joshua Joseph Robert Shay
4th November
Joshua Paul Johnston
29th August
Julia Rose Davies
24 November
K
Kacee Michelle Price
1st December
Kade Adrian Lovell Fragiacomo 9th September
Kash William Delaforce
25th February
Katie Gardiner
23rd February
Keegan Rhys Hardy
28th November
Kobe Reign Whittaker
15th January
Kodi John-Thomas Campbell
3rd January
Kurt Michael Stewart
7th September
Kyla Louise Scells
31st October
Kyle Joseph John Shay
5th January
Kyle Thomas Weir
7th July
Kyra Jane Gibson
17th May
L
Lachlan Alan Shaw
27 September
Lachlan James Workman
27th November
Lara Isabel Watterson
4th March
Lauren Anne Diefenbach
24th April
Lauren Jodie Whitton
23rd January
Lauren Kate Dreicer
21st October
Leah Hope Golinski
20th February
Leighton-Rhys McCoy-Duggan 20th July
Leni Tiger Fry
6th October
Liam Gabriel Barry
16 May
Lindsay Albert Price
21st January
Lionel William Ac
6th October
Little Mervyn
16th July
Luke Allan James Salway
4th May
Luke John Lassman
7th December
Luke Timothy Wilson
13th January
Lindsay Albert Price
21 January
M
Maddison Suzanne Erwin
25th November
Madison Grace Wood
3rd November
Madison Paige Taylor
20th June
Madison Talanya Lyell
22nd May
Maggie Ellen Hoover
9th September
Maison Steven David Drummond 15th February
Marc Jonathon Young
13th September
Marco Kairi Cameron Fujii
10th August
Mason Kerr
21st February
Mathew Gordon Petty
24th January
Matisse Aiyanna Chrzczonowicz 19th May
Max Angus Barker
21st February
Melanie Jane Bauman
31st March
Mia Davies
14th April
Michael John Barrett
23rd August
Michael Robert Parnaby
26th February
Michael Robert Scott Bishop
20th October
Michael Thomas Fitzgerald
1st November
Mitchell Arthur Sticher
14th January
Mitchell James Edwards
3rd September
Mitchyl Jaye Harris
11th August
Molly-Mae Grace Cooper
21st June
N
Natasha Louise Hall
23rd February
Nathan Carl Schmidt
24th June
Nathan Scott Reid “Nay Nay”
3rd May
Nicholas Karydis
26th July
Nicholas Peter Lee
18th January
Nicholas Shane Stehbens
12th June
Nicholas Wayne Curtis
24th June
Nikita Kaya Pollard
29th October
Noah Manley Houweling
30th May
Noah Simon Darryl Gillett
25th April
|
ANNIVERSARY
14th August
5th June
29th August
24 November
27th June
9th September
15th June
1st May
9th March
27th March
9th April
16th March
3rd February
12th February
25th December
17th May
27 September
13th December
17th May
3rd June
2nd June
27th July
21st April
11th June
6th October
16 May
21st January
6th October
17th July
4th May
7th December
20th July
25th November
12th March
23rd June
6th August
19th January
18th February
27th October
2nd December
21st February
2nd June
27th April
25th June
23rd August
8th August
26th July
7th August
19th February
11th July
8th November
22nd September
31st March
26th August
14th April
28th August
8th August
6th October
1st May
NAME
O
Oliver Joseph Jones
Oliver Patrick Rivers
P
Paige Elizabeth Kate Sneddon
Peter Adam Clarke
Phoenix Leigh Brown
R
Rachel Stephanie Kemp
Randall William Bianchi
Raymond James Moyle
Renee Ashley Pilgrim
Rhiannon Mary Puttee
Richard James West
Riley Kelly
Riley Robert McNeill
Rorrie William Forrester-Bailey
Ruby Ellen Kowplos
Ryan Selwyn Klibbe
Rylie Andrea Lapwood
S
Sabastian David Fisher-Leach
Sam William Atala
Sara Emily Schneeberg
Savannah Lee Barr
Scott Robert Young West
Sean David Longmire
Seth Jordan Mackay
Shane Bowen Miller
Shania Kayser
Shardai Louise McCallum
Shiahn Burke
Sophia Celeste Langford
Sophie Maree Refalo
Steven Ross Jagger
Summer Rose Marriott
T
Tahlia Jane Cassidy
Tamika Maree Eggmolesse
Tane Phillips
Tara Carter
Tarnia Deborah Louise Morrell
Tasmin Christie Miller
Tayla Jade Cotgrove
Teanne Bishop McDonald
Texas Rose Martin
Giezendanner
Thomas James Hides
Todd Matthew Freemantle
Tristan Llewellyn Thom
Troy Paul Adams
Tyrone Gordon Pomeroy
Tyson James Frey
W
William Ashton Heyward Tye
William David Foster
X
Xavier Leece
Xavier James May
Y
Yasmina Nadja Tunks
Yasminah Ann Aziz
Z
Zachary Thomas Cassidy
Zahra Ann McMullen
Zayne Mervyn Kelly Hile
Zayne Thomas- James Elliot
Zoe Elizabeth Peters
BIRTHDATE
ANNIVERSARY
27th September 9th November
30th May
24th July
6th April
7th September
19th February
11th June
20th November
17th July
21st March
14th January
27th February
4th February
19th October
11 November
6th March
22 February
19th April
19th July
14th July
16th April
21st July
19th January
12th January
25th July
21st November
8th February
10th July
13th May
21st May
29th April
15th May
27th August
19th April
25th February
4th September
22nd October
26th March
23th July
10th January
8th February
14th July
16th June
15th August
25th October
15th June
9th September
19th October
19th August
25th March
6th July
29th February
7th July
25th October
10th January
17th June
27th February
5th September
14th February
9th May
3rd July
27th April
28th April
17th June
19th June
15 October
28th March
21st August
18th October
5th July
28th April
18th August
4th December
14th May
7th October
6th January
6th July
28th February
18th August
4th December
29th June
5th December
24th June
22nd October
3rd June
18 December
28th May
21st August
11th August
16th April
23rd September 16th May
10th June
25th September
12th July
24 June
12th July
7th July
31st March
26th March
1st May
26th March
10th October
18th June
25th September
31st December
15 February
15th October
18th June
1st May
1st May
15 February
20th August
|
On behalf of the Team at
SIDS and Kids Queensland,
we would sincerely like to wish you
and your family a lovely and hope
filled Christmas.
May the day be f illed with
peace and healing.
At SIDS and Kids a compassionate
person is always available to offer
support and understanding.
SIDS and Kids Queensland The Todd Freemantle Centre
ABN: 11 495 594 924
Telephone: 07 3849 7122
Fax: 07 3849 7121
After Hours Bereavement Support Link 1800 628 648
www.sidsandkids.org/qld
www.sideadventuretreks.org
www.rednoseday.com.au

SIDS and Kids Queensland December 2012 Edition

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