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Inspiring You to Live a Fantastic Life No. 294 Vol. 24 Nov. 2014 NOVEMBER 20 - 23 PICC | SMX | MOA ARENA MEET JASON EVERT, INTERNATIONAL CHASTITY SPEAKER photo of jason evert Jimmy and LJ Alapag: Foster Parents to a Grace to Be Born Baby IF YOU HAD ONLY 30 DAYS LEFT, KERYGMA BARCODE.pdf 11/16/06 HOW WILL YOU LIVE? 5:43:58 PM Philippines P70 US $7.00 AUS $ 7.00 Euro 5.00 UK 4.00 CDN $7.00 SING $9.00 HK $47.00 RUPIAH 64,000 • Live Like You’re Dying • How Will You Give? • Do Heaven and Hell Start Now? God’s name will be exalted like never before at the biggest inspirational event of the year. NOVEMBER 20-23 WITH BO SANCHEZ, JASON EVERT, THE KERYGMA PREACHERS AND OTHER RENOWNED SPEAKERS KERYGMACONFERENCE.COM 725-9999 #KERYGMACONFERENCE #LIFTEDHIGH Can you hear God speak to you? We’ll help you hear the Shepherd’s Voice loud and clear this 2015. Starting with Companion Listen to God’s voice as He speaks to you through His Word. Companion compiles the Mass readings of the day in a handy book that you can take with you anywhere you go. A priest provides an introduction to the daily readings that will give you insight into His Word and help you to understand it better. Your Companion also includes prayers said during the Mass and novenas that will help in your daily talk with God. Followed by Didache and Gabay Find out what God’s message is for you as He speaks through the testimonies of fellow Catholics who experienced God’s love and faithfulness in their own lives. He wants to give you the same healing, miracles and encouragement in your own circumstances. Be inspired with the heartwarming and faith-filled reflections by ordinary people whose lives were touched and transformed by God who is very much involved in the daily events and details of our lives. Deepen with Sabbath Listen more deeply to God’s word as explained by Catholic priests who have spent their lives studying the Bible. Sabbath is written in simple language that you and I will understand to help us know more about God as He nourishes us with His life-giving Word. Hear God’s Voice more clearly this year! He will lead you to the joyful, victorious and abundant life that He desires for you. Start the good habit of reading your SVP Devotionals daily. It’s food for your soul! SVP Devotionals are also available in Digital version! Download Companion, Didache, Gabay and Sabbath into your gadgets. Visit www.KerygmaBooks.com today. Feeling insecure? Plagued with self-doubt and worries? Brokenhearted and depressed? This could be you or someone you know. God wants you to be happy, healthy and whole. It’s time to Love Yourself as God Loves You. Find healing in these pages. “This is a beautiful book. Let my friend Marj teach you how to heal the unloved parts within you and guide you to the pathways of accepting, forgiving and celebrating your true self.” – BO SANCHEZ, bestselling author and Catholic lay preacher. Love Yourself Today! Available in print and e-book versions. Visit us at www.KerygmaBooks.com. I believe that heaven and hell start here — right here, right now. How? By the way you live your life each day. Your afterlife will be a mirror image of what is in your heart. But it will be eternally multiplied. I know of people who are living a life of hell on earth. Carl, a 73-year-old man, rang the doorbell of the house of a former high school classmate. When the man opened the door, Carl asked, “Are you Norman Johnson?” When Norman answered, “Yes,” Carl pointed a .45-caliber gun and shot Norman twice, blowing up his entire face. Why did Carl kill Norman? According to Carl, he was still mad at Norman because when they were in high school 56 years ago (my gosh!), in a locker room prank, Norman put his smelly supporter over Carl’s head! It only happened once. But for the next 56 years, Carl replayed that scene over and over again in his mind. I repeat: Norman did it only once, but Carl did it thousands of times — putting that sweaty, smelly supporter over his head — in his imagination. And if Carl heard good stuff about Norman — how he got a job, how he got promoted, how he got an award — he would feel terrible. The seed of bitterness that was planted 56 years ago was nurtured every day and it grew bigger and bigger, until it became a gigantic monster. Carl was living with this monster of bitterness, eating him up inside. I don’t know what hell is like, because I’ve never been there, and I don’t have plans of going. But I bet it must be very close to that. Bitterness in your heart is hell. And if you don’t ask Jesus to heal that bitterness, hell continues even after death. But if you live a life of love, you experience heaven now. Have you noticed? The happiest people in the world are those whose hearts are overflowing with love. Let me say it again: Heaven and hell start now. And so does purgatory… Everything that is happening in your life right now is purifying you, sanctifying you, shaping you, and transforming you to become more like Jesus — until you become perfect. And just like heaven and hell, purgatory continues even after you die. Let me describe purgatory to you: When you die, you’ll see God and you’ll run towards Him. I believe you’ll see God running towards you, too. When you take one step, He takes 10 steps. As you move closer to each other, you realize His love is burning away all your imperfections. The closer you get to Him, the more perfect you become. So that at that moment when God embraces you, all By Bo Sanchez The Boss your weaknesses totally vanish. You become perfect as He is perfect. What is that “running towards God” and God “running towards you”? That’s my definition of purgatory. I can imagine that when Mother Teresa died, this run was pretty short — perhaps a hundred-meter dash. (Gosh, I’m wrong; perhaps it was only five or six steps!) But other very imperfect people (like me) may have to run a few miles. (I just hope it’s not a marathon.) Friend, love more and shorten your race. May your dreams come true, DO HEAVEN AND HELL START NOW? NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 1 Mail room A SPECIAL MESSAGE FROM BO SANCHEZ I didn’t like to read long articles before. But then I read Kerygma when one of my co-workers in our parish gave us copies of past issues from Assumption School. Now I love and enjoy reading Kerygma. It is like my monthly vitamins. I now recommend Kerygma to everyone. Quet Rafallo Youth Ministry Parish of the Immaculate Heart of Mary Antipolo City I am an avid reader of Kerygma magazine since 1999, when my brother in Singles for Christ gave me a copy. Now I am attending The Feast in Montalban and continue to enjoy reading it. God bless and more power! Jun Frondozo Montalban, Rizal I have just read Kerygma’s March 2013 issue. “The Boss” talks about faith and trust. Thanks be to God for the staff of such an anointed magazine. Every time I get it, I am always blessed. Mabuhay! Marisol College instructor, General Santos City Kerygma magazine is the best! I feel so blessed after reading it. I pray that I’ll be part of Kerygma Family. It is a stress-reliever because of its inspiring messages. Would you believe Kerygma is almost 25 years old? Yes, we’re celebrating our silver anniversary next year. Gosh, I can’t help but wonder — how we have survived this long without depending on advertisements? It’s by God’s grace that Kerygma is still around. From printing a mere 2,000 copies, which we gave away initially, we are now printing it in tens of thousands. And it’s been blessing a greater number of people around the globe — even those at sea. But in the last 25 years, would you believe that we increased our prices only a few times? The last one was in 2012. For many years, we’ve been shouldering the incremental cost and have avoided passing it on to you, because we want to make it more affordable to you. Sadly, we can’t do that for long. To continue to publish what Bishop Ted Bacani prophesied as the “publishing miracle of Asia,” we are increasing our prices effective March 2015 issue. The new retail cover price is P100. But when you subscribe, you pay only P800 for 12 issues, or a 33% savings. With the price increase comes a promise — we will continue to give you what you deserve: a magazine that will help you live a fantastic life! Rachel Hipolito Feast Bicutan We Want to hear from you! Send your message via email to editsvp@shepherdsvoice.com.ph, through text to 0923-378-4941, or by snail mail to The Editor at 60 Chicago St., Cubao, Quezon City, Philippines 1109. You can also reach us through Kerygma Family. Simply log on to www.kerygmafamily.com. Or like our Facebook page and post your message there. For subscription-related concerns, text or call Sarah Discutido at 0922-814-7031 or email subscription@shepherdsvoice.com.ph. 2 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 Living by Grace Just Breathe By Rissa Singson-Kawpeng The Miracle of Guadalupe Rissa’s outfit courtesy of Elite Garments/ENSEMBLE T No one prays as powerfully as Our Lady does he preachers’ wives from my caring group came over to the house for a visit. I had been on sick leave for weeks since my breast biopsy and the lumpectomy that followed. But more than that, they came to pray for me. Dinah, wife of author and preacher George Gabriel, brought a replica of the tilma of Our Lady of Guadalupe. The original tilma was the cloak of a peasant named Juan Diego to whom our Blessed Mother appeared on Tepeyac Hill in Guadalupe, Mexico. Our Lady instructed Juan Diego to tell the bishop to build a chapel in her honor. Understandably, the bishop asked him for proof that it was really Mama Mary who appeared to him. Our Lady instructed Juan Diego to collect flowers growing on the rocky hill where normally only cactus and scrub grew. It was December, definitely not the season for roses, but Juan Diego used his mantle as a sack and filled it with blooms. At his audience with the bishop, Juan Diego unfurled his cloak and out poured the flowers. But what startled the bishop was the image of Mary that was miraculously imprinted on his tilma. Five hundred years later, that tilma is still intact, surviving wars, fires, bombings and the punishing onslaught of nature, even when scientists say that fabric of that kind can last for 40 only years max. Scientific investigations have found that no trace of paint can be found on the cloth. What’s more, they discovered that the tilma maintains the body of a human body. Gynecologists determined that the proportion of Our Lady was that of a pregnant woman. When they put a stethoscope on her tummy, they heard the heartbeat of a baby in its mother’s womb! Since then, I’ve been praying to Our Lady of Guadalupe. I’ve also started to pray the rosary more often, asking Mama Mary to intercede for my healing. She, being a woman and a mother, would understand what getting breast cancer means. And since then, Our Lady of Guadalupe has been making her presence felt in my life. One day, I shot some episodes for Kape’t Pandasal, a two-minute Jesuit Communication production that airs on ABS-CBN at the start of weekdays. (I’m on every Friday.) Cardinal Chito Tagle is also on the program and I shared with him my recent health concern. After he prayed over me, he told me that someone had sent him tilmas from Mexico which had been consecrated to the original one. He promised to send me one. I was misty eyed as I thanked him. One of the episodes I shot earlier that day was about how I first encountered the tilma. Today, I bring the tilma along with me when I go for therapy. I lay it on me and believe that Our Lady of Guadalupe accompanies me with her prayers as I lay in the clinic receiving my megadose infusion of vitamins and other antioxidants. I also share this amazing story with others that they may share in the awe and wonder that our Catholic faith brings. Our Lady of Guadalupe, pray for us. You also must help us by prayer, so that many will give thanks on our behalf for the blessing granted us through the prayers of many. (2 Corinthians 1:11) Email me at justbreatherissa@gmail.com, subscribe to my Facebook updates, or visit my website rissasingsonkawpeng.com. What to Expect This Month: It’s Kerygma Conference month! Haven’t registered yet? Don’t miss the chance to experience God’s amazing presence at the biggest Catholic learning event of the year. It’s happening on November 2023 with the theme “Lifted High.” Choose from over 50 classes and be ready to be lifted high with powerful talks from our very own Bo Sanchez and international speaker on chastity, Jason Evert, as well as other notable speakers. So get your tickets now! Visit www. kerygmaconference.com or call 7259999. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 3 What’s 01 The Boss DO HEAVEN AND HELL START NOW? Inside THE BO FILES November 2014 40Point of Contact 19IF YOU HAD ONLY 30 DAYS LEFT, HOW WILL YOU LIVE? 20 LIVE LIKE YOU’RE DYING 26HOW WILL YOU GIVE? SPECIAL SECTION DEPARTMENTS 2Mailroom 5New You 6 Wounded Family HEALING OUR FAMILY ONE HOSPITAL AT A TIME 8Kfam Insider TOUGH BASKETBALL SUPERSTAR NOW A TENDER LOVING FOSTER FATHER 9Feast Snapshots FAME: Welcoming New Attendees in Feast Alabang 15 It Happened: THE ROAD TO RESURRECTION 39One Last Story: IT’S A MIRACLE! COLUMNS TESTIMONIES 24 YOLANDA: A Life-changing experience 30 A FINAL BOW OF BENEVOLENCE 3 Just Breathe The Miracle of Guadalupe 33 Seasons My Dreams The Next 10 Years 35Catholic Soul Seven Times Seventy Times 37 K Preacher Worry-free Life Equals Heaven ABOUT OUR COVER MODEL Jacqueline Diaz, usually called Jacky, began her faith journey when she was 12 years old, as she read the books of some famous authors, especially Bo Sanchez. She would laugh, cry, smile and get totally inspired by the wonderful teachings and stories of and about God, as delivered by Bo. Originally from Albay in Bicol, she came to Manila for college. She would go to The Feast PICC and attend the annual Kerygma Conference, all by herself. Remembering those times — the long four-ride trips from Diliman to PICC, the two-day allalone-but-amazing KCON experience, the she-invited-herself-toserve memories at Campus Feast — she says it has been crazy following God. “But how can I not follow Him? All my life, He’s dead crazy following me,” she asks. She believes that the fantastic people around her, her awards and accomplishments, and all the beautiful stories in her life are because of His grace and all for His glory. She dreams and strives to be bread broken for His kingdom, just like Jesus did. Jacky’s friends say she has an outgoing bubbly personality, but she does enjoy silent hours of reflection and reading. Apart from God and her family and friends, she loves coffee, movies, praise music, acoustic songs, road trips, long chats, math and hosting. She is a senior student at the University of the Philippines-Diliman, taking up B.S. Business Administration and Accountancy. She currently heads the student arm of the UP Campus Feast. founder and publisher BO SANCHEZ • editor-in-chief RISSA SINGSON KAWPENG • managing editor TESS V. ATIENZA • creative director MIKE CORTES • graphics director REY DE GUZMAN • assistant layout artist LEAH KIM RECTO • staff writers MARJORIE DUTERTE, KARREN RENZ SEñA, DINA PECAña • contributing writers ELEANORE TEO, JOY SOSOBAN-ROA, REYLINDO ORTEGA, KIRAE GENECIRAN, OSY ERICA, LELLA SANTIAGO • photographer DANIEL A. SORIANO • columnists OBET CABRILLAS, EDGARDO DE VERA, ALLAN AND MARIBEL DIONISIO chairman of the board and CEO BO SANCHEZ • president HERMIE R. MORELOS • vice-president for finance and administration WENG CEQUEÑA • assistant vice-president for production RISSA SINGSON KAWPENG • production manager TESS V. ATIENZA • sales and marketing manager JOSEPH MARTINEZ Kerygma. A Greek word meaning “Proclamation of the Gospel.” It is a Catholic inspirational magazine. It aims to be an evangelistic tool to all nations, providing Scriptural, practical and orthodox teachings to Catholics, particularly those in the Catholic Renewal, as an alternative to present-day magazines. It is also committed to fostering the renewal and unity of the whole Christian people. Philippine copyright Shepherd’s Voice Publications, Inc. 2014. No part of this magazine may be reproduced without permission. Kerygma is published monthly by Shepherd’s Voice Publications, Inc., whose editorial and business offices are located at 60 Chicago St., Cubao, 1109 Quezon City. Tel. Nos.: (632) 725-9999, 411-7874, 725-1190. Fax: 727-5615. Email: editsvp@shepherdsvoice.com.ph. Website: www.kerygmabooks.com 4 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 How to help CHILDREN prepare for Christmas T his year, the first day of Advent will fall on November 30. It’s a time to prepare for the coming birthday of Jesus — the best time to teach our children the significance of Christmas and help them celebrate it more meaningfully. “Children love to anticipate,” wrote Helen McLoughlin in her book Advent and Christmas in a Catholic Home. The following practices will help your children prepare spiritually for Christmas: • Have an Advent wreath at home: Made of evergreens bound to a circle of wire, the Advent wreath holds four candles. Three purple ones are lit on each Sunday of Advent and a pink one for Gaudete, the joyful third Sunday of Advent. It symbolizes the many years from Adam to Christ in which the world awaited its Savior. It can help the children prepare for Christmas, one candle at a time. Look for prayers and hymns in the Internet that can accompany your family’s Advent wreath ceremony. • The nativity scene and the Christmas manger: Make one manger for the whole family. The children can cut out cardboards and make the nativity scene, shepherds and sheep out of recycled materials. Give your children a piece of straw that they can put in the manger whenever they do an act of kindness, as a birthday present. Baby Jesus is placed in the manger on Christmas morning. Encourage the children to make Jesus’ bed as “comfortable” as possible through their good deeds. • The Christ candle: Buy a large white candle that can be used for the Christ candle. Use old Christmas cards, sequins and recyclables to decorate the candle with symbols of Christ. The candle can be lit on Christmas Eve to show that the Light of the World has arrived. The family that goes to Mass together and participates in activities during Advent and Christmas seasons will grow closer to Christ, “The Reason for the Season,” and give a great witness to relatives and friends. Source: http://www.catholiceducation.org New You Tips for personal development Five Simple Tips for a Healthy Holiday T he busy Christmas season is fast approaching. How do you keep your health in tip-top shape amidst the holiday stress? Try these simple tips. 1. Don’t forget to exercise. When you’re tired, the last thing you might want to do is to move. But do make time for exercise. Even a brisk walk can be more effective than a nap or a cup of coffee in fighting fatigue. 2. Partake of the fish. Don’t snub the fish at parties. Salmon, sardines and mackerel contain omega-3 fatty acids that are good for you. People who consume higher amounts of these fats are less likely to have dry eyes. 3. Eat garlic. Don’t put garlic or onions aside on your plate when you eat your pasta. They will help keep you healthy. Both foods possess antiviral and antibacterial properties that are believed to boost immunity to prevent sickness. 4. Eat Japanese food. You can help prevent cavities by adding more shiitake mushrooms and wasabi to your diet. Both foods contain compounds that help fight the bacteria that cause plaque and cavities. 5. Drink water. Sans the heavy traffic and long lines, dehydration can trigger headaches. Drink a full glass of water or bring a water bottle with you to prevent migraines. If the headache is bad, try wrapping your head with an Ace bandage so that it covers your eyes, then lie down and breathe deeply. This often helps the pain pass more quickly. Source: http://www.wholeliving.com Quick Health Tip Pumpkin P umpkin, also known as kalabasa in Filipino, is an abundant source of vital antioxidants and vitamins A, C and E. Natural foods rich in vitamin A protect us against lung and oral cavity cancers. Pumpkin is very low in calories and contains no saturated fats or cholesterol. It is one of the food items recommended by dietitians in controlling cholesterol and reducing weight. It is a good source of B-complex group of vitamins like folates, niacin, vitamin B-6 (pyridoxine), thiamin and pantothenic acid. It is rich in minerals like copper, calcium, potassium and phosphorus. Source: http://www.nutrition-and-you.com NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 5 Despite the struggles she was going through before, Beng just kept on serving God through The Feast. HEALING OUR FAMILY ONE HOSPITAL AT A TIME By Beng Umbalin as told to Joy Sosoban-Roa L oving others? I have a lot of good friends, so I never thought I had a problem with that. But I realized that loving others is not all about that, and it’s not all about them. When I was in high school, my parents separated. Since then, life was never the same. It was not a secret to us that my parents had a problem in their marriage because I would often see my mom crying after an argument with my dad. They never explained these things to us, so we made our own interpretation of the events — that my father was the kontrabida (villain) while my mother was kawawa (pitiable). One night, my mother decided to just leave us — without even saying goodbye. She just did not come home to us. Days passed and we wondered what happened to her. As the eldest of three (my brothers were then 14 and 9 years old), the hardest part for me was how to explain her disappearance to my siblings. After two weeks, she came back, explaining why she had to leave. She said that things were not working anymore and she was tired of dealing with my father. The saddest part of it was she had to leave all of us to my father because, at that time, he was more financially stable and we were all studying. That was the first painful goodbye I experienced. Reality bit hard — we had to deal with life without her. We lost contact with my mom. For some reason, she 6 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 did not contact us again — no calls, no communication at all. It was very painful — first Christmas without her, first birthday without her. It was very difficult for us to celebrate special occasions without her. And that made me hate my father even more. Pain and Christmas I still remember our first Christmas without her. We just had dinner on Christmas eve, but there were no gifts, no special food on the table, and no storytelling. I could not get emotional at that time because I felt the sadness of my brothers, too. I had to be strong for them. Christmas is also my birth month. So until now, I would feel that deep sadness every time December comes. And I would be envious of family pictures taken during Christmas. Perhaps for some it’s just a tradition. For me, it was a dream. Growing up, we were all distant from my father because he reminded us of great pain. I spent most of my time with my friends. Thank God that most of my friends were a good influence to me and they introduced me first to Singles for Christ, then to the Light of Jesus Family. It was different for my youngest brother. He was greatly affected by the separation and he rebelled. He did not finish college and got hooked on different vices. He did a lot of bad things. Getting Reconnected One day, I received a call from my mom. After five long years, I finally heard from her! I was so excited to meet her and to tell her I’d finished college and that I was working already. I wanted to tell her about our achievements. But before I could tell her all of that, she told me why she stopped communicating with us — and that it was because she already has a family of her own. It never crossed my mind — and that broke my heart. Now, not only did I hate my father; I also hated my mom more for what she did. It was too much for me and I would cry out to God. “Lord, this is too much to handle — separated parents, a brother ruining his life. It’s too much.” I’d pray for healing, both for the relationship of my parents and forgiveness for my brother. “My Superhero” When my father retired from work, that’s when he became a “mom” to us. He cooked for us and took care of everything that we needed, even if he was also getting old. That’s the time I appreciated everything he did for us — sending us to school, providing for our needs. I said to myself, “Enough of hatred. I want to forgive him. I want to spend more time with him. I want to give back to him a little. To make him experience that he is my superhero.” God sometimes answers our prayers in ways that are difficult to understand. In September 2011, I noticed that my father’s feet were swelling. I brought him to the hospital for a checkup. But things happened so fast. That same day, he got admitted, had a series of blood tests, and had blood transfusions. He was diagnosed with kidney failure. So I took care of him in the hospital. I had to handle all the decision-making, all the bills. Everything. God used that incident to heal my relationship with him. A lot of “firsts” happened in the hospital. It was the first time that I was with him for a whole day. Not only that. Because his body got so weak, I had to feed him, change his clothes, bring him to the comfort room. Seeing him getting weaker by the day really broke my heart. “Lord, please don’t get him yet. Please give me a chance to make him feel that I love him a lot.” One night, while he was sleeping, I kissed his forehead. Then I gathered all the courage to whisper words that I had never said for the longest time: “I love you, Tatay! Thank you for everything! Mahal na mahal po kita!” (I love you very much!) I believe in the healing power of words and touch. After two days, he got better, was able to eat, and slowly was able to walk again. I would sleep in the hospital beside him. One night, I woke up and saw him seated at the visitor’s chair. I asked him, “Tay, why are you there?” And he said, “Binabantayan kita!” (I’m looking after you.) It was then that I realized that he loves us so much through the little things that he has been doing for us. I realized that perhaps he, too, suffered with us during the breakup but he to had to be strong for us. Christmas is now a happy time for Beng and family. First family picture with mother after 20 years, minus one brother who was at that time in the hospital. Time Heals We stayed in the hospital for almost two months. All that time, I was on leave from work. A friend asked me, “Why not ask your mom to help you out, even if just to watch over your father at the hospital? She’s probably willing to help.” Since they had not spoken after the breakup, I didn’t know how my father would react. But when I asked him, he just said yes. So that I could rest a bit, he said. Now, my mom can visit us any time in the house. She’s the one who brings my father to the dialysis center. Time really heals all wounds. But God was not done with us yet. Remember my younger brother? You might have wondered where he was all the time my father was at the hospital. Instead of being there for us, he did the unthinkable. He went on with his vices. But from the time my mom left us, I was there for him. I’ve always believed in him and felt a deep sadness for him for I know what a respectful and loving person he truly is. Last June 25, I received a call from the hospital. And my other brother also texted me — my brother got shot! At the hospital, when I arrived, he said, “Sorry.” I was speechless, but I told him to be strong and that everything would be all right. I had to tell my mom and dad what happened. At that time, I did not think of what my brother had done to me. I did everything I could to save him, financially and otherwise — especially to be there by his side during his surgery. Praise God, the operation turned out well. Once again, God used a hospital episode to heal our relationships — this time with my mom. And if God wants to use the hospital to heal us physically and emotionally as a family, what greater gift of healing is there than that? NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 7 K Fam Insider True to what the tatoo on his arm says, Jimmy is “his brother’s keeper.” TOUGH BASKETBALL SUPERSTAR NOW A TENDER LOVING FOSTER FATHER By Rey Ortega Photo by Dave Apalla I t took me a while to decide whether we will adopt a child or not. But once we made a final decision, we went all-out for it. Why? Because I believe every child deserves to become part of a family — every child needs and deserves parental care and love.” So said Jimmy Alapag, now the foster father of baby Joseph (not the baby’s real name). For those who know nothing about sports and are woefully ignorant of show business, Jimmy Alapag is a basketball superstar who recently led the Gilas Pilipinas team in its first FIBA (International Basketball Federation) win after a 40-year drought. LJ (Lari Jeanne Ricafort–Alapag in real life), on the other hand, is a movie and television actress, a former commercial model, and a successful entrepreneur on the side, managing her very own unique fancy cakes business when not facing the cameras. She now prefers to be called as Jimmy’s wife and mother of Joseph. Childless for quite some time, the 8 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 couple prayed hard for discernment. Both Jimmy and LJ are actively living out their faith, seriously committed to Bible-based spirituality. So when their inquiries led them to the Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD) and then to Grace to Be Born (one of Bo Sanchez’s mercy ministries), they immediately fell in love with the babies in the shelter’s nursery. A series of meetings with Ester Palacio, senior social worker and center directress of Grace shelter, made them realize how easy it is to become foster parents. The couple then applied for a foster parents’ license at DSWD after attending a seminar that lasted only for a few hours. Complying with the requirements for foster parents was a breeze for the couple. They simply submitted health certificates, police and NBI clearances, proof of stable source of income, photos and marriage contract. (NOTE: Even unmarried individuals are now allowed to become either foster parents or adoptive parents. Even ordinary persons, not just the rich ones, can easily adopt a child. They don’t have to pay any fee to Grace shelter or to DSWD. So simple!) Jimmy and LJ first went to Grace shelter in January 2014, applied for a license in February, and they brought home Joseph in early May. So what are their plans for baby Joseph? Train him to become a star basketball player when he grows up? Or carve his own niche in the glitzy world of show business perhaps? The couple simply smiled. “All we want for him is to become healthy and strong and develop a healthy respect for other people. We will not pressure him to take up a career he does not want. Whatever he desires, we will be there for him,” said Jimmy. “We want him to grow up with solid values and lead a God-centered life, that’s all,” added LJ. “Jimmy and I are busy persons but we make sure we find quality time for Joseph.” When asked if they have any message for other couples who are considering adopting a child, Jimmy said, “We would like to encourage families out there to adopt a child. In this country, there are so many children in orphanages and shelters waiting for adoptive parents. So many kids need love.” As it turned out, Joseph had brought joy to the Alapag couple in more ways than one. Not long after Jimmy and LJ made Joseph a member of their family, God blessed LJ with a surprise gift: she became pregnant! The adoptive parents will soon have their very own child! But that’s another story. Married and unmarried persons hopefully would seriously consider becoming either adoptive parents or foster parents. A foster parent may take care of a child for six months, one year, or even more than two years, then return the baby to the shelter. An adoptive parent, on the other hand, will take care of a child permanently and may even legally change the surname of the child and give him or her the adoptive parents’ surname. For further inquiries, please visit Grace to Be Born shelter at 53 Dr. Sixto Antonio Ave., Kapasigan, Pasig. Look for Center Directress Ms. Ester Palacio. Or you may call 654-1377 or 0932-888-0780 to make initial inquiries. FAME: A s one of the pioneer Feasts, Feast Alabang has truly been unstoppable in discipling more and more people closer to God for the past five years. With this, Feast Alabang Senior Builder Arun Gogna had this big idea to connect with the new attendees in a more personal way by holding a special gathering every three weeks called Feast Alabang Meet and Engage (FAME). FAME aims not just to welcome, but more importantly, to honor and love all new members of The Feast Alabang family. By coming to FAME, new attendees are encouraged to belong to Connect Groups at the Feast. FAME is also an opportunity to honor The Feast Ambassadors or those who invite people to attend The Feast. One Year of FAME The gathering that afternoon of August 9, 2014 was extra-special as FAME celebrated its first year anniversary. Despite the heavy traffic, almost 100 new attendees flocked together to be blessed and welcomed to their new community in Feast Alabang. Upon their arrival at The Feast Alabang Center, the new attendees were seated according to their life groups (Youth, Singles, Couples, and Solo Parents) and each table was handled by a CG (Connect Group) head. Snacks were served as the life groups got to know each other. Arun Gogna graced the event Welcoming New Attendees in Feast Alabang By Kirae Geneciran Photos by Ann Austria Feast Snapshots and shared more about the Light of Jesus Family and The Feast. In his welcome remarks, he also mentioned the other builders under Feast Alabang and the schedules of their respective Feasts. The attendees laughed with him and were truly inspired to involve themselves more through service and most especially, the connect groups. Arun ended his short talk by rewarding The Feast Ambassadors with FAME pins to remind them to continue planting seeds of love in others by bringing them to The Feast. After Arun’s talk came the first Connect Group experience of the new attendees. The groups were led by CG heads and were asked to share their current blessings in life and their prayer intentions. It was evident in the smiles of the attendees that they were truly filled with love and a lot of them also signed up for regular connect groups. It was a memorable “meet and engage” afternoon not just for the dedicated servants of FAME, but also for the people who desire more of God in their lives. More Fruitful Years of FAME For a year now, Feast Alabang Meet and Engage has been loving the new attendees in the best way possible. Just like all The Feasts, Feast Alabang family is living up to the ultimate mission of our service — discipleship. This truly is an inspiration to continuously rejoice in and share the greatest FAME of all — and that is Jesus’. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 9 Dear K MY UNCLE IS IN LOVE WITH ME Before 2011, I had not met my uncle. We barely saw each other when I was a kid and so I did not remember him at all. I only got acquainted with him when my father died. I found comfort in him. His presence helped fill the vacuum left by my dad. He became so attached to my family since 2012 and we saw each other almost every week. Our times together were filled with laughter and happiness. We exchanged text messages often. He became my confidante, though I never saw him alone. I was always with my family. Until one time, there was an event in our house and he was among our guests. There was drinking and singing. When it was almost midnight, my uncle went inside our house and asked me to read something on his mobile phone, saying that he could not read it as he had taken too much alcohol. He tapped me on my shoulder and then his hand slowly caressed my back. He even hugged me and kissed my head. Shocked by what he did, I left him and went out. I never told anyone about this. I’m afraid to make an issue of it and destroy the relationship that he has built with my family. Via text, I confronted him about what he did and he told me that because of our closeness, he has developed some feelings for me. He admitted that he loves me more than a niece. I told him it’s wrong and now he’s asking me out so we could talk. He said he had a lot to explain; he wanted to apologize and reconcile with me. Honestly, I’m afraid of him now, but I feel I need to hear his explanation. I lost my trust in him but a part of me still wants to love him as my uncle. My conscience bothers me. I might have unconsciously done something that led him to feel that way. I’m bothered. Should I see him and listen to his explanation? Should I forgive him? Should I tell about this to my mother and sister? What should I do? Monna 10 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 Dear Monna, I understand how you feel and you have all the right to feel bothered. His recent actuations show that he doesn’t look at you as a niece. Being drunk doesn’t also justify how he treated you that night. He disrespected you and, in a way, your family as well, considering how you allowed him to be part of your family. I strongly suggest that you tell your mother and sister about his advances. If he wants to apologize and explain to you, then he must go to your house and not just meet you elsewhere. If he is sincere, then he must do it in the presence of your mother and sister. This is also for you own safety. You don’t know what he might resort to if you are alone with him. You also need to stop confiding in him as it might be sending him a wrong signal since, as you said, you might have unconsciously done something that led him to feel that way. If he asks for forgiveness and he is sincere in doing so, then you have to forgive him. However, you have to make it clear that you will not welcome any advances from him anymore. Reng Reng Morelos gave up her corporate job years ago to become a full-time wife and mom. She supports her husband, Hermie, in his ministry as one of the leaders of the Light of Jesus Family and now as president of Shepherd’s Voice Publications and Shepherd’s Voice Radio and Television Foundation. She has been with LOJ since 1981 and once handled the single sisters of the community. BIBLE STUDY WITH BORN AGAIN CHRISTIANS I’ve been attending Bible study sessions with Born Again Christians. A friend invited me and it was hard to refuse. I know that she had good intentions for inviting me but, over the months that I’ve been attending, I noticed that they have some teachings that are opposed to what I know as a Catholic. Now, I’m being asked to form a cell group and they’re telling me I can be its leader. I am in a dilemma. I don’t want to commit myself to it because I am getting more confused now. I don’t know how to tell my friend that I am having second thoughts about attending their sessions. I want to ask you, is it bad for a Catholic to attend non-Catholic Bible studies? Chris Email your questions to editsvp@shepherdsvoice.com.ph. Or if you need to talk to someone, call (632) 726-4709 or 726-6728 to contact a Light of Jesus Pastoral Care Center counselor. Pastoral counseling by telephone is 24 hours from Monday to Friday, and 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturdays. Face-to-face pastoral counseling is by appointment. For correspondence pastoral counseling, email lojcounseling@yahoo. com or go to www.kerygmafamily.com. Or Call (632) 725-9999 Pregnant? Confused? Abortion is not the answer. Contact Grace to Be Born at 0917-816-4700 or email reylindo.ortega@gmail.com. You may also contact Pro-life Philippines at (632) 733-7027. Dear Chris, First of all, let me congratulate you for attending Bible study sessions and being eager to learn more about the Word of God. In the spirit of ecumenism, it is good to join non-Catholics. But, as you realize now, the group you have joined is using the Bible for their own beliefs, which may contradict Catholic teachings. Unfortunately, such groups are usually not open to accept an objective approach to the Bible. I heard once on TV how Fr. Tapiador tried to point out the real meaning of a passage to a Born Again preacher by going back to the original text. The only answer he got was, “Then there is something wrong with the original text.” Now that you are asked to form a cell group, you would be forced to share non-Catholic teachings and so betray your faith. After praying to the Holy Spirit for the right words, tell your friend in a very kind and charitable way that your conscience does not allow you anymore to join in their activities. Hopefully you find a Catholic Bible study group where you will be able to learn the real meaning of the Word of God. You may attend The Feast and ask to be connected to a Bible study group. Fr. Rudy When Fr. Rudy Horst came to the Philippines in 1984, he was first assigned to the Immaculate Conception Parish in Cubao. It was where he came in contact with the still young Light of Jesus Family. In 1990, he moved to Christ the King Mission Seminary, where he now serves as head spiritual director of the seminarians and teaches Religious Education. He also teaches Holy Scriptures at the Maryhill School of Theology and the Divine Word School of Theology in Tagaytay. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 11 Jason and wife Crystalina go around the world preaching and sharing about the beauty of chastity. NOVEMBER 20 - 23 PICC | SMX | MOA ARENA Jason Evert: His Five Loves T hree years ago, international speaker and bestselling author Jason Evert visited the Philippines to speak on the virtue of chastity to an audience of 8,000 people at the SMX Convention Center. This coming November 23, he will be sharing this very important message to 22,000 people set to attend the Kerygma Conference at the SM MOA Arena. Many high school and college students are also looking forward to attend his talk at the Youth Conference at the Philippine International Convention Center on November 22. But before speaking to such huge crowds, the seeds of Jason’s mission to speak on this topic find their roots through giving crisis pregnancy counseling, when he had to counsel many women, 30 minutes away from having an abortion. At that time, Jason felt that he was always late. He felt that if they had learned about chastity early on, they wouldn’t find themselves in that predicament. The urgent need to save unborn children and the need to teach chastity among the youth who come up to him during his talks and retreats, fueled the fire in his heart to spread the message of chastity to as many souls as possible. Today, Jason has spoken to more than a million young people all over the United States and has written books such as Pure Love, Theology of the Body for Teens, and How to Find Your Soul Mate without Losing Your Soul to help support and guide them. Early this March, Jason published his latest book in honor of one of his favorite saints, St. John Paul the Great: His Five Loves. He talks about the things closest to the beloved Pope’s heart — young people, human love, the Eucharist, the Blessed Virgin Mary, and the Cross. They say we become that whom we admire. It doesn’t come as a surprise that Jason’s loves are synonymous to one of his greatest inspirations. Young People “Many young people are struggling with chastity. They want love but 12 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 By Marj Duterte don’t know where to find it,” Jason shares. Along with his kids whom he loves with all his soul, Jason has a heart for the young ones whom he has spiritually adopted as his own. He recalls a youngster drawing a portrait of him with fire coming out of his head. He explained that the fire coming out of Jason’s ears meant that he heard them, and that he understood what they were going through. “I think what makes me an effective speaker is that I listen well to them, I love them, and they know that.” Using speaking and writing as a means to help the youth, Jason has been going around campuses, speaking about the virtue of purity. He knows that the root cause of unwanted pregnancies is unchastity. One thing that matters most to him is meeting the young people who have heard his talk 10 years ago and seeing them pull out of their wallet the commitment card that they signed when they were in their teens. “It doesn’t matter if I give a good talk. What matters is that they live out the message,” he says. There is a woman who heard his talk when she was 13 years old and who, years later, surprised her husband with her chastity commitment card on the morning of their wedding. “It’s beautiful to see the ministry bear fruit like that,” Jason says. Human Love Jason met his beautiful wife Crystalina in the Bahamas at a chastity conference. After that event, they stayed friends for a long time. Living in different states, Crystalina came out to visit him in California just as he was scheduled to give a chastity talk. He invited her to speak with him. “She went onstage and gave a little 10-minute talk and the teenagers loved it. They were coming up to her, crying and hugging her, and breaking up with their boyfriends. And I thought, we’d be a good team,” he recalls. Jason proposed marriage to her in 2002 during a high school assembly in front of 800 kids. “I figured she couldn’t say no in front of that many people!” They got married in 2003. “One of the best things about being married to Crystalina is that we share the joy of our faith and the joy of having children.” Jason considers his five kids, ages 10, 8, 7, 4, 2 (and a baby on the way), as his five loves. The Everts go to morning Mass together every day. “We try to pray the rosary together as a family, or at least a decade if things are a little crazy.” Jason and Crystalina go to Mass or adoration together. “That’s been the core of our marriage — to have God at the center.” who hardly know you. But the real challenge is to be a saint to the people you live with. That’s what I want to try to succeed at — being a great dad and a great husband.” “If I’m not a good dad and a good husband, then in the end, I don’t care how many books I sold or how many people came to my talks. The ministry may be helpful to the Church and it is important to me. But that’s not what I live for.” “Marriage is hard work. It’s a very difficult vocation, but the fact that we always have our faith in common, no matter how hard the day has been, we have that to share with each other.” One of his college professors used to tell the students: “Marriage is humanly impossible, that’s why God made it a sacrament.” The Eucharist Given the demands on his time, Jason wakes up early every morning as his kids and wife are still sleeping, to have some prayer time. “Every day I begin my day by consecrating it to our Lady and doing the Liturgy of the Hours.” He also has a spiritual director as an accountability partner. “I go to confession once in about two or three weeks. Devotion to our Lady, the Eucharist, and confession — those are the pillars of my spirituality,” he shares. Visit to the Philippines One of the things he looks forward to in his return to the Philippines are its people. Jason said, “It is very beautiful to see how the Filipinos practice their faith. They have a lot to teach the world in terms of their spirituality.” “I remember going to one church where they had eight daily Masses, and it was just a Tuesday,” he recalls. He also hopes to drop by the Doña Josefa apartment near the Papal Nuncio’s residence. This was the place where some people plotted to assassinate Pope John Paul II when he was scheduled to come to Manila for the World Youth Day. But the apartment caught fire while they were trying to make a bomb. “It caught fire and the whole plot was ruined. They were eventually arrested and Pope John Paul showed up a few days later and celebrated the World Youth Day.” The Blessed Virgin Mary If he were to have a coffee date with any of the saints, Jason says the first one he would choose would be the Virgin Mary. “Even though I don’t drink coffee, I’d have one to spend time with her!” “I would like to know how St. Joseph loved her and how to be a good husband because she had the best one.” Aside from the rosary, his favorite prayer is the “Memorare.” “I pray that nine times before every presentation I give. It’s a novena that Mother Teresa used to do. Before every speech I give, I pray that nine times in thanksgiving for the fruit that God will bring from that talk,” Jason shares. When Jason was a teenager, he was confirmed under the name of St. Joseph, his patron saint. Growing up, he practiced a devotion to him on the virtue of chastity. “There’s a book called The Promise of St. Joseph. It’s a little prayer book that said that if you promise to stay pure for marriage, St. Joseph will help you to find your vocation and your wife if God is calling you to marriage.” When he proposed to his wife and picked the day that he was going to propose to her, he didn’t know until he came to the place that it would be at St. Joseph’s high school. “It always gives me peace that he has his hand on our courtship.” “In the Divine Praises, of all of St. Joseph’s attributes, such as his patience, his humility, and his strength, what he is remembered and honored for is being the Most Chaste Spouse of the Virgin Mary.” “It’s important to meditate on that — how being chaste and pure is being truly masculine. It’s being truly what God is calling you to be as a man.” The Cross Jason believes that God is calling us to the vocation of sainthood. “It’s easy to be a saint outside of your vocations, to the people Catch Jason Evert Speak at the Kerygma Conference! Instead of learning what you’re not supposed to do: don’t have sex; don’t have an abortion; don’t use contraception — learn from Jason what you are supposed to do, the things that really matter to you: How do you find love? How do you know if he’s the right person for you? How do you know what vocation you’re called to? Jason says, “The singles and married people will learn how it is to be happily married. I’m going to talk about the beauty of the Catholic Faith and Pope John Paul II. I look forward to seeing you all!” Jason Evert’s Talk Schedule AT THE KERYGMA CONFERENCE: November 22 (Saturday) 9 am, Plenary Talk SMX Convention Center 2:45 pm – 3:45 pm Destination: Chastity Parenting for Purity SMX Convention Center 4:15 pm – 5:15 pm Reservation for Two How to Save Your Marriage Before Meeting Your Spouse SMX Convention Center Youth Conference 8 am to 6 pm Launch: Get High on Purity Philippine International Convention Center November 23 (Sunday) 2 pm, Plenary Session SM MOA Arena NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 13 Hi, I’m Sarah! Lost copy? Changed address? Defective copy? For all subscription-related concerns Call Sarah 725-9999 local 105 • 411-7874 • 726-9918 • 0922-8147031 subscription@shepherdsvoice.com.ph Subs Concern ad 2013.indd 1 3/12/13 3:55 PM SOMETHING AWESOME IS COMING YOUR WAY! Kerygma has gone digital! You can now download the interactive version of the most-loved inspirational magazine in the country! What to expect in the ALL-NEW KERYGMA INTERACTIVE EDITION? • • • • • • Videos from Brother Bo Sanchez More testimonials More interaction More inspiration More surprises More blessings! Go to www.shepherdsvoice.com.ph/kerygmamagazine and subscribe to our newsletter to download your copy. As our gift to you, you can download Kerygma Interactive for FREE!* Bless more people by sharing your copies with all your friends and loved ones! Coming soon on Apple and Google Newsstand. *For a limited period only, so DOWNLOAD NOW! It With God by her side, Anna Katrina is fully alive. Happened D ear family, I am so sorry, but it has to be done. I feel trapped, hopeless, and helpless...” The ink flowed from my pen onto the white parchment to reveal the feelings I had bottled up inside me. For the longest time, I had felt trapped. And I thought that freedom can only be sought when my soul finally leaves this mortal body. Even as I walk this earth, breathing its air, I never felt I had truly lived anyway. Death would not make much of a difference. As I folded the last evidence of my existence, I thought of the best way to die. Maybe I’d slash my wrist. Or maybe an overdosage would suffice. However way I shall face death, it had to happen. Nothing was going to hold me back. Or so I thought. THE ROAD TO RESURRECTION How I survived the many deaths in my life Death of Identity I can’t remember how young I was when I learned the truth. My initial reaction was, “Why me?” The answer to that question never came, but the truth remained the same: the parents I came to know were, in fact, my uncle and his wife. At seven months, I had been put up for adoption by my biological parents who were residing in the province. The pain of knowing the truth was somehow alleviated by the love my adoptive mom had showered on me. She was a wonderful woman. My adoptive dad, on the other hand, was a man of few words, but I believed he loved me just as much. Those were blissful seven years of my life until things changed. That’s when my journey to a slow death began. Death of Heart Mom and Dad grew cold and distant with each other. Gone were shared family meals, my parents stopped sharing a room, and weekends were spent separately with Mom and Dad. Finally, I was about eight years old when mom, my sister and I moved out. Unfortunately, that was also the time the bullying in school intensified. Ridicule and teasing welcomed me in class every day. My arms would get sore with pinches from my classmates, and my lunchbox and pencils often got stolen. One time, I was even locked in the classroom during recess time. The bullying and By Anna Katrina Lopez as told to Osy Erica NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 15 Ankat with mom Bernadette, stepdad Frank, and sister Michelle. the crisis in my family brought me down so much. Eventually, I had become withdrawn. Through all of these, Mom played the role of a single parent so well. Though she was busy with work, providing for me and my sister, she always made up for lost time with vacations, movie dates and shopping on weekends. But then she remarried when I was 12 years old, so we had to move to The Netherlands, where my stepfather hailed from. A lot of adjustments took place. I was in a new country with a Jewish stepfamily. I entered an international school, where kids smoked weed and thought differently than I did. The bullying rose to a higher level, too. At that point, I knew I was slowly dying inside; only the breaking point remained alien to me. Death of Body I was in ninth grade when depression took over. From being an achiever, my grades went down drastically. I became even more withdrawn, hostile and negative. That’s when I began tinkering with the thought of taking away my life. Had my friend not found my suicide note and showed it to my mom and stepdad, I would have been long gone. It was a postponed meet-up with death. In an effort to save me, my mom had me attend therapy sessions. Later on, it was decided that I go back to the Philippines to stay with my dad and my half-brother. But Dad was hardly home. His work took him on months-long assignments abroad. I was left on my own, taking care of my young half-brother. Dealing with my own personal issues and taking care of a household took its toll on me. I began drinking and smoking to relieve stress. I was only 16 then. After graduating from high school, I moved to the US to be with my mom and stepdad. It was in college that I was diagnosed with non-verbal learning disability (NLD). Less known than language-based learning disabilities such as dyslexia, NLD causes problems in coordination, visual-spatial organization, adapting to new and complex situations, and social perception, judgment and interaction. I, for one, experience difficulty in outwardly expressing how I feel and, at the same time, in reading gestures and facial expressions. I also get easily disoriented in time and direction. Surprised at the diagnosis, I began to question God. Why did I have to suffer such? Weren’t my past problems enough? Death of Soul The slow death I had been going through had gone beyond the physiological; it had seeped through the bones and into my soul. I had a myriad of questions for God, and the answers I searched for outside the Catholic Church I grew up in. I became a Born Again Christian and was active in ministry. I was seeking God. But at the same time, my relationship with my family began to crumble. Tension grew between me and my mom. In 2010, I moved back to the Philippines and lived with my dad again. Just when I thought I had escaped my problematic family relationship, I was proven wrong. My dad and I got into a conflict. It reached the point where we stopped talking. I tried to reach out to him, but he just pushed me away. Once again, I found myself questioning God. It was as if every aspect of my life was drawing to a close. 16 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 Resurrecting the Dead in Me Broken, diagnosed with an unfamiliar disability, and filled with insecurities, I entered the halls of The Feast a year after, following an invitation from a schoolmate. I was yearning to find answers, to find God. Being a regular attendee and, later on, a servant in several ministries of The Feast, I was being genuinely transformed, something beyond the “spiritual high” I used to get in a different church. I was being revived. One by one, the dead parts within me were resurrected. I visited my birth family. I learned that I was the sixth in a brood of nine, most of whom had families of their own already. Their home was near the ocean, and they lived simply — fishing, growing fruits and vegetables, and raising pigs and chickens. And for some reason, I didn’t hate them. I was, in fact, grateful to have known them. My relationship with my adoptive family, on the other hand, has also improved. I learned to be loving, forgiving and accepting of them and of myself. I am slowly overcoming NLD with my renewed confidence, knowing that I am loved by the people around me. Gone is the shy, withdrawn and reserved Anna Katrina. I have blossomed into the woman God intended me to be but I am still in the process of knowing myself more. Most importantly, I have started to see God in a different light — as my loving and forgiving Father and my Provider. Whenever death, in whatever form, approaches me, I run to God for safety. I cling to Him in times of both joy and sorrow. When I look back at the moment when I wanted to take away my life, I say a prayer of thanksgiving that the act didn’t push through. It was God’s grace that had saved me, and for that, I am grateful. 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You’re still in your pajamas, drinking your coffee. You stand up and pick up the phone. You hear your doctor’s voice. In a very somber tone, he says, “I have to say this to you because I’m your friend and I’m your doctor. I’m now holding in my hand the results of your medical tests. I’m very sorry, but you’re going to die in 30 days.” The shock is overwhelming. The room around you starts to spin. You sit down. “Thirty days? But that’s so soon…” I know this is scary. Let me ask you. How would you live your life during those 30 days? What appointments will you make? What appointments will you drop? What will you include in your daily schedule? What will you not include? What will you prioritize? What will you give away? What will you say to your loved ones? What will you not say to your loved ones? How will you pray? What will you pray for? Starting today, live the next 30 days as though they were your last. Special Section By Bo Sanchez LIVE LIKE YOU’RE DYING O ne day, I attended Mass and the priest was in a hurry. He was either very tired or had diarrhea. Because he was going through the motions and doing it quickly. So very different from my friend Bishop Honesto Ongtioco. For years, I’ve admired how the good bishop celebrates Mass. He does it with so much passion. He speaks every word with fire. And his every gesture is done with love. One day, I had lunch with this great man. I asked him why he does his Masses this way. He said something so profound, I’ll never forget it. He said, “I always imagine every Mass to be my first Mass and my last Mass.” For me, the key word is imagine. He added, “What if I died in my sleep tonight? I really don’t know, do I?” Friends, in this issue, I invite you to take a very special 30-day retreat with me. No, I’m not asking you to go to a retreat house with me. You’ll just do it wherever you are. Using the power of your imagination, you’ll allow death to be your teacher. We’re a Dying People Here’s a fact: According to statistics, if you gathered a thousand 25-year-olds in a room, 241 of them will not reach the age of 65. That’s scary. We’re a dying people. It’s just a question of when. Some sooner. Some later. But all of us are dying. But if people know they are dying, I’ve noticed that these dying people will live more deliberately, laugh more joyously, celebrate more happily, give more generously, serve more freely, love more intensely. Here’s my realization: If you really want to live a spectacular life, you have to live like a dying man. This became true with my friend Alvin Barcelona. Wham! Once upon a time, Alvin was an incredibly busy man. Alvin, with his mom Aida, was running a flourishing school, the Cardinal Academy. He was in politics. He was in theater studying under Laurice Guillen. He was also a rock singer with the likes of Freddie Aguilar. Plus, he and his wife Tes had a four-month-old baby boy named Aio. Then it happened. First, he felt sharp stomach pains. Then he began to bleed. He went through medical tests the result of which would drastically change his life. The tests showed there were tumors in his intestines and his doctor told him he must undergo surgery. “Alvin,” the doctor told him, “you may not see the first birthday of your baby.” Wham! Colon cancer crashed onto his life like a train gone berserk. His Life Totally Changed Alvin says, “I was only 30 years old. At that moment, I understood the Filipino saying, pinagsakluban ng langit at lupa,” Alvin recalls. “For I felt it. I felt heaven and earth envelop and crush me.” Alvin admits that at the outset, he thought of his family. “My wife and I always thought we’d grow old together,” Alvin says. And his son? “He was just a baby. I thought I’d play with him, teach him how to ride a bicycle, fly a kite, play the guitar…” Those days made Alvin realize what were essential in his life. He prayed like never before. He found himself visiting the Divine Mercy church in Marilao. There, he knelt and gazed at the image of Jesus clad in a long robe, His right hand raised up to His shoulders, ready to bless anyone who would come to Him, His left hand resting on His chest where rays of hope from His Sacred Heart radiated down to His feet. Days turned to weeks, and weeks turned to months. Alvin found himself in church the entire day. He opened the gates in the morning and closed them late at night. He begged God to give him a second chance at life. But on his journey towards death, something happened. “I’m Ready to Die…” “One day,” Alvin says, his eyes lighting up in wonder, “I simply felt the presence of God and I just knew I was ready — I was ready to meet up with Him, to join Him in heaven.” He was ready to die and surrendered his life to God. Alvin underwent surgery for an hour. When he woke up, his doctor, flabbergasted, told him the strangest thing. He said he did not see any tumor in Alvin’s colon. What was confirmed through a barium enema X-ray — that Alvin had three tumors and spreading — had completely vanished without a trace! It was Alvin who found something: a steadfast faith in God. Alvin’s four-month-old baby is now a teenager. Alvin has done what he thought he wouldn’t be able to do — teach him how to bike, fly a kite, and play the guitar. And bless the world with his preaching and music. But here’s my point: During those precious months when he thought he was dying, Alvin changed his life. Friend, you don’t need cancer to change your life. You can do it right now by the power of your imagination. Love Like a Dying Man Are you afraid to die? I don’t blame you. Most people are. Sometimes, people are afraid to die because they’re leaving behind unfinished businesses in their world. Like kids. Or dreams. Or projects. But that’s just half of the story. Most of the time, people are afraid to die because they have unfinished business in their inner world. I’m talking about stuff in their life that they know is wrong. Stuff called sin. Sins are excess baggage that weighs down our souls. It steals away our joy. It robs us of our peace. When you know that you have 30 days left to live, spontaneously, you want to get rid of sin in your life. First, you want to be forgiven. Second, you don’t want to sin anymore. When you know you’ve washed your soul, then you’re ready to die. You’re not afraid of death. afraid to die. Some look forward to it with acceptance and joy. They are people who are at peace. They’ve reconciled with God and reconciled with others. St. Paul was one of them. Pray for the same gift — the gift of a happy death. Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart. In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. – Hebrews 12:1-4 Imagine Your Own Death When I did my 30-day retreat on the last 30 days of my life, I changed. I’ve become corny. Sentimental. Mushy. I’ve never said more “I love yous” in my life! I wrote many mushy letters to my friends, telling them how much I love them. I also asked for forgiveness for any hurts I caused them. I began to love like a dying man. I noticed that it was purer love than whatever love I gave before. I think I know why. There are two kinds of love that the world passes as love. One is true. The other is false. False love says, “I love you so you can love me back.” It’s a codependent love. It’s manipulative. It’s insecure and jealous. Because it’s not really love. True love says, “I love you — period.” I don’t expect anything back. I love you and set you free. If you notice, this is very close to parental love. Compared to married love, parental love is even more unselfish. Parents don’t love their kids so someone can do the laundry for them. (At least, the good parents I know.) Parents love their kids because they want to set them free. Parents love their kids so they can one day watch them walk out of their home and conquer the world. Friends, this, too, is the love of a dying person. But the one walking out into the sunset is the lover. The dying person knows he’s dying. He doesn’t need love — because deep within his spirit, he knows he’s going to a wonderful place of profound love. So in his last days of life, he just wants to love. He wants to fill the world with his love. I repeat: We’re all dying. If you want to live a spectacular life, I invite you to love like a dying person. And your life will never be the same again. The Biggest Question A few weeks ago, I prayed over a woman on her deathbed. As I put my hand over her arm, in a very weak voice, she asked me, “Brother Bo, where am I going when I die?” It’s a question that dying people ask. Except for atheists who don’t believe in souls, everyone nearing death asks the question. But that’s precisely my message for you: We’re a dying people. Some today, some in 10 years, some in 50 years. We just don’t know when. But it doesn’t matter. We’re all going to die. So the question asked by that woman is important for us all: Where am I going when I die? I answered her question with another question, “Why don’t we pray that God bring you to heaven?” I held her hand and asked her to repeat after me. I let her ask for forgiveness from God for all her sins. I made her invite Jesus to enter her heart. Though it was difficult for her to speak, she repeated my prayer. When we finished, she had a smile on her face. She was ready. Over the years, I’ve prayed for many people on their deathbeds. I’ve met some people who aren’t Email me at bosanchez@kerygmafamily.com. BO’S ACTION STEPS Get a partner or small group and share the following: 1. What were your blessings this past week? 2. If you had only 30 days left to live, what will you tell God — and what will you do for your soul? “If I had only 30 days to live, how will I live?” That’s the question I want you to answer today. And this is the big question for your 30-day retreat with me. I repeat: I’m not asking you to go somewhere. Wherever you are, take this 30-day retreat. Just imagine that these next 30 days of your life are your last 30 days. Believe me, you’ll live a different life in these next 30 days. Make this your big experiment. In fact, don’t just decide. Make it an agreement between you and God… (Print this out and sign this prayer. Or get a piece of paper and copy this prayer.) What 10 Things Should I Do in the Next 30 Days — If They Were My Last? Get a pen. Answer this question: What 10 things should I do in the next 30 days — if they were my last? Write whatever comes to your mind. You’ll be surprised at the stuff that’ll come out. What will come out are the most important things in your heart. 1. ____________________________________ 2. ____________________________________ Prayer: Lord, I will live the next 30 days as if they were my last 30 days. 3. ____________________________________ Starting Date: _________ 5. ____________________________________ Ending Date: __________ 6. ____________________________________ 4. ____________________________________ 7. ____________________________________ ____________________ Signature Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. – Psalm 90:12 8. ____________________________________ 9. ____________________________________ 10. ___________________________________ Invite Friends to Take the Retreat with You! Get friends to take this journey of 30 days with you. Invite one or more persons to do it with you. Props for the Retreat At our Sunday Feast, I gave people a tin can with 30 marbles inside. Inside the can is a little card that says: Step 1: Each morning, pick one marble and thank God for the gift of a new day. Step 2: Carry it in your pocket to remind you to live your last days with love. Step 3: Each night, thank God for the whole day. Set the marble aside. When the can is empty, thank God for your life of love. Pray for more days… It doesn’t have to be a can. It doesn’t have to be marbles. Find your own props. Just something to remind you of your 30-day retreat. Have a great one! Special Section Testimony These scenes — of men clinging on to anything for survival — will forever be imprinted in Bimbo’s mind. YOLANDA: A Life-Changing Experience By Bimbo Moreno I t was two months away from my wedding day, and there I was, unsure of when and how I’d be able to get out of Tacloban. I kept assuring myself, “I’m safe here in the hotel.” Still, I was afraid because I could hear the howling wind outside and I could see from my window the heavy rains pounding the entire city. The glass windows could shatter any moment, so I stayed on my bed and prayed. I had a hard time praying the rosary — and interceding for all the people affected — but that was the least I could do at that time. And because all I could do was pray, I remember telling God, “I will strive to be a better person after this. I will be more active in serving You and Your people. I will use this experience to tell others how You gave me a second chance in life.” Preparing for the Coming Storm I am a training officer in a multinational company and was assigned to conduct a seminar in Tacloban from November 6 to 8, 2013. I arrived in Tacloban on Tuesday, November 5, and was expected to go back to Manila on November 9. Upon learning that a super typhoon was to hit Tacloban by Friday, we cancelled the sessions for Thursday and Friday. I tried to 24 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 secure a ticket for a flight back to Manila for Thursday. Unfortunately, all flights were fully booked and the earliest available schedule was on Friday morning. I had no choice but to stay in my hotel and wait until then. So on Thursday night, I prepared for the coming of the super typhoon and bought food — bread, crackers, biscuits and three 1.5-liter bottles of water. The last thing I did before going to sleep was to pray for safety. Unforgettable Days of My Life I woke up at around 7:00 a.m. the following day to the sound of howling wind. I went down and, together with other hotel guests, watched the strong winds outside. After a few minutes, we heard glasses shattering somewhere in the hotel. Then lights went out and we became incommunicado to the world. People were already crying; some prayed. I went back to my room, feeling as scared as the others. I prayed for safety then took some videos of the storm through the window. Rain poured heavily and water rose quickly. Parked vehicles began floating. In just a few minutes, the hotel lobby was almost submerged in water. The impact of the storm surge broke the glass door. By noontime, the winds and the rains stopped and the flood subsided. I went out to see the aftermath of the typhoon. Broken glasses were scattered everywhere, roofs of buildings and establishments destroyed, vehicles turned upside town, fallen trees and electric posts. I also saw rubble of what used to be concrete walls, as well as dead animals. It was as if we were in a war zone. There was looting everywhere. I saw people dismantling iron gates and doors of different establishments. As I witnessed these things, I prayed for safety and assured myself that I would be back in Manila soon. That Friday afternoon, I searched for a grocery store to buy extra food and water. Back at the hotel, I prepared my things for my return flight and I slept without electricity and water. I woke up Saturday morning, November 9, and arranged for transportation going to the airport for my flight in the afternoon. The hotel staff informed me that the flight was cancelled. I also learned from other staff that Tacloban Airport was completely destroyed. I felt real fear for the first time. I was stranded in Tacloban — and without electricity, without Internet access, and without phone signal. I felt helpless. I had money but there was no food, water and other supplies to buy. There was no transportation because the roads were not passable. Information was scarce. The food I had left would only last the whole day. I worried about my being stranded there for days, if not weeks, and I was unsure about how to survive. I did not know anyone in Tacloban and I was one of the many people in need of help. I did not see anyone who would care enough to help me. It was difficult for me to pray that day. All I could do was to plead with the Lord, “I want to go home!” I thought of my family and loved ones. It was hard for me to stay in my room so I went out to talk to the other hotel guests. They became my friends. We talked about ways to endure and survive the calamity, and planned how to get out of Tacloban. We went to different establishments, talked to soldiers, hoping to get a ride in their choppers. We also looked for places where we can buy food. Being with other people helped me a lot, rather than being alone and letting my worries consume me. As I reflected on my situation, I desperately prayed, “Father God, help us. Mama Mary, help us. Lord Jesus, help us. I surrender everything to You.” It was a prayer of surrender, of my total dependence on Him. I surrendered everything to the Lord as we did all we could to survive. With all my faith and courage, I placed myself in His hands. This strengthened me to face the inevitable. Our breakthrough finally came. We got information that we could ride the C130 plane bound for Cebu or Manila, which the soldiers use to bring relief goods to Tacloban and other places stricken by Yolanda. On Sunday, November 10, my newfound friends and I journeyed on foot from the hotel to the airport for almost three hours, carrying whatever we could, and hoping to get a ride on the C130 plane. Though it was a long and tiring walk, I kept on despite feeling weak and hungry. I needed to leave Tacloban and this was the only option. As we walked, I saw the devastation of the super typhoon — dead people lying on the streets, entire villages wiped out, After his Yolanda experience, Bimbo moved on to a life of marital bliss with his wife, Op. vehicles destroyed, stores looted, chopper planes hovering above. Those were scary sights that will forever be imprinted in my mind. After six hours of waiting, my friends and I boarded the C130 plane going to Cebu. From Cebu, a commercial plane on mercy flight flew us back to Manila. During the flight, I thanked the Lord for the friends I met who helped and encouraged me, for the hotel owner and staff for their determination to help us in whatever way possible, for the opportunities that God provided so we can go out of Tacloban. Most of all, I thanked the Lord for giving me hope and the grace to surrender to and trust in Him, no matter what. Life-Changing Experience After super typhoon Yolanda, my life was forever changed. I learned to enjoy more each day that the Lord has prepared for me. The experience made me more grateful that the Lord has given me the grace to be able to make it at the end of the day with my family and friends. I also realized the importance of interceding for others. Part of my concern for other people’s welfare is to also pray for them. Prayer is powerful, especially intercession from other people. I felt that there were people praying for us in Tacloban. I might not be able to provide material help for those in need but I can intercede for, listen to, and just be there for them. Most important of all, I learned to cherish my relationships and not take for granted my family and friends. I finally got married last January 4, 2014 to a beautiful and wonderful woman. I thank the Lord for keeping me alive to be able to marry her. He is indeed the author of our marriage and I believe that He has a beautiful story to unravel as He continues to be the center of our life as husband and wife. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 25 Special Section By Bo Sanchez HOW WILL YOU GIVE? 26 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 A very wealthy man knew he was dying. And he pleaded, “Lord, I worked so hard for my wealth. Please allow me to bring even just one suitcase of my wealth to heaven!” Each day, he prayed that prayer. Until one day, an angel appeared to him and said, “God has granted your wish.” The man was so happy. He packed a suitcase filled with as much gold as it can contain. The next day, he died. In front of the Pearly Gates, he saw St. Peter. Seeing the suitcase he was carrying, St. Peter said, “Excuse me, but you can’t bring anything in here.” The rich man said, “St. Peter, God gave me permission to bring one suitcase of my wealth.” St. Peter picked up his mobile phone, dialed the Throne Room, and learned that the man was telling the truth. He said to the man, “OK, you can come in. But can I first see what’s inside?” The man smiled. He opened the suitcase and showed its contents proudly. St. Peter scratched his head. He asked, “You brought pavement?” And he told them this parable: “The ground of a certain rich man produced a good crop. He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’ “Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods. And I’ll say to myself, “You have plenty of good things laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.” “But God said to him, ‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?’ “This is how it will be with anyone who stores up things for himself but is not rich toward God.” – Luke 12:16-21 The Lifestyle of Giving Do you want to receive anything? More joy? More wisdom? More friends? More money? Here’s what you must do: Give away the exact same thing that you want to receive. Because that’s how the universe works. Whatever you give, you receive. Take the case of wisdom. I give wisdom to people. So far, I’ve written close to 40 books. But between the author and the reader, who gains more wisdom? The reader reads the book once. But the author rewrites his book 10 times. Guess who remembers the truths more? Yes, I give wisdom. But I gain 10 times the wisdom I give away. Or how about happiness? Who are the happiest people in the world? Those who are able to give happiness to others. That’s just how God made the world. We receive what we give away. Even money. When God Blesses Our Tithing In one of our meetings, I asked Randy Borromeo to share his story with us. Randy is our Feast builder in Makati and the guy in charge of our radio and TV ministry. Like me, Randy gave his life to God when he was 12 years old. He shared how, as a young kid, he started tithing or giving 10 percent of his allowance to God. When he was a teenager, he recalled that life was hard. He had nine siblings. And one day, their helper, Aling Esther, said, “Randy, there’s no food in the house.” Randy told her, “Pray to the Lord. God will provide.” So Aling Esther prayed, “Lord, give us four viands!” Randy was shocked. “Aling Esther, why did you ask for four viands? One is enough!” He turned around and prayed, “Lord, You better answer her prayer. I don’t want us to lose face.” A few minutes later, someone rang the doorbell. Randy opened the gate and saw a woman carrying a tray of food. It was Mrs. Cabigao, their neighbor. “It’s my birthday today! I hope you can use some food…” Randy quickly counted the viands on the tray. There were four viands! As the family gathered around the table, still mesmerized by how God blessed them, the doorbell rang again. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 27 When they opened the gate, it was Mrs. Cabigao again, this time bringing ice cream for everyone. God gave more than what they asked for. Randy said, “Even if life was hard, I tithed. Because I saw that God cannot be outgiven.” And almost 30 years later, he continues to tithe. Whatever he gave, God gave back to him many times over. The Giving of the Surrendering Phase One day, a woman was dying of cancer. In a few days, she would celebrate her birthday. And deep in her heart, she knew it was the last birthday she’ll ever have. But there was no bitterness or sadness. So she called all her closest friends and invited them all to a party. She told them the truth: “You better come,” she said, “because I think this will be my last birthday party.” Her friends came and they had lots of laughter together. After the meal, she brought all of them to her living room. She faced them and said, “For years, I was in BO’S ACTION STEPS 1.What are your challenges this past week? 2. If you had only 30 days left to live, how would you give? How generous would you be? What legacy do you want to leave behind when you die? 28 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 the gathering phase of my life. Today, I’m no longer in that phase. I’m in the surrendering phase. As I’m about to depart this earth, I no longer need material things. I have only one need in my life now. I need to love. I need to love you. So before you go home, please allow me to love you…” She then spread on the table all her most precious belongings — a favorite teacup, a lovely pitcher, a scarf, a warm jacket, a watch, a few pieces of jewelry.... She said to her friends, “Please bring one gift that you need. I don’t need any of them anymore. So that every time you use it, hold it, or look at it, you’ll remember that I love you. It’ll be our connection.” Many tears were shed in that party — but much laughter as well. Six weeks later, this woman went to heaven. She was a wise woman. She gave until the last breath of her life. She knew the language of heaven. Email me at bosanchez@kerygmafamily.com. Bro. Bo invites you… “Come, have coffee with me.” Mechanics: 1. Open to all new subscriptions and renewal subscriptions for Kerygma Magazine applied in October to December 2014. 2. Sign up for Kerygma Magazine subscription for 2015 this October, November and December and get a chance to bond with Bro. 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All entries received until November 30, 2014 will be qualified for the raffle draw on December 12, 2014. All entries received until December 31, 2014 will be qualified for the raffle draw on January 14, 2015. Raffle draws will be done in # 60 Chicago Street Cubao Quezon City, at 10:00am. Non-winning entries will be safeguarded at the SVP Headquarters. Guidelines: • Ifunclaimedwithin60daysfromreceiptofnotification,thecoffeesession will be forfeited with prior DTI approval. A participant can win more than once. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 29 Special Section Testimony A FINAL BOW OF BENEVOLENCE By Eleanore Teo I n today’s culture where global society encourages us to place the needs of others before our own, there are a few exceptions left that grant us the permission to act in a self-serving manner. It is a positive shift from asking ourselves, “What do I want?” when making important decisions to now asking, “What will work best for everyone?” This line of thinking stems from our moral nature to use responsibly whatever power or control we have for the interest of others. But sometimes, God’s plan for us may take an unexpected direction. What if we suddenly found ourselves with only a limited time left in this world and far less than what we expected to have? It is in that instance when resolutions may change, emotions may conflict, and you find everyone reaching out to ask you: What do you want to do? You now have the chance to answer as honestly and as freely as you wish with complete support and without judgment. And it is that same question which we posed to random people from different walks of life: If you only had a few more days left to live, what would you do? Their surprisingly similar responses were both 30 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 enlightening and perceptive, tearing away prejudice and replacing it with points of view that inspire hope even in the face of despair. Of Strengthening Relationships Spend my hard-earned money. Travel the world. Eat anything and everything that I want. So many options become available when we are given the freedom to fulfill all our desires without any long-term consequences. That’s how we assume most people would take advantage of their last few days in this world but then, we would be wrong. Across all the responses, the first thought that came to their minds was unanimous. “I would spend time with my husband and family to create beautiful memories one last time,” says Doris, a brand manager for a multinational corporation. “Being generous with my time with my loved ones is the best gift I can give before I leave them.” The reply of Miguel, an office messenger, was in agreement. “Pamilya ko pinakaimportante. Kahit sila lang kasama ko sa huling oras ko, tanggap ko na,” (My family is the most important to me. Even if they are the only ones I’m with in my remaining time, I will accept my fate.) Regardless of age, status or whichever way they chose to phrase their answer, it was clear that most people were not primarily concerned about themselves, but more about the family, friends and close individuals they would be leaving behind. Rather than use the rest of their limited days seeking personal satisfaction, being in the company of those they cared about was far more meaningful to them. For Jill, a choir singer, it was about making sure it was quality time well spent. “I would spend every second left with my son. I would make my last few days with him as wonderful as possible so he could remember me for the rest of his life.” Mending Broken Ones In a situation where there is nothing left to lose, we find that there is little space for anger or resentment. “I would let go of my bitterness and start acknowledging those who have hurt me,” says Steph, a features editor. She was one of many who admitted that one of their biggest regrets was maintaining long-term disputes with others. “I’ve been ignoring some people and I would like to remedy that.” Rome, who works as an OFW for the United Nations, also shares that he would seek forgiveness from those he harbored ill feelings towards. “I don’t want to die with enemies.” And for some, the mere idea of passing away so soon was enough for them to rethink their severed ties. “I say that I would patch things up with people if I were about to die,” was the response of May, a call center agent. “But if you think about it, why wait until that happens? It’s just so much easier to make amends when you might potentially never see each other again but I should probably make that effort now, while I have no other reason except that it’s the right thing to do.” And Creating New Ones Preserving memories has become widely integrated into our lives with the different gadgets and social media channels available to this generation. Even after we’re gone, our online presence can leave a permanent recollection that relatives and friends can continue to come back to. “I’ll share through a video, through photos or through a blog how I chose to live my last 30 days,” says CJ, a fresh college graduate. But, like those who gave a similar answer, the reason behind it was not to simply leave a reminder to loved ones but to hopefully leave a legacy worth sharing with the world. “I want to inspire people to live life to the fullest.” Richard, a financial advisor, also believes that even after death, people can still continue to make a difference for the benefit of others. “I would like to document my remaining journey, to help people learn from my mistakes and use my experience to influence a positive change.” As for Doris, she chooses to touch others by means of the most heartfelt and effective manner familiar to her and equally accessible by everyone else. “Prayer. I would spend a lot of my time left praying for those who need it most. I will pray that they find the peace that I will soon find as I ready myself to meet God.” There are many profound insights that we can gather from such brief excerpts but the fact that everyone chose to occupy their last moments in selflessness rather than selfishness is a vindication of our faith in our fellow brothers and sisters. Some may ask what the motivation is behind their actions and no one summarizes the answer better than Robyn, a high school student, who firmly believes that her last days should be dedicated to spreading love. “I would give as much love as possible to those who have touched my life and to those I have yet to touch. I won’t have much time left, but procrastinating love is still valuable, nonetheless. What matters most is the amount of love that I’m willing to share.” It’s a true gesture of generosity that we should always consider regardless if we are living on dwindling time or if we still have the rest of our lives ahead of us. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 31 You can now shop from home! Why wait to go to the bookstore when you can shop right where you are? Shop for inspirational books at www.KerygmaBooks.com and have the books delivered to your doorstep, free of charge!* You can GO DIGITAL! Have the books delivered straight to your gadgets! Visit www.KerygmaBooks.com/ebooks to get the digital editions of your favorite inspirational titles. * For minimum orders of Php 300.00 within Metro Manila only. Standard shipping costs apply for orders below Php 300.00 and non-Metro Manila deliveries. My Dreams for the Next 10 Years W e all have dreams: to be a great businessman, to help educate in the school setting, to be a doctor, to help in the government… Many of these dreams are born unconsciously. Some may have come from your parents — and became yours unconsciously. Some may have come from your teachers, friends, the children you played with years ago, or the people you see on TV. Wherever they have originated, your dreams are powerful forces that shape your life goals. Making our dreams come true are sources of joy. So it is important to know what they are, and then consciously plan to fulfill those dreams. List down your dreams and group them according to the following: Relationship, Career, Hobbies and Interests, Parents, Friends, Money, Marriage, Children, Recreation, Family, and others. TIMETABLE DREAMS / LIFE GOALS 2015 To write a book on teen relationship 2015 To travel around Asia 2016 To travel to Europe God in Every Stage of Your Life By Allan and Maribel Dionisio 3. COMMENTS 4. 2017 2018 If you are single, it is important to find someone who appreciates and supports your dreams. A key factor in relationships: Dreams and life goals must be similar, complementary to or supportive of each other. Our dreams are also influenced by our life stage. Daniel Levinson’s theory is very informative: 1. Entering the adult world (22-28) – Make initial choices in love, occupation, friendship, values and lifestyle. At this stage, your dream is usually to find the dream job and the love of your life. So are you planning out your schedule to achieve this? Or are you just so tied up with work that you do not make time for meeting friends, face to face? 2. Age 30 transition (28-33) – Changes occur in life structure, Seasons 5. 6. either a moderate change or, more often, a severe and stressful crisis. Ask yourself, is this what I want? OK, this is the time to fine-tune things or maybe even overhaul. Some people leave their dream jobs since they prevented them from finding the love of their lives. Could be a wise move. Get a job that you like and allows for socialization. Settling down (33-40) - Establish a niche in society. Progress on a timetable, in both family and career accomplishments. People at this stage are expected to think and behave like a parent, so they are facing more demanding roles and expectations. Oh yes, a very busy period in life, and if married, the focal point would be the spouse and the kids. Remember the spouse. Many moms out there focus too much on kids, such that the romance in the marriage wanes. Better change gears fast! Mid-life transition (40-45) – Life structure comes into question, usually a time of crisis in the meaning, direction and value of each person’s life. Be involved in trying to leave a legacy and this usually forms the core of the second half of his life. The kids are now in their teens, and that gives you some time to dream again, this time for yourself. Entering middle adulthood (45-50) – Choices must be made, a new life structure formed. The person must commit to new tasks. This is the opportunity to carry out your bucket list. Late adulthood (51 and older) – Spend time reflecting on past achievements and regrets. Make peace with yourself and others, including God. Work on your bucket list. You deserve to be happy. There are dreams that may need to be delayed and that’s OK. The key is the awareness and the continuous planning to achieve these dreams in one’s lifetime. Be realistic as well. Which ones need to be junked? In this way we can reduce our frustrations. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 33 DO YOU KNOW WHY YOU’RE HERE? DO YOU KNOW YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE? We are called here to create a fantastic masterpiece that will allow you to magnify God’s glory and bless the world. Be inspired by the stories and insights of world-class Filipinos who have found their reason for being here. Start creating your own Masterpiece. Order your copy now. For orders, call 725-9999 local 101 to 108 or log on to www.KerygmaBooks.com Catholic Soul By Edgardo C. de Vera W hen Peter asked Jesus whether we should forgive seventy times, His reply was that we ought to forgive not seven but seven times seventy times — which means unceasingly and always unconditional at all times. Christ stressed the importance of the ready willingness to forgive without limits, in contrast to Lamech’s twisted endless vindictiveness (Genesis 4:26). Forgiveness frees one from bondage to anger and its dire consequence of damnation. A priest illustrated this point in his homily of forgiveness: “Supposing somebody wrongs you and the offender does not ask for forgiveness but prefers to live with it instead; where do you think he will go if he dies in his unforgiveness? To hell. Now, if you, the offended party should also harbor unrelenting and adamant refusal to forgive, where will you go when you die? To hell also. Then you will find yourselves together again.” Are we not all familiar with that age-old adage, “To err is human, to forgive divine”? Indeed. Forgiveness is not an attribute of our fallen nature. Rather it is of divine origin and can only become possible in hearts open to God’s — that which comes to us from Christ and floods the world from calvary. Only by the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ is forgiveness possible in hearts that can be infused with His grace that overcomes all evil, hurts and unforgiveness. Now we know that some offended parties would be wont to say, “I will forgive you but I will never forget what you did.” Sounds unforgiving, doesn’t it? It is a case when the ego prefers to harbor the hurt as a modicum of leverage over the offender. Surely the hurt will always be there but then it can be turned to empathy through prayer. However, praying for the offender every time the repulsive memory of the hurt comes to mind can turn hate to empathy which, with constant prayer, turns to love. With the grace of Christ in us, no offense is beyond forgiveness, however grave the wrong may have been. Prayer Helps The remedy for hurts and unforgiveness is prayer. It is the salve that soothes wounded psyches, heals the offended party to rally an offender’s faltering resolve to seeking forgiveness. Prayer overcomes pride and unforgiveness. And the best prayer to overcome this is Mary’s rosary. From the Trinitarian blessing in the sign of the cross, Seven Times Seventy Times to the Our Father setting the tone “forgive us… as we forgive,” through the steady cadence of the scriptural salutations of our redemption in the Hail Mary, and Gloria of the Angels ushering the cumulative meditations of each sacred mystery — seven times seventy times is a certainty even for the most grievous hurts and offenses. Mother Mary helps the offender or offending person discern the Gospel message against the eschatological panorama of Salvation History. In the progression of the beads and soothing cadence of Hail Mary’s, the Old Testament promise and fulfilled reality in Christ come to life. The holy rosary is perfect preparation for confession, the sacrament of reconciliation and forgiveness that reunites us with God and neighbor. With Mother Mary as prayer partner, mentor and guide, her holy rosary is the best antecedent for the Eucharist. Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen articulated it best: “As she formed Jesus in her womb, so she forms Jesus in our souls. Email me at catholicsoul@ gmail.com. NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 35 Bite-sized inspiration. Life-changing truths. Good things come in small packages. These little books will help you live a fantastic life! Great gifts to give yourself and your loved ones. Grab your copies now! For orders call 725-9999 local 101 to 108 or log on to www.kerygmabooks.com. 36 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 K Preacher Worry-Free Life Equals Heaven E very thought brings about a specific emotion. That’s why the saying, “Think Positive,” is really wise advice. Positive thoughts bring about positive emotions. Negative thoughts bring about negative emotions. Hence, we need to monitor what happens from within us. More so, I learned somewhere that specific negative emotions negatively affect certain body parts. Fear affects the lungs. Anger affects the liver. Despair lowers the immune system. Worry damages the stomach. Today, through God’s grace, we’ll attempt to delete worry from our system. We know we can because God is able! I remember Fr. Jerry Orbos who said, “People who worry actually hurry to the cemetery.” Sounds practical and true. When worry comes, we’re flooded with negative thoughts; we lose focus; we feel stressed out; we’re overwhelmed; we lose balance; and nothing good seem to happen. Worry, at its worst, produces toxic people — who, because of stress, causes people around them to be stressed, too. Jesus discussed an entire chapter about worry (Matthew 6:25-34). Therefore, if He said, “Do not worry...” it means we have the power to live a worry-free life! A life which is a foretaste of heaven. Why worry when you can pray? The Scripture encourages us with the power of prayer: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” (Philippians 4:6). This is how prayer works: When we act, we act; yet when we pray, God acts! And when God acts, the possibilities and opportunities are endless! Also, since positive thoughts bring about positive emotions. We need to make it a habit to think positive thoughts! Again, the Word of God teaches us the right kind of thoughts By Obet Cabrillas to meditate on that brings on positivity in our lives: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things” (Philippians 4:8). Let’s always pray, think positive, do what is humanly possible, and always allow room for His Grace to move. Do your best and let God do the rest! And as to what He can do? Possibilities are unbounded, limitless, overflowing abundance of God’s universe. Email me at kpreacherobet@gmail. com NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 37 YOU ARE AN ASPIRING AUTHOR AND YOU WANT YOUR DREAM BOOK PUBLISHED. We can help make your dreams come true! You have a fantastic message you want to share, and you want to bless the world with it. Life Dream Books can help you turn your dream into reality through its wide array of self-publishing services. We offer different levels of editorial, layout, proofreading and printing services that will best fit your need and budget. Plan that book. Write it. We take care of the rest. Here are some first-time authors we’ve helped to make their dream book a reality: In his first book, Be Free from Painful Memories and Trauma in 30 Minutes, Jojo Apolo shares neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) techniques that will help erase painful memories and traumas in mere minutes. Discover the stories and insights of world-class Filipinos compiled in Marianne Mencias’s What’s Your Life’s Masterpiece? and be inspired to create your own masterpiece. Dr. Josephine Holgado lists down the important habits you need to learn to maintain a healthy body in The Doctor Is in the House. Discover the 9 secret guides to your child’s health that will help cut down your visits to the doctor. For a quotation, send your manuscript to lifedreambooks@shepherdsvoice.com.ph or call us at (632) 725-9999 loc. 218 and look for Karren Seña. lifedreambooks We publish your dreams. lifedreamsbooks halfpage ad.indd 1 4/21/14 6:13 PM HOW HAS KERYGMA CHANGED YOUR LIFE? For 25 fantastic years, Kerygma has been featuring stories of ordinary people, whose lives are made extraordinary by the grace, blessings, healing and miracles of God. These amazing stories have inspired and changed thousands of other ordinary lives. It’s now your turn share your K story! For its special 25th Anniversary Edition, we are inviting you to submit stories on how Kerygma has transformed your life.You may submit your testimonials and stories to Tess Atienza at theresa.a@ shepherdsvoice.com.ph. Or call us at (02) 725-9999 local 219 if, for some reason, you cannot write. By Dinn Mendoza As told to Lella M. Santiago Photo by Khaye Rodriguez Dinn and Doy continue to serve the Lord with gratefulness at The Feast Alabang. IT’S A MIRACLE! B uhay ka, Dinn! Wala kang tama!” (“You’re alive, Dinn! You weren’t hit!), my husband, Doy, cried with relief after the gunmen left. I was as surprised as he was that I was unscathed. When the shooting was going on, there was only one thought running through my mind: I was going to die and my children, Jane and Paolo, will have this last image of me drenched in blood. Shielded from Death On February 4, 2011, I was miraculously saved from certain death. My husband and I had just left the bank where we purchased dollars for our trip. We were flying to Singapore in five days for a vacation. While attending to our transactions, my sister, a bank teller, noticed a man who kept looking at us while the dollars were being counted. She thought we knew the guy so she didn’t think anything of it. After we finished our business with the bank, my husband decided to get gas and pick up his barong from the laundry. As he parked outside the laundry shop, he told me to lock the door which I promptly did. Not a minute had passed when two men on a motorcycle fired several shots at our car, first on the driver’s side, then on my side. I saw they had another gun pointed at the crowd where my husband was. I could do nothing but flatten my body against the seat. I groped for the lever to recline the seat but, in my panic, I just couldn’t move it. I did manage to utter a prayer of surrender, “Lord, I leave everything to You. Please take care of me.” I sat there frozen as the bullets rained on our car. One Last Story The gunman on my side tried to open my door by shooting the handle. When he couldn’t open it, the other gunman broke the glass on the driver’s side with his gun. He grabbed my bag where I had placed the dollars together with the cash and checks from our store. I was so thankful they didn’t fire at me anymore. Sprayed with Miracles The incident traumatized me. I could not sleep for several nights. Even a simple knock on the door would make me jump. During those times, I clung to the Lord. I read the Bible to calm me when I couldn’t sleep. We believe the Lord was with us during the shooting. He led us to make a stop so that my husband was out of the car when it happened. If the gunmen had reached us when we were on the highway, both of us would most probably have been shot dead. People asked me if I had an amulet that shielded me from the spray of bullets. Anybody who looks at the bullet holes would assume the person inside the car had died. There was one that hit the seat just below my left leg. Another had passed in between my legs. And most miraculous of all was that the bullet fired at the door handle veered and got stuck inside the door. If the bullet had gone straight through, it would have hit me. I tell people, it was not an amulet that saved me, it was the Lord who shielded me from being shot. We were undecided if we should still go to Singapore since I was too afraid to even step out of our house. Then someone who had a very strong faith in God told me, “Don’t let the devil win. God has already shown you how powerful He is. Do you still doubt that He will shield you from any harm?” So we left on schedule and experienced more of God’s miracles. My husband and I had a wonderful vacation that we barely thought about the incident while we were there. When we returned, people noticed my aura was lighter, as if the veil of fear had been lifted. It was an incredibly quick recovery. On June 14 this year, I was asked to give the Love Offering exhortation at Saturday Feast Alabang. Although I was nervous, I found the courage to share this experience. I wanted to glorify God for His graces and to thank Him for the miracle that added years to my life. The date happened to be my birthday and coincidentally, the talk series then was entitled “It’s a Miracle.” NOVEMBER 2014 • KERYGMA 39 Point of Contact by Bo Sanchez I pray that you receive your miracles in Jesus’ name! I pray that God lifts your trials, heals your diseases, blesses your problems, and directs you to the path He wants you to take. I pray that God removes your fears and gives you the courage to surrender your burdens to Him. So place your hand over my hand, and let’s pray with trust, together with our prayer team of intercessors praying for you right now… This page is our Point of Contact, our spiritual connection. Say after me… In the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Lord, I surrender to You my worries and anxieties. I surrender to You my needs, my problems, my trials. I place them all in Your big hands. And I open myself to all that You want to give to me. On this day, I say yes to Your love, to Your blessings, to Your healing, to Your miracles. And Lord, specifically, I ask for the following miracles for my life... I believe that You answer my prayer in the best way possible! And I thank You in advance for the perfect answers to my prayers. I also ask for the special intercession of Mama Mary. I pray all this in the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. SPECIAL INTENTION FOR THIS MONTH: Bless the readers of Kerygma, Lord. We all know that we are going to die, but sometimes we live as if there’s no tomorrow. The temptations of the world lead many of us to think only of the present life, not the eternal. Grant us the wisdom, Lord, to always remember to align our lives today with the eternal one that we will enjoy in Your presence. Grant us the will to love and give as You have exemplified. In Jesus’ name. Amen. Praying for you, 40 KERYGMA • NOVEMBER 2014 Email your prayer requests to me at bosanchez@kerygmafamily. com or write to me at Shepherd’s Voice Publications, #60 Chicago St., Cubao, Quezon City, Philippines 1109.
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