New buildings will give DCCC a face-lift
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Volunteers feed the hungry page 3 Smoking on campus? Editors sound off page 5 Breaking up isn’t easy: Learn how page 7 “Serving Delaware and Chester Counties” Volume 10, No. 3 November 21, 2007 New buildings will give DCCC a face-lift This spring school officials will break ground for two new buildings at Marple campus. An entire new science and technology center is slated for construction throughout 2008, to be completed in 2009. The largest new building, designated for science, engineering and math, will be 105,000 square feet and incorporate both classrooms and labs. Included will be 11 math classrooms, a simulated police firing range and an institute for public safety and emergency preparedness. The second building, a 32,000 square foot facility, will be a technical building with learning areas for automotive technology, carpentry and various other hands-on classes. The buildings, collectively known as the STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) complex, will be started separately. Construction on the technology building will begin in February 2008 and is expected to take 12 months to complete. The science, engineering and math building will not break ground until March, and will take 18 months. The STEM complex is to take the place of DCCC’s Malin Road center, which will lose its lease by the time construction is finished. All the center’s faculty and programs will be moved onto the Marple campus. At a faculty meeting on Oct. 29, President Jerry Parker said the project “is consuming a lot of my time,” but added that the building would be “a new face on campus, a gateway.” He showed images of the wedge shaped building design and stressed the sustainable design certification of the building, which means that it will be environmentally friendly. The building site was also evaluated in terms of its impact to the surrounding wetlands. Photo courtesy of DCCC public relations By Greg Weber The STEM complex will include a building for science, engineering and math programs. Parker acknowledged that the cost of the STEM project had risen dramatically since its first conception. Original estimates for the project hovered around $36 million, but have since risen to $59 million, with more costs expected. He said that attempts were being made to lower that number, but did not promise any reduction in price. Fundraising for the project is in what is referred to as the “silent phase,” wherein donors are gathered to create an initial base donation before the campaign is made public. Parker said that legislators were “all saying the right things [in support] of the project,” and he did not anticipate problems finding funds. Greg Davis, co-chair of the Internal Resources Committee, a “watchdog group” that provides broad suggestions and observations Magdalen Hsu-Li inspires students to redefine identity By Matthew Eppright Courtesy of Magdalenhsuli.com One day Magdalen Hsu-Li looked into the mirror. She wished her eyes were not slanted, her hair was not so dark, and that she was Caucasian. She asked herself the question that children in her hometown often asked her: “What are you?” Since that day Hsu-Li has been on a Magdalene Hsu-Li is a famous artist and advocate for diversity. path of self-discovery that led her to speaking to students around the country about just that. On Oct. 9, the acclaimed singer, songwriter, artist and activist visited DCCC’s Marple campus to discuss race, sexuality and personal demons that existed in herself and that she believes may exist in everybody. Hsu-Li was raised in Martinsville, Va., a place she described as the “beautiful South.” The scenery may have been sprawling and gorgeous, but the times were not. “Growing up in the rural south, I faced intense racism and prejudice,” Hsu-Li said. “I was different and I stuck out.” Prejudice was not the only problem Hsu-Li faced growing up. At age 12, she was diagnosed with Tourette’s Syndrome. The pressure of fitting in while dealing with the symptoms of Tourette’s proved too much for Hsu-Li. “I was a girl, a girl interrupted,” Hsu-Li said. “And I was on the verge of a breakdown.” The traditional treatments did not work for Hsu-Li. “I imagined a life of loneliness and isolation,” Hsu-Li said. “I even considered suicide.” Then one night, when she was 16, she made a decision: Hsu-Li decided she was going to conquer Tourette’s with willpower. It took six months, but eventually her symptoms Continued on page 2 on any construction done at DCCC, said he was pleased by the new project. “It’s great for the college,” Davis said. “It’s a nice footprint on campus.” Davis said that there had been a few concerns among faculty about usage of space and similar issues, but that most had been cleared up. He also said that the department heads of the college had been asked by architects to contribute suggestions which were being “passed up the line” to those working on the project. His co-chair Sara Singer said, “It is important that faculty and administration work together to achieve our common goal: buildings that will enhance the learning of all the students at DCCC.” She indicated that there had been some issues with the faculty’s needs not being taken into account concerning the STEM complex. Singer did not respond when asked what those issues were. “Presently, we are working with the provost, Ginny Carter, to improve the lines of communication,” Singer wrote in an e-mail. For students there will be some inconveniences during the construction process, particularly with regard to parking. While 100 new parking spots are to be added to the current lots, construction is expected to take up a significant amount of current student space. “The whole project will be very disruptive,” Parker said. “[But] it will be something worth waiting for.” The STEM complex has become only part of the overall facility master plan created by college officials to guide the school into the future. In addition to the new buildings, renovations are to be done on the existing buildings of Marple campus. “We need much improved student spaces throughout the campus,” Parker said. New student spaces will include new student lounges and the transformation of the library into a learning commons. While Davis was quick to mention that the library would not disappear, he said it will have updated technology and a design more appropriate for college learning. Possible changes to existing buildings are in the early planning stages. At the faculty meeting, Parker said that there would be open forums throughout the planning phase to improve existing facilities. He encouraged the faculty to give their input. Contact Greg Weber at communitarian@mail.dccc.edu DCCC falls for Flags of our Fathers By Ryan McBrearty On Oct 20, author James Bradley visited DCCC to give a presentation about Flags of our Fathers before a sell-out crowd in the main auditorium. The event brought together Delaware County residents of all ages, from elementary school students to World War II veterans. The presentation served as the highlight event for an ongoing community-wide reading project called “Fall for a Book,” organized by the Delaware County Council, DCCC and the Delaware County Library System. The project is based upon the “One book, One Community” model, which has been gaining popularity in small and large communities across the country. The model is intended to serve the educational needs of a community and bring its residents closer together by encouraging each resident to read the same book and attend events related to it. According to the Delaware County Library System’s Web site, all county residents were encouraged to read the New York Times Best-Seller Flags of Our Fathers. The groups involved in organizing this project also arranged a series of events, including various film screenings, discussions, World War II veteran speakers and displays of historic items in libraries all across Delaware County. The project was capped off by the highlight event. The ultimate goal of all of these events is to foster a deeper collective understanding of Flags of Our Fathers and its historical context. Bradley began his presentation by speaking about the impact of the Battle of Iwo Jima. “More medals were awarded in that month than any other in American History,” Bradley said, “It was America’s most heroic moment.” At the center of this moment were the six young marines who raised the American flag on the top of Mt. Suribachi. Their names were John Bradley, Rene Gagnon, Micheal Strank, Ira Hayes, Franklin Salsley and Harlon Block. They were captured in an immortal photograph that has become the most duplicated in the history of photography. James Bradley’s father, John Bradley, was the inspiration for his book. “He never talked about the war or the flag raising,” Bradley said of his father, “Only once to his wife on their first date.” After his father passed away, his family found a closet full of memories of Iwo Jima. Bradley had questions about his father’s past, and decided to contact the families of the other five flag raisers. Those families had refused interviews for decades, but because Bradley was the son of a flag raiser, they were willing to tell him stories that had long been kept quiet. Bradley continued his presentation by describing the other flag raisers, identifying Continued on page 6 Page 2 CAMPUS LIFE Business and Computer Information Systems Department advisors meet and greet students Photo courtesy of Professor Linda Durkin. to meet and get to know students outside of classes and the “Meet and Greet” provided a great opportunity to get to know each other. The event was well attended by students, encouraged and sponsored by the Dean, and 100 percent supported by Business and Computer Information Systems faculty who advised, served refreshments, chatted with students and helped them in guessing who was who on the faculty photo wall. Students had the opportunity to win prizes by matching faculty younger years’ photos with the ‘real’ professor. No student matched every photo correctly, but three students guessed nine correctly and won prizes. Those students are: Jeff Petherbridge, Jin Hua G. Murter, and Joshua W. Shaker, all Business majors. “The ‘Meet and Greet’ was wonderful,” said business student Leah Nelling. “It provided a great deal of information and guidance. Not only was the function beneficial but it was very amusing.” The faculty provided pizza, soda and enjoyable games for the students to play. Nelling felt it was a great way to meet with some of the teachers and classmates outside of the classroom. “This is my first semester here at the main campus and this event was extremely helpful,” Nelling said. “I would like for the Business Department to continue to hold this event in the upcoming semesters; I feel that it can better inform the students who need a little guidance, like me.” Business and computer students meet their advisors. The Business and Computer Information Systems Department held a “Meet and Greet Advisors” on Oct. 18 during Q-time in the Business Student Lounge near 3310. This was a first for the department in trying to make a personal connection with business and computer students. As a community college there is not always an opportunity FLAGS OF OUR FATHERS - ESSAY CONTEST 1st Prize: $200.00 2nd Prize: $100.00 3rd Prize: $50.00 EDITH GARLOW MEMORIAL POETRY CONTEST FIRST PRIZE: SECOND PRIZE: THIRD PRIZE: $1000 $800 $400 1. All contestants must be currently enrolled in a college or university in Delaware or Chester County. 2. Each contestant may submit only one poem, a work of his or her own creation. 3. The poem must employ a definite metrical and/or rhyming pattern. 4. The submitted poem must be typed in conventional manuscript form and identified on the reverse side of the sheet(s) by the contestant’s name, college or university, student number, home mailing address, telephone number and signature in ink. No other format will be accepted. 5. Submissions must be mailed to Gina Gennari c/o Delaware County Community College, Media, PA 19063, and postmarked no later than January 30, 2008. 6. Contest Winners will be announced in April 2008. 7. Winners will receive their prizes and read their poems during a reception at Delaware County Community College in April 2008. Use an interview with a veteran to discuss the following writing prompt. Use examples from what you read in the text and what you heard in your interview in order to support your response. Make sure that you have at least three, fully developed points that support your point of view. For help and guidelines about how to structure your interview with a veteran, please consult the Library of Congress’s web site: Photo by David Richman http://www.loc.gov/vets/youth-resources.html Prompt: Did the interview that you completed with a veteran affect you more or less than your reading of the book, Flags of Our Fathers? Explain your response by elaborating on which source or experience helped you to better understand what soldiers go through before, during, and after their wartime experiences. Essays will be collected until April 1, 2008. You may turn them into Valerie Schantz, office 4317. Format Requirements: 250-750 typed, double spaced, mla documentation needed Outside sources/research is NOT necessary except for the interview. Any outside sources/research must be properly documented or essay will be disqualified. Name, contact information, and student id number must be clearly indicated in a heading on the first page. The college community honored student soldiers and veterans Nov. 13. Magdalen Hsu-Li inspires students to redefine identity Now announcing the guest author for the 2008 Pegasus Literary Magazine: Continued from page 1 She enrolled at Cornish College of the Arts to study voice and piano. She had to teach herself to read and play music, but it paid off. After her first year she was awarded a scholarship, not because of her talent, but for her effort and drive in her learning. During the next year Hsu-Li had a severe conflict with a professor over racial issues. Feeling that she was not supported by the Photo courtesy of www.unt.edu dwindled until they were barely existent. During her young adult years Hsu-Li spent time in a hospital because of emotional troubles. While there, she began to draw. “I realized I could take all my negative emotions and put them into an appropriate place,” HsuLi said. Hsu-Li believes that everyone has a “shadow-self,” a dark side. “The role of a shadow is to occupy itself to be destructive,” Hsu-Li said. A person’s shadow can be a lack of confidence, self abuse, or abuse of drugs and alcohol. Hsu-Li says that her art was an outlet for her shadow and brought her to a higher self. This led her to enroll in the Rhode Island School of Design to study art. She was awarded many scholarships for her talent and graduated with a degree in fine arts. Shortly after graduation, Hsu-Li had a dream that she was a musician living in Seattle. She decided that this was a message and moved to Seattle. After moving there Hsu-Li attended a party filled with talented musicians and came to a realization: she didn’t know how to be a musician. She found herself crying alone in a room at that party. “I realized this is what life is like,” Hsu-Li said. “You can sit in dark rooms and cry by yourself, or you can get up and do something.” Hsu-Li is an accomplished musician who speaks for gay and lesbian rights. faculty and staff of the college, she dropped out. She decided that would not be the end for her. Hsu-Li borrowed $10,000 from her uncle to start her own music label, Chickpop Records. After six months she released her first album, “Evolutions.” On this album she wrote her first activist song, “Submissive.” Hsu-Li realized through the repetition of adversities she faced in her life, she was meant to be an activist. “When something keeps happening to you, there’s a lesson to be learned,” Hsu-Li said. She believes that activism is her “darma” or life’s purpose. She also believes that everyone has darma, something they are destined to do. Currently Hsu-Li is studying at the Berkley College of Music while she is touring the country. She looks back on the question she asked herself so many years ago and now replies, “I cannot be categorized.” “Don’t be afraid to take risks and be pioneers,” Hsu-Li said. “Redefine what identity is for you.” For more information on Magdalen HsuLi or to listen to her music visit: myspace. com/magdalenhsuli or magdalenhsuli.com. Contact Matthew Eppright at communitarian@mail.dccc.edu Jon Clinch, Author of FINN: A Novel The guest author will have his work featured in Pegasus and will serve as an honorary jury member. Have your short stories, poems and artwork published alongside a distinguished author… Submit to Pegasus today!!! For questions or submission forms, please contact Campus Life (Rm 2518), visit Campus Life on the web h t t p : / / w w w. d c c c . e d u / campuslife/pegasus.html or contact Gina Gennari (Rm 4312) ggennari@dccc.edu How to buy a used car without getting ripped off By Kara Davidson When it comes to buying a car, it’s never a one step process, especially if the car is pre-owned. Along with purchasing a used car, comes the possibility of being ripped off. There’s an array of car scams to look out for such as lemon, body work and paint problems, and auto frauds. Yet, what can be done to avoid all the scams? Follow these steps when buying a used car to avoid being taken advantage of. Be Educated Future buyers of used cars must do some research before even looking at any vehicle purchases. “It’s important for all potential used vehicle owners to be some what educated on what they’re interested in buying,” said Mike Petrylak, owner and certified mechanic at Concord Village Garage. Many vehicle sites, such as Vehix, Carfax and Kelly Blue Book, offer base prices for almost any model and make of car. Going into the buying process, the buyer should know the basics about the car(s) of interest, such as model, make, year, color preferences, and general price range. Buyer Beware Buyers looking to purchase used cars must know that they’re buying other people’s problems, and also could be ripped off. “When buyers are looking for used cars from private sellers, it’s important to keep in mind that the seller could be hiding any problem with the car,” Petrylak said. Buying from a private dealer might mean that the car could have had previous work done on it, yet the buyer would never know unless told. Often times, whatever is wrong on the outside of the car can be covered with cheap paints, rather than dealership paint jobs. Any buyer can get a vehicle history report for a car made after 1981 from sites such as Carfax and Kelly Blue Book. Pre-owned vehicles from dealerships always come certified by a mechanic to insure the investment of the car. “The buyer is most secure in their purchase of a pre-owned car when they buy directly from a dealership,” said Lee Phillips, Toyota Carousel Used Vehicle Sales Consultant. “Most times, dealerships will offer warranties, roadside assistance, and standards along with the certified pre-owned vehicles.” Don’t Buy Right Away Buyers should always get the car checked out first by a certified mechanic or dealership before purchasing the car. If the used car is purchased immediately, the buyer has no opportunity to get the best deal, and may be ripped off. “The car should be inspected by a reputable repair facility for any potential problems with the vehicle’s steering, wheels, brakes, accident damage, and ect,” Petrylak said. Only a certified mechanic or auto repair specialist from a dealership can be trusted to find any problems with the car. If taken to a private dealer, the buyer is more likely to be scammed. Find the Value It’s important to find the value of the car from a used vehicle site. If the value of the car is reasonably lower than the asking price, the buyer can gain some leverage on the cost over the seller. It is always good to ask about the car’s history, and reasons for selling, and if the vehicle is from a private used car owner. For example, the seller could be a pregnant woman looking to get rid of her economy-sized car in order to make room for a minivan that can hold more. On the other hand, the seller could be getting rid of the car because of a previous accident, which caused a problem with the car. “I bought my ‘96 Chevy Cavalier from a private seller about two months ago,” said Ian Bainbridge, 18, Music Education major attending DCCC. “Even though the horn on the car doesn’t work, it was still a smart buy because the price was around $2,200, and my grandfather, a licensed mechanic, test drove and inspected the car for me before I actually bought it.” “The average price of the certified preowned vehicles from [Toyota Carousel] is $5,000 to $45,000, depending on make and model of the vehicle,” Phillips said. Also the car can be researched for the average price on Carfax or a similar site. Negotiate After finding the base value of the model and make of used car and the present or potential problems, the buyer can begin to negotiate the price. If the car needs a significant amount of repairs, the buyer can factor the repairs into negotiations, and hopefully save some money. Take Care of Your Car Once the used car is purchased, it’s crucial to maintain the health of the car. “All of [Toyota Carousel] pre-owned cars come with a maintenance booklet and guide,” Phillips said. “If the buyers follow these guidelines, then their pre-owned vehicle should continue to last.” If the used car was purchased from a private seller, the buyer should pay extra attention to any sudden differences with the performance of the car. Although buying a pre-owned car costs significantly less than buying a brand new one, there are some downsides. “A used car is older and has already been worn down by the previous owner,” Petrylak said. “So, in order to maintain the used car is to always get the car inspected on time, and continue to take the car to a licensed mechanic for routine check-ups, such as oil changes, tire rotations, overall handling, etc.” Contact Kara Davidson @ communitarian@ mail.dccc.edu Paradise is a hot meal and a warm bed Photo by David Richman in short supply: affordable housing and economic opportunity. Sunday, 10:30 a.m. Services have According to a 2003 Status concluded at St. Katherine’s Church in Wayne, Report on Hunger and Homelessness in Pa. The parking lot and surrounding streets American Cities, 41 percent are single come alive with pedestrian traffic. Neatly adult men, 40 percent are families with dressed families, averaging two to three children, 5 percent are unaccompanied children, walk alongside seniors wearing suits youth and 66 percent are families and ties. Young couples holding hands emerge headed by a single parent. from the glass double doors of the church into The U.S. Census Bureau says a bright, sunny afternoon. the many residents in Kensington live St. Katherine’s parking lot has become at or below the poverty line. They’re organized chaos. People and cars are men, women and children of all races, everywhere. Some walk while others run. ethnicities and religions. St. Francis Despite the mass exodus, almost everyone is Inn provides these people with a hot smiling. Many are heading to the local diner sit-down meal once a day, Monday for breakfast, while others head home to catch through Sunday. Coffee and a small the early NFL games and maybe start (or breakfast item (carry out only) are finish) a weekend project. served Tuesday through Thursday. But scan the crowds of people and New items such as diapers, toiletries, St. Katherine’s parishioners provide food for those you’ll find a small group of young adults still underwear and socks are also given out Each guest will also receive one roll, one fruit standing at St. Katherine’s main entrance. Their free of charge. cup and one dessert. Each table has a pitcher destination is not the local diner or home, but a After parking the car, the young adult that’s refilled with water, iced tea, or hot sweet soup kitchen called St. Francis Inn located on group walks up East Hagert Street to the side tea depending on the weather. What the guests 2441 Kensington Avenue in Philadelphia. entrance of St. Francis Inn. They’re met with of St. Francis Inn are served depend greatly on St. Francis Inn was started by two the blank stares of people sitting on concrete the donations received and what’s available Franciscan friars, Roderic Pertie and Emmet steps. Some lie in the middle of the sidewalk. that day. Murphy in 1977. “The Inn” also serves as The smell of urine is so strong, it can cause All volunteers put on various colored women’s temporary residence, thrift shop and one’s eyes to water. There’s a line starting aprons. Soon they are ready to serve the guests. social service center. from the entrance to the dining hall of St. It’s almost time to open the doors. From St. Katherine’s, the young adult Francis Inn, which snakes around the building The last order of business is the prayer group carpools to St. Francis Inn. Their goal is and down the street. circle. Pushaw asks the volunteers to join to get there by 11 a.m. Entering the side entrance, the young hands and form a circle. With eyes closed This group will make it. adult group is met by the hostess Maureen, and heads bowed, the prayer ends with a Driving down Girard Avenue one might 22, who lets them into the dining hall. The unanimous “Amen.” think these neighborhoods were once nice dining hall consists of 10-12 tables with four The doors open. places to live. But what once was a thriving plastic chairs with metal legs. The dining hall The dining hall becomes a flurry of manufacturing community is now an area is designed like a cafeteria, but only volunteers activity. People are moving in every direction. with countless abandoned buildings, closed do the serving. The guest(s) only need to be Volunteers, armed only with trays swing into factories, piles of trash, broken concrete slabs seated and give their ticket. action. The guests are seated one by one. Some and overgrown weeds. The liquor stores and The coordinator, Karen Pushaw, 41 prefer to sit with only certain people, while bars are ubiquitous, but there are two things approaches the volunteers with a clipboard. families are placed at one table. Pushaw asks each volunteer The guests are from all walks of life. Some what they’d like to do. Two enter walking on canes and walkers. Others plate food, four will wait enter in wheelchairs and some are carried in by tables, one will help bus others. They are Mexican, Indian, Caucasian, tables and one will help in Italian and Latino, both young and old. Many the dish room. are missing teeth, hair and limbs. Clothes are Andrea Shaffer, a tattered, torn and soiled. Some carry their regular volunteer at St. belongings in plastic bags, suitcases, duffel Francis Inn says, “[St. bags or on something with wheels. But each Francis Inn] can serve guest is here for one thing, a free meal. anywhere from 300 to just Rambo, a guest of St Francis Inn, offers over 400 people. So it could a volunteer some advice: “My friend, if you be from 2,100 to 2,800 stack the plates on the bottom and put the meals a week.” silverware on top like this [stacking the plates The food is cooked and and silverware], it’s a lot easier to carry, you placed into the steam trays. know.” A volunteer and Neil Amado make last minute preparations Today’s menu will be hot The guests continue to stream in. Each in the St. Francis Inn kitchen. dogs, corn, rice and pizza. guest is served and given plastic bags upon request. Many ask for ketchup and mustard. Some parents ask for milk for their children. Despite the crowd packed into a small space, the atmosphere remains positive. Many guests say “Thank you” and “God bless you” when their food arrives. Sometimes the kitchen staff gets backed up, but most guests remain patient. The dining hall buzzes with conversation, while the servers and bussers do their best to serve the who need it. guests. It’s now 12:50 p.m. The meal is winding down and so begins the clean up. When St Francis Inn closes at 1 p.m., the dining hall is broken down. Some guests are still eating, but they quickly finish and leave. The doors are closed and locked. Tables are pushed against the walls and the chairs are stacked. Two kitchen volunteers bring out some brooms and a mop bucket. Trash is taken out. The dining hall floor is swept and mopped, as is the kitchen. The stoves are turned off. The countertops, tables and cooking stations are wiped down. Pots and pans are scrubbed in the stainless steel sinks. Racks of dishes and silverware are pushed through the dish machine. The few leftovers are wrapped up and placed into the walk-in fridge. Most days when the main meal runs out, one or two back-up dishes are made to replace it. The young volunteers leave. Pushaw says, “Thanks for coming out and we’ll see you next time.” St. Francis Inn provides a free meal and temporary sanctuary from a life in the streets of Kensington. St. Francis serves the hungry, poor and homeless, seven days a week, 365 days a year. Because need takes no sick days. Photo by David Richman By David Richman For more information about St. Francis Inn go to www.stfrancisinn.org. For more information on volunteering with anti-hunger organizations go to www.hungercoalition.org. Contact David Richman at communitarian@mail.dccc.edu page 4 EDITORIAL A generation like no other, unfortunately By Lisa Foreman College students. For decades they have been one of the most powerful demographic groups in the country. Armed with intelligence, dreams, and perseverance, they have ignited some of the biggest movements this country has ever seen, each generation leaving a legacy of change they could be proud of. That is, of course, until now. This current generation, the one which many of us belong to, including myself, has become know as “the apathetic generation,” a title no one should be proud of. As much as I detest the title, I must agree with its accuracy. The fact of the matter is our generation, as a whole, does not seem to care that their country is being run into the ground. What I find even more sickening is that many do not care that people view them as apathetic. I still remember vividly the first time I realized this. I was in a freshman English course, taught by a former “hippie,” at Saint Leo University in Saint Leo, Fla. The teacher belittled my peers and me for 20 minutes, calling our generation lazy and selfish. At the end of his tirade, he simply asked, “Does anyone disagree?” I looked around the classroom and noticed my hand was the only hand raised. The teacher simply shrugged and told us he had proved his point and to get out of his classroom. The current time period is very crucial in our country’s history. We are at a turning point where our time as a hegemon could either be extended considerably or come to screeching halt. Instead of doing what we can to improve our country, we are letting a small group of people change everything that this country stands for. Instead of running the country based on freedom, we are letting it be run based on fear. We entered an unjustified war, allow “inhumane” torture, support such antiAmerican legislation as the Patriot Act and allow the invasion of privacy, all to “protect ourselves.” We have come to allow such things as “national security” be used as an excuse to allow our government to act however they want. Lies take precedence over truth, which goes against everything our country stands for. Those citizens that do take a stand for their country are labeled as terrorists and unpatriotic. I am a patriot. I love my country with all of my heart. It is my patriotic duty to stand up against what I believe are injustices. It is because of my patriotism that it sickens me to see a disease such as apathy run rampant among many in my generation. The current government has had some of the lowest approval ratings in history. Rather than adhere to the people’s anger, the government simply responds by saying they are acting in our best interest. The citizens simply accept the answer. I cannot help to think that if this were any other generation this would not be happening. The last time there was war this unpopular, the American people, particularly college students, stood together in protest and were able to force the American government out of a war its people did not want. My generation, however, mutter under their breath how angry they are and somehow expect it to change things. That is, of course, if they even are aware that we are at war. How are we not flooding the streets in anger? Are we that unpatriotic that we do not care if our country is destroyed? I guess we do have more important things on our minds than saving our home, such as the latest Paris Hilton scandal. It is almost as if many of my generation have been brainwashed into believing that they can do nothing. Perhaps they have. Maybe it is some big government conspiracy. Maybe shows we grew up with like the Mickey Mouse Club had subliminal messaging telling us we are helpless, and only those select few who didn’t watch it were able to escape its reach. Maybe the entire reason television was invented was to distract us from all the good we can do in the world. After all, if we were to investigate I am certain there would be a direct correlation between the decline of activism and the rise of cartoons. In all seriousness, history has proved that we are not helpless. Every movement had to start somewhere. It takes one person to ignite the flame of change. But for some reason, my generation has forgotten this. I am sure that many corrupt politicians would like us to believe that we are helpless, but it is the furthest thing from the truth. If we let ourselves think that, then we are certainly doomed. I am so sick of people citing “reality” as a reason to not stand up against the injustices. It is our patriotic duty to stand up for what is right. “Reality” is what you make it. Two hundred years ago, banning slavery wasn’t “reality.” One hundred years ago women voting wasn’t a “reality.” Our country is one of change and we cannot forget that. The reason this is such a great country is because it is run by the people, or it used to be anyway. A few weeks ago when the abortion activists came to our campus, I was so unbelievably proud of my fellow students. Students on both sides took a stance for what they believed in. Imagine what it would be like if we utilized those feelings that were kindled that day. Why does it take someone invading our personal space to get us to act? I do not care if my fellow students are liberal, conservative, or any type of political affiliation. I just want them to care. My generation should realize how powerful they really are and how much this country desperately needs them. It is what being American is all about. If this article has offended you, there is a good chance that you are not one of the people I was referring to. There are many of us that are not suffering from apathy, but there are even more that are. I applaud those who are serving in the military, working on political campaigns, or even just taking the time to read the newspaper to become educated about their country. They are true citizens. The government is a corrupt machine. This is a fact of life. The only thing that keeps it in check are its people. If we let it run rampant then it will destroy everything we have worked so hard to build. Turn off the television and do something. This is your country; be a patriot and make a stand for it. To quote Edward Abbey: “A patriot must always be ready to defend his country against his government.” Contact Lisa Foreman at Communitarian@mail.dccc.edu. WDCR gets podcasts; No one cares By Chris Mouzakitis Special to The Communitarian Ozymandias Melancholia:condition resulting from the knowledge that one’s art means nothing and in the end won’t save them. (From “Stardust Memories”) “I’m putting on ‘Heard it Through the Grapevine.’ That should buy me about 11 minutes,” said Courtney Dozer, WDCR Station Manager. Well, you can’t blame anyone for trying. Except you can, and this being community college, you can blame people for even thinking about trying as you rot away, not doing anything to make a difference. Or maybe that’s just me. So this article was supposed to be about the radio station getting podcasts, but I don’t really care, and judging by the number of people with headphones on in the lounge—the only place where WDCR broadcasts—I doubt you do either. And I’ve got nothing against the radio station—although a show called “Fear the Wombat” certainly invites criticism — I just don’t see how this is news. Subject-No-One-Cares-About gets Object-No-One-Cares-About, an article in a Publication-No-One-Cares-About. So there you have it: This article is not worth reading, just like the radio station is not worth listening to. Once again, I mean no offense. The staff seemed friendly when I went over there, and for a community college radio station that has a broadcast area of about 30 feet, WDCR does have a surprisingly impressive setup, one worth checking out if you are ever in the neighborhood of say… the entire damn school! “I didn’t even know we had a radio station,” said Kelly Carney, a 21-year-old business student. Neither did I, until I read an article in The Communitarian about it. That article did little to clear up a common misconception. Some time in the early 90s the FCC took WDCR’s AM license away when the station exceeded the FCC’s limits on dead air. Obviously, the fact that no one plays music at night or on weekends probably hurt them more than anything, NOT because of language complaints or some crazy homemade antenna, says Amy Williams, assistant campus life director and really friendly lady. So after all this idle speculation, what have I got? Find meaning wherever you go and try not to include your iPod in this meaning. I’m writing articles for the newspaper for myself and my future and because I enjoy hearing myself speak. Don’t hold the first two against me. The third one? Well, I’m asking for it. Do you illegally download? By Steven Kennedy Downloading music from the Internet has become increasingly common among students. Some purchase albums and songs from iTunes, but illegal downloading is an attractive alternative to paying for music. Students were asked whether they downloaded music, and what they felt about not paying for the music they download. four years ago. No matter what, people still do it. There is no way to prevent, it as long as there are still ways to access it.” Sarah Benner, 22, liberal arts The Communitarian is produced by both current and former students of Fundamentals of Journalism II in collaboration with Campus Life. Students who would like to write for the campus newspaper and have already completed Fundamentals of Journalism I should register for Fundamentals of Journalism II (ENG 131). Students who have completed both classes are welcome back to join the senior staff. For more information, see Bonnie McMeans in Room 4311, call 610-359-5271, or send an e-mail to bmcmeans@dccc.edu or communitarian@mail.dccc.edu. Joe Smith Executive Editor Lisa Foreman Managing Editor Greg Weber News Editor Matt Eppright Features Editor Elizabeth Trubey Copy Editor Aleksandra Scierska Graphic Designer “Yes, it’s right because music is free and entertainment should be free.” Nicole Sumey, 19, communications, arts and humanities “No, I don’t do it, but I used to, about “Sure I think it’s right, because it’s free, music cost too much money and kids are poor these days. I don’t see a problem with it except getting viruses.” Denise Mossman, former DCCC student Contact Steven Kennedy at Communitarian@mail.dccc.edu David Richman Staff Photographer Reporters Kara Davidson Steven Kennedy Ryan McBrearty David Richman page 5 COMMENTARY Smokers should butt out of the courtyard Overzealous health nuts have no right to ban smoking Photo by David Richman I can’t decide what would be worse: being a non-smoker mistaken for one because your clothes reek of smoke, or actually sucking those “cancer sticks” down. There is little I hate more than leaving the house after an hour of primping and a few spritzes of $65 perfume, only to smell like I slept in a dive bar for the past eight hours. I’m sure I can’t be the only one to feel this way, let alone the only one to hold their breath as they walk through the courtyard of DCCC. It is hard to understand how the giant neon-green non-smoking signs that surround the doors go unnoticed—or perhaps simply ignored—turning the entrance of the academic building into a “smoke tunnel”. Should we hand out magnifying glasses, or pamphlets on the nicotine patch? I’m honestly not stupid or coldhearted; I understand that smoking is a hard-to-beat addiction. But I also understand why smokers should push themselves to quit, not only for their own good, but for everyone else’s as well. Is it really fair that I’m forced to walk through a cloud of carcinogens just because a smoker is too lazy to have a cigarette in their car? I like you guys, but I’m not willing to throw myself under the cancer-bus so you can cram a cigarette into your break between classes. It is a known fact that smoking is bad for you. You. That means the people smoking, and the people not smoking sitting next to them. The American Lung Association reminds us that lung cancer is the leading killer of all cancers in the United States causing more deaths than colon, breast and prostate cancers combined. The ALA also states that there are an estimated 3,400 lung cancer deaths—caused by secondhand smoke—in non-smoking adults per year, trumped only by the astronomical 163,000 lung cancer deaths in smokers. Now, how is this information not enough to go to the candy store and spend your newly-saved five dollars on a sugar high instead? The American Cancer Society says that there is no safe level of secondhand smoke and that there are three main places in which we should be especially cautious about secondhand smoke exposure: the workplace, the home and public places. Unless public places, including restaurants, shopping centers and schools are labeled as smoke-free, they are proven to be linked to lung cancer and heart disease in non-smokers. To some, smoking outside may seem like a good solution to eliminating secondhand smoke, but they are sorely mistaken. Secondhand smoke not only lingers in the air, but it settles into clothing, hair and carpet, and seeps in through open doors or windows. I may be crazy, but the thought of smoke settling into my hair and clothes just isn’t appealing to me—especially if I’m not the one that’s causing this settlement. Although I would look like a hero, I am very aware that my rant about secondhand smoke and lung cancer won’t make the trashcans overflow with newly-educated students’ full packs of now-unwanted cigarettes. What I am aiming to do, however, is simply not force non-smoking students and faculty to bathe in smoke clouds before entering the building. I know it makes me cranky to smell like a chimney and I’m sure it makes a lot of teachers cranky too. Cranky teachers equal harder classes. Lets eliminate this problem, make everyone happier—and healthier—and maybe we can sneak a couple good grades out of the situation. Contact Elizabeth Trubey at Communitarian@mail.dccc.edu. Banning smoking from the Marple campus courtyard would not just be unfair, it would be naive. Advocates of such a ban are making assumptions. They assume smoking is morally wrong, and they assume they are better than smokers. And, of course, they assume smokers have no rights. Such delusions are the result of a holier-than-thou attitude. There is nothing wrong and nothing criminal about a cigarette. No one has to smoke, but those who do have every right to light up where and when they choose. While some unethical laws have now been put into place prohibiting smoking in certain areas and buildings, DCCC is not yet on this list. There are limitations, but it is not a “smoke free” campus. Nor should it be. As long as it is legal on a state or national level, smoking should be allowed in the courtyard at the college. Those against smoking like pontificate and preach about the effects of secondhand smoke on people who don’t smoke. The argument is that no one can enjoy the courtyard without getting exposed to cigarettes. There is a simple solution to this problem: Back up ten feet. Step away from the smoker. The truth is that there is plenty of room in the courtyard for both those who light up and those who don’t. There are always areas every day where anyone can find a spot to sit down without breathing in anything. Secondhand smoke really isn’t the issue; it is merely a convenient- and politically correct- rallying cry. Anti-smoking advocates know which scary words will get attention from those in a position to do something. The courtyard is a space for everyone, and everyone is entitled to his own private sphere in that space. It is true a smoker has no right to light a cigarette next to someone who doesn’t like the smell. Yet at the same time, if the smoker was there first, and the other person walks up to him, what right does that person have to tell the smoker to put it out? Just as no one can cut in line at Burger King, no one can encroach on a smoker’s spot and expect him to change his behavior. In other words, if a man who doesn’t like cigarettes goes and stands near a crowd of smokers, it is his problem, not theirs. A more practical reason for scrapping even the thought of a ban is that it isn’t well thought out. Even if only one in every ten of those on campus smoke, a fairly significant percentage of people light up everyday. Unless all those people are outcasts, hopeless zombies or some other type of social pariahs, they have friends too. So the smokers will all have to move to the designated spot, and their friends will have to follow if they want to hang out with them If all those people had to leave every time they wanted a cigarette, who would be left in the courtyard? A few health nuts without the good grace to live and let live. A few overzealous activists who have no regard for other people’s rights, freedoms, or independence. And maybe one guy who would like to be smoking, but broke his leg the week before and can’t walk to the approved area wearing a cast. Yet while those health nuts may have their solitude, they won’t have clean classrooms. Winter is coming, and with it snow, mud and ice. All of which will be tracked into the buildings when smokers are forced to venture farther outdoors to get a cigarette. People will be slipping, sliding and breaking legs on the slippery floors caused by the short sighted demands of a few nonsmokers. Instead of banning smoking, I have a different proposal. Anyone who can’t deal with smoke can sit in a designated nonsmoking zone, far from the courtyard. Or sit in their cars, breathing in the exhaust fumes they themselves spew out everyday driving to school everyday. I’m sure those are healthy. Contact Greg Weber at Communitarian@mail.dccc.edu. Photo by David Richman By Gregory Weber By Elizabeth Trubey A waiter’s perspective By Matthew Eppright Hi. I’m Matt. I’ll be taking care of you tonight. Yes, I said, “taking care of you” because that is what I intend to do. Please notice I did not say, “serving or waiting on you” because that implies I will be your servant. This is not your kingdom, so I will not be serving you. I am here to assist in your dining experience and to help to make it as enjoyable as possible. During our time together, I will be frequently talking with you. Please treat me as an equal. This is not my career. I am working here to pay my bills while I attend school. When I first arrive at your table, I will begin with, “How are you?” This is not a trick question. I expect a response. You may say good, fine, horrible or anywhere in between. Asking me the same question in return is not expected but polite and appreciated. However, even if I’m having the worst night of my life, I will still respond with a, “Great, thanks!” According to corporate rules, I am required to inform you of the soup and the fish of the day. Trust me, I will tell you. Do not interrupt me halfway through my telling you my name because I will not respond. I will continue my speech and to your question when I am finished. Think of it as attending the theater. This is a one-man show and I am the star. You wouldn’t yell over the lead actor in a theater, would you? I will ask if I can get you started with something to drink. Please do not say, “Oh no, I’ll just have water!” Is water wet? Do you swallow it? I’m almost positive that water, is indeed, a drink. As I take your order, I may ask you several questions. I’m very sorry if this is annoying, but remember I am here to help you enjoy your dining experience. If you order a steak I will repeat the temperature you ordered and explain to you how that will look inside. Please pay attention. Listening was a skill we all learned in kindergarten. When your steak comes out medium rare which is warm and bright red in the center, do not send it back because you wanted it brown throughout. Remember I asked you if medium rare was okay and you agreed. Your food will come out as quickly as the kitchen cooks it. If I could get back there and cook it faster I would, but that is not part of my job description. I will keep you updated on the progress of your meal. If you are having a panic attack because you must eat immediately, that is fine. Just wait for me to get my managers so you can yell at them, not me. About two minutes after your food arrives I will stop by to see how everything came out for you. Please tell me if something is wrong and I will try my hardest to make it right. Do not wait until you are finished and then complain, that will not ensure you a free meal. Now is your chance to complain as much as you want, while I can still fix it. During the course of your meal, I will bring you refills when I see that your drinks are getting low. If I happen to miss one, do not hesitate to ask me. I will gladly and swiftly replace it. However, do not make the slurping sound with your straw, use your big boy words, not sound effects. Also do not raise your hand in the air and say, “Sir,” to get my attention. When we first met I introduced myself, so please use my name. I’m very glad you are enjoying a nice family dinner; however, remember this is a place of business. Your bundles of joy are not that adorable while chasing me around the restaurant screaming and waving chicken fingers. Also I’m not a butler. So when your little darlings decide to play catch with the sugar packets please have the decency to shove the packets back into their container. Our time together is winding down. As I clear your plates I will conduct a balancing act that Barnum and Bailey would be proud of. It is fine to watch in amazement, but don’t question my skills. If I drop a plate on your head, it’s simply because you doubted me and broke my concentration. I’m going to drop off your check now. As you calculate the tip remember that I am a poor college student. Please tip on how well I treated you, not how you liked the food or how fast they cooked it. Our cooks receive hourly paychecks. I, on the other hand, depend 100 percent on the cash that you leave me. More than likely, I am worthy of 20 percent of your check, or at least 18. Also, a reminder to grandma: this is not 1960, so 15 percent is not considered a generous tip. As you exit the restaurant, I will tilt my head to the right, smile, wave and say, “Thank you. Have a great night!” I hope you thoroughly enjoyed your experience at this establishment and your time with me. Remember, I am here five days a week so if you care to see my show again, please make reservations. Contact Matthew Eppright at communitarian@ mail.dccc.edu page 6 DCCC falls for Flags of our Fathers Continued from page 1 “At the center of America’s most heroic moment were the six young marines who raised the flag on top of Mt. Suribachi.” James Bradley discusses how he wrote Flags of our Fathers. money made up the war budget, which paid for the war independently of the country’s normal national budget. “The three surviving flag raisers were called to a meeting with the president in the Oval Office,” Bradley said, “and they were assigned to a new mission.” They were assigned to go on a war bond Photo courtesy of DCCC Public Rrelations Hayes was an American Indian and, after returning home from the war, had serious emotional problems. He suffered from posttraumatic stress disorder and was surprised to be called a hero after so many of his fellow marines had died. He became an alcoholic, Photo courtesy of DCCC Public Relations each one by one on the famous photograph projected on the screen behind him. Gagnon, only 19 in the photograph, was the youngest of the flag raisers and the first to return home from Iwo Jima. “He had a picture of his girlfriend inside of his helmet to protect him,” Bradley said, “He was scared, he was just a boy.” Strank was the sergeant, and is seen in the photograph with his hand around the wrist of one of the younger marines, helping him to hoist the flagpole. He had turned down a promotion two months earlier to stay and fight alongside his boys. He was hit by a mortar and died on Mar 1, 1945 on Iwo Jima. The photograph is an enduring testament to his character. “His boys called him the ‘old man’” Bradley said of Strank, “He was only 24.” Bradley speaks to Don Waldz, an Iwo Jima veteran. tour across the country in an effort to raise 14 billion dollars, which was more money than had ever been by war bonds before and a seemingly impossible task. They ended up raising 26 billion. “They filled stadiums across the country and were received like rock stars,” Bradley said. Bradley then changed directions, moving on to speak about his experience pitching Flags of Our Fathers to publishing agents and Photo courtesy of DCCC Pubic Relations and died tragically at 33. Salsley was “just a hillbilly from Kentucky,” according to Bradley. He had a deep bond with his mother, Goldy. When he left home he said, “Don’t worry about me, mama, I’ll come home a hero.” He was a hero, but he never came home. “The neighbors could hear Goldy scream all night after she got the news of his death,” Bradley said, “and the nearest neighbors lived over a quarter of a mile away.” Block was the last of the flag raisers to be identified. He is the marine seen from behind, pushing the end of the flagpole into the ground. There was confusion as to who this was in the photograph, and he was initially wrongly identified as Hank Hanson. Block also died on Iwo Jima. “His mother, Belle, saw the photograph for the first time in the newspaper and immediately recognized it as her boy” Bradley said. She insisted that she “knew her boy.” The government and the public didn’t believe her until there was a congressional investigation two years later. “Belle did indeed know her boy,” Bradley said. Bradley continued his presentation, talking about the contributions that the surviving flag raisers made to the war bond effort, explaining to the crowd that all of the money for the war was borrowed. The borrowed then to publishers. He knew that he was an insider and that he was the only person who could gather the individual stories of the flag raisers. Furthermore, he knew that everyone in the country “had the image of the flag raising imprinted in their minds,” but that no one really knew the stories behind it. To Bradley, that translated into an instant New York Times #1 Best-Seller. But he had a problem. “I had never written anything before,” he said, “I was never even a staff writer on my school newspaper.” He obtained the names and phone numbers of possible agents by searching through already published books in the “War” section at a local bookstore. He called each, and one after another they hung up on him before he could even get the words “best-seller” out of his mouth. “Every time it was one of those loud ‘BANG’ hang-ups,” Bradley said, “the kind with angry force behind them.” Eventually, he found an agent that was interested in his story. That was the easy part. Finding a publisher was a whole new and discouraging adventure. “I sent 3 proposals to 3 different publishers to start,” Bradley said, “and I was just wondering which I would pick.” He received 3 rejections. “I thought ‘That’s OK’,” Bradley said, “I must have started with the idiots.” He received 10 more rejections in 12 months. Then his idea was rejected 8 more times. “After the 21st rejection I went into my office and laid on the floor in a fetal position,” Bradley said. The crowd laughed. “Yea, its funny now!” Eventually, Bantam Books agreed to publish Flags of Our Fathers. It was a New Bradley chats with Steve Frederick and Provost Ginny Carter York Times Best-Seller in 4 weeks. Bradley concluded his presentation with a short question and answer session with the crowd, and received a standing ovation. Afterward, the Delaware County residents filed into line outside of the auditorium to get their copies of Flags of Our Fathers signed, while being treated to a complimentary snack table. There was a feeling of euphoria in the crowd, and the general consensus among both the organizers and the spectators was that Bradley’s visit to DCCC was a success. “I enjoyed his presentation,” said Patrick Viestir, 22, a Communication Studies major at DCCC. “He was very thorough and enthusiastic. I also thought he seemed very down to earth and honest.” Viestir was just beginning to read Flags of Our Fathers as an assignment for his Western Myths class, and felt that Bradley’s presentation would deepen his enjoyment of the rest of the book. Several World War II veterans were also in attendance, including Don Waldz. Waldz and his wife, Peg, had the opportunity to speak with Bradley at the luncheon pre-event. Waldz was a Medical Corpsman posted on a floating reserve ship during the battle of Iwo Jima and he watched the flag raising from sea with a pair of field glasses. Also in attendance was DCCC’s Provost, Dr. Virginia Carter. “I whole-heartedly enjoyed it, he was very eloquent,” she said, “his stories of the 6 marines left me wanting to know more.” Contact Ryan McBrearty at communitarian@mail.dccc.edu Sitting down with Author James Bradley by Ryan McBrearty Q: How did you go about compiling research for Flags of our Fathers? A: “Research” is a big word. I really just called (the families of the flag raisers) and took verbatim notes. One note and one interview led to more notes and more interviews. Q: What role did you play in the production of the movie? A: Well, I wrote the book and looked over the screenplay, but I didn’t really have any say. No one tells Clint Eastwood what to do. Q: How well do you feel that the movie adequately portrays your book? A: The movie only has 2 hours to portray 16 hours of reading, so obviously something has to be lost in the movie. My biggest concern was whether it was going to be emotionally accurate, whether people came away from the movie with the same emotions that they would from the book. (The producers) chose very emotional actors for the movie, and I feel like they did a good job of making it emotionally accurate. Q: What advice would you give to an aspiring writer? A: Write. Everyone talks about writing and thinks about writing, but writing is writing. You have to do it for hours a day. Tiger Woods hits thousands of balls every day to be where he is. It took me 5 years to write Flags of our Fathers, and my editor estimates that I wrote over 7,000 pages for my 360-page book. Q: What are you working on next? A: Its called “The Imperial Cruise.” It’s about America’s approach to imperialism in Asia in 1905. When William Taft was the Secretary of War, he took a cruise from San Francisco, to Hawaii, to Japan, to the Philippines, to China and back to San Francisco. 100 years later I took that exact same cruise. By Kara Davidson How to break up Romantic relationships don’t always turn out for the best. Have you ever been in a relationship you must get out of, but have no idea what to do to end it? If so, then follow these guidelines to orchestrate a civil and level-headed breakup. “You don’t need definite reasons and it doesn’t need to be logical; it could be just for emotional reasons,” says Levitan. For example, two former clients of Levitan’s were dating for three years. The couple eventually moved in together. Although they shared a lease and two cats, the one partner realized that as good as the other Choose the right time Avoid breaking up around birthdays, holidays and anniversaries. Be sensitive if certain days hold importance for the other person, for instance, if someone important to that person died on a particular day. Photo courtesy of www.nanobeepers.com Weigh the outcomes Consider the positive and negative aspects of your relationship carefully before deciding on a course of action. Take notice of all of the consequences that could result from the decision to break up, which could potentially affect family members, children and surrounding friends. “Even though there could be implications, one should know when the decision is the right one,” said Justin Levitan, a licensed social worker and couples therapist. “For example, in an abusive marriage, one must take into account how those problems are affecting the children or themselves. Just because one sees the negative implications of the decision doesn’t mean that they may not outweigh the positive results.” Sometimes breaking up with someone can give you time to heal from the wounds, such as your emotions being taken for granted in the relationship. Breaking up with someone could offer an opportunity to figure out your own feelings. When ending a relationship, there doesn’t need to be a list of problems that are wrong. Even though someone may not have done anything hurtful to you, he or she just might not be the right person for you. “If something feels wrong or bad or off, it may be time to break up,” says April Masini, a relationship expert and the author of “50 First Dates and The Next 50 Dates.” cause any scenes or fights in public. about ways to slowly recover personal items, especially if you feel your partner could be vindictive. One tactic is to get back your most important items in a casual manner, such as politely asking for some things back. The most important or valuable items should be in your possession before the breakup to prevent Take time and reflect Reflect upon the current state of your relationship. If it is violent and unhealthy, then it’s imperative to end the relationship as soon as possible. Yet, not all troubled relationships are doomed. You could just be in a rough patch. If the relationship is relatively healthy and stable most of the time, then don’t be hasty to end it. Don’t be emo. Learn how to break up the right way. person was, she didn’t want to spend the rest of their life with that individual. “In this situation the one who made the decision, in fairness to both of their futures, had to end the relationship,” says Levitan. “And had the relationship not ended, it might have become more difficult,” because the couple may have married, had a home and had children together. your ex from keeping items out of spite. Furthermore, if your partner reacts to the breakup in a violent or negative manner while still in possession of your items, he might take out his anger on your things by breaking or disposing of them. If you want additional personal things returned, politely ask for them and arrange for a mutually convenient time to pick them up. Separate mutual items Think about separating the things that are shared in the relationship, such as a house or lease, finances, pets or rent. Be conscious of circumstances that might result from ending the relationship. If your partner and you had children together, then start thinking about which days each person gets to spend with the children. Leave your friends out of it If you share the same friends, it’s important to not get them involved in the breakup. Also, don’t communicate to the person you’re breaking up with through your mutual friends because this only adds more problems and stress to the situation. If you frequent the same places as your ex, think about going to places where your ex won’t usually go-- at least until both of you have had time to recover and move on from the relationship. It’s important not to Safeguard personal items If you anticipate breaking up, think page 7 Pick a location “A neutral location is important in order to avoid a potential dangerous situation,” said Levitan. “Some neutral locations may be in a public place, such as in back of a restaurant where each person can talk privately but there is help nearby should the break-up become violent. Do it face to face When it comes to the actual breakup, it’s best to break up in person. Doing so over the phone or e-mail insults your partner by not showing her the respect of confronting her. “If you have the guts to go out with somebody, you’d better have the guts to end it in person,” says Gilda Carle, a psychotherapist and the author of “Teen Talk With Dr. Gilda: A Girl’s Guide to Dating.” While breaking up with your partner, you should avoid making the breakup more difficult by lying, placing blame or attacking your soon-to-be ex emotionally. “Set the person down and be very clear of the decision. Keep the communication lines open and find a way to discuss issues that would cause less damage to each other or other people,” Levitan added. Be honest, but civil Don’t give your partner a poor excuse for why you’re leaving him. Tell him the truth about your decision. Inform the other person why and how you’ve come to the decision to end the relationship. For more information go to http://www.reachout.com.au/ and http://www.health guidance.org. Contact Kara Davidson at communitarian@ mail.dccc.edu Former student relives moment of glory By Lisa Foreman A couple years ago, former DCCC student Chis Mouzakitis stopped an attempted robbery in its tracks. He spoke to me about what happened when the robber messed with “the bull.” Lisa Foreman: Tell me your story. Chris Mouzakitis: It took place two years ago in D.C. in a video store. It was the day before Halloween and I was dressed as Richie Tenenbaum, you know from the Royal Tenenbaums? Well I was working with a girl, dressed as a slutty French maid, and some old guy. Foreman: About how old? Mouzakitis: Oh I don’t know probably about 40. He was some stoner guy. The store was empty. It was about 10:30 at night, and this guy walked in. He was a thin white 30year-old male. He had his shirt pulled up over his head and had what looked like a gun to me. I guess it was obvious that it wasn’t a gun but from my point of view I couldn’t tell. He told us, “Give me the money,” and the older guy started struggling with him. The girl and I were throwing stuff at the robber. We were throwing pens and I had a big Wawa jug of water I threw at him. Suddenly the two of them, still struggling, got pushed outside. The girl and I were standing there for like three minutes waiting for them. We called the cops and then the robber came running back in. He started running around the store, knocking things down. He was just being stupid more than anything. I just thought, “What are you doing?! We’re going to have to pick that up later!” Then the older guy came back in. The robber just stood there glaring at him. The two sat in like a face off for what seemed like ever. Behind the counter we had two “weapons,” a pole and a hockey stick. I chose the pole figuring it would do more damage. I hit the robber on the back of his head and he fell. But I didn’t hit him too hard because he wasn’t dead. He just looked at me and asked, “What’d you do that for?” I don’t remember but I was told by the girl that I had said something like: “You mess with the bull you get the horns.” The girl also told me later that she had never seen me that violent before. Anyway the “I want to be sort of an equalizer type. I want to do it for the little man.” robber got up and stumbled out the store. We later found out that he had been picked up off the sidewalk by the police and had to get stitches. The most random part is five minutes after this all took place, a middle aged balding guy walked out of the adult section of our store. We just looked at him. We had no clue he was there. We asked “Didn’t you hear what was happening out here?” He acted as if nothing had happened and said he thought we were just messing around. Foreman: So what were you thinking while this was all going on? Mouzakitis: At first I was just really scared. I mean it was a really creepy night. Foreman: Mischief Night, right? Mouzakitis: Yes, and on top of that the video store was in kind of a bad area. But the fear turned into confusion. I mean the guy was obviously not dangerous. It was just like, “What’s going on?” Foreman: So why did you do it? What were you thinking? Mouzakitis: I just wanted it to be over. It was just going to go on forever. I also know I am not the strongest guy and he may be thin and all but I didn’t want him coming after me next. Foreman: How did your friends and family react? Mouzakitis: My family were obviously concerned. My friends were concerned once I got them to realize that I had not been the aggressor. Foreman:Why would they think that you were the aggressor? Mouzakitis: I have a history of being a little angry towards customers Foreman: Can you give me some examples? Mouzakitis: At the video store late fees were a huge problem. One time I had a guy pull my hair out. Foreman: Pull your hair out? Mouzakitis: What happened was he had late fees and got angry with me over it. He said he didn’t appreciate my attitude and asked that I just give him his change so he can go. I threw the change at him and he pulled my hair out. Yeah, I had a lot of arguments over late fees. Foreman: Was the video store your only retail job where you had bad customer relations? Mouzakitis: At Borders, the only other retail job I have had, I got into a lot of arguments with customers. But it wasn’t as bad, since they didn’t have late fees. Foreman: So was your past history in retail the only reason your friends seem to think your violent? Mouzakitis: No.... There are other incidents. For example in high school I once told my principal to “F--K off.” Foreman: Did your friends think of you any differently after the robber incident? Mouzakitis: At the store I got the reputation of being violent and got the nickname “Bruiser.” Foreman: How did it make you feel to do something like this? Mouzakitis: Surprised. It made me want to knock people out more. I had to hide the pole in the back. We just told the police that we used the hockey stick. Foreman: So do you see crime stopping in your future? Mouzakitis: I don’t know. I mean I could see it being fun. But I wouldn’t feel right doing that to little kids and stuff. Foreman: So you want to pick fights with only older people and not the kids? Mouzakitis: Right! Exactly. I want to be sort of an equalizer type. I want to do it for the little man. Foreman: Did you ever find out what happened to the robber? Mouzakitis: Besides the stitches, no. I am pretty sure he did not get charged with a crime though. I later found out that he used to work at the store and had been fired because he kept stealing and was a heroin addict. It also was like his second time trying to rob the place. The weird thing is his dad actually came to the store a week later and said, “I don’t blame you,” like it was something normal. Foreman: Is there anything else that you would like to say? Mouzakitis: No, other than that guy in the adult section was still so weird. He just walked out as if nothing happened and he had been in the store the whole time. Contact Lisa Foreman at communitarian@mail.dccc.edu page 8
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