Volume 32, Number 9 May 2013 Iyyar/Sivan 5773
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Volume 32, Number 9 May 2013 Iyyar/Sivan 5773 directory Temple Beth Abraham Services Schedule is proud to support the Conservative Movement by affiliating with The United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism. Services/ Time Advertising Policy: Anyone may sponsor an issue of The Omer and receive a dedication for their business or loved one. Contact us for details. We do not accept outside or paid advertising. The Omer is published on paper that is 30% post-consumer fibers. The Omer (USPS 020299) is published monthly except July and August by Congregation Beth Abraham, 336 Euclid Avenue, Oakland, CA 94610. Periodicals Postage Paid at Oakland, CA. POSTMASTER: Send address changes to The Omer, c/o Temple Beth Abraham, 336 Euclid Avenue, Oakland, CA 94610-3232. © 2013. Temple Beth Abraham. The Omer is published by Temple Beth Abraham, a non-profit, located at 336 Euclid Avenue, Oakland, CA 94610; telephone 510-832-0936. It is published monthly except for the months of July and August for a total of ten issues per annum. It is sent as a requester publication and there is no paid distribution. Location Monday & Thursday Morning Minyan Chapel 8:00 a.m. Friday Evening (Kabbalat Shabbat) Chapel 6:15 p.m. Shabbat Morning Sanctuary 9:30 a.m. Candle Lighting (Friday) May 3 May 10 May 17 May 24 May 31 7:44 p.m. 7:50 p.m. 7:56 p.m. 8:02 p.m. 8:07 p.m. May 4 May 11 May 18 May 25 Behar-Bechukotai Bamidbar Nasso Behaalotchah Torah Portions (Saturday) To view The Omer in color, visit www.tbaoakland.org. General INFORMATION All phone numbers use (510) prefix unless otherwise noted. Mailing Address 336 Euclid Ave. Oakland, CA 94610 Hours M-Th: 9:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m. Fr: 9:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m. Office Phone 832-0936 Office Fax 832-4930 E-Mail admin@tbaoakland.org Gan Avraham 763-7528 Bet Sefer 663-1683 STAFF Rabbi (x 213) Cantor (x 218) Gabai Executive Director (x 214) Office Coordinator (x 210) Bet Sefer Director (x 217) Gan Avraham Director (x 219) Bookkeeper (x 215) Custodian (x 211) Kindergym/Toddler Program Volunteers (x 229) Mark Bloom Richard Kaplan Jay Goldman Rayna Arnold Virginia Tiger Susan Simon Barbara Kanter Kevin Blattel Joe Lewis Dawn Margolin 547-7726 Herman & Agnes Pencovic OFFICERS President Vice President Vice President Vice President Vice President Secretary Treasurer i Bryan Schwartz 814-1936 Mark Fickes 652-8545 Rachel Teichman 858-922-0145 Steve Grossman 834-3937 Laura Wildmann 601-9571 Flo Raskin 653-7947 Susan Shub 852-2500 Committees & organizations If you would like to contact the committee chairs, please contact the synagogue office for phone numbers and e-mail addresses. Adult Education Steve Glaser & Aaron Paul Chesed Warren Gould Development Steve Grossman & Flo Raskin Dues Evaluation Susan Shub Endowment Fund Herman Pencovic Finance Susan Shub Gan Avraham Parents Laura Kaplan & Rachel Teichman Gan Avraham School Committee Rebecca Posamentier House Stephen Shub Israel Affairs J.B. Leibovitch Membership Mark Fickes Men’s Club Jeff Ilfeld Omer Lori Rosenthal Personnel Laura Wildmann Public Relations Lisa Fernandez Ritual Eric Friedman Schools Rachel Teichman Social Action Marc Bruner Torah Fund Anne Levine Web Site Liz Willner Women of TBA Jeanne Korn Youth Phil Hankin what’s happening Jews in Bad Shoes Bowling May 2 at 7:30 p.m. at Alameda Bowl with pizza and beer. Contact Howard Zangwill for details. The Teen Scene May 12, 6:00 - 7:30 p.m. Baum Center The Teen Scene program, a place for teens with special needs to come and hang out with typical teens and do fun activities together. Events begin with a light supper from Oakland Kosher. Spring Session final date:June 2. Sha’a b’Matana: May 6 Thanks to you all for your enthusiasm and support of the Sha’a b’Matana (an hour’s gift) speaker series. We have had great turnout at each and every event! Mark your calendars now for May 6, 7:30-8:30 p.m., when TBA President, Bryan Schwartz, will speak on Understanding Employment Law for Employers and Workers. Sha’a b’Matana (An Hour’s Gift) is a new series of monthly speakers, members of our TBA community, who have volunteered to share their professional expertise with you in an intimate, informal setting. We hope you’ll come out, get some expert advice, and enjoy a relaxed evening with other TBA members. Please feel free to contact Tosha Schore directly with questions at toshaschore@gmail.com. Please contact Devorah Romano with any questions or to sign up: dl@fcberkeley.org or (510) 396-4285. TBA Goes to Israel Sunday, May 19, 7:30 p.m. TBA Chapel Come learn about the next Temple Beth Abraham congregational trip to Israel, to be held in July of 2014. Yes, of course we will see the Wall, the beach, and Machanei Yehuda, but there will be much, much more in store. Come hear about the initial plans, and be part of the planning process for this next trip. It will be suitable for both first timers and frequent visitors. So, even if you went in 2011, maybe especially if you went in 2007, come to the meeting on May 19. Israeli wine will be served! J TEXAS TEXAS HOLD HOLD ‘EM ‘EM POKER TOURNEY BE N E F I T T I NG T H E SUNDAY, MAY 19, 2013 Temple Beth Abraham Social Hall 327 MacArthur Boulevard, Oakland 4:30pm: Registration and Bar Opens 5pm: Tournament Starts 6pm: Dinner Pre-game poker tutorial and tips by professionals included Top finishers and raffle winners will receive BIG prizes! $65 per player buy-in includes dinner, refreshments and snacks. & Volunteer Recognition Book now, “early bird” registrations will receive a $200 bonus chip for the game Buy your tickets online at http://www.jshofnc.org/pokertourney Questions? Email bbarnes510@gmail.com J May 19 TBA Annual Meeting 1 from the rabbi We Teach Your Children Well Am I allowed to take a moment to brag? I am going to anyway. I have a strong memory of my first trip to Los Angeles with the 7th graders. The first night there we held an evening service, and I asked for volunteers to lead the various prayers. My requests were met with silence. This is not uncommon with 7th graders. But then one of them spoke up and said, “it’s not that we don’t want to volunteer; it’s just that we don’t really know the prayers.” We have come a long way since then. It wasn’t the students’ fault. They had had something like four different Bet Sefer directors in three years. There was no continuity to the program, no focus to the curriculum. We decided that with a four hour a week program, we needed to be much more targeted in our approach. We would focus primarily on prayer. We teach other things besides prayer of course— values, mitzvoth, life cycle, Bible stories, Talmud, commentaries, and much more. But teaching prayer is still the core. It’s not just to prepare them for Bar and Bat Mitzvah. My goal was (and still is) that our kids should graduate Bet Sefer with the ability to be comfortable at any synagogue in the world, Conservative, Orthodox, or Reform. From then on, by the 7th grade Los Angeles trip, every kid should be able to lead any of the evening prayers. Then Susan Simon took on the job as the full time Director, and things really took off. She hired better teachers, she established clear expectations, she built up the Junior Congregation, she added family educational programs to every grade, she worked with individual students who needed extra help, she met with parents, and she went above and beyond to improve the school. I have worked at other synagogues where the goal of Bet Sefer was that the kids have fun. It’s a noble goal, but no matter what you do, most kids would still rather be playing soccer, taking ballet lessons, or sitting at home on their computer. So the kids end up learning very little and still not having fun. The fun at our school comes in the kids getting to know one another and in the accomplishment of learning something. These kids are smart. They will rise to the occasion when they know their time is not being wasted. Susan is constantly looking at ways to improve our school to make it even better. It is still only a four hour a week supplemental program. But, in all honesty, and with great pride, I can tell you that we are indeed “teaching your children well.” Thank You I would like to thank our Temple’s Second Generation of the Holocaust for giving us such a warm reception, the meaningful service, delicious luncheon prepared by Jing, and the beautiful orchids on the tables. It was delightful and meant so much to me. Also thank you to the TBA congregation for being so warm and loving to us. Misia Nudler 2 Shavuot Services Tuesday, May 14 6:15 p.m. Family Services, Sticker Rewards, & Ice Cream Party 8 p.m.-Midnight, Tikkun Leyl Shavuot Late Night Study Session Wednesday, May 15 9 a.m. First Day Services in the Chapel Thursday, May 16 9 a.m. Second Day Services & Yizkor in the Chapel from the president Teach Your Children by Example – Serve Your Community By Bryan Schwartz A dozen years ago in Israel, Rabbi Moishe Schlass gave me a pair of tefillin and taught me to wear them. On winter days when I inhabited a formerly abandoned apartment in Ukraine, hiking the Inca trail in Peru, living alongside the Delaware River in Pennsylvania, I learned to recite the three-paragraph Shema by heart in Hebrew, as I wrapped myself in tefillin: “Take My words to your hearts and to your souls, and bind them for a sign on your hands and for frontlets [tefillin] between your eyes. Teach them to your children: to speak them when you sit in your house and when you walk on the road, when you lie down and when you rise up.” I still perform this ritual every morning. Since having a child, I have often been aware of my daughter watching me do this, and she has become more aware of the significance of the ritual over time. “Daddy…can I–?” Camelia will start to ask as I am starting morning prayers. “Give Daddy a minute,” I say, “I am talking to G-d.” It has seemed to me lately that this is the very purpose of tefillin – to inspire this conversation in every generation, to show our children by example that we are taking time out to connect with something larger than ourselves and dayto-day concerns. It is the same with community. For the last five years on TBA’s Board, and the last two as your President, I have been acutely aware of setting an example for my daughter. Though she has generally been too young to understand where I am going so many Tuesday evenings, I always explain, “Daddy has a meeting at the synagogue.” On Shabbat mornings, Camelia knows well that it is our synagogue time together, when she can come sit in my lap (often on the bimah) while I help her unwrap her Ein Keloheinu candies. Doing a school garden planting in East Oakland for Tu B’Shevat, or a march against genocide or to fight AIDS, she has joined with Mommy and Daddy and the TBA community in Tikun Olam. I believe these are osmosis lessons – through the feeling of her hands in small gardening gloves, or the warmth of Golden Gate Park sunshine on her face, or helping her parents hold a sign and walk with other families in protest of atrocities – a child gains a sensory connection with social justice, and with community. Now that my term as this congregation’s leader is coming to a close, my hope is that as President, Vice President, and Social Action Chair over the last five years, I have helped give more TBA members opportunities to teach their children, by example, the many worthwhile lessons this sacred community has to offer. I know you have been proud, with me, to collect more food and clothing to donate to the poor in our midst than ever before. I have seen many kids on their way to the Gan or Bet Sefer helping their folks deposit bags of contributions in the bins which overflow so often that TBA’s maintenance staff feels it has a part-time job tallying them all. You have brought your children with you to new programs, like welcoming diverse Jewish speakers from China and Uganda, applauding TBA’s talented musicians, or just joining together to celebrate Jews in baseball. We taught our children together – Jews are multicultural, musical, and athletic. You have joined with me to set a good example for our children, taking this congregation out of debt – embracing fiscal responsibility – and firmly establishing a new capital campaign, to continue improving our campus into the future. When our children read in the Omer or on a donations placard at the synagogue that we have donated to help in the Centennial and in the Next Big Thing – the Murray Davis Courtyard project – they see what we value – love for our brethren, benevolence, and Jewish continuity. Now I plan to do as TBA Presidents before me have done, and set an example by remaining involved. Sandy Margolin, Rick Heeger, Steve Shub… just the three most recent, great TBA Presidents who I regularly see on Shabbat, and at committee meetings, remaining an integral part of our congregation’s life. Jewish values are in rituals, like laying tefillin. We also teach our children by our role in community life. I hope you feel that I am leaving our community stronger than I found it when I entered a leadership role five years ago. I know that for my daughter, seeing me so involved with TBA has been an important lesson. For me, leading this congregation has been among the greatest honors of my life. 3 editor’s message My Tenure Ends as Omer Editor … Next Month By Lori Rosenthal When I started copy editing for the Omer in 2005, I certainly did not have any intention of becoming its Editor. I loved the way I could use my writing skills to help the synagogue and also the fact that, as part of the Omer team, I had free rein to explore any aspect of synagogue life that interested me. Over time, what interested me more than anything else was the way we operated as a community – especially outside the walls of the sanctuary. Sure, as a Conservative congregation, many of our activities are sanctuary based. With Shabbat services on both Friday night and Saturday mornings, and holiday observance scattered throughout the year, there is certainly a lot of ritual glue to hold us together. Yet, with a membership in the 400s and weekly attendance at services far less than that, there is clearly much more going on among our members than what takes place in the sanctuary. And so I took on the Omer Editor in Chief position with this focus in mind. And asked congregants to contribute their own stories to the Omer. Over time, I’ve heard a lot from many of you. You generously contributed stories about how your family creates meaningful holiday celebrations, volunteer activities that give you great joy, the role of Jewish summer camp in your life, how you are “greening” your world, the chavurot in which you take part, Israel stories, the role gratitude plays in your daily world, as well as about the wonderful lasting Jewish memories that sweeten your lives. Like any parent, I have my favorites. In June 2007, in a beautiful issue for TBA’s Centennial year, we covered the history of our congregation chock full of historic photos and stories. In May 2010, we highlighted members of our congregation who work in the Food industry. February 2011 focused on TBA members who work and play in the world of Music. The November 2011 issue was all about the Artists among us. And in April 2012, we focused on the members of our Second Generation Group in a beautiful issue full of memories and family photos. Each of these issues gave me wonder anew at how varied and interesting our congregants are. Some folks who I have never seen in the sanctuary or never noticed in a leadership role around the shul have such rich lives and contribute deeply in other places. Our community is stronger for it. A particular joy I had as editor was working with our cover artists. To get a sense of the beauty and variety of their work, view this page on the TBA website: http://www.tbaoakland.org/community/newsletter?start=20. It’s like looking at a Jewish Art Gallery. David Avidor lent his artistic hand for three years of covers from 2007 – 2010. Ruth Teitelbaum used her own style of graphics for two years from 2011 – 2012. And in 2013, we had a rotating group of talented artists including Lauren Manasse Smith, Joni Tanis, Daniel Sosebee, and Ruth Teitelbaum. Speaking of artists, I want to give a huge shout out to the graphic talents of Jessica Sterling, who continued on page 6 Cover artist: Lauren Manasse Smith (bio on page 16). the Omer June Omer Theme: Summer We cheerfully accept member submissions. Deadline for articles and letters is the seventh of the month preceding publication. Editor in Chief Managing Editor Layout & Design Calendars B’nai Mitzvah Editor Cover Lori Rosenthal Lisa Fernandez Jessica Sterling Jon Golding Susan Simon Lauren Manasse Smith Help From People like you! 4 Copy Editors Jessica Dell’Era, Nadine Joseph, Richard Kauffman, Jan Silverman, Debbie Spangler Proofreaders June Brott, Jessica Dell’Era, Charles Feltman, Jeanne Korn, Anne Levine, Stephen Shub, Susan Simon, Debbie Spangler, Rachel Dornhelm Distribution Fifi Goodfellow, Hennie Hecht, Herman and Agnes Pencovic, Gertrude Veiss Mailing Address 336 Euclid Ave. Oakland, CA 94610 E-Mail omer@tbaoakland.org wtba, our sisterhood A few of our happy Bunco champs at WTBA’s April Girls Night Out. The Baum Center was rocking with much needed laughter as we learned this fun social dice game. Thanks to Susan Gildea for teaching us to play and awarding to the winners! Come Out and Play at WTBA’s Girls’ Night Out Thursday, May 2, 7:30 - 9:00 p.m. The Baum Youth Center, 341 MacArthur Game Night Let yourself come out to play with your TBA friends of all ages. We’ll have our usual wine and cheese, with an assortment of word and board games and accompanying laughter and camaraderie. Prizes for the winners! Girls’ Night is a casual monthly event open to all TBA women. A social time where TBA women can get to know each other better. Come for all or part, and no need to bring a thing! Meet old friends, and make new friends. RSVP to Jeanne at jeannekorn@aol.com Women on the Move Sunday, May 12 WTBA hikes happen the second Sunday of every month. We meet at 9:45 and depart promptly at 10:00. Hikes end by 11:30. We will meet at the Skyline Gate on Skyline just south of Snake and hike in Redwood Regional Park. For details, contact Deena Aerenson at (510) 225-5107 or daerenson@gmail.com. Rosh Chodesh Special Evening Meeting on MAY 6 On behalf of The Women of TBA (WTBA) and Oakland Ruach Hadassah, we would like to invite all East Bay Women to join our Rosh Chodesh group. The group typically meets monthly on the Monday closest to Rosh Chodesh, from 9:30 to 11:30 a.m. at rotating members’ homes. This month we are meeting on May 6 at 7:00 p.m. The meetings are facilitated by members of the group. As a community of women, we explore the emotional and intellectual themes that live in Torah and connect to our lives. There is no cost to participate and it’s fine to come intermittently. This year we are studying the book, Lifecycles: Jewish Women on Life Passages and Personal Milestones (Volume 1) edited by Rabbi Debra Orenstein. In her book, Rabbi Orenstein poses the question “How the Jewish community might be enhanced if it fully incorporated women’s experiences and talents?” The topic for this month is on intermarriage in Jewish communities and the question of Jews and non-Jews choosing Judaism. Ideas for new customs are presented by a variety of women from diverse Jewish backgrounds. Each meeting opens with a short discussion about the significance of the current month. Our last meeting this year is on June 10 at 9:30 a.m. for the month of Tammuz. Mark your calendar now! Questions? Contact Debbie Spangler at debspang@ yahoo.com or (510) 531-1105 to get on the distribution list for the upcoming meeting locations. 5 men’s club Men’s Club News By Jereme Albin, Men’s Club Board Member I write this article after having just completed two amazing and meaningful Seders. The second night was an intimate gathering with my wife and children, during which my kids were able to ask a lot of questions. We had a meaningful discussion about the tenth plague and why God was justified in acting in such a manner. Devarim 6:7 says, “v’shinan’tam l’vanekha v’dibar’ta bam. You shall teach them diligently to your children and you shall speak of them.” The Torah references the commandment of teaching our children in multiple instances. While I look at the Seder as a teaching moment, Judaism is full of them. Hebrew School teaches our children to read Hebrew, and the rabbi’s d’rash helps them to understand Torah. The act of lighting Shabbat candles on Friday night helps teach the sanctity of the Sabbath. Rashi says that, “your children” refer to others as well. It is incumbent on all of us to teach others a bit of Torah whenever possible. Lori’s Column, continued from page 4 creates the layout and design of each issue. Jessica has a magical way of making text look beautiful and inviting to read. She has been a wonderful Omer partner to work with. As has Jon Golding who formats our activity calendars each month with a diligence and attention to detail that is marvelous. In my mind, Jon, one of my predecessor as Omer editor, started us on this road to award winning monthly issues, created the concept of monthly themes, and provided the shoulders on which current issues still stand. Thanks Jon! Thanks too to the talented team of copy editors, proofreaders, traffic and managing editors who I have worked with. You all kept me sharp - on an ongoing basis you challenged me, stoked my creativity, removed my foot from my mouth when needed, and corrected mistakes I never even noticed before they appeared in print. Ongoing thanks to the content providers who contributed time each month or occasionally over the years to fill the Omer pages with interesting, accurate and readable items. Please keep doing it. And another shout out to consistent quality – to the efforts of Virginia Tiger who provides all our life cycle information and also organizes the monthly printing, folding, labeling, and mailing of each Omer issue. We would not have an 6 So come to the next two Men’s Club events. We won’t be discussing Torah, but we will have lots of fun. Jews in Bad Shoes Bowling May 2 at 7:30 p.m. At Alameda Bowl, with pizza and beer Contact Howard Zangwill for details. The Northern CA Jewish Sports Hall of Fame Poker Tournament Sunday, May 19 Contact Barry Barnes for details. Are you worried that you don’t know how to play poker or that you are a bad bowler? Don’t worry! At the men’s club there will be some fantastic teachers. Omer without you and without the distribution team. Your work makes a huge difference! Thanks to each and every member of Temple Beth Abraham, whether or not you are an Omer reader. For without you, there would not be events to publicize, holiday services and celebration to talk about, ritual to explain, community events and volunteer opportunities to promote. Our Omer reflects our lively congregation, of which I am honored to be a member. As a nod to this month’s Teach Your Children theme, I would be remiss not to thank my family, David, Emma and Becca, for your ongoing ideas, feedback and editing prowess. I wasn’t always gracious when you so proficiently edited my columns or commented on plans for an upcoming issue, and I know your feedback always improved them. I want to end this column by sharing the single most important lesson I have learned from taking on this Omer role (as well as other roles at TBA) and it is: Get involved in your TBA community. Deeply involved if you can. You will gain significantly more than you give. Next month you’ll hear more about our new Omer editor: Rachel Dornhelm. And I know she is waiting to hear these words from you, “that would make a good Omer story.” hertz fund teach your children Thank You Hertz Fund! Learning About Shabbat Through Osmosis I would like to thank the Hertz Fund for helping make the JDC Entwine-Hillel trip possible for me. I deeply appreciate your generous support, and I would not have been able to go on this trip without it. What I learned from my participation on the trip will stay with me forever. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines osmosis as: a process of absorption or diffusion suggestive of the flow of osmotic action and as a usually effortless and often unconscious assimilation. By Jacob Raskin Between high school and college, I took a year to live and learn in Israel. I attended ulpan classes to learn Hebrew language, and I volunteered at various jobs among communities in Be’er Sheva. I am now a senior in college, and since leaving Israel before college, I had not been back before this winter. I had very much wanted to go back to Israel to visit and spend more time in that beautiful country, and the JDC-Hillel trip provided the perfect opportunity. During my time volunteering in Be’er Sheva, I discovered that I really enjoy working with my hands to help improve a community, and the opportunity to get back to Israel and do just that was fantastic. I was especially excited to travel to and work in Carmiel, because that was a region in which I had not been before, so it was a great opportunity to explore a new part of Israel. Carmiel proved to be very beautiful, both aesthetically and in the rich cultures that we encountered there. Our work in the Prachim neighborhood was well received, and it was clear to us that were able to improve the community by painting walls and building a playground. We met and worked alongside people from that community, and we could see from their smiles and hear from the way they said “thank you” that they were grateful for our help. I really enjoyed taking a break from the note taking and testing at Cornell to work with my hands to produce something that is physically present to benefit the lives of others. We met with many different communities within Carmiel, and it was especially fascinating to hear from the Ethiopian community about their heritage, cultural and religious practices. We also saw how there are many programs operating in Carmiel to help make people’s lives better. There are many people in Carmiel who continue to need help, whether because of disabilities or handicaps, difficulty integrating into Israeli society, or other issues that exist in Israeli culture. We saw how the JDC has partnered with local organizations to help ease hardships that exist in people’s lives in Carmiel, as well as throughout Israel. While it certainly pained me to see and hear of some people’s misfortune, it was inspiring to see the work being done to help them. I have faith that the work we did in Carmiel was just a small link in a chain of continual improvements that will continue in that city. I am so thankful that I got to return to Israel and work in a community where help is needed. Each story that I can bring to people here in America about all of the beautiful things that exist in Israel improves the country’s image and strengthens our countries’ ties. By Rachel Teichman Example: From watching 26 kids and a dozen educators in the Gan, my two-year old son Eli has learned how to celebrate Shabbat through osmosis. We are waiting to cut Eli’s hair until he turns three in September. We like the idea of this tradition, and waited until Nina was three for her first haircut as well. We made a festive cake topped with gummy Hebrew alphabet letters to signify the beginning of her formal Jewish education, which is only one of the reasons why the age of three is chosen. Of course all of our congregation’s children start their Jewish educations long before reaching the age of three. And for Eli that couldn’t be more true. He has literally grown up in the Gan Avraham classrooms, as he was born two weeks into his sister Nina’s first year in Kitah Aleph. He attended weekly Shabbat classroom celebrations first asleep in a carseat, then asleep in a stroller, awake in a stroller, and finally uncontainable, as an actual participant in the Shabbat circle. If you look around the Shabbat circle now in Kitah Gimmel, he will always be the one child who is covering his eyes during the candle blessing and raising up his cup of grape juice, and not drinking it, until after the Kiddush is said. This is all he knows. This is what you are supposed to do. And boy does he long for the day when he can be a Shabbat helper too! At home he prides himself in saying the motzi at our own Shabbat table; he likes to start it halfway through. And he will literally cry if he isn’t the one who gets to bless the grape juice on his own. He plays Shabbat Shalom on his ukelele, and sings Goodbye Chaverim too. What he will do when he starts preschool and realizes you have to wait until the Kiddush is said to even hold your grape juice cup is just another learning moment we will get to when we get there. We recently celebrated Passover at the Kitah Gimmel seder, and afterwards I asked Eli if he ate matzah. He said, “Yes, and they didn’t have any challah there.” Despite his sister’s thorough explanation as to why we eat matzah, he does not know why there was no challah at the seder. But as with everything else, he is taking it all in. By the time he begins preschool in the fall, he will have a lot of Jewish knowledge to share…and lots more to learn. Rachel Teichman provides a directory of resources for Jewish families in the Bay Area and beyond at www.oogiah.com. She also blogs at www.totsandplans.com. continued on page 8 7 teach your children Teaching our Children, continued from page 7 Stealing Knowledge: How Jewish Values Can Guide 21st Century Parenting By Rabbi Patricia Karlin-Neumann On March 17, the Men’s Club and WTBA sponsored a parent education event featuring Rabbi Patricia Karlin-Neumann who discussed the topic of “Stealing Knowledge: How Jewish Values Can Guide 21st Century Parenting.” Rabbi KarlinNeumann is the Senior Associate Dean for Religious Life at Stanford University. She is the first University Chaplain from a tradition other than Christianity in Stanford’s history. She co-chaired the Campus Climate Study Group of Stanford’s Task Force on Student Mental Health and Well Being. Rabbi Karlin-Neumann is an advisor to Challenge Success, an organization founded at Stanford’s Graduate School of Education that believes our society has become too focused on grades, test scores and performance. She teaches and lectures widely on rabbinical ethics, the relationship between religion and education, and social justice. Below is an excerpt from her speech at TBA. –intro by Samantha Spielman As you might have sensed, I care about this as an educator and as a rabbi, but also as a mother, worried about my own kids and their peers. When my kids were at home, we read Denise (Pope)’s book, Doing School as a family and discussed it at Sunday night dinners. If you choose to do this with your family, or with your book group or with your schools, there are more books tackling these issues—Wendy Mogel’s The Blessing of a B-Minus, Madeline Levine’s The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well. There is the film, Race to Nowhere. From the early days of this work, I suggested to Denise Clark Pope that she was leading a movement, that she was as much an activist as an educator, mentor and researcher. Look on the Challenge Success website (challengesuccess.org) and you will find many secular resources. But while we as Jews may be overrepresented in the anxiety about achievement, we are also blessed with the rhythms of Jewish life to guide us. A rabbi friend whose kids were teens when mine were infants told me about a corollary benefit of being observant—it gave his kids experience in resisting the temptations of their peers. When others might have been out drinking on Friday night, his kids were at the family Shabbat table. When other teens were experimenting with drugs, his kids had learned to say no—you see, he explained, they keep kosher, and were used to being careful about what they put in their bodies. I don’t mean to suggest that ritual observance is a panacea. But the idea that Jewish life gives kids practice to resist peer pressure, to develop the habit of thinking for themselves, has stuck with me. If Shabbat punctuates the week, it reminds us to make time for relationships, to unplug, to savor a long dinner. Tiffany Shlain, filmmaker who founded the Webby Awards just made a film called Connected. In 8 it she advocates unplugging on Shabbat. She says that the most important feature of our technological gadgets is the off button. At Sukkot, under the stars and surrounded by friends and family, we remember what is enduring and what is evanescent. At Pesach, we consider the stranger, invite in the one who doesn’t feel at home and listen carefully to the one who doesn’t know how to ask. On the high holidays we reevaluate and reorient our lives, based on what matters. Each holiday reminds us that Judaism provides us with endless potential to see our world differently. In December I was asked to write some thoughts for the Challenge Success website. Struck by the contrast between my students preparing feverishly for finals and the marketing industry ginning up desire for the next new thing during the Christmas/ Chanukah holiday season, I thought about young people making their way through the thicket of desires, some imposed from without, some grown deep within. I thought of the menorah, holding eight candles and the shamash, the server. The kabbalists believed that shamash holds hidden light, strength not only for its own glow, but also to illumine a path for others. The flame of the shamash extends strength to uncover courage, to give birth to hope, to harken awareness. Darkness is not only physical. Darkness can also be limited vision, generalized and undisputed expectations, a narrow view of success, unbridled competition, uncritical thinking and unacknowledged feeling, yet the shamash, the small candle of strength can illuminate, for both students and those who love them, deeper desires. Of course there is the mitzvah to light the menorah, but there is also a tradition to watch the candles as they slowly burn down each night. What might we learn about ourselves, about our desires, if we sit with those flickering flames, if we enter into a dream state looking into the light, untroubled by expectations, undisturbed by anxiety? What might we discover if we find ourselves meditating, contemplating, closing out the calls of competition, masking the marketplace, refusing the ratings? I invited each of us to appreciate the metaphor of the shamash, of light engendering light, helping us to quell the chatter, inviting understanding and uniting us with our deepest desires. I offered for each night, a question to kindle others, to ignite discussion with those we love about what matters, awakening our own desire for purpose in this season of holiday light and of love. Here are my eight questions: What do I wonder about? What are my gifts and strengths? What have my mistakes and disappointments taught me? When do I feel alive with learning? What would I sacrifice for? What do I do that inspires dignity and respect? How do I want to make a difference in the world? teach your children What could college or my next stage be? Educator and activist John Gardner, teaches, “Meaning is not something you stumble across, like the answer to a riddle or the prize in a treasure hunt. Meaning is something you build into your life. You build it out of your own past, out of your affections and loyalties, out of the experience of humankind as it is passed on to you, out of your own talent and understanding, out of the things you believe in, out of the things and people you love, out of the values for which you are willing to sacrifice something. The ingredients are there. You are the only one who can put them together into that unique pattern that will be your life. Let it be a life that has dignity and meaning for you. If it does, then the particular balance of success or failure is of less account.” Looking at Temple Beth Abraham Excerpted from a Tehiyah Day School Research Project By Hannah Friedman, Maud Utstein, & Roni Weissman On Macarthur Blvd. stands a large, majestic brick building known as Temple Beth Abraham. Built in 1929, although the Hungarian founders had started it long before, this beautiful building still stands after almost 100 years. It even withstood the building of freeway 580 directly in front of it. A relatively new addition to the synagogue is an elevator tower, which makes the synagogue wheelchair accessible. Inside, the social hall, where members eat lunch on Saturday, leads to the kitchen. The Sanctuary is on the second level of the synagogue, and is where people come to pray every Saturday morning, Friday night, and on holidays. The Sanctuary includes a balcony, which is usually locked. Overall, the Sanctuary can seat around seven hundred people. A cloth representing a Tallit hangs over the gold colored Ark. Inside, several Torahs are standing, ready to be taken out and read from. Denomination Conservative Judaism (also known as Masorti, historical, and traditional Judaism) was born out of Reform Judaism in Germany in the middle of the 1800s, and moved to the United States in the early 20th century. Now there are about 1,000,000 Conservative Jews in the US. The conservative movement is a middle point in between the orthodox and reform movements, integrating modernism, yet still practicing religious traditions like the orthodox. It allows people to read old texts with modern interpretations. Rabbi Zacharias Frankel is credited with being the founder of the conservative movement. He believed that Judaism should be based on scholarship and a positive attitude towards modern culture. Scholarship is looking at a text with a critic eye, asking questions, and wondering why. A positive attitude toward modern culture is not separating ourselves from the modern world. You can see here that the typical orthodox movement is separating, the reform movement is assimilating, and the conservative movement is integrating. Frankel disagreed with both the orthodox and the reform movement. Today, most conservative Jews still observe dietary laws and don’t have a mechitza separating men and women. Many Conservative synagogues hold all of the traditional services, including Kabbalat Shabbat, Shacharit, the Torah service, and Musaf. Some also hold weekday services. Girls and women are allowed have a bat mitzvah, chant from the Torah and lead services. Female rabbis are also permitted. Many people drive to services, and carry their tallitot with them. Some synagogues, including TBA, even use microphones and sound system on Shabbat. Hannah Friedman I personally like the conservative movement, because it is a balance. I usually don’t like to be too extreme, so I am very happy being a conservative Jew. I belong to TBA, and it is definitely the right synagogue for me. It has a very welcoming community, and is intergenerational. The synagogue may be intimidating from the outside, but is definitely an amazing place to be. My favorite part of the service is the Drash, also known as the D’var Torah, the interpretation of the week’s Torah portion. Rabbi Mark Bloom usually writes the Drash, and is very good at it. Even though the building itself is charming, it’s the people, and the way that we do things that motivates me to get up at 8:00 a.m. on Saturday morning instead of 9:30 a.m., even though it is hard most of the time. I have been a member of this synagogue all of my life, so I don’t know very much about the customs of other synagogues. Through this project, I have grown to love Temple Beth Abraham even more than I did before, and it makes me feel even more at home there. Maud Utstein I like the conservative movement because it isn’t extremely religious but it isn’t not religious. TBA is a conservative synagogue. I go to TBA on holidays. I think being a conservative Jew would fit my lifestyle much better than other movements. When I go to TBA I feel like the community is very welcoming. I think TBA is a very beautiful synagogue. If I were to go to any synagogue in 30 years I would probably go to TBA because it has a welcoming community and I like the way they do the services and shabbats. The temple is also very beautiful and large in size. Even though I don’t feel very connected with the synagogue, my grandparents and mom have very strong connection. My grandma went to TBA when she was a child and my mom did too. I know a lot about TBA because like I said before, a lot of my family grew up going there. Conclusion We learned a lot about Temple Beth Abraham through this project. We found that Temple Beth Abraham is a welcoming community, for members and visitors alike. 9 cooking corner Cooking Up Memories with Kids By Faith Kramer The kitchen was often a de facto classroom for my two sons when they were growing up. They learned a lot about food, nutrition and cooking but also got an appreciation for what it takes to plan, shop and create a meal. They each started at two or three years old with one of my aprons wrapped around them and with a repurposed step stool set up nearby as their stove with some small wooden spoons and pots to play with. By four they had graduated to small chores in the kitchen. After a parent-supervised hand washing, they snapped the ends off of green beans, stirred batters or worked on small cutting boards with disposable plastic picnic knives, slicing mushrooms and cutting the tops off strawberries. Slowly this evolved to their being major help in the kitchen, with the oldest, Seth, eventually being most interested in baking projects. Noah was a dependable sous chef for many years and still helps out when he’s home from college. We not only cooked up dinner, we cooked up memories. Below are some of my recommendations for working with children in the kitchen. Don’t pick a time when you are rushed. Having young children work with you requires a lot of supervision. Demonstrate what you want them to do and stay with them as they do it or at least check in on them often. This is about the experience, not results, so don’t expect perfection or standardization in their efforts. Create a safe place for them away from potential sources of burns and sharp knives. Teach them about kitchen safety. Start older children in with knives slowly, making sure you always monitor for proper knife use. Always use equipment properly when children are in the kitchen with you. 10 Select recipes that are child friendly. Something with lots of frying or complicated directions you are not comfortable with creates issues with children nearby. Look at recipes in cookbooks aimed at children for ways to break down the steps so they are age appropriate. Be okay with them losing interest. They are kids. Have a second project ready for them, anything from helping to set the table to decorating plain paper placemats. Or have some cookbooks nearby with color photos and encourage them to look through and pick out recipes they want to make with you in the future. My boys loved looking through illustrated cookie cookbooks. Show and tell the children what you are doing and why. Have them sniff the spices and ask them what they smell. Explain where the spices came from and how you use them. Go into the background of the recipe if you know it. Point out how the food changes as it cooks. Take them to the store and explain how to pick out a good eggplant or tomato. If you can, grow some vegetables and or take your children to a farm so they can understand where food comes from. Show older kids the nutrition labels on packages and explain what they mean. I have lots more tips. If you’d like to learn more, please email me at fjkramer@msn.com. Or send me your tips and I’ll include them in a future column or blog post. One recipe my boys and I made a lot was for these pretzels. Their pretzel shapes began as simple rings or logs but became more elaborate as they got older. I remember them forming letters, a space ship and animals among other shapes. I like to make Jewish-themed pretzels for the holidays, such as a Jewish star. Try to keep similar thickness pretzels together on one baking tray, since baking times will vary depending on shape and size. cooking corner Soft Pretzels – Adapted from The Jewish Holiday Cookbook by Gloria Kaufer Greene (Times Books) Makes 16 “regular” pretzels When they were young, I made the dough and they helped to shape it, but as they grew they took over more and more of the recipe. 2 ¼ tsp. active dry yeast (1 packet) 1 Tbs. sugar 1 ½ cups warm water (about 110 degrees) 1 Tbs. canola or other vegetable oil plus extra for greasing baking sheets 1 tsp. salt Mix the yeast and sugar with the warm water in a large bowl. Let sit until foamy, about 5 minutes. (If it doesn’t foam your water might not have been the right temperature or your yeast might be too old. Either way you’ll need to start over.) Stir in oil, salt, whole wheat flour and enough of the white bread flour to make a soft dough, about 2 cups. Place the dough on a lightly floured surface and knead 5-10 minutes until it is very smooth and just a bit tacky, adding bread flour by the spoonful if necessary. (The dough can also be made in a heavy duty mixer or food processor, but having kids help knead adds to the process. There is nothing fancy about kneading, just work on a floured surface and have kids press down on the dough, fold it in on itself and repeat until it feels as firm and smooth as an ear lobe.) Preheat oven to 425 degrees. Grease baking sheets with oil. Make pretzel shapes by pinching off a piece of dough then rolling it in your hands or a flat surface until you have a rope that’s about ½" thick. Shape on a flat surface and then lay the completed pretzel down on the greased sheet. Pretzels should be about 1" apart. To make a standard pretzel shape, make a rope about 20" long. Bend into a U shape. Cross over the arms of the U to 2 cups whole wheat flour 2 to 2 ½ cups white bread flour 1 egg 1 tsp. water Toppings – kosher or other coarse salt, sesame seeds or even sprinkles form a 4" loop at the bottom. Twist the arms around each other so they intersect and each arm comes back to the side of the U where it started. Then press the end of each arm down against the bottom of the U. To make a Jewish star, make 2 equal ropes. Directly on the baking sheet, form one rope into a triangle pointing up. Shape the second rope into a triangle with the point facing down. Lay it over the first so it forms a six-sided star. Press the ropes together where they touch. Beat the egg with the 1 tsp. water and brush on top of pretzels and then sprinkle with salt or other topping (or leave plain). For chewy pretzels, bake immediately for 15-20 minutes until browned and baked through. (See below for soft pretzel variation) Remove from baking sheets right away and cool on wire rack. Store in air-tight containers. For softer, more bread-like pretzels, don’t immediately preheat the oven. Let pretzels rise in a warm place for 20 minutes. Turn the oven on to 425 degrees to preheat. Once the pretzels have risen to almost double in size, (another 10-25 minutes), place in oven and bake until golden brown. Faith Kramer blogs her food at www.clickblogappetit.com. Her cooking column appears twice a month in the j. weekly. You can contact her directly at clickblogappetit@gmail.com. Save the Date June 7 Rock’n Roll Shabbat with Dinner More information as we get closer 11 gan avraham Gan News By Barbara Kanter I love walking through the Gan seeing children engaged and excited to be at school and teachers as they interact with the children. I especially enjoy touring prospective families and introducing them to our program and practices. Prospective parents want to know our educational philosophy, and these tours allow me to explain that children learn best through play. I have the opportunity to explain our play-based curriculum and developmentally appropriate practices. Our environment encourages each child to actively participate, explore and discover. In addition Gan Avraham is often the first step in a child’s Jewish identity and sense of belonging to the Jewish community. for the environment and are not wasteful. We show respect, kavod, to children and grown-ups. Our Gan integrates Judaism into the entire curriculum every day and paves the way for a positive Jewish identity and learning throughout a lifetime. An excellent Jewish early childhood program is not just Jewish on Friday when we celebrate Shabbat, or on Monday when we observe Havdallah or when we are preparing for a special holiday. We are Jewish every day. Jewish values, traditions and rituals are integral aspects of our program. Judaism informs every aspect of our curriculum. At Gan Avraham our classroom environments look Jewish. Our wall displays show Jewish life and rituals. We have many Jewish materials available to the children from books to CDs to dramatic play props. Jewish values, principles and mitzvoth are constantly emphasized. We give tzedakah, and Tikkun olam and bal tashcheet are evident when we care Please Join Us for TBA’s Youth Services Shabbat Mishpacha for preschool-aged children and their families. Kitah Gimmel classroom. May 4, 10:15 a.m. T’fillat Y’ladim for children in Kindergarten, 1st & 2nd grade and their families. In the Chapel. May 18, 10:15 a.m. Junior Congregation for children in 3rd through 6th grade. In the Chapel. May 4, 10:15 a.m. Keflanu: Shabbat Fun & Games for 3rd-6th Graders We would like to invite 3rd – 6th graders to join their friends in the Baum Youth Center following Shabbat services on the 1st & 3rd Shabbat of the month. Upcoming dates: May 4 & 18 After the service join together for lunch in the social hall. About 20 minutes after motzi, the Rabbi will announce the chaperone is ready for check-in at the Baum Youth Center! Have fun with Shabbat appropriate games and activities…• basketball • board games • jump rope • foosball • ping pong • or even just shmooze Parents: We ask that an adult accompany the child/children to the Baum Youth Center – the chaperone will sign your child in and an adult pick-up at the Baum Youth Center – For the safety of the youth, we ask that they not leave the site on their own. 12 bet sefer Chicken or Eggs at Bet Sefer? By Susan Simon All throughout the school year and during the summers, we are faced with difficult dilemmas and have to sort them out as best we can with the information at our disposal. One of those dilemmas has to do with how the social relationships between students impacts their level of learning as well as their “happiness factor” at attending Bet Sefer. Let me explain a little more. The students who seem happiest to be at Bet Sefer (and this certainly isn’t limited to our institution) are the ones that seem to like others in their class, to play well with them at recess, to enjoy each other’s company. The students who seem most unhappy are those that don’t seem to have connected as well with others in their class. It doesn’t even seem to be directly related to how much they see their classmates outside of Bet Sefer or whether they get together socially outside of TBA. And while most of them would rather be playing soccer or dancing or reading somewhere else, these positive social interactions seem to have some correlation with how content the students are to be here. In many cases, the children who end up behaving poorly are the ones who haven’t such strong social interactions with their peers. But, is there REALLY a cause and effect relationship? And which came first – was it that the chemistry with the classmates wasn’t so great (that chemistry thing is so mysterious sometimes!) thereby impacting the learning, or is it struggling with the learning that is impacting the social relationships. And, the really key piece of all of this is what we (the staff ) can do about it. For the past few months (and ongoing), I have been working with other educators to try to unravel this mystery. We know from observation that simply having students work on a project together may or may not impact how they feel about each other. It depends, partly, upon the quality of the project. But it also seems to relate to the culture set up in the classroom surrounding cooperative learning. How does that culture get established by the teacher and how do we get students to buy into that culture? We can use “regular” school classes from which to learn much about classroom conduct and technique. But we feel handcuffed by the limited number of hours that we spend with our students at a particularly difficult time of the day. Can we be as successful in classroom culture as a class which means for 6 hours, 5 days a week? As my group continues to mull these questions and do observations, I hope to be able to update you with some of our conclusions next school year. In the meantime, a couple of suggestions if you feel that your child isn’t as connected as you’d like: 1.Attend youth services – Junior Congregation or T’fillat Y’ladim – the children who attend regularly feel very comfortable here and exhibit real joy at being part of this community. 2.Attend La’atid events (4th-7th grades) – there is nothing that builds community more than being with other students your child’s age doing a fun activity – the good feelings spill over into school. 3.Invite other families from your class to your home for a Shabbat or other dinner. We are so busy rushing around, it is wonderful to stop for a couple of hours and connect with another family. Don’t wait for an invitation – reach out! Our school year is almost finished and we’ll be working all summer at making our programming even better. Hope you enjoy life with a slightly easier schedule once Bet Sefer is finished for the year. Don’t be a stranger around here! What Our Kids Like and Learn About at Bet Sefer By Susan Simon This past week we spent some time with our students asking questions about their favorite activities and things they have learned. Not surprising there were many votes for recess and snack. But we also had some wonderful specific responses that I thought you might enjoy. Students in Kitah Gimmel (3rd grade) talked about learning Hebrew letters and how to write them, how to read Hebrew, and vocabulary words. We had comments regarding learning about the holidays and one student talked about learning about God. For students in Kitah Hay (5th grade), the focus was on the activities they are currently doing, such as writing skits, conversational Hebrew, learning prayers, Holocaust studies and ethical dilemmas. Of course, everyone loved the Purim carnival. Our Kitah Bet (2nd grade) students loved learning new songs with Rabbi Bloom. Some talked about learning Hebrew words and letters and practicing writing them. And a couple really loved testing what they have learned by continued on page 14 13 midrashala’atid Graduation at Berkeley Midrasha By Diane Bernbaum It’s coming. My favorite day of the Midrasha year...graduation. No, it’s not my favorite day because it marks the end of the school year and I can finally sleep a little later or go to a ball game or have guests for brunch on Sundays. It my favorite because when I hear each graduate speak about what Midrasha and their 18 years of Jewish education have meant to them, I am overwhelmed with pride and have absolutely not a worry in the world about “Jewish continuity.” All the early mornings, late nights, long work days, and worry about program details all go out the window and I realize that I have chosen the right profession and the right job. If you’d like to be similarly filled with nachas (You don’t have to be the school director or be related to Midrasha in any way to take pride in the teens. Just living in our community will do!), please join us for graduation. It is Sunday, May 19 at 10:15 a.m. in the Sanctuary at Congregation Beth El, 1301 Oxford Street, Berkeley. The graduation epitomizes the pluralistic nature of our Midrasha community. We have 20 graduates. They come from 5 different synagogues and represent the general community as well. We are truly a community school. See you on May 19 at 10:15 at graduation. Mazel tov to TBA’s Midrasha graduate Dina Zangwill. La’atid A Youth Group for 4th-7th Graders! Save these dates! Get on the mailing list for up to date program information today! Final Event: May 19 To RSVP or if you have questions, contact your trusty advisors, Dina & Phil Hankin at dinahankin@aol.com. This Month’s Cover Artist Lauren Manasse Smith is the artist for the cover of this month’s Omer. Lauren’s excitement in art and design lead her to pursue an Associate’s degree in Communications and Media Arts, and a BFA in Interior Design from FIT in New York City. She has a strong background in graphic design, and has worked for a variety of architectural firms including both residential and corporate projects. Three years ago after a trip to Israel, Lauren and her husband, Matt Smith, moved to Oakland together. They became members at Temple Beth Abraham upon finding Rabbi Bloom to lead their wedding ceremony last October. They are expecting their first baby this summer, in July! 14 Bet Sefer, continued from page 13 playing “Jewpardy.” In Kitah Dalet (4th grade), we had many votes for the carnival as a favorite, but we also had votes for flashcard work, improving Hebrew decoding and comprehension skills, learning prayers, observing Shabbat in class and the one on one tutoring that the 4th graders get. One student said “I’ve learned how to observe Jewish holidays and how to pay respect to Adonai and I’ve learned more Hebrew.” The last class that we polled was Kitah Alef (1st grade). Recess and snack were big favorites, but there were also votes for the Israel slideshow that the students get to experience most weeks. There was also lots of enthusiasm around learning the Hebrew letters – one student said his favorite Hebrew letter is “kuf.” And, no surprise, music with Rabbi Bloom is also a big hit. It’s a fun and worthwhile experience, finding out about the best experiences for children as seen through their own eyes. Perhaps next year we’ll get up the gumption to ask what they don’t like??? Celebrate Shavuot May 14-16 donations Charity is equal in importance to all the other commandments combined. Centennial Project Fund Joan & Richard Rubin Stephen & Susan Shub General Fund Centennial Match Fund Harold & Jean Pearl, in memory of Max Pearl Marsha Maslan, in memory of Phyliss & Jack Maslan Keith & Marlene Dines Joseph & Judith Epstein, Joseph Epstein Yahrzeit Leonard & Helen Fixler, in memory of David Galant Eric & Heike Friedman Alan Gellman & Arlene Zuckerberg Steven Grossman & Jill Rosenthal, in memory of Abe Grossman Alison Heyman, wishing Fifi Goodfellow a happy birthday Alfred & Anne Hyman, in memory of Rose Glefand Bob & Lori Jaffe Yo Matsuzaki & Laura Tucker Esther Novak & John Chendo, thanks to TBA for making Myra Kaplan so welcome at TBA Misia Nudler, condolences to Galant Family on loss of their father Misia Nudler, thanks to Second generation holocaust survivors for honoring us Misia Nudler, thanks to TBA for putting the story of my life in The Omer Misia Nudler, wishing Charles Bernstein a speedy recovery Barbara Oseroff, in memory of David Galant Svetlana & Mikhail Partsuf Sheldon & Barbara Rothblatt Jeffrey & Molli Rothman Barry & Hana Rotman Curtis & Adi Schacker, in memory of Murray Davis Annie J. 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I like to play basketball and dance. I really love lifeguarding, and watching baseball. When I’m bored, I love to draw and study lifeguarding first aid. In fourth grade I found out I have CRMO. CRMO means chronic recurrent multifocal osteomyelitis which is when your cells inside of your bones get inflamed. This is one reason why I’m interested in medical subjects. At my bat mitzvah I will read the Torah parasha Bamidbar and I will be talking about the theme of relationships which comes up in the Haftarah. I hope you can come to celebrate this special day with me. Hannah Rubin, May 11, 2013 I go to King Middle School in Berkeley. I love King!!!! My favorite subject is lunch because I get to hang out with all my friends who I don’t have classes with and with the friends who I do have classes with. But, if I have to pick an academic subject, it would be P.E. and English because we do fun stuff in both of those classes and my best friends are with me in those classes. I really like music and my favorite artists include One Direction, Justin Bieber, Katy Perry, and Maroon 5. I really like Die Young and Come On by Kesha. I also like the song Troublemaker by Olly Murs, and Oath and With Your Love by Cher Lloyd. In my drash for my bat mitzvah I am going to be talking about the Pidyon Haben and parents. I like to hang out with my family and I love to ride on roller coasters at Great America and Six Flags. I definitely like to hang out with my friends. I love cheering really loudly with my family and friends while watching football and baseball. Though the sport I like to do is swimming and I’m really good at it. I’m very thankful for my friends and family for coming to my bat mitzvah and I would really like to thank my tutor Susan for teaching me all this stuff and my family for planning it with me. Can’t wait to see y’all at Maayan’s and my b’not mitzvah! Julia Mendelsohn, May 25, 2013 I am a 7th grader at Julia Morgan School for Girls. Outside of school I love playing soccer, rowing crew, running, dancing, art and hanging out with my friends and family. My portion is Beha’alotecha. In my portion people are complaining that they are not getting enough food, which leads to God forcing them to eat meat in excess. Also in the portion, Eldad and Medad are prophesying and Aaron and Miriam are gossiping about Moses’s wife. Following the gossip session Miriam is stricken with leprosy. I will be focusing on and discussing their gossiping and the results and consequences of gossiping not only in the Torah, but also in modern day. Since I was born, Judaism has always been a great part of my life. I love being Jewish and am very excited and grateful to have this large milestone in my life and as part of my Jewish identity. I’d like to thank Outi Gould for helping me this year in preparation for my Bat Mitzvah and Rabbi Bloom for the help on understanding and taking apart my portion in order to write my drash. An extra special thanks to my “personal” Bat Mitzvah teacher, my dad, who has assisted me through everything for this day continued on page 17 16 life cycles B’nai Mitzvah, continued from page 16 and made me enjoy every minute of it. Most of all I would like to thank both of my amazing parents and sister for supporting me through everything and making this day possible. Finally I’d love to give a huge thanks to my B’nai mitzvah class for making Hebrew school enjoyable after eight years and being the coolest Jew Crew in the world! Two of my friends, who had their Bat Mitzvahs last year, began an organization called Dress It Up. Now my friend Maya Marcus and I are joining Dress It Up for our Bat Mitzvah projects so that we can expand and help continue the organization. The original idea was that we go to so many Bar and Bat Mitzvah parties and get many new dresses. But, some girls never get to have the fun of going to parties like we do in pretty dresses. So with the help of donations we are collecting dresses for girls to wear to a dance party that we are hosting. The girls will also get their hair styled professionally and keep the dress. Along with that a DJ will be there to lead the girls in the great night! Watch for our collection baskets and flyers around the synagogue. I hope you can help me continue my friends’ idea and I really hope you will join us on May 25! Sarah Rothman, June 1, 2013 I am a 7th grader at Montera Middle School. At Montera I participate in a woodshop program that is the only one left in Oakland. My favorite subject is science. I love science because I learn about topics I did not previously know about. In science we have been studying heredity, genetics, and DNA. I have learned so many new things. Another thing I love is the beach. Every year in the summer I go to the Outer Banks in North Carolina. The beach is a place for me to relax and have fun in the sand and water. I also love to try new and strange foods. My Torah portion is called Sh’lach. It is about how to prepare a burnt offering or sacrifice. It also covers offerings for unintentional sins, and information on Tallitot. I am excited to be having a Bat Mitzvah. I hope you can join me as I become a Jewish adult on June 1, 2013. Donations, continued from page 15 Herbert & Harriet Bloom, in memory of Matilda Bloom Holzman Dr. Walter Chang & Miriam Gould Richard Charlesworth & Amy Moscov, in honor of Micah Bloom’s Bar Mitzvah Jerome & Judith Davis Yale J. & Arlene Downes, in memory of David Galant Eric & Heike Friedman Robert Gammon & Lisa Fernandez Fifi Goodfellow Jeff & Johanna Ilfeld Jonathan & Joy Jacobs Martin & Lisa Kharrazi Daniel & Jessica Klein Darren & Marni Kottle David Lenik David & June Marinoff Martin & Sylvia Miller, in memory of Michael Miller John Rego & Deborah Kahane Rego Sheldon & Barbara Rothblatt Klaus Ullrich Rotzscher Joan & Richard Rubin Ori & Susan Sasson, in honor of Barbara Rothblatt’s birthday Colin & Cecile Schlesinger, in memory of David Galant Daniel B. & Marieka Schotland Cindy Sloan Jerome & Beverly Turchin, in memory of Melvin Klein Bruce & Alicia von Kugelgen Joshua Wittenberg & Jennifer Kopp Celia & Morris Davis Hunger Fund Norma Armon, in memory of Abraham Kreimerman Denise Davis, in memory of Grace Gill Endowment Fund Shirley Bolton, in memory of Raymond Bolton Larry Miller & Mary Kelly, in memory of David Galant Hertz - Israel Scholarship Fund Gerald & Ruby Hertz, in memory of Herman Hertz 17 life cycles May Birthdays 1 10 18 24 Elliott Albin Lauren Davis Ariel Karwat Ilya Okh Stephen Tessler Camille Edesess Gary Kramer Anna Morris Lori Rosenthal Eliza Kauffman Stuart Korn Arel Zachary Masliyah 19 2 Emil Leventhal Jeffrey Reichenberg Cara Spangler Renat Engel Josh Mailman Dvora McLean Judah Slavin Maxine Halem Danielle Jurow Reuben Liron Judy Craddick Maccabee Oscar Mendelson Rebecca Mogill Jerome Turchin 3 Lisa Geggie Caleb Reichenberg Eva Rosenberg 4 Jacob Kubalik Paul Raskin Lior Remler 5 Juliette Linzer Liz Willner 7 Thalia Broudy Rachel Dornhelm 8 Avi Joseph Naomi Kottle 9 Sophie Casson Warren Gould Aesa Masliyah 11 12 Cynthia Berrol Maya Harlev Noah Kramer Steven Zatkin 13 Lita Krowech Anna LaForte 14 Sharon Alva Shai Krantz Nathaniel Margolin Helene Moore Steven Berl Heidi Bersin Judy Bloomfield Eitan Feiger Benjamin Hoffman Rebecca Johnson Joseph Maidenberg Peter Miller Ilan Remler Bruce von Kugelgen 20 Summer Albin Liana Barach Ephraim Margolin Yo Matsuzaki 21 15 Sarah Applebaum Joshua Bersin Jordon Gerstler-Holton Laila Maidenberg Edan Alva 22 16 Leon Bloomfield David Feldhammer Maya Engel David Gould Jeff Ilfeld Kerry Segal Leah Skiles 17 Adam Arons Emily Karwat 23 Celia Hill Oren Mizrahi Eva Paul Maria Pinkhasov Wendy Siver Kay Warren 25 26 Jory Fankuchen Outi Gould Anne Levine Sarah Miller Samantha Spielman 27 JB Leibovitch Rebecca Rosenthal 28 Ezra Graham Jeremy Kruger Jerrold Levine Zea Lindenbaum Ava Remler Deborah Santucci Howard Zangwill 29 Lisa Brinner Morris Goldberg 30 Haley Baum Sidney Shaffer Deborah Sosebee 31 Doreen Alper Aaron Belikoff Is your birthday information wrong or missing from this list? Please contact the TBA office to make corrections. Welcome New Members Ilan and Victoria Remler. Their children Ava, Lior, Avi Aaron Goldberg & Amy Gerard. Their children Reuben & Asa Goldberg 18 A note to new members: We would like to introduce you to the TBA community in an upcoming newsletter. Please send a short introduction of you and your family, with a digital photo, to omer@tbaoakland. org. Thanks! life cycles May Yahrzeits May God comfort you among all the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem Iyar 21-23 May 1-3 Irving Podolsky Robert Hyman Irving Dronsick Margaret Naggar Philip Rohold Harold Rosenberg Heinrich Spritzer Mathilda Ritter Spritzer Iyar 24-Sivan 1 May 4-10 Don Eberhart Lawrence Freedenberg Irwin Goldberg Sylvia Margolin Sylvia Good Margolin Jeanette Strassman Morrow Inaclaire Carter Charles Naggar Martin Rockmaker Charles Cohen Rakel Kantola Velkko Kantola Melvin Rifkin Alexander Wallis Huguett Dayan Sidney Greenstein Sivan 2-8 May 11-17 Rene Nathan Jessie Powell Sylvia Stein Viola Glinn Alex Harris Molly Silverman Molly Bauer Silverman Shira Weisbach Max Davidson Anne Gould Henry Brentwood Henzel Stanley Klimen Fruma Goldstein Elynore “Skip” Harris Anne Kaplan Ida Miron J. Dorothy Standfield Sarah Hertz Rolf Schlesinger Sivan 9-15 May 18-24 Jack Spritzer Edythe Cohen Max Eckstein Irene Lasar Phillip Weinstein Abraham Blumberg Zelda Jacobs Joseph White Diana Bereskin David Yaron Sivan 16-22 May 25-31 Jack Gerber Hyman Gurman Sy Harris Nathan Brody Fanny Naggar Coleman Bloomfield Haja Blymenkrantz Albert Gould Lee Aerenson Raymond Mogill Ann Frankel MEMORIAL PLAQUE Anyone wishing to purchase a memorial plaque, please contact Pinky at the synagogue office at extension 229. A Legacy Gift Lasts Forever Include TBA in your Estate Planning so that your message to your family is loud and clear: The existence of Temple Beth Abraham is important to me and for the future of Jews in Oakland. Contact TBA’s Executive Director Rayna Arnold for further details (510) 832-0936 or Rayna@tbaoakland.org. You are never too young to plan for the future! 19 20 5 12 19 26 6 27 Iyyar 7 13 20 27 Gan/Office closed 9-10a Minyan (Chapel) MeMoriAl dAY 18 '' 7:07p Sivan 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 11 Sivan 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 4 Sivan 19 Sivan 4-6p Bet Sefer 28 Classes with/at Outi Gould’s: 10a Understanding the Siddur 11:15a Prayerbook vocab. & grammar 21 29 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG 20 Sivan 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 10-11a & 11:15a-12p Kindergym 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG 22 13 Sivan ShAVuot i 15 12 Sivan 6 Sivan Office/Gan closed/No Kindergym 9a Shavuot Service and Kiddush 7p AZA and BBG No BBYO this week 14 8 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 10-11a & 11:15a-12p Kindergym 6:15-7:15p Confirmation Class 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG YoM YeruShAlAYiM 28 Iyyar Classes with/at Outi Gould’s: 10a Understanding the Siddur 11:15a Prayerbook vocab. & grammar NO Bet Sefer 8p Tikkun Leyl Shavuot ereV ShAVuot 5 '' 7:53p Sivan 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 7:30p Rosh Chodesh Celebration Classes with/at Outi Gould’s: (at Faith Kramer’s) 10a Understanding the Siddur 7-8:30p Professional Presentaiton-- 11:15a Prayerbook vocab. & grammar Understanding Employment Law for Employers and Workers with 4p-6p Bet Sefer Bryan Schwartz 26 Iyyar 1 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 10-11a & 11:15a-12p Kindergym 6:15-7:15p Confirmation Class 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG 21 Iyyar 2 9 16 23 30 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 21 Sivan 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 10-11a & 11:15a-12p Kindergym 14 Sivan 8:54p Havdalah (42 min) 9a Shavuot Service with Yizkor No Kindergym or Bet Sefer ShAVuot ii (Yizkor) 7 Sivan 4p-6p Bet Sefer 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 10-11a & 11:15a-12p Kindergym 29 Iyyar 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 10-11a & 11:15a-12p Kindergym 4-6p Bet Sefer 7p Men’s ClubJews in Bad Shoes go Bowling! 7:30p Girls Night Out 22 Iyyar 3 10 17 24 31 kitAh giMMel cAMping trip 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat 22 '' 8:06p Sivan 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat 9:30-10:30a & 10:45-11:45a Kindergym 15 '' 8:01p Sivan 7p East Bay Minyan (Baum YC) No Kindergym 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat, Confirmation and Graduation night! 8 '' 7:55p Sivan 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat 9:30-10:30a & 10:45-11:45a Kindergym roSh chodeSh 1 '' 7:49p Sivan 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat 9:30-10:30a & 10:45-11:45a Kindergym 23 '' 7:43p Iyyar Always check the Congregational E-mail or the Weekly Shabbat Bulletin for more up-to-date information. Please note any corrections care of Rayna Arnold at the TBA office. 4 11 Naso 18 25 9:02p Havdalah (42 min) 9:30a-12p Shabbat Services Bat Mitzvah of Julia Mendelsohn 16 B’Ha-alot’kha Sivan 8:56p Havdalah (42 min) 9:30a-12p Shabbat Services 11a T’fillat Y’ladim 9 Sivan 9:30a-12p Shabbat Service B’nai mitzvah of Maayan and Hannah Rubin 10:15a Junior Congregation 12p Keflanu-Get together grades 3-6 8:50p Havdalah (42 min) B’Midbar 2 Sivan 8:44p Havdalah (42 min) 9:30a-12p Shabbat Services 10:15a Shabbat Mishpacha kitAh VAV ShAbbAt 24 B’Har / B’Hukkotai Iyyar May 2013 Calendars in The Omer are produced 30-60 days in advance using the best data available from the TBA Administration Staff. This calendar is also available at our website www.tbaoakland.org 5p CityTeam in Oakland— feeding the hungry 17 Sivan 7:30p Trip to Israel Meeting 10:15a Berkeley Midrasha Graduation 9:30a AnnuAl Meeting And Volunteer AppreciAtion 10 Sivan 6p Friendship Circle - Teen Scene 9:45-11:30a Women on the Move hike 3 Sivan 5:30p tbA SchoolS Auction 25 Iyyar Iyyar 5773 / Sivan 5773 21 2 9 23 30 15 Tamuz 22 Tamuz 3 10 17 24 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 16 '' 7:07p Tamuz 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 9 Tamuz 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 9:30a Rosh Chodesh Celebration (contact Amy Tessler for location) 2 Tamuz 7-8p Professional Presentaiton-Helping Children Play Well Together with Tosha Schore 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 25 Sivan 11 4 25 18 Tzom Tamuz (dawn To dusk) 17 Tamuz 10 Tamuz 3 '' 7:53p Tamuz 26 Sivan 5 12 19 26 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 18 Tamuz 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 11 Tamuz 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 4 Tamuz 7p BBYO-AZA and BBG 9a Weekly Text Study (Woodminster Cafe) 27 Sivan 20 27 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 19 Tamuz 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 12 Tamuz 6 13 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 5 Tamuz 8a-9a Minyan (Chapel) 28 Sivan 7 14 21 28 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat 20 '' 8:17p Tamuz 7p East Bay Minyan (Baum YC) 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat 13 '' 8:16p Tamuz 6:15p-7:15p Kabbalat Shabbat, Gan Avraham-Last Day of Schoolcloses as 1:00pm 6 '' 8:14p Tamuz 6:15p-7:45p Rock n Roll Shabbat 29 '' 8:11p Sivan Always check the Congregational E-mail or the Weekly Shabbat Bulletin for more up-to-date information. Please note any corrections care of Rayna Arnold at the TBA office. 1 Korach 8 15 22 9:17p Havdalah (42 min) 9:30a-12p Shabbat Services Bar Mitzvah of Ethan Grossman 29 9:17p Havdalah (42 min) Pinchas 21 Tamuz 9:30a-12p Shabbat Services 10:15a Shabbat Mishpacha Balak 14 Tamuz 9:14p Havdalah (42 min) 9:30a-12p Shabbat Services Chukkat 7 Tamuz 9:11p Havdalah (42 min) 9:30a-12p Shabbat Service Rosh Chodesh 30 Sivan kiTah Gimmel CampinG TRip 9:07p Havdalah (42 min) 9:30a-12p Shabbat Services Bat Mitzvah of Sarah Rothman 10:15a Shabbat Mishpacha 23 Sh’lach L’kha Sivan June 2013 Calendars in The Omer are produced 30-60 days in advance using the best data available from the TBA Administration Staff. This calendar is also available at our website www.tbaoakland.org 5p CityTeam in Oakland— feeding the hungry 16 8 Tamuz 9:45-11:30a Women on the Move hike Rosh Chodesh 1 Tamuz kiTah Gimmel CampinG TRip 6p Friendship Circle-Teen Scene 24 Sivan Sivan 5773 / Tamuz 5773 Temple Beth Abraham 327 MacArthur Boulevard Oakland, CA 94610 Periodicals Postage PAID Oakland, CA Permit No. 020299 TBA SCHOOLS AUCTION Hola TBA! See you at the TBA Schools Auction. Our theme, what else? Cinco de Mayo! May 5 what’s inside TBA Directory.......................................i Cooking Corner..................................10 What’s Happening................................1 Gan Avraham News...........................12 From the Rabbi.....................................2 Bet Sefer News...................................13 From the President................................3 Midrasha............................................14 Editor’s Message...................................4 La’atid................................................14 Women of TBA.....................................5 Donations...........................................15 Men’s Club...........................................6 Life Cycles..........................................16 Hertz Fund...........................................7 Calendar.............................................20 Teach Your Children..............................7
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