Summer Fall 2008

Summer/Fall 2008
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36 Tsienneto Road •PO Box 1017•Derry, NH 03038•603-437-8477 •www.urteachers.org
What is The Upper Room?
The Upper Room is a non-profit family resource
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individuals and families in our community. A team
of dedicated professionals, both full and part time,
are actively working to improve the family life of the
citizens of Derry and surrounding communities in a
way that is unique to any place in New Hampshire.
There are no barriers to our programs, income
guidelines or geographic lines to prevent
participation. The Upper Room is here to help
families -all families –in need of education, support
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Our Mission: To strengthen individuals and families
through community connections, service programs
and education.
The Upper Room staff from bottom left to
right: Kimberly Bavaro, Michelle Mobsby, Daryl
Arsenault, and Janet Nodine. Top Left: Elaina
Wheaton, Diane Casale, Brenda Guggisberg,
Sue Schick and Cynthia Marshall.
Save The Date!
TheUpperRoom’
s7th Annual Gala
Dinner and Auction Event, “COWBOY
UP FOR A STRONGER COMMUNITY!”
will be held at Promises to Keep on Friday,
November 7, 2008 at 5:30pm. This is
your chance to support our programs, have
a fabulous meal and bid on some great
items! To become a sponsor for this event,
donate items or purchase tickets contact
Kim Bedard at The Upper Room, 603-4378477 X 16 or kbedard@urteachers.org.
Tickets are $50 each.
All
proceeds
benefit
programs
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The Upper
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Our Annual Ice Cream Social Community
Celebration will be held on Thursday August 14,
2007 from 6-8 PM at The Upper Room. Everyone is
invited to join us as we thank our volunteers,
funders, community partners and families with FREE
ice cream, games, music and family fun!
Annual Holiday Food Drive- Please
join us in providing meals for families
this holiday season. We will be accepting
donations of non-perishable food items
for Thanksgiving and Christmas. There will
be drop off locations at various businesses around
town as well at The Upper Room.
If you have a need for a winter coat, please contact
us during our food drive so we can provide you with
one, thanks to the Annual Prudential Verani Coat
Drive.
Annual Thanksgiving Dinner-
Keep watching our website for the
date of our annual Thanksgiving feast,
held in the Briggs Center at The Upper Room!
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FAMILY MATTERS
The Upper Room,
A Family Resource Center
Board of Directors
Renee Fellows –Chairperson; Clearpoint Marketing
Michael Caruso –Vice Chairperson; C & G Insurance
Brenda Davis –Treasurer; Community Bank& Trust
Mike Royce - Secretary; Hannaford Supermarket
Thelma Hutton - Retired Chester College
Cathy DiCampo - Derry News
John Dulmage –Personal Financial Advisor
Rick Bonito –Fast-techs On-Site Computer Services
Andrew Myers –Attorney at Law
Staff
Kimberly Bavaro
Cynthia Marshall
Linda Wojtkiewicz
Ruth Kay
Program Spotlights
ONE PLACE, MANY SOLUTIONS A teen mom dropping out of school potentially facing a
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losing her job because affordable care for a grandchild is
out of reach; a teenage boy experiencing anger issues and
facing court involvement; a baby being raised in a house
filled with chaos. This is one family with many issues and
one holistic plan. The teen mom attends TIPS where she
learns parenting skills and has peer support and enrolls in
GED Prep to finish her basic education. The teenage boy,
under the supervision of GDJD, participates in the Take
Control workshop and learns what triggers his anger. The
baby is in supervised child care while mom goes to class
and grandmother goes to work; the family receives inhome counseling and parent education by a GDFO home
visitor and is connected to child care dollars, health care
support, and numerous other services in the community.
One place, many solutions: The Upper Room.
Kim Bedard
Diane Casale
CONGRATULATIONS
Brenda Guggisberg
Cynthia Marshall,
Diane Casale,
Ruth Kay and
Kimberly Bavaro –
FOR A COMBINED
50 YEARS OF
Sue Schick
Elaina Wheaton
Daryl Arsenault
Michelle Mobsby
Esther Connelly
Ruth Pendergast
Cheryl Haidaichuk
Martha Raymond
Laura Wilmoth
Cara Long
Michelle Smith
Patricia Doherty
Meredith Richardson
The Annual Youth Job Fair was held on
April 16, 2008. Attendance reached an all time
high with 288 youth and parents seeking jobs!
We provided information on hundreds of available
local jobs, applications, resources as well as
opportunities to speak with nine employers from
the area. Thank you to Subway, Applebees,
Cracker Barrel, Home Depot, Derry Parks and Rec
Department, NH Department of Corrections, Girl
Scouts of Swift Water Council, Melaleuca, City
Year NH, NH Employment Security, Parkland
Medical Center, United States Marine Corp and
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SERVICE
To The Upper Room.
Making a difference –
EVERY DAY!
The Community Review Teams of the
Greater Derry Juvenile Diversion
program are comprised of individuals from all walks of life
who are dedicated to discouraging delinquency and
strengthening family and community centered relationships.
These teams develop contracts with 1st time juvenile offenders
that focus on their strengths; creating a positive learning
experience, while still holding them accountable for their
alleged offense.
Pauline Blazon-Schulter
1994 Jackie Paton
2005
Patricia Kimplen
2000 Martin Paton
2006
Annette Clow
2002 Patricia Doherty
2006
Corinne Dodge
2002 Patricia Pingree
2006
Susan Dionne
2003 Michelle Mobsby
2007
Laura Hill
2003 Ruth Paul
2007
Laura Wilmoth
2004 Ann Snediker
2007
Jeremy Lane
2005 Christopher Macedo 2007
John & Rebecca Tollefsen 2005
Thank you all for the many years and hours of
dedication to the youth and families served by the
Greater Derry Juvenile Diversion program.
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FAMILY MATTERS
Four Survival Skills for ACTIVE
PARENTS –Active Parenting NOW
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 Need for Freedom
1. Courage-If children have courage,
 Attitude
they can try, fail and try again until a
 Various Identities
challenge is mastered. It is the core of
 Prefer friends
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 Want time alone
 Want more stuff
2. Self-esteem- If esteem is high, a
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person views himself as capable and
What you can do:
able to succeed, with courage to try
 KEEP A SENSE OF
new things! If unsuccessful, a person
HUMOR
with high self-esteem looks at the
 Set rules before a problem
experience as an opportunity to learn.
occurs
3. Responsibility- If children learn to
 Budget for expenses
make responsible decisions and have
 Set limits on Freedom
the courage to stick with those
 Make use of time with your
decisions; they are ready to meet l
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challenges on their own.
 Allow SOME privacy
4. Cooperation- A child who can
 Give opportunities to make
cooperate with others learns that life
decisions
involves teamwork. A parent-child
 Let kids have space to solve
relationship should be one of
problems
cooperation, not conflict. That
cooperation must be won through
 LOVE ~
many family experiences where there
Respect, Staying calm,
is order, routine, and the sense that
and working together
every person in the family is an
teaches your child to do the same!
important member.
10 Simple Anger
Management Techniques –
By Rose Alexander
1. Slow Down
2. Step Back
3. Take a Break
4. Rewind the Situation
5. Breathe Deeply
6. Walk About
7. Vent to a Friend
8. Listen First and Then Speak
9. Get a Pet
10. Smile
If you or someone you know
struggles with managing anger,
try these tips or pass them along
to someone who might be
interested. The world would be a
happier and safer place if people
learn more about anger
management tips and put them to
use, helping themselves or others
when the going gets tough.
To continue learning new parenting
survival skills –Sign Up NOW for an
Active Parenting Class!!
Ongoing Events and Programs
Teen Information for Parenting Success –TIPS -
Families on the Go –FOG –Workshops/Support Group
Supporting teen families. Meetings held every other Wed
and Playgroup- For families with young children. Held every
from 6-8 pm. Includes free childcare. Learn how to parent,
Wednesday from 9:30-11:00 AM. With a social/bring your own
to be financially stable and to live your dreams!
lunch hour from 11-12pm.
GED Program–An educational life skills program that
UR Parents Support Group - Tuesdays from 6:30-7:30 pm -
supports young students who are at risk of dropping out of
Bring questions and concerns about your teen to this weekly
school. Small class instruction, tutoring and individualized
open support group.
learning plans support each student in reaching their goal
of a GED certificate. Class meets 3 days a week from 92pm at TUR. Speak with your guidance counselor, The
PACE CENTER or contact Brenda at TUR for more info.
Take THE CHALLENGE - Have you been in trouble for
smoking pot or drinking alcohol? Do you want to say NO but
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Take Control –Anger Management for Youth–Tired of
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TAKE THE CHALLENGE –
everyone making you mad!? Then TAKE CONTROL! Learn
a drug and alcohol education program for youth. Classes to be
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held in May, July, September and November. Fee.
you. Have fun with friends, get and keep a job and less
frustration in your life! Classes held on Tuesday and
Thursday evenings for 5 sessions each in June, August,
October and December. Fee.
Pre-Register at 437-8477 for all classes. All
classes are free unless otherwise noted.
Community Service Learning Opportunities –Want your
child to get involved in the community? Need community
service hours? The CSLO program offers adolescents the
chance to help their communities in a variety of ways through
supervised community service projects. Fee.
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FAMILY MATTERS
THANK YOU TO OUR FUNDERS
New Hampshire Charitable Foundation
Town of Derry
Town of Londonderry
Harris Brothers Foundation
Rockingham County
Derry Village Rotary Club
Rotary Club of Londonderry
Oak Foundation
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Wal*Mart of Derry
TheWomen’
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Pinkerton Academy: NH Department
of Education Adult Education Grant
State of NH Department of Health
and Human Services Division of Public Health
Boston Bruins Foundation
Join us in making
a difference with a
tax deductible
donation to:
The Upper Room
PO Box 1017
Derry, NH 03038
Thank you to all who donated to
congratulate the happy union of Joie Gerrish
and William Elwell.
Thank you to all who donated to
celebrate the lives of loved ones and in
memory of James Duskal.
Thank you to Ruth P. for providing 6 GED
students with a testing fee scholarship.
THANK YOU to local businesses, churches and
organizations for their generous donations!BAE Systems, Employment Times, Spectrum
Marketing, Greater Derry Track Club, Brownell
Insurance Center, the Eastern Stars, First Parish
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Community, St. Thomas Aquinas, Susan E.
Simpson Charitable Foundation, Dorothy M
Fortier Trust, Pauline Blazon, Motor Sport Co.,
BA Carson Plumbing and Heating and the
Rhythm of NH Show Chorus!
MATCHING GIFTS
DID YOU KNOW THAT
YOUR COMPANY MIGHT
MATCH YOUR DONATION?
If you or your spouse work for,
or are retired from, a company that has
a matching gift program, you can make
a contribution and then ask your
employer to match your gift to The
Upper Room, A Family Resource Center.
Check with your human resources
department and ask for instructions on
how to participate!
The Legacy Society
Make a lasting difference in
the lives of children now and
in the years to come
When you bequest a gift of money or
property through your will, you are leaving
behind a gift that endures. The Upper
Room is pleased to offer this option to our
families, donors and community as a
meaningful way to give back and
be remembered.
Please call for more information.
COMMUNITY RESOURCES:
NEW HAMPSHIRE HEALTHY KIDS is Low-Cost & Free Health Insurance for Uninsured Kids and Teens. For more
information visit www.nhhealthykids.com or call toll-free 1-800-877-464-2447.
Londonderry Child Passenger Safety Program: A Collaborative Effort of the Londonderry Fire Rescue, Londonderry
Police DepartmentandNewHampshi
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You may call the Londonderry Police non-emergency number, 432-1118, ask for the hotline voice mail and leave a
message. One of the technicians will return your call. Due to scheduling, please allow a couple of days for a return call.
2-1-1 NH Information and Referral Service began pilot operations in November 2007. Residents in New Hampshire can
contact 2-1-1 NH toll-free by dialing 1-866-444-4211. 2-1-1 NH staff anticipates that residents will be able to connect to 2-1-1
NH by dialing 2-1-1 from landlines by May 2008. Complete access, via the 2-1-1 dialing code from landlines and cell
phones, is expected to be complete by the end of 2008. 2-1-1 NH is an initiative of the United Ways of New Hampshire in
partnership with Public Service Company of New Hampshire. It is sponsored by the Citizens Bank Foundation, Exeter
Hospital, New Hampshire Charitable Foundation and the State of New Hampshire.
The Cooperative Alliance for Regional Transportation (CART) is the new regional transit system for the Greater DerrySalem area serving the towns of Chester, Danville, Derry, Hampstead, Londonderry, Plaistow, Salem, Sandown and
Windham. CART is a shared-ride service that is available to any resident of the nine service towns including seniors and
others in the community who need transportation. Call 434-3569 or go to www.cart-rides.org.
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FAMILY MATTERS
Summer Family Field Trips… where Kids are always free!
July 8th
Seacoast Science Center
10AM
FREE
Come explore the center and then venture outside for walks along the rocks and in
the water. Bring a bag lunch and plenty of sunscreen! There is also a small play
ground for kids!
July 15th
Discovery Stop! (Londonderry)
10AM
FREE
Come and enjoy the cool, while your kids play!
July 22nd
Pawtuckaway State Park
10AM
FREE!
Come enjoy a day swimming and playing. Bring a bag lunch if you would like to stay!
July 29th
Chuck E. Cheese
10AM
FREE for Kids
Come enjoy the fun and games and air conditioning! Tokens and Pizza for the kids.
August 5th Flagship Cinema (Derry)
10 AM
FREE for Kids
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August14
ICE CREAM SOCIAL
6 –8 PM
FREE
Join us for FREE ice cream, fun and family activities! Fun Bounce, face Painting, games, popcorn and
more! Held at The Upper Room!
August 19th Humphrey Park (Derry)
10AM
FREE
Come play outside, bring you bag lunch and sunscreen and enjoy!
The ACTING LOFT, located in
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ass” Come and Cook with us!!!
Learn some new cooking techniques and fun nutritious ideas!
Bring the kids ages 5 through 12! No Childcare available.
Classes held Tuesdays July 1, 8, 15, 22, 10:00 am –noon
Free –Limited Space Available so please Call to Register!
Sponsored by Operation Frontline & UNH Cooperative Extension.
downtown Manchester, is hosting low
cost theater shows every Friday
beginning July 18th!
Call them @ (603) 666-5999 if you
would like to enjoy a fun filled show with
your little ones! They look forward to
seeing your family!
Supported through the FOG and TIPS Programs. To register and for more information call 437-8477.
PARENTING CLASSES
Pre-Register at 437-8477 x 18 for all classes.
Active Parenting 1,2,3,4 - Teaching the
stages of development, building the bond
between your child and you, how to use nonviolent discipline skills, choices and
consequences, and the power of
encouragement! Call x 18 for Fall Class Dates
and times! Fee.
Active Parenting of 5-12 Year Olds -
Learn the skills that will help you develop
cooperation, responsibility and self-esteem in
your children. As well as positive discipline
techniques so you can avoid those all-toofamiliar power struggles. Call x 18 for Fall Class
Dates and Times. Fee.
Active Parenting of Teens –How to live
with your teen! A Survival Class for every
parent of a teenager! Mondays for 5 weeks on
Oct 6,13,20,27 & Nov 3 from 6:30-8:30 pm.
Fee.
1,2,3, Magic - Easy-To-Learn and Effective Parenting Solutions
from Dr. Thomas Phelan for a well-behaved child. Call x 22 for Fall
Class Dates and times! Fee.
Cooperative Parenting and Divorce - In partnership with UNH
Cooperative Extension. This program gives divorcing parents the power
to make positive changes that shield their children from parental
conflict and guide them into establishing a long-term relationship with
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Active Parenting Professional
Certification Training
Active Parenting Leader Training Workshops
At the Leader Training Workshops (LTW), we'll show you how to use
our popular, video-based programs to make your classes entertaining
and filled with practical skills that parents can start using
immediately. That's not all! In addition to training from an
experienced leader, you will also get a free Parent's Guide, a training
guide, a certification packet, refreshments, and a coupon for 20% off
Active Parenting products. CEUs are also available. You can also find
more information on these programs at www.activeparenting.com.
Non-Profit
Organization
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Derry, NH 03038
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PO Box 1017
Derry, NH 03038
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invent______________.
2. What is something that would
actually make you jump up
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3. What are you good at?
4. Which word in the dictionary
is spelled incorrectly?
Answer: Incorrectly
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hungry?
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